Brothers, Sisters, Strangers: A Podcast on Sibling Estrangement

Controlling spouses sometimes mandate a family cutoff, and this ambiguous loss can result in confusion and deep mourning. In this episode, we delve into coercive isolation, gaslighting, and ultimatums that erode sibling bonds, often leaving family members searching for answers. When a partner creates a new negative narrative, family members may become defensive, further complicating the situation. The best response is to keep the door open, maintain gentle contact, and reclaim your own narrative. Ultimately, healing comes from moving forward, not waiting for permission from others.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

In this second episode on trust and sibling estrangement, we explore five key ways trust breaks down in relationships: micro-inconsistencies like unreliability, emotional unsafety when vulnerability is dismissed, betrayal of goodwill where intent is questioned, integrity collapse through repeated hypocrisy, and capacity failures due to personal limitations. Our discussion highlights that trust is not only lost through major betrayals, but also through everyday missteps. To repair trust, the injured sibling must feel heard and his or her hurt must be acknowledged. The hurt sibling also must see that behavior has changed over time.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Trust is the glue that binds us together with another person. However, trust can be broken in a variety of ways, such as when siblings experience micro-inconsistencies, emotional unsafety, intent betrayal, integrity collapse, and capacity failures. In part one of two episodes, we discuss different types of trust: · predictive trust is reliability · emotional trust offers psychological safety · confidential trust protects privacy · Intent-based trust means believing in goodwill · Integrity trust ensures values align with actions · capacity-based trust focuses on competence · Existential trust is deep relational safety Join us as we explore all this, as well as the challenges of repairing and rebuilding after trust has been broken.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Emotionally immature parents often display self-focus, defensiveness, lack of accountability and difficulty meeting their children's emotional needs. These behaviors can create an unstable environment where siblings compete for approval, experience favoritism or scapegoating and lack guidance in resolving conflicts. These family dynamics frequently result in sibling estrangement, with children either internalizing blame or acting out. Healing involves recognizing these patterns, setting boundaries, reducing self-blame, and, if possible, fostering direct communication. Ultimately, understanding parental emotional immaturity is a key to breaking cycles of estrangement and fostering healthier relationships.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

In this episode, hosts Ali-John Chaudhary and Fern Schumer Chapman celebrate the 100th episode of the "Brothers, Sisters, Strangers" podcast, reflecting on five years of breaking the silence around sibling estrangement. Here, the hosts revisit transformative episodes, highlighting topics such as the effects of avoidant attachment, healthy and unhealthy types of angers, the effects of parental favoritism on children, the role of fawning as a survival mechanism, and the unexpected benefits of post-traumatic growth. Looking forward, the goal of the podcast remains the same: to empower listeners who struggle with sibling estrangement by fostering understanding and community.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

This podcast explores how fawning—a trauma-driven survival response—shapes sibling estrangement. Psychologist Ingrid Clayton explains that fawning involves hyper-attuning to a sibling’s moods, avoiding confrontation, minimizing one’s needs, and over-functioning to maintain family harmony. These behaviors, rooted in childhood survival within unpredictable or unsafe homes, persist into adulthood as chronic people-pleasing, caretaking, and performative relationships. Fawners sacrifice authenticity for safety, leading to emotional distance and even estrangement. Clayton distinguishes fawning from intentional people-pleasing, emphasizing it's an automatic nervous system reaction. Healing requires recognizing these patterns, setting boundaries, and reclaiming one’s authentic self.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

In this episode, we explore practical ways to remain grounded and centered during the stressful holiday season, especially for those facing sibling estrangement. Strategies include cognitive techniques like mantras and affirmations, emotional tools such as labeling feelings and setting micro-boundaries, and somatic practices like breathwork, shielding stance, and using weighted objects. Listeners are encouraged to prioritize their well-being, attend only welcoming gatherings, prepare exit strategies, and keep interactions light to avoid conflict. Self-care, emotional regulation, and creating a safe environment can help when navigating family dynamics and emotional challenges during the holidays.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

