Becoming Okay

In this episode of Becoming Okay, Riley Tejcek shares the moment her life changed overnight, from elite performance and purpose to heartbreak, identity loss, and rebuilding from nothing.We talk about:– Being cheated on weeks before competing at world level– The mental toll of “staying strong” when you’re breaking– Why forgiveness is more about you than them– Rebuilding trust after betrayal– The identity crisis no one prepares you for– Letting go of a dream to choose a different lifeChapters00:00 The Collapse of a Relationship05:03 Compartmentalisation and Healing07:08 Faith, Forgiveness, and Moving Forward18:04 The Importance of Self-Compassion27:41 Navigating New Relationships29:26 The Power of Partnership in Overcoming Struggles33:29 Vulnerability and Communication in Relationships35:46 Self-Discovery Through Relationships38:51 Navigating Differences and Building a Healthy Marriage42:18 Prioritising Love Over Career47:10 The Journey of Letting Go and Embracing Change50:50 Mental Health and the Importance of CommunityHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferFind Riley here:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/riley.tejcek/

In this episode of Becoming Okay, I sit down with Paul Reeve, CEO of Cornwall Mind, to break down what mental health actually is and why the system we rely on might be getting it wrong.From growing up around NHS mental health care to leading one of the UK’s most impactful charities, Paul shares a completely different perspective: mental health isn’t something you catch, it’s something life does to you and something you have to actively protect.This isn’t a clinical conversation.It’s a real one folks! We don't hold back...Chapters00:00 Introduction to Mental Health and Personal Journey07:39 Challenges in Cornwall's Mental Health Landscape13:26 Cultural Shifts in Mental Health Awareness17:29 Preventative Approaches to Mental Health23:21 Five Ways to Wellbeing and Personal Insights27:55 Navigating Personal Challenges and Isolation33:30 The Journey to Finding Gratitude38:52 Building Trust and Motivation in Mental Health47:03 Redesigning the Mental Health System53:58 Embracing the Journey of LifeCornwall Mind: https://cornwallmind.org/If you need support, you can find your local Mind services here: https://www.mind.org.uk/

In this episode of Becoming Okay, I sit down with Toni Lavery, a former U.S. Army Special Operations veteran with 25 years of service, who was told she's going blind… with no clear explanation.After years of high performance, poor sleep, chronic headaches, and pushing through pressure, her body forced her to pay attention.We talk about:- Why high performers ignore warning signs- The physical impact of long-term stress- The moment everything changed- And the interventions that helped her rebuild her lifeChapters00:00 The Impact of Stress on Health06:13 Navigating the Medical Maze12:06 Exploring Treatment Options18:11 Transformative Therapy Experiences24:22 Managing Stress and Expectations29:26 Reflections on Regrets and Life Lessons29:55 Navigating Life's Challenges and Choices30:24 The Impact of Past Experiences on Personal Growth31:35 The Power of Relationships in Healing33:01 Communication as a Key to Relationship Success36:00 Coping Mechanisms for Stress Management36:32 The Importance of Discipline in Personal Development38:24 Understanding Health Through Medical Interventions41:42 The Role of Support Systems in Recovery46:50 Setting Boundaries for a Healthier Life48:02 Influential Books and Their Life LessonsHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferFind Toni here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toni-l-nashville-professional/

Most people think happiness comes from fixing their life.It actually starts by understanding why you’re unhappy.In this episode, with Matt Phelan, Co-Founder of The Happiness Index, x2 Workplace Happiness Author and Keynote Speaker, we cover:– Why your job might not be the real problem– The truth about “loving what you do”– And why happiness is more about relationships than anything elseChapters00:00 The Hedonic Treadmill and Eudaimonia04:46 The Connection Between Work and Personal Life07:39 The Journey to Creating a Happiness-Focused Business10:46 Finding Meaning in Life12:36 Societal Norms and Personal Choices14:59 The Challenge of Sobriety and Social Expectations23:09 The Irony of Alcohol and Mental Health26:38 Falling Back in Love with Work29:06 The Taboo of Job Satisfaction30:55 Redefining Happiness Beyond Salary32:29 The Happiness Advantage33:41 Childhood Influences on Mental Health35:08 Happiness as a Team Sport36:49 The Role of Social Media in Mental Health39:40 The Challenge of Parenting in the Digital Age42:14 Social Media vs. Smoking: A Comparison44:01 Starting Conversations for Happiness47:14 Fear and Predictions of the Future48:00 Data Points of HappinessHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferFind Matt here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthewphelan/

