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For The Hayters
by PodcastOne
For The Hayters is a space where vulnerability is met with strength, and real stories remind us we’re never alone. Hosted by a community of storytellers and listeners alike, this podcast dives into the personal journeys—both beautiful and brutal—that shape who we are. From life-changing challenges to moments of resilience, our guests open up about the experiences that have defined them, in hopes of connecting, healing, and inspiring others. Whether you’re here to feel seen, heard, or understood, this is your reminder: your story matters.beckyhayter.com
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You Don't Feel It When You Die: The Difference Between Alive and Living
TW: heart failure, near-death/flatline, suicide loss, domestic abuse, depression. At three months old, Bree was given six months to live. She's 49 now — the only one left from a group of kids born with the same heart condition. We talk about being a "miracle baby" with the weight of that title, grieving the version of yourself you used to be, and the difference between existing and actually living.Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Wallet Therapy: Free Money on the Table | The 401(k) Match You're Probably Missing
You make decent money. You're contributing something to your 401(k). You think you're good. But what if I told you there's free money sitting on the table — money your employer literally wants to give you — and most people have no idea they're walking away from it?This week on Wallet Therapy, Becky admits she spent years contributing 2% to her 401(k) and missing out on her full employer match (oof), and Alex breaks down the part of your paycheck you might not even know you're leaving behind.We get into:What an employer match actually IS (explained like you're five)Why this is step five on your money journey — and when it's okay to skip aheadThe "paycheck illusion" and why contributing $100 doesn't actually take $100 out of your checkRoth vs. Traditional 401(k) — and why Alex has strong feelings about itReal numbers: what starting at 20 vs. 30 vs. 40 vs. 50 actually looks like at retirementWhy it's NEVER too late to start (and the math to prove it)Your homework: Log into your 401(k) right now. Check your contribution percentage. Is it hitting your full employer match? If not, increase it today. That's it. That's the assignment.🎟️ Want to ask Alex your specific 401(k) questions live? Join us May 14th at 6pm in our Wallet Therapy Live session on Patreon → patreon.com/beckyhaterTry Monarch: Get 50% off your first year → https://monarch.com/referral/ey3kkk8c7eConnect with us:Join the Live Therapy: Support the show and join our monthly live Q&As at patreon.com/beckyhayter.Share your story: Email us at [email protected] to have your financial scenario featured on the show!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Grief, Generational Choke Holds & Choosing Each Other : The Cousin Who Became My Person
TW: parental death, grief, generational trauma, brain surgery, mentions of medical events. Laura and Este grew up in the same massive Italian family — same Christmases, same wedding tables, same kitchen — and barely spoke for the first 20 years of their lives. Then Laura's dad died. This conversation is about grief, immigrant parents, generational patterns, and the cousin who became her person inside a family she'd known her whole life. Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Parenting in Two Directions at Once | Growing Up Early & Caring for the Mom Who Raised Her
TW: parental abandonment, complicated grief, dementia, caregiver burnout, complex family dynamics.Danielle was raised by a single mom with a disability in the same small town as the father who chose not to be part of her life. Now she's parenting her own daughter while becoming a caregiver for the mother who raised her — who's living with dementia. This conversation is about growing up early, grieving a door that never opened, and learning to love in two directions at once.Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Wallet Therapy: Money & Relationships: The Friendship Tax, Vision Dates & the 50/50 Trap
70% of couples argue about money more than they argue about chores — and yet nobody teaches us how to actually talk about it. Becky gets real this week, confessing that the second she downloaded Monarch and started tracking every dollar, Leah felt like she was being audited (in her defense, the mystery $450 Amazon charge turned out to be baby formula). She's said no to dinners with friends, her social life feels strained, and now she's wondering — is getting your money together supposed to cost you your relationships? If you've ever felt the squeeze between financial goals and the people you love, this one is for you.The Solution: Alex (The Expert) walks through the three conversations every couple needs to be having — and the mindset shifts that make them work:The Vision Date: Start with dreams, not numbers. Where do you want to be in 1, 3, 5, 10 years? Shared goals are what make the spending plan actually stick.The Monthly Check-In: 15-20 minutes, consistent, awareness not judgment. No hour-long money court sessions.The Emergency Huddle: When the unexpected hits, no blame — just solution.The 50/50 Trap: Why splitting bills equally when incomes aren't equal quietly causes financial infidelity — and why a percentage-based split is almost always more fair.The Friendship Tax: How to handle friends who spend at a different level than you (spoiler: the counter-offer changes everything).Your Most Expensive Relationship: Why your phone is quietly costing you more than any person in your life, and the 24-hour rule that helps you break up with it.Plus, we answer a question from Anonymous — she's over 50, just told her husband about $10K in credit card debt, and he suggested separate fun accounts + a shared household account. Alex walks her through exactly where to start.Schedule a vision date with your partner this week (or your future one — this still works solo). No spreadsheets. No numbers. Just dreams. Where do you want to be in 1, 3, 5, 10 years? Making it public makes it real.Try Monarch (the app Becky mentioned): Get 50% off your first year → https://monarch.com/referral/ey3kkk8c7eConnect with us:Join the Live Therapy: Support the show and join our monthly live Q&As at patreon.com/beckyhayter.Share your story: Email us at [email protected] to have your financial scenario featured on the show!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Loss of Twins at 21 Weeks: Infertility, PCOS, and Finding Joy | Kortney’s Story
Trigger Warning: This episode contains detailed discussions of pregnancy loss, stillbirth, infant death, and postpartum depression.After years of navigating PCOS and multiple IUI cycles, Kortney finally heard the words she’d prayed for: "You’re pregnant." But the joy of expecting twins, Kinsley and Cameron, was met with a terrifying reality at her 20-week scan. Her cervix had opened, and her pregnancy shifted into a crisis no parent is prepared for.In this episode, Kortney walks us through the delivery of her twins at 21 weeks, the "Cuddle Cot" that gave her precious time with them, and the grueling path through IVF to bring her daughter and son home years later. This is a raw look at grief, the "redemption" of a healthy birth, and learning that joy and loss can coexist.Interview, narration, and editing by Becky Hayter, with post-production, scripting, and sound design by Emily Nadal.Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Growing Up with an Alcoholic Parent: Starr’s Story
