Chitty Chats with Stacy

In this episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, Stacy sits down with clinical social worker, trauma therapist, EMDRIA-approved consultant, educator, and Safe and Sound Protocol provider Laurie Belanger for a rich conversation about trauma, neurodiversity, EMDR, dissociation, and nervous system healing.Laurie shares her belief that people are “tangled, not broken,” and offers a deeply compassionate way of understanding complex trauma, especially in children, adoptive and foster families, neurodiverse individuals, and adults still carrying the impact of early experiences. Together, Stacy and Laurie explore why trauma and neurodiversity do not always fit into neat diagnostic boxes, how EMDR helps bridge the body and the mind, and why clinicians must remember they are not just technicians following steps—they are regulated humans bringing presence, discernment, and relationship into the room.They also unpack the Safe and Sound Protocol, using Laurie’s powerful explanation of the “sticky lever” in the ear and how our nervous system can become tuned to emergency settings. This conversation is full of practical wisdom, clinical depth, and the kind of nervous-system-informed language that helps people feel seen instead of labeled.This episode is a beautiful listen for therapists, educators, parents, caregivers, and anyone interested in trauma-informed healing, complex developmental trauma, dissociation, EMDR, neurodiversity, and the power of feeling safe enough to become more fully yourself. Laurie's Bio: Laurie Belanger, LCSW-R, is a seasoned psychotherapist specializing in the practical, individualized use of EMDR therapy integrated into complex presentations. She is known for being creative and adaptive. Over a career of 25 years Laurie has developed skill treating complex trauma, sensory differences, chronic pain, adoption trauma, SMH diagnosis, and neurodiversity. As an approved EMDR Consultant and Education Provider through EMDRIA, she helps colleagues build a sustainable and enjoyable best practice. Dedicated to providing cross discipline education, Laurie enjoys translating complex ideas into relatable, impactful material.Website: lauriebelanger.com FaceBook https://www.facebook.com/laurie.belangerlcsw Linkedin www.linkedin.com/in/laurie-belanger-lcswr-1266113a Instagram laurie_the_adhd_trauma_geek You can also find some courses with me at UB School of Social Work Office of Continuing Education https://ubswce.ce21.com/item/emotional-safety-therapy-room-tools-strategies-resourcing-clients-ages-127442#tabFaculty

In this episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, Stacy sits down with Andy Grant—author, coach, energy worker, and host of the long-running Real Men Feel podcast—for a deep and honest conversation about men, masculinity, emotional numbness, suicidal thoughts, and the gap between outward success and internal emptiness.Together, Stacy and Andy explore why so many men feel alone in their pain, how cultural expectations can keep men disconnected from themselves, and why asking for help may be one of the bravest things a person can do. Andy shares practical tools for moving through heaviness, including movement, journaling, gratitude, affirmations, mirror work, and finding real connection with other men.This conversation is about more than masculinity. It is about being human, learning to feel again, and remembering that healing often begins when we stop carrying everything alone.Andy Grant has been helping people for over fifteen years as a best-selling author, speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, Healer, teacher, suicide prevention activist, and host of the award-winning podcast, Real Men Feel. He holds certificates in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Life Activation, and other leadership programs and energy work modalities. Known as the King of Authenticity, Andy is the founder of Real Men Feel, a movement encouraging men to come out of the emotional closet. Andy has been producing and hosting the Real Men Feel podcast since February of 2016. As a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, Andy knows how low we as human beings can feel, and he is committed to helping people realize how magnificent life is meant to be. His Amazon best-seller, Still Here: How to Succeed in Life After Failing at Suicide, has helped people around the globe and includes everything he wished he knew at a younger age. Andy is also an initiate of the Modern Mystery School. Learn more at TheAndyGrant.comTheAndyGrant.com Connect with Andy on Facebook: facebook.com/afgrant facebook.com/realmenfeelshow Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theandygrant/ https://www.instagram.com/realmenfeelshow/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theandygrant LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andyfgrant/ See all of Andy's books https://amazon.com/author/andygrant Real Men Feel Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-men-feel/id1107137758 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/78U5M6iDR2QWkPUl6Ch62c YouTube https://www.YouTube.com/realmenfeel

In this Listener Questions episode, Stacy responds to a powerful and tender question from Alexandra about navigating life as someone who is childless not by choice while working in an environment centered around children.This conversation explores the reality of living grief, the unexpected triggers that can surface in classrooms and child-focused spaces, and the importance of regulating your body without making children responsible for your emotions. Stacy offers practical, compassionate ways to sit with grief, locate it in the body, use bilateral movement or music to process the heaviness, and ask the deeper question: How can this live inside of me without wrecking me every day?This episode is also a reminder that you do not have to be a parent to deeply impact children. Your presence, steadiness, compassion, and emotional awareness matter. Stacy closes by reflecting on Alexandra’s insight that stress and trauma responses are physiological, not character flaws—and that when we move from judgment to understanding, empathy, and compassion, everything changes.

In this episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, Stacy sits down with her longtime friend Bryce—someone she met during her time in the military—for an unfiltered, honest conversation about mental health, military culture, parenting, and what it really looks like to grow after hard experiences.Bryce shares his personal journey into mental health support, sparked not by himself—but by his children. Together, they unpack the stigma around getting help, the myth of “suffering in silence,” and why so many veterans struggle to transition from a team-based military life to feeling like they have to carry everything alone.This conversation dives into: The truth about mental health stigma in the military  Why “suck it up” was never actually how soldiers operated  The powerful role of the gym and counseling in long-term health  Parenting after divorce, guilt, and learning to let go of control  What veterans actually need when transitioning to civilian life  How educators can better support military-connected kids  The importance of rebuilding your “team” after service Bryce brings humor, honesty, and real-life perspective—reminding us that growth doesn’t come from pretending you’re fine… it comes from doing the work.Whether you’re a veteran, a parent, an educator, or just someone trying to figure it out as you go, this episode will challenge the way you think about strength, support, and what it means to truly take care of yourself.