This episode explores the essential ingredients for a healthy sibling bond. Repair and resilience are key—conflicts are inevitable, but healing and moving forward together define a strong relationship. Revisiting family memories and creating new traditions create a sense of belonging and shared meaning. Respect and autonomy are vital; healthy siblings balance closeness while honoring differences. The siblings adapt as life changes. Finally, care and reliability ensure trust and emotional safety, with both siblings showing up and contributing. Here, we explore these crucial elements that create nourishing and enduring connections with a brother or sister.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

This episode explores false narratives and how families navigate different positions and contentious issues. Here, we highlight communication breakdowns where some siblings feel misunderstood and quickly become defensive, clinging to narrow beliefs and identities. These patterns can mirror broader identity politics, as people reinforce personal biases and resist growth or curiosity. We explore how core beliefs -- such as feeling unworthy or unseen -- can drive false narratives and prevent constructive dialogues. Listeners are encouraged to consider the emotional experiences of each party, challenge their own assumptions to foster open, respectful conversations and develop healthier family relationships.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Estrangement is often maintained through the omission of expected acts of kinship, such as withholding greetings or failing to acknowledge milestones. This is a concept that is now called “Not Doing Family.” Family members who are subjected to these omissions feel neglected, resentful, mistrustful, and confused about their own self-worth. In this episode, we explore practical strategies for navigating these dynamics, like recognizing avoidance patterns, setting low-energy contact options, and seeking support outside the family. We also highlight how low effort families can revitalize their connections through small, structured changes and open communication.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Those of us who are estranged from siblings often suffer from FOMO— the fear of missing out on milestones, family events, and meaningful bonds. FOMO can produce feelings of grief, regret, and shame. In addition, the estranged often feel the stigma of family alienation and the societal pressure to have closeness. This episode highlights the fundamental human need to belong and how exclusion can cause long-lasting emotional wounds. We also explore strategies for coping with FOMO, such as introspection, reframing negative thoughts, and seeking joy outside of toxic relationships.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Empaths often overextend in emotionally distant sibling relationships, leading to habitual self-suppression; they may choose silence or compliance at a great personal cost. Over time, this pattern becomes normalized, creating anxiety, resentment, and emotional burnout. In this episode, we explore how self-erasure damages self esteem. By setting boundaries, viewers can reclaim self-worth and foster genuine, balanced relationships. Breaking free from this cycle increases resilience and protects against manipulation, promoting a healthier, more authentic sense of self.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

In this episode, we explore the role of "the fixer" -- the individual who feels compelled, whether by choice or expectation, to repair family ties after breakdowns. It’s dangerous to take sole ownership of mending relationships, as this can lead to emotional burnout, scapegoating, neglect of personal needs, and unhealthy family patterns. This episode highlights that fixing can be a trauma response—rooted in fears of abandonment and conditional love—and urges those in difficult relationships to prioritize personal boundaries and self-worth over the compulsion to resolve every familial conflict.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Siblings with conflicting attachment styles may struggle to meet each other’s emotional needs. A dismissive sibling might view an anxious sibling's need for closeness as overwhelming, which the anxious sibling feels rejected or undervalued. Understanding attachment styles can help siblings gain insight into unhealthy dynamics. In this episode, we explore various attachment styles and how they shape sibling relationships.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

A unique form of grief comes with losing connection to a sibling; waves of sadness and anger are often sparked by unrecognized cues. In this insightful episode, we explore the unpredictable and stealth nature of grief triggers and their emotional fallout. To manage sibling grief, it helps to understand the various types of triggers, such as sensory, situational, emotional, and relational. Here, we discuss practical strategies to identify and navigate these emotions to regain balance and peace.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Projection -- when one attributes one’s own unacceptable thoughts or feelings onto another – is common in sibling estrangement. Some examples are when a sibling says,“You’re so selfish” or “You’ve always been jealous of me.” In this episode, we discuss how to become aware of projection and how to maintain personal boundaries without feeling the need to explain or justify oneself. For example, it’s best to offer short, unemotional responses, and avoid long discussions that can lead to emotional manipulation. Walking away may be necessary. Ultimately, self-respect and protecting one's peace are paramount.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

