As Told By Us

We're asking a wild but honest question: Would you rather be ghosted… or manipulated into leaving a relationship? From ghosting to gaslighting, we unpack the reality of modern dating and why so many people struggle to end relationships the right way.We talk about:Why ghosting has become so normalEmotional manipulation in relationships Why people avoid difficult conversationsRejection, pride, and dating in your 20s & 30sAre we actually dating wrong?If you've ever been ghosted, confused in a relationship, or struggled to let go… this episode is for you.

Why do friendships suddenly feel harder as adults?At some point in your late 20s, something changes. Friends get married, careers get demanding, people move away, and suddenly the friendships that once felt effortless start to feel… complicated.In this episode of As Told By Us, we talk about the reality of adult friendships — why people feel lonelier than ever, why we often prioritise romantic relationships over friendships, and what it actually takes to maintain meaningful connections as life evolves.Have adult friendships become harder, or are we just not putting in the effort anymore?Let's talk about it.

Last week's conversation was too good to end… so we kept it going.In this Part 2 episode of As Told By Us, we sit down again with Kate and TJ for a brutally honest conversation about what it actually feels like to be a young adult trying to figure life out in this economy.We were raised believing the formula was simple: go to school, get your degree, find a stable job, and build a life. But for many millennials and Gen Z today, that formula isn't working the way we were promised.We talk about the reality of freelancing and inconsistent income, the pressure of hustle culture, moving back home as an adult, dating when you're not where you thought you'd be financially, and what it feels like to watch your peers seemingly "make it" while you're still figuring things out.The conversation also gets deeply personal as we unpack faith, disappointment, patience, and the emotional weight of feeling like you did everything right… but life still hasn't worked out the way you expected.This episode is for anyone who feels like they're navigating adulthood without a blueprint.In this episode we discuss:• The truth about freelancing vs a 9–5• Why hustle culture feels unavoidable• Losing jobs and questioning faith• Dating expectations and the "provider" debate• Moving back home and navigating independence• The pressure of watching others succeed online• Learning patience in a generation that feels behindAnd to close it out, we ask a powerful question:What would you tell your 38-year-old self?Join the conversation and let us know — what would you say to your future self?Follow As Told By Us for more honest conversations about adulting, relationships, money, and life as young Africans navigating the world.

What happens when you do everything "right"… and life still doesn't work out?In this episode of As Told By Us, we sit down with Kate (29) and Tawanda (32) for an honest conversation about starting over in your late 20s and 30s. From quitting medical school to giving up an apartment and moving back home, this episode dives into the reality of adulthood in Zimbabwe — and what it means to redefine success when the plan you followed doesn't deliver the life you expected.We talk about:Moving back home as an adultSwitching careers in your 20s and 30sThe pressure to have it "figured out" by 30Grieving the life you thought you'd haveZimbabwe's job market realitiesAfrican parent expectationsFear of disappointing your familyRedefining success on your own termsIf you're a millennial or Gen Z navigating career changes, relationship timelines, financial pressure, or the fear of starting over — this conversation is for you. Because sometimes adulthood isn't about sticking to the plan.It's about having the courage to rewrite it.

You ever wake up and realize you built a life around being liked… not being yourself?The "good girl."The peacemaker.The one who never says no.The one who carries everyone… and forgets herself.In this Episode we discuss where the "Good Girl" trope came from and how it has affected us in our day to day. But this season? She's allowed to evolve.We're unlearning people-pleasing.We're choosing boundaries.We're protecting our peace.We're stepping into main character energy — unapologetically.

