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EP 37 – Is loving your work the same as losing yourself?Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Solo EpisodeYou've been told Gen Z is lazy. Quiet quitting. Bare minimum Mondays. Disengaged.But what if I told you that Gen Z cares so much, so deeply, about the right work, that they have actually started to lose track of where the work ends and you begin?This episode is about that line. The one between loving what you do and being consumed by it. Between choosing your life and drifting into it while being very, very good at it.We're going there via The Devil Wears Prada (that’s right, Miranda, Andy, Emily) and the neuroscience and psychology that explains why even purpose-driven ambition can become a trap. Especially in your twenties, when the developmental task is to keep exploring who you are — not lock it down.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:The real difference between Miranda Priestly and Emily — and why it's not about work ethicWhy purpose-driven workaholism is harder to spot (it feels righteous)The dopamine loop behind "one more email", and why Miranda isn't disciplined, she's wired inWhat identity foreclosure is, and why your 20s are the highest-risk window for itThe hedonic treadmill: why the reward always moves, and what that means for how you're measuring successHow to tell the difference between harmonious passion and obsessive passion, from the insideThree questions to ask yourself this week: not to work less, but to work with more awareness💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE – "Working hard is not the same as losing yourself. But in your twenties, you have to be awake enough to know the difference."TIMESTAMPS0:00 — Nigel's quote + the question this episode is really asking01:30 — Miranda, Andy, Emily: three archetypes, one question — which one are you?03:00 — Gen Z data: 89% purpose-driven, 44% have quit for lack of meaning, 41% tie identity to work04:30 — The risk isn't working hard. The risk is mistaking intensity for meaning.05:00 — The dopamine loop: why stimulating work activates the same pathways as compulsive behaviour06:30 — Identity foreclosure: what Erikson says about committing too early to one identity08:00 — The hedonic treadmill: each win raises the baseline. You don't arrive.09:00 — Harmonious vs obsessive passion — and how Miranda crossed from one to the other10:00 — The Gen Z version of the trap: when your side hustle is your passion, boundaries feel like betrayal10:30 — Three tests: can you set it down? Who are you without it? Did you choose this?13:30 — The clarity round + what Hazel Ann is letting go of14:30 — Clearly becoming… the narrator of my own lifeRESOURCESErikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development — identity vs role confusionHarmonious vs Obsessive Passion — Vallerand et al. (2003)Deloitte Global Gen Z and Millennial Survey 2025Dopamine and Reward Pathways — Psychology TodayRELEVANT EPISODESEP 22 – How Personal Branding Creates Career Clarity in Your 20sEP 29 - How to Become Before You Believe ItThis is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming.CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANNInstagram: @clearlybecomingTikTok: @clearlybecoming_YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Solo EpisodeYou picked your major at 18. You chose your campus, made your plans, showed up. And somewhere between freshers' week and graduation, you became a completely different person.In this episode, I'm closing my university chapter — and being honest about everything I wish I'd known sooner. The risks I should have taken earlier. The rooms I almost didn't walk into. The version of myself I had to unlearn to actually grow.If you're in it right now (or about to be), this one's for you.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:Why taking risks in your university application is the move — even when it feels terrifyingThe alternative pathways into top universities nobody talks about (transfers, study abroad, and who you know)Why not knowing what you want at 18 is actually normal — and what to do with thatHow to get the most out of university by being intentional, not just presentWhy studying abroad and placement years are career clarity acceleratorsHow your major does not define you — and what actually doesThe soft skills, values, and self-awareness that matter more than your GPA💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE – "You are not behind. You are becoming."TIMESTAMPS0:00 — Closing the university chapter1:08 — The privilege of education1:37 — Take more risks — what I wish I'd known3:53 — Getting your foot in the door4:37 — Alternative pathways: transfers, study abroad, networking5:25 — The myth of knowing what you want at 186:56 — Your brain at 18 is still developing7:43 — How to actually make the most of university9:48 — Connecting with professors and mentors15:02 — Why studying abroad changed everything19:01 — Placement years and internships20:53 — Using university resources before it's too late23:12 — Your major doesn't define you27:34 — Effort over speed30:05 — Facing the fears32:03 — Unlearning perfectionism33:51 — Final reflectionRELEVANT EPISODESEP 11 – Learn Faster: The Career Skills No One Teaches YouEP 15 –  How to Advocate for yourself EP 25 – Mastering the Art of Interviews: How to Interview Without Freezing or Faking ItThis is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming.CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANNInstagram: @clearlybecomingTikTok: @clearlybecoming_YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

You were taught that a good team is a harmonious one. Nobody fights. Nobody pushes back. Everyone gets along.That's not collaboration. That's avoidance — and it's quietly killing your growth.In this episode, Hazel Ann unpacks why conflict isn't the enemy of strong teams — it's the evidence that people actually care. From the real cost of pandemic-era soft skill gaps to the psychology of what makes groups either coast or commit, this episode reframes everything you thought you knew about working with other people. Including yourself.Career is the vehicle. Becoming is the destination.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:Why the pandemic quietly dismantled a generation's ability to collaborate — and what that means for you right nowHow the Belbin Team Roles framework reveals not just how you work, but who you areWhy conflict is a sign of commitment, not dysfunctionThe difference between a team that performs and a team that's just performingWhat "overcompensating for loafers" is actually costing youHow to lead by example when you have no formal authorityWhy self-acceptance isn't soft — it's the foundation of every strong team contribution💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE – "Overcompensating enables loafers. Leading by example changes them."TIMESTAMPS00:00 – The Struggles of Collaboration02:30 – The Impact of the Pandemic on Soft Skills07:43 – The Importance of Conflict in Teams11:41 – The Psychology of Teamwork16:13 – Strategies for Effective Collaboration20:40 – The Role of Conflict in Personal EvolutionRESOURCESThe Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni Managers Don’t Want To Hire Gen-Z Workers, Citing A Lack Of Soft Skills—Survey SaysNeuro-collaboration": The neuroscience of successful collaborationBelbin Team Roles   RELEVANT EPISODESEP 18 – This Is Why You Feel Stuck (And How to Shift It)EP 22 – How Personal Branding Creates Career Clarity in Your 20sThis is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming.CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANNInstagram: @clearlybecomingTikTok: @clearlybecoming_YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Guest EpisodeYou've been told to pick one thing. One passion. One path. One version of yourself that makes sense to everyone else.But what if the confusion isn't the problem — what if it's the data?In this episode, Hazel Ann sits down with Ashleigh — PR professional turned freelance journalist, community builder, and someone who figured out that friction isn't the enemy of growth. It's the whole point.Career is the vehicle. Becoming is the destination.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:How to write a pitch that actually gets opened — and responded toWhy self-trust is built through action, not certaintyWhat friction maxing is and why it might be the most underrated growth strategy for your 20sHow to build a community and network that feels genuine, not transactionalWhy curiosity is a career strategy — not just a personality trait💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE – "Growth happens with friction, not with ease." — AshleighTIMESTAMPS00:00 – 00:00 – You can be ambitious and confused at the same time00:29 – Introducing Ashleigh: from PR to freelance journalism06:04 – Bridging personal and professional wellness10:36 – Friction maxing: why discomfort is the strategy20:39 – Building it without the blueprintRESOURCESAgenda Setting TheoryThe Power of Talk: Who Gets Heard and Why by Deborah TannenBook: Attachment by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel HellerRELEVANT EPISODESStop Waiting to Feel Motivated. Do this instead How to Become Before you Believe it LET'S CONNECTThis is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused. DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming.CONNECT WITH ASH🎧 Instagram: @ashspili 🎵 TikTok: @ashleighspili🎧 YouTube: @ashspili CONNECT WITH HAZEL ANN Instagram: @clearlybecomingTikTok: @clearlybecoming_YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecomingNext episode: The science of being a great teammate — what it actually takes to show up for a team and yourself at the same time.

