Different Hats Podcast

This week’s conversation honestly feels like one of the most important episodes I’ve ever recorded.Being released during Mental Health Awareness Week, I recently sat down with the incredible Rose Rowkins for a raw, honest and deeply powerful conversation about suicide prevention, emotional literacy, masculinity, parenting, modern pressure, hope, and the importance of human connection.Statistics still show that around 6,000–7,000 people die by suicide every year in the UK. Around 75% are men. Many never speak to a mental health professional before they die.That has to change.One of the biggest things I took away from the ASIST training Rose delivers is this:👉 Suicide prevention does not belong solely to professionals.It belongs to all of us.This conversation explores how we’ve created a world where people often feel safer hiding their pain than speaking about it… and how we can all learn to better show up for each other when it matters most.Rose shares her own lived experience with suicidal thoughts, the devastating loss that shaped her mission, and the life-changing lessons she’s learned through over a decade of suicide prevention work.We talk about:Why people don’t want to die, they want the pain to endThe power of simply listening without trying to fixWhy emotional literacy needs to start in schoolsModern masculinity and the pressure men carry silentlyParenting, kindness and raising emotionally aware childrenThe role community and belonging play in keeping people aliveRedefining success beyond money, status and achievementWhy awkward conversations can genuinely save livesAnd honestly… this episode reminded me again that hope often begins with one conversation.If this episode helps even one person feel less alone, it’s worth it.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 – Introduction: Why This Conversation Matters02:13 – “You Alright Mate?” | Rose’s Honest Check-In06:56 – Why Work Shouldn’t Become Your Identity09:35 – Parenting, Kindness & Emotional Literacy14:18 – How Rose Defines Success16:30 – Leaving Corporate Life & Following Your Heart25:59 – The Suicide That Changed Rose’s Life Forever32:40 – What Samaritans Taught Rose About Suicide Prevention35:45 – “People Don’t Want To Die — They Want The Pain To End”41:02 – Rose Opens Up About Her Own Suicidal Thoughts46:57 – Why We Must Stop Waiting For People To Reach Out50:57 – Why Emotional Literacy Must Start In Schools57:01 – Why Asking About Suicide Saves Lives01:03:45 – Community, Belonging & Human Connection01:11:27 – Are We Teaching Children How To Live?01:20:01 – The Language That Can Save A Life01:30:59 – Financial Pressure, Success & Suicide01:40:48 – Why Talking About Death Helps Us Live01:50:06 – What Gives Rose Hope01:53:00 – A Message For Anyone Struggling Right Now01:54:26 – Closing Reflections & Final Thoughts⸻🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Rose Rowkins: https://www.linkedin.com/in/roserowkins/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/start_the_conv/Website: https://www.starttheconversation.uk/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success, mental health and suicide prevention.🚨 If you are struggling right now, please speak to someone.UK Samaritans: Call 116 123 (24/7)👉 Samaritans UKSPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

👉 How much of life is actually a performance… and what does it really mean to be yourself?In this episode, I sit down with my good friend Craig Whiteley, West End performer, drama teacher, and someone who has experienced both the highs of standing ovations and the deeper lessons that come after.We explore the masks we wear, the roles we play, and the question so many of us avoid…👉 Who am I… really?From performing on the West End to teaching the next generation, Craig shares powerful insights on authenticity, resilience, self-belief, and why success isn’t what we’ve been taught.This is an honest, emotional, and deeply human conversation about identity, kindness, and finding balance in a world full of noise.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 – Introduction & the BIG question: Is life a performance?02:30 – “You Alright Mate?” – navigating life, noise & pressure05:00 – Family, cancer, and finding purpose through challenge09:30 – Childhood, kindness & where mindset begins12:30 – Who am I? Identity beyond roles & achievements18:30 – Teaching kids confidence, play & self-belief23:00 – What success really means (then vs now)30:00 – Regret, perspective & redefining priorities40:00 – Why we struggle with self-worth & accepting compliments50:00 – The highs of performing vs real life fulfilment01:00:00 – Ego, validation & being enough01:10:00 – Social media, performance & authenticity01:20:00 – Resilience, rejection & staying grounded01:30:00 – Final reflections: kindness, play & legacy💭 KEY THEMESAuthenticity vs performanceRedefining success beyond status and achievementConfidence, self-worth & validationThe importance of play and joyResilience, rejection & growthTeaching the next generation emotional literacyKindness as a core value🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Craig Whiteleyhttps://thetheatreworkshop.com/person/craig-whiteley/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if success isn’t something you achieve… but something you become?In this powerful episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with Volker Ballueder, coach, therapist, author, and host of Stories of Success, for a deep conversation about what success really means in today’s world.After interviewing high performers and building a successful corporate career, Volker realised that money, status, and external validation were never the full answer. Like many people, he discovered that reaching society’s version of success can still leave you feeling empty.Together, we explore the difference between success and fulfilment, why so many men silently struggle under pressure, and how emotional intelligence may be one of the most important skills we never get taught.We also discuss comparison culture, social media, midlife reflection, mindfulness, education, parenting, and the importance of helping young people define success for themselves, not through grades, job titles, or wealth, but through values, purpose, connection, and inner peace.This episode is for anyone questioning the path they’re on… feeling the pressure to keep achieving… or searching for a more meaningful definition of success.Volker shares honest reflections on chasing money earlier in life, how redundancy pushed him toward coaching and therapy, and why helping others now feels more rewarding than any corporate milestone ever did.We also talk openly about men’s mental health, suicide prevention, vulnerability, and why asking one simple question, You Alright Mate?, can change lives.A thoughtful, honest, and timely conversation about identity, fulfilment, masculinity, and what it means to live a life true to yourself.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction 02:10 You Alright Mate?03:10 How Volker Defines Success04:45 Chasing Money vs Finding Fulfilment07:45 Lifelong Learning & Education10:40 School Systems & Different Types of Intelligence15:30 Emotional Intelligence in Schools24:00 Creativity, Curiosity & Child-Led Learning28:40 Comparison Culture & Social Media31:55 Living True to Yourself38:50 What High Achievers Taught Volker About Success45:10 Why Purpose Matters More Than Money55:30 Being Enough As You Are59:55 Midlife Crisis or Midlife Awakening?1:03:10 Why Men Don’t Talk1:08:20 Vulnerability Is Strength1:17:40 Preventing Crisis Before It Happens1:22:40 Mindfulness & Self-Awareness1:31:15 Habits of Successful People1:45:15 What To Do If You’re Struggling1:54:55 Advice to Younger Volker1:55:34 What Does A Life Well Lived Look Like?🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Volker BalluederLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ballueder/Website: https://obnat.us/https://volkerballueder.com/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’re losing 84 men a week in the UK…And we’re still telling men not to feel.Something isn’t working.And we need to talk about it.In this solo episode of The Different Hats Podcast, I reflect on watching the manosphere and the growing influence of voices like Andrew Tate.But this isn’t about calling anyone out.It’s about asking a deeper question:Are we helping men… or hurting them?Because behind the “alpha” messaging…there’s something else:Pressure.Disconnection.And a version of success that looks strong on the outside…but often feels empty within.From my own experience, and hundreds of conversations through the podcast, I’ve seen a different truth:The strongest men don’t do life alone.They feel.They speak.They connect.And maybe that’s where we need to start.💭 KEY THEMES⏱️ 00:00 – The rise of the manosphere & its impact on young men⏱️ 01:15 – Toxic masculinity vs healthy masculinity⏱️ 02:30 – Emotional suppression, loneliness & male suicide⏱️ 04:00 – The illusion of “alpha” success⏱️ 05:30 – Identity, belonging & fear⏱️ 07:00 – Redefining success: connection, authenticity & relationships⏱️ 08:30 – Why emotional literacy needs to start in schools💡 A QUESTION FOR YOUHow do you define success?Not what you’ve been told.Not what you’ve seen online.Take a moment. Write it down.Then share it with someone… or drop it in the comments below.Let’s start the conversation.🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast💡 If this episode resonated with you…Please like, comment, and share.Your support helps us change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What changes in someone’s life when they start reconnecting with themselves?In this powerful return conversation, Marc Convey joins me for part two of his Different Hats journey, and this one goes even deeper.After our first conversation explored Marc’s extraordinary story of surviving a life-changing accident at 14, this episode focuses on what came next: leaving business behind, travelling in his van, writing his book, redefining success, and asking the deeper questions about identity, values, adversity, education, and what it really means to live from the inside out.Marc shares why success now means being decent to himself and decent to others, how discovering his core values of connection and freedom changed everything, and why so many of us are living from the outside in. We explore what young people really need, why the education system is failing to prepare them for life, the role of community and mentorship, and how adversity can become a gift when we learn how to reframe our story.This is a deeply thoughtful, human conversation about healing, self-awareness, purpose, burnout, contentment, and the power of connection.If you’ve ever felt disconnected from yourself, questioned the path you’re on, or wondered what real success actually looks like, this episode is for you.CHAPTERS:00:00 – Introduction02:20 – “Are you alright mate?” and the zone of contentment03:38 – Marc’s definition of success now07:17 – Leaving business, core values, and the power of freedom + connection18:54 – Uncertainty, discomfort, and what young people really need26:21 – Where to start when you’re in a dark place36:34 – Isolation, mindset, and taking responsibility for your wellbeing53:08 – The biggest lessons Marc has learned in recent years58:06 – AI, community, and dropping pebbles in your own pond1:16:04 – Are people living consciously or just drifting into life?1:24:03 – The manosphere, role models, and what young men need most1:32:40 – What Marc would change about education if he were Prime Minister1:36:17 – What Marc would say to his 14-year-old self1:38:15 – How to start reconnecting with yourself1:39:47 – How Marc knows when he’s nearing burnoutMarc brings such wisdom, depth and honesty to this conversation, and I honestly think this is one of those episodes that will stay with people for a long time.🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Marc ConveyWebsite: https://www.marcconvey.com/Substack: https://substack.com/@makingamarcLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marc-convey/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_conv💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when grief, creativity, masculinity and mental health collide?In this powerful episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with the brilliant Simon David Eden for a deeply moving conversation about childhood trauma, creativity, suicide, emotional expression, education, and the healing power of storytelling.Simon shares his extraordinary journey growing up in Moulsecoomb, being expelled from school at 12, finding refuge in writing, drawing and music, and navigating the devastating loss of his brother to suicide. We also explore his upcoming exhibition Shadow Light: Songs My Brother Taught Me, a profoundly personal body of work exploring grief, brotherhood, masculinity, and emotional inheritance between men.This conversation goes far beyond Simon’s creative career. It’s about what happens when boys and men are never given the language to express what they feel. It’s about the mentors who change our lives. It’s about why creativity matters. And it’s about the urgent need to create spaces where men feel safe enough to ask for help.A truly honest, heartfelt and important conversation.In this episode, we explore:How Simon defines success through love, integrity and hopeGrowing up in Moulsecoomb and the trauma that shaped himBeing expelled from school and feeling failed by educationHow creativity became a lifelineThe loss of Simon’s brother to suicideWhy men often struggle to express what they feelHow art and storytelling can help us process painWhy schools must nurture creativity and emotional literacyThe hope behind Simon’s exhibition Shadow Light: Songs My Brother Taught MeIf this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who might need it.CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction00:40 Reflecting on the You Alright Mate? gathering02:09 What this conversation explores04:20 “You alright, mate?” check-in05:22 Simon’s definition of success07:26 Success, integrity and living true to yourself12:39 Why external success can feel hollow13:33 Poverty, pain and choosing a different path18:36 Growing up in Moulsecoomb25:24 Abandonment, trauma and survival31:23 Being expelled from school37:48 Creativity as escape and expression42:13 Why education often stifles creativity49:14 The power of mentors and being truly seen01:00:55 The purpose behind the exhibition01:03:59 Can creativity help prevent suicide?01:08:19 The gift of helping others01:09:53 Processing grief then and now01:13:59 Will the pain ever leave?01:15:33 The message Simon hopes the exhibition leaves behind01:19:50 Holding space, hope and the next hour01:21:23 Depression, demons and getting through dark moments01:26:10 Integrity, self-doubt and staying true01:30:44 Following dreams despite the voices that doubt you01::34 Final reflections on hope, suicide prevention and legacy01:41:37 Storytelling card: legacy beyond career01:43:19 Closing thoughts🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Simon David EdenExhibition details: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/shadow-light-songs-my-brother-taught-me-tickets-1983767367598?aff=ebdsoporgprofileWebsite: https://simondavideden.