BS with Bethany Simko

*TRIGGER WARNING* Very explicit episode. I talk about definitions of rape in moderate detail, outdated mindsets, and other facets of SA that may cause emotional distress. This week I tried to complete an SA victim advocate training at The Refuge Utah, and it brought up so many emotions. So, let's talk about it. There are resources for you!! Call 1-800-656-4673 if you or a loved one needs help.xoxo, Bethany

Girl where do I even start? This was mid December (finally getting around to editing it) and things haven't slowed down since. We already need another catch up episode...but for now here's my week from hellxoxo, Bethany

Girl it's been way too long and I have to fill you in on all the details. We're talking - new boyfriend- new apartment- new cat- health issues- schoolalso since recording this, i've been to the ER AGAIN and so has my cat...I'll update you guys soon

Let's get to the research ✨For an interpersonal communications class I'm taking at university right now, they had us studying a topic of our choice during the semester. I chose to see how the lack of nonverbal communication cues impact online therapyBut don't let the academic research scare you, I'm here to chat about everything I learned in a super simple way so you can get allll the info you needSo let's explore- Is online therapy going to be as effective as in person therapy? How about text based therapy? How can I make online therapy work for me? I've got the answers so let's dive in

Join me this week as I discuss a whiplash that none of us saw coming: I'm going back to college. If you followed me in 2021, you saw the process of me dropping out of college, working full time in Social Media Management, moving to Texas, and eventually doing my own social media full time. I planned on never looking back. But the universe has a funny way of sorting things out, and through a strangely coincidentally timed loss of income, I found myself back home just in time to start doing pageants and doing UVU for the fall semester. In this episode we explore what abundance really means, and how we can keep our own perspective of an "abundance mindset" no matter what number is in our bank accounts. I'm loving this era of life because I have no idea what's next!xoxo, Bethany

TW: SuicideJoin us for a vulnerable and deeply inspiring episode with Claire Inouye-Rasband, a former Miss Utah’s Teen, law school-bound powerhouse, and fellow ex-girlfriend (we bonded years ago over dating the same guy).On this episode we unpack everything from our unexpected bond, to Claires journey from being severely bullied and suicidal in junior high, to becoming a national ambassador, keynote speaker, legislative intern, and of course a pageant icon impacting communities all around Utah. Claire opens up about how pageants gave her purpose and how service saved her life, with her initiative Project Strength, focused on helping youth build healthy coping mechanisms. Today we talk real life stereotypes, self-doubts, and the deeper why behind the crown. I came away from this episode with a newfound love of sisterhood, a re-ignited flame for life, and a few tears in my eyes. I hope you can see yourself in these discussions and give yourself (especially your younger self) a little more grace as you live a life that would make her proud.  Whether you’re a pageant girl or just trying to live a more vibrant life, this episode will leave you laughing, crying, and reevaluating what you’re truly capable of.Follow Claire on Instagram: www.instagram.com/claire_inoFollow the Pod on Instagram: www.instagram.com/bswithbethanysimko

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673*Don't hesitate to call or text if you or a loved one is in crisisHi loves! Today we have the incredible Erika Dalton with us to chat about her years as a pageant queen, violinist, & Sexual Assault Crisis Advocate.Join us in our conversation about what it means to be a pageant queen, mindset shifts to deal with 'losing', and the sisterhood involved in supporting those around us as victims of SA. Erika has built such an important and impactful platform on helping victims of SA, such as herself, to find their power and assist others in finding resources to help them in a time of crisis. Her work as a crisis advocate has given her so much rich perspective. There's truly so much for each of us to learn from her from today's episode.Follow Erika on InstagramFollow BS with Bethany Simko on Instagram I'd love to hear from you! Comment a moment you've BSed it in your life, or a moment where you found your powerxoxo, Beth

Surprise! I’m doing a pageant! And honestly, the thought of doing a pageant scares the crap out of me…which is exactly why I’m doing it. On today’s episode of BS with Bethany Simko, we dive into what exactly “BS It” means and why it’s so important to me. The BS mindset represents resilience, resourcefulness, and never ever giving up because you are capable of anything. This is so freaking near and dear to my heart, and being able to share this life changing mindset is the one thing keeping me going during my pageant prep.I can’t wait for more of the world to give themselves permission to BS It.Whether you tell yourself, “Baby Steps”, “Believe in Self”, or “Bull Sh*t It”, every single one of us already has that grit and passion inside us. My hope is that I can inspire even one of you to take the leap and keep BSing It until you get everything you want out of life. The Miss Utah County Pageant is on July 12th at 7pm if you’d like to come support!! Can’t wait to see what this new era brings.If you've ever had any moments of "BSing It" that you're proud of, I'd love to hear from you! You guys inspire me so much and I'm so blessed to have you in this community. xoxo, your big sis Beth LINKSFollow along on IG:⁠⁠ @bswithbethanysimko⁠⁠Follow along on Tik Tok: ⁠@bethanyysimko⁠⁠Read the blog⁠⁠Meet with me 1:1⁠⁠Shop My Merch