What if money was never meant to control your life?In this episode, we unpack the idea of "decentering money" and using it for what it truly is — a tool, not a master. So many of us were taught to chase income, grind endlessly, and tie our worth to productivity. But at what cost?We explore how to shift the focus back to your peace, mental health, freedom, and lived experiences — because this life isn't a rehearsal. It's the only one you get.This conversation is for anyone feeling stuck in hustle culture, burned out by survival mode, or questioning what "success" really means. Learn how to redefine wealth beyond numbers and build a life that actually feels good to live.If this resonates, share your thoughts in the comments and subscribe for more honest conversations like this.#DecenterMoney #MindsetShift #FinancialWellbeing #LifeBeyondWork #PodcastConversations

Welcome! We are back to bless your eardrums. Happy new year, or whatever! In this episode we unpack a listener dilemma: her boyfriend keeps disappearing whenever he's out with the boys — then he comes back like nothing happened. Is he cheating or is she overreacting? Then we get into the reality of moving out of home in your 30s, including housing agent scams, expensive furniture regrets, learning to focus on essentials and not comparing your new space to social media or your parents' home.We also discuss the cultural pressure African women face when living alone, and what it means when moving out doesn't go as planned and you have to go back home.Press play and join the conversation. Don't forget to follow As Told By Us Podcast and share with a friend.

This week we were in trouble. We tackled some of the dilemmas you have sent to us. Should a Christian give generously to relatives they know do not like them?Should you stay in a relationship that is not meeting your financial needs?Hear our thoughts on these issues and help us give advice to these listeners below and on our socials.

In this episode, we explore why there is a rising number of men not showing up on the day of lobola/roora celebrations.Is it cold feet?Is it the discovery of new information?Is it purely disrespect?What is the real issue and what must happen after?We explore different scenarios where this could arise and give our 2 cents on how to end a relationship amicably.We also give you our take on a juicy Dilemma submitted by one of you.Tell us what you think in the comments and keep the conversation going on our social media.

It seems that more and more people over 25 are—whether by choice or circumstance—still living at home with their parents or guardians. Is it a financial life-hack to stay rent-free in a tough economy, or is it a slow descent into madness, complete with curfews, clashing routines, and unsolicited life advice?In this episode, we unpack the emotional, cultural, and economic realities of adulting under your parents' roof. We talk about the trade-offs—saving money vs. losing independence—and ask whether living at home is a setback or simply the smart move right now. We also hear from guests who've lived it, left it, or are still navigating the sometimes comforting, sometimes claustrophobic experience of being a grown-up in your childhood bedroom.If you've ever had to explain to someone why you still live at home—or questioned it yourself—this one's for you.PLUS: Get ready for our brand-new segment — Your Story, Your Voice — where we feature anonymous voice notes from YOU, our listeners. 🎧 Send them to our Whatsapp number +263 77 810 3171📌 Production and Sponsorship📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

Cheating: a scandal, a heartbreak… or just part of the game now?In this explosive episode, we dive deep into why people cheat, how society responds — and why women always seem to get the shorter end of the judgment stick. From the Coldplay scandal that had the internet in flames to our own confessions, stories, and spicy opinions, no angle is off-limits.We ask the real questions:Is emotional cheating worse than physical?Is cheating the new normal or still taboo?And… what even counts as cheating in the age of DMs and "soft" betrayal?PLUS: Hear real-life experiences from our hosts, and get ready for our brand-new segment — Your Story, Your Voice — where we feature anonymous voice notes from YOU, our listeners. 🎧 Send them to our Whatsapp number +263 77 810 3171Whether you've been cheated on, forgiven, left, or stayed — this episode is for you.🎧 Tune in now. It's messy, it's honest, and it's got receipts.📌 Production and Sponsorship📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

Join us for this heartfelt episode all about… friendship!This week, we dive into a dilemma from one of our listeners who's feeling the very real strain of navigating adult friendships. What starts as one person's question quickly turns into a group therapy session, as we realize just how universal this struggle is.Why does it feel harder to be vulnerable with our friends as we grow older? Why do we hesitate to reach out when we need support the most? In unpacking these questions, we get honest about emotional walls, shifting dynamics, and the quiet grief of fading connections.Can you relate? We'd love to hear your story. Tune in, reflect with us, and maybe send this to that one friend you've been meaning to check in on. 💬💛📌 Production and Sponsorship📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