In this episode, we explore ways to eulogize an estranged family member -- a challenging task due to a lack of recent memories. We help viewers navigate this delicate task without seeming disrespectful. For example, we encourage the estranged relative to consider sharing distant childhood memories or speaking about the deceased's character traits. This episode shows that emotions and past experiences can be meaningful, even if they are not recent; it is possible to honor the memory of an estranged relative with respect and sensitivity.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

A new book, The Power of Parting by Eamon Doyle, advises readers on how to cut off toxic relationships with courage and confidence and without guilt. However, in this episode, we explore the dangers of applying a “one-size-fits-all approach” to any sibling or family estrangement. It’s important to ensure a proportional response to a strained relationship. For some, that might be partial or limited contact. For others, it could be no contact, depending on the degree of volatility in the relationship. Join us for this lively discussion on the various kinds of estrangements and how these approaches affect the individual, relationships, and the larger family.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

A sister or brother who feels rejected and repeatedly hurt by a sibling can opt for a more limited connection or what we call “The Almost Sibling Relationship.” This type of connection insulates antagonistic siblings from the devastating fallout that may result from a complete estrangement. This option placates family members, balancing the collective good against a sister or brother’s need for dignity, authenticity, and autonomy. In this episode, we explore the pros and cons of the Almost Sibling Relationship and we offer guidance on how to sustain a limited connection.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

In this episode, we continue our discussion about biases -- mental shortcuts that distort thinking and influence how we perceive and respond to situations. In sibling estrangement, biases act as invisible barriers shaping memories, blame, and feelings. We define and give examples of the following -- Anchoring Bias, In-group Bias, Self-Serving Bias, Availability Heuristic, Groupthink, and Status Quo Bias. Recognizing these biases can help siblings understand misperceptions in their relationships and can help mend fractured relationships.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

In this episode, we delve into the sensitive topic of parental favoritism and its effects on sibling relationships. New research reveals that daughters and children who are conscientious, responsible, organized, and agreeable tend to receive better treatment from their parents, and siblings who receive less favored treatment generally suffer from poorer mental health and more stressful family relationships. This important episode explores this research and the need for parents and siblings to be aware of how favoritism can damage relationships.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Biases are mental shortcuts or distortions in thinking that influence how we perceive, interpret, and respond to situations, often without us realizing it. In the context of sibling estrangement, biases can act like invisible barriers that shape how we remember past interactions, assign blame, and justify our feelings or actions. They color our perceptions of each other, making it harder to bridge divides or see the situation from another’s perspective. In today’s episode, we’ll explore these biases and learn how they contribute to misunderstandings. Being mindful of biases can improve sibling relationships.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Hoovering, is a self-serving manipulative trait that, yes, is named after the vacuum cleaner company. After discarding a relationship, narcissists often hoover to lure that person -- often a sibling -- back into the fold. Those who hoover have several tricks in their bag -- guilt, threats, illness, pity, future-faking, triangulation, smearing. Typically, someone who hoovers engages in a sickening cycle of intimacy and discarding. This is not an authentic relationship; it is opportunistic or transactional behavior. Even though we seek belonging, this relationship pattern is tedious, draining, and disillusioning. This insightful episode explores hoovering and how to avoid getting sucked in when a sibling engages in this cunning and controlling behavior.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

In this new episode, we explore the importance of mental wellness and sibling estrangement. We highlight several key habits that can help foster well-being when relationships are shattered. For example, acknowledge and manage your emotions, recognize what you can control, embrace the present moment, and explore what you’ve learned from estrangement. We also emphasize the importance of setting goals and asking key questions to determine what you want to take with you from the previous year and what you hope to achieve in your relationships in this new year. These questions, habits, and strategies can help ensure a healthier mental state and greater overall well-being, even in the face of difficult sibling relationships.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