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This episode holds some of the deepest truths I’ve ever shared, so please take this as a trigger warning for SA and suicide.Growing up in Utah and being raised in the LDS religion gave me a lot of values to wrestle with as I shaped my own worldview. One of the major values I held close to me, even as I left the church, was my desire to wait until marriage. But, that wasn't how things ended up. And the experience that changed that for me left me with HSV and a whole lot of shame & fear.Today we're talking about that experience, and everything it led to. The heartbreak, the wakeup call, the move across the country, and the slow journey of building a life of my own. It's been 3 years of living on my own and next week... I'm coming home. This time, I get to do things on my own terms.I feel at peace with the woman I have carved out of the life I've lived so far.I've chosen again to wait until marriage. This choice isn't out of fear or "virtue", but out of self respect. Out of love for my younger self, and a deep protection for the woman I'm still becoming.Utah brought me some of the most painful and traumatic experiences I've ever faced. But time and space gave me the gift of remembering who I am & that I was never broken to begin with.I'm ready to face the home where it all started. To repair what I can, release what I can't, and to do it all grounded in the beliefs I've found for myself, not the ones I was taught.This episode my relationship with God, with sex, with home, and my parents .If you see any part of yourself in my story, I hope you remember this: no matter where you are, there is always healing to be found, Love you sis,xoxo, BethanyLINKSFollow along on IG:⁠ @bswithbethanysimko⁠Follow along on Tik Tok: @bethanyysimkoRead the blogMeet with me 1:1Shop My Merch

A raw, honest look at the chaos I called love, the addiction to passion, and my decision to choose soft love — even when it hurts.We're getting vulnerable today babe. Here's the tea- Utah Boy has been living in my head rent mf free. Not because of who he is, but because of who I am. Because of what I've passed off as normal. Because of what I've learned to call love.I'm sharing the nitty gritty details of my soul, because I know what it's like to feel like a mf addict - to love, to passion, to connection.I know what it's like to sob while you journal all the reasons it hurts to stay...and then immediately check for their name on your phone.It took me a four-hour conversation with a literal robot (thanks Chat) to realize that I have normalized this chaos. My soul has thrived on chaos. This two year whiplash has felt like home. I've been confusing passion for love. Chaos for connection.And it's my responsibility to choose every single day to say "I'll wait" for my soft love. To create an internal world that can handle the safety of soft love.It's an addicts job to step away from the chemical and deal with the fallout of withdrawal. And it's also their job to quit calling themselves embarrassing when their biology calls for more of what keeps the system alive - in my case, chaos. Of course my body wants more. Which is exactly what makes stepping back so damn courageous. Even if - and when - I have to do it over and over again. Because this isn't about Utah Boy. It's about all the men that came before him...and all the ones that will come after. It's about every time I have to find the courage to be honest with myself about what I deserve and the patterns I'm falling into. It's about every 2am cry under the covers while I summon the strength to choose soft love - again and again.Just because something feels familiar - feels like home - doesn't mean it's a safe place to rest. Follow along on IG: @bswithbethanysimkoFollow along on Tik Tok: @bethanyysimkoRead the blog

Only a few more days until I move off the island and head to LA! I'll be staying with Andy for a month in Venice while I look for more permanent places - I can't wait for this next adventure!Let's chat about how I'm feeling about yet another cross-ocean move & leaving my incredible people here in Hawaii. Such a bitter sweet ending & beginning.Follow along: https://www.instagram.com/bswithbethanysimko/

It's officially been 2 years of yapping together and we have a very special episode for today. We're gonna talk about mistakes & integrity and how sometimes sh*t goes down that you're not proud of. This pod is my safe space for learning new things, messing up, and being vulnerable so we're going to get REAL honest today.At the end of the day, I feel really proud of myself for all the work I've done over the past 5 years since my attempt in 2020 (which small backstory: this podcast was started in honor of the anniversary of my suic*de attempt) and every year I continue to learn more & explore more of this world.Just happy to be here :)Thanks for listening my love! Let me know your fav episode from this pod so far or your fav concept/storytime! I love hearing from yaThanks for growing with me!Follow along on IG: https://www.instagram.com/bswithbethanysimko/Follow along on Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bethanyysimko

Recently I've been having some chats with myself about how to recognize the 'perfection of the moment'. All we're waiting for to be truly happy is just a moment, right? In this episode we talk about how to take a step back and recognize how perfect each moment is, even if it doesn't seem like it.I hope you come away from this realizing how powerful of a creator you are.Follow the pod:@bswithbethanysimko

Happy 2025 loves!! Welcome to a new year where we're bringing new energy. My motto this year is that "nothing is more important than that I feel good"- focusing on how you feel brings even more goodness into your life (spoiler alert, you're meant to get everything you want in this life) Journal exercise: write down 4 categories- home, career, relationships, mind/body. Then identify in those categories some things you want this year. Don't be afraid to get big with it! Write out what it is you want and why you want it. Focusing on what you do want is such a powerful exercise in helping you shift your focus and energy to everything that is possible for you. Let's be a little delusional this year

