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Send us Fan MailLet that monster go!The way we use language in everyday speech plays a powerful role in shaping our thought patterns. Through semantics—the meanings we assign to words—we gradually “train” our minds to interpret reality in consistent ways (Lakoff & Johnson, 2003).     For example, repeatedly using absolute terms like “always” or “never” can reinforce rigid thinking, while more flexible language such as “sometimes” or “it seems” encourages openness and cognitive adaptability. Over time, these linguistic habits influence perception, emotional responses, and decision-making, demonstrating that thought is not only expressed through language but also structured by it.       By becoming more intentional with our word choices, we can actively reshape the mental frameworks that guide our beliefs and behaviors. This is true in many other aspects as well; sometimes we even stunt our healing process with the way we speak about our experiences and our trauma, like when we say things like, "My abuser."In fact, if we break "My Rapist" / "My Abuser" down using our 3,2,1 method, we may develop a different perspective:3 - He's my rapist / my abuser2- He's MINE1- ForeverConceptualizing the individual who violated you with the words, "MY rapist/abuser," you subconsciously brand yourself with their existence. Without even realizing it, you allow this individual to remain a part of your story.  And although they were at some point, a part of your story, the part they played in that aspect of your life has to come to an end so this individual and that situation no longer has a stronghold on you.Let's FLIP ThE ScRipT on the way we talk about the people who violated us!3 - Not MY rapist/abuser2 - Go Away1 - BYE!From this point on, that monster you've been holding on to is free to go. That is all for now my friends,Happy Healing!!Thoughts and/or concerns? Leave a comment on our Facebook page by clicking the link below nowhttps://www.facebook.com/flippingscriptswithanettatiquila/posts/pfbid0HkWQ3Vd9wwj56Qw6YCtqJ4Tp9TK3j8YJ4AYRDxZPbtZV5Bhm9rrDRbTUhStovFMRlReference  Lakoff, G., & Johnson, M. (2003). Metaphors we live by. University of Chicago Press.Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailI don't know who needs to hear this, but to whom it may concern....you are EVERYTHING where they are NOTHING!Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailYou heard it here first!BS Sandwich Ingredients:- Two to three slices of truth- Toxic narratives- Gossip- Brain washing dogma- Manipulative language- Gas lighting verbiage- Other forms of negativity How most people make their BS sandwichesStep 1: the hook - first/top slice of breadPresent a little bit of truth; this is how they pull you in. They'll start by saying something that may be common knowledge or a widely accepted theory in order to catch your attention. Here is where they hook you. Now that they have you hanging onto their every word, they'll start adding the "meat" to the sandwich.Step 2: adding the "meat"Suddenly they will start inserting the gossip, toxic narratives, brain washing dogma, manipulative language, gas lighting verbiage, and other forms of negative energy into what first appeared to be a wholesome, enlightening conversation. Step 3: the last/bottom slice of breadHere is where they may notice your face twitch, or the tone of your voice will soften in confusion. They'll pick up on both verbal and nonverbal body languages that tells them you may be questioning their speech, or the ideas they are setting forth. In fact, they may not notice anything at all, but due to the fact that they know you are otherwise an intelligent individual, they also know they have to recover from the BS they just served before you catch on.        So, they will revert back to positive language, start again with stating common knowledge or a widely accepted idea, or they may even start showering you with compliments, turning the now negative conversation on YOU. Please be aware that just like that first slice of bread, this last slice of bread is only being added as a distraction!FYIPlease keep in mind that in some cases, a person might try to feed you a double-decker/big mac! This is when the BS they are serving is obviously so far-fetched, they have to add an extra slice of bread in between the "meat." They will do this so that the truth is buried so deeply in the bread that even when you notice it, it's virtually impossible to deny!     Please note that when you eat a BS sandwich, you yourself may officially become full of sh--. In this event, you may need to do a spiritual, mental and physical detox to restore your equilibrium. This has been a public service announcement  Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailThree common statements people use when they want to escape accountability for their actions, words, influence, etc.Here are some ways you can flip the script on people when they attempt to gaslight you in this manner:** Look at their forehead when responding **- Don't instantly react. Instead, take a moment to look at them in the eyes and ask, "Are you ok?"