What do you do when students don’t care… and nothing seems to work?In this Listener Questions episode, Stacy responds to two powerful questions from educators facing what feels like an epidemic—rising anxiety, depression, and student apathy in today’s classrooms.Instead of quick fixes, this conversation goes deeper.Stacy unpacks: Why traditional consequences and reward systems aren’t working anymore  How screen exposure and the pandemic have shaped today’s nervous systems  The hidden impact of a relational deficit in students’ lives  Why apathy is often a protective response—not defiance What actually moves students from shutdown to engagement This episode is a grounded, real conversation about what educators are up against—and where real change begins.If you’ve ever thought, “Nothing is working,” this one is for you.📩 Have a question for a future episode? Email: [email protected]

What actually shifts a school?In this episode, Stacy sits down with lifelong educator and superintendent Jon Konen to talk about what it really takes to change school culture—from the inside out.This conversation goes far beyond strategies and into the heart of education: relationships, regulation, accountability, and the courage to lead through resistance.Together, they unpack what happens when schools stop focusing only on academics and begin to support the whole child—and the adults responsible for them.If you’ve ever felt the tension between “what works on paper” and “what actually works with people,” this episode is for you.🔥 “If we don’t address what’s happening beneath the surface, it doesn’t matter what we do with math or reading—nothing sticks.”🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why culture always outweighs strategy in schools  The shift from academic-only interventions to whole-child approaches What it really looks like to lead through staff resistance How to build buy-in without forcing it The role of accountability in a healthy culture (it’s not just “fluffy”)  How relational practices impact:  Behavior referrals  Staff burnout  Student success  Practical strategies for addressing “toxic” dynamics in schools  Why connection must come before correction—for both students and staff How to re-engage parents as partners, not outsiders  The importance of co-regulation for leaders💡 Key Takeaways You don’t need everyone to buy in—just enough to create a tipping point Relationships are not soft—they are structural to success You can’t build culture from behind a desk—leadership must be visible “Toxicity” isn’t a label—it’s a signal that something deeper needs attention  Real change happens through consistency, not intensity🛠️ Practical Strategy HighlightThe Daily “Thermometer Check”Jon shares a powerful leadership practice: Check in with staff daily  Ask: “How can I support you today?” Build relational “deposits” before making “withdrawals”  Address concerns privately, with connection first Simple. Consistent. Transformational.🌱 About Jon KonenJon Konen is a lifelong educator, superintendent, and consultant focused on transforming school culture through intentional, relationship-driven leadership. With experience spanning classrooms to district leadership, Jon brings practical, real-world strategies that help schools move from dysfunction to connection. He is the founder of Jon Konen Consulting and host of the Moving Mountains podcast, where he explores strategies to reduce toxicity and build thriving educational environments.🔗 Connect with JonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/jon.konen.2025 Instagram: @jon_konen Website: (soon to be released) www.jonkonen.com

In this first-ever listener question episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, we’re diving into something so many of us quietly carry:👉 How do you start taking care of yourself when everyone else is used to you taking care of them?Heather asks a powerful question about navigating self-care as a midlife mom, partner, and eldest daughter—and what it means to shift long-standing patterns of overgiving.We also explore: Why your nervous system feels “stretched” (the rubber band effect)  How self-care is actually modeling, not selfishness  What it looks like to reclaim time without guilt The power of predictability and communication when setting boundaries  How to begin saying “no” when you’ve never been shown how PLUS: A second listener question on how to stay grounded when your kids’ emotions feel like a rollercoaster—and what co-regulation actually looks like in real life.In this episode, you’ll learn: How to recognize when you’re over-functioning  Why boundaries feel uncomfortable (and why that’s normal)  Practical ways to “dose” regulation into your daily life  How to stay steady when others are not Key Takeaway: Taking care of yourself doesn’t take away from others—it allows you to show up safer, steadier, and more present.Have a question you want answered on the podcast?📩 Email me: [email protected]

In this episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, I’m taking you inside one of the most powerful professional experiences I’ve had in years—the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium.After four days immersed in learning from leaders like Dr. Bruce Perry, Dr. Nadine Burke Harris, and Dr. Dan Siegel, I walked away with insights that don’t just apply to clinicians—they apply to all of us.We’re talking about: The connection between trauma and what you consume (yes, even food) Why some of your habits may actually be protecting your nervous system The truth about ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and why this is a public health issue  What therapists get wrong—and what actually helps people heal  How dissociation shows up in everyday life Why relationships—not techniques—are the real drivers of change The hidden cost of over-functioning and burnout Two powerful questions to ask yourself: What am I tolerating?Where am I over-functioning?This episode is both personal and professional—pulling back the curtain on what I’m learning, how I’m applying it, and what it means for you.Whether you’re a parent, educator, clinician, veteran, or just someone doing the work of becoming more aware—this conversation is for you.Key Takeaway: You don’t need to be in therapy to have healing experiences—but you do need to understand your nervous system.Have a question you want me to answer on the podcast?📩 Email me at: [email protected]

What does it really mean to teach in rural America?In this episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, Stacy shares reflections from her recent travels to small communities in Montana and Colorado and dives into the unique realities of rural education. In many rural schools, educators wear multiple hats—teacher, coach, counselor, mentor, and sometimes the only consistent support system a child has.With limited resources and fewer specialists available, rural educators often have to rely on their own understanding of child development, nervous system regulation, and trauma-informed practices to support students.Stacy explores:• Why understanding brain development is critical for educators today • How stress cycles impact student behavior and learning • Why many of today’s children are arriving at school with developmental delays • The importance of educators understanding their own nervous systems • How rural schools can creatively support students even with limited resources • Why involving the community and parents matters more than everRural schools face challenges that many people don’t fully understand—but they also have unique opportunities to build connection, creativity, and resilience.Whether you are an educator, parent, or community member, this episode offers insights into how we can better support kids and the adults who show up for them every day.If you live or work in rural America, this conversation is for you.