I can't believe it's been one year of living on the island!! I'm so grateful for my life here and I can't wait to see what comes nextAlso we gotta talk about the Emotional Guidance System (aka the internal GPS)Listen I know I say that "this is the most impactful lesson I've learned" like every episode, but I mean it this time. Learning how to listen to your emotional guidance system is SUCH a beautiful thing bc it is directly teaching you what thoughts are bringing your desires to you. Once you learn to pay attention to it, adjusting your thoughts and beliefs becomes so easy and it releases the shame of "having bad thoughts" because anything that makes you feel bad, is just your higher self saying "no girl, that's not the direction you need to go. If you keep thinking that, it's going to bring you the opposite of what you've told me you want" and when you think a thought that feels good it's your higher self saying "exactly, keep thinking like that and everything you've told me you want will come to fruition"It can be a bit confusing at first, so below are some more resources to learn abt this concept!Your Manifesting Bestie Podcast Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5TD34OMH7zi6DQtgOKmJkN?si=fe33db8cb8ce4b23Money and the Law of Attraction (free on Spotify): https://open.spotify.com/show/2jczokizbxNg7l26DIgl1X?si=d1b4a7a733db47efFOLLOW ALONG: https://www.instagram.com/bswithbethanysimko/

Everywhere you look right now, people are telling you how bad things are going to get, or you are witness to the hatred spewed across social media, the news, and in person. I've heard the message a million times that you should not be friends with someone who voted differently than you and to that I say, don't fall for it. Do not fall for the hatred, the chaos, the frenzy, the division. United we stand and divided we mf fall so do not let this divide us. Today's episode is a message of hope, clarity, and responsibility. We are not victims, we are victors and there has never been a better time to practice that than now. Stay kind. Stay clear headed. Don't wait for outside circumstances to make you happy because they never will.

Staying kind to myself and realizing I am lovable anyways might just be the hardest and best lesson I’ll ever learn in this life (I sure seem to be learning it over and over again)  I’ve struggled with depression for as long as I can remember & I keep telling myself that “I’m gonna fix this. It’s gonna go away, if I can just figure out what I’m doing wrong”. And this year has truly been the happiest year of my life. I’ve relentlessly given myself love, space to heal, I’ve been obsessed with reading books about the power of my mind and how to take radical responsibility for my life & how to be the victor not the victim in my mind.  Now, I get to level up and see if I can remain kind and give myself grace even when things don’t go according to plan. My cycle is back which means my luteal phase is back which is 2 weeks in the month of experiencing PMDD. So essentially I just get a wrecking ball of hormones and feel like my life is spiraling for 2 cutie little weeks. This week, it’s hit me pretty damn hard. Truthfully, I  forgot what depression feels like & how heavy it really is.  In this episode we chat about the emotional scale, how to feel even a tiny bit better when you’re at your lowest point, the importance of giving yourself credit for doing your best, and how worthy we are just by existing.  I already need to make an update video bc I have decided to go on anti-depressants to get ahead of this & that’s a very vulnerable and scary episode to make so I’ll check in with yall when I can!! Love you & im proud of us for being the victors in our life even when it’s hard  If you're struggling, help is available- the suicide hotline number is 988- don't be afraid to use it. Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/bswithbethanysimko/

The sentence that broke my heart was "How can ab*se be so gentle?" As funny as all of this is 2 years later, I really am so proud of myself for leaving and healing bc this whole situation left me feeling like a shell of myself. If you are experiencing something similar, I know first hand that it can go from "haha silly funny" to "this actually really hurts" SO fast. It is NOT ok for someone to make you feel less than or insane even if you don't want a committed relationship. You deserve respect and love that helps you fall in love with yourself even from a simple fling (aka from ANYONE in your life) But at least we got the best claw clips out of this!! & wherever you are, I'm cheering you on Shop the best claw clips in the world: https://tonirose.co/collections/tr-x-bethany-collection?aff=3 Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/bswithbethanysimko?igsh=MWs5bnVkNWRmZzY4MA==

who knew my situationship would lead to a literal dissertation on the patriarchy. but two VERY important things to note for this episode: if you are experiencing a similar situation, please know I understand how hard it is to leave but that it will genuinely never get better. And two, you are meant for so much more than a life of sitting still and being "protected and provided for". You absolutely deserve to be cherished, protected, spoiled, the whole 9 yards AND you don't need to do anything to earn that AND you can make something of your life without discrediting your 'worthiness' of being taken care of. You can be powerful and nurtured. LOVE U (go break up w your situationship <3)

pt two of spilling the tea on the whole claw clip boy situation. I keep having to sprint off to class BUT the next part is coming v soon!! guys im so relieved I finally get to talk abt this I need someone to laugh about it with hahah

ive been keeping this to myself for too long and its finally time the girlies know what REALLY happened w claw clip boy. You know it was bad when I kept it a secret from even you guys (also Costco is a cult and I stand by that) I had to jump into a class before I could finish the story so more story time episodes are coming!!