Trigger Warning: This episode discusses parental alcoholism, child neglect, suicide attempts, and graphic descriptions of traumatic death.In this episode, Starr sits down with me to pull back the curtain on a childhood where "home" was never a synonym for "safe." For Starr, life was a constant exercise in "second nature" awareness—learning to read the room before the day even unfolded to see which version of her mother she was going to get.From witnessing a traumatic police intervention before the age of three to watching her mother jump from a second-story balcony, Starr’s story is a raw look at the "Jekyll and Hyde" reality of loving an addict. We discuss the heavy burden of being an emotional caretaker for a parent, the complicated "relief" that comes with a traumatic loss, and the "gut punch" of finding her mother’s secret journals a year after her death—words that finally answered the "why" Starr had been carrying her entire life. Today, Starr is focused on breaking the cycle, prioritizing peace, and navigating the terrifying path of becoming the mother she never had.Interview, narration, and editing by Becky Hayter, with post-production, scripting, and sound design by Emily Nadal.Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988SAMHSA’s National Helpline (Substance Abuse): 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA): adultchildren.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Wallet Therapy: The Truth About Debt Consolidation
Most of us treat our credit cards like a safety net, but as Alex points out, the average household is actually trapped under $17 trillion in national debt. Becky gets vulnerable this week, admitting to a peak of $30,000 in credit card debt and the "vicious cycle" of consolidating balances just to rack them up again. If you’ve ever looked at your banking app through your fingers, this one is for you.The Solution: Alex (The Expert) breaks down the "High Interest Killer"—debts at 7-8% or higher that cost you more than the stock market could ever make you. We break down the two heavy-hitters of payoff strategy:The Snowball: Paying the smallest balances first for that emotional "win".The Avalanche: Tackling high-interest rates first to save the most money mathematically.CTA: We’re challenging you to find just $5 extra this week to put toward your smallest debt—prove to the bank that you are the boss of that dollar!Connect with us:Join the Live Therapy: Support the show and join our monthly live Q&As at patreon.com/beckyhayter.Share your story: Email us at [email protected] to have your financial scenario featured on the show!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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10 Years for Him, A Life Sentence for Us: Justice for Shawn Stewart
Trigger Warning: This episode discusses fatal car accidents, drunk driving, and graphic descriptions of loss.In August 2023, Brooke’s life was shattered. Her husband, Shawn, was killed in a head-on collision by a drunk driver with a BAC of 0.28 while on his way to work.What followed was a harrowing journey through a legal system that Brooke feels hands victims a "life sentence" while the responsible party receives only a fraction of that time. From identifying Shawn by surgical screws in his ankle to facing the driver who was once a face on her own Facebook feed, Brooke’s story is a raw look at the cost of a "choice". Today, she is fighting to change DUI laws and keeping Shawn’s memory alive through "Shine for Shawn".Interview, narration, and editing by Becky Hayter, with post-production, scripting, and sound design by Emily Nadal.Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD): madd.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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The DNA of a Mother: Choosing Love Over Biology
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses miscarriage and the emotional toll of pregnancy loss."I just wanna kiss a girl. I would never date one." That was the internal narrative Jean Kupers held until she met her wife, Allie. Growing up in a small town with rigid gender roles and "wacko" but liberal-leaning parents, Jean’s path to motherhood was anything but traditional. From the clinical coldness of IVF to the devastating loss of their first female embryo, this episode is a raw look at what it means to build a family with intention when biology doesn't do the heavy lifting.Jean opens up about the "non-birthing partner struggle"—the fear that the lack of a genetic or physical connection would create a barrier between her and her son, Carson. We dive deep into the controversial world of sperm donors, the "father" typo on a birth certificate that sparked an identity crisis, and why Jean is choosing a different path (IUI) for baby number two. This isn't just a story about being queer; it's a story about the universal anxiety of wondering: Will I be enough?Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Wallet Therapy: The "Oh Crap" Fund
Is your phone giving you a "pit in your stomach" every time you check your bank balance? You aren't alone—53% of Americans couldn't cover a $1,000 emergency with savings.In this episode of Wallet Therapy, Becky admits she’s been "driving through a rainstorm without windshield wipers" , while Alex explains why a Starter Emergency Fund is actually your most important "insurance policy for your sanity". We’re breaking down the "Starter" vs. "Fully Funded" approach, why you need to move your money to a separate High-Yield Savings Account (HYSA) to stop impulse spending , and why building this fund is actually a higher priority than paying off your credit cards.In this episode, we discuss:The 3-Question Test: How to tell if a "70% off blazer" or a "Vegas birthday trip" is actually an emergency (Spoiler: They aren’t) .The "Out of Sight" Strategy: Why your savings needs to live at a completely different bank than your checking account.Financial Whack-A-Mole: Why it’s actually a win when your emergency fund hits zero because of a vet bill or a dead microwave.The "F-You" Money Goal: Transitioning from a $1,000 starter fund to a fully-fledged 3–12 month "warm blanket" of security.Your Homework: Open a separate savings account today (it’s free!) and transfer your first $5 into it—even if you have to find it in your couch cushions.Connect with us:Join the Live Therapy: Support the show and join our monthly live Q&As at patreon.com/beckyhayter.Share your story: Email us at [email protected] to have your financial scenario featured on the show!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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4 Losses, 5 Years: Brittany’s Unfathomable Grief