In this episode, Rose shares a story that most people never speak about.From a very young age, she knew something wasn’t right, but like so many, she was silenced, dismissed, and left to carry things that were never hers to carry.This conversation goes into:- what childhood abuse can actually look like behind closed doors- how silence is created and reinforced within families- and what it takes to finally speak up after years of carrying it aloneThis isn’t an easy watch. Viewers discretion is advised. Chapters00:00 Childhood Memories and Feelings of Isolation03:45 The Start of Trauma: Early Experiences08:10 Understanding Abuse: The Impact of Family Dynamics12:59 The Role of Neglect in Family Relationships17:27 The Burden of Responsibility: A Child's Perspective22:29 The Emotional Fallout: Abandonment and Resilience27:22 Breaking the Silence: Speaking Up at 1532:29 The Aftermath: Navigating Family Dynamics Post-Revelation39:10 Childhood Chores and Family Dynamics47:59 Trauma and Military Experience53:47 Breaking the Cycle of Abuse55:23 Finding Healing Through Motherhood01:11:54 The Power of Laughter and Resilience01:15:42 Empowerment and Moving ForwardHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543Find Rose here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rose-randall-psy-d-ma-43404642/

What actually happens inside a therapy room?In this episode of Becoming Okay, I sit down with licensed psychotherapist Anna Jackson, who also features as a verified therapist on Every Cloud with Ferne McCann.We go inside the conversations people have when no one else is listening. The thoughts, patterns, and truths most never say out loud.From relationships and heartbreak…to grief, identity, and mental health.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Therapy and Stigma03:05 The Importance of Maintenance in Relationships05:33 Navigating Difficult Relationships08:33 The Role of Comparison in Personal Growth11:05 Grieving Relationships and Moving Forward20:48 Navigating Grief and Celebration23:08 The Complexity of Regret27:30 The Journey to Becoming a Therapist30:33 Understanding Mental Health as a Symptom35:36 Coping Mechanisms for Mental Well-beingHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543Find Anna here:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annapsychotherapist/

In this episode of Becoming Okay, I speak with Gabriela Flax, Founder of Pivot School, breaks down exactly how she's helped 300+ clients pivot careers, secure offers, and build businesses, with companies like: Meta, TikTok, Pinterest, Oura, Easyjet and so on...Chapters00:00 Understanding Body Signals and Inflammation04:56 Navigating Mental Health in the Workplace09:15 The Meaning of Burnout14:07 Changing Environments and Contextual Breaks21:04 Building Healthy Routines and Discipline25:15 Toxic Positivity and Self-Awareness28:16 Self-Worth and Career Identity30:03 Finding Your North Star33:48 Understanding Sunday Scaries37:05 The Courage to Change42:24 Embracing Curiosity47:12 Creating vs. Consuming53:02 Mission vs. GoalHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543Find Gabriela here:TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/ ⁨@GabrielaFlax⁩  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/gabriela-flax-the-career-wellness-coach?originalSubdomain=uk

In this episode of Becoming Okay, I speak with Mayer Marks about the moment that changed her life forever.At just six months old, her son was diagnosed with a rare terminal illness.Doctors told her to prepare for the worst.They didn’t expect him to leave the hospital. Years later, life would bring another shock when her daughter was diagnosed with the same condition.Chapters00:00 Meet Mayer Marks and Her Story01:09 The Moment of Diagnosis and Initial Reactions03:03 Understanding the Diagnoses and Daily Challenges06:40 Dealing with Repetition of Diagnosis and Faith08:32 Deciding Not to Have More Children11:01 Coping Strategies and Support Network15:08 First Steps and Milestones Achieved17:55 Community Support and Acceptance in Sports21:30 Overcoming Fears and Embracing Confidence22:43 Lessons About Living and Slowing Down25:42 Understanding the Rarity and Medical Perspective28:21 Reflections on Time, Grief, and Joy30:42 Impact on Marriage and Personal Growth34:59 The Role of Faith and Self-Compassion40:18 The Power of Showing Up and Resilience43:32 The Importance of Self-Kindness and Acceptance46:09 Balancing Life, Service, and Personal Well-being51:52 Final Message: Living Beyond LabelsHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543Follow Mayer here:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/3mxo/

Welcome, to the Becoming Okay podcast, conversations with your host Meg Schirnhofer, who meets with people who share their lived-experiences with mental health and how they are finding a way to become okay.Very few people ever feel fulfilled.In this episode of Becoming Okay, I spoke with resilience and fulfilment coach Ali West about something that completely reframed how I think about success.He shared a formula for fulfilment.Three things.And most people are missing at least one of them.Chapters00:00 The Journey of Resilience02:22 Understanding Fulfilment05:02 The Importance of Values and Purpose07:20 Taking Action Towards Success10:22 The Role of Mindset in Personal Growth13:19 Self-Care Practices and Their Impact16:09 The Power of Consistency in Self-Improvement29:52 The Power of Journaling and Meditation31:37 Persuading High Performers to Embrace Mindfulness33:30 Overcoming Barriers to Meditation35:26 Simplicity in Self-Care Practices37:31 Accountability in Self-Care Routines39:25 Resilience and the Importance of Consistency41:18 Transitioning from a Fast-Paced Life to Slower Living44:33 Redefining Success and Limiting Beliefs47:18 The Life Audit: A Tool for Self-ReflectionHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543Find Ali here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aliwestcoach/Free Life Audit Resource (Gifted from Ali): https://shorturl.at/DeCD7