Last week, Stacy hit a wall.In this deeply honest episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, Stacy shares what happens when even someone who spends a career helping others through trauma reaches their own breaking point.Between global conflict, disturbing news cycles, and the emotional weight many people are carrying right now, Stacy found herself overwhelmed with anger, grief, and exhaustion. As a trauma therapist who has spent over two decades working with survivors of violence, abuse, and loss, she reflects on a hard truth:Humans were never designed to absorb endless streams of traumatic information.In this conversation, Stacy explores the idea of collective trauma—how constant exposure to painful news and social media can overwhelm our nervous systems and stretch our internal “rubber band” to the point of snapping.She also talks about:Why the modern news cycle is overwhelming our nervous systemsThe emotional load many women are carrying right nowWhy believing and supporting survivors mattersThe role men can play in changing harmful cultural normsHow empathic adults and children may be absorbing the emotional energy of the worldMost importantly, Stacy shares what helped her find her footing again: stepping away from the noise, returning to the basics of regulation, and remembering that caring for yourself is not weakness—it’s necessary.If the world has felt heavy lately, this episode is a reminder that you’re not alone—and it’s okay to step back and take care of your nervous system.

In this heartfelt episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, licensed clinical social worker and Behavioral Health Officer Stacy Nation sits down with her husband Billy — a combat veteran with over 24 years of military service — for a candid and emotional conversation about men’s mental health, the military stigma around therapy, and the journey toward healing.Together, Stacy and Billy pull back the curtain on what it’s really like to navigate trauma, marriage, and masculinity after years of deployments to Iraq, Kuwait, and the UAE.Billy opens up about his early years in the military, when seeking help meant risking your career, and shares how Brainspotting and therapy transformed his life decades later.This episode is packed with insights for:🪖 Veterans and active service members wrestling with the invisible weight of trauma.💑 Spouses and partners who want to understand how to better support their loved ones through healing.🧠 Anyone curious about brain-based therapies like Brainspotting — and why they reach parts of our story that talk therapy sometimes can’t.Key moments include:The truth about mental health stigma in the military — then and nowWhy Brainspotting can unlock healing when words aren’t enoughWhat “being strong” really means for men todayHow spouses can listen without judgment and help create safetyThe powerful reminder that “it’s okay to not be okay”Stacy and Billy’s honest, grounded conversation offers hope, perspective, and practical takeaways for anyone navigating life after trauma or trying to love someone who is.

A year ago today, I was in the Middle East.After nearly two years serving on full-time orders with the Wyoming Army National Guard — preparing soldiers for deployment, deploying alongside them, and supporting them through combat and operational stress — I’m finally ready to unpack what that experience did to me.Because here’s the truth:No one goes on deployment and comes home the same.In this episode, I share:What it’s like to serve as a Behavioral Health Officer during deploymentThe emotional complexity of supporting soldiers while navigating your own stressThe realities of reintegration (and why coming home can be harder than leaving)How my family, marriage, and business shifted while I was goneWhat I learned about nervous system regulation in high-stress environmentsWhy nuance matters more than ever — in leadership, in the military, and in our conversations with each otherReintegration is real.Identity shifts are real.And growth doesn’t happen without discomfort.I talk about the privilege and the hardship of deployment. I talk about grief. I talk about change. I talk about what it means to wear a uniform and still hold nuance. And I share where I feel deeply called next — helping people learn how to sit with themselves, regulate their nervous systems, and hold space without judgment.After more than 20,000 one-on-one conversations with humans, I know this to be true:We don’t often sit with ourselves.And we don’t often have someone willing to simply sit with us.That’s where I’m headed.If you’ve ever:Walked through a major life transitionFelt like you came home to a different lifeNavigated reintegration after deployment, divorce, graduation, or lossOr sensed that you no longer fit neatly into one boxThis episode is for you.Thank you for being here.Thank you for staying. Season 2 of Chitty Chats with Stacy begins now.

Today, Stacy express heartfelt gratitude towards educators. She encourages listeners to take a moment to appreciate their favorite teachers by reaching out with a message of thanks instead of spending their time on the podcast. Highlighting the significant shifts and challenges in education, Stacy acknowledges the dedication and hard work of educators, including their own 'army bestie' and their children's sports coaches, who go above and beyond their teaching duties. 00:00 Celebrating Teacher Appreciation Week01:41 A Personal Shoutout to Influential Educators02:21 Acknowledging the Extraordinary Efforts of Coaches03:19 A Heartfelt Thank You to All Educators03:53 Closing Thoughts and Call to Action

In this episode, Stacy reflects on the importance and value of friendship, sparked by a recent visit from a long-time friend. She recount the joy of reconnecting with friends from different phases of her life, including high school friends and a best friend of over two decades. Stacy speaker highlights the practices that have helped maintain these friendships, such as sharing daily gratitudes, and the unique connection felt with people from her small hometown.00:00 Starting the Journey: Reflections on Friendship00:37 Cherishing Long-Term Friendships: A Weekend of Reconnection01:44 The Power of Gratitude in Friendship03:06 Navigating Friendships Through Life's Seasons04:06 Rekindling Connections: The Joy of Small-Town Ties06:40 Contemplating the Impact of Social Media on Modern Friendships07:41 The Enduring Value of Friendship08:12 Invitation to Share Your Friendship Stories

In this episode of Chitty Chats, Stacy shares a training she has held titled "How Does Your Past Impact Your Teaching?". Stacy introduces the concept of how one's physiological and emotional blueprint, developed during early childhood, affects their responses and interactions in educational settings. The session covers the development of the brain, stress response systems, sensory systems, and techniques for emotional regulation, both for teachers and their students. Educators are encouraged to reflect on their own triggers, how they were wired through their own developmental stages, and how this impacts their relationships with students, particularly those they find challenging. Additionally, educators are prompted to consider who has influenced their teaching approach and to reflect on their reasons for staying in the teaching profession, despite its challenges. The workshop aims to equip educators with tools to improve their self-awareness and emotional management, contributing to a more trauma-informed educational practice.00:37 The Impact of Your Past on Teaching06:31 Reflecting on Your Teaching Journey14:12 Understanding How You're Wired: A Look at Brain Development24:44 Navigating Triggers in the Classroom29:24 Exploring Emotional Responses Through Body Awareness32:46 Understanding Children's Emotional Expressions33:23 Navigating Feelings and Family Dynamics34:53 Practical Approaches to Helping Kids Express Emotions35:30 Case Study: Healing Through Emotional Expression38:03 Sensory Systems and Classroom Dynamics46:07 Personal Reflections and Professional Development

Today, Stacy reflects on motherhood, inspired by a recent encounter with a group of mothers during a weekend at a hot springs. She emphasizes the unique challenges and joys of raising toddlers, stressing the significance of emotional development and the importance of supporting each other without judgment. Stacy also acknowledges the hard work of parenting, particularly during the toddler years, and offers encouragement and empathy to all mothers, reminding them they're not alone in their journey. Additionally, she touches on societal expectations of mothers, the importance of self-care, and the necessity of community support, while advocating for understanding and empathy towards all parents.