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-david-eden-83168817/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.⚠️ Support note (please read)This episode includes discussion of suicidal ideation, domestic abuse, addiction, and mental health crises.If you’re in the UK & Ireland and you need someone right now:Samaritans (24/7): 116 123Text SHOUT to 85258 (UK, 24/7):If you or someone is in immediate danger, call 999.NHS guidance on urgent mental health help: CLICK HERESPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the education system is failing the very children it’s meant to help?In this powerful episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with former headteacher, educator and English Channel swimmer Dr Hildi Mitchell to explore a big question:If we could redesign the education system from scratch, what would it look like?Drawing on decades of experience inside schools, Hildi shares why emotional literacy, safety, belonging and play are just as important as academic achievement, and why many children are currently being asked to fit into a system that wasn’t built for them.We talk about SATs, neurodiversity, mental health, leadership in schools, and why true success should be measured by the impact we have on others, not just grades or results.Hildi also shares the deeply personal story of supporting her daughter through school anxiety, and what swimming the English Channel taught her about resilience, humility and asking for help.This is an important conversation for parents, teachers, school leaders and anyone who believes education needs to evolve.CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction02:15 What does success mean in education?10:57 Are we starting formal education too early?19:33 The mental health cost of the current school system39:24 Supporting children who struggle with school56:15 If we redesigned education from scratch1:09:22 Teaching children they are enough1:25:04 Advice for parents1:36:02 Lessons from swimming the English Channel🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Dr Hildi MitchellInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmitchellswimsthechannel/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I'm okay… but I’m not all right.”What happens when strong men finally answer that question honestly?In this game-changing episode, I sit down with Paul Jukes, leader of The Outta Puff Daddies, to explore masculinity, mental health, joy, community… and the power of simply asking:You Alright Mate?Paul shares his deeply personal story of living through a mental health crisis in 2018, despite a loving upbringing, strong friendships, and a seemingly “successful” life on the outside.Daily physical pain.Emotional isolation.Breaking point on a family holiday.And the moment that changed everything.From that darkness came something extraordinary:A brotherhood of men.A dance crew that went viral.A movement built on joy, humour, and emotional honesty.And lives being saved through community.We explore the big question:Can movement, humour and community unlock conversations that traditional mental health messaging struggles to reach?This is a conversation about redefining masculinity, not replacing strength, but widening it.Not revolution.Evolution.And if you care about men’s mental health, fatherhood, purpose, identity or redefining success, this episode will stay with you.⏱️ Timestamps00:00 – Introduction03:00 – Financial pressure, identity & letting go07:30 – Modern masculinity: Evolution, not revolution12:20 – Teaching emotional literacy to the next generation15:10 – What is success (and does it change over time?)21:30 – Identity, purpose & empty nest transitions29:45 – Who was Paul before Outta Puff Daddies?36:00 – The shoulder injury & silent mental decline42:50 – Breaking point on holiday45:50 – The power of finally talking50:30 – The “glass of water” analogy (powerful moment)55:00 – Why community is the real toolkit1:02:00 – The man who said, “You saved my life.”1:07:30 – Why joy is essential in men’s mental health1:11:00 – The Outta Puff Daddies story & viral growth1:20:00 – 40 million views… but what really matters1:27:00 – Self-care, glimmers & finding joy1:41:30 – If Paul were Prime Minister tomorrow…1:45:30 – Final reflection: Can joy unlock the conversation?🔥 Key ThemesMasculinity redefinedVulnerability as strengthCommunity as protectionEmotional literacy in boysThe danger of silent sufferingWhy “just talk” isn’t enough without safe spacesMovement as medicineJoy as a gateway to healingPurpose beyond performance🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Paul JukesWebsite: https://www.outtapuffdaddys.co.uk/Instagram: @outtapuffdaddiesTikTok: @outtapuffdaddiesLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pauljukes/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below.Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does success really look like when life forces you to slow down?In this episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with founder and HERstory creator Stephanie Prior at a pivotal moment in her life, 33 weeks pregnant, scaling her business, and learning to let go of control.But this isn’t just a conversation about pregnancy or entrepreneurship.It’s about identity.It’s about leadership.It’s about redefining success beyond performance, perfection and proving yourself.Stephanie opens up about:Growing up navigating identity, belonging and racismThe turning point at 16 that reshaped her pathFrom pageantry to public life, and what representation really meansBuilding HERstory into one of Sussex’s leading women-in-business platformsThe fear of losing control as a founderDelegation, leadership and commercialising her businessWhy success isn’t just money, it’s self-belief, gratitude and legacyAs Stephanie prepares for motherhood, she reflects on ambition, vulnerability and what it means to build something that doesn’t depend entirely on you.This is a powerful case study in redefining success in real time.⏱️ Chapters00:00 – Introduction02:24 – Delegation, leadership and commercialising the business07:41 – Early career, mentorship and full-circle moments14:09 – What does success really mean?18:34 – Identity, school, and finding perspective21:10 – The Gambia trip that changed everything29:00 – Belonging, racism and confidence36:45 – Pageantry and representation44:22 – The origin of HERstory49:48 – Creating space in business1:03:29 – Entrepreneurship wasn’t the plan1:13:19 – Pregnancy, control and fear1:25:22 – Ambition, motherhood and the next chapter1:30:36 – What she’d tell her younger self🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Stephanie PriorWebsite: https://prior-media.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missstephanieprior/LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-prior-67903b84💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this deeply honest episode, I sit down with Laura Beddoe (Soul Speaks) to talk about what happens behind the “successful” exterior, the stories we run in our heads, the pain we hide, and the moment you decide: enough.Laura shares her journey from a chaotic childhood, people-pleasing and toxic relationships, to homelessness and standing on the edge… and the tiny glimmers that helped her choose life, rebuild her identity, and create real freedom, not just money and “nice things,” but freedom of mind, presence, and self-worth.This is a conversation about mental health, addiction, boundaries, self-love, emotional literacy, parenting, and hope, and why the most powerful success is the one you feel on the inside.If you’re struggling right now, please hear this: nothing is permanent, and you don’t have to carry it alone.⏱️ Chapters00:00 – Introduction02:16 – Check-in: Year of the Snake, shedding what no longer serves you05:19 – Why we avoid silence (and how emotions move through the body)07:40 – Therapy, stigma, and the generational shift around emotions09:20 – School, control, and teaching kids emotional literacy15:10 – Laura’s definition of success: freedom of mind & freedom of choice19:30 – Choosing change (without needing to hit rock bottom)28:50 – Laura’s childhood, adoption, “the naughty girl” identity & ADHD34:57 – Breaking cycles: responsibility, boundaries, and saying “no”39:08 – Presence, anxiety vs depression, and catching the old story returning47:38 – Practical tools: mindfulness, journaling, EFT tapping53:15 – Laura’s rock bottom: coercive control, debt, homelessness01:01:07 – The moment that snapped: “This is your wake-up call”01:05:52 – Hope, glimmers, and not knowing what beautiful future you might miss01:15:43 – Patterns, addiction, compassion, and choosing better inputs01:35:03 – Vulnerability vs oversharing (and asking permission)01:41:23 – People-pleasing, self-abandonment, and new standards01:44:10 – Storytelling card: staying emotionally present with loved ones01:45:35 – Closing reflections + Laura’s free gift🧠 Key themes you’ll take away“Uncomfortable emotions” don’t last forever — but avoidance keeps them aliveConfidence isn’t loud… it’s self-trustBoundaries aren’t selfish — they’re self-respectAddiction often masks pain; healing requires compassion and accountabilityThe future can hold what you can’t imagine — if you stay🎁 Laura’s free gift“The 9 Reasons Why You’re Not Getting Paid To Speak” (free download)➡️ Email: [email protected]🔗 Connect with Laura BeddeoLaura references her work through Soul Speaks, and supports clients with visibility, public speaking, mindset and transformation.➡️ Add links here:Website: https://www.laurabeddoe.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura_beddoe_coach.mentor/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laura-beddoe-collins/🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.⚠️ Support note (please read)This episode includes discussion of suicidal ideation, domestic abuse, addiction, and mental health crises.If you’re in the UK & Ireland and you need someone right now:Samaritans (24/7): 116 123Text SHOUT to 85258 (UK, 24/7):If you or someone is in immediate danger, call 999.NHS guidance on urgent mental health help: CLICK HERESPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this powerful and deeply human conversation, I sit down with Charlotte Ricca, performance psychologist, former journalist, sea swimmer, horse rider, and passionate advocate for emotional literacy, to explore what success really means when life feels overwhelming.This episode goes far beyond high performance.Charlotte shares candidly about:navigating burnout, anxiety, and periods of depressionchanging her relationship with alcohollearning to sit with discomfort rather than mask itbalancing ambition, motherhood, identity, and self-worthand why choosing connection over being right can transform relationshipsThis is an honest conversation about:✨ mental health✨ parenting✨ redefining success✨ suicide prevention✨ emotional resilience✨ values, purpose, and presenceIf you’ve ever felt pressure to “hold it together”, to perform, or to keep going when things feel heavy — this episode will land.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 – Introduction02:30 – “Are you alright… really?” and showing up authentically07:00 – Finding glimmers: joy, nature, sea swimming & presence11:00 – Alcohol, identity & changing coping mechanisms18:30 – Masking discomfort vs sitting with emotions22:30 – Why confidence follows action (not the other way around)27:00 – Anxiety, fear & reframing pressure as privilege32:00 – Emotional literacy, parenting & allowing children to feel39:00 – Guilt, self-care & choosing yourself without shame45:00 – Identity beyond roles: parent, athlete, professional52:00 – Success, money & redefining what “enough” really means59:00 – Career pivots, purpose & living without regret1:05:00 – Overwhelm, burnout & taking one small step at a time1:12:00 – Depression, hope & why feelings always pass1:18:00 – Suicide prevention: asking the hard questions1:26:00 – Teaching kids emotional regulation & resilience1:34:00 – Intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation1:41:00 – Living in alignment with your values1:56:00 – Advice to younger self2:04:00 – Final question: choosing connection over being right🎧 KEY TAKEAWAYYou don’t need to fix everything.You don’t need to feel “on” all the time.Sometimes, staying alive, staying present, and taking one small step is success.🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Charlotte RiccaWebsite: https://kindabrilliant.co.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charlottericca/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlotte-ricca/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Rivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎬 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I thought my 100th podcast episode was the start of my journey.I didn’t realise it would change everything.Recorded the day after my 47th birthday, this 18-minute solo episode reflects on the most transformative year of my life, not the easiest, not the most “successful,” but the most honest.A year of silence.Sobriety.Relationships changing shape.Asking for help.And finally facing the question I’d spent years avoiding:Why am I not enough?In this episode, I share the lessons I learnt, the breakdowns, and the moments that rebuilt me.We explore:Redefining success beyond money and statusThe Five Pillars of Success as lived experienceMale mental health, vulnerability, and asking for helpSobriety, self-worth, and sitting with discomfortWhy connection, not achievement, saved meThis episode marks a shift.From building businesses to building a movement.From push motivation to pull motivation.From wearing many hats… to finally choosing the right one.If you’re navigating change, feeling lost, or quietly struggling, this episode isn’t here to give you answers.It’s here to give you permission.Because sometimes the bravest thing you can say is:"Help"⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 – Introduction01:45 – Stripping Life Back: Silence & Sobriety03:20 – The Five Pillars of Success05:40 – When Relationships Change Shape07:50 – “Why Am I Not Enough?”10:20 – When It Got Dark12:40 – Asking for Help14:30 – Clarity, Purpose & Letting Go15:50 – From Business to Movement17:00 – I Am Enough🎧 MORE EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast💡 If this resonated, please like, share, and comment, it helps spread this message and challenge how we define success.SPONSORED BY:Carpenter Box | Brown Bear Studios | Rivervale | Plus XSPECIAL EPISODE PRODUCED BY:Matt Cheney - Brown Bear Studios Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this deep, thoughtful conversation, I am joined by entrepreneur, technologist and systems-thinker Neil Witten to explore what success really means, and why so many of us feel disconnected from the lives we’re building.Neil has spent years questioning the systems we’re told to follow in education, work, entrepreneurship and culture, and asking a more human question instead:“What am I uniquely designed to do?”Together, Neil and I explore:Why success has become overly defined by money, status and productivityThe hidden cost of ignoring curiosity, play and soft skillsWhy many people wait for crisis before changing their livesThe role parents, schools and culture play in shaping identityWhy self-awareness may be the most important skill of the futureThis is not a conversation about hacks or shortcuts.It’s about listening to your gut, working on yourself, and choosing alignment over approval.If you’ve ever felt like you’re climbing the wrong ladder…If you’ve questioned the systems you’ve inherited…Or if you’re quietly asking “Is this really it?” .. this episode is for you.