CoParentSpace: Co-Parenting & Divorce Support

Eleven hours in the air, plus the connection, plus the drive at each end. By the time your child walks through the door, they've been travelling for the better part of a day, across however many time zones sit between the two homes. They're wired and exhausted at once. Their body thinks it's the middle of the night. And you, who haven't seen them in weeks, want to scoop them up and start the visit.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the long-haul flight visit — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The flight is a long Relay• The body clock problem• Packing as continuity• Both ends of the same trip• When the distance is this big• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Thursday evening. Seven twelve. Your ten-year-old is at the dining table with their maths homework spread out. They've been stuck on the same word problem for fifteen minutes. The frustration is building. Your new partner, who's been here for three months now and is making tea in the kitchen, walks over with a mug in each hand, sets one down for you, and leans in to look at the page.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the new partner's role: What they shouldn't do — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The new partner isn't a parent• Why this matters more than it seems to• What the new partner shouldn't do, in year one• What the new partner should do• The conversation with your new partner• When the new partner has children of their ownMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

The vaccination reminder from the surgery arrived a week ago. The booster is due. The appointment slot you booked is for Thursday afternoon.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about vaccinations and the consent question — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The default: most appointments just happen• The consent framework• The hard conversation• When you genuinely can't agree• A note on information sourcesMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

You're on session four. The mediator has been typing as you talk for the last twenty minutes. They turn the laptop around so both of you can see the screen.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the parental agreement as a mediation outcome — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What a parental agreement is• What goes in it• The categories of binding-ness• How it functions in daily life• How it evolves• When you can't reach agreement on everythingMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Thursday afternoon. The school office calls. Your child has a temperature, can you come and collect them. You're at work. You message your Co-Parent. They reply within four minutes: on my way. By the time you've cleared your desk and made it home, your child is asleep on the sofa, paracetamol on the side table, your Co-Parent already gone.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about medical and dental — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The routine and predictable• The acute• The chronic• Dental specifically• When insurance covers part• The closing patternMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Tuesday night. You've put the kids to bed. You're sitting on the sofa with the TV on but not really watching. Something has been on your mind for a couple of weeks. The schedule isn't working the way it used to. The Sunday transition has been hard. Your nine-year-old has been quieter in the off-week. Your six-year-old has been having stomach aches before school. You're not sure if this is the schedule, or just life, or a phase that will pass.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when to switch schedules — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The two reasons schedules need to change• Signs the schedule is wrong for the child's age• Signs the schedule is wrong for the situation• The two-month rule• How to know if it's the schedule or something else• The conversation with the Co-ParentMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

a# 'Do you still love Daddy?' / 'Do you still love Mummy?'In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about untitled — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What the child is really asking• The shape of an answer that works• What not to say• Age by age• The inverse question• When you genuinely don't have warm feelingsMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 4–7.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

The Co-Parent calls you on Tuesday evening.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when your teen confides in only one parent — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• Why teens choose one• What it does feel like• What it doesn't mean• What the confiding parent should do• What the non-confiding parent should do• The cross-home confidenceMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Teens 13+.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Sunday evening. 8:15pm. You're tidying the kitchen when you notice a green folder on the counter, half-open, with what looks like a school newsletter, three worksheets, and a permission slip sticking out at angles.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the Friday folder problem — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The Friday unpack• The weekend split• Signed slips and the deadline that wasn't shared• When the folder goes missingMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 4–12.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Friday afternoon. The bag is by the door. The car keys are in your hand. Your two-year-old is on the floor in the corridor, on her stomach, both arms wrapped around your ankle. She isn't crying yet. She's doing the quiet version, where the body has decided it isn't moving and the small voice is saying no, no, no, no.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when your toddler doesn't want to go — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What's actually happening• What it isn't• What helps the toddler in the moment• What helps the departing parent• What helps the receiving parent• When the protest is more than the protestMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 0–3.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Tuesday night. Your son has been crying for forty minutes. He's at his other home tonight. You can hear him on the phone, and your co-parent says, I'm trying everything. You both know what he wants. He wants you. Specifically you. The parent who has done bedtime almost every night since he was born. The voice he knows. The hand he knows. He doesn't want anyone else.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when your toddler won't go to sleep without you — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• Why this is happening• Two parts of this problem• When it's happening at your home• When it's happening at your co-parent's home• How long it takes• When it doesn't get betterMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 0–3.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Your child is in the school concert next week, or running on sports day, or playing a piece at the recital. They've practised, they're nervous and proud, and they want to be watched. And you're working out the choreography of it. Will the Co-Parent be there too? Where do you sit? Can the two of you be in the same hall without it becoming a thing? What does your child actually want, and what does the day require of you both?In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about school events: sports day, music recital, concerts — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What your child is actually doing in the audience• Both attending, sitting civilly• When both attending causes harm• When the news travels home• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Your child's other parent has an addiction. Maybe it's been clear for years, maybe it's emerged or worsened since the separation. Either way, you're now parenting alongside someone whose relationship with alcohol or drugs affects their reliability, their presence, sometimes their safety, and you're trying to work out what your child can understand, how much contact is okay, and how to protect your child without erasing a parent they may still love.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about addiction in your co-parent — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The safety line comes first• What the child can hold• The person and the illness• Holding the door, holding the boundary• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.📖 Read the full written version🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