With either the holidays or family gatherings, it's important to anticipate contentious political discussions and to consider how you will handle them when they arise. These discussions often evoke feelings of hurt, defensiveness, abandonment, and isolation – exacerbating distance and even estrangement between siblings and family members. In today’s episode, we discuss why politics drives a wedge in relationships, and what we can do to avoid deepening the divide? How can we create warm, loving interactions with family members who don't share our views?Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Family text and chat threads can be a way for members to experience closeness, but these exchanges also can introduce distressing, hurtful elements into relationships. Texting is a limited form of communication, as participants can’t hear the tone of a comment or read a facial expression. That can lead to many misinterpretations. Sometimes, the exchanges can escalate into bullying, ultimately resulting in alienation and estrangement. In this episode, we discuss the dangers of family texting and how we can best protect ourselves when things become toxic.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Smearing, an intentional, premeditated effort to tarnish or undermine an individual's reputation, credibility, or character, often emerges in estrangement. This manipulative tactic is a kind of power grab; the perpetrator discredits the target while gaining more credibility, acceptance and approval from parents, siblings, or others. Smearing can alter the family narrative, and the target often feels overwhelmed and helpless. In this important episode, we look at smearing tactics and how to respond to them.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Our podcast has focused on sibling estrangement; however, parental alienation also is on the rise. In general, the reasons for estrangement are emotional abuse, mismatched expectations about roles, personality or value clashes, neglect, or traumatic history. But we rely on parents for basic emotional needs while siblings play a supporting role, and the power dynamics in these relationships are distinct. How are these two painful experiences of estrangement similar and different? In this episode, we explore how each of us must negotiate on our own how to maintain a place in the family and, at the same time, separate, differentiate, and individuate from parents and siblings.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Estrangement causes profound grief. That pain is even worse when the shunned sibling has no idea why the relationship ended. Not knowing the reasons for the cutoff can be its own form of torture and rumination. A cut off may feel personal, though it may not be personal. Some cut off because they feel jealous or competitive. Others are hiding something shameful. This episode explains what causes these breakdowns in communication, how it affects us, and what we can do about it.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

How to cope with ex-communication in the family? In some families, a few members may hijack the narrative and impose their own perceptions on others through distortions and lies. A skewed narrative may lead to cutting off those who don’t conform to the family identity. This is a devastating outcome, as humans have a fundamental need to belong. Sibling relationships are particularly vulnerable and competitive, as differences in lifestyles, incomes, and personal beliefs can disturb relationships. When a family member is banished, the shunned and the shunner may be flooded with feelings of shame and guilt. This episode explores ways to cope with excommunication in the family and how to find a place to belong.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Now, more than ever, people are opening up about their painful family relationships and how these tenuous connections have led to estrangements. Why are relationships so much more fragile now compared to other times in history? Several new social trends are contributing to fragmented family relationships. A disposable culture, the changing nature of the family, and a rise in individualism are some of the factors that have produced fertile ground for estrangement. In this insightful episode, we explore the many reasons behind the trend.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Emotional detachment and numbness -- when a person dials down feelings and is unable or unwilling to engage with others to avoid feeling pain -- is often experienced in sibling relationships.We may share our deepest emotions with a brother or sister, but he or she doesn't necessarily receive or respond to our vulnerability, leaving us feeling empty and disappointed. Those who are numb struggle to sustain intimate relationships. This episode explores why people are numb, how this affects individuals and relationships, and how to accept or alter this pattern of interaction to achieve more fulfilling connections.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

A member of our community asked us to explore how tragic loss affects those who are estranged from a sibling and how to cope in the absence of love and comfort from a brother or sister. The most devastating losses -- such as compromised mental or physical capacities, the death of a loved one, or even the loss of a job -- typically cause a shift in identity. These moments often heighten expectations of family support. The feelings of grief can be compounded for an estranged sibling when a brother or sister doesn’t meet these needs. To cope with these disturbing events, the estranged can lean on their chosen family for support. Join our conversation to learn more ways to cope.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