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 – Introduction03:30 – Why we struggle to talk honestly (especially men)10:45 – How culture hijacked our definition of success18:40 – Purpose, play & being wired for something30:15 – Education, neurodiversity & one-size-fits-all systems42:10 – Soft skills, hiring & the future of work55:30 – Childhood, curiosity & learning outside the system1:10:45 – Entrepreneurship, risk & waiting for permission1:28:20 – Parenting, autonomy & enabling potential1:45:10 – Creating your own catalysts for change2:02:30 – Letting go, evolution & redefining your role2:18:40 – Final reflections: living true to yourself🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Neil WittenWebsite: https://www.pigsinflight.co.uk/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/neilwitten/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below.Your support helps us change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BYRivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎙️ PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when you’ve done everything “right”… but still feel worthless, lost, and exhausted by your own mind?In this deeply honest and moving episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with Matt Cheney, creative producer, storyteller, and someone who has quietly fought one of the hardest battles of all: the one inside his own head.Matt opens up about late ADHD diagnosis, imposter syndrome, self-worth, burnout, grief, suicide attempts, and the masks many men wear just to survive. He shares how losing his father, his relationship, his career structure, his identity, and his sense of belonging brought him to rock bottom, and how a single moment, a run, and one unexpected email helped him choose to keep going.This is not a story about “fixing yourself.”It’s about learning how to live with yourself.If you’ve ever:• Felt like you weren’t enough• Lived with a relentless inner critic• Been successful on the outside but empty inside• Struggled to accept love, compliments, or rest• Wondered if it’s possible to keep goingThis conversation will stay with you.⏱️ Episode Chapters00:00 – Introduction01:21 – “You Alright Mate?” check-in02:54 – Shiny objects vs investing in yourself07:35 – Redefining success beyond money12:30 – Loving your work… but hating yourself16:13 – Creativity, kids & permission to try22:14 – Childhood, belonging & emotional safety28:51 – Rugby, leadership & fear of failure32:58 – ADHD, masking & self-worth40:20 – Parents, caregiving & inherited patterns49:05 – Imposter syndrome & burnout56:00 – Relationships, vulnerability & being seen1:06:51 – Injury, grief & losing everything1:18:42 – Suicide attempts & the pain beneath them1:19:34 – The email that changed everything1:28:56 – “You are the sky, everything else is weather”1:35:50 – Learning to live with the inner critic1:46:29 – Giving without needing anything back1:53:29 – Silence, endurance & the meaning of “keep going”2:08:20 – Advice for anyone feeling lost2:12:27 – A life well lived💬 Key Themes Explored• ADHD & late diagnosis• Imposter syndrome• Masculinity & emotional literacy• Suicide, grief & recovery• Self-worth vs external success• Receiving love & compliments• Identity beyond achievement• Why “keeping going” matters🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Matt Cheneyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/mattcheney1/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment. Your support helps us change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BYRivervale – https://www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://www.brownbearstudio.co.ukCarpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com🎙️ PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when life forces you to face the one thing most of us avoid thinking about?In this deeply honest and moving episode, I sit down with Gavin O’Donoghue, who shares his journey living with stage 4 metastatic melanoma, the reality of a terminal diagnosis, and the mindset shifts that have helped him keep showing up with hope, humour and heart.This is a powerful conversation about presence, fatherhood, friendship, legacy, and what success really means when the “big stuff” is stripped away.If you or someone you love is navigating illness, grief, anxiety, or simply feeling overwhelmed by life, this episode is a reminder that connection, love, and meaning are the real measures of a life well lived.Chapters00:00:02 Introduction00:00:47 Gavin’s honest answer: “Life is pretty tough right now”00:08:12 Hope as a lifeline in dark moments00:08:47 The power of presence + “the greatest Christmas ever”00:09:58 Was Gavin always present, or did cancer change that?00:10:36 Work, busyness, and the struggle to switch off00:13:50 Society’s pressure, productivity, and the “success” trap00:15:03 Gavin’s old definition of success vs. what it became00:24:26 Leadership lessons: helping others win00:26:34 Giving, reciprocity, and building a “personal board of directors”00:36:07 Teaching kids success before crisis forces the lesson00:37:56 What really matters at the end of life00:44:35 Curiosity, learning, and taking control where you can00:45:13 Mindset tools: breathwork, gratitude, and community support00:54:38 Why vulnerability is strength (and isolation makes it harder)00:57:04 “That’s what makes you rich” — relationships as real wealth00:59:17 Men, friendship, banter, and why community matters01:01:02 Creating legacy: recording stories for his boys01:05:49 The balance between hope and realism01:07:33 Why we avoid talking about death (and what we miss)01:09:52 Gavin’s diagnosis story: from stage 2 to stage 401:25:16 How Gavin keeps going after setbacks01:25:39 Purpose, therapy, goals, and finding reasons to keep moving01:35:32 The Open qualifier: “my biggest f*** you to cancer”01:39:13 The example he’s setting for his children01:42:22 The “A-grade letter” exercise + “Go brave”01:55:19 Paying it forward: Wolo, awareness, and impact01:57:57 Biggest life lessons: love, honesty, vulnerability, meaning02:13:14 Closing words + “Go brave”🧠 Key themes in this episodeLiving with terminal cancer and staying human in itHope vs. realism: holding both at the same timePresence, gratitude, and the small moments that become everythingFriendship, banter, love, and why men need communityLegacy: creating memories for your children while you still canRedefining success beyond money, status and achievementGavin’s life tools: curiosity, journaling, breathwork, therapy, humour👤 About Gavin O’DonoghueGavin is an executive search consultant with 20 years’ experience in financial markets. Since 2019 he has been living with melanoma, and following a stage 4 diagnosis, he has endured multiple treatments while continuing to show up for his family, his friends, and his purpose with honesty, humour and heart.💬 Quote to sit with“Success now is hugging my boys… being present… love… connection… the simple stuff.”✅ If this episode resonated…Please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs a bit of hope today.And if you’re going through something right now send the text. Ask the question.Those three words can matter more than we realise.🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Gavin O’DonoghueInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/odonoghue.gavin/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gavin-o-donoghue-12ba5312/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:RivervaleBrown Bear StudiosCarpenter BoxPRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the secret to better business, better parenting and better mental health was… letting go of control?In this powerful, reflective conversation, I sit down with culture-change consultant and “buddish” thinker Jon Barnes (Pala) to talk about rewilding organisations, autonomy, depression, silent retreats, parenting, Buddhism, phones, presence and what it really means to be human.We explore how to move from command-and-control to self-managing, autonomous teams, how tiny experiments can transform culture, and why CEOs often save two days a week when they stop making every decision.Jon also shares openly about his dangerous depression, how a 10-day silent retreat changed his relationship with his thoughts, the difference between having anger vs being angry, and why he now calls himself “buddish”.This episode weaves perfectly into the You Alright Mate? mission and my Five Pillars of Success, especially Presence, Balance, Authenticity and Relationships and asks how we can equip both adults and kids to sit with their emotions in a world designed to distract us.🔍 In this episode we explore:How Jon went from hierarchy to rewilding organisations and self-managed teamsWhy autonomy at work can save leaders days each week (and create happier teams)Simple culture shifts: meetings, decisions & information sharing as leverage pointsParenting, failure and letting our kids do what lights them upJon’s story of clinical depression, SSRIs and finding mindfulnessWhat really happens on a 10-day silent meditation retreatThoughts vs emotions – and learning to notice rather than be owned by themPhones, tech, attention & why boredom might be a superpowerBeing “buddish”: Buddhist psychology, compassion & reducing suffering“This too shall pass” as a life toolkit – for the highs and the lows⏱️ CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS00:00 – “You alright mate?” check-in & intro to Jon Barnes06:15 – From traditional schooling to autonomy & a Costa Rica jungle school15:30 – Discovering self-managed teams & a new kind of leadership26:40 – What autonomy really looks like at work (and why CEOs gain 2 days a week)36:20 – Culture change as small experiments & the power of atomic habits45:05 – Rewilding organisations: the Knepp Estate metaphor & letting go of control55:40 – Parenting, autonomy for kids & reframing failure as learning1:05:30 – Meetings, decisions & information sharing as the heart of culture1:15:00 – Hitting the wall: depression, burnout and calling in sick to life1:27:30 – Inside a 10-day silent retreat: thoughts, emotions & the noisy mind1:40:10 – Tech Monopolies, smartphones & the attention economy1:50:20 – Teaching presence & emotional literacy to children2:00:00 – Peak experiences, the lake moment & “this too shall pass”2:10:10 – Being “buddish”: compassion, suffering & altered traits2:22:50 – Top Table card question on boundaries & closing reflections🎙️ ABOUT JON BARNESJon Barnes is a culture-change consultant, facilitator and co-founder of Pala, helping organisations move from rigid hierarchies to more autonomous, human-centred ways of working. His work draws on ideas from rewilding, permaculture, mindfulness and Buddhist psychology, and he’s the author of books including Tech Monopolies. Jon describes himself as “buddish” not religious, but deeply influenced by Buddhist thought and the practice of mindfulness.🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Jon BarnesWebsite: https://teampala.co.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jonbarnesdotme/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonbarnesdotme/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.🤝 SPONSORED BY:Rivervale – www.rivervale.co.ukBrown Bear Studios – https://brownbearstudios.co.uk/Carpenter Box – https://www.carpenterbox.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this powerful episode, entrepreneur and endurance athlete Bruce Bignell joins me to share an honest, inspiring and deeply reflective journey, from childhood trauma and blended family life, to building a tech business, redefining leadership, and becoming the kind of man his younger self needed.Bruce opens up about growing up between private school and state school, navigating complex family dynamics, searching for male role models, and the challenges young boys face today in a world of algorithms, screens and identity confusion. He explores how social media shapes validation, why kids are outsourcing self-worth to strangers online, and what parents must do to help them reconnect to real life, real people, and real values.He also shares how a 3-month period of radical change, running ultramarathons, rowing the Channel, and transforming his nutrition, completely shifted his mindset and taught him how to back himself when everything felt impossible.We dive into:Success: health, wealth, wisdomMasculinity: raising boys, male role models & blended familiesMental health: resilience, identity & future self thinkingLeadership: calm in crisis, inspiring change, seeing opportunityRisk: starting Evolve during Covid, hitting £70 in the bank, rebuildingChildhood: class, trauma, intuition, grounding and learningTechnology: AI, humanity & why people will always matterPersonal growth: redefining how you want your story to goBruce’s story is emotional, practical, honest and incredibly useful for anyone navigating business, fatherhood, mental health or big life transitions.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 – Introduction03:17 – “You alright mate?” Bruce checks in04:46 – Lessons from a tough year06:54 – Success = health, wealth & wisdom09:44 – Lifelong learning & curiosity10:44 – Teenage Bruce: success, football & business17:00 – Class, identity & bridging different worlds20:42 – Male role models & blended families24:32 – Masculinity & the Lost Boys25:41 – Teens, rebellion & identity31:31 – Social media & outsourcing validation36:30 – Intrinsic vs extrinsic self-worth41:04 – Early business exposure46:04 – Sales, rejection & resilience54:51 – Crisis, clarity & leadership57:54 – What makes a true leader?1:02:15 – Work Up & endurance challenges1:07:51 – Nutrition & trusting his body1:19:36 – Risk, money & resilience1:23:03 – “There’s always another way”1:31:03 – Building Evolve1:35:49 – How we respond to life1:47:00 – Future self vs current behaviour2:00:40 – Advice to 16-year-old Bruce🔗 CONNECT WITH BRUCELinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brucebignell🎧 LISTEN TO MORE EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcastSPONSORED BY:Brown Bear Audio 👉 https://brownbearstudios.co.uk/Carpenter Box 👉 https://www.carpenterbox.com/Rivervale 👉 rivervale.co.ukProduced by: H2 Productions  www.h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does success really look like once you’ve “made it”?In this powerful conversation, I sit down with entrepreneur and former RocketMill CEO Sam Garrity for a deep and emotional exploration of ambition, success, fear, leadership, culture, mental health and reinvention.Sam shares how RocketMill grew from a Yellow Pages idea to a high-growth agency, built on people-first culture and relentless belief. He opens up about anxiety, panic attacks, childhood trauma and the fear of embarrassment that silently shaped his drive.He reveals the benefits and the cost of being “all in”: the emotional load, the mental space it consumed, the presence he lost at home, and why selling the company brought grief and joy.This episode dives into:• Panic attacks, anxiety and the roots of self-belief• The fierce drive behind RocketMill, and the application behind “All in” mentality • Culture, leadership and why behaviours matter more than values on a wall• The emotional reality of selling a company, the euphoria and the grief• Rebuilding identity, relationships and purpose after the exit• Breathwork, emotional release and healing old wounds• Why pride, integrity and community now matter more than everIt’s raw, human, inspiring and full of lessons for anyone chasing big goals, navigating change, or trying to understand what success really means.