For an autistic child, predictability isn't a preference; it's a need that runs close to the core of how they experience safety in the world. And a two-home arrangement is, by its nature, an arrangement built around a recurring change of environment. That's the central challenge of parenting an autistic child across two homes, and it needs to be understood clearly rather than glossed over, because once you see it, a lot of what helps becomes obvious.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about autism across two homes — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• Predictability is a core need• The transition is the hard part• Two sensory environments• Shared approaches to communication and regulation• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Your child comes home and tells you they watched four hours of YouTube at the second home over the weekend. Or that they got a new game on the tablet your co-parent gave them. Or that they were allowed to play Roblox until eleven on a Saturday night. Or that the family has a rule of one episode after dinner, except the family is just one of your child's families, and at yours the rule is no episodes at all.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when you disagree on screen time — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What's actually at stake• What's a rule difference and what's a floor• What you can shift in your own home• When to actually talk to your co-parent about screens• The hardest versionMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 4–17.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Saturday morning. The kitchen. Your eight-year-old is at the counter helping you make pancakes. They've been chatty for the last few minutes. Then, mid-stir, in a voice that's bright in a way that doesn't quite match the conversation: do you remember when we used to all have pancakes together on Saturday mornings, when we lived in the old house? That was the best.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when your child idealises how things used to be — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What's happening• What the instinct says, and why it's wrong• What you do• When the idealisation gets sharper• When the idealisation is also a critique• The parent's parallel griefMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Your child used to be even-tempered, and now there's a short fuse where the easy kid used to be. Snapping over small things. Slamming doors. Furious at a sibling, at you, at a sock that won't go on right. The anger seems to come from nowhere and lands on everything, and you're left wondering where your child went and who this stormy version is.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when your child is suddenly angry all the time — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• Anger is usually the surface, not the source• The safe-target paradox• Co-regulate before you correct• Name the feeling under the anger• When the anger needs more• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

The school calendar is stuck to the fridge with a magnet, and on it, circled in marker, are the dates that actually matter. The two weeks in the December break. The month in summer. The week in the spring term. For a long-distance family, these aren't just holidays. They're the spine of the year, the blocks of real, physical, unhurried time that the rest of the year is built around.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about school holidays as the main connection — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The shape of a holiday block• Protect the ordinary inside the holiday• The Co-Parent's side of the holiday• By age, what the holiday asks• When the holiday is the whole relationship• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Monday evening. Six forty-eight. Your nine-year-old is at the kitchen table, dragging penne through a small puddle of olive oil and parmesan. They've been chatty since they got back from their mama's an hour ago. School. The new book they're reading. The kid in their class who's apparently a complete legend now for reasons you don't fully understand.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about your child meets your Co-Parent's new partner — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• You're the receiver, not the introducer• What's actually at stake• The ninety seconds at the kitchen table• What to do over the next week• What to do if your child asks you something hard• When the new partner doesn't seem okayMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

The message arrives at 6.40 in the morning. You haven't had coffee yet. You're sitting on the edge of your bed, phone in hand, reading what your Co-Parent has just sent.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when your child gets sick at your Co-Parent's — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The default: the parent who has the child handles it• What the non-resident parent does (and doesn't do)• When to flex the schedule• Specific harder casesMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