Welcome, to the Becoming Okay podcast, conversations with your host Meg Schirnhofer, who meets with people who share their lived-experiences with mental health and how they are finding a way to become okay.Anne is a psychologist, author, and expert in ambition, perfectionism, and identity.In this episode of Becoming Okay, we explore one of the most loaded questions women face...Chapters00:00 Exploring Purpose Beyond Parenting03:51 The Pressure of Traditional Roles09:37 Navigating Career and Family Dynamics13:21 Communication and Resentment in Relationships19:24 The Nature vs. Nurture Debate22:37 The Roots of Perfectionism24:27 The Ambition Paradox: Perfectionism and People-Pleasing27:16 The Gift of Imperfection in Relationships28:49 Finding Wellness Through Presence30:41 Navigating Career Misalignment34:02 The Importance of Small Shifts38:16 Embracing Change and Multiple Versions of Ourselves42:03 Making Decisions: The Power of Visualisation46:19 Practical Tools for Self-CompassionHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543Find Dr Anne Welsh here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drannewelsh/

Welcome, to the Becoming Okay podcast, conversations with your host Meg Schirnhofer, who meets with people who share their lived-experiences with mental health and how they are finding a way to become okay.In this episode of Becoming Okay, I speak with Michael Serwa, the UK’s highest-paid life coach, about the mindset, decisions, and uncomfortable truths behind building a 10 out of 10 life.Michael Serwa coaches the elite using his signature no-bullshit approach.Since 2011, he has built the most successful personal coaching practice in the UK, working one-to-one with entrepreneurs, executives, and high performers determined to go from good to amazing.He is the author of From Good to Amazing and has been featured in GQ, The Guardian, The Telegraph, The Times, BBC, and Sky.Chapters00:00 Understanding a 10 out of 10 Life04:16 The Importance of Location and Life Satisfaction06:50 Key Decisions for a Fulfilling Life10:11 The Journey to Personal Development14:55 Finding Your Calling18:27 The Dangers of Settling for Mediocrity20:06 The Transition to Coaching23:04 The Search for Purpose29:01 Continuous Personal Development35:40 Cultural Integration and Adaptability38:27 The Role of Coaching in Personal Development43:36 Characteristics of High Achievers50:04 Mindset and Attitude: Keys to Success54:21 Overcoming Limiting Beliefs01:02:56 Investing in Personal DevelopmentHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543Find Michael here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mserwa/Website: https://michaelserwa.com/

Welcome, to the Becoming Okay podcast, conversations with your host Meg Schirnhofer, who meets with people who share their lived-experiences with mental health and how they are finding a way to become okay.In this episode of Becoming Okay, I sit down with Richard North, who survived a catastrophic car crash, endured an armed robbery in his home, built multi-million pound businesses and has lived with undiagnosed ADHD for decades. Today he's the most vulnerable he's ever been in an interview.Chapters00:00 The Journey to Diagnosis13:34 The Near-Death Experience21:18 Life After the Accident and Recovery28:18 The Aftermath of Trauma29:14 The Armed Robbery Incident31:12 Confronting Danger: A Fight for Survival38:02 The Psychological Impact of Violence43:12 Resilience and Positive Outlook50:11 Coping Mechanisms for ADHD55:57 Managing ADHD: Strategies and Systems58:55 Evolving Definitions of Success01:01:58 The Impact of ADHD on Relationships01:04:46 The Journey to Diagnosis and Understanding ADHD01:08:54 Embracing ADHD as a SuperpowerHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543📩 Subscribe to the Becoming Okay, Together newsletter: https://dynamic-breeze-93428.myflodesk.com/jsxjmqnonrFind Richard here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/richard-north-b91b8a9/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@richard_north_bizbites