In this episode, Stacy is joined by Bri Miller, a behavior interventionist from Wichita, Kansas, to discuss the impact of whole brain teaching and behavior intervention strategies in the classroom. Bri shares her journey from teaching fourth and second grades to becoming a behavior interventionist, emphasizing the effectiveness of whole brain teaching in boosting student engagement and reducing classroom disruptions. Topics include:the role of therapy animals in supporting emotional regulation and creating a more conducive learning environment.methods for handling dysregulated behavior in studentschallenges and successes Brie has encountered in her role, the importance of educators learning about behavior regulation and whole brain teaching strategies00:30 Diving Into Bri Miller's Role as a Behavior Interventionist03:39 Exploring Whole Brain Teaching and Its Impact06:22 The Power of Whole Brain Teaching in Classroom Management15:23 Integrating Therapy Dogs in Schools: A Game Changer20:51 Connecting with Bri Miller: Learn More About Whole Brain Learning

This reflection focuses on the significance of repair in maintaining healthy relationships. Stacy shares personal thoughts on her recent stress-related behavior that has negatively impacted her closest relationships. Acknowledging her own responsibility, she emphasizes the importance of not just apologizing, but also changing one's behavior to truly repair the bond. The episode highlights the need for adults to take ownership of their actions, model appropriate behavior for children, and actively work on mending relationships that matter to them. Stacy then encourages listeners to reflect on their relationships and take steps towards repair, underscoring that this practice is crucial for both personal growth and the well-being of relationships. 00:00 Welcome and Introduction to the Power of Repair00:42 Personal Reflections on Behavior and Accountability01:26 The Importance of Owning Our Behavior01:55 The Process and Significance of Repair in Relationships03:53 A Call to Action for Personal Repair and Apology05:10 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement

In this episode, Stacy chats with Jethro Jones. A multitasking educator, podcaster, and advocate for the transformative power of technology in learning, Jethro shares his journey from resisting the teaching profession to embracing various methods of education and podcasting. With experiences ranging from being a K-12 teacher and school principal to creating podcasts like Resilient Schools and Cybertraps, Jethro illustrates his dedication to learning and personal growth. He shares about the impact of his daughter being born with Down Syndrome on his perspectives on education, shedding expectations, and recognizing individual learning paths. The conversation also touches on the importance of authenticity in relationships and how Jethro helps others realize their podcasting dreams, showcasing his passion for unlocking people's potential and advocating for a personalized and inclusive approach to education and personal development.00:54 Jethro's Multifaceted Life: From Education to Podcasting04:36 The Power of Removing Expectations in Learning08:48 Embracing Individual Learning Styles and the Impact of Personal Experiences16:08 The Joy of Podcasting: A Journey of Learning and Connection28:45 Unlocking Potential: The Role of Technology in Education and Beyond36:13 Wrapping Up: The Layers of Jethro and Future Conversations

In this reflection, Stacy discusses the significance of basic needs such as food, water, sleep, social connection, exposure to sunlight, and movement for maintaining emotional regulation and mental well-being. Through a personal anecdote involving a miscommunication with their spouse being resolved post-meal, Stacy underscores how basic needs directly affect our interactions and emotional state. The story highlights not only the immediacy of these needs but also the awareness of the younger generation about mental health and emotional well-being. Stacy encourages the audience to recognize and address their own basic needs and those of the children in their lives to support healthier emotional regulation.01:02 Exploring the Importance of Basic Needs03:07 Personal Anecdote: A Lesson in Basic Needs05:06 The Impact of Basic Needs on Emotional Regulation05:41 Reflecting on the Next Generation's Awareness of Mental Health06:43 Closing Thoughts and Invitation for Engagement

This episode features an in-depth conversation with James Moffett, the principal of Ferris Elementary School in Hutchinson, Kansas. Moffett shares his journey from being unaware of trauma-informed education to fully embracing it and implementing its practices both professionally and personally. He emphasizes the importance of meeting basic needs, like sleep, for students to aid their learning process and discusses his school's creative partnership with a local high school for providing stackable cots. Moffett outlines a continuum for becoming trauma-informed, including awareness, sensitivity, responsiveness, and investment. He asserts that trauma-informed practices are about best practices for humans, not just children, and highlights the necessity of empathy, accountability, structure, and consequences as part of a loving educational environment. He also discusses the challenges and rewards of applying trauma-informed practices at home with his own children, illustrating the potential for these approaches to transform relationships and environments beyond the classroom.00:34 The Life and Times of Education: A Principal's Perspective02:25 Embracing Trauma-Informed Education: James's Journey10:10 The Power of Love and Consequences in Education14:05 Applying Trauma-Informed Practices at Home17:47 Building a Love-Based Environment at Ferris Elementary26:59 The Cost of Connection and Compassion Fatigue28:46 Wrapping Up: The Impact of Community in Education

In this reflection, Stacy shares insights from her experiences attending a virtual psychotherapy network conference, which involves over 5,000 mental health professionals. She talks about the importance of continuing education for licensed clinicians, touching on various topics such as ethics, internal family systems, affairs and betrayal, and the impact of trauma. Stacy also highlights training sessions she found particularly impactful, including discussions on tapping, brain spotting, and the work of Brian Stevenson on uncomfortable conversations and justice. Additionally, she emphasizes the value of regulating personal well-being amid intense professional development and the power of therapy in transforming both clients' and therapists' lives.00:37 The Importance of Continuing Education for Clinicians02:03 Personal Reflections on Trauma and Healing03:19 Exploring Taboo Topics: Affairs, Betrayal, and Family Dynamics05:46 Innovative Therapeutic Techniques: Tapping, Brain Spotting, and More06:27 The Power of Uncomfortable Conversations and Owning Our Stories08:04 The Healing Journey: Embracing Vulnerability and Growth12:09 A Weekend of Learning, Reflection, and Self-Care14:51 Sending Love and Support to All