People who reflect most deeply on sibling estrangement tend to be women in their 50s, 60s, and 70s. What happens at this time that provokes this exploration? American psychoanalyst Erik Erikson calls this a period, which is filled with feelings of inertia and unproductivity, “stagnation;” it comes in lieu of the “generativity stage” when we work and raise a family to contribute to the future. Many in the stagnation stage feel a sense of incompleteness as primary relationships have broken down. This episode explores this stage when we reflect upon what has shaped our narrative. This evaluation can force introspection and change, as we seek connection, meaning, and a sense of purpose in this season of life. All in the hopes of gaining Integrity, or risk falling into the stage of despair.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Shame and stigma color the topic of estrangement, making it difficult to know how to broach the topic with friends and family members. This enlightening episode explores ways to approach someone who has initiated a cutoff and someone who has been shunned. Here are a few suggestions: Don’t judge. Don’t challenge a sibling’s emotional experience. Actively listen, offer kind support, and don’t assume you can fix the problem. For more, have a listen.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Many people don’t understand sibling estrangement, and some are unfamiliar with the word due to the shame and stigma surrounding the breakdown of a primary family relationship. It can be threatening to consider the possibility of estrangement, and some simply don’t want to hear about it. Others may have some awareness, but they may have misunderstandings about the experience. This episode addresses some of the most common misperceptions, such as “I’m the only person experiencing estrangement;” “It’s your responsibility to fix the problem;” or “There must be something wrong with me if I can’t get along with my sibling.” Listen to the episode to learn of other misperceptions.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

In the Sibling Estrangement – Sharing - Coping - Connecting Facebook group -- which includes both estrangers and estrangees -- a former member claimed the group is anti-family. She posted that estrangement is unhealthy, and it imposes a moral judgement on those who are estranged. In this episode, our hosts challenge this perspective, and point out that when people don’t resolve their conflicts, they often project their perceptions onto others. In sibling relationships, slights and hurts build up over time, and estrangement is not a choice that’s made lightly. This episode explores why estrangement happens and how it's often a protective measure in a toxic relationship.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Many people don’t see what’s right in front of them. In close relationships that provide a sense of identity or belonging, some people may unconsciously wear blinders so they don’t have to address problems that might threaten an important connection that provides security or attachment. Eventually, when these people open their eyes and examine what they’ve overlooked, they are in a state of shock, fear, anger, and pain. In this episode, we explore “betrayal blindness, a freeze response where an individual stays in denial to sustain a crucial bond.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

What are your goals for the new year? Do you want to limit contact with a difficult sibling, find your voice, improve your self-esteem, gain confidence in your decision-making, identify triggers, or break free of maladaptive coping patterns? This is a good time to identify what you want to take with you and what you want to leave behind from last year. This informative episode helps you identify how you to change in the coming year and how you can reach your goals.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Holidays are rough for the estranged. Rumination, which is a challenge in general for those cutoff from family, seems to intensify from October until December as the holidays approach. Some ruminate about what they’re missing. Others ruminate over the dread of having to attend family gatherings with toxic relatives. Those prone to depression may get stuck in “loop” thinking, perpetuating a sense of blame and shame, worsening a negative mental state. It is often an expression of anxiety and depression. This episode explores holiday ruminations and how to manage those plaguing thoughts during this challenging time of year.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Siblings in toxic relationships can get caught in a fog of confusion. A sibling may blame-shift and project their own narcissistic qualities -- self-centeredness, selfishness, and a lack of empathy – onto a brother or sister. This dynamic can become so blurry and muddy that an empathetic sibling may ask themselves, “Am I the narcissist?” In this episode, we unpack who’s who, what to expect of these sibling relationships, and how to manage them.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

The dreaded holidays! This is the most difficult time of the year for those cut off from family. The estranged often feel a sense of emptiness and alienation from October to December every year. In this episode, we take on the challenges. What are the consequences of being excluded from family holiday gatherings? Should you go to the family event when you feel unwelcome, and how much of yourself are you forfeiting to gain a sense of belonging? How do you handle toxic relatives at the holiday table? If you don’t go, how can you avoid the loneliness of long holidays without family? No matter whether you join your family or stay home, anticipating and planning the holidays is key.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