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains deep discussions of multiple family losses, terminal cancer, and the sudden death of a spouse."Wait, that’s not what was supposed to happen." Those were the words Brittany told me when reflecting on the loss of her father—the "healthy" parent who was supposed to be her rock. She didn't know then that it was only the beginning of a five-year window that would claim four of the most important people in her life, ending with the sudden loss of her husband and best friend in September 2024.Now a single mother of two, Brittany sits down with me to pull back the curtain on what it actually looks like to carry "shattered pieces" while trying to be a whole person for your children. This isn't a story about "getting over it"—it's a raw look at emotional survival when the world stops turning, but the clock keeps ticking.Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988GriefShare Support Groups: griefshare.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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The Sailor, The Single Mom, & The 1-Pound Miracle
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses premature birth, traumatic labor, medical intervention for micro-preemies, and birth-related trauma."Your family didn't come in your sea bag." That’s what they tell you in the Navy. But what happens when your "family" is a 1-pound, 6-ounce baby fighting for her life in a plastic box while you’re expected back in uniform?This week, I sit down with a woman who lived through every parent's nightmare while serving her country. At 23 weeks and 4 days, she woke up in a pool of blood, eight hours from home, and facing a medical team that pressured her to choose "comfort care"—essentially letting her baby pass away—because of her age and status as a single mother.She chose the fight. She hit the 24-week "viability" mark by a mere two hours, delivered via emergency C-section, and was back on active duty just six weeks later. This is the raw, unfiltered reality of a 129-day NICU stay, brain bleeds, 20 blood transfusions, and the staggering resilience of a Sailor who refused to take "no" for an answer.Connect with Guest: Instagram: @sarah.ruckerDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 For NICU support: Hand to HoldSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Wallet Therapy: Breaking the Paycheck-to-Paycheck Cycle
Ever feel like you’re on top of the world on Friday, only to be digging through couch cushions for change by Monday? You aren’t alone—and it’s not just a "low income" problem. In this episode of Wallet Therapy, Becky (the Novice) and Alex (the Expert) dive into the "Friday High" vs. the "Monday Panic." We’re breaking down why even high-income earners find themselves trapped in a cycle of overspending and how to finally build some breathing room.Inside the episode:The "Friday High": Why your brain triggers a sense of abundance on payday (and how to survive the weekend).High Earners, Zero Balances: The shocking stats on why making $100k+ doesn't automatically fix the cycle.The Financial Firewall: Alex coaches a listener through a $20k windfall to build a safety net that actually works.The $40 Ghost: Becky shares how she found an extra $40/month just by looking (and why you should, too).Systems vs. Willpower: Why "trying harder" fails and how to automate your way to a net-zero spending plan.Weekly Homework:Find Your Leak: Audit your last 30 days and cancel one subscription or "convenience spend" you don't use.Automate the Difference: Set up an auto-transfer to your savings for that exact amount on payday.Connect with us:Join the Live Therapy: Support the show and join our monthly live Q&As at patreon.com/beckyhayter.Share your story: Email us at [email protected] to have your financial scenario featured on the show!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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The Uterus Chronicles: Teen Pregnancy, Adoption, and the Cancer Flip
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses teen pregnancy, adoption, and cancer diagnosis.Jamie Shoemaker’s life has never been a straight line. From navigating a high-pressure teen pregnancy in a conservative church to choosing a private open adoption at fifteen, Jamie has spent her life breaking cycles. She’s been an egg donor, a mother, and a fierce advocate for her own body—a skill that became a matter of life and death when a routine check-up turned into a cervical cancer diagnosis at age 35.In this conversation, Jamie opens up about the "mind-fuck" of having her uterus—the organ that connected her to so much community and life—suddenly become the villain. We dive into the complexities of open adoption twenty years later, the reality of "survival" income through egg donation, and why she wrote an "ode to her uterus" before a life-altering hysterectomy. Jamie is a storyteller who reminds us that healing doesn’t happen in isolation and that "rest" is not a four-letter word.Connect with Guest: @jshoe11Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988Cervivor (Cervical Cancer Support): cervivor.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Pregnancy After Loss: When Joy and Grief Coexist
RIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses late-term stillbirth, medical trauma, and postpartum hemorrhaging."I didn't even have to hear the words. I could read it all over her face." Alyssa was 38 weeks pregnant—at the finish line—when the world stopped. In this raw conversation, Alyssa walks us through the devastating loss of her first daughter, Marianna Yvette, and the terrifying medical crisis that followed, leaving Alyssa "knocking on heaven’s door."We dive deep into the reality of pregnancy after loss—the scans every two weeks, the inability to feel excitement until the baby is crying in your arms, and the bittersweet realization that one child's life only exists because another's ended. This is a story about honoring the dead while fiercely raising the living.Connect with Guest: Instagram: @lyssa821 Facebook: Alyssa EstesDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 Support for Loss Families: Empty ArmsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Wallet Therapy: The B Word: How to Build a Spending Plan Without Feeling Punished
Becky has beef with the word budget.It feels restrictive. It feels like failure waiting to happen. It feels like getting grounded.So in this episode of Wallet Therapy, Becky and Alex are flipping the script. We’re retiring the word “budget” and replacing it with something that doesn’t make your nervous system panic: a spending plan.Inside this episode, we cover:Why 84% of people “fail” at budgeting (and why that’s not a you problem)The three-bucket method: Needs, Fun Money (aka the Becky Fund), and Debt/SavingsWhy fun money actually helps you reach your savings goalsHow to stop the all-or-nothing spiral after one $20 saladThe 10-Second Reset to interrupt impulse spending in real timeWhy your spending plan should align with your values — not punish youThis isn’t about tracking your failures.It’s about planning your freedom.If you’ve ever started a budget on Monday and emotionally quit by Thursday, this one’s for you.Ready to join the inner circle? Head over to our Patreon for early access to episodes and exclusive community! patreon.com/beckyhayterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Recovering the Life I Always Should Have Had Through Sobriety
