Enlighten Up With Christy

Title: From Toxic to Transformed: Secrets to a Love That LastsIn this episode, Christy and Gonzalo share their raw and inspiring journey from a challenging, "toxic" relationship to one filled with love, growth, and spiritual evolution. Learn practical tools and profound insights on how to navigate relationship struggles and cultivate lasting love.Main topics: Reframing toxicity as an opportunity for growth The role of spiritual practices like Kabbalah in healing relationships Recognizing and leveraging triggers as a healing pathway Balancing masculine and feminine energy in partnerships Practical tools to manage reactive behavior in love In this episode: The couple's story of overcoming friction and toxicity How childhood influences and attachment styles shape relationships The transformative power of spiritual tools like Kabbalah and ceremonial cacao The importance of recognizing personal triggers and pausing for growth Insights into masculine and feminine energetic dynamics An invitation to join Gonzalo’s men's spiritual group Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction: Turning toxic love into spiritual growth 00:16 - Recognizing triggers as opportunities for healing 00:29 - The journey into real transformation with love 00:59 - Meeting Gonzalo and the significance of ceremonial cacao 01:37 - The couple’s relationship story and hope for others 02:04 - The power of rituals to open the heart 02:25 - What makes ceremonial cacao special and its health benefits 03:00 - The impact of shamans and spiritual tools in their journey 03:29 - How their relationship evolved from friction to love 04:02 - Overcoming surface-level perceptions and deepened connection 05:11 - The miracle of their union and spreading hope 06:24 - How early friction led to greater love and understanding 07:00 - The influence of Kabbalah and spiritual modalities in healing 08:23 - Childhood influences, attachment styles, and healing 10:01 - How spiritual practice deepened their connection 11:28 - The reality of fights even on a spiritual path 12:24 - Chaos as part of the journey and mastering it through tools 13:13 - The universal insight: Partners reveal our inner aspects 14:39 - Recognizing familial influences shaping love patterns 16:44 - Attachment styles and their evolution in love 17:13 - The key tool for reactive moments: pause and transcend 18:33 - Managing reactions, especially in relationships with attachment differences 20:09 - Communicating needs and taking space to avoid reaction 21:15 - Balancing masculine and feminine energies in relationships 22:22 - The importance of vulnerability and avoiding toxic masculinity 23:28 - Practical tool: Pausing and elevating in reactive moments 24:35 - Gonzalo’s men's spiritual group and how to connect 25:10 - Closing remarks: Share love rituals like ceremonial cacaoResources & Links: Ceremonial Cacao from Peru  Connect with Gonzalo: Instagram Website  Reconnect with your inner love and transform your relationship today. Remember, chaos is part of the journey — embrace it with tools to transcend.

 Christy Dreiling explores the dynamics of reactive behavior in relationships, the importance of expectations, and the power of gratitude and self-growth. Whether you're facing challenges in your marriage, friendships, or personal life, this discussion offers practical insights for creating love, fulfillment, and inner peace.**Main topics: The impact of unspoken expectations and reactive behaviors in relationships How to cultivate growth and communication for lasting partnership success The importance of gratitude and self-awareness in transforming your life Practical steps for exhausting your current situation before making major decisions Understanding and using the five love languages for better connection In this episode: Christy highlights how uncommunicated expectations lead to disappointment She shares a real-life story of a client on the verge of divorce due to unmet expectations Tips on surrendering control and embracing growth at home with your partner The significance of thoroughly exploring decisions through a 30- or 90-day commitment The power of gratitude and recognizing the divine in everyday life The stories behind social media illusions and the importance of authentic living A memorable rabbi story illustrating the nature of desire, fears, and insecurities Personal anecdotes on gratitude, health, and the divine flow of life Timestamps: 00:00 - How unspoken expectations cause disappointment in relationships 03:23 - Example of setting unrealistic expectations with a busy partner 05:45 - Recognizing reactive behaviors in conflict and love patterns 08:48 - The importance of mutual growth and use of tools in marriage 10:15 - The analogy of trees and accepting life's messes and messages 12:10 - The 30-day rule to exhaust situations before making life-changing decisions 14:08 - The significance of knowing your and your partner’s love languages 15:34 - Building a relationship with the divine for greater life ease 16:55 - The illusion of social media perfection and the truth behind appearances 18:54 - The story of trading fears and insecurities to find authentic happiness 21:58 - How our reactions impact our life speed and lessons from accountability 24:36 - Gratitude for health and living in the moment as divine gifts 25:36 - How to access Christy’s cosmic love oil and elevate your vibrationResources & Links: Enlightened Up with Christy — Website with resources and programs Cosmic Love Oil — Vibrates at the frequency of love The Five Love Languages — Discover your and your partner's love style Connect with Christy Dreiling: Instagram Facebook Website Remember: Life is a divine message. Recognize the beauty in your mess, practice gratitude daily, and prioritize growth—personally and relationally. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear this message and subscribe for more transformational insights.**

Feel like you've been going through it lately? We are faced with a unique and challenging time right now. It is easy to feel overwhelmed and like you always have to be somewhere or doing something. In this episode, Ryan and Christy discuss how in slowing down and taking time to absorb everything the moment has to offer we can really change our perspective, listen in and be guided from this place.