Episode 33 | Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Guest EpisodeIn this episode, Hazel Ann chats with Ashley Spiliapulu about breaking away from traditional career trajectories, embracing multiple interests, and cultivating confidence to advocate for oneself. This conversation is packed with actionable insights for ambitious individuals navigating a chaotic career landscape. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:Ashley shares her diverse career from PR to journalism to founding inclusive communitiesThe misconception that one must choose a single passion early onHow sport and a growth mindset foster resilience and confidenceThe importance of embracing multiple interests for happiness and fulfillment💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE"You don't need clarity to be ambitious. You need permission to move before the picture is complete."TIMESTAMPS00:00 - Challenging the idea that ambition and confusion are mutually exclusive00:29 - Introducing Ashley Spiliapulu and her eclectic career journey00:43 - The nonlinear path: doing multiple passions simultaneously01:12 - How to navigate societal pressures to pick a single career early02:02 - Ashley explains her focus on sport and subsequent transition at 2202:41 - The stereotype of sticking to one career and why it's outdated03:29 - How trying multiple avenues boosts confidence through experience03:52 - The importance of resilience when going against societal norms04:29 - The significance of sports in developing discipline and belief in oneself05:01 - Ashley's move from sport to PR and how she broke into the industry05:25 - Overcoming the experience barrier through internships and proactive effort06:36 - The myth that you need formal credentials to get started06:43 - The value of taking initiative, even without perfect experience07:46 - How to showcase your skills and attitude for new roles08:06 - The gender dynamics in self-promotion and confidence in the workplace09:10 - The importance of playing the "confidence game" to get ahead10:16 - Using a confident alter ego to navigate intimidating environments10:57 - The role of visual branding and consistency in creating opportunities11:45 - The impact of affirmations and embodying the person you want to be12:11 - How to merge your current traits with your aspirational self-image12:29 - The value of effort, attitude, and energy over pure talent12:38 - Taking immediate action when inspired — a story of seizing ideas13:42 - How self-talk influences belief and performance14:24 - Can ambition be learned or is it innate?15:08 - The misconception that you must have clarity to be ambitious15:30 - Navigating undirected ambition and embracing multiple passions16:04 - When ambition feels overwhelming and how to manage it17:09 - How having varied interests fosters resilience and happiness18:30 - The story behind Sunny's Run Club and its mission of inclusivity22:10 - How Ashley started running and uses it for exploration and connection23:01 - Reframing labels: becoming a runner instead of saying "not an athlete"23:34 - The impact of sports psychology on confidence and performance26:09 - Embracing rejection as a natural part of growth and self-discovery28:27 - Teasing part two: How to effectively pitch yourself and the power of communityRESOURCESAgenda Setting TheoryPower of TalkRELEVANT EPISODESStop Waiting to Feel Motivated. Do this instead How to Become Before you Believe it LET'S CONNECTThis is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused.DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming.Connect with Ash:Instagram: @ashspili TikTok: @ashleighspiliYouTube: @ashspili Connect with Hazel Ann: Instagram: @clearlybecomingTikTok: @clearlybecoming_YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecomingNext episode: The science of being a great teammate — what it actually takes to show up for a team and yourself at the same time.

Episode 32Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming · Solo EpisodeMost people think leadership means having all the answers, commanding the room, or projecting total confidence. This episode is about what leadership actually is — and why that myth might be what's keeping you from stepping into it.In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down the real science of influence, why hyper-awareness is a cognitive strength (not a liability), and what it looks like to build a leadership identity before you have the title.Career is the vehicle. Becoming is the destination.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:What leadership really is — and why the traditional model keeps ambitious people smallWhy influence is a science rooted in credibility, trust, and relatability — not a personality typeHow hyper-awareness and emotional regulation are learnable cognitive skillsThe Approach Inhibition Theory and what power actually does to empathyHow to start practicing leadership in the environment you're already inA simple framework to begin building your leadership identity — no title required💬 QUOTE OF THE EPISODE"You don't have to be the loudest to influence — you have to be the most aware."TIMESTAMPS00:00 – The misconception: leadership isn't about being the loudest in the room00:25 – Who this episode is for and what we're actually building today00:47 – Rethinking what leadership looks like — and where that old picture came from01:44 – Leadership as leverage: internal resources, external environment02:55 – Navigating uncertainty — you don't need to have it figured out to lead03:54 – What happens when leaders ignore the room around them04:43 – Valuing people at every level and building organizations that actually include people05:45 – Hyper-awareness: why it's a cognitive strength, not a flaw06:37 – Approach Inhibition Theory — how power reduces empathy, and what to do about it07:40 – Perspective-taking and emotional intelligence as leadership tools08:49 – Trait leadership theory — what's fixed, what's learnable09:40 – Self-awareness, empathy, and discipline as the core three10:07 – Influence as a science: credibility, trust, and relatability10:56 – How connection and credibility actually build influence12:00 – The L'Oréal/UNESCO HIV awareness case study — what trust makes possible13:16 – How to practice influence right now, in the role you already have13:34 – Knowing your signals — self-regulation before you can lead others14:37 – Building emotional regulation to create psychological safety16:07 – Recognizing your triggers as a leadership practice17:29 – The power of connecting others — being a bridge, not just a builder18:39 – Using your network and existing strengths as leadership assets19:10 – Leadership is a journey — not a title, not a moment19:55 – Developing your leadership qualities with what you already have20:20 – Self-belief and transformational leadership20:41 – Clarity Round: unlearning myths, naming your edge, committing to one action22:03 – Community CTA + next episode preview: teamwork and being a great teammateRESOURCESEmotional Intelligence — Daniel GolemanTrait Leadership TheoryBig Five Personality TraitsHarvard Business Review on InfluenceApproach Inhibition Theory (Keltner, Gruenfeld & Anderson, 2003)RELEVANT EPISODESHow to Advocate for Yourself How to extract value from your experiences LET'S CONNECTThis is your reminder that you can be ambitious and confused.DM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming.Instagram: @clearlybecomingTikTok: @clearlybecoming_YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

How to Build Habits and Routines That Actually Stick When You're in Your 20s and Figuring It All OutHost: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming If you've ever started the week with a clear plan and ended it wondering what happened, this episode is for you. Hazel Ann breaks down why motivation alone is a trap, and what the science actually says about how high-performing people stay consistent when life gets messy. This isn't hustle culture. This is about what it takes to build routines that move you forward, even when you have no idea who you're becoming yet.You don't rise to the level of your goals. You fall back to the level of your systems.IN THIS EPISODE:40% of your daily actions are already running on autopilot James Clear framework: goals are the destination, systems are the roadWhat triggers motivation (hint: it's not a vision board)Vague goals drain your energy — and what to do insteadKeystone habit concept and why it's the gateway disciplineThe rebound effect and how to break all-or-nothing thinking for goodWhy difficulty is a feature—hard things build mental strengthFramework to audit your habits and upgrade your systems over timeChapters00:00 - Why systems impact our results more than we realise 00:38 - Goals vs. systems: Building habits to reach your dreams 1:20 - How experimenting with routines shapes who you are 2:00 - The importance of flexibility in routines and dealing with life hurdles2:37 - Reese Witherspoon’s insight on talents versus dreams 4:01 - The significance of having a system alongside ambitions 5:00 - Focusing on daily actions to identify effective systems 5:29 - Neuroscience of habits: How the brain automates goals 6:12 - James Clear on goals as destinations and systems as the route 6:29 - The difference systems make in turning aspirations into achievements 6:53 - Motivation triggers: specificity, self-efficacy, autonomy 7:12 - Why vague goals drain energy; concrete plans are more effective 8:48 - Building belief in yourself through strong self-efficacy 9:16 - Designing systems rooted in autonomy for lasting motivation 10:06 - Experimenting to find your intuition and personal routines 11:15 - The non-conscious loop: autopilot goal pursuit through environmental cues 12:34 - Implementing keystone habits like exercising to foster discipline 13:57 - Reducing cognitive load with routines (e.g., wardrobe choices) 15:41 - Bundling habits to reduce decision fatigue 16:16 - Overcoming choice paralysis with pre-planned routines 16:39 - The balance between reducing friction and adding intentional effort 17:21 - Hard work and its role in building discipline and resilience 20:21 - Practical frameworks: anchoring morning and night routines 21:17 - Insights from CEO routines and consistency’s impact on performance 23:08 - The science of decision-making in the mornings 24:27 - The importance of reflection and adjusting systems over time 25:34 - Incorporating rewards to reinforce habits 26:34 - Starting small: The power of 5-minute routines 27:14 - Designing flexible days with non-negotiables 28:49 - Recognizing your energy levels to optimize task timing30:49 - Reflective questions for evaluating your progress 31:56 - Final encouragement: start small, reflect, and upgrade your systemsRESOURCESAtomic Habits by James ClearMorning and Evening Routines by Duke University Motivation and SCT by Bandura (1997)Physical activity is connected with a career success (Metelski, 2020)The Neuroscience of Goals and Behavior Change by Elliot T BerkmanThe Power of Now by Charles DuhiggLET'S CONNECTDM Hazel Ann on Instagram your ONE non-negotiable habit and the WORD that describes who you are clearly becoming.🎧 Instagram: @clearlybecoming 🎵 TikTok: @clearlybecoming_ 🎧  YouTube: youtube.com/@clearlybecoming Next episode: Leadership skills — the qualities that make effective leaders and how to develop them early in your career.

