Falling Off Curbs

We’ve been told that silence is strength. That holding it in, pushing through, staying composed means we’re mature, grounded, grown. But in this episode, I’m calling that out gently.What if being quiet when it hurts isn’t strength?What if it’s just survival we learned too well?This week, I talk about the moments I stayed silent to keep the peace and ended up erasing myself. I share what it’s cost me to be “the strong one,” and how I’ve come to see the real work as bringing my inner child back — not to hide her, but to integrate her. To let her grow with me.If you’ve ever been praised for being unbothered while you were falling apart in silence, this episode is for you. You don’t have to hold it all together to be whole. You don’t have to be tough to be worthy.Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is let yourself be seen.Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you!Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbshttps://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.comDon’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

We talk a lot about the patterns we attract—the emotionally unavailable, the inconsistent, the ones who can’t love us the way we need. But in this episode, I ask a harder, quieter question: What if I’m not just drawn to a pattern… what if I’m part of one too? In this deeply honest conversation, I unpack the ways I’ve shown up in relationships thinking I was offering emotional depth—when in truth, I was swimming in someone else’s waters while never inviting them into mine. I explore the subtle emotional avoidance hidden behind “being the healer,” the trap of curating connection, and how that performance of strength and usefulness can actually keep us from being truly known. This one isn’t about shame—it’s about self-honesty. It’s about the brave moment when you realize: "I can’t keep asking people to meet me halfway if I keep crossing the whole damn bridge by myself.” Includes a prose poem titled “I Saw a Man in Need,” written and performed by me as a personal reflection on this very truth.Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you!Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbshttps://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.comDon’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

Dating while healing is wild. What happens when you start experiencing something healthy...and it feels wrong? In Episode 2 of Season 2, Kat is unpacking the deeply uncomfortable but honest truth about receiving love—and how unfamiliar it can feel when your foundation has been built around giving, fixing, and pouring out. She explores the idea that many of us don’t actually know how to receive love—especially when it comes without strings or struggle. Through personal reflection (and some very real revelations), Kat shares how past wounds, breadcrumbs, and over-functioning in relationships have shaped her understanding of “normal.” ✨ Highlights: — Why receiving love can feel threatening when you’re used to surviving on crumbs — The danger of defining yourself through someone else’s light (“I am the sun!”) — Rebuilding your emotional foundation so peace doesn’t feel like punishment — The myth of mutual happiness and learning not to overcompensate for someone else’s joy This one’s tender, insightful, and a whole truth serum for anyone navigating healing and love at the same time.Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you!Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbshttps://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.comDon’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

"I wonder if we're going into dating trying to become whole people rather than going into dating as whole people."Welcome back to Falling Off Curbs! After an unexpected hiatus, Kat returns with Episode 1 of Season 2, diving headfirst into the beautifully chaotic world of dating, which is a lot messier, bloodier, and deeper than expected.She unpacks how past trauma, childhood wounds (hey, daddy issues), and unspoken insecurities show up in romantic connection—sometimes quietly, other times with fireworks. With vulnerability and that signature Kat humor, she invites us to ask: are we bleeding on people who didn’t cut us? And are we hoping dating will make us whole… instead of dating as whole people?This episode tackles the messy middle ground of modern dating, the triggers we didn't know we had, and why understanding our own blood in the water might be the key to healthier connections. If you've ever found yourself repeating patterns in relationships or wondered why certain people push buttons you forgot you had, this episode will remind you that even our romantic missteps are part of the beautifully imperfect human experience.Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you!Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbshttps://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.comDon’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

"Perspective isn’t just about what you see—it’s about where you’re standing when you see it."In Episode 6 of Falling Off Curbs, we’re talking about perspective—not just the ones we gather, but the one we own. We’re constantly absorbing perspectives from everywhere—family, social media, culture, community. But at some point, we have to ask ourselves… what do I actually think?Kat explores how we often live inside a mosaic of borrowed viewpoints, piecing together bits of what we’ve heard, what we’ve been taught, and what we think we should believe. But what happens when we strip all of that away? When we remove the layers of identity—Black, woman, parent, leader, friend—and sit with the core of who we are? That’s where real clarity lives. That’s where real connection happens.✨ If you’ve ever felt like your perspective is more of a collection than a conviction, this episode is for you. Tune in now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and everywhere you listen! #FallingOffCurbs #PerspectiveIsPower #NewEpisodeDrop me a note—I’d love to hear from you!Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbshttps://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.comDon’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