It's Wednesday, 6.18pm. You're in the car park outside the mediator's office. You've been here for twelve minutes. You came early because you didn't know what the traffic would be, and now you have time you didn't know what to do with.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the first session: what to expect — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The room itself• The session structure• What you actually do• What the right outcome looks like• The walk backMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Wednesday, 6.15pm. You've just got home from work. Your child mentioned, in passing, that they didn't have the right kit for tomorrow's school activity. The kit is at your Co-Parent's house. The activity is at 9am. The kit needs to be at school by 8.30. Your Co-Parent does the morning handover. You're not seeing your child until Friday.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the message you send vs the message you wanted to send — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The everything-else layer• Separating the layers in real time• What the message should be• What to do with what's left over• When you need to address the patternMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Saturday morning. The supermarket. Your child puts a packet of biscuits in the trolley. You don't think about it. At the checkout, the bill comes to slightly more than usual. You pay. You walk to the car.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the big expenses vs the small ones — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What makes an expense big• What makes an expense small• Why the line matters• The grey zone• How the small expenses actually work• A test for any specific expenseMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Sunday evening. Your eleven-year-old is packing his school bag. The PE kit, the reading book, the maths workbook. The two-week-old habit of double-checking everything because some weeks he hasn't seen the contents of his backpack since Tuesday. This is the third week of the new schedule. Week on, week off. He goes to his Co-Parent's tomorrow morning. He won't be back until next Sunday evening. It feels long. It also feels, oddly, less exhausting than what they had before.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the week-on, week-off schedule — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What the pattern is• Why it works at this age• The hardest part of week-on, week-off• Friday vs Sunday transition• What this asks of the parents• When week-on/week-off ages outMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 8–12.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Wednesday morning. The school bag is packed. The shoes are by the door. Your six-year-old is at the kitchen table, half a piece of toast on his plate, not eating. He hasn't looked at you since he came downstairs. You finally ask him what's wrong. He says it without raising his eyes. Did you and Mama break up because I was being bad?In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about 'Is it because of me?' — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• Why this question matters more than the others• The answer, when it lands• When and how to bring it up if they haven't asked• How to recognise when the question is there but not being asked• Age by age• The version where the child is partly rightMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 4–7.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

The text comes through Wednesday evening.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about letting your teenager negotiate their own time — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What negotiating actually is• When to negotiate, when not to• The principle, the detail• The moves• The Co-Parent dimension• What teens learn from negotiating wellMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Teens 13+.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Tuesday, 7:42am. You're packing the breakfast bowls when your nine-year-old, just out of the shower, freezes in the hallway.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the 'I forgot my thing' moment — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The first sixty seconds• The system that prevents most of these• The thing that can't be replaced• What the child is reading off you• When forgetting becomes a patternMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 4–12.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

It's the third evening of your week. You've made dinner, run the bath, brought out the pyjamas, started the bedtime routine. You're tired in the specific way that two-home weeks make you tired. You are doing everything right.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the 'I want my mummy' / 'I want my daddy' cry — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What the cry actually is• What the receiving parent often hears• What the departing parent often hears• What helps the child in the moment• What helps you, after• When the cry is more than the cryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 0–3.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about same routine, two homes: How aligned should bedtimes really be? — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What parents are actually asking• Three things that need to be aligned• Three things that don't need to be aligned• When alignment matters most• When the gap between homes is too big• What to tell your child when the homes are differentMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Your child's birthday is coming, and the simple childhood thing it used to be has become a logistics question with feelings attached. One party or two? At whose home? Do both parents come to the same one, and can you stand to be in the same room? Who invites the friends, who buys the cake, who pays? And underneath all of it, the wish that your child's birthday could just be your child's birthday, instead of one more thing the separation has complicated.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about birthday parties: yours, theirs, both — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• One party or two• Both parents at one party• Who pays, and the gifts• The child's day, not the adults' stage• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

The message comes through, or the call doesn't. The weekend the children were supposed to spend with their Co-Parent isn't happening. Something came up, or nothing was said at all, and now you're standing in your kitchen with a packed overnight bag by the door and a child who's about to ask where they're going. You have a few minutes to decide what to say and how to handle a day that just rearranged itself around someone else's failure to follow through.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the cancelled weekend — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What to tell the child in the moment• What to do with your own anger• Salvaging the day• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