- Remain calm and ask a follow up question such as, "Is there anything other non-valuable feedback you'd like to ask?" or say something like, "You must feel sorry for yourself very often."- Ask, "are you sure about that?"- Calmly ask, "Are you having a bad day?"-  Ask them a personal question to make them focus on themselves instead. For example, if someone tells you that you're always playing the victim, ask them "When you're expressing yourself about something, are YOU playing victim?"- Calmly say to them, " I guess truth is hard to process for some people."These are simply psychology tricks that will cause the person who is attempting to gaslight you, to question themselves instead. Even if their response to your reaction doesn't take place immediately; when they are alone, their lingering self-doubt will cause them to question their interaction and behavior with you for some time!Remember, self-expression is key to healing, personal growth and confidence. In standing your ground against master manipulators, you will develop a superpower that will help you navigate life and life's challenges in a healthy, respectful manner.Thanks for listening, and thanks for reading!Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailIf it's illegal by law it should NOT be allowed in music!We need to flip the script of the freedom of speech EXPEDITIOUSLY Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailYet another false narrative that needs to be put to rest. Sometimes it IS Everybody else, who is always in the wrong, NOT you....It's time that the world starts acknowledging the truth for what it is! * DISCLAIMER *The audio quality is poor, but the message is valid, necessary and it needs to be heard. Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailWhat are these songs really saying to us?Think about that while you download your copy of my new book, "April's Fool," which is a cautionary tale about keeping dangerous secretsGrab your copy now!https://a.co/d/duzaXklSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailTruth is, If you are singing lyrics like, "broke boys don't deserve no pu--y," you are effectively promoting prostitution. Three things I want to ask anyone who agrees with the notion that broke boys don't deserve no pu--y is:1) What do you consider broke?2) Let's say a man is rich; How much money does he have to spend before you go to bed with him?3) If a man spends the required amount of money, then you go ahead and sleep with him - did you just prostitute yourself?This is something to think about.  Also, this makes me wonder if this is where the term, "The dating market" comes from because it seems like the concept of dating includes an exchange of goods and services, not a chance to meet with someone who may share a real connection through common interests, real attraction and the sharing of good energy. Historically, the power dynamic between women and men perpetuates inequality that is the result of men making more money than women on a global level, so songs like this further encourage gender inequality. I don't know about you, but I'll never encourage my children, or anyone else's children to buy into this narrative.For critique and educational purposes  Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailLet's break that down: The first and last words of this saying are so contradictory toward one another, that they should not be used in the same sentence.  Just look at it for a moment so that you can get a clear visual of the misleading message attached to this narrative:Kill them with kindnessIn 3: Take their life2: Kill them1: KillSubliminal message: Kill their joy by showing them a false sense of kindness, acceptance and victory. Make them feel like you forgive them, but if ever you can get away with murder, you should actually KILL them.Definition of kill:1.Cause the death of (a person, animal, or other living thing).2. Put an end to or cause the failure or defeat of (something).Do you see the subliminal message here?Flip the script on it!:THRILL them with kindnessin 3: Model for them2: Thrill them3: Excel Excel at being a strong, #great person. Be so genuine and authentic, that your kindness models the way a decent human should treat another human, make it feel so good, that it actually sends thrills down their spineSo, what would you prefer to do - Thrill, or kill? I only hope you will go with the former (Thrill)!Definition of Thrill: A sudden feeling of excitement and pleasure.It is virtually impossible to be so kind to a person, that you kill them.  But, you can be so kind to a person that you thrill them.  Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailSomeone told you, "If you can't beat'em, join'em" - and you fell for that.Someone told you, "No New Friends," and you fell for that.They told you, "Children should be seen, not heard," and you fell for that.They told you, "Having a piece of a man is better than having no man at all," and you fell for THAT!When are you finally going to #standup ?Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailDuring a live broadcast on tiktok, I discussed the issue if domestic violence and how the issue is trivialized through music. Two guests stepped into my boxes to talk about their personal experiences with DV, and I gave away free copies of my Ebook title d, "He Killed Me First," which tells the drastic story of how badly things could end if both the victims and the perpetrators don't get help.To grab you copy of the book at a discounted price, click the link below. This offer ends soon, so take advantage of this offer and grab your copy NOW https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089KFSDWT/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_XQTJSWY116RSRZDGEPACDISCLAIMER: The music played during this episode were played to educate the public on how domestic violence is normalized through  music, and to provide insight on the severity of the issue. I do not own nor claim the copyrights to any of the songs played in this episode Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailSeason 1 has come to a beautiful endThank you all for supporting the show. Here is where you can send your inquiries, suggestions, questions and comments: [email protected], I misspoke - I meant to say, "Thank you for spreading the WORD, not world" .... Oopsie 😬Until next time - take careSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailThis may come as a shock to you, but some of your longest friendships are bad habits that need to be broken!"No new friends" basically means:3 - Close your heart2 - be antisocial1 - isolateStop isolating yourself from the rest of the world, and step outside of your comfort zone for onceFlip the script on it: No toxic friends!Break it down!3 - good friends only2 - be great1 - connectconnect with good people and disconnect from toxic energies now!Click this link to voice your opinion on this episodehttps://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid02j2yh6UjwtLkMbwE7wEEYRsL1ev8tUriHF9WjBFUcmMhzfdJx5ZRRnggHUQoQ6Ed9l&id=109353201742588* Be on the lookout for merchandise that contains our flipped script - I'd love to see you rocking a better way of thinkingSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailSometimes they come back just to finish you off!Note: I misspoke and said, "why would you want to go into remission?" What I meant was to say is, why would you want to relapse? That is, once you've healed, why reinjure yourself?This saying is pretty much telling us to:3 - Repeat your mistakes2 - reinjure yourself 1 - BreakTo some degree, you will BREAK every time you allow the wrong people BACK into your life. The result is that you go into "remission" - the mind tricks that manipulative, narcissistic people play makes it appears that the toxicity is gone, but that cancerous-like growth is still there, causing damage within your heart, mind and soul  Flip the script on it: Once you let them go, learn how to love them from the distanceBreak it down!:3 - love with caution2 - be happy1 - GrowGrow AWAY from people who come in and out of your life as they please.Thoughts? Comment here:https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid02VtuZqcitqyPydKSFAKGEn2bkmZjtazE8nrnuAgSjVm44Vg7q9keEYpwQwEW9masxl&id=109353201742588 Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailThe United States, Canada and Australia have some of the highest rates of filicide. One of the main culprits leading to this phenomenon is that saying, "I bought you into this world, I can take you out."  Let's break that down:3 - I'll kill you!2 - You're Mine!1 - Die!Flip the script on it: "I might take away your privileges, but I will NEVER take away your life!"Break it down:3 - I love you!2 - You're safe1 - live!TERMS:1. Fil·i·cide [ˈfiləˌsīd]: The killing of one's son or daughter:2. Hon·or kill·ing [honor killing]: In certain cultures, the killing of a relative, especially a girl or woman, who is perceived to have brought dishonor on the family.MORE INFORMATION ON FILICIDE:Parents feel like their children belong to themhttps://theconversation.com/men-and-women-kill-their-children-in-roughly-equal-numbers-and-we-need-to-understand-why-153527A research article on filicide in the United Stateshttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5282617/?fbclid=IwAR3YSETgv6eRY1ver3ha8v4uwwlfdn9ZWhere did the quote originate? Click the link below to find outhttps://bit.ly/3NIK6a0RESOURCES FOR PARENTS:1.  https://www.healthyplace.com/parenting/parenting-help/parenting-resources-organizations-that-help-parents#:~:text=%20Parenting%20Resources%20and%20Organizations%20that%20Support%20All,Keep%20Connected%20Program%0AThe%20Search%20Institute%20is...%20More%202.  https://www.cdc.gov/childrensmentalhealth/features/supporting-parents.htmlSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailHere is some information for you to check out:1.https://www.wkrn.com/news/heres-why-you-should-always-close-the-toilet-lid-before-you-flush/2.https://www.familyhandyman.com/article/always-close-the-toilet-lid-when-you-flush-heres-why/Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailTake in a slow, deep breath, and exhale slowly. Repeat three times.Now, tap into your senses by answering this question - In this very moment, what is one thing you could:- See- Feel- Smell- Hear- TasteChallenge: Answer this question within any comment section connected with this episode.Also, check out Episode 11, "Children Should Be Seen, Not Heard"https://www.buzzsprout.com/1941305/10485681-children-should-be-seen-not-heard.mp3?download=trueHappy Friday 😊☺️Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailThere is no reason for some of the crap that happens, when you say that everything happens for a reason, what you are basically saying is:3 - Violence is acceptable2 - Embrace Misery1 - Worry*This quote trains us to worry about the things we can't control. The fact that people try to make it seem that there is some type of an acceptable "Reason" behind tragedy other than the fact that some people are careless and wicked (in regards to violence, injustice and hate crimes), is disturbing! 