This episode discusses severe alcoholism, suicidal ideation, and suicide attempts. Please listen with care.I sat down with Nicole, a mother of five who lived a "normal" life on the outside while a dark hole was swallowing her from the inside. From her first blackout at thirteen to drinking a Costco-sized handle of vodka every 24 hours, Nicole’s story is a harrowing look at how addiction isolates us from the people we love most—including ourselves.We dive deep into the moments the world doesn't see: the manipulation, the medical emergencies, and the day Nicole decided it would be better if she simply wasn't here anymore. But the pills didn't work, and what followed was a grueling, beautiful, and 180-degree transformation. This isn't just a story about quitting a substance; it’s about a woman who spent years unable to be alone with herself finally learning to love the person she sees in the mirror.Connect with Guest: Instagram: @cargonicoleDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 Alcoholics Anonymous: aa.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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He Became a Father Overnight: Griff’s Story of Stepping Up for Kylie and Josh
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses the sudden loss of a parent and substance abuse recovery.When Kylie lost her mother unexpectedly in 2024, her life shifted in an instant. She didn't just lose her mom; she became the legal guardian of her teenage brother, Josh. But she wasn't alone. Her husband, Griff, didn't hesitate. Without a formal meeting or a long debate, he stepped into the role of a father figure, proving that family isn't just about biology—it’s about who shows up when the world falls apart.In this episode, I sit down with Griff to hear the perspective we don't often get: the partner who chooses to take on the "messy" parts of a spouse’s history. From navigating vastly different upbringings to the reality of family therapy and the friction of parenting a teenager while still being "newlyweds," this is a raw look at resilience, loyalty, and what it actually means to be a team.Connect with Guest: Follow Kylie & Griff's journey: @kyliem_98Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988The Dinner Party (Grief Support for Young Adults): thedinnerparty.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Wallet Therapy: Why One of Us is Broke and the Other is a Coach
Welcome to the very first episode of our Wallet Therapy miniseries!Ever feel like everyone else got the "how to be an adult with money" memo except for you? You’re not alone. In this kickoff episode, sisters Becky and Alex pull back the curtain on their own bank accounts. Becky gets real about her "add to cart" addiction and the overwhelm of looking at a bank statement , while Alex shares how she went from financial chaos to becoming a Finance Coach.It’s a kitchen-table conversation about our "Money Stories"—the good, the bad, and the expensive. We’re setting the stage to bridge the gap between being totally clueless and finally feeling in control. No shame, no jargon, just two sisters trying to help you (and each other) figure it out.In this episode, we cover:- The "Aha!" moments that led to this podcast.- Alex’s non-judgmental approach to behavior-based coaching.- How we’re going to survive these episodes without a sisterly blowout.Ready to join the inner circle? Head over to our Patreon for early access to episodes and exclusive community! patreon.com/beckyhayterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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From Sister to Mother: Kylie’s Story of Guardianship & Grief
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses addiction, overdose, sudden death of a parent, and self-harm.When Kylie was 21, she got the call every child of an addict dreads: her mother had overdosed. While her mother eventually found sobriety, her sudden passing in 2024 left Kylie with a choice that wasn't really a choice at all. Within 48 hours, she had to fight the state of Massachusetts to keep her 12-year-old brother, Josh, out of the system.This isn't just a story about grief; it's about the "invisible" work of stepping up. From hunting down death certificates in different cities to explaining to a judge why a newlywed couple is the best place for a grieving teenager, Kylie’s journey is raw and unfiltered. Later in the episode, Josh joins us to share the perspective we rarely hear—the teenager’s side of loss and what it’s like when your sister becomes your "mom."Connect with Guest: kyyliee13Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Wallet Therapy: Because Your Bank Account Has Feelings Too
One sister is a professional Finance Coach (Alex). The other... has a shopping cart habit she’s not exactly ready to discuss (Becky).Welcome to Wallet Therapy, a new miniseries living right here in the For The Hayters feed. We’re bridging the gap between "I should probably save money" and "But look how cute this is in person."Join us every other Thursday for a real conversation about the messy, emotional, and sometimes hilarious reality of money. We’re tackling the stuff that actually keeps you up at night:Why we spend when we’re stressed.How to break the paycheck-to-paycheck cycle.Navigating money with your partner without the fight.Real stories from the trenches (mostly Becky’s).If this episode stirred something for you, you don’t have to sit with it alone. Come join the Wallet Therapy community on Patreon for direct access to Becky & Alex, monthly live sessions, and a supportive, non-judgmental space to talk about money, mindset, and real life. Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayterDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us keep making Wallet Therapy possible.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Join our community! patreon.com/beckyhayter🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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When "In Sickness and In Health" Happens at 33: Ryan’s Story
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses medical trauma, brain tumors, miscarriage, and infant loss."I’m going to be strong for you." It’s the vow every caregiver makes, but rarely do we talk about the crushing weight of that promise. Ryan Leonard joins me to pull back the curtain on what it’s actually like to be the "well-spouse." When his wife Cheryl—who had already survived two brain tumors—experienced a sudden, sharp pain just four months after the birth of their second child, their world shifted back into a nightmare they thought they had escaped.Ryan opens up about the "beauty and the burden" of caregiving. We dive into the reality of medical gaslighting between oncologists and radiologists, the agonizing choice between life-saving treatment and the dream of having more children, and the moment Ryan had to swallow his pride to ask for help. This isn't a story of toxic positivity; it’s a raw look at marriage, resilience, and choosing love even when it feels like a heavy weight.Connect with Guest: Instagram: @ryanlinks_Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 National Brain Tumor Society: braintumor.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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The Grief of Special Needs Parenting & Healing Three Hearts
