Big Girl Swag

Keywordsself-perception, external opinions, body image, judgment, resilience, self-esteem, societal standards, mental health, isolation, self-worthSummaryIn this conversation, Shadrieka discusses the complex relationship between self-perception and external opinions. She emphasizes that how we view ourselves is often influenced by what others say, but ultimately, it is our own feelings that matter most. The discussion explores societal standards of beauty and intelligence, the impact of judgment on self-esteem, and the importance of resilience in the face of criticism. Shadrieka encourages listeners to recognize that others' opinions are often reflections of their own experiences and biases, and she advocates for self-acceptance and understanding.TakeawaysA person's opinion about you is just that—an opinion.Self-worth should not be dictated by others' perceptions.Everyone has unique strengths and weaknesses.Societal standards can distort our self-image.Judgment often stems from ignorance or insecurity.Isolation can be a tactic used by those with ulterior motives.Body image issues are prevalent in society.Health cannot be judged solely by appearance.Resilience is key to overcoming negative judgments.Self-acceptance is crucial for mental well-being.TitlesNavigating Self-Perception and JudgmentThe Battle of Self-WorthSound bites"It's all about how I feel about myself.""Everybody has their strengths.""People make fun of them to feel bigger."Chapters00:00 Self-Perception vs. External Opinions02:26 The Impact of Society on Self-Image04:31 Navigating Judgment and Isolation06:48 Understanding Body Image and Health09:15 Resilience Against Judgment

For the friends that are always there for their friends and can't get back the same energy from half the ones they consider a friends.

There are so many things that are gonna try to keep you from your purpose. You job is to remain strong and go after the things and people you feel that are supposed to be permanent fixtures in your life. The goal is to live the way you see fit. If you're living with other people in mind you're already messing the game up. The most important thing is to make sure you're enjoying the live you were given and you're walking the path that was meant for you.

This podcast is centered around the role a woman plays in society. Also asking questions such as ‘Does going through life childless make you less of a woman?’, and ‘ Does being the provider for the household while being female make you less of a woman?’

This is a rant concerning the different responsibilities that come with being an adult.

This is a conversation. I’m interested in providing you all with questions. I really want you to think deeper than the surface. Because everything in this life we have to do or maintain requires you to be mindful of who is getting over on you. Cause trust someone is gaining something from your lack of knowledge .If you have Podcast ideas you would like me to speak on or questions and comments please send them to [email protected] for listening!

There is always going to be someone telling you, you can't do this or that. Make them eat their words.

Often times we have to enter the workforce even though we could care less about working. All because working allows you to do a lot of the things you wouldn't be able to do other wise. But what comes with those jobs can be life altering or sometimes make you want to be done with the whole thing. All because you're forced to deal with those that you wouldn't choose to deal with on your worst day. These are just a few of my experiences and I would love to hear about some of yours Also if you haven't heard there was another senseless shooting, involving a very much entitled police officer and a innocent black woman who posed no threat. I'll be the first to say I'm not aware of everything that took place, but from everything that I'm seeing on social media it looks like she got killed for no reason at all; other than there was an officer that so no value of her life.

This episode is for all my people out there that feel like they need people's approval to have a happy existence. I'm here to tell you; that is the last thing that should be on your mind. The funny thing is; it doesn't matter how many times someone tells you this; you are always going to perform for people. You're going to perform until you learn and are confident in who you are and the value you've placed in yourself. Some of us learn this a little later than others. But once you do, the whole world starts to open up to you. Things that once put you on edge not make you at ease. Not only that, things that seemed to take all your energy are now giving you energy. This happens when you realize it's not all about you, Boo. Most people are too worried about themselves to worry about you. So I suggest you do the same.

There has been much that has been going on in the world, always. But what I see going on more and more everyday is lack of community. What a lot of the younger generation doesn't seem to realize is that community was the super power the people in our communities had. What makes us ripe for the picking now is our lack of community. Because there is so much that can be done because we have all distanced ourselves from one another. Making it hard to tear the walls down and really be able to do something that could benefit us all. This is my point of view; not sure if you feel the same.