🕒 CHAPTERS0:00 – Introduction 5:13 – “You alright mate?” — honest check-in7:28 – Redefining success through purpose9:04 – Success evolving through childhood → adulthood17:27 – Ambition vs purpose19:09 – What really drives Sam21:11 – Upbringing, instability & resilience27:05 – Fear of failure & self-belief31:12 – Embarrassment, failure & reframing it42:26 – Early career: Express, Daily Mail & culture55:36 – The birth of RocketMill1:00:00 – Betting the farm & starting from nothing1:02:07 – “Are we all in?” — the RocketMill mentality1:07:32 – Sacrifice: being there but not present1:12:32 – Advice to founders: be braver1:13:59 – Pushing the boulder uphill1:26:17 – COVID: guaranteeing 200 jobs1:28:50 – People-first culture in action1:30:17 – Selling the company — everyone wins1:39:31 – Euphoria & grief after the sale1:50:00 – Breathwork, emotion & healing1:51:26 – Community, Samaritans & purpose2:00:45 – Seek pride in everything you do2:02:34 – Storytelling card2:05:26 – Closing reflectionsA profound conversation for founders, leaders, parents, creators, anyone striving to succeed while staying grounded, healthy and human.🔗 SPONSORSBrown Bear Audio – Elite podcast studio. 👉 https://brownbearstudios.co.uk/Carpenter Box – Accountancy & advisory specialists. 👉 https://www.carpenterbox.com/Rivervale – Making motoring manageable. 👉 rivervale.co.ukProduced by: H2 Productions – h2productions.co.uk🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

⚠️ Warning ⚠️ This episode contains content that may be alarming to some listeners. We do talk about suicide which we know can be distressing.What happens when the “good guy” from Big Brother – the man who seemed confident, calm, and collected – finally removes the mask?In the opening episode of Series 9, filmed at our incredible new home Brown Bear Studios, Jason Burrill sits down for his first ever deep mental-health interview, and it’s one of the most powerful conversations we’ve ever had.Jason reveals the truth behind the success, the fame, the acting career, the public persona… and the hidden mental health battles he’s carried since childhood bullying at age 11.For decades he lived behind an act, Batman on stage, Bond on film sets, Big Brother winner on TV, while secretly battling anxiety, PTSD, emotional shutdown, fear, avoidance, and a near-fatal mental health crash that left him planning to end his life.In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Jason shares:How bullying shaped every part of his adult lifeWhy he couldn’t walk into Tesco, but could walk into the Big Brother houseHow success became a mask, not a feelingHis darkest moment… and the phone call that saved himWhy men struggle to open upHow we can change the narrative for our sons, friends, fathers and future generationsThis episode is a must-watch for anyone interested in men’s mental health, resilience, trauma, identity, and redefining success beyond money, fame or status.🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Jason BurrillInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jasonburrill/SPONSORED BY:Brown Bear Studios - https://brownbearstudios.co.uk/Carpenter Box - https://www.carpenterbox.com/Rivervale – www.rivervale.co.ukPRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/*If you’ve been affected by any of the topics in today’s episode, please reach out to local support services or find resources via Samaritans (UK) or equivalent helplines in your country. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Series 8 has been one of the most powerful yet, a season of raw honesty, deep reflection, and inspiring resilience. Across sixteen extraordinary conversations, we’ve explored what it truly means to live, love, and lead with authenticity.From suicidal ideation to self-acceptance, childhood loss to creative rebirth, OCD to bipolar, miscarriage to motherhood, each story redefined success not as wealth or status, but as presence, purpose, and the courage to ask for help.This finale brings together the highlights and trailers from Series 8 (Episodes 115–130).💡 Key Lessons from Series 8Success is a feeling of alignment, not a finish lineAsking for help is a gift, to yourself and othersAutonomy, Mastery, and Purpose are the real drivers of fulfilmentEmotional education matters as much as academic achievementFrom darkness can come light, connection, and meaningThe real measure of success? Presence over perfection🕒 CHAPTERS & GUESTS00:00 — Daniel Wilsher (E115) 01:24 — Joel Lawton (E116) 02:43 — Simon Chuter (E117) 04:27 — Sam Adams  (E118)05:55 — Asis Patel (E119) 07:13 — Howie McConnell (E120) 09:04 — Ashley Usiskin (E121) 11:14 — Abi Mellor (E122) 12:36 — David Eakins (E123) 14:25 — Oly Newton (E124)15:07 — Jon Kennett (E125) 16:53 — Max Marshall (E126) 19:17 — Dr Carlos Saba (E127) 21:59 — Sarah Willingham (E128) 23:21 — Jonathan Lea (E129) 25:03 — Matthew White (E130) 🌱 Closing ReflectionFrom the depths of despair to the light of discovery, Series 8 reminded us that success isn’t measured by wealth or fame, but by how deeply we live and love. Every story, every voice, every moment shared helps shift the narrative, one honest conversation at a time.If this series moved you, share this episode with someone who needs it.And if you’re struggling, remember: asking for help is strength, not weakness.🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 SPONSORED BY:Search Seven — www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove — www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale — www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X — https://www.plusxinnovation.com/🎬 PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At 39, Matthew White’s world changed overnight. A seizure on the football pitch led to a devastating diagnosis, an extensive, incurable brain tumour. In this deeply emotional Different Hats Series 8 finale, Matthew shares his journey of survival, hope, and redefining success in the face of uncertainty.He opens up about the physical and emotional battles of brain surgery, radiotherapy, and chemotherapy, and the profound lessons he’s learned along the way, about time, presence, gratitude, love, vulnerability, and what it really means to live.Through his writing and advocacy, Matthew has become a voice for resilience and change, challenging stereotypes about masculinity, illness, and success. His words are raw, real, and profoundly moving.“I’ve learned to disregard time. It doesn’t matter how long or short it is, it’s what you do with it that matters.” — Matthew WhiteJoin Matthew and I was we explore themes of identity, perspective, vulnerability, fatherhood, curiosity, emotional literacy, and the courage to keep learning, no matter what life brings.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 – Introduction05:30 – Redefining success and identity after illness10:00 – Living authentically vs. living society’s narrative15:00 – The importance of curiosity, learning, and participation20:00 – Finding joy in the small things25:30 – The seizure, the scan, and hearing the words “It’s cancer”33:00 – Family resilience and being home for Christmas39:00 – Controlling the controllables42:30 – Balancing hope and realism45:00 – Documenting his journey to help others49:00 – Processing trauma and finding control through learning56:00 – “Don’t give up — it will get better”1:03:00 – Building emotional intelligence through psychotherapy1:10:00 – Finding his voice again1:17:00 – The power of asking for help1:23:00 – Creating a cocoon of support and redefining vulnerability1:30:00 – Lessons from his children1:38:00 – Rethinking time and what really matters1:45:00 – The evolved version of Matthew White1:48:00 – Perspective: what really matters each day1:50:00 – The biggest lesson of all: never stop learning1:52:00 – Messages for his wife and children1:55:00 – Living in hope and staying one step ahead🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Matthew WhiteInstagram: @livingwithabraintumour💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below.Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.🎙️ SPONSORED BYSearch Seven – www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove – www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale – www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X – https://www.plusxinnovation.com/🎥 PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does true success really mean? In this inspiring conversation, I sit down with Sarah Willingham, entrepreneur, investor, former Dragon on BBC’s Dragons’ Den, and co-owner of the Brighton i360.Sarah opens up about:✨ Why she believes success is freedom, the ability to meander through life on your own terms.✨ The heartbreaking loss of her soulmate during Covid and what he taught her about presence, happiness, and living fully.✨ Her bold decision to take her four children out of school for three years to travel the world and why she calls it the best decision of her life.✨ The challenges of entrepreneurship in hospitality, surviving Covid, and leading through tough times.✨ Why she doesn’t believe in a career path but instead a life path building businesses and choices around lifestyle, values, and family.✨ The lessons she’d tell her 20-year-old self (and why polishing basil leaves became her metaphor for life).This raw and honest conversation shines a light on redefining success away from money, fame, or status, and instead towards balance, freedom, and presence.If you’ve ever felt trapped by society’s blueprint for life, Sarah’s story will inspire you to carve your own path and embrace the beauty of just being.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 Defining success: freedom & presence06:00 Curiosity, chaos & why Sarah loves variety13:30 The flawed dictionary definition of success17:00 Walking, nature & recalibrating from adrenaline26:00 Diarising “nothing” & finding presence28:30 Taking kids out of school to travel the world39:00 Challenging the education system53:00 Finding her “thing” in business1:01:00 Entrepreneurship, resilience & the WHY1:07:30 Surviving hospitality during Covid1:10:30 Balance, chaos & polishing basil leaves1:14:20 Advice to her 20-year-old self1:17:00 What does a life well lived look like?🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Sarah WillinghamWebsite: https://sarahwilligham.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahwillingham/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Preston Insurance: https://prestoninsurancebrokers.co.uk/ - Episode SponsorSearch Seven www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove  www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale  www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does it really mean to live a successful life? Is success about achievements, wealth, or status or is it something much deeper?In this powerful episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with my good friend Dr. Carlos Saba, co-founder of The Happy Startup School. Carlos shares his journey from chasing external markers of success to redefining it as a feeling of alignment, acceptance, and agency.We dive into:The evolving definition of success beyond money and milestonesEmotional intelligence and why schools must nurture curiosity, not just gradesWhy shame, comparison, and old money stories hold us backThe idea of “Happy Money” and how our stories around money shape our livesMidlife transitions, the “second mountain,” and asking Who am I becoming?How to create your own blueprint for life and stop living by outdated societal narrativesThis conversation is packed with wisdom on presence, purpose, and emotional awareness, reminding us all that success is not about having more, but about being more.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 – Intro What is Happy Money?06:02 – Redefining success as a feeling of alignment07:31 – From black belts to diaries: chasing early success goals12:45 – Why being still is so hard in today’s society17:56 – Childhood, conditioning & the stories we inherit21:27 – Is the school system broken? Emotional literacy & curiosity26:27 – Parents, teachers & environments shaping emotional awareness29:08 – Rage, shame & teaching children emotional intelligence32:43 – Can we measure emotional intelligence like grades?37:48 – The “Second Mountain” of purpose & contribution42:45 – Finding your values and purpose vs. chasing titles48:21 – Questioning the life blueprint: marriage, career & curiosity53:14 – Compassion, forgiveness & letting go of “the one way”55:41 – Feeling stuck? Where to start with transition59:10 – The First Mountain vs. the Second Mountain1:01:43 – Redefining money: Happy Money & financial stories1:09:51 – Scarcity, shame & abundance1:13:29 – What is happiness? Acceptance & agency1:15:35 – Responsibility, awareness & self-compassion1:18:31 – Life as an adventure, not a scoreboard1:20:29 – Chaos, stories & infinite games1:25:24 – Death, joy & making the game better1:29:13 – Agency, acceptance & connection1:30:13 – Summer camp, friendship & fulfillment1:33:30 – The key midlife question: Who am I becoming?1:36:02 – Closing tradition: Storytelling card reflection🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Dr. Carlos SabaWebsite: https://www.happystartupschool.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carlossaba💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven – www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove – www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale – www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X – https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if schools prepared young people not just to pass exams, but to live fulfilled, resilient, and happy lives?In this inspiring conversation, I sit down with Max Marshall, a former teacher who left the classroom after 10 years to disrupt an outdated education system. Max now champions a vision for schools that prioritise emotional intelligence, resilience, and self-confidence over rote learning.Together, we explore how redefining success for children could transform not just education, but the future mental health of our society. From Habits for Happiness to emotional tolerance, Max shares practical ideas for parents, teachers, and leaders and why teaching children to manage their emotions could ultimately save lives.This is one of the most important and game-changing conversations I’ve had on the podcast to date.CHAPTERS:00:00 Introduction – Fixing what schools miss02:30 Max defines success: from popularity to fulfilment07:00 The danger of external validation & social media10:20 Teaching intrinsic success to children15:00 Rethinking competition, failure & resilience23:00 Why schools must change: outdated curriculum27:30 The problem with SATs and measuring success32:40 Emotional intelligence vs academic intelligence40:00 What children really need to thrive in life47:30 Pushback from schools & systemic barriers55:00 Habits for Happiness – practical daily routines1:05:00 Preparing children for secondary school & life1:20:00 Choosing who you want to become1:40:00 What success looks like for the next generation1:52:00 Closing reflections & the Different Hats card🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Max MarshallWebsite: https://lifeeducationcoaching.co.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifeeducationwithmax/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/max-marshall-life-education/Follow Max here 👉 https://linktr.ee/maxmarshall.life.education💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven: www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove:  www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