TRIGGER WARNING: TW: This episode discusses addiction, abandonment, child medical trauma, and miscarriage.Daniella became a mom at 20, expecting a "normal" transition into adulthood. Instead, she found herself navigating a high-risk pregnancy, a disconnect with her newborn that lasted nearly a year, and a partner lost to addiction.But the fight was just beginning. From holding her two-week-old son down for painful medical tests to battling doctors who dismissed her oldest son’s "staring spells" as daydreaming, Daniella’s story is a masterclass in maternal instinct. She opens up about the reality of "grieving the life you expected," the terror of invisible illnesses like epilepsy, and how a local barber stepped up to heal three hearts without ever breaking them.Connect with Daniella: @danielalatina_96 (Instagram)Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 Epilepsy Foundation: epilepsy.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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The Vortex: PPD, Chronic Pain, and Why "Detaching" Saved Her Daughter’s Life
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses postpartum depression, suicidal ideation in children, chronic pain, and mental health crises.When Katie sat down with me, she described a moment leaning over her 6-month-old’s crib, crying so hard that her baby stopped crying out of shock. That was the moment she knew she was in the "vortex." After a 20-year career in nursing, Katie found herself battling severe medical gaslighting during pregnancy, debilitating chronic migraines, and the terrifying reality of parenting a child with severe mental health struggles.But the hardest thing she had to do? She had to learn how to emotionally detach from her daughter’s pain in order to save her. In this raw conversation, we talk about the identity shift of leaving a stable career, the lie of "balancing it all," and how to find peace when your body and your family are in crisis.Connect with Katie: Host of The Midlife Purpose Project https://katiefarinas.com/ Substack: Katie FreenessDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988 National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): nami.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Grieving a Father Who Is Still Alive: Chaos, Betrayal & Breaking the Cycle
This episode discusses death of a minor, emotional abuse, family estrangement, and traumatic birth/NICU experiences.Ciyla Fletcher is only 25, but she has lived a dozen lifetimes. From moving 15 times before adulthood to being raised by grandparents while her parents drifted in and out, Ciyla learned early on that "chaos felt like safety." But the hits didn't stop at childhood instability.At 16, Ciyla lost her best friend and first love, Bailey. Instead of support, she faced a campaign of jealousy and rumors from her own family members who told her she "had no right to grieve." Now, as a mother of two and a nursing student, Ciyla is rewriting the definition of family. In this raw conversation, we discuss the pain of having a father who calls you a "stranger," the maturity required to co-parent peacefully at 20 years old, and why being thankful you don't understand betrayal is the ultimate sign of healing.Connect with Ciyla: Instagram: @ciyla.xoDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Two Miscarriages, Two Different Griefs, and Finding a Way Forward
Trigger Warning: This episode includes detailed discussion of miscarriage (including missed miscarriage and medication-assisted miscarriage), grief, medical trauma/insensitive care, anxiety/SSRI withdrawal, and fertility-related testing. Please take care of yourself while listening.Today’s episode of For The Hayters features Kim Gordon, who shares the reality of navigating two miscarriages—and the complicated, layered grief that comes with each one. Kim opens up about the shock of learning her baby had no heartbeat during what was supposed to be a joyful milestone, the painful and traumatic experience of taking medication to miscarry at home, and the ways medical systems can fail people when they’re most vulnerable.Kim also talks about how grief impacted her marriage—how she needed to talk while her husband shut down, and how their emotional experiences flipped during the second loss. From advocating for better care, switching providers, exploring progesterone support and blood clotting labs, to rebuilding her mental health, Kim’s story is raw, honest, and deeply validating for anyone who has experienced pregnancy loss—or loved someone who has.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to them through: @gordongirl21Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988Postpartum Support International (PSI): postpartum.netPregnancy Loss Support (Share): nationalshare.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Postpartum Depression, Grief, and Building a Blended Family
Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of postpartum depression, self harm thoughts, pregnancy loss, intimate partner violence, and death and grief.Today’s episode of For The Hayters features Teri, a mom who has lived through postpartum depression, the loss of her father and two brothers, and the work of building a blended family while healing from an abusive relationship.Teri shares what it was like becoming a mom at 18, experiencing pregnancy loss, and trying to raise two little ones while still learning how to grow up herself. She opens up about grief that stacked before she ever had time to breathe, including losing her dad in 2017 and later losing both brothers in 2023 and 2024.We also talk about what postpartum depression looked like for her after her youngest child, the moment she realized she needed help, and how support, therapy, and honest communication became part of her healing. This conversation is about motherhood, survival, rebuilding, and what it means to keep choosing yourself and your kids, even when it is hard.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to them through: terigambe22Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988Postpartum Support International: postpartum.net | Call 1 800 944 4773See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Navigating High Risk Pregnancies Loss and the Strength to Keep Going
Trigger warning This episode discusses pregnancy loss medical trauma and grief. Today’s episode of For The Hayters shares Melissa’s powerful and emotional journey through high risk pregnancies cesarean scar complications postpartum depression ectopic pregnancies NICU life and the devastating loss of her mother. Melissa opens up about becoming a mom at 26 navigating two emergency C sections experiencing a NICU stay during peak COVID and later facing both a traditional ectopic pregnancy and a rare cesarean scar ectopic pregnancy that required emergency intervention. She shares the physical and emotional toll of those moments the loneliness that comes with navigating the medical system the fear of not knowing if she would survive another pregnancy and the heartbreak of losing her mother only one week after undergoing surgery. This story is raw honest and full of courage. Today Melissa is expecting baby number four a reminder that hope can exist even after unthinkable pain.To connect with this week’s guest you can reach out to her through @melissagiegoldt on InstagramDon’t forget to subscribe like and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light. 🔹 New episodes drop every Monday 🔹 Follow us on Instagram @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support please visit 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline 988lifeline.org Call or text 988 Postpartum Support International postpartum.net Resolve National Infertility Association resolve.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Kassie’s Story: Stillbirth Complex PTSD and the Fight to Heal