Roadblocks happen FOR you. That feeling of uncertainty is trying to tell you something. It's trying to get you unsettled enough to ask questions and figure out what really is aligned with you. Roadblocks are the sign that you're growing. I'm at a roadblock right now. It's something I can feel sitting uneasy in my chest. I can sense something shifting and I don't know where in the world it's going, but I know I'm probably supposed to go with it. Figuring out what you want and how to get there is the question all of us are constantly asking- including me. So come along as I chat out my current mindset and make some cool breakthroughs when it comes to figuring out how to figure out what I want. Let's dive right in :) Follow Along on IG: https://www.instagram.com/bswithbethanysimko/

Your Virgo queen is speaking and she's got a LOT to say This year has been unreal. I've learned so much, I've discovered so much about myself and I can easily say this has been one of the best years of my life. It's been such a rewarding year of being intentional with my energy and immersing myself in new ideas & concepts. I can't wait to yap it all to you in the next hour and half So let's get right into it

Today we're diving into my favorite Nervous System Regulation techniques (NSR) to help you get to where you want to go by tapping into the feelings in your body. When your body is stuck in a fight or flight response, your energy is being directed to solving a 'threat' instead of allowing you to create a life that you want. There's no time for arts and crafts when the troops are at war, so how do we bring these precious resources back home? With nervous system regulation. Sitting with yourself, calming yourself down, feeling what you need to feel, and giving yourself space to correct limiting beliefs & move forward. My favorite techniques that we go over in the episode: - Breath work (Box Breathing, Wim Hof) - EFT Tapping - Somatic Shaking - Yoga - Humming - Body Awareness Meditation The resources & books I refer to in the episode are linked below You Are The Placebo: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=41a6004745784bcd Becoming Supernatural: https://open.spotify.com/show/0S20O9syoHLxJW9ALc8qr3?si=c6433ed1318e4d3f E Squared: https://www.audible.com/pd/E-Squared-10th-Anniversary-Edition-Audiobook/B0CBQS3LP9 Start a free trial on Audible to listen to my favs: https://amzn.to/3WdnjIC

Where your focus goes, energy flows. Where are you focusing? The universe is literally always listening to your thoughts so first step, STOP COMPLAINING. We didn't come to this weird little world to be annoyed, pissed off, or to dread every single day that we wake up. We're here to explore, learn, love, be loved, be happy, have fun, and TRUST. So much of this comes down to just some mf trust. When you focus on the things that are going wrong over and over again, you're going to get more of that. And when you focus on how lovable, kind, and successful you are, that's exactly what you're going to get. I was listening to Abraham Hicks more this week and there was one self love episode that really really hit me(I'll link it below don't you worry). I was already going to speak about affirmations, but this just added another amazing layer on top. This was such a fun episode to record. Don't we all need a reminder from time to time that it's not necessary to constantly correct or be hard on ourselves? That we are still good even if we're in bed all day and can't seem to "get it together"? Even if you don't watch thru the whole video, at least read this part. The universe (God, Source, whatever you wanna call it) doesn't give a hoot if you get out of bed or run as hard as you can. You are loved anyways. Entirely, fully, no questions asked, you are good. You are the embodiment of love. Abraham Hicks Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/17FgDXqX0zSSv8Ysz6Hl1p?si=GFbFp40YR6-fxMq-j6V6Pw Follow along on IG: https://www.instagram.com/bswithbethanysimko/

I keep talking about my fav books that I'm reading so today I finally compiled a list of all the manifesting books (and a few "self help/mindset recs) that I've read this year Listen along for summaries of each one but here are the resources I reference: Your Manifesting Bestie Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4mNhTcXtIu7bGjoEg7mAon?si=a99e8e01cb32421e The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy: https://open.spotify.com/show/643TMVlKg5TnrCavAIMgAQ?si=52b93c48be1b4cfe The Law and The Promise by Neville Goddard: https://open.spotify.com/show/3eBUxHahk0WVvHx6XmbwDN?si=4d4f97917d174010 The Power of Awareness by Neville Goddard: https://open.spotify.com/show/07PnaoX9lEAfsk1igTXfhT?si=373d5e58e2d74a1c You are the Placebo by Dr Joe Dispenza: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=2578b3d905e14fbd Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza: https://open.spotify.com/show/3FKxSaBIIG3QaqlN1pXrbH?si=c014657fb7194c60 Becoming Supernatural: https://open.spotify.com/show/0S20O9syoHLxJW9ALc8qr3?si=0fd81cdff3f34348 Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson, M.D.: https://open.spotify.com/show/78sm2KSyjsiXsEUe8ns8SA?si=ba4751acd9984f88 Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://open.spotify.com/show/40ygvasZaqVMMBkgYoUy8C?si=8396b719dc004e6f I also talk a bit at the beginning about the runway show that I got to walk this weekend and how I am confident about my nose after YEARS of hating it. See you next week to talk more about affirmations!!