A child with ADHD does best with structure, routine, and predictability. Those are exactly the things a two-home arrangement makes harder to deliver. That tension is the heart of parenting a child with ADHD across two homes, and it's worth naming plainly at the start, because understanding the tension is the first step to managing it.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about aDHD across two homes, what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why, grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• Why consistency matters more here• What to actually align on• The medication question• When the two homes don't agree• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Sunday, five in the afternoon. Your child has just been dropped back. They smell like sunscreen and ice cream. They've watched five hours of YouTube. They haven't brushed their teeth since Friday morning. They're wired and a bit fragile, the way children are after too much sugar and not enough sleep, and you can already see how the next forty-eight hours are going to go. Tantrum at bedtime. Resistance at breakfast.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the fun parent and the rules parent, what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why, grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The shape of the trap• What the rules parent is actually carrying• What children actually need from each parent• What to do, practically• If you suspect you're the fun parent• ClosingMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

A Wednesday. Nothing in particular has happened. Your nine-year-old is just sad. They've been sad since they got up. They had breakfast quietly. They didn't want to talk in the car. At school they were apparently fine, but their teacher mentioned in passing at pickup that K seemed a bit subdued today. Now they're on the sofa with the dog and a book they're not reading. Their face has the specific looseness of a child whose body is processing a feeling.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the sad day, what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why, grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• Sad days happen• What it isn't• What you do• When the child wants to talk• When sadness is more than a day• The harder versionMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children, practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Sunday evening. Six fifty-one. The bath water is draining. Your seven-year-old has just thrown the rubber duck against the wall hard enough that you heard the bounce from the kitchen. They're now sitting on the bath mat with a towel half on and the wet hair plastered down, crying in a way that doesn't have any words in it.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the Sunday night meltdown — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What's actually happening• The version where the Co-Parent is the primary home• What the meltdown isn't• What you do• When the meltdown isn't this• Talking about it later, if at allMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 4–12.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Saturday morning. Eleven oh-six. You're standing in front of your wardrobe with two shirts on hangers in your hands. The blue one or the grey one. The introduction is at three. A park you've been to a hundred times with your eight-year-old. Your new partner is meeting you there with the dog they sometimes bring on walks.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when and how to introduce a new partner after divorce, what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why, grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The instinct is to over-stage• Three principles• Before the introduction. The brief with your new partner• Before the introduction. The brief with your child• The introduction itself• After the introductionMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

The call has been going for three minutes. Your five-year-old is already looking off-screen at something in the room. You ask another question. They answer in one word. You ask another. They wander off entirely and the phone is now showing the ceiling. On the other end, you're left talking to a light fixture, wondering what you did wrong.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about video calls that work, by age — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The under-twos: presence, not conversation• The three-to-fives: do something they can watch• The six-to-nines: now the conversation works• The ten-to-thirteens: respect the shrinking window• The teens: be available, don't chase• What every age sharesMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

It's seven on a Sunday evening. Your child has been on a five-day course of antibiotics since Wednesday. They've had four doses. Three more to go: tonight's, tomorrow morning's, tomorrow evening's. Tomorrow morning they switch to your Co-Parent's home.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about medication: Doses, schedules, and the night-time switch — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The medication record• The handover routine• The night-time switch• Chronic-condition medications• The harder casesMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Your Co-Parent agreed. The reply came in two days after your message, slightly hesitant, ultimately a yes. Okay, let's try it. How do we find someone?In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about finding the right mediator — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The criteria that matter• Where to look• The first phone call• Red flags• After the screening• If it doesn't work outMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