Epiosde 30 — Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming"Rejection drops your IQ by 25%. So why are we winging every hard conversation?"SUMMARYIn this episode, host Hazel Ann dives deep into the invisible forces that sabotage our everyday conversations — and what to do about them.The host, Hazel Ann, breaks down the neuroscience and psychology behind why we talk past each other, why emotional reactions hijack our best intentions, and how a few simple rules can completely transform how we connect with others — at work, at home, and in life.Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 30 cuts through the noise on communication to give you real, research-backed tools you can use right now.This episode will help you identify the root cause of most miscommunications, regulate your emotional responses in real time, and show up as a clearer, more confident communicator in every room you walk into.TAKEAWAYSMost miscommunications happen because people are in different types of conversations without even realising it — get on the same page first.Take a beat before you respond: a brief pause can be the difference between an emotional reaction and a rational, powerful reply.Brains literally sync during great conversations — neurological alignment is what makes connection feel effortless.Expressing feelings and vulnerability doesn't make you weak; it makes you relatable, trustworthy, and more persuasive.Signalling your values and boundaries clearly isn't aggressive — it's how you earn lasting respect and avoid unnecessary conflict.CHAPTERS00:00 – Introduction to Clearly Becoming01:02 – The Gap in Communication: Why We Talk Past Each Other06:46 – Finding Flow in Conversations08:09 – Celebrating Your Progress08:56 – The Mismatch Problem: When Conversations Collide12:38 – Workplace Communication Dynamics20:54 – The Importance of Self-Advocacy26:15 – Your Actionable Communication Toolkit: 4 Rules That Work30:38 – Embracing Growth in Your Communication SkillsRESOURCESSupercommunicators by Charles Duhigg — the book behind this episode's core frameworksSusan Levin's research at Columbia University — columbia.eduTed Talk by Shannon Pearson — Watch hereWharton Business School — wharton.upenn.eduLET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you're committing to this week — let's build accountability together.Host – Hazel AnnInstagram: @clearlybecomingTikTok: @clearlybecoming🎧 Subscribe to the Clearly Becoming | HerCareerHerWay YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

You're waiting to feel ready. Waiting to feel confident. Waiting for the job, the title, the moment someone finally tells you that you belong — and then you'll show up fully.But what if that's exactly why you're stuck?SUMMARYHost: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming (episode 29) In this episode of Her Career, Her Way, host Hazel Ann dismantles one of the most common traps ambitious people fall into in their 20s: waiting to believe before they act.Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their early careers, EP 29 goes deep on the neuroscience of belief — why your brain resists change, how memory keeps you locked in old identities, and what it actually takes to become someone new.Hazel Ann breaks down the science in the way your smart friend would — no jargon, no fluff. Just the framework you actually need.This episode will help you understand why confidence isn't something you wait for — it's something you build by moving first. If you've ever held back from applying for the job, speaking up in the meeting, or calling yourself a leader before you had the title — this one's for you.TAKEAWAYSBelief is learned, not manifested. Your brain needs real-world evidence to update what it thinks is true about you — visualisation alone won't cut it.The Belief–Memory Loop is why you stay stuck: perception → emotion → memory → belief → behaviour → repeat. No new action means no new memory, which means no new belief.Embodiment isn't pretending. It's acting as the person you're becoming before the belief fully exists — because that's the only way the belief ever forms.Speaking and journaling physically rewire belief. Language restructures emotional memory. Writing separates what happened, what you felt, and what you concluded — so you can update the story accurately.Flip the Have–Do–Be model. Most people think: once I have the outcome → I'll do the work → then I'll be that person. Daphne says the opposite. Be → Do → Have.Competence builds confidence — not the other way around. Action creates episodic memory. Episodic memory creates evidence. Evidence updates belief.Imposter syndrome shrinks through embodiment. You don't wait until you feel like you belong. You act like you do, and your brain catches up.RESOURCES Bridging the Gap Between Believing and Memory FunctionsDaphne De Baat QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE"Action creates episodic memory.""Competence creates confidence.""You are moving first, acting first."THIS WEEK'S CHALLENGEWhat's one way you can embody the next version of you today — and how will you describe it afterward?Pick one small action the person you're becoming would take. Do it before you feel ready. Then write it down.DM @clearlybecoming on Instagram with what you did. Let's build accountability together.CHAPTERS00:00 The Power of Belief and Motivation07:20 Embodiment: Acting Before Belief13:53 The Do, Be, Have Framework for Growth18:52 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome Through EmbodimentTHIS WEEK’S CHALLENGE: What's one way you can embody the next version of you today — and how will you describe it afterward?Pick one small action the person you're becoming would take. Do it before you feel ready. Then write it down.DM @hercareerherway on Instagram with what you did. Let's build accountability together.LET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!Hazel Ann — Host of Clearly Becoming Instagram: @clearlybecoming TikTok: @clearlybecoming YouTube: www.youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

Episode 28Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming Your degree didn't prepare you for this. Neither did your internship. But this episode might.One third global recruiters are already screening for AI literacy — and that number is climbing. If you're in your 20s wondering whether your career is going to survive the next five years, this episode isn't here to panic you. It's here to give you the clearest, most honest framework for what staying relevant actually looks like right now.SUMMARYIn this episode, Hazel Ann cuts through the noise on one of the most anxiety-inducing topics for young professionals: AI and your career. Not with tech jargon, not with empty reassurance — but with science, real-world examples, and a practical framework you can apply this week.Built for ambitious 20-somethings navigating the chaos of early careers, EP 28 explores the concept of cognitive offloading — why your brain naturally outsources tasks, how AI takes that to the next level, and why that's both your biggest advantage and your most dangerous blind spot. This episode will help you stop fearing AI, start thinking with it strategically, and understand exactly what employers are looking for in the era where what you know matters far less than how fast you can learn, adapt, and apply.TAKEAWAYS⅓ of global recruiters now screen for AI literacy — and it's rising fastUsing AI without intention actively weakens your critical thinking and memory over timeMIT found ChatGPT users had the lowest brain engagement and most repetitive thinking — the Brain-Only group had the highest creativityAI is persuadable and has zero consequence awareness — the Claude Vending Machine experiment proves itThe most hireable people aren't the fastest AI users — they're the clearest thinkersAlways draft first, then use AI to stress-test your reasoning — not replace itThe 3 L's — Learn, Leverage, Lead — is your roadmap for staying relevant without losing your edgeCHAPTERS00:00 - The Importance of AI Literacy in Hiring 02:57 - Cognitive Offloading and Critical Thinking07:42 - Leveraging Ai as a Collaborative Tool 12:59 - The Ethical Implications of AI16:56 - The Three L’s: learn, Leverage Lead 26:36 – Conclusion: Use AI responsiblyRESOURCESHow to Stop AI from Killing your Critical Thinking The AI skills employers want — and what business schools teachProject Vend: Can Claude run a small shop? (And why does that matter?) ChatGPT May Be Eroding Critical Thinking Skills, According to a New MIT Study ‘Humanity needs to wake up’ to dangers of AI, says Anthropic chief Relevant Episodes: EP 22 – How Personal Branding Creates Career Clarity in Your 20s  LET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode shift something for you?This week's challenge: Pick one task you'd normally outsource entirely to AI — and draft it yourself first. Then use AI to push back on your thinking. Notice the difference.DM Hazel Ann on Instagram with what you chose and what happened. She reads every single one.Hazel Ann — Host of Clearly Becoming Instagram: @clearlybecoming TikTok: @clearlybecoming YouTube: www.youtube.com/@clearlybecoming If this episode was useful, leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, it takes 30 seconds and helps another 20-something in the middle of a career spiral find this show. That's a pretty good trade.