The hardest part about "manifesting" is knowing where to start. If you let yourself get caught up in the 'how' you'll never learn to trust yourself. Because this is literally what we were made for as humans. You can't wake up and NOT manifest- you're doing it 24/7. That's the catch, there is no start and there is no end. This process is just about learning how to guide your energy in the direction that brings you everything you've ever wanted (aka just being happy) instead of living in the same patterns that have made your life suck I've broken down what I've learned into 4 steps that we will dive into every week. We will go over resources, application, self concept work, nervous system regulation, and a crap ton more (but in a way that makes it seem not so out there, because it's really not. It's all right there in your head) Then, after the 4 weeks of laying it all out, I'm releasing a Self Concept Course that you can hop in if you want to know how to come at this on day-to-day basis. It'll be the guide that I wish I had when I started this journey At the beginning of the year I told myself I would do whatever it took to stop reaching this intense feeling of burnout and the feeling of fighting tooth and nail just to survive. I wanted SO much more out of life and right now, I'm finding that. This episode is just skimming the surface of everything I've learned from submersing myself in books, podcasts, journaling, and application that has made me feel more alive than I thought possible Todays episode is just the explanation of the next month to get your head in the game (big girl pants=on) I can't freaking wait to get started! Genuinely the most life changing journey that I'm hyped to share with you

This has been a highly requested episode and I'm excited to dive into the phases of your menstrual cycle and the things I've been learning about it. You guys KNOW how rough my "3rd week" (or luteal phase) has been. I literally talk about it on here all the time, and this week I realized that my luteal phase hasn't been nearly as bad as usual. Understanding where I am in my cycle & the how the phases differ has been an actual life saver. "Ohhh so I'm not insane, I'm just in my luteal." Gotchaaa Lately I've been changing a lot of things about my lifestyle & mindset. I really want to do more episodes about what exactly those changes have been and the results I've seen. But in this episode, I share quite a few new techniques and insights I've been learning when it comes to respecting & listening to your body - especially NSR techniques (nervous system regulation) to get your body out of fight or flight so it can actually HEAL. We also chat about some of my favorite books and resources I've been finding. I'll link those below! Manifesting Bestie Podcast Mentioned: https://open.spotify.com/show/4mNhTcXtIu7bGjoEg7mAon?si=b94ec34483b942ff Books Mentioned (I listened for free on Spotify): You Are The Placebo: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=7654ce4c14694897 The Power of Your Subconscious Mind: https://open.spotify.com/show/1oZm2N8ki8Bou3JmgHuqQo?si=61a59e17617c4176 The Law and The Promise: https://open.spotify.com/show/3eBUxHahk0WVvHx6XmbwDN?si=77cd0f51ca844a44 The Power of Awareness: https://open.spotify.com/show/07PnaoX9lEAfsk1igTXfhT?si=7b3b9ab4e0b249de SO excited for you guys to dive into this one!! I ended up getting a little off topic (when do I not?) but literally in the best way. Love youuu

Happy 1 Year of BS with Bethany Simko! It used to piss me off when people would say "It gets better". But looking at the life I have now, I can only agree. And it doesn't just get better, it gets phenomenal. This time of the year is full of big anniversaries for me. When I was 17, I was having an extremely hard time with my mental health, to the point that 4 years ago, I attempted to leave this here earth. Here I am now at 21, living in Hawaii as a fitness instructor with the opportunity to lay in the sunshine and impact the lives around me. During my workout meetup in Ohio, I had the distinct feeling that I know what I'm here. Hearing the stories from each and every girl there and hearing the way my life has touched theirs, I felt a wave of gratitude and a sense of purpose. It makes sense why I had to learn the lessons I learned. Can you imagine I didn't get to experience all of this? I'm taking this life as the second chance I know it is and asking for everything and more. Because this is my fairytale and it's yours too. If you are struggling, I encourage you to reach out to someone around you, or contact the suicide hotline 988 for immediate help. It won't feel like this forever, and your soul belongs on this earth. I love you <3

When it comes to all things luxury and taste, Newman Parker is your go to. But his road hasn't always been paved with premium leather. On today's episode, Newman walks us through his journey through content- starting as a kid with a beauty influencer fixation and a YouTube channel, to now working with world class luxury brands and living in his dream apartment. The way that Newman is so willing to throw himself into any situation and give it his all is nothing short of inspiring. Nothing will stop his persistence. He detailed how faced with bullying, failed channels, and financial struggle, he always did it for the mf plot and for his younger self with a dream. He knew he had something greater waiting for him (byeee HEB). Newman is the definition of trusting the mf universe and BSing it until something clicks. I hope y'all are just as inspired as I am after listening to him because I'm ready to go out and quit a job just for the hell of it rn Go give Newman some love! I'll link his socials below :) Newman Parker IG Newman Parker TikTok Follow the pod! BS with Bethany Simko IG Bethany Simko TikTok

February 4th marks 4 years since I was SA'd and that sentence still feels wild to write. I feel so far removed from the person that I was, and yet that scared little girl is inside me every day. Everyone can see a big event like that. It's a big, traumatic, physically obvious moment. There were detectives, and hospitals, and social workers, and it's an event you can put a name to. But, what you can't explain, are all the little moments in between. The lead up, the after math, and things completely unrelated. Those are what are heavy on my heart coming up to this anniversary. The way I was speaking to myself for years left deep pathways in my mind and led me to believe that no matter how hard I tried or what I did, I would never be good. It led me to try to find a place that I could just be good or be enough.  And it landed me in a dangerous position where I was hurt, and it seemed like it came out of nowhere. But, for me it was just another drop in the bucket because I had already felt inherently damaged for ages. And that's a heartbreaking way to feel about yourself. So I had to realize how much more pressure I've been putting on myself by the way I speak in my own mind. I was going through so much and my mind was tearing me down for even struggling. Backwards right? But, I think we all do that to ourselves. This anniversary is about learning to be the one to sit with myself in every little moment and say "I am so sorry sorry I spoke to you like that. I am so sorry you had to go through everything you did" I'm learning to be good enough for myself. I'm learning to speak to myself like someone I love. I'm learning how to be my own safe place. 

I have looked up to Emily Fuller since we were 15 and she started an incredibly successful scrunchie business that inspired a jewelry brand of my own. She has always inspired me through her ability to create value, take inspired action, and maintain a positive mindset. So, this week I sat Emily down and made her spill all her secrets. At one point I asked Emily about her biggest failure and she straight up didn't have an answer for me. She said "my definition of failure would be giving up on something. The only times I've come close to giving up on something has actually just been a pivot because I realize life's taking me in another direction. And I get excited about that. Life wouldn't be taking me this direction unless it's going to benefit me or it's going to be better than whatever else is in the past.” In that moment it hit me- Emily is just really mf good at pivoting. No matter what she does, she seems to succeed. No matter where she goes, people seem to love her. Because nothing phases her- it's all just a new opportunity Listen along as Emily touches on her favorite journal prompts to help her over come limiting beliefs and frame “failures’ as a pivot to find her next foothold. Speaking with Emily is always so inspiring- I came away from this interview glowing and I know you will too. I hope you absorb some of her bright energy today and remind yourself that it doesn’t matter your age or circumstance, you’re always one pivot away from a completely different life and YOU are in charge 

I have just a *few* non-negotiables for a relationship. He just needs to be absolutely incredible in every way. But honestly, I'm discovering that the more I work on myself, the higher my standards get for a partner So if you want to know how to tell if this man is going to make your life a living heaven or a living hell, listen along because we're chatting about some good criteria here Y'all liked the Red Flags episode, and I have a feeling you're gonna love this one. LOVE YA Follow along: ⁠⁠@bethanyysimko⁠⁠ ⁠⁠@bswithbethanysimko

When it comes to dating, I have a HEFTY list of red flags that I look out for. Girl we know the men out there can be a little crusty so as I've gone out and about on little dates or through relationships, I've complied a big long list of red flags that I look out for Listen along as I lay out my list of things that I absolutely will not tolerate in relationships (and honestly, for most anyone I go out with atp) also I fully meant to make this episode about both red + green flags but I talk a lot and didn't wanna make this crazy long. SO I'll record the green flags episode asap Lmk if y'all have any other red flags you would add to this list! (or your favs from the list) Follow along: ⁠@bethanyysimko⁠ ⁠@bswithbethanysimko

This weeks episode is about my journey with abundance, especially when it comes to money. I know that can be SUCH a touchy subject and it's a little intimidating for me to talk about. But, this week I have been feeling so connected to you guys through our little IG group chat and I wanted to share a little more about my experience in hope that it helps one of you! I was planing on recording an episode going over all of the different mindset shifts and affirmation work I've been doing since moving to Hawaii, but the story ended up unfolding around money and it's honestly so fun to see it from this perspective. Growing up, we always had "barely enough", but my parents worked unbelievably hard. They are an example of incredible strength and work ethic to me, but I knew from a young age that I wanted a different life style. I didn't want to work mind numbing hours just to barely get by - I wanted to give myself and my family abundance, I wanted to have energy at the end of the day, I wanted to love what I did, and I wanted to experience luxury easily and with a calm mind. In the three years since I moved out and went to college, I've already seen an incredible transformation in the way that I think, feel, and act around money- even if it wasn't natural for me at first. Listen along to hear about my story and where I am today (and how I'm getting myself to the next level that I know is meant for me) I hope this serves as a beacon of hope for you and a starting point (or a catalyst if you're already exploring your mindset around abundance) for you to experience everything you've ever envisioned for yourself. Love you!! Let's dive right in :) Follow along: @bethanyysimko @bswithbethanysimko