Trigger Warning for pregnancy loss stillbirth miscarriage trauma and postpartum mental health Today’s episode of For The Hayters shares Kassie’s powerful story of losing her daughter Sutton at 21 weeks. Kassie walked into her routine anatomy scan expecting the same relief she felt with her first pregnancy. Instead she heard the words every parent fears. There is no heartbeat. Kassie opens up about feeling something was wrong the week before her appointment the shock of delivering her daughter the panic attacks that took over her life the intrusive thoughts that followed and the EMDR therapy that helped her finally breathe again. She also shares what helped her heal the importance of community and why remembering these babies matters.There is so much courage in this conversation and so much hope for anyone walking through loss today.To connect with this week’s guest you can reach out to her through: @kassiejbanks on InstagramDon’t forget to subscribe like and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday🔹 Follow us on Instagram @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support please visit:988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline 988lifeline.org Call or text 988Postpartum Support International postpartum.netShare Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support nationallyshare.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Life with IQSEC2 A Mother’s Story of Caregiving Grief and Hope
Trigger Warning This episode discusses medical trauma chronic sorrow seizure activity and the emotional realities of caring for a medically complex child. Please take care while listening.Today’s episode of For The Hayters shares Misty’s story of raising her seven year old son, Jackson, who lives with IQSEC2, a rare and severely debilitating genetic disorder. Misty opens up about the shock of a normal pregnancy, the sudden onset of seizures, the search for answers, and the moment she learned that her child’s diagnosis had no clear roadmap or cure.She talks about the weight of being a full time caregiver, the grief of milestones that may never come, navigating a medical system that often makes survival feel like a fight, and the deeper purpose she has found in advocating for other families of medically complex kids.This episode is a look into a kind of motherhood many people never see. The love. The fear. The strength. The chronic sorrow. And the small moments of joy that make everything worth it.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach her at: [email protected]’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday🔹 Follow us on Instagram @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:IQSEC2 Research Foundation iqsec2.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Sonia’s Story: PCOS Infertility and the Fight to Be Heard
Trigger Warning: This episode discusses infertility medical dismissal and emotional health struggles. Please take care while listening.Today’s episode of For The Hayters shares Sonia’s powerful story of navigating PCOS infertility and years of medical dismissal. After missing periods for months at a time sudden unexplained weight gain and countless negative pregnancy tests she knew something was wrong. But every doctor told her she was fine.Sonia opens up about the emotional toll of being dismissed again and again the cultural pressure around women’s health and the moment she finally found answers while working inside a fertility clinic. She talks about PCOS symptoms insulin resistance low ovarian reserve and how finding the right doctor changed everything.This is a story about trusting your body fighting for answers and refusing to shrink yourself to make others comfortable.To connect with this week’s guest you can reach her through: @soniajgx0 on InstagramDon’t forget to subscribe like and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday🔹 Follow us on Instagram @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support please visitNational Eating Disorders Association nationaleatingdisorders.org988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline 988lifeline.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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You Were Never the Problem | Katie’s Story of Family Estrangement and Emotional Abuse
Today’s episode of For The Hayters shares Katie’s powerful story of growing up in a home filled with emotional abuse, scapegoating, and toxic family dynamics. For years, she believed she was the problem. She believed she was unlovable. She believed something was wrong with her.After a lifetime of manipulation, guilt, and feeling invisible, Katie made the hardest choice she has ever made. She walked away from her parents and siblings to reclaim her peace and rebuild her life.In this episode, Katie opens up about the shame, fear, and isolation that come with going no contact and the healing work that finally helped her see the truth. This is a story about survival, self worth, and the courage it takes to break a cycle that should never have existed.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach her through: @sollessrelaxation on InstagramDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch at beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast at killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Crystal’s Story Part 2: Losing My Husband in Afghanistan & Learning to Live Again
Trigger Warning: This episode discusses grief, military loss, depression, and suicidal thoughts. Please listen with care and step away if you need to protect your peace.In Part 2 of Crystal’s story, she reads letters her late husband Jake wrote from boot camp, recounts the day she received the knock at the door every military wife fears, and opens up about the long journey of healing that followed.Through pain, therapy, and years of self-work, Crystal found her way back to purpose — and to herself.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through: @crystaltdoestherapyDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors): www.taps.org | 800-959-TAPS (8277)988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Losing My Husband in Afghanistan at 19 | Finding Purpose Through Grief (Part 1)
Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of childhood trauma, addiction, sexual abuse, and grief related to military loss. Please take care while listening and skip this episode if you need to protect your own peace.At just 19, Crystal’s world shattered when her husband Jake — her high school sweetheart and best friend — was killed in Afghanistan. In this two-part episode, she opens up about their love story, the pain of loss, and how she found purpose through helping others heal.This story is about heartbreak, strength, and the power of love that never leaves.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through: [insert guest handle]Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday! 🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters 🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] 🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com 🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors): www.taps.org | 800-959-TAPS (8277)988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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When a Mother’s Gut Saves Her Child: Jordan’s Story of Infantile Spasms