Are you sending peeled banana emojis to your workmate? Stop it. Seriously.In this episode, we dive headfirst into the tricky, controversial terrain of workplace romance, flirty texts, and the very real line between mutual attraction and sexual harassment. Sparked by one of your real-life dilemmas, we tackle it all—raw, honest, and unfiltered. From our personal experiences to headline-making scandals, nothing is off-limits. Is workplace romance always wrong, or are there grey areas? We unpack everything from Judge President Mbenenge's case in South Africa to our own Mai Jeremiah in Zimbabwe. Are women overreacting—or is there something darker at play in professional spaces? As always, we spiral into some heavy existential debates and, yes, we preach the gospel of good old-fashioned ABSTINENCE. This one's not for the faint-hearted. Tune in, don't hold back, and let us know where you stand.📌 Production and Sponsorship📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

In this Listener's Choice episode, we dive into a question that lit up our inbox: "What does it mean to be a submissive woman?"Anesu, Kuda, and Chido unpack the layers — personal, religious, cultural, and sometimes uncomfortable — around the idea of submission in modern relationships. From faith and feminism to family dynamics, they explore what submission looks like (or doesn't) in their lives.VI the Law joins the conversation, sharing a male perspective on submission and what it means to "lead" in a relationship — without tipping into control.It's honest, it's layered, it's a little spicy. You asked, we answered.📌 Production and Sponsorship📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

Is the "male loneliness pandemic" real? Can therapy be replaced by deep friendships? And how do words shape our relationships? In Part 2 of this raw conversation, the men dive deeper into men's mental health—questioning stigmas, exploring self-love, and sharing real talk on finding peace in a noisy world. Whether you're new here or a longtime listener, this one's for every man (and person) who's ever wondered: "Am I really okay?"Key Topics:Therapy vs. leaning on friends—what's the move?The power of words in relationships (and how they heal or hurt).Debating the "male loneliness epidemic"—myth or reality?Finding pockets of peace within the chaos.Self love and self care-what does that mean to you?Resetting-getting out of your regular routine and frienship circles and trying new things. Real talk from real guys who've been there. No BS, no perfect answers - just honest conversation about navigating life as a man in 2025.If you missed Part 1, catch up now—then join the conversation. Drop a comment below if this resonates. New to the podcast? This is your invitation. Hit follow and join the conversation. Follow the social media pages too. https://linktr.ee/astoldbyus?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=c9406147-0d8d-4426-8104-ea8d4ba109ab(P.S. Share with a friend who needs to hear this.)

FOR MEN'S HEALTH MONTH, WE HANDED THE MIC OVER TO THE MEN AND THEY DIDN'T HOLD BACK. In a world where 1 in 5 men struggle silently, this Men's Health Month, we dive deep into the raw, unfiltered and necessary truths of manhood in 2025,Hear it directly from the Men themselves.They open up about:Financial survival in Zimbabwe's tough economy;Dating and Marraige in 2025—expectations vs. reality;Are women the real villains;Age pressures—society's timeline vs. their own;Social media's double-edged sword;And so much more.THIS ISN'T JUST A TALK. IT'S A REAL, UNFILTERED LOOK AT MODERN MASCULINITY.What do YOU think: Is it harder than ever to be a man today?Comment below. Follow the social media pages and continue the conversation: https://linktr.ee/astoldbyus?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=4587db28-31fb-4bb8-a3b2-c5a16dbfb89e

In this bold and thought-provoking episode, we dive into the complex and often controversial intersection of faith and finances. Why does poverty so often walk hand in hand with religion—particularly in Black communities? We unpack whether the modern-day church is a safe haven for the faithful or a system that sometimes exploits economic vulnerability. Is this a legacy of colonialism, or has the Black church evolved into something else entirely? Join us as we ask the hard questions, draw uncomfortable lines, and try to make sense of this ongoing conversation at the heart of our communities.📌 Production and Sponsorship📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