😳😲😯Let's flip the script: Some things should never happen, PERIOD!Break it down...3 - Hold people accountable2 - Control yourselves1- CHANGE!Change how we avoid situations that warrant our attention, change dangerous and violent behaviors,  change policies like gun laws that allow weapons of mass destruction to end up in the wrong hands (FYI - weapons of mass destruction ALWAYS end up in the wrong hands... hint, hint!)White Supremacists kills 10 people, are we gonna still say that everything happens for a reason?! What was the "Reason" for this?!https://www.nytimes.com/live/2022/05/14/nyregion/buffalo-shootingCorrection: 21  total fatalities in the Texas school shooting SMFHhttps://www.cnn.com/us/live-news/texas-elementary-school-shooting-05-27-22/h_760afcb15b0f54413a3e870e9a758d9aSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailThis book is the prime example of why you should never judge a book by it's cover!Grab your copy by clicking this linkhttps://www.amazon.com/fast-Millie-Belizaire/dp/B08CJWKSW3/Check out this episode alsohttps://open.spotify.com/episode/4RNOO4J8n0O1if5Nsijfk7?si=dTPvd6BwQhuS0QoezBuSZgSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailListen all the way to the end!Here is the translation of my Tiktok video, "Read My Lips Part 2".... All I want to know is what you're going to do about it. Click the website link and let the world know, if you dare to shareSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailHere's something I bet you didn't know...Racial segregation is a systematic problem ! This book titled, "Mothering While Black: Boundaries and Burdens of Middle-Class" will help you to understand how are not only are our individual choices contributing factors to systematic racism, but the choices were thought we were making had already been made for us! Below is the link to the book, in case you want to check it outhttps://www.amazon.com/Mothering-While-Black-Boundaries-Middle-Class/dp/0520300327How do minorities contribute to this type of racism? By fighting so hard to be "Normal"White Habitus: a pattern of socialization among white people that excludes black people and their culture, created as a result of racial segregation.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_habitusHere's the maphttps://www.opportunityatlas.org/Check out this previous episode where I talked about how narratives pushed by elites cause minorities to become yet another statistichttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1941305/10284430-if-you-can-t-beat-em-join-em.mp3?download=trueSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailAccording to Goffman, our sense-of-self is influenced mostly by how other's percieve us, and we are constantly changing roles to meet the standards of those we want to be accepted byHere's a power point on Goffman's theory of dramaturgyhttps://home.csulb.edu/~hmarlowe/SOC335/Goffman_Dramaturgical_Model.pdfMore information on Goffman's  impression managementhttps://www.sparknotes.com/sociology/identity-and-reality/section2/Hyperreality in sociology: The inability of consciousness to distinguish reality from a simulation of reality. This concept was developed by French theorist Jean Baudrillard A quote that captures the idea of impression management and dramaturgy is, "You never get a second chance to make a first impression"In other words:3- choose a role2 - fit in1 - conform... Conform to societal standards, even if that means forfeiting your individuality - Not! We will not conform to other people's expectations anymore, will we?What we should encourage instead is:" Your true self is much more valuable than your first impression"break it down!3 - Always be authentic2 - stand out1 - LIVE!L - letI - individualismV - validate E - everyoneLive according to your own standards, and at the same time - be good to people, be honest, be kind and most importantly, be uniquely YOU!Click the link below to join the community and/or to leave your thoughtsSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailWords DO HURT, and apologies are not proverbial erasers!!  