TW: Medical trauma, hospitalization of a child, discussion of seizuresToday’s episode of For The Hayters shares Jordan’s powerful story of parenting a medically complex child. Her daughter, Reagan, was diagnosed with infantile spasms — a rare and serious form of epilepsy — at just nine months old.Jordan opens up about the first signs she noticed, the overwhelming journey through hospital stays, steroid treatments, insurance battles, therapy, and the emotional toll of caring for her child while her husband travels for work.This is a story about motherhood, intuition, and never giving up — even when every step feels impossible.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through: @jordanpashon2012 on InstagramDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch: beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast: killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988Child Neurology Foundation: childneurologyfoundation.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Miscarriage IVF and Motherhood Through a Pandemic | Shaheena’s Story
Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions about miscarriage, infertility, pregnancy loss, and fertility treatments which may be difficult for some listeners.In this episode of For The Hayters, Shaheena shares her powerful story of navigating multiple miscarriages, years of infertility, and two pregnancies during the height of COVID.Her journey through grief, IVF, and motherhood is a reminder that even in our most painful chapters, hope and healing can coexist.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through: @iamshaheenaDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch: beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast: killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988Postpartum Support International: postpartum.netResolve: The National Infertility Association: resolve.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Healing the First-Gen Way: Boundaries, Culture, and Courage
This week on For The Hayters, Sara shares what it means to heal as a first-generation Latina. From being called “toxic” for setting boundaries to redefining what peace looks like inside her culture, her story is about courage, forgiveness, and breaking generational cycles.Sara opens up about her mental health journey, postpartum struggles, and the guilt that comes with choosing yourself when your family calls it selfish. Through therapy, faith, and community, she learned that boundaries are love — and that healing and culture can sit at the same table.If you’ve ever felt alone for doing things differently than the generations before you, this episode is for you.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her on Instagram: @sar.vaoreDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch: beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast: killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Guilt and Self-Forgiveness The Goodbye I Didn’t Say
So many of us carry guilt for what we didn’t do. Mira loved her grandfather deeply — yet she was the only one in her family who didn’t visit him in the hospital to say goodbye.For nearly ten years she has wrestled with shame, isolation, and the long road back to grace. Today, Mira opens up about love that lasts, forgiveness that takes time, and learning to let joy sit beside grief.If you’ve ever replayed a moment and wished you could change it, this conversation is for you.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to them through: [email protected] Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch: beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast: killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988lifeline.org or call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Healing Culture and the Power of Representation with Jen Harper
This conversation with Jen Harper is about more than beauty. It is about culture resilience and turning pain into purpose. Jen shares her journey through childhood abandonment addiction and recovery and how reconnecting with her Indigenous identity led to the creation of Cheekbone Beauty and Canada’s first Indigenous innovation lab. We talk healing representation sustainability and the power of believing in yourself and taking one consistent step at a timeTo connect with this week’s guest you can reach out to them through: @cheekbonebeauty and @cheekbonejenIf you or someone you know needs support please visit:988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline Call or text 988SAMHSA National Helpline 1 800 662 HELPDon’t forget to subscribe like and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast killrentertainment.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Losing Mom to Breast Cancer at 10: Paige’s story of grief and healing
At just ten years old, Paige lost her mom to breast cancer. The people who were supposed to protect her left her feeling alone, and she carried that grief in silence for years. Paige opens up about growing up without support, being told to get over it, turning to drinking to cope, and what it meant to finally build the family she always longed for.This episode is about breaking cycles, choosing boundaries, and finding healing in the everyday love of chosen family, a steady partner, and two little boys who turned on the lights. Paige’s story is a reminder that even when the people you needed most let you down, it’s still possible to create a life filled with love, safety, and hope.Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988The Dougy Center for Grieving Children and Families: dougy.orgBreastcancer.org patient and caregiver resources: breastcancer.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Surviving Betrayal Abuse and Finding Love Again
In this episode of For The Hayters, Kari opens up about her journey through toxic relationships, betrayal by her closest friend, and the weight of abandonment that began in childhood. She shares the painful truth of emotional and verbal abuse, the challenges of single motherhood, and the long road of rebuilding trust. With honesty and courage, Kari shows us what it looks like to heal through therapy, co parenting, and eventually finding a safe and steady love.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her on Instagram at @kkisner87 or TikTok at @krie_kisnerDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Living With OCD Intrusive Thoughts
This week on For The Hayters Podcast, Noah opens up about living with OCD — not the stereotype of cleaning or checking, but the reality of intrusive thoughts of harming others. Noah shares how these thoughts began in childhood, intensified during his time in the Army, and led to multiple hospital stays before finally receiving a diagnosis in 2020.Through therapy, medication, and exposure and response prevention, Noah has learned to separate who he is from what his thoughts tell him. His story is a powerful reminder that OCD is widely misunderstood, and that people living with it deserve compassion, support, and community.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to them through: @noxaoe96Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988International OCD Foundation: iocdf.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Surviving Suicidal Thoughts and Choosing to Stay Another Day