So many of us have been taught to give in absents of ourself. A lot of the time we don't realize we're doing it because it's something we were taught from young. This is especially true if you have younger siblings or are a female. There isn't a thing wrong with being selfless, just make sure you maintain a balance.

Have you ever had someone you trusted with every and anything; just to have them prove to you they never deserved the trust I the first place. This is for you, my naive soul.

Growing up being a woman being taught life is only good when you have someone to share it with. Then realizing life could be even worse if it's the wrong one.

So many times we don't live life the way we choose. Many times because we don't live how we want for fear of wanting to please someone else. Or because we are afraid of either Going off on our own, that coupled with the possibility of not making it makes the whole experience seem paralyzing.

People pleasing feels like you're helping others. But when it comes down to it you're hurting yourself because you're allowing other people to determine your self worth. Learn to stand firm in who you are. It's a battle but it's one of the most rewarding.

Sometimes you may be the light in a very dimly lit room. There is never anything wrong with you. The problem is with them. If people make you feel like you need to dim your light never give in to their request because you were beautifully and wonderfully made by the most high and he never makes any mistakes. If he wanted you to be what they want you to be he would have made you that way. He didn't so there is nothing else to be said.

The way things are these days brother and sister could get married to each other, and only because they want a companion. Not to be involved sexually. Because every relationship doesn't have to sexual. Not everyone wants or needs someone they want to f*** every night as their wife or husband. Sometimes it's more about the bound.

There's a negative stigma with that word. But I want people to start embracing it. Being weird is what makes you different. It's also the thing that helps you to stand out.... And who wants to be like everyone else?

There's so many opinions out here telling women how they should act and what caiber of man they should be dating , that I believe it's time for us to discuss whether these people are right or wrong

This episode is dedicated to those who've committed themselves to people who gave the illusion they believed in doing the same. Then you realize the sacrifices and compromises you're willing to make without putting them in the uncomfortable predicament of doing the same. But it isn't or hasn't been reciprocated.

We're exploring the negatives and positives of different types of parenting. Also the affects of those parenting styles.

This episode is for those Black women who have grown up without their fathers. Looking for love in all the wrong places, because they weren't taught how to love the men in their lives'. Also we're speaking about the hurt that comes from not having both parents there.

This episode I wanted to take a closer look into relationships that should have never began in the first place. These are ones formed out of fear. Also the ones we start in because deep down we don't believe we deserve any better than what we have in them.

Have you ever been with someone you thought was your other half; but it turns out they were playing you. Making you believe yall were more than you were. Having you go above and beyond because you're thinking you all love each other and are on the same page. Then something happens that smacks you right back to reality. Maybe them saying, "You know what this is! What you getting upset for?!" This is after he/she asks you to do something only a girlfriend or boyfriend would because they love you that much. And in relationships we make sacrifices.

This is for the ladies!!! This episode is for the women wanting to let a load off. Wanting a safe space where you have that sister, that shoulder to lean on. If you're interested and want to help start this up please email me @ [email protected]

We are all taught working for someone else is the way to go. When there is so much more to accomplish.

Realizing you are capable of doing way more than what most people limit you to. Also learning to take the time to pour into yourself, rather than pouring into a job or career that doesn't pour back into you.

Learning to take control over your life. Knowing and believing what ever you decide is the right decision for you. Even if it does not work out. It's right because you decided it was the move you wanted to make at the time.

 This Episode is for those of you who deal with Anxiety on the regular. Maybe you're someone who experiences anxiety on the regular and you don't know what to do to get over the feeling of it or you have no idea how to cope with it. This episode is for you.

 There are so many times we go through life not listening to ourselves. Expecting for other people to know what's best for us; when in reality we are the best dictators of what's best for us; in many cases.

Men feeling deeply like women and women acting like men.

There have been so many of us who have been involved with people and relationships who have broken us down farther than we've every thought possible. That being said, this Podcast is for that broken hearted man or woman who believes they're incapable of living any longer without love from that ex. This is a building block honey. You are a diamond. You do not crack under pressure. You shine.