From Midlife to Best Life

Episode Summary: In Episode 18 of "From Midlife to Best Life", Ana and her guest, financial consultant Eldon Phukuile, delve into the complexities of financial stability during midlife. They discuss the pressures faced by midlifers, such as supporting both aging parents and children, and the importance of planning for a stable financial future. Eldon shares insights on financial literacy, emphasizing the need for budgeting, saving, investing, and estate planning. The conversation aims to destigmatize financial discussions and encourage listeners to start planning for their financial future, regardless of their current situation, thoughtfully leading to Episode 19 that unpacks financial strategies and practical tips. Host: Ana Yun [Instagram | Website: www.anayun.ca | LinkedIn Profile] Eldon Phukuile: LinkedIn | Instagram Key Takeaways: Financial Pressures in Midlife: midlifers often face unique financial pressures, including supporting both older and younger generations. It's crucial to plan for these challenges. Importance of Financial Literacy: understanding basic financial concepts like budgeting, saving, and investing is essential. Eldon emphasizes starting with small steps and gradually building financial knowledge. Investing in the Future: Eldon advises listeners to invest in their future by saving and growing their money in tax-efficient ways. He highlights the importance of starting early to take advantage of compounding growth. Estate Planning: proper estate planning is vital to ensure that assets are transferred smoothly to heirs, minimizing tax burdens. Living According to Values: while financial planning is important, it's also crucial to live according to personal values and enjoy life, balancing present enjoyment with future security. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Financial Stability in Midlife 05:45 Understanding the Emotional Impact of Midlife 11:08 The Intimidation of Financial Planning 16:40 Steps to Financial Literacy 22:14 The Reality of Retirement Planning 27:15 Resources for Financial Education Resources: Paragon Financial University: attend financial education sessions to learn how to increase your net worth. Calculator.net: use this website for financial calculations, including mortgage and retirement income calculators. Fidelity Investments Newsletter: subscribe to "The Upside" for investment insights and advice from experienced advisors. Visit Fidelity.ca and scroll to the middle of the page to subscribe.

Episode Summary: In this episode, realtor Theo Gannon shares why investing in real estate during midlife isn’t just about property, it’s about a mindset shift that can set the stage for your best years ahead. You’ll discover how midlife brings clarity, confidence, and the power to make intentional decisions that align with your goals. Theo breaks down why owning a home is a cultural and emotional milestone for many, and how the right timing can unlock opportunities, especially in Vancouver’s shifting market. Host: Ana Yun [Instagram | Website: www.anayun.ca | LinkedIn Profile] Theodora Gannon: Website | LinkedIn | Instagram Key Takeaways: Vancouver’s real estate market is a buyer’s paradise right now, with abundant inventory and stabilized interest rates Midlife brings a unique perspective that empowers better financial and lifestyle choices It is important to take a holistic, advisory approach: working with mortgage specialists, financial planners, and trusted realtors The new government initiatives and rebates make pre-sale opportunities more accessible Tips on how to manage pressure and uncertainty around homeownership during turbulent economic times Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Conversations 02:45 Understanding Midlife and Home Ownership 04:35 Cultural Perspectives on Home Ownership 07:02 Navigating the Home Buying Process 09:34 The Role of Real Estate Advisors 11:46 Market Trends and Opportunities 13:29 Managing Uncertainty in Real Estate 16:02 The Importance of Financial Planning 18:23 Exploring the Greater Vancouver Market 21:04 Tips for First-Time Home Buyers 22:52 Strategic Planning for Current Homeowners 25:31 Final Thoughts and Resources Resources: Brad and Theo Gannon team is a trusted source for real estate advice in Vancouver. Their website offers insights into the local market and personalized guidance for buyers and sellers. Government of Canada GST Rebate Program: this program provides information on eligible properties and rebates available for home buyers, which can be crucial for those looking to maximize their investment. Learn more. This resource does not substitute legal or real estate advice.