From the outside, Mackenzie was a student athlete and business owner with a bright future. Behind the scenes, she was fighting a silent battle with depression and suicidal thoughts.In this conversation, Mackenzie opens up about her childhood, the loss of her grandmother, the pressures of college athletics, and the weight of living in silence. She shares how journaling, therapy, inpatient treatment, and building her brand Stay Another Day helped her find hope and purpose again.This episode is a reminder that vulnerability is strength, that you don’t have to go through hard things alone, and that there are always reasons to stay another day.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to them through:@stayanotherdayshop | stayanotherday.comDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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A Mother’s Fight for Answers: Nicole & Benjamin’s Hirschsprung’s Journey
When Nicole Perry’s son Benjamin was born, she knew something wasn’t right. But getting doctors to listen was a fight—one that took everything she had as a parent. After months of pushing for answers, Benjamin was diagnosed with Hirschsprung’s disease, a rare condition that affects the colon. Nicole didn’t stop once she had the diagnosis. She became a powerful advocate for other families, joining the Reach HD board, while Benjamin stepped into his own role as the Children’s Ambassador—bringing hope and community to kids like him.This episode is about resilience, advocacy, and the love of a parent who refused to give up.Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected] Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Jeri’s Story of Grief, Resilience, and Choosing to Live Fully
At just 22 years old, Jeri’s world was shattered when he lost his father in a tragic accident. In this episode, he opens up about navigating grief, watching his mother battle alcoholism, losing close friends too soon, and learning how to keep living with an open heart.Jeri shares what fatherhood means to him, how loss reshaped his perspective, and why saying yes to life has become his guiding mantra. This conversation is about resilience, love, and the power of showing up fully for the people who matter most.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to him through: @thedudedads / https://dudedadspodcast.com/Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Grieving My Mom While Becoming a Mother | Bailee’s Story
What happens when grief and motherhood collide? Bailee was only 20 when she lost her mom unexpectedly. Just months later, she found out she was pregnant. In this episode, she shares her journey of losing her best friend, navigating anxiety and panic attacks, meeting her sister for the first time after their mom’s passing, and finding strength in motherhood.Bailee’s story is about love, resilience, and honoring the bond she’ll carry forever.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through: Instagram @baileeclemmer or email [email protected]’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988National Alliance for Grieving Children: childrengrieve.orgSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Perinatal Depression, Postpartum Grief, and Finding My Way Back
Nicole never imagined that the moment she had always dreamed of—becoming a mom—would leave her feeling completely broken.In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Nicole shares the truth behind her journey through perinatal and postpartum depression, addiction recovery, surviving a 7-year abusive relationship, and the unimaginable grief of losing her mother just months after giving birth to her daughter.She opens up about feeling disconnected from her baby, ashamed of her thoughts, and alone in her pain. But through the support of her best friend, her husband, therapy, and time, Nicole found a path forward. Her story is a reminder that healing is possible—even when it doesn’t feel like it.This conversation is raw, real, and necessary. If you or someone you love is struggling with maternal mental health or grief, please know that you’re not alone.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through:📲 Instagram: @nicole_steffeyDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch: beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast: killrentertainment.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Danielle’s Story: Misdiagnosed, Paralyzed, and Fighting for Her Life with CIDP
At just 23 years old, Danielle’s life was flipped upside down. What started as numbness in her hands and feet quickly progressed to full-body paralysis. She was dismissed by doctors, told it was all in her head, and sent home—until a spinal tap revealed the truth.Danielle was diagnosed with CIDP, a rare and chronic neurological disorder that left her unable to walk. In this powerful episode, she opens up about medical trauma, the emotional toll of living with an invisible illness, and what it took to finally get the right diagnosis and care.Now, over a decade later, Danielle is a wife, a mother, and a fierce advocate for herself and others living with chronic conditions. This is a story of resilience, identity, and redefining what it means to live fully—even when your body says otherwise.If you’ve ever felt dismissed, unheard, or afraid of the future, this episode is for you.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through:📩 quirks_muggherks on Instagram📧 [email protected]’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Fighting to Be Heard: Becca’s Journey with Crohn’s, Medical Gaslighting, and Self-Advocacy
Becca was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease at just 17. What followed was a decade of misdiagnoses, debilitating pain, medical gaslighting, and repeated hospitalizations — all while trying to hold onto her identity, her relationships, and her will to keep fighting. In this episode, Becca opens up about the trauma of living with an invisible illness, what it’s like to be dismissed by doctors, and how she finally got the surgery that changed everything.She also shares the ongoing battle she's now facing with undiagnosed period pain and PCOS — shedding light on how women's health continues to be minimized and ignored. This is a story about pain, persistence, and finally being heard.To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to them through: @beccasp_ on InstagramDon’t forget to subscribe, like, and share to help us continue bringing these stories to light.🔹 New episodes drop every Monday!🔹 Follow us on Instagram: @forthehayters🔹 Submit your story: [email protected]🔹 Grab some merch! beckyhayter.com🔹 A KILLR Network podcast! killrentertainment.comIf you or someone you know needs support, please visit:www.crohnscolitisfoundation.org988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
For The Hayters is a space where vulnerability is met with strength, and real stories remind us we’re never alone. Hosted by a community of storytellers and listeners alike, this podcast dives into the personal journeys—both beautiful and brutal—that shape who we are. From life-changing challenges to moments of resilience, our guests open up about the experiences that have defined them, in hopes of connecting, healing, and inspiring others. Whether you’re here to feel seen, heard, or understood, this is your reminder: your story matters.beckyhayter.com
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