⚠️ Warning ⚠️ This episode contains content that may be alarming to some listeners. We do talk about suicide which we know can be distressing.In this powerful episode, I sit down with Jon Kennett, agency director, family man, and someone who’s lived through the highs of ambition and the lows of loss.Jon opens up about how his definition of success has shifted over the years from chasing houses, cars, and financial milestones, to focusing on happiness, health, and the relationships that matter most.We dive deep into themes of presence, fulfilment, balance, and relationships from practical business lessons around leadership and networking, to raw, emotional conversations about mental health and suicide. Jon shares the heartbreaking stories of close friends he’s lost, the ripple effects on everyone left behind, and why breaking the stigma around these conversations is so important.This episode is both deeply human and practical with lessons on leadership, resilience, and the everyday sparks of meaning that keep us going.🔑 Key ThemesRedefining what success really meansWhy fulfilment is about the journey, not the destinationBuilding genuine relationships over transactionsLessons from Jon’s father and a childhood immersed in music & performanceMental health, suicide, and the ripple effect of lossLeadership, trust, and putting the right people in the right seatsFamily, presence, and the everyday sparks of meaning⏱️ Chapters00:00 – Opening & introductions03:20 – Redefining success: from cars and houses to health, happiness, and family12:15 – The pursuit vs. the destination: presence and fulfilment20:40 – Networking done right: building relationships, not selling31:00 – Growing up in music, confidence through performance, and lessons from his father42:30 – Validation, highs & lows of the music industry54:10 – Mental health, suicide, and losing a close friend1:06:00 – The ripple effect: multiple friends lost to suicide and how it changed Jon’s outlook1:24:00 – What needs to change: stigma, emotional education, and starting young1:38:00 – Leadership lessons: building trust and putting the right people in the right seats1:46:00 – Advice to a younger self1:47:00 – Staying present as a father and leader1:55:00 – Closing reflections: what sparks meaning in everyday life🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Jon KennettLinkedIn: Jon Kennett💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven – www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove – www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale – www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X – https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/*If you’ve been affected by any of the topics in today’s episode, please reach out to local support services or find resources via Samaritans (UK) or equivalent helplines in your country. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At just 21, Oly Newton’s world was turned upside down. After surviving a severe mental health crisis and living for years with the daily challenges of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), he channelled his pain into purpose, becoming a speaker, advocate, and founder of LightsOnXP, a human-centred workplace wellbeing platform shaped by lived experience.In this powerful conversation, Oly opens up about how OCD has shaped his life, how he learned to manage it, and why it doesn’t define him. We dive into his journey from rock bottom to leading meaningful change, the importance of being truly present, and why human connection remains the most powerful tool for wellbeing in the workplace.This is an open, honest, and deeply human exploration of recovery, hope, resilience, and the courage to keep showing up, even when the lights feel off.Chapters 00:00 —  Introduction04:12 — Oly’s early years and the experiences that shaped him10:05 — Hitting rock bottom: a turning point in his mental health journey17:46 — The power of speaking out and breaking stigma23:30 — Founding LightsOnXP: building a wellbeing platform shaped by lived experience31:18 — Redefining success: from surviving to thriving37:54 — Why human connection is the cornerstone of mental health in the workplace45:22 — Navigating balance and avoiding burnout52:16 — Authenticity and showing up as your whole self58:04 — The role of presence in recovery and leadership1:05:48 — Finding fulfilment in purpose-led work1:12:09 — Relationships, trust, and creating a support network1:19:33 — Practical steps for organisations to support mental health1:27:15 — Living with OCD: challenges and coping strategies1:35:42 — Lessons learned from lived experience1:43:58 — Advice for anyone struggling with mental health right now1:51:25 — Future plans for LightsOnXP and personal growth1:59:50 — Closing reflections & Oly’s definition of success today🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Oly NewtonWebsite: https://www.lightsonxp.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/olynewton/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven — www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove — www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale — www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X — https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions — https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

⚠️ Warning ⚠️ This episode contains content that may be alarming to some listeners. We do talk about suicide which we know can be distressing.At 38, David Eakins was moments away from ending his life on a railway bridge. On the outside, everything looked perfect, a great career, loving family, and strong friendships. But inside, David was silently drowning.In this deeply moving and honest conversation, David opens up about suicidal ideation, masculinity, shame, and his journey to healing. He reveals how a single question, “How are you, out of 10?” became the turning point that led him to therapy, vulnerability, and a new life of presence and purpose.Now leading Talk Club Brighton & Hove, David is helping other men open up and find hope through connection and conversation.This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with trauma, grief or depression, or anyone supporting someone who is, or anyone ready to redefine what strength really means.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 – “I climbed the railings of a bridge…” – David’s darkest moment03:05 – The weight of suicidal ideation: “I didn’t want to end my life… I wanted to end the pain”07:42 – The silent battle at work and feeling lost in plain sight13:18 – Early life, childhood masking, and belief systems about manhood19:50 – Marriage, family dynamics, and fear of being ‘found out’27:05 – The life-changing impact of being asked: “How are you out of 10?”34:40 – First steps into therapy and confronting buried trauma41:12 – Creating safe spaces: the birth of Talk Club Brighton & Hove48:30 – The power of community and emotional accountability56:50 – Shame, masks, and the myth of the 'strong man'1:05:15 – Male friendship, trust, and the art of showing up1:13:42 – Parenting, presence, and breaking generational cycles1:22:18 – When laughter is medicine: humour, humanity and healing1:31:40 – Business, burnout and redefining leadership through empathy1:40:55 – Mental health at work: what employers get wrong1:49:30 – Living with intention and building a new definition of success1:56:50 – David answers the 5 Pillars: Balance, Authenticity, Presence, Fulfilment, Relationships2:04:00 – Final reflections: “Be brave enough to speak before it's too late”🔗 Connect with David EakinsInstagram: @davideakinsLinkedIn: David EakinsWebsite: https://happysapien.co.uk/🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast💬 If this episode resonated, please like, share, and leave a comment. Your support helps spread this vital message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven – www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove – www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale – www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X – https://www.plusxinnovation.com🎥 PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with Abi Mellor, co-founder of award-winning creative agency MOREVER, for a raw and powerful conversation about success, leadership, loss, and living a values-led life.Abi opens up about her journey through motherhood, miscarriage, burnout, and business, sharing how she navigates these deeply personal experiences while leading impactful storytelling campaigns for global changemakers. We explore how her childhood shaped her, what she believes is broken in our education system, and how success for her is measured by love, presence, and purpose, not just performance.We also talk about creating emotionally literate families, leadership with vulnerability, the importance of slowing down, and why honest storytelling matters more than ever in a distracted, digital world.If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at the impossible juggle, or wondered how to hold purpose and pressure at the same time, this one’s for you.⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS00:00 – Intro02:48 – What does success mean to Abi today?05:51 – Childhood, co-parenting & shaping values11:30 – Creating MOREVER & purpose-led storytelling18:44 – Miscarriage, motherhood & the emotional cost of ambition26:20 – Vulnerability in leadership & business burnout35:10 – Reframing failure & making space for slowness40:22 – Phone addiction, presence & parenting in a digital world47:38 – Changing the education system & raising emotionally intelligent kids53:52 – Honest storytelling, holding space & creative leadership58:46 – Being a working mum: guilt, balance & emotional weight1:05:18 – Abi’s partner dynamic & redistributing roles at home1:09:14 – The cost of burnout: body signals & seeking help1:16:10 – Finding strength in slowing down & saying no1:19:42 – Letting go of perfection & embracing emotional truth1:24:00 – Navigating phone addiction and presence in parenting1:29:32 – On grief, miscarriage and language that heals1:35:20 – Changing the story: why emotional literacy matters1:40:48 – Final thoughts on success, love, and the legacy we leave 🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Abi MellorWebsite: https://www.morever.co.uk/Instagram: @moreverfilmsLinkedIn: Abi Mellor💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven – www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove – www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale – www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X – https://www.plusxinnovation.com/🎬 PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this powerful and deeply human conversation, Sam sits down with Ashley Usiskin, coach, speaker, and founder of The Gift of Help, to explore what true strength looks like in a world that often rewards silence and independence.Ashley opens up about losing his mum at age five and how that loss hardwired him to become emotionally self-sufficient. But when a life-threatening cancer diagnosis forced him to accept support, he had to completely reframe what it meant to ask for help, and more importantly, receive it.This episode is an invitation to rewrite outdated scripts around masculinity, vulnerability, and success. Ashley speaks openly about childhood grief, emotional suppression, the school system, and the profound impact of mentorship. Together, he and Sam reflect on the resilience of children, the need for emotional intelligence in education, and why helping others starts with giving them the chance to help you.This isn’t just about healing. It’s about legacy. It’s about rewriting the rules so that future generations don’t have to unlearn them.🎧 CHAPTERS & TIMESTAMPS:00:00 | What Is Success?00:39 | Childhood Trauma & Early Loss01:16 | Cancer Diagnosis & The Gift of Help04:33 | Redefining Success Through Connection10:29 | Challenging Cultural Narratives17:12 | Emotional Intelligence in Education33:22 | Vulnerability and Masculinity47:42 | Learning to Ask for Help54:03 | Receiving Support with Gratitude58:17 | Brotherhood and Shared Grief1:05:03 | Facing Mortality: What Truly Matters1:15:03 | Final Reflection: What Would You Tell Little You?🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Ashley UsiskinWebsite: https://thegiftofhelp.org/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gift_of_accepting_help_podcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleyusiskin/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY:H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Howie McConnell has lived many lives: club promoter, DJ, designer, car salesman, creative founder, and a man who faced the darkest moment of his life and found the courage to rebuild.⚠️ Warning ⚠️ This episode contains content that may be alarming to some listeners. We do talk about suicide which we know can be distressing.In this deeply honest and inspiring conversation, Howie opens up about his late ADHD diagnosis, his journey through a divorce, redundancy during COVID, and the moment he nearly took his life. But it's also a story of resilience, reinvention, and creativity. From running iconic Brighton clubs to founding 28th Street Media, Howie shares how creativity saved his life, how fatherhood fuels his purpose, and what it means to live authentically, with “peace in the chaos.”Together we explore themes of masculinity, neurodiversity, emotional intelligence, and the power of being seen. This one’s not just for creatives or entrepreneurs, it’s for anyone navigating change, looking to heal, or wondering how to turn pain into purpose.⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 – From Darkness to Light: Howie’s rock bottom moment03:04 – Defining Success: A triple-header view on peace, presence & parenthood06:34 – Early Hustles, Millionaire Dreams & Fur-Covered Lighters07:31 – School, Dyslexia & Creativity Suppressed10:00 – What’s Broken in the Education System?14:18 – Work Ethic, Essex Roots & Family Influence16:20 – DJing, Honey Club & The Creative Scene24:12 – The Origin of 28th Street Media25:34 – Juggling Jobs, Redundancy & Survival27:39 – COVID: The Worst and Best Time31:24 – Health Wake-Up Call: From 20 Stone to Ultra-Marathons33:05 – Midlife Awakening or ADHD Clarity?39:46 – The Gift of Listening (Not Fixing)43:52 – Late ADHD Diagnosis at 4550:00 – Advice for Newly Diagnosed Adults56:43 – Mental Health, Food Banks & The Knife Moment58:48 – The Camera That Saved My Life1:10:21 – Goal-Setting, Self-Motivation & Creative Grit1:17:17 – Launching a Neurodivergent Clothing Line1:21:15 – Being at Peace: Redefining Success through Contentment🔗 CONNECT WITH HOWIE MCCONNELLWebsite: https://www.28thstreetmedia.co.ukInstagram: @28thstreetmediaLinkedIn: Howie McConnell🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below.Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven – www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove – www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale – www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X – https://www.plusxinnovation.comPRODUCED BY:H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Success is when you can take the mask off… and be Spider-Man and Peter Parker at the same time.”In one of the most vulnerable, profound, and creatively powerful episodes of Different Hats to date, Sam sits down with illustrator, storyteller, and creative genius Asis Patel.Asis opens up about his journey growing up without his biological father, the bold decision his mother made to leave an arranged marriage, and how that shaped his identity, masculinity, and artistic expression.In a raw and heartfelt conversation, Asis shares the first time publicly about standing on the edge, literally and emotionally, contemplating suicide, and how that moment became a portal to transformation. We dive into themes of presence, purpose, emotional honesty, creativity, and how self-awareness, community, and storytelling saved his life.This episode is a reminder that creativity isn’t just about art, it’s about survival, identity, and expression. Asis is living proof that our stories can be our salvation.KEY CHAPTERS00:00 – The Spider-Man Within: A powerful definition of success03:06 – Introducing Asis: Creative genius and storyteller05:29 – Taking the Mask Off: Living in alignment with your truth10:04 – Fulfilment through curiosity, creativity, and sensory living13:28 – Childhood, creativity & searching for alternatives17:36 – Asis opens up: Growing up without his biological father25:17 – Shame, identity & the language we lack as children28:46 – What Does It Mean to Be a Man?30:04 – Dancing with the Feminine: Redefining masculinity41:34 – The masculine and feminine in harmony45:49 – Asis' stammer, bullying, and finding his voice53:47 – From Stammering to Stand-up Comedy1:03:40 – Finding peace with his biological father’s absence1:17:34 – Creating a life beyond pain: Turning adversity into purpose1:24:44 – Asis’ Mental Health Struggles: The moment everything changed1:37:55 – Suicide did happen that day… but so did rebirth1:47:32 – The Inner Child & Walt Disney dreams1:48:52 – Final reflections & the gift of storytelling🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Asis PatelWebsite: https://www.asispatel.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/asispatelLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/asispatel💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove  www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale  www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“You can’t breathe through what you’re not willing to feel.”⚠️ Warning ⚠️ This episode contains content that may be alarming to some listeners. We do talk about suicide which we know can be distressing.In this powerful episode, I sit down with transformational life coach and breathwork practitioner Sam Adams, whose remarkable journey from trauma to truth will leave you deeply moved and inspired.Sam shares her raw, unfiltered story, growing up in a white, working-class area where being Black, gay, and female meant hiding her truth. From surviving childhood abuse, to the heartbreak of family rejection, a brain tumour diagnosis, and mental health struggles. Sam hit rock bottom and had planned to take her own life.From a place of darkness, Sam turned to breathwork, discovering not just a tool for healing, but a lifeline. She now helps others shift from performance to presence, guiding them through deep emotional work that reconnects them with their truth.This episode dives into the heart of what it means to redefine success, beyond status, wealth, or validation, and instead measure it through authenticity, emotional intelligence, and connection.Whether you’ve felt lost, out of place, or like you’ve had to wear a mask just to survive, this conversation is for you.🎧 LISTEN TO DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 CONNECT WITH SAM ADAMSWebsite: https://sam-adams.comInstagram: @sam_adams_coachLinkedIn: Sam Adams💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven – www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove – www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale – www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X – https://www.plusxinnovation.comPRODUCED BY:🎧 H2 Productions – https://h2productions.co.uk*If you have been affected by any of the content during this interview you can reach out to any of the below:Samaritans - https://www.samaritans.orgMy Black Dog - https://www.myblackdog.co/mental-health-charity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

⚠️ Warning ⚠️ This episode contains content that may be alarming to some listeners. We do talk about suicide which we know can be distressing.In this deeply moving episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with purpose-led mentor and scale-up strategist Simon Chuter for an unfiltered conversation about mental health, masculinity, and meaning.Simon shares his journey through the extremes, what he describes as his personal Mariana Trench and Everest moments. From being diagnosed with bipolar disorder and surviving a suicide attempt, to mentoring startups and parenting with emotional presence, this is a conversation that doesn’t just inspire, it transforms.This episode is a masterclass in emotional intelligence, the power of giving, and why redefining success is vital for our personal and collective wellbeing. Whether you're a founder, parent, educator, or simply a human navigating life's highs and lows, this one will stay with you.🎧 Listen in for insights on:The danger of emotional suppression in boysWhy autonomy, mastery & purpose matter more than moneyHealing fractured relationshipsMentorship as a mental health lifelineHow cricket, cuddles, and conversations keep us grounded🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Simon ChuterLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonchuter/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove  www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale  www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/*If you have been affected by any of the content during this interview you can reach out to any of the below:Samaritans - https://www.samaritans.orgMy Black Dog - https://www.myblackdog.co/mental-health-charity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special Unplugged edition of the Different Hats Podcast, I dive into one of the most urgent questions facing UK business owners in 2025: How do you retain great people without breaking the bank?Amid soaring employment costs and rising redundancies, smart business leaders are exploring creative solutions. One powerful tool? Salary sacrifice car schemes. But what are they really, and how can they help both your people and your bottom line?Joined by three expert guests, Sarah May (HR strategist), Chris Barnard (finance guru), and Warren Keech (salary sacrifice specialist at RiverVale), this episode breaks down how salary sacrifice works, who it benefits, and how it can help build a purpose-driven culture that attracts and keeps top talent.Packed with practical insights, real-world examples, and financial clarity, this conversation is a must-listen for business owners, HR leaders, and anyone navigating recruitment and retention in today’s challenging climate.✅ Reduce payroll costs✅ Support employee wellbeing✅ Retain talent✅ Promote sustainability✅ Save money for your business📌 KEY CHAPTERS00:00 - Introduction 02:20 - Why Employees Feel Undervalued Today04:00 - Wellbeing Beyond Wages: Gen Z Expectations06:45 - Creating a Competitive Benefits Package09:30 - The Hidden Cost of Losing a Team Member11:00 - Culture, Trust & Retention15:35 - What is Salary Sacrifice?17:00 - Employer & Employee Tax Savings Explained21:10 - Who Can Benefit from Salary Exchange?23:00 - Pitfalls & Credit Considerations for Employers25:20 - Electric vs Hybrid Cars: Tax & Sustainability29:40 - Why Offering an EV Scheme Increases Retention32:45 - The ESG & CSR Advantage36:00 - Hire Purchase vs Business Lease Explained41:00 - How to Introduce a Salary Exchange Scheme44:20 - Answering Employee Concerns with Clarity48:15 - Benefits Beyond Cars: Pensions, Health, and More51:30 - Solo Directors & Tax-Efficient EV Strategies53:05 - Final Takeaways: Pick n’ Mix Benefits That Work🎧 LISTEN IF YOU WANT TO LEARN:How to save money through smart employee benefitsThe power of values-led retention strategiesWhat salary sacrifice schemes actually meanHow to offer EV car benefits without the riskThe importance of wellbeing, trust & financial literacy in today’s job market🔗 Brought to you in partnership with RiverValeFind out more: https://www.rivervale.co.uk/Connect with out experts:Sarah May - https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-maydayhr/https://www.maydayhr.com/ Chris Barnard - https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-barnard-b4642968/ https://www.collectiveconceptsaccounting.com/🎬 Produced by H2 Productions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this deeply honest and vulnerable conversation, I sit down with Joel Lawton, entrepreneur, coach, and founder of In Your Corner, to explore what it really means to redefine success and live in full alignment with your true self.Joel shares his powerful personal journey: building a multi-million-pound business, navigating burnout, and ultimately making the courageous decision to walk away and rebuild life and work on his own terms. Together, we dive into the emotional narratives men carry, the importance of self-worth beyond doing and providing, and how true presence can be one of the most underrated measures of success.This conversation also touches on fatherhood, mental health, the challenges of hustle culture, emotional intelligence, men's groups, workplace culture, the education system, and how we can better equip younger generations to process emotions.Expect raw honesty, actionable insights, and an inspiring message for anyone questioning their own version of success.KEY CHAPTERS 00:00 — The Illusion of Success03:00 — Joel’s Definition of Success06:30 — Presence & Busyness11:50 — Hustle Culture Pressure17:40 — What Is Enough?21:20 — Joel’s Early Life & Upbringing25:00 — Self-Worth & Identity32:00 — Emotional Intelligence & Holding Space39:00 — Safe Spaces for Men43:40 — Supporting the Next Generation53:40 — Rethinking Education & Life Skills58:30 — The Power of Human Connection1:10:00 — Business Burnout & Transition1:25:00 — Full-Body Yes Decisions1:30:00 — Taking Responsibility for Change1:33:00 — Living in Alignment1:46:30 — Final Invitation: You Can Change It🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Joel LawtonWebsite: https://www.inyourcorner.co/Instagram: @_in_your_cornerLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joel-lawton-3194aa9/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove  www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale  www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

⚠️ Warning ⚠️ This episode contains content that may be alarming to some listeners. We do talk about suicide which we know can be distressing.🎙️ Welcome to Series 8 of the Different Hats Podcast!In this deeply powerful and emotional conversation, Daniel Wilsher shares his mission to change the narrative around young men, masculinity, mental health, and the broken education system. Daniel opens up about his personal journey of childhood trauma after losing his father to suicide, his own mental health struggles, and the path that led him to dedicate his life to helping young people unlock their true potential.From vulnerability, role models, emotional intelligence, to redefining success for young men, this episode is packed with raw honesty, profound insights, and real solutions that can change lives.Whether you're a parent, teacher, leader, or someone struggling with your own mental health, this conversation is for you. It's about hope, healing, human connection, and taking action.🌍 About This Episode:In a world that’s telling young men to be stronger, richer, more dominant, Daniel offers a different path. His work through LivedX is equipping schools, parents, and communities to have brave conversations that empower boys to define their own version of success, rooted in emotional intelligence, connection, service, and self-awareness.This is a masterclass in empathy, leadership, and the simple yet powerful truth: *sometimes all a young person needs is one adult to believe in them.🎧 LISTEN TO MORE DIFFERENT HATS EPISODES:👉 https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔗 Connect with Daniel Wilsher & LivedXWebsite: https://livedxlearning.com Instagram: @danieljameswilsher LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-wilsher-448996168/💡 If this episode resonated with you, please like, share, and comment below. Your support helps us spread this important message and change the narrative around success and mental health.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove  www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale  www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/*If you have been affected by any of the content during this interview you can reach out to any of the below:Samaritans - https://www.samaritans.orgMy Black Dog - https://www.myblackdog.co/mental-health-charity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From CEOs and coaches to trauma survivors, storytellers, and change makers, Series 7 of the Different Hats Podcast was a powerful reminder that success isn’t always what it seems.Across 15 episodes, our guests didn’t just share their highlights, they shared their hearts.Series 7 also included the very special 100th milestone episode.Together, we explored themes of:💬 Emotional honesty & vulnerability🧠 Mental health, masculinity & identity👣 Healing from trauma & rewriting your story🧍‍♂️ Presence, purpose & soulful leadership❤️ Redefining success beyond money or titlesWhat we learned?Success isn’t what you have. It’s how you feel. It’s showing up fully, healing out loud, and choosing presence over performance.If you missed an episode, or just want to revisit some of the most inspiring voices we’ve hosted, now’s the time.