Welcome, to the Becoming Okay podcast, conversations with your host Meg Schirnhofer, who meets with people who share their lived-experiences with mental health and how they are finding a way to become okay.In this episode, I sit down with Nick Lavery, Green Beret and amputee, to talk about discipline, emotional regulation, and how to prepare your mind before life gets difficult.We explore:- Why motivation always fades and what replaces it- How emotional regulation becomes the ultimate performance skill- The difference between reacting and preparing- Why time isn’t missing, it’s prioritised- How discomfort can train calm instead of panic- What real discipline looks like day-to-dayChapters00:00 Nick's Early Life and Personal Struggles06:05 The Role of Adversity in Building Resilience08:43 Preparation and Prevention: Military Insights11:39 Defining Mission and Priorities14:38 The Impact of Losing a Limb17:42 Mental vs Physical Rehabilitation20:25 Fear, Guilt, and Team Dynamics23:21 Navigating Discipline and Self-Care26:16 Intuition and Decision Making29:20 Time Management and Prioritisation34:15 The Power of Language and Time Management35:46 Crisis Management and Emotional Regulation40:34 Mindfulness and Discomfort Training48:12 Building Consistency and Discipline01:00:17 Finding Purpose in LifeHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543📩 Subscribe to the Becoming Okay, Together newsletter: https://dynamic-breeze-93428.myflodesk.com/jsxjmqnonrFind Nick here:Nick's book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Objective-Secure-Battle-Tested-Guide-Achievement/dp/057835201X/ref=asc_df_057835201X?mcid=72065aab74173e239926bf0c3081e699&th=1&psc=1&tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=697289803178&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=5542436220820159477&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1006988&hvtargid=pla-1600210744718&psc=1&hvocijid=5542436220820159477-057835201X-&hvexpln=0&gad_source=1Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenicklavery/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nick-lavery-a691871ba/

Welcome, to the Becoming Okay podcast, conversations with your host Meg Schirnhofer, who meets with people who share their lived-experiences with mental health and how they are finding a way to become okay.We spend so much of our lives chasing a feeling we call happiness, without ever stopping to ask what we’re actually looking for.In this episode of Becoming Okay, I sit down with Kapil Gupta to talk about numbness, emotional suppression, and what it really means to feel alive again.We explore:- Why numbness is often emotional overload- How childhood conditioning shapes emotional suppression- Why suppressing pain also blocks joy- Emotional regulation vs emotional avoidance- The power of community and feedback loops- A gratitude practice that actually works!Chapters00:00 Exploring Numbness and Emotional Suppression05:17 The Spectrum of Emotions11:02 Masculine Conditioning and Emotional Expression16:40 The Journey to Emotional Awareness20:30 Facing Fear and Embracing Emotions24:32 The Importance of Community in Healing29:26 Feedback Loops and Self-Discovery31:54 Understanding Our Ancestral Influence34:40 The Journey of Self-Discovery37:18 Redefining Love and Relationships42:15 The Feedback Loop in Relationships45:10 The Performance to Presence Method50:54 The Power of GratitudeHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543📩 Subscribe to the Becoming Okay, Together newsletter: https://dynamic-breeze-93428.myflodesk.com/jsxjmqnonrFind Kapil here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kapilgupta/TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/sdTy9IZR87kSubstack: https://nibananotes.substack.com/

Welcome, to the Becoming Okay podcast, conversations with your host Meg Schirnhofer, who meets with people who share their lived-experiences with mental health and how they are finding a way to become okay.We spend so much of our lives chasing a feeling we call happiness, without ever stopping to ask what we’re actually looking for.In this episode of Becoming Okay, I sit down with Jordan Dawes to talk about what really helps when motivation disappears.Real consistency comes from systems, self-awareness, and knowing what you can control when your energy is low.We talk about:- Why forcing motivation will never work- The difference between discipline and self-punishment- How to stay consistent on low-energy days- Why your nervous system treats everyday stress like danger- The 3 Circles framework for regaining controlChapters00:00 Introduction to Military Mindset and Personal Journey03:59 Competing with Yourself: The Path to Self-Improvement07:55 Setting Goals and Building Discipline11:49 Overcoming Challenges and Maintaining Motivation15:53 Transitioning to Military Life and Its Impact17:49 The Journey Through Military Training and Resilience27:18 Health Crisis and Turning Points29:16 Overcoming Adversity in Pursuit of Goals34:00 Finding Purpose and Motivation36:30 The Importance of Fulfilment40:02 Tools for Mental Clarity and Focus46:23 Life Lessons from Diverse ExperiencesHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543📩 Subscribe to the Becoming Okay, Together newsletter: https://dynamic-breeze-93428.myflodesk.com/jsxjmqnonrFind Jordan here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordan-dawes-488341278/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jorddawes/

Welcome, to the Becoming Okay podcast, conversations with your host Meg Schirnhofer, who meets with people who share their lived-experiences with mental health and how they are finding a way to become okay.We spend so much of our lives chasing a feeling we call happiness, without ever stopping to ask what we’re actually looking for.In this episode of Becoming Okay, I sit down with Commander Mark McGinnis to talk about resilience, fear, and the Navy SEAL mindset you can steal for everyday life.We talk about:- The one moment that saved his life- Why you aren't 'done', you just give up too soon- The 40% rule and accessing hidden reserves- Breaking overwhelm into one step at a time- Why suffering in silence does more harm than goodChapters00:00 The Challenge of Hell Week07:54 The Power of Tough Love15:06 Selflessness vs. Self-Care21:52 Redefining Purpose After Service24:31 The Importance of Significance Over Success30:29 The Science of Change Management31:15 Fear and Anxiety in High-Stakes Situations32:42 The Mindset of Life and Death33:45 Overcoming Mental Barriers35:23 Unlocking Hidden Potential39:16 The Power of One Step42:40 Finding Balance in Life47:41 Defining Ultimate Success50:21 Handling Stress and Adversity52:50 The Importance of Seeking HelpHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543📩 Subscribe to the Becoming Okay, Together newsletter: https://dynamic-breeze-93428.myflodesk.com/jsxjmqnonrFind Mark here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/commander-mark-mcginnis-b82242221/