🎬 Tyler Perry, Why??Tyler Perry's new and controversial film STRAW has sparked intense reactions — and in this episode, we're diving all the way in. Why does mainstream media keep serving Black women the same tired struggle stories? Where's the luxury? The joy? The soft life?We asked our listeners: have you ever experienced princess treatment — or is it just another fantasy sold on Instagram? The responses were real, vulnerable, and revealing.Whether you've watched STRAW or never plan to, this episode unpacks how Black women are portrayed on screen and in life — and how we can start reshaping the narrative ourselves.💅🏾 It's time to make space for softness, wealth, and ease — because we're more than just survival stories.📌 Production and Sponsorship📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

Where do you go for relationship advice in the age of algorithms? In this episode, we dive into the explosion of online dating coaches and relationship "experts" flooding our feeds. From the glamorized gold-digging gospel of Shera Seven, to the hyper-masculine rants of Andrew Tate, to Shadaya's controversial takes—are these really the voices shaping our generation's love lives?We unpack the appeal, the influence, and the danger of consuming bite-sized advice on something as complex as human connection. Is social media a viable source of relationship wisdom, or are we in trouble? Tune in for a candid conversation about love, algorithms, and the search for something real in a world full of content.📌 Production and Sponsorship📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

This episode of As Told By Us is a heartfelt and nostalgic conversation about the evolution of fun, social life, and personal growth among Zimbabwean millennials. The hosts reflect on their university days, the vibrant club culture of Grahamstown and Harare, and how their perceptions of nightlife have changed over the years. They explore themes of peak youth, the joy of unfiltered freedom, and the transition into more subdued, meaningful ways of enjoying life as they get older. Through personal stories and candid debates, they examine whether those carefree days were truly the best, or if new chapters bring different kinds of fulfillment. Tune in for a nostalgic trip down memory lane and insights on redefining fun at any stage of life.📌 Production and Sponsorship📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

In this week's episode we used AI as our therapist. Wild right! The prompt is below for you to try it out too. If you can share your inner most thoughts with AI, can you share them with your boyfriend/girlfriend? We unpack the tricky balance between transparency and emotional dumping in romantic connections.We explore:The fear of becoming vulnerableWhy some people overshare — and what it says about their emotional needsThe impact of trauma on how we open upWhether you're in a new relationship, situationship, or long-term commitment, this episode will challenge how you view emotional intimacy and boundaries.💡 Tune in to learn when sharing builds connection — can it ever be too much.🎧 Don't forget to like, follow, and share with that friend who tells their partner everything!PROMPT: I want to uncover the masks I'm currently wearing, the roles I'm playing, and the illusions I'm believing. Please guide me through this process by asking me 10 reflective questions, one at a time, to help me recognize the stories I'm telling myself. After I answer the 10th question, please step into the role of my higher self and analyze my responses. Identify the top negative patterns present in my life and the top positive patterns I can embrace and grow. Be direct and truthful, tough love is welcome. Provide me with daily affirmations to support my growth, actionable steps to change my behavior, and embody my authentic self, a message of encouragement from my highest self to celebrate how far I've come on my journey.#Oversharing #Relationships #Vulnerability #EmotionalBoundaries #DatingTalk #Situationships #MillennialPodcast #GenZRelationships #AfricanVoices #ZimbabwePodcast

Join us for a raw, honest conversation about toxic female friendships—those draining, unbalanced relationships many women tolerate for too long. The hosts open up about their personal experiences with friends who:• compete instead of celebrate,• gossip instead of communicate,• and manipulate instead of support.The conversation explores:• How to identify subtle red flags early on,• The guilt and grief of ending long-term friendships,• The fear of confronting toxic behaviour, especially in women we once called sisters,• The cultural expectation that women must always "keep the peace",• The importance of choosing friendships that feel emotionally safe.VI the law, our resident male voice, brings a grounded outside perspective, questioning whether women hold each other accountable with the same energy they reserve for men—and why many women struggle to call out cruelty in their own circles.Throughout the episode, laughter and vulnerability balance the weight of the topic. Listeners are challenged to reflect on their own role in unhealthy friendships—whether as the hurt or the hurter.⏱️ Timestamps: Key Moments00:00 – 02:45 Intro: Welcome to Season 3 and topic preview02:46 – 08:30 Defining "toxic friendship": What it looks like and feels like08:31 – 13:50 When support turns into subtle competition13:51 – 19:15 Ghosting and weaponized silence19:16 – 23:40 Betrayal and unspoken resentment in long-term friendships23:41 – 29:00 Confrontation avoidance: Why women don't call each other out29:01 – 34:15 Male guest weighs in: "Do women give women too many passes?"34:16 – 39:30 Can a toxic friend change—and should you wait for it?39:31 – 45:00 Healing and boundary-setting: The path forward45:01 – End Final thoughts, listener challenge, and season preview💬 Notable Quotes• "Not all history deserves loyalty."• "If your wins make her silent, she's not your sister."• "You can outgrow people without becoming bitter."📌 Production and Sponsorship📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

Guest: Donna Ray-White, Wealth Manager at DeVere GroupRecorded at: NRVANA LabsIn this eye-opening episode of As Told By Us, we sit down with wealth manager Donna Ray-White for a candid and empowering conversation on saving and investing in Zimbabwe.Donna breaks down the misconceptions that stop many of us from taking our savings seriously, and offers practical, first-hand advice on how to grow your money—even in a tough economic environment. From banking hurdles to unstable policies, she helps us understand why it's so hard to build a financial footprint as a young Zimbabwean—and how we can still make it work.We also unpack the lack of representation of black women in the investment space, and why it's critical for us to change that narrative. Donna shares her own inspiring journey with investing and proves that smart money moves aren't out of reach for our generation.💡 Whether you're just starting your savings journey or looking to take your investments to the next level, this episode is full of insight, myth-busting, and motivation to do better with your money.📩 Chat with us on our social media.☕ Support the podcast by sending us a coffee on InnBucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

It's an episode takeover! 🎤 This week, VI the Law (previously known as the Mysterious Male Voice) leads the conversation — and he's coming for all the hard questions.Last week, we agreed that a university degree isn't the only path to success. But this week, we're asking: is the grass really greener on the creative side?This one's for the creatives — the musicians, artists, designers, DJs, playwrights, poets, influencers, actors — everyone blessed with a gift.We get real about what it's actually like being a creative in Zimbabwe:🔹 Is the "starving artist" trope even worse in our economy?🔹 Can passion realistically pay the bills?🔹 What does the average creative really earn?🔹 Is there a viable market outside Harare — or outside the mainstream sound?VI the Law shares deep insights from his own journey in Zimbabwe's creative industry. We also look at:• The struggle between staying authentic and "selling out" for success.• Whether gimmicks are necessary to survive.• Whether platforms like Spotify and Apple Music help or exploit African artists.⚡ Get ready for some heated debates — yes, arguments — as we dive into the real challenges, the hustle, and the dreams of Zimbabwean creatives.Tune in, defend your favs, and join the conversation on our social media.📱 Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.💸 Love what we do and want to support the pod? Send a coffee via Innbucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

🎓 Risking It All for That Piece of Paper?In this episode, we unpack Africa's deep-rooted obsession with academic qualifications. Is a university degree still the golden ticket it once was—or has the paper chase lost its shine in today's world?We're joined by VI The Law—award-winning rapper, producer, and previously known as the Mysterious Male Voice. He opens up about his own journey: graduating with flying colours in a deeply academic family, only to risk it all and follow his true passion—music. His story captures the inner conflict so many young Africans face: live for the expectations, or live for yourself?We also explore the pressure that drives people to get degrees at all costs—sometimes even faking them—and question whether a degree is still the rite of passage it once was. From high-profile scandals to the everyday student wondering "what's next?", we get real about what education actually means for this generation and the ones to come.And if you've ever thought about choosing a different path, we've got you. We talk career prospects beyond the traditional route—and even throw in a few tips on how to deal with your African parents who just don't get it. Or better yet… just send them this episode.📱 Loved the episode? Keep the conversation going on our social media.💸 Enjoying what we do and want to support us? Buy us a coffee via Innbucks: 0778103171 or through World Remit.🎙️ Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

To kick off Season 3, we handed the mic to the unforgettable Donna Ray-White — and let's just say, you're going to want to sit down for this one.In this powerful opener, Donna doesn't just share her story — she takes us through the fire that forged her. From a tough childhood and teen pregnancy to becoming a powerhouse Senior Wealth Manager at The DeVere Group, Donna's journey is layered with grit, grace, and the kind of growth that only comes from walking through the storm.She opens up about:🔹 Feeling the fire of leadership from a young age — even when the world tried to snuff it out🔹 Navigating love, marriage, divorce, and motherhood before most of us find our footing🔹 Losing herself in the noise — then rising, bolder, by choosing herself🔹 Pushing through economic struggle, building businesses, and climbing her way into the corporate arenaDonna reminds us: diamonds aren't born — they're made under pressure. And she is living, breathing proof.🎧 Want more? Check out her blog "Making of a Diamond" for deeper reflections on her journey.📱 Loved the episode? Keep the conversation going on our social media.🎙 Recorded at NRVANA Labs.

2024 has been nothing short of a roller coaster ride! We are glad it's coming to an end. In this episode, we talk about the year and everything that has happened in between. We started the year with a new currency, witnessed a historic rap battle, and saw a convicted felon elected to the presidency. IT'S BEEN A LOT, to say the least! Let us know what the highlights or lowlights of the year have been for you! Bye for now and enjoy the holidays!!

Is it just Us or after a certain age, parents start putting young people through 'finishing school' - prepping them for their "entry into marriage"? How are you all coping on that front? To our listeners in their late 20s and early 30s, how are you dealing with the gap between where you expected to be and where you are? Join us in this week's episode as we share our experiences and how we're coping! This episode was recorded and engineered by VI the Law at NRVNA LABS Studio Harare.

Sexual violence remains one of the most pervasive yet underreported crimes globally, leaving survivors with untold stories of pain, resilience, and recovery. In this powerful episode, we delve into the realities of sexual violence, addressing its impact on survivors, systemic challenges, and how we can foster a culture of prevention and support. Disclaimer and Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions about sexual violence, including survivor experiences. Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is affected by sexual violence, we encourage you to seek professional help or contact local support services for assistance. Join us as we break the silence, amplify voices, and advocate for change.

Join us in this week's episode as we unpack how technology and social media are redefining love, connection and communication in today's world. When do you know when to close the door on the people lurking in your DMs? Do you send out 'bat signals' online when you feel frustrated in your relationship? Are you giving other people access through social media, even though you're in a relationship? And finally, Baltasar opened a big one !! This episode is recorded and engineered by VI the LAw at NRVNA LABS Studio Harare

Our most difficult episode yet, because ACCOUNTABILITY. In this episode we delve into the often-normalized toxic traits that can subtly infiltrate our relationships and daily lives as women. MMV shares his own personal horror stories at the hands of women and we discuss how to recognize these behaviors and share strategies for cultivating healthier relationships built on accountability, open communication, and emotional regulation. Tune in for this insightful chat on what you could be a toxic trait for you and let's navigate the complexities of interpersonal dynamics!

This week we received topic suggestions from you, our listeners and we put them to a vote on socials! And this spicy topic won. Have you ever wondered if you are or will be your spouses first choice or just the safe option? In this episode we discuss soul mates, marriages of convenience and the marriage crisis in Zimbabwe and globally. Maybe we need to start doing things differently like cohabitation, polyamory or non- traditional unions? Maybe we need to take our time when deciding on our spouse? Join us as we discuss this topic and let us know if you agree with our controversial takes. Send through your dilemmas at https://secret.viralsachxd.com/d6eb4ea43 If you like this episode then---->Contact us on our socials to find out how to sponsor an episode or for advertising. SOCIALS: AsToldByUsThePodcast WHATSAPP ONLY: +263778103171 Email: [email protected] This episode is recorded and engineered by VI the Law at NRVNA LABS Studio Harare.

In this episode we discuss the rules of Girl Code and whether it even exists in Zimbabwe. Are girls down for other girls or are we in constant competition with each other? Is girl code important at all and who decides on the rules. Let's not forget that Boy Code is also suffering in this teapot country. So what do we do? How do we do better? TWO dilemmas this week!!! What advise would you give? The girls need your help.

Have you ever thought that maybe your mother is toxic? Have you ever felt like whatever you do is not good enough? Does she come down on you about everything - looks, dressing, personality, weight etc? In this episode we talk about surviving toxic relationships with our mothers. Share your experiences with us and let's talk about it.

Are we intellectually doomed to the extent that we cannot critically engage in topics anymore, read for ourselves and form our own opinions, relying on social media and other people to tell us what to think? In this episode we discuss whether we are still a people that read books, listen to informative material like podcasts and watch youtube videos on things with substance or are we now addicted to "trash tv", scandals etc? Do we still have the capability to critically engage with information objectively, keep an open mind and form your own opinion that will be respected even if it goes against the loudest and contrary voice. Who creates the narrative of what is right or wrong? And what makes that the common opinion?

In this episode we discuss the controversies surrounding the Doek & Slay festivals and the discourse around why it is inconceivable that women can come together at an event and have a good time without it turning into something negative. We also discuss the classism issue around the "type of woman" who attends this event and classism in general in Harare especially in the music space and boiling down to classism even in our own families. What is that about??? We give our advice on how to cut off toxic friends when you have mutual friends in this week's dilamma.

In this episode we talk about the importance of maintaining your standards whilst dating and the difference between standards and arbitrary rules.

Studies have shown that the use of social media is linked to higher levels depression, anxiety or worse. It is clear that social media is so interwoven into our daily lives but to what extent does it control you and is it a beast that has gotten out of hand. In this episode we discuss social media and whether it requires more policing by the state or whether you can self regulate. What about parents? What is their role?

This week, we host the STUNNING Miss Universe Zimbabwe 1st Runner Up Lisa Sibanda as she walks us through her journey from being a practicing legal practitioner to pursuing her dreams as a model and becoming Miss Universe 1st Runner Up on her 1st attempt."You do not need anyone else's approval or validation to chase your dreams. People will follow your lead. if you think it, and if you want it, you can do it."Lisa also discusses her Foundation- Face the Lion Foundation and what she hopes to achieve with the platform that she has been given.We also have a difficult dilemma. Balancing the relationship between African Mothers and young adults. Is the solution to move out or not to move out.Follow Lisa on her social media pages lisa_sibbzhttps://www.instagram.com/p/C7ZOXgHI_L4/?igsh=Y2hrejZ1emRrNGlySend us your dilemma on our secret link:https://secret.viralsachxd.com/d6eb4ea43

In this week's episode, we discuss the pros and cons of Starlink entering into Zimbabwe. There has been a lot of talk surrounding whether it would be beneficial and necessary for Starlink to be made available in Zimbabwe, and we enter the chat by giving our unfiltered view on the issue. As always, we start the episode with a dilemma from one of our listeners who desperately needed some relationship advice.

The Pod turns 1 this week!!!! Thank you to all of you for your support. We could not have done it without you. This week is Father's Day and this month is Men's Mental Health Month. In this episode we give the men the mic and discuss the very important issue of men's mental health. The statics are scary particularly in Africa. What is going on with our men and where can they go?

In this episode, we answer a few questions from you, our listeners, to get to know the hosts a little bit better.

In this week's episode, MMV demands equal "princess" treatment for men in relationships. Do men deserve spoiling too? We also have a spirited debate on whether our 20s are meant to be used for partying or they are the foundational years for building a career. Join us in the conversation on all our social media pages and keep your dilemmas coming using the anonymous link below: https://secret.viralsachxd.com/d6eb4ea43

Purity culture and body policing has literally taken the lives of so many young women, with many being shamed for not being virgins. This week we discuss purity culture and body policing and try to answer the following questions... Does being a virgin make you more valuable as a woman? Why is purity culture targeted at women and not men? Do the Aunties have a point? What about those who have been sexually assaulted? We discuss this and more. Join us in the conversation.

