Fck It List

Today, we're talking about the disappearing act society performs on women the second they hit 50. Invisible to employers, invisible to advertisers, invisible to policy, and sometimes invisible in their own homes. So who decided that experience, wisdom, and a no-fucks-given energy were a liability? And why is the marketing industry still spending a trillion-dollar opportunity on grey-haired stock photos? Jas, Carly, and Jen sit down with Kylie Jones, founder of 50 and Fearless, a global community of over one million women that she built in under 18 months from her most broken point, to unpack the ageism baked into Australian workplaces and boardrooms, the science behind why perimenopause is actually a power shift (not a decline), and why the rising divorce rate in women's 50s has nothing to do with "losing their marbles" and everything to do with finally finding them.  Our socials:  Instagram - @the_fckit_list Youtube - @TheFckIt_List Connect with Kylie:  Instagram @fiftyandfearless Share your personal Fck It items with the hosts via socials or email: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, we're putting the age gap under the microscope. Why is it that a 50-year-old man dating a 20-year-old is a punchline at best and a status symbol at worst, while women who dare to do the same get labelled, ridiculed, and given the nickname, “cougar." Jas, Carly, and Jen dig into the Leonardo DiCaprio dating graph that broke the internet, the neuroscience of the prefrontal cortex and why "she's over 18" is doing a lot of heavy lifting, and the wildly different cultural responses to older men dating younger women versus older women doing the exact same thing. They unpack the power imbalances baked into big age gaps, the provider narrative that quietly normalises them, and why the word "cougar" says everything about how little patience society has for women doing whatever the hell they want. Our socials:  Instagram - @the_fckit_list Youtube - @TheFckIt_List Share your personal Fck It items with the hosts via socials or email: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, we're putting modern love on trial. From the dehumanising scroll of dating apps to the stigma of divorce, the impossible checklist we bring to first dates, and the conditioning that tells women they hit 35, why is finding connection in 2026 somehow harder, lonelier, and weirder than ever? Jas, Carly, and Jen are joined by Alex Yapps, content creator, dating coach, and self-proclaimed divorce enthusiast who's on a mission to convince women that post-divorce might just be their best era yet. Together they unpack the bar-is-on-the-floor reality of dating apps (gamification, ghosting, and the guy who "forgot" to mention his wife), why older women are being hunted by 20-year-olds with no bed frames and 60-year-olds who haven't done a day of self-reflection, the surprising case for dating younger men, and whether forever should even be the goal. They're officially adding divorce shame, expiry-date culture, and the algorithmically rigged dating machine to the FckIt List. Our socials:  Instagram - @the_fckit_list Youtube - @TheFckIt_List TikTok - @thefckitlist Connect with Alex:  Instagram @alex.yapps Share your personal Fck It items with the hosts via socials or email: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, we're talking about male bystanders. Why is it that when a CNN investigation exposes an online rape academy with 62 million monthly visits, the loudest response from men isn't outrage, it's not all men? Jas, Carly, and Jen continue their conversation with Andrew 'Bernie' Bernard, unpacking how men can move from performative masculinity to genuine accountability, the insidious on-ramps to coercive control hiding in plain sight, and why "calling in" beats "calling out" every single time. They're officially adding male silence to the FckIt List. Trigger warning: this episode contains discussion of men's violence against women, sexual assault, coercive control, and self-harm. Our socials:  Instagram - @the_fckit_list Youtube - @TheFckIt_List TikTok - @thefckitlist Connect with Bernie:  Instagram - @_whatmakesaman_ Links & Resources Mentioned Bernies greetings cards: https://www.lovelossdiscoballs.co.uk/ Share your personal Fck It items with the hosts via socials or email: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The ‘super skinny’ comeback, and exercising making you…checks notes…chunky?! These are just a few things women are fcking off in this Fck It Files Segment. Tune in and find out what else is on the list.  Our socials:  Instagram - @the_fckit_list Youtube - @TheFckIt_List TikTok - @thefckitlist Share your personal Fck It items with the hosts via socials or email: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, we're talking about the manosphere. Why is it that as women are going quieter, DE&I is being dismantled, and violence against women is getting worse — the loudest voices online are telling young men they're the real victims? Jas, Carly, and Jen sit down with UK-based writer, educator and activist Andrew 'Bernie' Bernard — a man who has spoken to over 70,000 people about domestic abuse and coercive control since his sister was fatally stabbed by her partner in 2012. Together they unpack "manufactured male victimhood," the Man Box that's suffocating men and boys, and why the whole manosphere is ultimately just guys peacocking for other guys. They're officially adding the Red Pill to the FckIt List. Our socials:  Instagram - @the_fckit_list Youtube - @TheFckIt_List TikTok - @thefckitlist Connect with Bernie:  Instagram - @_whatmakesaman_ Links & Resources Mentioned Bernies greetings cards: https://www.lovelossdiscoballs.co.uk/ Share your personal Fck It items with the hosts via socials or email: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we're talking about the case for algorithm regulation. If you’re a boy or a man, in under 23 minutes you’ll be fed extreme misogynistic content. We are now living in tailored echo chambers. Instead of trusting experts, academics and journalistic news sources, we engage with content from influencers who have “hacked” the algo. Jas, Jen, Carly along with guest and activist and founder of Teach Us Consent, Chanel Contos, dig into what fuels the algorithm. what gets rewarded, why it's doing real harm to our children and how we might have a chance at fixing it. Our socials:  Instagram - @the_fckit_list Youtube - @TheFckIt_List TikTok - @thefckitlist Connect with Chanel:  Teach us Consent Instagram - @teachusconsent Links & Resources Mentioned Sign the Fix Our Feeds open letter to the Prime Minister asking for algorithm regulation. Share your personal Fck It items with the hosts via socials or email: [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Three fierce women. No filters. Zero apologies. Join Jasmin Bedir, Carly Pelham & Jen Dobbie as they name everything they're done with. This isn't wellness, it's liberation. From beauty standards to the mental load, what's going on your list?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.