Episode Summary: In this episode of 'From Midlife to Best Life', Ana and Kevo explore the multifaceted experiences of midlife, focusing on personal growth, the intricacies of dating, and the unique challenges faced in Vancouver. They discuss the importance of owning one's journey, the evolution of dating etiquette, and the significance of human connection. Kevo shares insights from his life as a podcaster and musician, while also reflecting on the dating scene in Vancouver and the lessons learned along the way. The conversation culminates in a fun game about dating preferences, providing a light-hearted conclusion to a deep and meaningful discussion. Host: Ana Yun [Instagram | Website: www.anayun.ca | LinkedIn Profile] Guest: Kevin Cabell at The Great Northern Way Podcast Key Takeaways: Midlife is a time for ownership of one's journey. Dating in midlife is about building connections. Modern dating etiquette has evolved and can be confusing. Human connection is at the heart of dating. Time is our most valuable currency in relationships. Vancouver's dating scene has its unique challenges. It's important to communicate expectations in dating. Dating should be an opportunity to learn about others. Personal growth often stems from unexpected experiences. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Conversations 01:36 Exploring Life in Canada 05:23 Finding Happiness in Choices 07:24 Defining Midlife 08:51 The Impact of Podcasting 10:19 The Importance of Dating 14:53 Redefining Dating Expectations 18:08 Navigating Modern Dating Challenges 19:05 The Paradox of Ethical Non-Monogamy 20:54 Navigating Vancouver's Dating Scene 24:04 Challenges of Dating in an Expensive City 25:14 The Happiness Factor in Vancouver 25:37 Rapid Fire Dating Questions Resources: Logan Ury: How to not die alone book and audiobook Esther Perel: Mating in Captivity book Matthew Hussey: dating coach Book a conversation at anayun.ca 

Episode Summary: In this episode, Ana and Manreet discuss the complexities of career transitions, particularly in midlife. They explore the emotional impact of layoffs, the struggle of redefining one's identity beyond professional roles, and the importance of building a support system during challenging times. Manreet shares her personal journey from being an immunologist at a large biotechnology company, being affected by an unexpected layoff, to embracing new opportunities in teaching, highlighting the lessons learned along the way about resilience, self-discovery, and the value of community. Host: Ana Yun [Instagram | Website: www.anayun.ca | LinkedIn Profile] Guest: Manreet Chehal [LinkedIn Profile] Key Takeaways: Conversations about career struggles should be normalized  Identity can be multifaceted and is not be solely defined by one's job Experiencing a layoff can lead to a profound sense of loss and identity crisis Building a support system is crucial during times of transition Reaching out to former colleagues can provide unexpected support and validation Embracing new opportunities can lead to personal growth and fulfillment The emotional journey of job loss is similar to grieving a loved one Self-discovery is a continuous process, especially during midlife transitions Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Career Transitions 04:28 Identity and Professional Growth 08:59 The Impact of Layoffs on Self-Perception 13:01 Navigating Career Expectations and Personal Life 15:12 The Emotional Journey of Job Loss 18:44 Building a Support System 23:20 Embracing New Opportunities 27:31 Lessons Learned and Moving Forward Resources: Contact me if you'd like to chat about what next steps could look like: www.anayun.ca  Normalize and understand the grieving process with resources like Grief Recovery book Reframe your layoff: check out my personal layoff reflection Check out Guy Winch's resources on building emotional resilience and his TedTalk: How to Practice Emotional First Aid Take an opportunity to rediscover your professional identity, check out my vision board blog article When you are ready to dive in, check out resources below: LinkedIn Learning – free with through your local library.  Over 16,000 courses and instructional courses on interviewing; resumes; marketing plans; LinkedIn and everything in-between. LinkedIn Learning Role Play:  As Career Coaches seek practical tools to boost a candidate’s confidence, LinkedIn Learning’s Role Play offers a game-changing solution. This AI-powered platform simulates real-world interview scenarios, allowing candidates to rehearse responses to common questions in a safe, interactive environment. It provides instant feedback on tone, clarity, and delivery—helping job seekers refine their communication skills and reduce interview anxiety. With customizable scenarios across industries, it’s ideal for candidates at any career stage. Encourage your candidates to use Role Play as part of their interview prep—it’s like having a virtual coach available 24/7 and is a great resource for alumni candidates too.    The Job Bank’s “Get to Know Yourself” resource is a valuable tool for Canadian career coaches to guide candidates through self-reflection as the foundation of career planning. It offers quizzes and exercises to help individuals identify their strengths, skills, values, and preferences, enabling them to make informed career decisions aligned with their authentic selves. Coaches can use this resource to facilitate discussions, encourage honest self-assessment, and connect candidates with labour market information and training options. By integrating these tools, coaches empower candidates to explore suitable career paths confidently and strategically, making the transition smoother and more purposeful.   LinkedIn Career Explorer is a dynamic tool that uncovers hidden career paths by mapping existing skills to thousands of roles. Why It Matters: Skill Mapping: Reveals a list of skills for a particular role and unexpected career paths by highlighting transferable skills and probability match. Upskilling: Identifies missing skills and links to LinkedIn Learning courses, streamlining professional development Networking & Jobs: Connects candidates to professionals in target roles and local job postings which help to increase a candidates LinkedIn profile and presence. Strengths Finder:  Candidates often question their strengths – what are they good at or known for?  Have them check out this free survey to discover their character strengths, as a way to discover greater joy in living in alignment with themselves. Strengthen connections by applying what they’ve learned and helping them to answer the interview question – what's your greatest strength?     OpportuNext uses Canadian Labor Market Information (LMI) to provide data-driven insights into job roles with strong growth prospects and competitive wages. By entering a current job title, users are presented with relevant career options, highlighting roles that match their skills and offer positive employment outlooks.  