Welcome, to the Becoming Okay podcast, conversations with your host Meg Schirnhofer, who meets with people who share their lived-experiences with mental health and how they are finding a way to become okay.We spend so much of our lives chasing a feeling we call happiness, without ever stopping to ask what we’re actually looking for.In this episode of Becoming Okay, Todd Tomlin and I talk about what happens when the chase stops working. When success, distraction, productivity, or numbing no longer bring the relief they once did and you’re left with what?In this episode, we explore:- Why happiness is fleeting + what’s more sustainable- How chasing “more” can actually pull you further from yourself- Addiction and numbing as coping, not moral failure- What contentment looks + feels like- Learning to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it- Giving yourself permission to rest, without earning itChapters00:00 Redefining Success and Self-Worth04:04 Selfishness vs. Self-Awareness07:46 Embracing Change and Letting Go of Control14:03 Finding Peace Beyond Titles and Promotions17:06 Overcoming Addiction and Discovering Self-Love22:26 The Healing Power of Nature and Self-Discovery30:30 Finding Joy in Simple Moments36:22 Navigating Uncomfortable Situations40:22 Redefining Success and Fulfillment47:12 The Pursuit of ContentmentHere’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.Find me here:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9yWnk7ajO7ykPMGEuBS8gInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhoferLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@megschirnhoferPodlink: https://pod.link/1843627543📩 Subscribe to the Becoming Okay, Together newsletter: https://dynamic-breeze-93428.myflodesk.com/jsxjmqnonrFind Todd here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddtomlin/

From losing six figures, to building products, cafés, apps, and chasing every version of “success” the world celebrates, James Kerslake spent two decades climbing a ladder that never led where he hoped.This conversation isn’t about failure.In this raw, revealing episode, James opens up about:◼️ Why the 5-year plan is a myth that traps entrepreneurs◼️ How comparison destroys more dreams than failure ever will◼️ Why going back to a 9–5 isn’t defeat, it’s alignment◼️ The moment he realised happiness isn’t a milestone◼️ How a sunset ritual became the blueprint for his business◼️ What happens when you stop chasing money and start chasing peace◼️ How to rebuild self-belief after losing everything (more than once)If you’ve ever questioned your pace, your path, or your definition of success, this episode might be the reframe you needed.Chapters00:00 The Journey of Entrepreneurship: Expectations vs. Reality02:56 Chasing Fulfilment: The Quest for Freedom05:38 The Illusion of the Entrepreneurial Dream07:49 Social Media and the Misrepresentation of Success10:48 Finding Peace in the Chaos of Competition11:59 The Importance of Self-Reflection and Personal Growth19:25 Happiness: A Collection of Moments23:02 Stepping Outside the Game: Defining Your Own Path25:11 Redefining Success Beyond Traditional Metrics28:04 The Impact of Life Choices on Happiness31:37 Letting Go of Money Attachment33:45 The Illusion of Wealth and Happiness35:43 Transforming Passion into Business39:29 Leading with Logic Over Emotion43:08 The Role of Fearlessness in Taking Risks48:15 Actionable Insights for Aspiring Entrepreneurs

From losing his mum at 15 and growing up on a council estate, to selling over £6 billion in super-prime property.After reaching the top of the UK property world, partner at Knight Frank at 25, board member at Savills at 29, Trevor Kearney shocked the industry by walking away to build something of his own. In this powerful conversation, Trevor opens up about:◼️ The moment he realised success and fulfilment were not the same thing.◼️ How money impacts happiness and where it stops.◼️ The sales rule that built a £6B career: advise, don’t sell.◼️ The truth about working with ultra-high-net-worth clients.◼️ Why hardship became his greatest advantage.◼️ What entrepreneurship taught him about humility, identity, and balance.◼️ The pressure of co-parenting, leading, and building simultaneously.◼️ Why he’ll never retire and why you probably won’t either.This episode is for anyone who has ever chased the “dream” only to wonder if it was ever really theirs.Chapters00:00 The Journey to Success and Fulfillment02:22 Money and Happiness: A Delicate Balance05:48 Overcoming Adversity: A Personal Story10:38 Role Models and Self-Accountability13:00 The Art of Sales: Advising vs. Selling19:27 Understanding the Ultra-Wealthy23:25 Taking the Leap: Starting My Own Business25:44 Creating My Own Path27:52 Lessons in Humility and Self-Discovery31:55 The Drive for Success and Self-Belief36:07 Coping Mechanisms and Resilience40:14 Balancing Work and Parenthood42:17 The Concept of Retirement and Purpose45:29 Living Without Regret46:47 Actionable Insights for Growth

Brad Beach doesn’t have the typical CEO story.At 28, he quit his job with no plan.He ran phone lines into his bedroom and called it an “office.”He built a company through grit, heart, and instinct, not privilege.And in 2008, during the recession, he nearly lost it all when he couldn’t make payroll.That moment changed everything.In this raw and honest episode, Brad reveals:◼️ How a random Uber ride inspired his entire business model◼️ The biggest risk he ever took (and why it worked)◼️ Why money is the worst motivation for starting a business◼️ The week he almost quit and what pulled him back◼️ How CEOs lose their purpose as companies grow (and how he corrected it)◼️ The difference between being driven by achievement vs. being driven by meaning◼️ The simple question he wants every listener to ask: “What is my why?”If you’re ambitious, overwhelmed, chasing success, or rebuilding from nothing, this episode will speak directly to you.Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Journey02:31 The Birth of Jobvious03:45 Learning from Industry Giants05:25 Facing Risks and Challenges08:17 The Importance of Grit and Resilience11:03 Motivation Beyond Money13:54 The Chase for Fulfillment17:07 The Dreamer's Perspective19:26 Purpose vs. Profit in Business21:44 Empowering Employees24:43 Defining Success Beyond Titles27:37 The Role of Dreams in Life30:18 Advice for Aspiring Entrepreneurs32:46 Final Thoughts and Takeaways44:55 Navigating Risks in Business

At 15, Elliott Rayne walked out of school, taught himself advanced tech from a basement, and built a company that he would sell by age 20.What followed wasn’t celebration, it was identity loss, burnout, and rebuilding everything from zero.In this episode, Elliott opens up about:- Turning ADHD from a limitation into a competitive advantage- Losing purpose after early success- Why tools matter more than talent- How his new AI company operates on clarity, culture, and simplicity- The three types of luck every entrepreneur can create- Why most people fail: they quit long before results arriveThis isn’t a conversation about business. It’s about self-awareness, discipline, identity, and building a life that actually fits your brain.Chapters00:00 Elliott's Early Journey into Entrepreneurship10:31 Understanding ADHD and Its Impact17:03 Self-Medication and Coping Mechanisms21:32 The Importance of Tools in Business27:08 Investing to Grow: A Strategic Approach33:47 Investing in Business and Wealth Building34:36 The Impact of Comparison in Business39:10 Finding Purpose After Success41:06 Transitioning from Partying to Purpose46:21 Building Rain AI: From Blockchain to AI50:38 The Evolution of Personal Branding58:07 Defining Purpose Beyond Work01:00:40 The Journey of Self-Belief and Confidence01:07:15 Practical Steps for Engaging with AI

From battling severe skin issues from age 12 to building Clear, an app with now over 50,000 users!Ahana didn’t follow the typical founder path. She moved countries three times, studied physics at Imperial, worked in finance, and then, in just four days, built the prototype that got her accepted into Y Combinator, the world’s most competitive startup accelerator.In this powerful conversation, she opens up about:◼️ Why your past leaves clues about what you’re meant to build◼️ How she engineered her “risk” so failure wasn’t catastrophic◼️ What investors get wrong about women in tech◼️ The personal pain that became the blueprint for Clear◼️ The reality of raising money, the good, the bad and the very ugly◼️ How she defines success now, through values, not milestones◼️ Why social media still affects her body image today◼️ The three values every founder needs to define before building anythingIf you’ve ever questioned your path, struggled with confidence, or felt misunderstood in your ambition, this episode will ground you, stretch you, and give you a framework to build a life that actually fits.Chapters00:00 Growing Up: Cultural Influences and Identity09:25 Struggles with Skin: A Personal Journey12:20 The Birth of Clear: From Idea to Reality20:16 Taking Risks: The Decision to Become a Founder25:14 Navigating Gender Bias in Entrepreneurship30:11 The Reality of Being a Founder: Challenges and Growth32:11 Resilience as a Key to Success33:12 Finding Passion Beyond Profit34:35 Defining Personal Success36:53 Values-Based Success39:28 The Evolution of Success42:23 Monetising a Free App46:38 Navigating Privilege and Success50:33 The Complexity of Role Models54:20 Grounding Through Relationships and Health58:44 Defining Your Core Values01:01:44 Transforming Struggles into Success

When a £10,000 launch failed, Luke Beastall thought his business and identity, were over.Two years later, that failure became the foundation of everything that followed.In this powerful, unfiltered conversation, Luke shares how burnout, stillness, and rebuilding from scratch reshaped not only his business, but his life.We dive into:◼️ How failure taught him to stop fearing rejection.◼️ The real difference between therapy and coaching.◼️ Why slowing down made him more productive.◼️ How running without headphones helped him reconnect with his thoughts.◼️ What entrepreneurs get wrong about time and money.◼️ Why the best ROI is found in presence, not pressure.This episode will hit home if you’ve ever felt lost, overwhelmed, or afraid to stop moving, because sometimes, slowing down is the next step forward.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Connection02:38 The Value of Failure05:23 Lessons from Business Failures08:28 Rediscovering Identity and Purpose12:18 Finding Stillness in Chaos18:15 Authenticity in Business24:05 Defining Success and Current Ventures30:42 Building Community Through Engagement33:14 The Importance of Multiple Income Streams35:29 Valuing Time Over Money38:36 Learning from Regrets42:46 The Balance of Work and Life48:35 Exploring Wellness and Self-Discovery53:15 Embracing Vulnerability for Growth

In a world that glorifies being “always on,” Spencer Woods has built a successful career by doing the opposite.As a marketing founder who lives online, Spencer has seen the highs and lows of digital culture, from chasing metrics and burnout to rediscovering peace in silence.This episode is part therapy, part truth bomb. It’s about redefining success beyond money, metrics, and notifications.It's every single bit about why I started this podcast!We dive into:◼️ The real difference between hustle culture and slow living.◼️ Why your phone became your comfort blanket (and how to let go).◼️ How to measure success when there’s no job title to climb.◼️ The unseen power of gratitude, reflection, and small wins.◼️ The truth about social media and how to make it work for you, not against you.◼️ Why joy is found in scarcity, not speed.If you’ve ever felt burnt out, overstimulated, or addicted to progress, this one’s your Sunday reset!Chapters00:00 Disconnecting from the Digital World08:24 Hustle Culture vs. Slow Living12:47 Defining Success18:19 Measuring Progress Beyond Titles20:34 The Importance of Follower Count22:44 The Importance of Touch Points in Marketing25:38 Measuring Marketing ROI and Its Challenges31:03 The Interplay Between Marketing and Sales33:04 The Role of Money in Happiness39:05 Finding Joy in Scarcity and Anticipation44:52 Navigating Anxiety in a Marketing-Driven World49:50 Actionable Takeaways for Personal Growth

What happens when the dream ends and the title that defined you disappears?Former professional rugby player Chris Bentley spent 13 years living his dream, until injury and change forced him to start over.Now a speaker, networker, and founder at Building Brands, Chris has turned his story into one of perspective, humility, and humour.In this raw, reflective conversation, we dive into:◼️ What sport taught him about resilience, ego, and failure.◼️ Why “Memento Mori” (remember you’ll die) is the ultimate productivity hack.◼️ How to find identity outside of your career.◼️ The science behind happiness and why you can choose it daily.◼️ Why doing business with friends isn’t risky, it’s rewarding.◼️ How to stop caring what people think and live with radical honesty.If you’ve ever felt lost after a career change, struggled with identity, or wondered how to actually enjoy the present, this episode will hit home.Chapters00:00 The Concept of Memento Mori04:51 Defining Success Beyond Titles07:41 The Role of Failure in Success10:07 Transitioning from Rugby to Business13:01 The Importance of Relationships in Networking14:52 Navigating Personal Challenges and Support Systems17:55 The Evolution of Self-Identity20:39 Finding Happiness and Positivity23:37 The Power of Perspective26:28 The Value of Vulnerability and Openness29:28 Creating a Supportive Network31:59 Disrupting Traditional Networking34:48 Defining Success on Your Own Terms37:53 Sales as Relationship Building39:28 Living Authentically and Without Regret43:30 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

After walking away from her 9–5 with no backup plan, Georgia Latty turned her fear into fuel, doubling her corporate income in just six months.But this isn’t another “quit your job and manifest it” story.It’s the real, unfiltered truth about what it takes to rebuild your life from scratch, without burning out or selling out. And it's not all pretty!Georgia opens up about how she found her voice online, built an audience that actually converts, and why clarity, not confidence, is what truly changes everything.In this raw and practical conversation, she shares:◼️ The mindset shift that made her quit before she felt “ready.”◼️ Why confidence doesn’t come first, clarity does.◼️ The “offend to attract” rule that makes your message unforgettable.◼️ The 3 step rule to content: growth, nurture and conversion.◼️ The fear of showing up and why it never really disappears.◼️ The habits that helped her build a business that feels like freedom and pilates at 10am on a Tuesday!If you’ve ever thought about leaving your 9–5, reinventing yourself, or finding the courage to show up online, this ones for you!Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Journey of Entrepreneurship02:28 Finding Your Niche: The Balancing Act05:24 The Transition from Corporate to Self-Employment08:12 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Embracing Resilience11:16 The Importance of Clear Communication in Business14:14 Understanding Transformation vs. Process in Marketing17:46 Navigating Vulnerability and Authenticity Online19:51 Content Creation: Finding Your Voice and Style22:45 The Role of Algorithms and Content Strategy25:36 Building a Business: The Reality of Hard Work28:51 The Balance of Providing Value and Selling31:28 The Power of Community and Support34:30 Final Thoughts and Actionable Takeaways

From his early 20s experimenting with sales and tech startups, to now leading a company at the forefront of AI innovation, Kieran Hayes has built a career defined by curiosity, constant reinvention, and a refusal to stay comfortable.Kieran’s journey isn’t the cliché overnight success story, it’s one of experimentation, self-education, and resilience. After trying multiple ventures, pivoting industries, and facing the loneliness and uncertainty that come with entrepreneurship, he’s now building a business that sits at the intersection of technology and human behaviour.In this powerful, forward-looking conversation, he opens up about:◼️ Why your 20s are for cheap mistakes and experimentation.◼️ The mindset shift that keeps you grounded when success feels far away.◼️ How AI is changing not just business, but how we learn, think, and work.◼️ The truth about loneliness in entrepreneurship (and why it’s not just about working from home).◼️ What founders are getting wrong about AI and how to actually use it to scale.◼️ Why going back to employment doesn’t mean failure and how to find peace in the pause.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Setting the Scene03:11 The Entrepreneurial Mindset: A Journey of Experimentation06:04 Embracing Change: The Importance of Learning from Mistakes08:54 Finding Balance: Personal Life and Business Growth11:57 Networking and Continuous Education in Business15:05 Leveraging AI for Business Success17:45 The Future of AI: Opportunities and Concerns21:03 Personal Experiences with AI and Its Impact27:40 Navigating the AI Landscape29:49 The Importance of Continuous Learning32:09 AI's Impact on Personal Identity32:39 Exciting Trends in AI36:02 The Evolution of AI Tools38:42 Entrepreneurship and Loneliness41:26 The Entrepreneurial Struggle46:08 Learning from Mistakes51:28 Homework for the Future

Matt Pitman — filmmaker, creative director, and former Social Chain videographer under Steven Bartlett — built his career behind the lens for global giants like Nike, Coca-Cola, Converse, and Gumball 3000.From filming viral “pineapple pizza” videos in Manchester to capturing supercar rallies across 10 countries in 7 days, Matt has lived the dream many creatives chase — but he’s also seen the hidden cost of it.In this raw, open conversation, Matt shares the lessons, mistakes, and emotional truths that shaped his journey from a Cornish theatre kid with a camera to one of the most in-demand content creators in the UK.In this episode, he reveals:◼️ Why emotion is the real currency of content and how rage, laughter, and vulnerability all pay the same.◼️ The danger of never pitching and why relying on clients to find you costs you creative freedom.◼️ The truth about working at Social Chain, slides, nap pods, and the early chaos of Steven Bartlett’s empire.◼️ How networking (and just being a decent human) built a career with brands like Popeyes and Krispy Kreme.◼️ Why constant travel isn’t a dream and the quiet loneliness of “living out of a suitcase.”◼️ The mindset shift that separates creators who make noise from those who move people.A conversation for anyone building something from scratch — proving that emotion, connection, and integrity still win in a world obsessed with algorithms.Chapters00:00 The Journey Begins: From Theatre to Filmmaking02:29 The Emotional Currency of Content Creation08:01 Navigating Corporate Content: Challenges and Strategies12:13 Capturing Emotion in Product Marketing17:33 Inside Social Chain: A Dream Job Experience23:35 The Role of Connections in Success26:20 The Essence of Networking28:12 Navigating Opportunities in a Busy Life30:42 The Balance of Personality and Talent32:29 The Niche Debate in Videography35:40 The Reality of Not Pitching38:45 The Importance of Kindness in Business39:39 Gut Feelings vs. Data-Driven Decisions42:39 The Necessity of Online Presence46:20 Trends vs. Authenticity in Content Creation49:41 Taking Risks in Creative Content53:21 The Illusion of Success in a Busy Life55:40 Final Thoughts and Recommendations55:47 The Power of Emotion in Content Creation56:30 The Journey Over PerfectionWhere to find MegI’m your host Meg, I help founders, entrepreneurs, and CEOs turn their ideas into consistent marketing, growth, and client relationships that actually scale.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/megschirnhofer/?hl=enLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megschirnhoferNewsletter: https://dynamic-breeze-93428.myflodesk.com/jsxjmqnonrEnquires & Guest Submissions: [email protected] to find MattInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattglpitman/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattglpitman/Website: https://www.culturemanual.co.uk/

I am you: the person grafting, grafting, grafting every week to build my career and achieve success. Tired of generic advice that only "scratches the surface," I started The Sunday Suite to get the exact answers I need.Join me, Meg, as I talk to founders and entrepreneurs who share practical tools and sharp insights. This is your safe space to listen in your downtime, your weekly ritual to ensure you feel excited on Monday mornings. Growth is a habit that you build over time. Follow along for my Monday Reset!