“Can you identify narcissistic traits in children?” asks a member of the Facebook estrangement support group. The answer is yes, with a big caveat. Children's behavior patterns change as they move through various stages of development. It’s important that parents and siblings don’t draw too many conclusions, especially before the child reaches the age of 12. In this episode, we identify 21 traits in childhood that might be red flags for narcissism. We also explore what may cause narcissism in children and what parents can do about it.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

How can we explain family estrangement to children? One in four adults are estranged from a close family member, and children often are the collateral damage as they lose precious relationships with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and even older siblings. Children often personalize these cutoffs, feeling abandoned and unworthy; even worse, they fear others -- like their parents -- might abandon them. This episode explores how to have productive conversations with children of different ages to reduce these fears, and how to salvage some connection with an estranged family member for the sake of the children.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Those bewildered by a cutoff with a sibling will benefit from this episode, Estrangement 101. What does it mean to be estranged? Has a sibling cut you out of his/her life? Is it for the best? Reduced communication, avoidance, emotional distance, conflict or tension, and physical separation are characteristics of estrangement. This episode is a primer to these painful sibling cutoffs. Here, we explore what estrangement is, what it feels like, and what you can do about it.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

The highly sensitive person (HSP) is like a fine-tuned instrument who captures every note and nuance in the symphony of existence. These individuals with this personality trait can be emotionally reactive because of their heightened perception of the physical, emotional, environment, and social worlds. They vividly soak up the feelings and reactions of others. This hyper-sensitivity can lead to personalization, overthinking, and rumination. In this episode, we explore how the highly sensitive person experiences, influences, and reacts to a sibling relationship.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

What is DARVO? This acronym -- Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender – is a form of gaslighting and a manipulative tactic often used by narcissists to gain power and control. Narcissists use this diverting strategy to invalidate, discard, and minimize a sibling and to safeguard their own fragile egos. When engaging in DARVO, narcissists change the facts and twist the narrative to cast themselves as victims and the sibling as the perpetrator. Brothers and sisters who experience DARVO may begin to doubt themselves and question their own reality. In this episode, we make viewers aware of this confusing, cunning pattern of behavior, and we explore ways to respond to these situations.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Anger is a primary emotion which appears when we experience an injustice or our goals are thwarted. Maladaptive anger often feels unwarranted, unmanageable, and unresolved. This type of anger can mask a range of feelings, such as shame, fear, sadness, frustration, and disappointment; it is a secondary reaction to protect from fully feeling hurt. On the other hand, empowered anger fuels assertiveness, challenges self-blame, and helps combat shame. Empowered anger is productive, harnessing these powerful emotions to make changes in a life or even in the world. This episode explores how to transform maladaptive anger into empowered anger, especially when it comes to siblings.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Should I speak up or should I keep silent? This question often plagues brothers and sisters in challenging sibling relationships. There are no hard-and-fast rules about what to do in each situation. Silence, the act of non-communication, is sometimes the best response, particularly when a sibling is presented with superficial or meaningless questions that are not worthy of an answer. Silence also buys peace and de-escalates a potentially volatile family situation. Speaking up, however, gives a sibling the opportunity to be authentic and find one’s own voice, and it may be necessary when a brother or sister becomes unreasonable, demeaning, or antagonizing. This episode offers guidance on the best approach to make room for the personalities of both siblings in these difficult exchanges,Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG

Psychological time distorts how we experience estrangement, exacerbating a sense of incompleteness -- a lack of resolution in a relationship that feels like things are left unsaid or unaddressed. Without communication with an estranged brother or sister, there is no opportunity to understand, take responsibility, or apologize for one's role in the rift. Consequently, incompleteness and psychological time drive rumination, personalization, and catastrophizing, contributing to feeling overwhelmed and to heavily carrying the loss. In this episode, we address how to cope with these negative reactions.Ali-John's Public Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/5minutetherapyJoin my Private Facebook Group. and get a free gift when you answer 3 questions. https://www.facebook.com/groups/688926101896419/For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blogI also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangementTo buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRankTo connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.comOr visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPageYou can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapmanLike what you hear? Feel free to donate to help us continue to make quality content: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=X9VW7VYD864TG