"Not everything familiar is real—some of it is just an echo you haven’t questioned yet."Sometimes, growth means stepping into the unknown—a space without a roadmap, a script, or a familiar set to play on. In Episode 5 of Falling Off Curbs, Kat reflects on her journey of realizing that the "world" she had crafted for herself wasn’t real. It was a set built from expired ideas, outdated beliefs, and comfort zones she had outgrown.With humor and vulnerability, she dives into what it means to stop entertaining yourself with illusions, let go of old constructs, and face the discomfort of not knowing what's next. Kat unpacks the challenge of being okay with uncertainty—of unlearning the echoes of the past while still moving forward into something new and undefined.✨ If you’ve ever clung to the familiar because the unknown felt too overwhelming, this episode is for you. Tune in for a heartfelt exploration of the courage it takes to leave the set behind and embrace the blank canvas ahead.🎧 Press play, and let’s navigate the beauty—and bravery—of uncharted territory together.Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you!Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbshttps://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.comDon’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

"We hold on because it feels safe, but sometimes the thing that makes us feel safe is the same thing that keeps us stuck."In Episode 4 of Falling Off Curbs, we’re tackling the bittersweet, often painful process of releasing what no longer serves us. Whether it’s people, places, dreams, or even parts of ourselves, holding on feels safe. But what happens when holding on costs us more than it gives?Kat dives deep into why letting go is so hard—how grief, fear, and even our sense of identity get wrapped up in what we refuse to release. She explores the difference between “getting over it” and “getting through it,” and why letting go isn’t about forgetting—it’s about freeing.With honesty, humor, and heart, this episode offers practical insights into navigating the messy emotions of release and finding the courage to create space for what’s next. If you’ve been clinging to something (or someone) that’s holding you back, this one’s for you.✨ What if letting go isn’t an ending but the beginning of something new? Press play, and let’s walk through it—together.Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you!Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbshttps://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.comDon’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

"Sometimes, the hardest truth to face is the one about yourself."In Episode 3 of Falling Off Curbs, we’re flipping the mirror and diving into the art of self-reflection and accountability. It’s easy to point fingers and blame the world, but what happens when the common denominator… is you?Kat shares the awkward, hilarious, and humbling journey of realizing how often we get in our own way. She unpacks why owning your role in life’s challenges is so hard (hint: our egos don’t love it), but also why it’s the key to better relationships, personal growth, and real freedom. Along the way, she explores how denial, defensiveness, and fear of change keep us stuck.With her signature mix of humor and vulnerability, Kat invites you to ask the tough questions: Where am I holding myself back? What patterns keep showing up in my life? And most importantly, how do I stop being my own worst enemy?✨ If you’ve ever wondered why the same problems keep cropping up, this episode is the mirror you didn’t know you needed. Press play, and let’s get real—together.Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you!Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbshttps://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.comDon’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

"The world loves black-and-white answers, but life doesn’t always work that way."In Episode 2 of Falling Off Curbs, we’re exploring the beauty, challenge, and necessity of embracing the gray areas of life. Sure, black and white feels safer—it’s clear, definitive, and simple. But what happens when life refuses to be that straightforward?Join Kat as she dives into why gray is often the space where growth happens, the reasons we resist it, and how living in extremes can limit our experiences and connections. But we’re not stopping there. This episode also tackles the emotional weight of ambiguity, how trauma and survival instincts make gray feel dangerous, and the ways society conditions us to crave certainty over nuance.Through humor, vulnerability, and thought-provoking insights, Kat unpacks how the luxury of gray allows us to question, expand, and discover our humanity. If you’ve ever felt stuck between choices or caught in a moment of uncertainty, this episode will remind you why the middle ground matters.✨ So, what if life isn’t about finding the “right” answer but about learning to navigate the in-between? Press play and let’s figure it out—together.Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you!Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbshttps://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.comDon’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!

"How Did I Get Here?!" is the debut episode of Falling Off Curbs, where we’re diving headfirst into the journey of self-discovery, human connection, and life’s inevitable missteps. In this episode, Kat reflects on the question she’s asked herself a thousand times: "How did I get here?" She shares her personal story of navigating unexpected twists, embracing growth, and realizing that every stumble shapes our path.Through humor, honesty, and heart, Kat unpacks the beauty of imperfection and invites you to explore how we all “fall off curbs” in life—whether it’s relationships, career detours, or just figuring out how to human.If you’ve ever felt like life threw you off balance, this episode will remind you that it’s okay to laugh, learn, and keep moving forward. So grab a snack, get comfortable, and join us as we answer the question: How did I get here?!Drop me a note—I’d love to hear from you!Thank you for listening to Falling Off Curbs! New episodes drop every Tuesday! 🎧✨ Stay connected: IG: @FallingOffCurbshttps://fallingoffcurbs.buzzsprout.comDon’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who might need a little reminder to embrace life’s stumbles!