In this episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, Stacy welcomes Charles Williams, a Chicago-based school administrator with extensive experience in speaking, workshop facilitation, and podcast hosting. Charles shares his unexpected journey into education, originating from a need to ensure financial security for his children as a single father. He speaks about his progression from being an assistant principal to focusing on nationwide educational speaking engagements, emphasizing equity in education, and balancing family life. Charles elaborates on his efforts to create equitable educational spaces and the broader implications of equity beyond racial lines, touching on socioeconomic disparities and ableism. He also discusses the importance of authentic relationships between educators and students, recounting personal anecdotes to highlight how genuine connections can foster a supportive learning environment. Lastly, Charles mentions his work as an author and the purpose behind his speaking engagements, aiming to invoke meaningful conversations and changes within educational systems.00:21 Charles Williams: The Journey from Judgy McJudgerton to EduCrew03:23 The Unplanned Path into Education: Charles's Story05:31 From Classroom to Administration: Shaping a New Educational Paradigm08:39 Understanding Equity in Education: Beyond Race and Gender15:26 Expanding Horizons: The Embark Program and Its Impact16:25 Expanding Horizons Beyond Race and Socioeconomics17:48 The Importance of Authentic Relationships in Education18:26 Building Connections Through Authenticity and Patience22:49 Engaging with Educators and Students on Leadership and Equity28:44 The Journey of an Author: Sharing Leadership Insights29:14 Connecting and Sharing Resources Beyond the Classroom

In this reflection, Stacy, who is both in the military and a military spouse, shares her personal experiences and challenges of being part of a military family. Reflecting on a week of unpredictable events and the need for flexibility, She highlights the unique struggles and resilience of military spouses. From dealing with deployments and maintaining communication through video calls to handling unexpected situations and the complexities of purchasing a home online, this reflection  underscores the importance of flexibility and support within military families. 00:14 Reflecting on Military Life and Its Challenges01:17 A Personal Journey Through Military Spousal Life02:23 The Unpredictable Adventure of Being a Military Spouse03:43 Embracing Flexibility in the Face of Uncertainty05:04 The Unsung Heroes: A Tribute to Military Spouses06:21 The Power of Support and Understanding07:29 A Heartfelt Shoutout and Encouragement

In this episode, Stacy chats with her longtime friend and fellow clinician, Chelle Taylor. They recall their mutual training in the Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics under Dr. Bruce Perry, which greatly influenced their approach as clinicians. Chelle shares experience in early intervention work with families and children up to 5 years old, and she stresses the importance of the role of relationships and authenticity in therapy, pointing out that love can be the strategy while maintaining proper boundaries. Chelle discusses the healthcare system in Australia, including its struggles, and compares it with the American system. She mentions her journey in dealing with personal struggles, including how it impacted her work as a clinician by pushing her towards authenticity in connection with her clients.00:54 How We Met and Our Journey Together02:07 Who Am I? A Glimpse into Chelle's Life and Career03:43 The Impact of the Neurosequential Model in Practice03:59 Introduction to the Neurosequential Model07:53 The Power of Relationships in Therapy11:34 Mental Health Practice in Australia16:12 The Importance of Early Intervention24:53 The Role of Love in Therapy27:55 The Importance of Doing Your Own Work as a Therapist

In this reflection, Stacy reflects on  a sewage pipe break in her home, using it as a springboard to dive into the broader theme of perspective.She highlights how life's experiences, both minor and significant, shape our ability to view situations in relative terms. Emphasizing the development of the cortex, which greatly influences our critical thinking, problem-solving, and perspective-taking abilities, she points out that perspective is a gift that comes with age and experience. Stacy also discusses the importance of not minimizing others' experiences due to differing perspectives, particularly in the context of children and teenagers, who are still developing their worldview. Through her storytelling, she underscores the value of experiencing life's challenges, small and large, and the importance of empathy and understanding in navigating these situations with others.00:23 Exploring the Concept of Perspective02:08 A Shitty Situation Turns into a Life Lesson03:49 Finding Gratitude in the Midst of Chaos04:19 The Gift of Perspective and Its Impact

In this episode, Marcel Hernandez opens up about his personal and professional journeys in working with justice-involved youth in Nashville, Tennessee. As the founder of BeAboutChange, Marcel shares how he weaves his experiences from his recovery journey into his work, focusing on the power of relationships in promoting brain development, mental health and overcoming trauma. He also talks about his role as development director for Tucker's House, a non-profit that provides home modifications for families with children with disabilities. He delves into the critical role parenting plays in setting up strong foundational values in children by establishing links between their actions and consequences, and the significance of reinforcing qualities such as emotional intelligence, patience and resilience. Throughout the discussion, Marcel emphasizes the importance of relationships as the key to imparting change and better outcomes for individuals and communities.00:23 Meeting Marcel Hernandez: A Journey Through Trauma Informed Education01:18 The Importance of Brain Development, Mental Health, and Trauma in Education01:37 Marcel's Personal and Professional Background02:52 The Impact of BeAboutChange: A Juvenile Justice Initiative07:47 The Power of Relationships in Youth Development18:06 The Role of Tucker's House in Supporting Families with Children with Disabilities32:03 The Intersection of Professional Lessons and Personal Parenting39:29 Conclusion: The Power of Relationships and the Importance of Apologies

In this episode, Stacy shares insights on understanding triggers, particularly in the context of interactions with children, whether they are one's own children, students, or clients. With nearly two decades of experience as a clinician and a long history of working with children and families, she introduces the concept of triggers—what activates our stress responses in relation to children. The core of this reflection revolves around five critical questions to ask oneself when triggered by a child's behavior. These questions aim to explore one's basic needs, sensory system activations, past experiences and reminders, prior feelings similar to the current reaction, and what one was experiencing at the age of the child causing the trigger. The objective is to shift the blame from the child and encourage adults—teachers, parents, and clinicians—to introspect and identify the roots of their triggers for better emotional regulation and relationship management. Stacy emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and reflection in handling triggers, highlighting that the responsibility for managing one's reactions rests with the adult, not the child.00:37 Exploring the Concept of Triggers01:24 Understanding Our Reactions to Triggers02:21 Five Key Questions to Ask When Triggered03:21 Deep Dive into Each Question04:57 Reflecting on Personal Experiences and Growth

In this interview, Stacy talks with Brian Post, a mental health professional focused on the importance of love and self-reflection in helping adoptive families and individuals struggling with trauma. Over their conversation, Stacy and Brian discuss the foundational principles of his work including his stress model — the idea that all behavior is a reaction to stress, compounded by either fear or love. Brian emphasizes the importance of clinicians doing personal reflective work to best support their patients and shares his experiences. They discuss the lasting impact of love and relationships in the field of mental health, touching on generational trauma, parental influence, and the future of mental health. Brian also gives insights into his personal methods of self-care and maintaining his emotional and physical health.00:54 Getting to Know Brian Post02:50 Brian's Journey and Impact04:19 The Importance of Hope and Vision05:36 The Power of Showing Up08:04 The Challenges of Teaching and Training10:18 The Stress Model and Its Application12:47 The Role of Love in Healing15:25 The Importance of Self-Work23:39 The Impact of Generational Trauma31:15 Self-Care and Personal Relationships

In this episode, the Stacy reflects on the past week and the recurring theme of judgment, or rather, the importance of abstaining from it, across various situations. She urges listeners to show grace to themselves and others, emphasizing that most people are doing the best they can based on their unique circumstances and internal compass.Stacy advocates for letting go of perfection and self-judgment, encouraging listeners to approach the week ahead with less judgment towards themselves and others, and to remember that everyone has their own story, which is often more complex than it appears.00:00 Introduction and Reflections on Judgment00:39 The Impact of Judgment in Different Life Areas02:24 The Importance of Self-Grace and Letting Go of Perfection03:29 Personal Experiences and the Complexity of Human Nature04:46 Encouragement for a Less Judgmental Approach05:04 Conclusion and Farewell

In this episode of Chitty Chats, host Stacy converses with U.S. Army Major, behavioral health officer, and founder of Focusing on Self, Qwanquita Wright. She discusses her journey in the U.S. Army and her passion for making a positive difference in people's lives. She emphasizes the importance of looking after one's own mental well-being, sharing insights from her personal experiences of dealing with grief and trauma. They also delve into the stigma surrounding mental health in the military and the broader society and stress the need for empathy, open conversations, and therapeutic intervention. Wright encourages other professionals and personally puts a high value on deliberate rest, spiritual growth, and regular self-evaluation to remain resilient amidst life's challenges.01:57 Journey into Social Work in the Military03:13 The Military Masters of Social Work Program04:27 The Unpredictability of Military Life06:27 Addressing Mental Health Stigma in the Military08:20 The Birth of 'Focusing on Self'20:43 The Importance of Self-Care and Rest

In this week's reflections, Stacy shares her thoughts derived from recent professional experiences, particularly around the importance of relationships and co-regulation. She talks about how these concepts apply across various settings, from education to military to parenting. Stacy speaks about how co-regulation is key to self regulation. Finally, she encourages listeners to consider their own relationships and how they contribute to or derive co-regulation from them.

Katie Kinder, known for her iconic teal glasses, is a dedicated educator with a long history in teaching. In this conversation, she discusses her early resistance to join the profession, her mother’s influence, and how her experiences led her to become a teacher. After entering the teaching field, she began observing and learning from the best teachers to improve her skills. She also discusses the importance of a safe, engaging, and loving learning environment for students. She highlights the impact of the pandemic on education and student interactions, noting the sudden gap in development due to isolation. The concept of a 'circle of influence' is brought up multiple times, emphasizing control over personal spaces, actions, and reactions for both students and teachers. Katie Kinder encourages a more interactive approach to learning, focusing on verbal communication and creating connections. Apart from her passion for teaching, she also aspires to inspire and assist new teachers navigating the profession. Towards the end, she reflects on her personal experiences and the symbolic power of her teal glasses.00:37 Katie's Journey into Education02:09 The Importance of Engaging Lessons and Innovation02:28 Katie's Path to Becoming a Teacher07:56 The Role of an Instructional Coach09:23 The Importance of Relationship Building in Education09:55 Untold Teaching Truths: Katie's Book22:24 The Impact of the Pandemic on Education24:52 The Power of Connection in the Classroom25:35 The Story Behind the Teal Glasses

In this reflection, Stacy shares her thoughts on navigating the challenging world of parenting teenagers. She introduces her concept 'money in the bank', a strategy she advocates for maintaining healthy relationships, especially with teenagers, and she emphasizes the importance of connection in these relationships even when it becomes challenging when all they want is independence.The 'money in the bank' concept helps understand and manage emotional responses, building a neutral ground within the relationship. Stacey encourages listeners to remain tentative and understanding, all the while learning and growing in their parenting journey.

In this episode, Stacy interviews Josh Varner, who plays a significant role in the trauma-informed space helping educators in schools. Josh shares his unconventional journey from being a college football coach to becoming an advocate for trauma-informed practices. He discusses how crucial it is to bring down complicated neuroscience concepts to easy, digestible teaching for every part of the educator's ecosystem, including bus drivers and canteen workers. He emphasizes the importance of co-regulation and creating safety for students and highlights the importance of ongoing learning in this space. Josh also identifies the link between trauma-informed theories and various forms of life roles, including parenting and coaching. He leaves with touching on his goals for integrated trauma-informed practices into more universal areas, such as coaching.00:52 Josh's Journey into Trauma-Informed Education02:59 The Impact of Location on Trauma-Informed Practices04:15 Challenges and Solutions in Trauma-Informed Education05:44 The Importance of Self-Regulation in Educators06:09 Applying Trauma-Informed Practices in Personal Life08:26 The Future of Trauma-Informed Education15:43 Josh's Personal Journey and Self-Care

Diane Gould, a licensed clinical social worker and PDA specialist, shares her journey and insights into the world of neurodivergence and the Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) profile of Autism. The discussion explores the trauma faced by neurodivergent individuals, the crucial role of co-regulation in managing behavior, the significance of understanding and adapting to diverse 'brain wirings', and the dangers of blame culture in education and parenting. Diane also touches on the struggles faced in writing her forthcoming book about PDA, and emphasizes the importance of community in supporting neurodivergent individuals and their families. The conversation concludes with details about the upcoming conference on PDA that Diane is organizing.00:38 Getting to Know Diane Gould01:23 Diane's Journey to Social Work02:33 Diane's Experience with Autism and Trauma04:17 The Demand Avoidance Profile of Autism05:11 The Importance of Understanding Neurodivergence06:11 The Challenges of the Current Education System07:27 The Power of Being and Co-Regulation23:01 The Upcoming PDA Conference25:55 Diane's Upcoming Book

In this episode of 'Chitty Chats with Stacy', Stacy hosts Tracie Chauvin, a clinical social worker, and the director of student support programs for Kansas City, Kansas Public Schools. Tracie discusses the challenges and successes of integrating trauma-informed, equity-driven, and restorative practices across a large school district to change and improve public education. She emphasizes the importance of building relationships, showing gratitude, and establishing a shared language within the school's ecosystem. She shares how strategies like implementing a resilience coach model have helped build sustainable change. Furthermore, Tracy highlights the need for educators to focus on their wellness to stay resilient amidst challenges.00:44 Tracie's Journey and Role in Social Work01:58 The Importance of Trauma-Informed Work02:46 Disrupting Oppressive Systems in Education04:33 The Power of Passion and Persistence04:54 The Challenge of Changing Oppressive Systems05:10 Strategies for Implementing Change06:05 The Role of Advocacy in Education08:18 The Importance of Building Relationships08:33 Addressing Resistance to Change10:38 The Power of Gratitude and Wellness13:21 The Role of Resilience Coaches in Schools16:07 The Importance of Community Involvement in Schools17:30 The Challenge of Implementing Restorative Practices21:35 The Importance of Self-Care for Educators

Host Stacy York Nation hosts her younger sister, Stephanie Neuman, a licensed clinical social worker, who was previously a police officer for over 10 years. Exploring Stephanie’s journey from law enforcement to therapy, they discuss the impact of trauma, and how her experience propelled her to seek a Master's degree and start her own practice focusing on therapy for police and first responders. Emphasizing the importance of mental health work in understanding and managing trauma, Stephanie explained how 'Brain Spotting' - a form of therapy that directly targets areas of unprocessed trauma in the brain - has become a vital tool in her practice. The sisters also discuss their shared childhood memories and the significance this holds for them.01:53 Stephanie's Journey: From Police Officer to Therapist03:17 The Impact of Traumatic Experiences04:08 The Importance of Therapy and Mental Health04:37 Stephanie's Personal Experience with Therapy07:50 The Role of Memory in Therapy13:18 The Concept of 'Doing the Work' in Therapy19:49 Introduction to Brain Spotting22:09 Applying Brain Spotting to Different Areas of Life28:35 The Importance of Self-Care for Therapists

Stacy Nation, a licensed clinical social worker, hosts Erica Schuppe, an Occupational Therapist, for an in-depth discussion about stress, life transitions and balancing work and personal lives. Erica shares her experiences on her 20-year career in occupational therapy, her role as a foster, adoptive and biological mom, and her private practice. Drawing from her professional and personal encounters, she emphasizes the need for authenticity and adequately navigating individual and systemic stress. She provides insights into managing life transitions such as seasonal changes, (especially school-related ones), emphasizing the importance of predictability, routine, visual cues, and realistic expectations. They both stress the need for self-care, regulating one's nervous system, and reducing overscheduling of activities.03:05 The Intersection of Personal and Professional Life07:12 The Importance of Sensory Processing in Mental Health12:06 The Impact of Stress and Trauma on Everyday Life16:54 The Role of Self-Care in Nervous System Regulation18:55 The Impact of Our Actions on Others19:31 The Importance of Balance in Our Lives20:56 Managing Transitions and Stressors22:45 The Dangers of Overscheduling27:59 Strategies for Navigating Transitions and Maintaining Balance

Authentic Conversations and Heart-Centered Approaches in EducationIn this episode of Stacy York's YouTube series, Stacy dialogues with her dear friend and school principal Jen Stein. Discussing both Jen's personal and professional life, they explore how she navigates her integral roles as an educator, a mother, a wife, and an advocate for neurodiverse children. A major topic in their conversation is maintaining authenticity and practicing gratitude in the overwhelming sphere of public education. Jen shares how the wisdom from Brene Brown and others helped her understand the importance of aligning decisions with personal values. They also discuss the vital role of community support for educators and how transparent conversation contributes to a healthier work environment.00:10 Introduction and Guest Presentation01:14 Guest's Personal and Professional Background03:06 Balancing Personal and Professional Life04:12 Embracing Imperfections and Authenticity05:42 Impact of Personal Experiences on Professional Life08:12 Supporting Staff and Students during COVID-1909:54 Promoting Mental Health and Wellness in School11:11 Creating a Supportive and Open School Environment16:13 The Power of Authenticity and Gratitude16:13 Preparing for the New School Year22:35 Closing Thoughts and Reflections

In this episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, join Stacy Nation and Morgan Oaks as they delve into the journey of personal growth. From unpacking deeply ingrained messages to redefining strength and courage, they explore the importance of vulnerability and the power of curiosity. Discover how to overcome limitations, embrace possibility, and live a passionate life. This candid conversation also focuses on men's personal growth and the impact of embracing one's true self. Get ready to be inspired and empowered!

In this episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, Stacy Nation sits down with Eric Nachtigal, a member of the resilience team at SSDaC. Eric shares his experience as a behavior intervention consultant in public education for the past 29 years, working with teachers and students in counseling, teaching, and behavioral intervention. He discusses his mission to help struggling kids and build their resilience, emphasizing the impact that one caring adult can have on a child's life. Stacy and Eric also delve into the importance of teamwork in education and the conference, Building to Resilience, which has influenced Eric's teaching philosophy and approach to helping students. This insightful conversation highlights the power of education in changing lives and the shared goal of creating a positive impact on children's lives.

Stacy Nation is joined by Megan Yoder. Stacy introduces Megan as one of her committed online stalkers turned colleague. They discuss Megan's work as an educational consultant on the resilience team at sda and her role as the director of the Reno County Learning Center. Megan shares her journey from being a licensed surgical assistant to working in mental health and eventually becoming a teacher. She talks about her passion for helping students with mindfulness and yoga. Stacy highlights the importance of loving and supporting hard kids who have experienced difficult situations. They discuss the need for trauma-informed practice and social-emotional learning. Megan explains how she uses the 'mad, sad, glad, or afraid' check-in method to connect with her students and create a safe space. They also talk about the upcoming Bridging to Resilience conference organized by sda and the Real Resilience team and the importance of having everyone at the table to make a change. Finally, they discuss strategies for dysregulation, including sitting hip to hip and using humor and distraction. The episode ends with Megan emphasizing the need to understand and support the whole story of each student. 