SUMMARYHost: Hazel Ann | Clearly BecomingIn this episode, Hazel unpacks the real reason you can't commit to a job, obsess over emails for hours, or feel paralyzed by career decisions — and no, it's not indecision. It's your attachment style.Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 27 explores how the same psychological patterns that shape your relationships are secretly running your career decisions. From the hyper-independent girl who refuses to ask for help, to the over-researcher who polls everyone but still can't choose — Hazel breaks down the science of attachment theory and how your nervous system is keeping you stuck.This episode will help you:Understand why career decisions feel as emotionally intense as relationship dramaIdentify your attachment pattern (avoidant vs. anxious) and how it's showing up at workBuild the psychological security you need to take bigger risks, negotiate boundaries, and finally move forward with clarityKEY TAKEAWAYSYour Brain Doesn't Separate Love and WorkSecurity → Risk-Taking. Insecurity → Protection.Research shows: secure attachment = clearer vocational identity, more exploration, real confidenceAnxious attachment = cognitive overload, choice paralysis, comparison spiralsAvoidant attachment = extreme independence that limits network growth long-termStable Relationships = Clearer Career IdentityCzech study (21-year-olds): close parental ties early → vocational clarityOver time: romantic partner stability matters more than parents for career confidenceChinese research: self-differentiation (handling others' expectations without losing yourself) = psychological immune systemThe SECURE Framework:S — Stabilize support (anchor, advisor, peer)E — Examine your pattern (withdraw or spiral?)C — Create decision container (limit inputs)U — Upgrade self-differentiation (separate their fear from your desire)R — Regulate first (nervous system before logic)E — Engineer environment (you become the 5 people around you)CHAPTERS00:00 - Intro: You Don't Have a Career Problem, You Have an Attachment Problem06:03 - The Two Types of Girls in Their 20s (And Why Both Are Stuck)07:40 - The Science: How Your Brain Treats Career Decisions Like Relationships12:26 - Czech Study: Secure Attachment = Vocational Clarity14:19 - Chinese Study: Self-Differentiation as Your Psychological Immune System15:06 - The Avoidant Girl: Why "I Don't Need Help" Is Holding You Back16:26 - The Anxious Girl: Choice Paralysis & Comparison Spirals20:06 - The SECURE Framework: How to Build Stability & Take Bigger Risks23:26 - Close: Your Attachment Style Is Protection — Not PersonalityRESOURCESChinese Study on Self-Differentiation & Career AdaptabilityCzech Study on Emerging Adults & Vocational IdentityThe Neuroscience of Love: What’s Going on in the Lovestruck Brain? Related Episode: EP 22 – How Personal Branding Creates Career Clarity in Your 20sLET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram:@clearlybecomingTikTok: ⁠@clearlybecoming_🎧 Subscribe to the Clearly Becoming | HerCareerHerWay YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay 

Ever looked at your resume and thought: “I’ve worked hard… so why doesn’t this sound impressive?”This episode is for anyone in their 20s who feels underqualified, overlooked, or unsure how their experience actually translates into career growth.SUMMARYHost: Hazel Ann | Clearly BecomingIn this episode of Clearly Becoming, the host, Hazel Ann breaks down one of the biggest career myths holding ambitious young professionals back: that they don’t have enough experience.Built for individuals navigating the chaos, pressure, and self-doubt of their 20s, this episode explores why it’s not about lacking experience, it’s about knowing how to articulate it.Using customer service as a powerful example, Hazel unpacks how everyday roles quietly build skills like resilience, adaptability, communication, and problem-solving — the very skills employers are actively seeking.You’ll learn why familiarity bias causes you to undervalue your own experience, how psychology and neuroscience explain why lived experience wires confidence faster than theory, and how to use storytelling to translate what you’ve done into language employers understand.This episode introduces a practical, repeatable framework to help you extract value from any role you’ve had, so you can show up clearer, more confident, and more compelling in interviews, resumes, and career conversations.TAKEAWAYSFeeling overwhelmed by your resume is common — especially in your 20sYou don’t lack experience; you lack translationCustomer service roles build highly transferable career skillsFamiliarity bias makes you underestimate what comes naturally to youResilience and adaptability are top skills in today’s job marketStorytelling turns experience into evidenceConfidence grows from clarity, not credentialsYou don’t need multiple jobs to be hireableCareer upskilling starts with reframing what you already knowLifelong learning and adaptability are non-negotiables for long-term growthRESOURCES MENTIONEDThe Neuroscience of Customer Experience - Paul J. ZakJudgment under Uncertainty: Heuristics and Biases - Tversky A, Kahneman D.LET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram:@clearlybecomingTikTok: ⁠@clearlybecoming_🎧 Subscribe to the Clearly Becoming | HerCareerHerWay YouTube channel:👉youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay 

If interviews make you overthink, freeze, or feel like your entire future is being judged in 30 minutes, then this episode is for you.SUMMARYHost: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming | Her Career Her WayThis episode is part of the Career Upskilling Series — where we build the skills that actually move your career forward.In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down why interviews feel so overwhelming in your 20s — and why struggling in interviews doesn’t mean you’re unqualified or “bad at them.”Instead of teaching you what to say, this episode focuses on how to show up: grounded, present, and confident without forcing it.Built for ambitious twenty-somethings navigating career uncertainty, EP 25 reframes interviews from high-pressure performances into intentional conversations. You’ll learn why over-preparing can actually hold you back, how interviewers really remember you, and how to prepare in a way that makes you feel calm, clear, and adaptable, even when nerves show up.This episode will help you stop faking confidence and start building it through preparation that actually works.TAKEAWAYSWhy 85% of candidates fail interviews due to ineffective preparation — not lack of abilityOver-preparing and memorising answers can make you more rigid and less naturalInterviews land better when they feel like conversations, not performancesNerves don’t mean you’re failing, they can actually help you stay alert and presentInterviewers remember how you made them feel more than perfectly worded answersEmpathy, presence, and curiosity leave a stronger impression than perfectionSelf-judgement during interviews makes it harder to think clearlyPreparing flexible stories gives you confidence without scripting yourselfResearching people and culture matters more than memorising company factsConfidence grows from action, practice, and intention CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction to Interview Challenges05:45 Why Flexibility Beats Perfect Answers13:57 Tactical Preparation That Actually Works25:28 Key Takeaways & Final ReframeLET’S CONNECT✨ Did this episode calm your interview anxiety even a little?DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the one thing you’re changing about how you prepare — let’s make growth feel less overwhelming and more intentional.Instagram:@clearlybecomingTikTok: ⁠@clearlybecoming_🎧 Subscribe to the Clearly Becoming | HerCareerHerWay YouTube channel:👉 https://www.youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

How many times have you actually chosen your next career move — or have you just been reacting?SUMMARYIn this episode of Her Career, Her Way, host Hazel Ann breaks down why proactivity is one of the most underrated career skills, especially for ambitious individuals navigating their 20s.Many young professionals feel constantly busy — applying to jobs, preparing for interviews, responding to emails — yet still feel stuck, exhausted, and powerless. Hazel Ann explains why this isn’t a motivation problem or a lack of effort, but a lack of agency. Careers don’t stall because you’re not working hard enough — they stall because you’re stuck in reaction mode.Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 24 introduces a practical, grounded framework to help listeners shift from reacting to choosing. Hazel Ann walks through three key mindset shifts — from silence to clarity, outcomes to inputs, and future-focused anxiety to present-moment ownership — and shows how proactivity is about deciding before chaos hits, not doing more.This episode will help you regain confidence, take ownership of your career path, and start building momentum intentionally — without burnout, perfectionism, or hustle culture pressure.TAKEAWAYSCareers stall due to a lack of agency, not effortProactive careers reward intentionality over talentAssertiveness is clarity — not confrontationYou can’t control outcomes, but you can control inputsYour career is built by both what you do and who you becomeRESOURCES MENTIONEDCrant, J. M. (2000). Proactive behavior in organizationsThe University of Edinburgh (2025). Being Proactive how to slow down time (the neuroscience of time perception) by Yana Yuhai Huzzah Recruit (2026). Getting Noticed at Work Starts by Developing Your Proactivity MuscleTracy, B. (2023). The Power of Being Proactive: 5 Ways to Develop This Surprising SkillYour mindset reset - Dr Shade ZahraiLET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your: biggest takeawayONE thing you’re committing to this weekLet’s build accountability together!Host - Hazel AnnInstagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay

Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her WayIf your mood rises and falls with emails, interviews, or job titles — this episode is for you.Detachment isn’t about caring less.It’s about learning how to regulate your nervous system, stop overthinking, and make clearer career decisions without burning out.SUMMARYIn this episode of Her Career, Her Way, Hazel Ann explores why so many ambitious people in their 20s feel emotionally attached to their careers — and how that attachment often fuels anxiety, overthinking, and burnout.Using neuroscience, psychology, and real career examples, Hazel breaks down detachment as a skill, not a mindset. You’ll learn how over-identifying with your job keeps your nervous system in survival mode, why chasing clarity actually blocks it, and how letting go of false control creates calm, confidence, and adaptability.Hazel Ann  introduces a 4-step detachment framework designed to help you interrupt anxious thought patterns, stop chasing validation, clear mental loops, and redirect your energy toward long-term growth — without losing ambition.Built for ambitious individuals navigating career uncertainty, job pressure, and identity shifts in their 20s, this episode will help you feel steadier, clearer, and harder to break in an unpredictable job market.THIS EPISODE WILL HELP YOU:Stop tying your self-worth to career outcomesCalm career anxiety and overthinkingMake clearer decisions without emotional spiralsDetach from outcomes without losing motivationBuild adaptability in a changing job marketRESOURCES MENTIONEDA Step By Step Guide to Removing Your Self Doubt with Dr Shadé ZahraiThe Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael Alan SingerLET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram/TikTok with: your biggest takeaway, orthe one thing you’re committing to this weekLet’s build clarity — and accountability — together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay

Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her WayPersonal branding isn’t about reinventing yourself.It’s about understanding who you already are — and learning how to communicate that clearly.SUMMARYIn this episode of Her Career, Her Way, Hazel Ann breaks down what personal branding actually means for ambitious individuals navigating the uncertainty of their 20s.Using a clear, grounded framework, this conversation explores how self-awareness, values, consistency, and communication shape the way others experience and trust you — long before you speak in an interview or apply for a role.This episode reframes personal branding as an internal clarity practice, not a performance. Hazel walks listeners through how to identify their core values, bridge their inner identity with their external presence, and communicate intentionally — without forcing confidence or faking certainty.Built for those feeling stuck, overlooked, or unsure how to position themselves, this episode offers reassurance, structure, and a practical path forward.TAKEAWAYSPersonal branding is about establishing who you are — not performingClarity makes decisions easier and careers more sustainableFirst impressions matter, but they’re built long before the momentYour personal brand should evolve as you doCommunication is a skill — not a personality traitUncertainty isn’t a flaw; it’s often proof of growthRelationships and trust compound over timeLET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠

Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her WayGuest: Urmi HossainYour identity isn’t something you “figure out” once — it’s something you intentionally design. And the more clarity you have on who you are, the more aligned your career becomes.SUMMARYIn this episode, we dive into how identity shapes your career — and how your career, in turn, reshapes your identity.Hazel Ann sits down with Urmi Hossain, a corporate finance professional, CFA + CAIA charterholder, author, content creator, and women’s empowerment advocate. Urmi shares how she’s built a multidimensional career across corporate finance, leadership, and personal branding — all while staying grounded in intention, adaptability, and self-expression.From navigating cultural expectations as a Third Culture Kid to designing a career using visualization, subconscious work, and her “3 P’s” framework, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone in their 20s questioning who they are, where they’re going, and how to build a career that actually feels like them.Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 21 explores identity, ambition, and what it really means to design a career with intention — not pressure.TAKEAWAYSIdentity isn’t fixed — it evolves as you invest in yourselfYou don’t need to choose between being “corporate” and “creative”Personal branding starts with clarity, not confidenceAdaptability is a career skill, not a weaknessHow cultural identity and upbringing can shape ambitionWhy feeling “lost” in your 20s is more common than you thinkThe 3 P’s: Passion, Purpose & Power as an identity-building toolkitHow visualization, journaling, and subconscious work turn intention into actionLET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠Guest - Urmi HossainLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/urmihossain/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@urmihossainMy Book: Discovering Your Identity: A Rebirth From Interracial Struggle – Available on AmazonInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/urmamio/ ( personal)Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/storiesbeyondborderspodcast/ Women in Leadership: https://www.womeninleadership.ca/montreal🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay

Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her WayFeeling lost, behind, or unsure if you’re on the “right” path?This episode is your reminder that uncertainty isn’t a weakness — it’s proof you’re growing.SUMMARYIn this episode, we dive into why uncertainty feels so uncomfortable in your 20s — and why it might actually be your biggest advantage.The host, Hazel Ann, explores the psychology behind feeling “not enough,” the pressure to have everything figured out, and why chasing clarity, titles, or external validation often leaves us feeling emptier, not more fulfilled. She breaks down the difference between inner growth and outer growth, explains why progress is never linear, and reframes rejection and setbacks as data points for self-discovery.Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 21 offers a mindset shift around ambition, confidence, and success — helping you stop waiting for certainty and start building trust in yourself, right where you are.This episode will help you reframe uncertainty as momentum, redefine success on your own terms, and move forward with intention instead of fear.TAKEAWAYSUncertainty can be leveraged as an advantage, not a flawThe gap between where you are and where you want to be is part of growthProgress isn’t linear — every step forward or backward is informationRejection is often redirection toward better alignmentAmbition is a sign of hope and possibility, not pressureEvery setback provides data for smarter decisionsInner growth (learning, identity, self-trust) matters more than outer milestonesPatience is essential when building confidence and clarityLearning is one of the most powerful tools for self-discoveryYou don’t need everything figured out to be on the right pathCHAPTERS00:00 Navigating Uncertainty in Your 20s01:28 The Gap Between Aspirations and Reality06:17 Understanding the Psychology of Uncertainty15:13 Inner Growth vs. Outer Growth21:50 Actionable Steps to Leverage Uncertainty27:04 Finding “Enough” in the Midst of UncertaintyLET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay

Why do mistakes feel like proof you're not good enough? Here’s what your identity, pride, and brain chemistry have to do with it.SUMMARYHost: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her WayIn this episode, we dive into why mistakes feel so personal, how they trigger imposter syndrome, and the neuroscience behind why your brain reacts so strongly when you mess up. She unpacks the layers of identity that shape how you interpret failure, and how pride — both the healthy and unhealthy kind — can influence your response to setbacks.The host, Hazel Ann, breaks down the real reason mistakes sting, drawing from personal stories and research to explain how your inner critic forms, why your 20s amplify self-doubt, and how reframing the meaning of mistakes can make your career growth feel less overwhelming.Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 19 gives you the tools to understand your emotional reactions, unlearn fixed identity narratives, and use mistakes as data for growth rather than evidence of inadequacy.TAKEAWAYSMistakes are an inevitable part of growth, not evidence of failure.Identity is shaped by your experiences, roles, and the expectations you internalize.Imposter syndrome arises when your internal identity clashes with who you want to become.Pride can be authentic (grounding) or hubristic (fragile), and each affects how you process mistakes.Your brain has an error-detection system that makes mistakes feel physically uncomfortable.Mistakes should be viewed as information, not identity statements.Reframing self-talk disrupts limiting beliefs and supports a growth mindset.Resilience is built by choosing curiosity over self-criticism.Trusting the process—rather than rushing the outcome—creates sustainable confidence.Reflecting on your identity helps you understand why certain mistakes trigger you more than others.CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction to Mistakes and Identity02:23 Understanding Identity and Imposter Syndrome08:15 The Role of Pride in Mistakes10:37 The Science of Mistakes and the Brain15:20 Reframing Identity and Embracing Growth25:28 Practical Steps for Overcoming MistakesResources Mentioned: The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention (Clance & Imes )Learning From Mistakes: How Does the Brain Handle Errors?  Why Pride Is Nothing to Be Proud Of (Amodeo)LET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay

Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her WayIf you feel extra pressure during the holidays… it’s not just you.Your 20s are a constant balancing act between who you are and who everyone thinks you should be.SUMMARYIn this episode, we dive into the very real and often invisible pressure that 20-somethings carry — especially during the holiday season.From family expectations to comparison spirals, to the quiet fear of “not being enough yet,” Hazel Ann unpacks why this chapter of life feels so heavy and what it actually means for your growth.We explore the difference between healthy pressure vs. toxic pressure, how external validation rewires your motivation loop, and why chasing praise can leave you feeling empty after every achievement. Through metaphors, self-reflection tools, and gentle guidance, Hazel invites you to redefine success on your own terms — not society’s.Built for ambitious individuals navigating uncertainty, identity shifts, and the emotional weight of early adulthood, this episode gives you permission to breathe, pause, and remember: ✨ you’re allowed to be in progress ✨ you’re allowed to not have answers yet ✨ your timeline is still validTAKEAWAYSThe holiday season amplifies career pressure and expectations.Family gatherings can trigger the need to “prove” yourself.Healthy pressure inspires movement and comes from self-belief.Toxic pressure stems from comparison, fear, and proving your worth.External praise can hijack your internal motivation system.Growth pressure is intentional and aligned with your values.Cognitive reappraisal helps reframe stress and external expectations.Success must be defined by you — not others.Presence matters more than perfection.You’re allowed to sit in the unknown and still be on track.LET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram:⁠ ⁠@hercareerherway⁠⁠TikTok:⁠ ⁠@hercareerherway⁠⁠🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉⁠ youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay⁠