The break down ( of the original quote):3 - tell me anything2 - curse me1 - attackInstead we are going to say, "I'd rather you not use sticks, stones or words to try and hurt me"Break it down!:3 - watch your mouth!2 - DON'T attack1 - breatheInstead of deflecting your anger and frustration, take a deep breath, and walk away ...Click this link to leave your thoughts on the original saying and/or on our flipped scriptSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailSo,  are we basically saying that:3 - kids are worthless2 - remain silent1 - loseWhat we should be saying instead is: See children for who they want to be, and listen to who they are telling you they are." So basically:3 - listen to children2 - hear children (hear them out)1 - encourageEncourage children to advocate for themselves, to voice their opinions and to exercise their tongues!Check out this episode to get an idea of what happens when we DON'T encourage children to move their tongueshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/flip-the-script/id1610408555Leave your thoughtshttps://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=116556591022249&id=109353201742588Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailNewsflash: You have a voice too! Click here to lift your voice! ( Add your thoughts)https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=114860461191862&id=109353201742588Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailCommon idea: LOYALTYThink about what makes you loyal. Is it the fact that you confirm to substandard behavior? Is it because you follow crowds down the wrong path?Are you being loyal just to fit in?Are you loyal because you're the "yes man"?Who are you loyal to, and why?Is loyalty causing you to forfeit your good, authentic character?We don't need to flip the script on this common idea, we simply need to think critically about this.  Speak your piece by clicking the link below:https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=114753891202519&id=109353201742588Watch my YouTube video on the topic of loyalty here:https://youtu.be/iMXVcrluLVMSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailWhy would you want to be like THEM?LET'S break this down with our three-step technique:3 - Be like them2 - get revenge1 - failFLIP THE SCRIPT:Don't Even Get Mad3 - Don't get even2 - move on1 - DigressClick here to share your thoughtshttps://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=110696958274879&id=109353201742588Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailThis saying has taught people how to be good actors! Click here to leave your opinion and feedbackhttps://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=109972555013986&id=109353201742588Watch me on YouTube, and remember to subscribe!https://youtu.be/2ecooPoZCPoSupport the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailFrom this day forward, we are no longer skinning cats. Find something else to do, got it?!3. Violence is acceptable2. Use violence1. HurtFLiP ThE ScRipT There's more than one way to get things done3. Just do it!2. Try again1. Succeed Go here to leave your thoughts, comments and opinions https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=109406461737262&id=109353201742588Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailWomen, it's time we take charge - let's get on topWant to leave a comment? Click this linkhttps://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=109417748402800&id=109353201742588Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan Mail3. Lower your standards 2. Take anything1. SettleFLiP ThE ScRipTI'd rather have Peace than to have a piece of man3. Quality men only2. Do better1. WaitWe have to give generations Y and Z better advice to follow! Join the community to chime in on the conversation!Here's the link https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=109420228402552&id=109353201742588 Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailThis one was requested by one of my listeners, and I couldn't see any other way to flip this script 🤣🤣Click this link to leave a commenthttps://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=109421231735785&id=109353201742588Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailJoin the community and leave your thoughts, opinions and comments by clicking the link below!https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=109422498402325&id=109353201742588Exercise both hemispheres of your brain! Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailThis quote is an insult to women everywhere!Let's flip the script on it: One man's lesson is another man's blessingClick this link to join the conversationhttps://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=109423415068900&id=109353201742588Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailThis is just a random thought I wanted to shareClick the link below to join the community!https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=109424745068767&id=109353201742588Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailThis particular saying has trained generation 'X' and 'Y'  to fall victim to statistics and stereotypes. Let us flip the script on this horrible advice!Let's do the 3,2,1 sum-it-up on, "If you can't beat'em, join'em"3 - just give in/just give up2 - bow down1 - fold!Now, let's do the 3,2,1 sum-it-up on our new quote, "You can Beat'em!"3 - let's rise above2 - be different1 - win! Click the link below to leave a comment!https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=109426541735254&id=109353201742588Support the show**Unedited and Raw**

Send us Fan MailIntroducing, "FLIP THE SCRIPT"Tune in for episode 2 where we're going to analyze the saying, "If you can't beat'em, join'em" Support the show**Unedited and Raw**