In this episode of 'Chitty Chats with Stacy', Stacy Nation is joined by her dear colleague and friend, Rebecca Lewis-Pankratz. The episode starts with a warm welcome and an introduction to Rebecca and the purpose of the conversation. Rebecca shares her personal journey of overcoming adversity, including struggles with addiction and a background of trauma and poverty.Rebecca talks about the turning point in her life when she received support and found hope in various organizations and projects designed to help families in need. She emphasizes the role of relationships in transforming lives and the power of education in breaking the cycle of poverty.The conversation delves into the connection between brain science, trauma, and resilience. Rebecca shares her insights on the importance of understanding the impact of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) on brain development and how resilience can be fostered at any age. She also highlights the need to bring trauma-informed practices into schools to create a supportive environment for students.Stacy expresses her admiration for Rebecca's vulnerability and acknowledges the importance of sharing personal stories in promoting understanding and empathy. They discuss the upcoming conference led by Rebecca, which aims to bridge the gap between professionals and individuals who have experienced trauma. The conference is known for its authenticity, rawness, and focus on building resilience.In conclusion, this episode explores Rebecca's personal journey, the transformative power of relationships, the science of resilience, and the upcoming conference. It highlights the importance of trauma-informed practices and the need for collaboration and empathy in creating a better future for individuals and communities affected by adversity.

In this episode, the host, Stacy Nation engages in an enlightening conversation with her guest, public educator Meagan Baldwin. They explore the prevalent issues in the public education system and the critical need for emotional regulation and understanding of nervous system dynamics for effective learning. Meagan shares her personal journey in public education and stresses the importance of a trauma-informed approach. She also highlights the need for educators to understand their triggers and regulates themselves for a more conducive learning environment. The discussion pivots to her transition to a new school environment that incorporates these insights. The episode ends with Meagan sharing helpful tips for educators starting their journey in this new educational paradigm.

In this enlightening episode, Stacy Nation conducts an in-depth interview with Joe Brummer, a passionate advocate for trauma-informed restorative practices. Their conversation revolves around the importance of reframing our view of education through a trauma-informed lens, the way we approach restorative justice, and the role of adults in supporting struggling children. Drawing on his queer experience, Joe emphasizes the need for love and acceptance and urges educators to acknowledge their personal journey to empathize with the children. From exploring challenges faced by gay men to proposing a transformational shift in handling kids' mental health issues in schools, this episode is a rich exploration of the necessity to humanize educational practices.

Today's guest is Amy Kotha. Amy is a parent coach who specializes in working with moms who have adopted. We discuss parenting, trauma, resilience, adoption, and how this journey of motherhood does not always go the way we planned. Amy's vulnerability and strength is a gift to all of us. In this episode, Stacy Nation, a licensed clinical social worker, interviews Amy Kotha. Stacy starts by giving a brief introduction about her work, and her relationship with Amy. Then Amy starts to talk about who she is, her journey from being a parent to a life and parent coach, and the struggles her adopted children have faced.The interview continues with deep conversations about the difficulties and transformations in Amy's family due to her children's special needs. They explore issues on mental health, the challenges of adoptive parenting and being a biracial family in America. They also discuss their shifting views on traditional medicine, the impact of the family's physical movement for supportive services, the role of nutrition in children's behavior, and the importance of feeling safe in the context of diversity.Amy informs Stacy about her services which include one-on-one programs, small groups and strategy sessions using her "Safe" methodology – Shift, Accept, Free and Empower. She explains how she guides parents from fear-based parenting to a state of confidence and peace.In the end, Amy and Stacy both resonate on the importance of vulnerability, and commiserate about the sometimes ironic ups and downs of parenthood.You can reach Amy at:Amy KothaLife + Parent Coachhttp://www.amykcoach.com@amykcoachShe offers 1:1 coaching as well as specialized groups.

In this episode of 'Chitty Chats with Stacy', the host Stacy Nation has an engaged and in-depth conversation with Ginger Healy. They discuss their personal and professional experiences in the trauma-informed field. The complex and diverse roles of being parents, their experiences with adoption, and the challenges associated with different familial situations are also discussed. They exchange views on the importance of secure attachment in brain development and emotional health. Furthermore, Ginger Healy presents her insights from her book, emphasizing how individuals themselves can serve as strategies for co-regulation. Through their discussion, they highlight the importance of supportive relationships and the resilience to accept and overcome personal and societal challenges.

Guy StephensIn this in-depth discussion, Stacy Nation interviews Guy Stephens, the founder of Alliance Against Seclusion and Restraint. The conversation starts with Stacy introducing Guy and expressing her enthusiasm about the video series they are working on. Guy then gives a detailed insight into his journey, the hardships he faced when his neurodivergent son was physically restrained in school, and how it led him to found Alliance Against Seclusion and Restraint. The conversation further unfolds with discussions around collaborative work with the Crisis Prevention Institute and the importance of trauma-informed care for children in an educational setting.00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation02:04 The Journey of the Guest02:35 The Impact of Restraint and Seclusion03:36 The Birth of the Alliance Against Seclusion and Restraint07:17 The Growth and Impact of the Alliance08:38 The Importance of Collaboration and Understanding10:17 The Emotional Journey of Advocacy14:26 The Expansion of the Alliance's Work20:18 The Importance of Non-Compliance Based Approaches21:31 The Importance of Connection and Regulation in Education21:58 The Journey of Self-Improvement and Learning22:41 The Role of Emotional Regulation in Interactions23:06 The Impact of Personal Growth on Parenting24:26 Understanding the Effects of Dysregulation27:36 The Power of Apology and Accountability29:41 The Potential of Collaboration for Change29:46 The Game-Changing Work with Crisis Prevention Institute31:31 The Journey of Collaboration with CPI34:08 The Vision for a Better Education System39:46 Connecting with the Alliance Against Seclusion and Restraint