Your 20s aren’t confusing because you’re doing life wrong.They’re confusing because you’re finally building a life that’s yours.SUMMARYHost: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her WayGuest: Calyn ColemanIn this episode, we break down the emotional, mental, and identity-level chaos that makes your 20s feel like one long plot twist.Hazel Ann sits with guest Calyn Coleman, who opens up about navigating family expectations, growing up as a twin, shifting from a pre-law track to fashion, dealing with competitive school environments, and the pressure to “have it all figured out.”She candidly shares the role mental health, the pandemic, and taking uncomfortable risks played in redirecting her path.This episode is for anyone who feels behind, confused about their career, or torn between who they are and who they’re expected to be.If you’ve been questioning everything… this conversation will feel like a permission slip.Built for ambitious individuals navigating career confusion, self-doubt, and societal pressure, EP 17 reminds you:✨ your dreams deserve space✨ your wins deserve celebrating✨ your path is yours aloneTAKEAWAYSFeeling confused in your 20s is normal — not a personal failure.Family expectations deeply shape your identity and decisions.Growing up as a twin or sibling comparison can blur your sense of self.School environments influence confidence far more than we think.Choosing passion over pressure leads to more authentic career paths.Mental health deserves priority, especially in high-achieving spaces.The pandemic created clarity for many young adults, including Calyn.Taking unconventional risks often leads to unexpected opportunities.Small wins matter — they keep motivation alive.You’re allowed to redefine your path at any point.CHAPTERS00:00 — Why Your 20s Feel So Overwhelming02:58 — Identity vs. Expectations: Where Confusion Begins05:46 — School, Confidence & Growing Up in Comparison08:56 — Passion vs. Pressure in Career Decisions11:54 — The Pivot: From Pre-Law to Fashion14:50 — Academic Pressure, Perfectionism & Mental Health17:57 — How the Pandemic Shifted Career Direction20:58 — Taking Risks & Creating Your Own Path23:43 — Celebrating Small Wins in Your 20sResources Mentioned: The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention (Clance & Imes )Learning From Mistakes: How Does the Brain Handle Errors?  Why Pride Is Nothing to Be Proud Of (Amodeo)LET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠Guest - Calyn ColemanInstagram: @cay_cole07🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay

If you’ve been doubting yourself lately, this episode is your reminder: your potential is real — and your next career step might be one mindset shift away. Today, we’re talking about the kind of self-belief that creates clarity, strengthens confidence, and helps you make better decisions in your 20s.SUMMARYIn this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down how self-belief directly impacts your career direction, confidence, and ability to take action—especially when you’re navigating the uncertainty of your 20s.You’ll learn how your internal narrative shapes the opportunities you pursue, the risks you take, and the way you show up in your work. Hazel Ann shares practical reframes to help you shift out of low-confidence loops so you can make clearer decisions, feel more grounded in who you are, and rebuild momentum when you feel stuck.This conversation is meant to feel like a reset—a reminder that your thoughts aren’t just thoughts; they’re the foundation of your clarity, your career growth, and the identity you’re building.Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, this episode supports you in moving from:self-doubt → self-trustconfusion → clarityhesitation → empowered decision-makingTAKEAWAYSYou’re capable of having what you want — your self-belief is the starting point.Confidence isn’t something you wait for; it’s something you build.Your thoughts shape your actions, habits, and ultimately your realityWhen you shift your internal narrative, external opportunities shift too.Give yourself credit for your growthCHAPTERS00:00 — Navigating the Chaotic 20s03:18 — Why Self-Belief Changes Everything07:05 — Shifting Out of Destructive Thinking11:44 — Empowerment Through Community15:30 — Gratitude, Growth, and Final ThoughtsLET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram:⁠ ⁠@hercareerherway⁠⁠TikTok:⁠ ⁠@hercareerherway⁠⁠🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉⁠ youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay⁠

You can be talented, smart, and hardworking — but if you don’t speak up for yourself, opportunities won’t magically appear. This episode is your reminder that advocating for yourself isn’t loud… it’s intentional.SUMMARYHost: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her WayGuest: Eve FelderIn this episode, we dive into what it really means to stand up for yourself in your career — especially when you’re still learning who you are.Hazel Ann sits down with Chef Eve Felder, whose journey went from acting to becoming Managing Director at the Culinary Institute of America. Together, they explore how self-advocacy shaped Eve’s path, how she pushed through deep shyness, and why clarity, courage, and self-belief matter more than having the “perfect plan.”It’s a reminder that:Your voice is a tool — not a burden.You don’t need permission to take up space.Showing up for yourself is a lifelong skill, not a one-time decision.Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 15 gives you a grounded, real conversation on risk-taking, networking with intention, and following your heart even when it feels unrealistic or scary.TAKEAWAYSAdvocating for yourself is a non-negotiable career skill.Taking risks often leads to opportunities you can’t plan for.Persistence + clarity = long-term career momentum.Overcoming your own barriers (shyness, doubt, fear) is growth.Networking works best when it’s a two-way relationship, not a transaction.Following your heart matters — especially in tough industries.Self-reflection keeps your choices aligned with your values.Movement + mindfulness clear mental clutter.Gratitude and self-care build long-term resilience.Chapters00:00 – Introduction & Guest Intro00:03 – Early Career & Overcoming Shyness00:09 – Entering the Culinary World00:15 – Learning to Advocate for Yourself00:21 – Persistence, Clarity & Career Growth00:27 – Networking the Right Way00:33 – Work-Life Balance & Boundaries00:39 – Final Thoughts & AdviceLET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay

What if all your distractions are actually disconnecting you?SUMMARYIn this episode, we explore the unseen impact of overstimulation on your career clarity and sense of direction. If nothing in your life feels aligned lately, this conversation will help you understand why — and what your inner voice has been trying to tell you.The host, Hazel Ann, breaks down how constant noise, scrolling, and consuming everyone else's opinions can quietly disconnect you from your values, purpose, and the deeper narrative you’re meant to lead. When you finally pause, silence becomes a powerful strategy — not something to avoid.This episode is a reminder that your best ideas, clearest decisions, and most aligned career moves don’t come from doing more… but from tuning inward.Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 14 guides you back to the voice that matters most: your own.TAKEAWAYSThe best thoughts and strategies come from silence.Silence allows for personal reflection and growth.Avoiding silence can hinder career progression.Finding your voice requires stepping back from external noise.Your mission and values are discovered in quiet moments.Self-reflection is crucial for career clarity.Listening to oneself is more important than listening to others.Career moves should be made from a place of inner knowing.Silence can lead to profound insights and ideas.Taking time for oneself is essential for personal developmentCHAPTERSRESOURCES MENTIONEDAzarias, F.R., Almeida, G.H.D.R., de Melo, L.F., Rici, R.E.G. and Maria, D.A. (2025). The Journey of the Default Mode Network: Development, Function, and Impact on Mental Health. Biology, 14(4), p.395. doi:https://doi.org/10.3390/biology14040395.Carroll, J.C. (2020). Imagination, the Brain’s Default Mode Network, and Imaginative Verbal Artifacts. Springer eBooks, pp.31–52. doi:https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-46190-4_2.Csikszentmihalyi (2022). Flow state: Definition, examples, and how to achieve it. [online] www.medicalnewstoday.com. Available at: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/flow-state#summary.Harvard Business Review (2025). You Need to Be Bored. Here’s Why. [online] YouTube. Available at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=orQKfIXMiA8.Menon, V. (2025). Redirecting. [online] Elsevier.com. Available at: https://linkinghub.elsevier.com/retrieve/pii/S0896627323003082 Riley, D. (2019). Why Do I Hate Being Bored? The Science Behind Life’s Most Uncomfortable State. [online] Medium. Available at: https://medium.com/@daniel_riley/why-do-i-hate-being-bored-the-science-behind-lifes-most-uncomfortable-state-1ccb4a1c62cd LET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay

What if the secret to everything you want lies in being comfortable in the discomfort? In this episode, the host, Hazel Ann, unpacks the mindset shift that changes everything — showing up before you’re ready. Together with guest Kevin Breitinger, a fellow 20-year-old who took on a 60-second public speaking challenge, they explore how stepping into fear can unlock confidence, clarity, and growth in every part of your life.SUMMARYThis week’s conversation dives deep into what it truly means to embrace discomfort. Kevin shares how facing his fear of public speaking redefined his confidence, communication skills, and self-belief — transforming fear into freedom.Hazel and Kevin talk about the power of consistency, accountability, and intrinsic motivation, and how these principles build both character and courage. You’ll hear real insights on overcoming the fear of judgment, improving self-expression, and creating ripple effects that impact your career, relationships, and purpose.They also discuss how travel and self-reflection shape perspective, why discipline matters more than talent, and how to define your own version of success — even when imposter syndrome creeps in.Whether you’re chasing a dream, starting a business, or simply finding your voice, this episode will remind you that discomfort is the classroom where growth happens.TAKEAWAYSGrowth begins when you get comfortable in discomfort.The 60-second public speaking challenge builds real confidence.Fear of judgment blocks self-expression — facing it unlocks potential.Accountability to yourself matters just as much as to others.Intrinsic motivation drives long-term success.Communication is a learnable skill that improves every relationship.Public speaking enhances networking and leadership.Mindset shifts lead to lasting personal growth.Travel expands empathy and perspectiveConsistency creates mastery.CHAPTERS00:00 Embracing Discomfort in Public Speaking03:54 The 60 Second Public Speaking Challenge06:25 Overcoming Judgment and Fear08:42 Commitment and Accountability in Challenges11:17 Intrinsic Motivation vs. External Validation14:06 Improving Articulation and Communication Skills16:26 The Importance of Listening and Silence19:06 Building Relationships Through Public Speaking20:45 Self-Reflection and Continuous Improvement22:23 Setting High Standards and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome23:59 Embracing Discomfort for Growth27:32 The Importance of Discipline and Consistency32:23 Defining Your Dream Life34:16 Finding Inspiration and Motivation37:43 Overcoming Fear and Self-DoubtRESOURCES MENTIONEDIs Public Speaking Really More Feared Than Death? LET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.Host - Hazel AnnInstagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠Guest - Kevin TikTok: @1takekevin1🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay

It's 4:30pm and already pitch black outside. Your motivation? Buried under blankets and a Netflix queue. Sound familiar?SUMMARYIn this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down the Winter Arc: a framework for turning the darkest, coldest months into your secret competitive advantage. We're talking seasonal affective disorder (the science behind why winter feels so hard), the cultural trap of "New Year, New Me," and the exact 4-step framework I used to stop hibernating my ambitions and start building momentum when it mattered most.No toxic positivity. No "just push through it" nonsense. Just real talk about auditing your life, rewiring your brain with neuroscience-backed strategies, and taking micro-actions that compound into major career shifts by spring.This isn't about doing more. It's about doing differently—when it counts.If you've been feeling stuck, unmotivated, or like you're just surviving until the new year... this one's for you.KEY TAKEAWAYSWinter isn't a write-off season—it's your competitive advantageSAD is real, and understanding it gives you powerThe "New Year, New Me" trap costs you 60+ days of potential growthAudit your life like a researcher, not a criticYour brain processes 11 MILLION stimuli per second but only focuses on 5-8 things"Act as if" isn't manifestation magic—it's neuroscienceSmall beats perfect every single timeYour fears are road maps to your valuesRESOURCES MENTIONEDhttps://www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/wellness/a62974419/winter-arc/ The Jamie Sea Show - Quantum LeapingHatch Light Therapy LampVision BoardLET'S CONNECTThis episode hit different? I want to hear from you.Instagram: @hercareerherwayTikTok: @hercareerherwayJoin the #WinterArcChallenge: Share your goals, vision boards, or micro-actions and tag me—I'm featuring your journeys all season long.DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway from this episode or the ONE thing you're committing to this week. Let's build accountability together.

Ever feel like everyone else just "gets it" faster than you?You're not broken. You're just using the wrong strategies.In this solo episode, Hazel Ann is getting real about the moment that changed everything: sitting in her internship, nodding along as her mentor explained a process, then completely blanking two days later. The shame of asking "wait, how do I do this again?" while other interns just... remembered. This episode breaks down the three research-backed strategies that took her from frantically taking notes and remembering nothing to actually retaining what she learnt. No more re-reading the same paragraph five times. No more pretending to remember something you don't.You'll learn why "learning styles" are actually limiting you (with research to back it up), the neuroscience behind why your brain deletes information, and the exact frameworks to learn faster without burning out.If you've ever felt like you're working twice as hard to learn half as much, this episode is for you.💡 What We're Covering in This EpisodeWhy "learning styles" are BS (and what actually matters instead)The real reason you forget everything you just learnedStrategy #1: Test yourself instead of re-reading (50% better retention)Strategy #2: Space it out + mix it up (same time, way better results)Strategy #3: Make it matter (how to signal importance to your brain)Why mistakes are actually your learning acceleratorHow sleep is when your brain does the real workThe "old you vs. new you" shifts that compound over time📑 Chapter Timestamps00:00 - The Internship Shame Story: When I Realized Something Was Wrong03:15 - Myth-Busting: Why Learning Styles Are Limiting You06:42 - How Your Brain Actually Works: The Science of Forgetting10:28 - Strategy #1: The Testing Effect (Close the Tab and Explain It)15:19 - Strategy #2: Spacing + Interleaving (Stop Cramming, Start Mixing)20:34 - Strategy #3: Make It Matter (Attention + Emotion + Structure)26:08 - Why This Matters Long-Term: The Compounding Effect28:45 - Your Action Plan: Start With These 3 This Week💬 Let's ConnectI'd love to hear from you! What's your "old you" learning habit that you're ready to leave behind? Or what was your biggest takeaway from this episode?Instagram: @hercareerherwayDM me: I read every single message and love hearing your storiesIf this episode resonated, please share it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you're feeling generous, leave a review—it helps other people find the show!Remember: You're not behind. You're not broken. You just didn't know these strategies yet.New you starts today. Let's go. 🎙️📖 Resources Mentioned:Sternberg, R. (1994). Thinking Styles.Reid, J. (1995). Learning Styles in the ESL/EFL Classroom.Riener, C. & Willingham, D. (2010). The Myth of Learning Styles.Hatami, S. (2018). Learning Styles — A Review of Concepts and Research.Huberman, A. (2023). Huberman Lab Podcast: Optimal Protocols for Studying & Learning.Brown, P., Roediger, H., & McDaniel, M. (2014). Make It Stick: The Science of Successful Learning.Dunning, D. & Kruger, J. (1999). Unskilled and Unaware of It.

In this episode of 'Her Career Her Way', Lori Atwood, a certified financial planner, shares her journey into finance and offers valuable insights on budgeting, saving, and investing. She emphasises the importance of understanding one's relationship with money, the need for emergency funds, and the significance of tracking spending. Lori also discusses the realities of entrepreneurship and the importance of having a financial runway before starting a business. Her advice aims to empower individuals, especially younger generations, to take control of their financial futures.TakeawaysEmpowerment comes from understanding personal finance.Budgeting should focus on happiness and satisfaction.Tracking spending can reveal underlying issues.Emergency funds are crucial for financial security.Investing in index funds is a smart strategy for beginners.Desire less and focus on what truly matters.Credit cards should be managed carefully to avoid debt.Savings should be a habit, not a one-off event.Entrepreneurship requires financial planning and runway.Financial literacy is essential for young adults.CONNECT with Lori AtwoodInstagram: @fearlessfinanceTiktok: @fearlessfinanceFOLLOW & CONNECTInstagram: ⁠@HerCareerHerWay⁠TikTok: ⁠@HerCareerHerWayRESOURCES:https://fearlessfinance.com/contact/Enter "Her Way" in the promo code field and get $50 off your first meetingRate, review, and subscribe so other ambitious women can find us!CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction to Financial Empowerment02:58 Lori's Journey into Finance05:54 Understanding Budgeting and Scarcity Mindset08:39 The Importance of Happiness in Financial Decisions11:45 Saving vs. Spending: Finding Balance14:42 Emergency Funds and Financial Security17:31 Navigating Economic Uncertainty20:34 Tracking Spending: The Autopsy Approach23:25 Grocery Spending and Overconsumption26:24 The Role of Credit Cards in Financial Health29:17 Investing Basics: Starting with Index Funds32:16 Managing Student Loans and Debt35:13 Retirement Planning: 401k and Roth IRA38:14 The Reality of Entrepreneurship41:10 Final Thoughts and Financial Advice

In this bonus episode of 'Her Career Her Way', Hazel Ann reflects on five transformative lessons learned over the past year, emphasising the importance of self-acceptance, the power of starting despite fear, the influence of one's social circle, the significance of recognising personal strengths, and embracing uncertainty as a pathway to growth. The conversation encourages listeners to set intentions for their next chapter, focusing on authenticity, meaningful connections, and the beauty of life's journey.TakeawaysLet go of judgment to embrace personal growth.Confidence is built through action, not waiting.Surround yourself with like-minded individuals.Your self-worth is inherent, not tied to achievements.Embrace uncertainty as a space for opportunity.Trust the process and take aligned actions.Comparison should be a tool for self-improvement.Your 20s are a time for exploration and learning.You don't need to have everything figured out.Every experience contributes to your unique path.FOLLOW & CONNECTInstagram: ⁠@HerCareerHerWay⁠TikTok: ⁠@HerCareerHerWay💫 Rate, review, and subscribe so other ambitious individuals can find us!Chapters00:00 Reflecting on a Year of Growth02:57 Letting Go of Judgment05:47 The Power of Starting08:56 The Company You Keep12:12 Owning Your Strengths15:05 Leaning into Uncertainty17:54 Intentions for the Next Chapter