👉 Catch up on Series 7 here 👉 https://youtu.be/D83ByTEq8vcThank you to every guest for your courage. And to every listener for helping us shape a better story.Together, we’re helping the world see success differently. 🔔 Subscribe, comment, and join the journey to redefine success through real, human stories.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove  www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale  www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does it truly mean to be a man today? And how do we raise boys to grow into emotionally intelligent, resilient men?In this profoundly moving episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with Andrew Jenkins, mental health advocate, speaker, and breakout voice from BBC’s The Traitors—for a conversation that cuts to the core of masculinity, trauma, and the power of vulnerability.Andrew shares his harrowing experience of surviving a car accident that changed his life forever, and how he stayed silent about the emotional aftermath for over two decades. Now, he’s using his voice to help others find theirs.Together, we explore:💬 The silent crisis facing young men. and why suicide rates are still rising🏉 The role of sport and father figures in shaping emotional awareness💔 Andrew’s emotional journey from silence to telling his son "I love you" for the first time at age 22👂 Why men don’t need fixing, they just need someone to listen📣 How schools, sports clubs, and parents can create emotionally safe spacesThis is more than a conversation. It’s a call to action, to change how we talk to our boys, how we show up for one another, and how we redefine what strength really means.If you're a parent, coach, teacher, leader, or someone on your own healing journey, this episode might just change the way you see the world.Key Chapters00:00 – Introductions04:10 – The Crisis in Men’s Mental Health: Where Do We Start?08:25 – The Pressure of Modern Life and Climbing the Wrong Ladder11:30 – Redefining Positive Masculinity in Schools and Sports17:30 – The Power of Vulnerable Role Models22:50 – Parental Pressure, Generational Trauma & Starting Conversations at Home29:10 – The Moment Andrew Told His Son “I Love You”35:20 – Academy Dropouts & Mental Health in Young Athletes42:00 – How Parents Can Be Better Equipped Emotionally47:15 – Creating a Culture That Celebrates Emotional Intelligence55:00 – Breaking the Cycle: Speaking to His Own Parents for the First Time1:02:30 – The Fear of Regret and Taking Your Own Advice1:07:20 – Men’s Support Networks & Listening Without Judgement1:13:50 – The Power of Hope, Safe Spaces & Prevention Over Cure1:20:00 – Why Andrew Said Yes to The Traitors1:26:30 – Behind the Fame: Finding Purpose Through Platform1:38:50 – A Message to Young Andrew: Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself1:45:00 – Redefining Success and Happiness: Final Reflection🔔 Subscribe, comment, and join the journey to redefine success through real, human stories.SPONSORED BY:Search Seven www.searchseven.co.ukNostos Hove  www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale  www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X https://www.plusxinnovation.com/PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Doing everything is hard. Doing nothing is hard. So choose your hard.” – Tom GeorgeAt just 12 years old, Tom George launched his first business with a stack of flyers and a borrowed lawnmower. By 27, he had paid off his parents’ mortgage.In this raw, inspiring and deeply honest episode of the Different Hats Podcast, Tom shares his journey from a turbulent childhood, through early entrepreneurship, to becoming the director of multiple businesses, all driven by grit, purpose, and the desire to create a better life for those around him.This is not just a story about money, it’s about mindset, resilience, leadership, legacy, and redefining success on your own terms. If you’ve ever felt stuck, doubted your path, or wondered if it’s too late (or too early) to start something, this conversation is for you.🧠 You’ll learn:How childhood adversity shaped his mindsetWhy he values attitude over education when hiringThe truth behind hustle culture and burnoutThe importance of emotional presence in leadershipWhat really drives long-term fulfilment and success💥 Hit subscribe for more inspiring conversations that challenge the definition of success. https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast🔑 EPISODE CHAPTERS:00:00 – Introduction01:18 – “You can have 1,000 problems… until your health goes”04:57 – How Tom defines success (and why it’s not about money)07:49 – Self-awareness, presence, and growing into purpose13:45 – What Tom looks for when hiring young people20:14 – Tom’s childhood, family trauma, and gaining weight as an emotional outlet31:27 – Leaving the Jehovah’s Witness faith and its aftermath33:19 – How one business card changed Tom’s life38:26 – The £6k summer at 12 years old that ignited his entrepreneurial fire47:01 – Taking risks, changing lanes, and choosing your hard54:53 – From ego-driven choices to purposeful business moves59:56 – Hustle culture: mindset, mental health, and balance1:08:04 – Why living in the present matters more than chasing the future1:10:44 – Money vs Meaning: what truly drives Tom1:24:05 – Dealing with business volatility and emotional resilience1:31:09 – Relationships, insecurity, and proving you’re enough1:41:53 – Tom’s Advice to Young Entrepreneurs1:56:05 – Final Reflections: Dream Big, Start Now✨ SPONSORED BY:🔎 Search Seven – Search marketing with purpose: www.searchseven.co.uk🇬🇷 Nostos Hove – An authentic Greek experience: www.nostos-hove.co.uk🚗 Rivervale – Motoring made manageable: www.rivervale.co.ukPlus X - Empowering bold thinkers at every stage: https://www.plusxinnovation.com/🔔 Subscribe, comment, and join the journey to redefine success through real, human stories.✨ PRODUCED BY: H2 Productions: https://h2productions.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this deeply honest and empowering episode with the brilliant Marina Lazaris, we dive into how modern men (and women) can reconnect with authentic love, real confidence, and emotional success, beyond the fake measures of status, wealth, or appearance.This is a powerful conversation about redefining masculinity, rewriting success, and reconnecting with who we really are. Full of raw insights, practical tips, and hope for the next generation.If you're a man feeling stuck, isolated, or unsure where to begin, this episode is for you.If you're raising sons, working with men, or simply care about building a better future, this episode is for you.👇 Chapters and Timestamps 👇00:00 - Introduction01:06 - The power of love stories: Creating a lasting foundation06:58 - Teaching men how to confidently approach women again10:00 - Chivalry, respect, and bringing back genuine kindness18:00 - How fear of rejection and shame are holding men back27:00 - Building real self-worth without wealth or status36:00 - Understanding emotions: anger, sadness, joy as gifts44:00 - The inner critic vs. inner champion: Rewriting your story53:00 - Why community and connection are the real success metrics1:02:00 - The loneliness epidemic: Shocking statistics on single men1:10:00 - Finding purpose, passion, and your authentic self1:18:00 - Healing masculine and feminine wounds in relationships1:30:00 - How slowing down actually speeds up your success1:40:00 - Practical daily habits for building confidence and self-love1:50:00 - Service, gratitude, and the secret to a fulfilled life1:55:00 - Final thoughts: Hope for the next generation of men✅ If you found value in this episode:Like Subscribe Share Comment 📚 Grab Marina Lazaris book https://www.amazon.co.uk/MEN-NEED-LOVE-Too-RELATIONSHIPS/🌐 Connect with us: https://www.different-hats.co.uk🎧 Listen to more episodes: https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcastSpecial Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if everything you thought success looked like... wasn't the thing at all?In this emotional, wise, and deeply human episode, I sit down with Norman Mayhew, entrepreneur, mentor, and founder of The Sussex Sign Company, for a conversation that is as raw as it is inspiring.From growing up in poverty and dealing with childhood trauma, to building a million-pound business and learning how to define “enough,” Norman’s story is a moving reminder that the most valuable things in life often aren’t things at all.💬 Norman opens up about:Growing up with violence, shame, and the tally man at the doorHis fight to break the cycle for his kids — and the cost that came with itWhy dignity in work matters more than what’s in the bankThe lessons learned from 30 years in business and 60+ years in lifeThe moment he realised that love is the only thing that really countsThis isn’t a business podcast. This is a conversation about being human.👉 Whether you’re a founder, leader, parent, or someone just trying to hold it all together, this one will move you, shake you, and maybe even help you breathe a little deeper.📍 Key Chapters:00:00 – Introduction04:34 – Redefining Success After 30 Years16:19 – Childhood Trauma & the Drive to Break the Cycle21:26 – The Regrets of Working Too Much29:29 – The School System is Broken34:35 – All They Wanted Was Time43:03 – Dignity in Work: A Brother’s Story55:38 – Building the Sussex Sign Company From Scratch1:10:22 – Leadership, Loyalty & Lifelong Lessons1:47:11 – Final Reflections📲 Follow, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.🎥 WATCH NOW on YouTube: 🎧 LISTEN on Spotify/Apple Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/differenthatsSpecial Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk#DifferentHatsPodcast #NormanMayhew #RedefiningSuccess #Entrepreneurship #MentalHealthAwareness #Legacy #Love #Storytelling #Leadership #DignityInWork #Purpose #YouAlrightMate #BusinessWithHeart Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this powerful and deeply personal episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Susanna Petche, a GP, trauma specialist, and CPTSD survivor, for one of the most open, vulnerable, and important conversations I’ve ever had on the show.Susanna shares her lived experience of sexual trauma, misdiagnosis, and the long road to healing. We talk honestly about what it means to be trauma-informed, in healthcare, education, workplaces, and in our day-to-day lives, and why reframing success starts with emotional safety.🔍 In this episode, we explore:The hidden epidemic of trauma and CPTSDHow trauma shows up in the body and mindWhy vulnerability is a strength, not a weaknessEmotional intelligence and the future of educationLetting go of old success stories and rewriting new onesHow healing can begin — even after decades of silence🎧 Whether you’re a parent, a leader, an educator, or simply someone on your own healing journey, this episode is full of insight, honesty, and, most importantly—hope.✨ "Healing is possible for everyone." – Dr. Susanna PetcheKey Chapters: 00:00 – Intro 03:52 – What Success Used to Mean (And Why It Changed)06:26 – The Diagnosis That Changed Everything11:33 – Why Vulnerability Feels So Hard (Especially in the UK)15:19 – Is the Education System Emotionally Broken?22:29 – Ambition After Trauma: Still Striving, But Differently39:15 – The Body Keeps the Score: Trauma in the Medical System46:34 – The Need to Teach Boys, Not Just Protect Girls54:12 – The Corrosive Power of Shame1:37:33 – Final Message: Healing Is Possible for Everyone —🌐 Learn more and listen at https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast#TraumaInformed #MentalHealthAwareness #CPTSD #HealingJourney #IWD2025 #RedefiningSuccess #DifferentHatsPodcast #VulnerabilityIsStrengthAbout Dr Susanna PetcheDr. Susanna Petche is a GP, innovator, CPTSD survivor, and samba reggae drummer with over 23 years of clinical experience. She specialises in psychological trauma and its impact on the mind, body, and spirit. Susanna is on a mission to raise awareness of psychological trauma and help create a more compassionate, trauma-informed world.To contact Dr Susanna Petche or find out more click here - https://www.trauma-sense.com/Special Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this profoundly moving episode of the Different Hats Podcast, I sit down with my dear friend and storytelling collaborator, Terry Bower, for a conversation that will stay with you long after the final word is spoken.Terry isn’t just a storyteller—he’s a soul who has lived through unimaginable loss, and yet radiates empathy, humour, and wisdom. In this raw and emotionally honest exchange, Terry opens up for the first time about the heartbreaking moment he overheard his mum say, “I’m not ready to die.” He shares the pain of losing all six of his siblings and both parents by the age of 50, and how those experiences have shaped the man he is today.From becoming a master of building relationships in business to learning how to process emotions later in life, Terry’s journey is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit.We talk grief, therapy, emotional expression, legacy, business, and what it truly means to "be more dog"—to wake up with joy, go to bed with peace, and live each day with purpose. Terry’s warmth and wit shine through as he reflects on what he’s learned, how he’s healing, and why true connection is the ultimate success.Key Topics:Redefining success through simplicity and peace of mindProcessing grief after losing family membersEmotional resilience and embracing vulnerabilityThe power of storytelling in life and businessCreating safe spaces for honest conversationsLegacy, love, and learning to let goThis is not just another podcast episode—this is an invitation to feel, reflect, and connect.🎧 Listen now and be part of the movement to redefine success, one story at a time.https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast 👇 Timestamps & Highlights: 00:00 – Introduction04:45 – Losing his sister Jill and the power of grief10:17 – The COVID epiphany: letting go of control26:50 – The moment he heard his mother’s final words40:25 – Therapy, emotional processing & storytelling50:56 – Grieving all six siblings & what it taught him1:09:52 – Legacy, gratitude, and choosing joy daily1:27:57 – The power of human connection in business💛 If this episode resonates with you, please like, comment, share, and subscribe. Your story matters. Let’s rewrite the narrative together.