Episode Summary: In this episode, Fernanda Souza and Ana discuss the complexities of sexuality, particularly in midlife. They explore how societal expectations and personal experiences shape our understanding of sexuality and relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of intentionality in maintaining erotic connections and the need for open discussions about sexuality with future generations. Key insights include the distinction between sexuality and sex, the evolving nature of women's sexual experiences, and the necessity of education in fostering healthy relationships. Host: Ana Yun [Instagram | Website: www.anayun.ca | LinkedIn Profile] Guest: Fernada Souza [Instagram | website] Key Takeaways: Sexuality is relevant throughout life, not just in youth. Midlife can bring challenges to sexual intimacy due to various life demands. Intentionality is crucial for maintaining erotic connections in relationships. Women often transition from being objects of desire to subjects of their own desire in midlife. Education about sexuality is essential for personal and relational growth. Complacency in long-term relationships can lead to dissatisfaction. Creating erotic space requires effort and planning, not just spontaneity. Open conversations about sexuality with children are vital for their understanding. The brain plays a significant role in sexual experiences and desires. Understanding the difference between sexuality and sex can enhance intimacy. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Topic of Sexuality 00:49 Exploring Midlife and Sexuality 03:19 Defining Sexuality vs. Sex 07:52 The Role of Women in Sexuality 12:34 The Impact of Caretaking on Sexuality 18:18 Exploring Gender Dynamics in Relationships 24:48 The Evolution of Women's Sexuality 31:47 The Importance of Sexual Education 36:06 Key Takeaways and Resources for Sexual Awareness Resources: Come as you are and Come together by Emily Nagoski So tell me about the last time you had sex by Ian Kerner Taking sexy back by Alexandra Solomon Untrue by Wednesday Martin Mating in captivity and State of Affairs by Esther Perel Tell me what you want and The Psychology of Human Sexuality by Justin Lehmiller Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond  

Episode Summary: In this uplifting episode of From Midlife to Best Life, Ana welcomes Kirsten Anderson, a Play, Communication, and Leadership Coach who is on a mission to bring more playfulness into the workplace and beyond. From owning an award-winning toy store to coaching corporate teams, Kirsten shares her fascinating journey from toyologist to playologist and how she helps people rediscover creativity, connection, and flow through play. Together, Ana and Kirsten explore why adults stop playing, how toxic productivity limits joy, and why playfulness isn’t frivolous, it’s essential for innovation, well-being, and meaningful work. You’ll learn how to spot your own “flow moments,” how to integrate playful thinking into your day-to-day life, and how a simple mindset shift can reignite joy and purpose. Host: Ana Yun [Instagram | Website: www.anayun.ca | LinkedIn Profile] Guest: Kirsten Anderson [website: https://integrateplay.com/ | LinkedIn Profile] Key Takeaways Play does not equal less productivity; it's a myth. Play is essential for creativity and innovation. Adults often stop playing due to societal pressures. