Big Feels Club

Feel like you’ve been working harder than ever this year, and still don’t know what all that hard work is adding up to? Why do we do this to ourselves? And what if you didn’t have to work so hard just to feel like a viable human?Guest: Gareth EdwardsThe Big Feels Club is Graham Panther and Honor Eastly. Come join the club at bigfeels.club

All those helpful bus ads tell you to 'just ask for help' when you're struggling. But what if you've already asked for help, multiple times, and you still don't feel any better?Here’s that Big Feels article I mentioned about the Long, Slow Twisting Shame Spiral.Guest: Gareth EdwardsThe Big Feels Club is Graham Panther and Honor Eastly. Come join the club at bigfeels.clubDisclaimer: we’re not mental health experts and the info in this podcast is general, it’s not mental health advice. If you’re considering what to do for your mental health, we suggest seeking advice tailored to your specific situation.

Psych drugs. What if you feel like they don't work for you? or what if they kind of work but... it's complicated? This ep: an honest conversation about medications. Including…— Graham’s two wildly different attempts at taking psych drugs. Once, when they really helped, and once when they really didn’t.— How to have more honest conversations about psych drugs— Gareth’s reflections on experiencing compulsory treatmentGuest: Gareth EdwardsThe Big Feels Club is Graham Panther and Honor Eastly. Come join the club at bigfeels.clubDisclaimer: we’re not mental health experts and the info in this podcast is general, it’s not mental health advice. If you’re considering what to do for your mental health, we suggest seeking advice tailored to your specific situation.

Feel like you’re just one dumb mistake away from ruining all your relationships forever? How social distancing turns the volume up on that. Plus: — what do you actually want from people when you’re having a hard time, especially right now?— why you can’t always answer the dreaded question, ‘r.u.o.k.?’— why it’s not always easy to do the things you know will make you feel better— spending ages writing a single emailGuest: AmieThe Big Feels Club is Graham Panther and Honor Eastly. Come join the club at bigfeels.club

For many of us, 'being productive' is a key go-to strategy for feeling like a worthy human. So what happens at a time like this, when it's harder and harder to get things done?Guest: Gareth Edwards.Here’s that recent issue of the Big Feels Club newsletter on this same topic, the dreaded self-worth + productivity nexus: mailchi.mp/147cc6f8d647/productivityThe Big Feels Club is Graham Panther and Honor Eastly. Come join the club at bigfeels.club

“Every time I feel a bit better, I think that I’m faking it. And every time I feel shit, I just feel — shit.”What do you do when you have a physical illness that defies modern science? The kind of illness that is clearly debilitating, but still makes you wonder, ‘is this all in my head?’ This ep: we talk chronic fatigue, nervous exhaustion, and what to do when you’re just really, really tired.Guest: Gareth Edwards.The Big Feels Club is Graham Panther and Honor Eastly. Come join the club at bigfeels.club

Staying indoors all day, avoiding people, sound familiar? When self-isolating feels like depression. (Plus, why most of the ‘lockdown self-care’ advice sucks.)Guest: Amie.The Big Feels Club is Graham Panther and Honor Eastly. Come join the club at bigfeels.club

The panic / information spiral. Is all this pandemic news just making us feel like shit? Or is it too important to look away?Plus, feeling totally over it. (Or are we just depressed?)The big epic book Graham’s reading about the end of the world.A good article Graham wrote about Pema Chödrön’s “pause” idea.And the ‘good news’ source Honor mentioned: Future Crunch.The Big Feels Club is Graham Panther and Honor Eastly. Come join the club at bigfeels.club

What happens when you and your partner have different ideas about how to practice social distancing... from one another... when you share a bedroom?What do you do when one of you has major health phobias, convinced every possible surface in the house needs disinfecting by the minute, and the other is a (relatively) more chill bean?First of a few special pandemic pods for sensitive cats navigating these scary times.The Big Feels Club is Graham Panther and Honor Eastly. Come join the club at bigfeels.club

We tackle some of our listeners’ big, existential questions. Q1. How do you know the difference between a useful coping mechanism and a crutch?Q2. Is the fact that I’m depressed even though my life is so privileged just another sign of how privileged I am?With special guest, longtime feelings guru Gareth Edwards, author of The Procrastinator’s Guide to Killing Yourself.The Big Feels Club is Graham Panther and Honor Eastly. Come join the club at bigfeels.club

This ep is part of our 'book club for feelings'. Once a month we pick a topic and dive into the existential goo together. More info on how to join in the online and real-life discussion here: bigfeels.club/blogNote: In this ep we talk about an episode of 'Invisibilia', which tackles this same topic. Find it here: https://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/483855073/the-problem-with-the-solutionCheck out Big Feels Club here:

Ever feel like you have to dress up in office drag just to make it to work? Or that parties are actually a form of socially-sanctioned torture (just with better snacks)?Do you feel like even your impostor syndrome has impostor syndrome??Join us and a bunch of other sensitive cats as we ponder this very topic.In this ep, we tackle the BIG QUESTIONS, like:1. What's one thing you find harder than everybody else, because of your feelings?2. How do you make sense of that, without just thinking 'I'm a loser'?3. Where does your idea of normal come from anyway?https://www.bigfeels.club