I've officially BSed my way to Hawaii! I can't tell you how long I've dreamed of saying that phrase. I've lived here for just under two weeks and it's already such an incredible, healing place. When I made the decision to move to Hawaii 3 months ago, I wasn't actually sure if I was going to make it happen. I kept telling myself I would, but the thought of leaving Austin was so overwhelming. I felt like I had JUST gotten there and I didn't know if I had it in me to do another massive move across the country- let alone across the ocean. I know the thought of moving can be daunting, and it seems so far out of reach when you're settled into your current comfort zone. But, by digging in and moving forward with the right mindset, even the most "out there" places will come into view and you can start to create a new reality. Listen along this week as I dive into the mindset shifts I made that got me out of my hometown in 2022, and now have made living in Hawaii possible! Follow Along: @bswithbethanysimko @bethanyysimko

A year and a half ago, I packed my car and moved Austin, Texas. I have truly loved (most) every second of my time living there. In this episode, I fill you in on my favs, my pet peeves, and the quirks of ATX I can't believe out of all of this I left out the crusty datting scene (e.g. you can pick between a man above 5'8" OR a man with a jawline. You cant have both) so if you've ever been to Austin, I'd love to hear about your fav, least fav, and downright weird experiences there! This city will always have such a special place in my heart. It was my first venture out of Utah, I met some of my favorite people and had some of my favorite experiences. I learned so much about myself and I got to bring all of you along with me! My next adventure in the next city is on it's way, so listen along for one more ode to Austin and a whole lotta story times. Follow Along: @bswithbethanysimko @bethanyysimko

Whether you’re having an off day, an off week, or an off year, it’s helpful to have some tips and tricks you can fall back on in the moment. Some people call it brain fog, some call it a rut, but being able to find empowered movement through your to-dos is crucial in helping you feel a bit more like yourself Listen along as i chat about the top 5 things that help me stay focused in the present and take responsibility for my life Follow Along: @bswithbethanysimko @bethanyysimko Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@bethanyysimko/featured

Hi y'all! This week I had the opportunity to be invited to the Beyonce concert by a few of my favorite brands and it was SO FUN! This year has been full of amazing moments like that and I am so incredibly grateful. BUT as someone with social anxiety, going into those events not knowing a soul can be intimidating. I also live alone and get a little paranoid at night (as hot girls do) so I came up with a list of the ways I've learned to cope with these anxieties. 1. Look out the "front door" 2. Create your own narrative 3. "What would Satan say?" 4. Your 40 year old self would want you to enjoy this 5. "It doesn't matter, I'm the birthday girl" 6. Feel the music 7. Your stress response makes sense I hope as you listen you're able to find a few tricks you can use in the moment to make a social situation a little less daunting or help calm your mind in a moment of panic. If there's anything that helped or anything you want to hear about on BS with Bethany Simko, I'd love to hear from you! Contact me: @bswithbethanysimko [email protected]

It's been exactly a month since this entire situation went down, and I'm finally getting around to posting this episode. I recorded it roughly 2 weeks after getting home but I put off editing it until now because I needed some space from it. Now, listening back to it, having a fresh perspective, I felt it was important I put this out. Both for me, and for other people who may be in a similar situation (and also future Beth if she ever decides to forget how shitty she felt in that hotel room and thinks she wants to go back). I'm truly proud of myself for showing another human so much love, but also for knowing when to step back and let go. As of now, I still have not responded to any of his texts, which breaks my heart a little, but you know what they say - "you must break the pattern today, or the loop will repeat tomorrow".

It's been a roller coaster of a year but SUCH a good one! I've learned so much about myself and who I am, and I can't wait to keep learning. So in honor of me finally throwing away my fake ID (allegedly), here are 21 things I've learned in my 21 cute little years on this earth. Here's to many more! Love yall <3 If you enjoyed this episode, feel free to rate the podcast (it helps a million) or give the podcast insta a follow @bswithbethanysimko. Love hearing from you!!

Hi lovers! Super quick episode this week- I wanted to record something before I headed to California for the weekend. Since getting home from Utah a bit ago, I've been absolutely down for the count with a mystery illness from hell. So this week I've had to get real comfortable with resting and it caused me to reflect on some inner beliefs. I had to ask myself why in the world I have such a hard time sitting still and explore the answers that might contribute to that. I'll see ya when I get back! (probably) Follow the Pod: @bswithbethanysimko @bethanyysimko Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@bethanyysimko

If you know Amazon Fashion, you know Kate Bannister. I found her ages ago for her hauls and incredible Amazon recs, and as we've become friends I've gotten to learn SO much more about just how inspirational she is. Kate founded a successful influencing career through her personality, authenticity, and her love of helping you (meaning me because I eat this shit up) find the very best outfits. And just recently, she's ventured into the business world by starting her iconic swimwear line, KB Kinis. I absolutely loved getting to dive in deeper and talk to Kate about her entrepreneurial mind and her recent life changes- dropping out of college, starting a business, and moving across the country to Austin- all while dealing with panic disorder. If this episode doesn't inspire you to take leaps for future you, I don't know what will. Follow along with Kate on Tik Tok @haulswithkb to see her adventures as she packs up her college apartment and moves to our favorite little city! Follow the Pod: @bswithbethanysimko @bethanyysimko Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@bethanyysimko