Burnout is defined as "exhaustion of physical or emotional strength or motivation, usually as a result of prolonged stress or frustration." Why is this so relatable for many millennials? In this episode we talk about the ways to identify burnout and how it often crops up in our day to day lives. We share some helpful suggestions on how to deal with burnout .. but mostly we vent about the experience of it. In this episode, we continue the conversation with Ropa about her life as a co-founder of a tech start up in Germany. We are also joined by Tsitsi in the studio, sharing a bit of her life story and experiences with burnout as a Zimbabwean millennial working in the legal field in SA. Many voices and many wonderful perspectives and insights from our guests. This episode is recorded and edited by NRVANA labs.

In this episode we host Ropa. A Zimbabwean born tech entrepreneur, living in Germany. Ropa is a fellow millennial that tells of her life experiences growing up in Zimbabwe and eventually leaving for Germany to pursue her studies. She is a charming storyteller with wisdom to share beyond her years. This stretches into a fascinating conversation about Ropa's tech start up in Germany "Feniska" - a pet centered app that helps you to track the health of your pet and detect diseases early. She shares generously about her experiences with this in an inspiring tale of innovation and resilience. If you want to know more about Ropa and her incredible work, visit her social pages and website below. feniska.com https://www.instagram.com/chancetheropa?igsh=bjRmMHhyanZ2OG5j⁠ The dilemma in this episode comes from our 'baby lawyer', a recent graduate trying to penetrate into the legal profession. This episode will be helpful to any other recent graduates that are currently struggling to find their feet in the Zimbabwean legal space. This episode is recorded at NIRVANA labs.

The art of having difficult conversations is hard to master. Join us as we navigate useful tips in having difficult conversation. The most important way is by actually engaging in these necessary conversations instead of avoiding them. The team goes through a very entertaining role play exercise. Listen in to hear our Mysterious Male Voice attempt to break up with Kuda and many more scenes.

April is sexual assault awareness month and in this episode we continue the very important conversation about sexual harassment. We learn how to identify sexual harassment by considering various scenarios that have been considered to be sexual harassment. We look into sexual harassment in the workplace and the laws around it. How does it play out in the workplace and what can you possibly do about it? This episode was sponsored by the I Am Not Just A Woman Network. . Don't miss this opportunity to network, learn, and grow with like-minded women from around the globe. Click below and learn more about the exciting conference taking place in August 2024. Reserve your place today at:[https://www.eventcreate.com/e/pppconbangkok]. (https://www.eventcreate.com/e/pppconbangkok) or email at [email protected].

In this episode of AS TOLD BY US, we dive deep into the uncomfortable yet crucial topic of sexual harassment. Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions of sensitive topics that may be distressing to some listeners. From workplace environments to social interactions, sexual harassment persists as a pervasive issue, affecting individuals across all walks of life. Through personal anecdotes, and insightful analysis, we shed light on the different forms of sexual harassment, its impact on victims, and the broader societal implications. As we navigate this challenging conversation, we emphasize the importance of creating safe spaces for survivors to share their experiences, as well as holding perpetrators accountable for their actions. Moreover, we explore the role of bystander intervention in preventing instances of sexual harassment and fostering a culture of respect and consent. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own attitudes and behaviors, and to actively engage in efforts to combat sexual harassment in their communities. Whether it's speaking up against inappropriate behavior or advocating for policy changes, every individual has the power to contribute to the collective movement towards a safer and more inclusive society. Join us as we confront the uncomfortable truths surrounding sexual harassment and work towards building a future where everyone feels valued, respected, and empowered. Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of sexual harassment, which may be triggering for some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

Today we dive into the complex yet important discussion of breaking generational curses with a particular focus on generational poverty. Millennials globally and specifically in Africa are driven by the idea of building generational wealth and leaving a legacy. However, with the structural and economic barriers that we face, building generational wealth seems more of a pipe dream than a realistic goal for many. What does generational wealth mean in an African context? Has the definition of generational wealth evolved overtime? Let's talk about it....