In this episode of Her Career Her Way, Hazel Ann explores the concept of perfectionism, discussing its impact on self-worth and personal growth. This episode reframes perfectionism from a character flaw into a strength you haven't learned to channel yet. We break down the science (30-42% genetic), explore the 5 perfectionist types, and expose why society wants women "balanced" instead of powerful. You'll get practical tools to transform perfectionism from prison to power—including self-compassion techniques, restoration strategies, and language shifts that separate your work from your worth.Bottom line: Your perfectionism protected you. Now let it serve you differently.KEY TAKEAWAYS✨ Perfectionism is 30-42% genetic—you're wired this way, not broken✨ 5 types exist: Intense, Classic, Parisian, Procrastinator, Messy—each needs different strategies✨ Adaptive (playing to WIN) vs. Maladaptive (playing NOT to lose)—shift your approach, keep your standards✨ Self-worth ≠ performance. "That didn't go well" ≠ "I'm terrible"✨ The Balance Trap: Society limits women's bandwidth to limit their power✨ Self-compassion reduces maladaptive perfectionism WITHOUT lowering standards✨ Language matters: "This could be better" (opinion) vs. "I'm terrible" (self-judgment)✨ You're not living in preparation—this IS your lifeFOLLOW & CONNECTInstagram: @HerCareerHerWayTikTok: @HerCareerHerWayTag us with your perfectionist type—we're reading every message!📚 RESOURCES"The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control" by Katherine Morgan SchaflerPerfectionist Type Assessment 💫 Rate, review, and subscribe so other ambitious women can find us!Her Career Her Way — Honest conversations for ambitious women building careers in their 20s.Stop apologising. Start building. This is YOUR career, YOUR way.

Have you ever felt like there's never enough time—only to realise you've been managing the wrong thing entirely?In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down why time management feels impossible and reveals the game-changing shift that transformed her productivity: stop managing time, start managing energy.We dive deep into the psychology behind why your brain sabotages your schedule, the science of procrastination, and practical strategies that actually work with your brain instead of against it.In this episode, you'll discover:Why you constantly underestimate how long tasks take (and how to fix it)The neuroscience behind why unfinished tasks haunt you at 2 AMHow ADHD brains process time differently—and strategies that helpThe Eisenhower Matrix simplified: urgent vs. important tasksWhy multitasking is actually destroying your productivityEvidence-based strategies: from micro-steps to body doublingWhy procrastination is an emotional regulation issue, not a time management one✨ Time is finite. Energy is renewable✨ You're not bad at time management—you're using a broken system ✨ Working smarter (aligned to your values) > working longer ✨ Your time struggles aren't a character flaw, they're a design flawIf this episode resonated with you, screenshot it and tag us @hercareerherwayWhat's your biggest time struggle? Let us know in the comments—we read every single oneFOLLOW THE PODCASTInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hercareerherway/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwyh9xa5Ua4JuMsPfhIayYwChapters00:00 Why Time Management Feels Impossible07:19 The Psychology Behind Your Time Struggles14:29 Behavioral Traps & Environmental Factors21:19 The Science of How We Relate to Time28:45 8 Practical Strategies That Actually Work36:12 Energy Management Over Time Management42:30 Reclaiming Control in Your 20s

Have you ever talked yourself out of an amazing opportunity because you were terrified of making the "wrong" choice?In this episode, Hazel Ann sits down with Gracie Rotman, who went from decision paralysis to living her dream life studying in Milan while building her own business. We dive deep into why our brains trick us into thinking there's only one "right" path—and how to move past that fear to grab the opportunities waiting for you.Gracie is a Marketing graduate from the University of Florida. After a transformative internship at Coach, she took the leap to study abroad in Milan while launching her own networking business to help ambitious women network and build meaningful connections.In this episode, you'll discover,Why your fear of making wrong choices is actually keeping you stuckThe science behind why uncertainty feels so terrifying (hint: it's evolutionary)Gracie's real-time decision-making process when choosing between safety and her dreamsTips to move from fear to inspired actionWhy "misalignments" actually self-correct when you trust the process✨ There are no wrong decisions, only different timelines✨ Your fear voice vs. your true self—how to tell the difference✨ Every choice is either a blessing or a blessing in disguise✨ Everything that is meant to happen, happens Gracie's Socials:LinkedInYouTube If this episode resonated with you, screenshot it and tag us @hercareerherway What opportunity have you been overthinking? Let us know in the comments—we read every single oneFOLLOW THE PODCASTInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hercareerherway/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwyh9xa5Ua4JuMsPfhIayYwChapters00:00 Navigating Fear and Ambition07:19 Understanding and Embracing Fear14:29 The Complexity of Decision Making21:19 Surrendering to the Unknown

This episode, Hazel Ann explores the real challenges of goal-setting in your 20s—from lack of clarity and fear of failure to the behavior-intention gap that keeps us stuck between what we say we want and what we actually do. She dives into the science behind habit formation, discuss practical strategies like keystone habits and understanding your "why," and explore how to break big dreams into actionable steps. The conversation emphasises the importance of self-awareness, planning, and embracing uncertainty as part of the growth process—because fear isn't a stop sign, it's often a signal that you're heading toward something meaningful.Mentioned in the Episode:"The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigghttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Power-Habit-Why-What-Change/dp/1847946240

In this episode of 'Her Career Her Way', Hazel Ann discusses the complexities of productivity, workaholism, and the importance of rest. She reflects on her personal experiences transitioning from a high-achieving internship to a period of downtime, exploring feelings of guilt associated with rest and the societal pressures surrounding productivity. Hazel Ann emphasises the need to reframe our understanding of productivity, recognising that rest is not a sign of laziness but a crucial component of creativity and personal growth. She offers practical solutions for achieving a balance between work and rest, encouraging listeners to embrace their unique career paths and the importance of self-reflection.Works CitedBiwer, Felicitas, et al. “Understanding Effort Regulation: Comparing “Pomodoro” Breaks and Self‐Regulated Breaks.” British Journal of Educational Psychology, vol. 93, no. S2, 2023, pp. 353–367, bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/bjep.12593, https://doi.org/10.1111/bjep.12593.Dore, Madeleine. I Didn’t Do the Thing Today. Allen & Unwin, 5 Jan. 2022.Kreider, Tim. “The “Busy” Trap.” Opinionator, 30 June 2012, archive.nytimes.com/opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/06/30/the-busy-trap/.McKinsey & Company. “What Is Burnout? | McKinsey.” Www.mckinsey.com, 14 Aug. 2023, www.mckinsey.com/featured-insights/mckinsey-explainers/what-is-burnout.Szigeti, Zara. “What’s the Verdict on Academic Guilt? Separating “Doing” from Productivity.” RehabINK | a World of Rehabilitation Research, Practice, and Advocacy, 8 June 2021, rehabinkmag.com/previous-issues/rehabink-summer-2020-volume-1-issue-9/whats-the-verdict-on-academic-guilt-separating-doing-from-productivity/.

Internships aren’t always easy — but the challenges can teach you just as much as the wins. In this episode, I talk about handling tricky mentor relationships, learning how to ask for the feedback you need, and building intentional connections that last. I also share how I turned what once felt like “weaknesses” into strengths. This is the real behind-the-scenes of growing in your 20s — reminding you that setbacks are part of the process, and that your path forward is more within reach than it sometimes feels.

Wrapping up my internship felt surreal — I came in full of questions and left with lessons I didn’t expect. In this episode, I share how setting intentions early shaped my experience, the skills I built along the way (from Excel shortcuts to confidence in networking), and what working a 9-to-5 taught me about structure and balance. These takeaways are for anyone trying to make sense of the messy, exciting start of a career — with the goal of making it feel a little more clear and a lot more doable.Check out this article for more information about the case study mentioned: https://jamesclear.com/implementation-intentions

Figuring out your passions in your 20s isn’t easy—especially when outside voices and endless choices drown out your own. In this episode, Hazel Ann Felder unpacks distractions (like thinking Suits meant law school was for me), and dives into psychology research and practical tools to help you tune into what you really want.Along the way, we’ll explore:✨ The Asch conformity experiment on why we follow the crowd✨ Dan Gilbert’s paradox of choice and how too many options keep us stuck✨ Why, as Ben Hardy writes, achieving goals doesn’t always equal fulfilment✨ Insights from Rick Hanson on why pleasure is fleeting✨ Mastery of Love by Don Miguel RuizCome away with tools to sift through the noise, reconnect with what excites you, and take small steps toward clarity—without the pressure to have it all figured out.

Ever feel like no matter what you do, it’s still not enough? From feeling guilty about downtime to comparing ourselves to family or peers, the pressure to constantly “do more” is real—especially in your 20s. In this episode, Hazel Ann Felder and Gracie Rotman unpack where that pressure comes from, how it shows up in everyday life, and why women are often taught to shrink themselves.We’ll walk through practical tools—from journaling your daily “receipts,” to time blocking, self-affirmations, and reframing worst-case scenarios—that help remind you that you are, in fact, enough.