#DifferentHatsPodcast #TerryBower #GriefAndLoss #RedefiningSuccess #StorytellingForBusiness #EmotionalWellbeing #MentalHealthAwareness #LifeLessons #Legacy #HumanConnection #PodcastInterview #SuccessRewrittenSpecial Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the very definition of success you’ve been chasing isn’t really yours?In this raw, powerful episode, Sam sits down with Kevan Smith — storyteller, creative strategist, and co-founder of Brighton United — to explore how grit, resilience, and community can transform how we live, work, and lead.From growing up on a self-sufficient farm in rural Arkansas to building an award-winning creative business in the UK, Kevan’s story is one of deep reflection, unfiltered truth, and radical self-discovery. But it’s also a story about race, isolation, and what it truly means to belong.💬 Kevan opens up about:The 3 stages of success and why most people get stuck at stage oneHis experiences with racism and exclusion in the UK business worldWhy storytelling is a revolutionary act — and how it helped him find his voiceThe birth of Brighton United and the call to create inclusive, diverse spaces where everyone belongsHis TEDx journey and mission to help people build connection through shared valuesWhether you’re a founder, a leader, a parent, or simply someone trying to find your way in a noisy world — this conversation will stay with you.👉 Don’t just listen. Feel it. Share it. Let it challenge your perspective.📍 Timestamps & Chapters available in the description 📲 Follow, like & subscribe for more stories that redefine success.🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple & all major platforms.https://www.different-hats.co.uk/podcast#DifferentHatsPodcast #RedefiningSuccess #BrightonUnited #StorytellingForChange #YouAlrightMate #MentalHealthAwareness #DiversityAndInclusion #Entrepreneurship #TEDx #Belonging #BlackVoices #Grit #Purpose #StorytellingKEY CHAPTERS:00:00 - Intro05:34 - Community, Belonging & Brighton 05:47 - Kevan’s Three Stages of Success 09:05 - Values, Fulfilment & Regret 11:17 - Rediscovering Grit & Embracing Struggle 16:03 - Self-Discovery vs. Societal Expectations 20:34 - Childhood on the Farm in Arkansas 25:18 - The Power of Reframing Work 28:54 - From Science to Storytelling 33:55 - Saying Yes to Opportunity: The NSYNC Story 38:14 - Film, Creativity & Finding Purpose 43:52 - The Power of Story to Connect 49:34 - Brighton United: Where It All Began 52:09 - Challenging the Status Quo 01:03:30 - Experiences of Racism & Belonging 01:17:12 - Building a More Inclusive Future 01:24:21 - A Blueprint for Change 01:34:00 - Relationships Over Ego 01:39:46 - Final Thoughts, Gratitude & Growth Special Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if redefining success starts with showing up for yourself first?In this powerful and deeply personal episode, I sit down with the incredible Sophie Bryan – workplace culture specialist, TEDx speaker, burlesque performer, sex conversationalist, and unfiltered truth-teller – to unpack a life shaped by trauma, resilience, and radical self-discovery.From surviving childhood illness and navigating a complex family dynamic to breaking cycles of poverty, Sophie shares how her drive for financial independence led her to question not just what success looks like, but how it feels. We explore why Montessori education shaped her approach to parenting and leadership, and how freedom, curiosity and play have become her personal pillars for living and working.Sophie opens up about her journey with body dysmorphia, how she transformed shame into self-expression through burlesque, and how her work in sex and soul coaching is helping individuals and couples reconnect with intimacy, desire, and communication.We also dive into:Why workplace culture must change before the education system canThe crucial link between sexuality, leadership and creative flowHow to challenge taboos and empower our kids (and ourselves) to talk about sex differentlyThe power of forgiveness, legacy, and owning your storySophie wears a lot of hats (possibly more than me) – but every one is rooted in authenticity, truth, and a mission to create a world where people feel safe to live in alignment with who they really are.This episode is honest, inspiring, and full of brave conversations we all need to be having.Key Chapters:00:00 - Introduction05:20 - A Childhood Shaped by Trauma11:00 - Rewriting the Script: From Survivor to Achiever14:30 - PTSD, Alcoholism & Compassion for Her Father19:30 - Healing Through Storytelling and Eulogy24:00 - Values That Guide Sophie's Life29:30 - Discovering Montessori & Parenting Differently35:20 - Raising an Independent Daughter40:30 - Why Workplaces Are Failing Us46:30 - Creating Freedom in the Workplace53:00 - Aligning Work Culture with Human Needs01:01:00 - Exposing Broken Systems & Flipping Leadership01:10:00 - From Body Dysmorphia to Burlesque01:24:00 - Sex, Shame & Communication in Relationships01:48:00 - Final Reflections on Self-Love and Legacy 🎥 WATCH NOW on YouTube: https://youtu.be/cNRMczhuGm8🎧 LISTEN on Spotify/Apple Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/differenthatsHit play. This one will stay with you. 🚀Special Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if you could live a life with no regrets? What if success wasn’t measured by money, fame, or external validation, but by how present you are in each moment?In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, Yaron Engler returns to the Different Hats Podcast for the first time as a two-time guest, and it’s nothing short of transformational.🔥 We dive deep into:✅ Defining Success on Your Own Terms – Is it wealth, status, or simply living true to yourself?✅ Being Fully Present in a Distracted World – The simple yet profound tools to bring yourself back to NOW.✅ Navigating Life’s Transitions – What do you do when everything is about to change?✅ Overcoming Fear & Embracing Love – The mindset shift that changes everything.✅ Masculinity, Purpose & The Power of Honest Conversations – Why men struggle, and how we can redefine strength.Yaron's raw honesty, wisdom, and energy shine through in every moment. Whether you’re at a crossroads, searching for clarity, or just need an injection of inspiration—this episode WILL hit home.💡 “Am I guided by fear or am I guided by love?”This is more than a podcast—it’s a wake-up call.Key Chapters:00:00 - Intro02:25 - Our Mission: Redefining Success  05:07 - Vulnerability Sparks Transformation  05:59 - Defining Success: Living Without Regret  08:18 - The Power of Presence: Body, Breath & Tools  12:21 - Finding Joy in Simple Moments  15:22 - Living Your Truth: Authentic Growth 22:06 - New Beginnings: Following Your Purpose  29:43 - Fear vs. Love: What Truly Drives You?  33:03 - The Financial Pressure vs. Passion Dilemma  40:04 - This Too Shall Pass: Overcoming Struggles  46:47 - Balancing Passion, Career & Family Life  52:28 - Showing Our Kids What’s Possible  58:56 - The Men's Circle: Common Challenges Men Face 1:06:03 - Finding Purpose: A Journey Within  1:14:51 - Have Men Lost Their Role in Society?  1:19:19 - What’s Really Driving You? Ego vs. Truth  1:23:57 - The Ripple Effect of Living Your Truth  1:27:09 - Final Advice: Making Life’s Big Decisions 🎥 WATCH NOW on YouTube: https://youtu.be/cNRMczhuGm8🎧 LISTEN on Spotify/Apple Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/differenthatsHit play. This one will stay with you. 🚀Special Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this incredibly raw and uplifting conversation, our guest Michelle Barrett pulls back the curtain on her remarkable journey—from a turbulent childhood marked by trauma and uncertainty to forging a thriving career in TV costume design, and ultimately finding true fulfilment as a personal stylist and YouTube creator.Michelle shares candid details of growing up with an alcoholic parent, navigating the challenges of single motherhood, and scraping together every opportunity (even famously “blagging” her way into exclusive parties!) to follow her creative passions. She reveals how recognising her own worth, trusting her intuition, and pursuing freedom over perfection led her to a booming online community and a successful YouTube channel with tens of thousands of subscribers.Along the way, Michelle and Sam discuss the power of small acts of kindness, the importance of asking for help, and how building genuine human connection can transform lives. If you’ve ever wondered how to pivot your career, find value in your gifts, or simply believe in yourself when times get tough—this episode is for you.Key Chapters:00:00 - “Don’t Give Up” 03:03 - Defining Success 08:15 - Childhood Trauma 14:50 - Independence at 18 20:30 - Early TV & Blagging 28:10 - Single Parenthood 37:45 - Small Acts of Kindness 45:55 - Breaking with TV 52:25 - Transition to YouTube 59:40 - Struggles & Belief 1:08:00 - Asking for Help 1:16:00 - Life Beyond TV 1:24:00 - Early Content Creation 1:32:00 - Tackling Negativity 1:46:45 - Final ReflectionsHit that Subscribe button and join us on this inspiring journey of resilience, hope, and reimagining success. Remember: "don’t give up, because anything is possible"!Watch Now / Listen on All Podcast Platforms:https://linktr.ee/differenthatsSubscribe to the Newsletter:https://www.different-hats.co.ukSpecial Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ready to redefine success from the inside out? In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the transformative power of self-love, intuition, and leading with soul—all while navigating an ever-evolving, AI-driven world. Our special guest, author of Balance and Leading with Soul, Marina Fernández Julian shares how losing a dear friend—and nearly losing herself—sparked a profound journey toward inner freedom and authentic living. Discover why true fulfilment isn’t tied to accolades or material wealth, but rather to embracing vulnerability, honouring your intuition, and cultivating genuine connections with those who truly celebrate your growth.Tune in to learn why your greatest asset is your own capacity to love, heal, and lead—especially when the world around you is changing fast. Whether you’re a parent, business owner, or just seeking deeper purpose, this episode offers a blueprint to living more fully and leading more powerfully than ever before.Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share for more inspiring conversations on harnessing your inner strength, cultivating empathy, and finding fulfilment in every facet of life. Join us on this journey to unlock a more authentic, compassionate, and truly successful way of being.Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and comment with your definition of success!About our GuestMarina Zest for LifeYour Journey Towards Self-Leadership,Professional Growth & Richer Life Experiences.Marina  believes that self-awareness is the cornerstone of an enriching life. She guides her clients toward personal fulfilment, professional growth, and richer life experiences.Check out her website https://marinazestforlife.com/  Email: [email protected]: https://marinazestforlife.com/leading-with-soul/ https://marinazestforlife.com/balance-living-a-life-true-to-yourself/Watch Now / Listen on All Podcast Platforms:https://linktr.ee/differenthatsSubscribe to the Newsletter:https://www.different-hats.co.ukSpecial Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ready to discover what it really takes to bring a game-changing idea to life—especially one that transforms an entire community’s relationship with the sea? In this episode, I sit down with Ross Gilbert, the visionary behind Brighton’s iconic Sea Lanes. From wrestling with never-ending planning hurdles (hello, storm drains!) to managing the pressure of big builds and bigger budgets, Ross shares an unfiltered look at the resilience and teamwork needed to keep a massive project afloat. We dive into the power of sport and mindset—why his background in golf taught him to embrace failure and stay patient with every twist. If you’ve ever dreamed of carving your own path and building something truly special, Ross’s story is pure inspiration. Grab a coffee, settle in, and let’s dive into one of the most fascinating entrepreneurial journeys on the Brighton coast!Highlights:How Ross juggled planning nightmares and unexpected challenges (like a historic railway running through the site)Why embracing “small steps” and daily progress is vital for any long-term projectThe power of having a tight-knit team: when one person’s down, another steps upLessons from golf on dealing with failure and bouncing back fastRoss’s unique lifestyle balance—splitting time between Germany and the Brighton seasideTune in for a candid, behind-the-scenes chat about creating something truly groundbreaking for the local community. Don’t forget to subscribe, drop a comment, and hit that “like” button if Ross’s journey inspires your next big move!Key Chapters:00:00 - Introduction04:13 – Early Love of Sport & Golf16:30 – Discovering Property & the Entrepreneurial Bug31:00 – Pop-Up Bar & Silent Yoga Disco37:45 – Overcoming Site Logistics: Volks Railway & Storm Drains45:00 – Lost Days & Squeaky Cash Flow53:00 – Sea Lanes Grand Opening1:10:00 – Redefining Success & Final Life Lesson. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and comment with your definition of success!Watch Now / Listen on All Podcast Platforms:https://linktr.ee/differenthatsSubscribe to the Newsletter:https://www.different-hats.co.ukSpecial Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ready to see success in a whole new light? In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Gary Salters—founder of “Go Succeed”—whose energy and insights will flip your idea of “making it” on its head. From his early days working at McDonald’s (and loving every moment of it!) to coaching small businesses through powerful processes, Gary proves that success is so much more than money and status. We talk about how growing up in Northern Ireland during the Troubles shaped his open-minded attitude, why authentic values make or break your business, and how time is our most precious commodity. If you’ve ever felt stuck chasing the wrong goals, Gary’s perspective will give you the clarity and motivation to start moving forward. Grab a notepad and let’s redefine success—on your terms.Highlights:Gary’s journey from McDonald’s star to corporate leader, and the leap into entrepreneurshipWhy creating a killer process (yes, even in a tiny startup) can transform your resultsGrowing up in Northern Ireland during the Troubles—and how it shaped Gary’s view on acceptance and inclusionThe real reason time is worth more than any paycheckSimple strategies to build client relationships without feeling salesyDon’t miss this honest, inspiring conversation that’ll help you see business (and life) differently. Hit that “Like” button, subscribe, and drop your thoughts in the comments—let’s keep the conversation going!Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and comment with your definition of success!Watch Now / Listen on All Podcast Platforms:https://linktr.ee/differenthatsSubscribe to the Newsletter:https://www.different-hats.co.ukSpecial Thanks to Our SponsorsSearch Seven: https://www.searchseven.co.ukPlus X: https://www.plusxinnovation.comNostos Hove: https://www.nostos-hove.co.ukRivervale: https://www.rivervale.co.ukProduced By:H2 Productions Ltd – https://h2productions.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.