t's 10.43pm on a Sunday. The child has been back at your Co-Parent's for six hours. You're sitting at the kitchen table with the school folder you didn't have time to look at this morning. There's a form due Friday that someone should have flagged a week ago. The form needs a signature from both of you and information you don't have. The note attached says please ensure both parents have reviewed.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the 24-hour rule — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• Recognising activation in your body• The parking lot• The morning reread• When 24 hours isn't right• When you've broken the ruleMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Late August. The email arrives at 9:14am. Term 1 fee reminder. Payable by 31 August. Please confirm the payee for invoicing purposes.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about school fees, term by term — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The advance setup• The in-term moments• The pattern at the end of each term• The annual conversation• When fees change suddenly• The closing patternMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Tuesday evening. Your seven-year-old is in the bath. You're sitting on the closed lid of the toilet, scrolling through your phone, half-listening. She's been washing her hair without saying anything for a while. Then, without looking at you, she says it. Why aren't you and Daddy together anymore?In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when your child asks why, what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• Why this question is so hard• The principle, restated• The pattern of the question• Age by age• The version that's true and unflattering• When the question lands and you're not readyMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Saturday morning. You're at the kitchen table with your Co-Parent over a video call. You have a calendar in front of you. You're trying to work out a schedule that gives both of you real time with the kids and doesn't drive your six-year-old into the ground with transitions. The lawyer suggested 2-2-3. Neither of you fully understands what that means in practice. You agreed to look at it before next week.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the 2-2-3 schedule — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What the pattern is• Why it's the most common school-age schedule• What the days actually feel like• What this asks of the parents• When the 2-2-3 starts to age out• Two common variationsMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 4–7.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Friday afternoon. The schedule says your son is at the Co-Parent's tonight. He's at your house, lying on the sofa, looking at his phone. The pickup is in twenty minutes. He hasn't packed.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the teen who doesn't want to go to one home, what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What might be happening• Don't escalate immediately• How to find out what's going on• What to do this Friday• The conversation between you and the Co-Parent• When to lean in and when to back offMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Teens 13+.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

uesday, 7pm. You're loading the dishwasher when your eight-year-old says, almost casually, "I think there's maths homework due tomorrow. I left it at Mummy's."In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about homework: Who does what, where — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The bag is the system• Who does what when• The information note• When homework is the thing that breaksMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 4–12.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

our two-year-old has been showing the signs for weeks. He's telling you when his nappy is wet. He's interested in the toilet. He stays dry for two hours at a stretch. You're ready to start. You bought the potty, you bought the books, you bought the special undies with the dinosaurs.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the two-house potty training plan, what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why, grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• Why two-home potty training is structurally harder• Readiness signs, briefly• The conversation with your co-parent• Choosing a method• What each home needs to have• Shared languageMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: Ages 0–3.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

The date is coming, the one that used to mean the whole family in one place, and this year it's going to be different. The first big holiday after a separation arrives carrying the full weight of what's changed. Everyone can feel it coming, the children especially, and there's a low dread underneath the planning, because this is the celebration where the new shape of the family becomes impossible to ignore.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the first big holiday after separation, what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why, grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The first one is a grief milestone• New traditions over recreated old ones• Decide the structure in advance• Let it be imperfect• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

Wednesday night. New house, three weeks in. Your child has been quiet since the meal. The toothbrush goes in the new cup. The new towel hangs on the new hook. The new bed has the same sheets you brought from before, but the room smells different. You sit on the bed in the same way you've always sat on the bed. You say, want to read? The book is the one you've been reading for two months. The pages know each other.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about the bedtime ritual that travels, what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What a ritual actually is• What's small enough to travel and big enough to matter• Building the ritual with your co-parent• How the ritual changes by age• When the ritual doesn't travel• ClosingMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

It's happened again. The Co-Parent was meant to have the children this weekend, or to call, or to collect them, and they didn't. Maybe they cancelled at the last minute, maybe they just didn't appear, maybe the promised contact simply evaporated with no explanation. And you're left holding a disappointed child and your own familiar mix of anger, worry, and weariness, wondering how many times this can happen and what it's doing to your child.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when your co-parent doesn't show up, what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why, grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• What the no-show does to a child• What you can't control, and what you can• Buffering the child without lying• Being the reliable one• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com

The appointment is over, and you're walking out holding a word. Autism. ADHD. A learning difference. An anxiety disorder. Something you may have half-expected or something that blindsided you, but either way it's now attached to your child, and the world looks slightly rearranged. You're carrying questions you don't have answers to yet, and underneath them a tangle of feelings that don't sort into anything tidy.In this episode of CoParentSpace we get practical about when your child has been diagnosed — what actually helps for separated and divorced parents, and why — grounded in attachment science and clinical research.What we cover:• The same child, the day after• A door, not a verdict• Grief and relief, together• What the two homes do now• First steps, gently• The line you carryMade for parents raising children across two homes. Best for: All ages.🌱 Explore the Living Library of evidence-based co-parenting articles: coparentspace.comCoParentSpace is the calm space for separated parents and their children — practical co-parenting and parenting-after-divorce support for life across two homes.Support the showCoparentspace.com