Have you heard of the Blue Zones? This week Christy sits down with the author and founder himself. Dan Buettner is an American National Geographic Fellow and New York Times-bestselling author. Buettner reported his Blue Zones findings in his cover story for National Geographic Magazine's November 2005 edition, "Secrets of Long Life." The issue became the third best-selling issue in the magazine’s history. Buettner later released a book on these now well-known findings, "The Blue Zones: Lessons for Living Longer From the People Who've Lived the Longest". In this episode Christy and Dan discuss how to integrate the knowledge we have from the Blue Zones.

On today's episode Christy sits down with author Jon Levy for a deep dive into human behavior, personal development and social interaction. As humans we all crave connection and community. Jon Levy shares stories and tips to help open your heart and mind.

Join us in welcoming Robert Mack to the Love and Serve Podcast! Robert (Rob) is an ivy-league-educated Positive Psychology Expert, Celebrity Happiness Coach, Executive Coach, and Author. Robert is one of the world's leading experts on the relationship between happiness and success.

Join us on today's episode with special guest David Meltzer! A beloved servant, three-time international best-selling author, a Top 100 Business Coach, the executive producer of Entrepreneur‘s #1 digital business show, Elevator Pitch, and host of the top entrepreneur podcast, The Playbook. Please welcome David Meltzer!

You can't change the fact that challenges will come your way, but you can change how you respond to the challenges. Join Christy and Jerry Roisentul, a long-time friend, in this powerful episode about facing challenges! Many of us, if not all of us, experience our versions of a "dark night of the soul". Jerry explains how success truly is won or lost in your mind. We often try to identify with our titles, and aspects of life that are outside ourselves. In reality our real and true identity is our story, our own most authentic self. Time stamps [0:57] Intro to Jerry. [4:42] Jerry's story of finding himself again. [12:02] Surrendering our attachments to who we think we are. [13:47] It is in our vulnerability that we develop our authenticity. [20:25] Do you still face challenges today or is it getting easier? [21:48] We cannot control the challenges we face, but we can control how we handle them. [25:20] Don't close yourself off to people who want to be present for you. [26:48] The more you share your feelings, the stronger you are. [31:39] Advice for anyone who is judging or being judged. [36:00] The world needs more love. [42:09] Sometimes there are more mountains after the mountain. [46:03] Where to find Jerry.

Commitment is the name of the game. Ask yourself, are you committing to pain and fear, or are you commiting to helping others, and to getting into the best version of yourself? In this emotional and raw episode Christy encourages you to show up as your best self by releasing fear and negativity.

In this episode Christy introduces and defines what self love really is. Accepting ourselves and giving ourselves self love is important so that we don’t pour from an empty cup. “Our flaws are our friends” and when we step into a place of feeling worthy of loving ourselves, we give others permission to do the same.

In this episode Christy introduces her kind, adventure-loving partner Gonzalo. Together they tell the story of how they came together and describe the work it takes to be in a conscious relationship focused on evolution.

In this episode Linda Loveless discusses her "holy discontent moment" a defining moment in her life, when she knew with absolute certainty, that she was made for more. To do more, be more and serve more.  It’s a discontent that enables us to pursue transformation in the midst of tribulation, and during our complete rock bottom. When we open our hearts to the possibilities and persevere, that's when dramatic synchronicities and changes take place.

The one and only Leslie Humphrey joins us this week as we dive into relationship tools for happy partnerships and fulfilled families. During this conversation, Leslie recounts a time when she had to stand in her power, share her truth and show her strength. One pivotal moment that changed her relationship forever kicks off this all new episode of the Lead with Love podcast.

In this new episode of the Lead with Love Podcast, Christy guides us to take a look at our life path and our life's purpose. Often we forget to do self checks and balances to see if we are truly living in a state of presence and flow. Are we human beings or are we human doings? Check in with yourself now, your purpose will reveal itself to you when you are in alignment with the people and things that bring you the most joy.

In this episode Christy dives into self-discovery!  Christy provides tools for you to use in an effort to understand your true self.  What areas of your life are you wanting to improve? Sometimes our circumstances tempt us to protect our heart but protecting ourselves can force us to be inauthentic. It's time to embrace all of who you are!Need help getting into your authentic self and creating affirmations for yourself?Check out https://visualeyesvideo.com/

What will great leaders tell you? Failure is a part of the game. This week join Christy and special guest Gary W. Goldstein, author, speaker, consultant and Hollywood film producer, best known for producing Pretty Woman, Under Siege, and The Mothman Prophecies and generating over a billion dollars in worldwide revenue! Together Christy and long time friend Gary discuss the value of knowing yourself and loving yourself.

On this week's episode of the Lead with Love podcast we are joined by April Beyer, a matchmaker for over 20 years, relationship expert and CEO of Level, an AI matchmaking network! Christy and April discuss manifesting more love into your life (and not just in romantic relationships). Self-love, gratitude and long-lasting happiness. A special thank you to April for being on the show. https://www.aprilbeyer.com/Want your own powerful manifestation Visualeyes Video, as mentioned by April at 1:03:30?Check out:https://visualeyesvideo.com/

Welcome to the Lead with Love Podcast! Join Christy in Maui, Hawaii as she recounts memories and early childhood experiences that shaped her into the woman she is today.  Life happens, but you always get to choose how you grow, learn, respond and change.  Season premiere "Humble Beginnings" is all about learning to love where you've been, love where you are and love where you are going!