Hi yall! I took a little break from recording for a few weeks, but I wanted to come check in! These past few weeks have been pretty interesting emotionally. A lot of old triggers came up, I got some difficult news, and I'm diving into the realities of PMDD. In this episode, I describe a panic attack I had a few weeks ago that strangely enough, brought a lot of clarity. Over the past 2-3 years I have been relentless in my self love + mental health journey, so feeling these familiar feelings was frustrating. But, while it isn't fun to experience in the moment, I truly believe that all that work was not for nothing. It prepared me to now enter another phase of growth, healing, and is giving me a chance to practice self love even when I'm not on my A game. I then share my July intentions and how I want to enter this month creating space for and in my mind. I hope you're able to take a few of my intentions and create some for yourself to continue this month in a way that feels fulfilling to you!

This week we're chatting about the things I've seen in my life that gave me excuses to play small and not go after what I want. I used to have no idea what people meant what they said something about being "afraid of success", but as I look back I get it. It's so easy to use little excuses as a shield and allow people to downplay your dreams. Listen along this week as I break down how to stop being the chill girl when it comes to your future and how to embrace the growing pains. Follow Along: @bswithbethanysimko @bethanyysimko Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@bethanyysimko/featured

Hey lovers! Excited to sit down and chat a little bit about how my event with Equinox + SOMI went and some of my June intentions for this month. I recorded this right before leaving for Utah, and I am now in Utah (yay!) But it took me a sec to be able to edit and upload, so use this as your time to set some mid-month intentions if you haven't already. Use these last 2 weeks to push yourself out of your comfort zone! I'll see ya next week. Follow Along: @bswithbethanysimko @bethanyysimko Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@bethanyysimko/featured

This kind of episode is what puts the BS in Bethany Simko. I truly have no idea what is going on right now, and you're going to come along with me while I figure it out. Right now I am smack in the middle of a burnout and I can't seem to figure out how to stop getting here. I know a lot of us will only talk about our struggles in past tense, and I'm a sucker for wanting to find a hero story in everything. About how "I was so down, but I figured A, B, and C out and now I'm great". Right now, I have no letters of the alphabet figured out. But, as I go through the episode you can hear the frustration start to melt a bit as I start to remember how much I've already done for myself, how much I adore my current life, and how it's ok to slow down for a sec. I also dive in a bit to the story about my move and how absolutely unglamorous it was, but how proud I was to call it my own. This is a truly ranty and rambly episode, but I had a lot of fun chatting it out and remembering lessons that I keep learning over and over again. While I'm still unsure of how to completely avoid getting to the point of saying, "I have nothing left to give" , I'm already feeling better and I'm curious to see how I can build a life with a sustainable pace. Follow Along: @bswithbethanysimko @bethanyysimko Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@bethanyysimko/featured

Habit Stacking is such a powerful tool in incorporating your desired lifestyle changes and behaviors into the routine you already have. In this episode we will be taking a look at your current routine and habits, and I'll be sharing examples to help you pinpoint "anchors" in your day to which you can attach your new habit. One thing I emphasize throughout the episode is that self improvement should not come with a factory installed setting of dread with it. Approaching your new habit in portions that you can realistically continue with, finding ways to make the behavior rewarding, and working it into your current routine with as little friction as possible are the top ways I talk about to get this new habit to stick with you. I'm not interested in a "30 day self improvement" journey, or becoming "unrecognizable in 6 months". I'm here for in lifelong lifestyle changes that allow you to wake up and feel like you actually have energy and confidence to go through out your day. To be fair, doing these small things over and over (and over) again, will slowly transform so much of your life in the most beautiful way and I hope that in 6 months you do look back and realize how far you've come. But, also remember that 6 months is just 6 months and you still have SO much time to figure things out. There is no timeline, and there is no shame in this, just new ways to pivot.

In this weeks episode we're talking about getting your shit together, one habit and routine at a time. I'm beyond excited for this episode because this system of forming habits and routines has genuinely changed SO much for me. It helped me move across the country, it's given me the tools to create the life I have now and it's shown me that the vision I have for my life is possible when I take manageable steps to build trust with myself. The reason this gets me so excited is because everything that I've experienced is very much replicable. I'm no unique case and there's no special determination or crazy mental strength required to start the process of creating self esteem, keeping promises to yourself and watching your new habits and lifestyle bloom. The discipline comes with the cake. You're building it as you go and its beautiful to watch. We're keeping it short and sweet this week, but I hope that you take the time to genuinely think through every step of your ideal morning routine and pick your starting point. So, when all the pieces of the puzzle are in place, you'll be able to look back and celebrate the hell out of yourself for step by step creating your ideal life. It all starts with keeping a promise to yourself for 1 day. My biggest take away from this episode is that "once is a mistake, twice is a system". Can't wait to see you again next week and talk a bit more about habit stacking! As you set your goals, feel free to DM me and tell me what they are and let me celebrate with you, or help you navigate the changes they bring. Love you! Follow Along: @bswithbethanysimko @bethanyysimko Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@bethanyysimko/featured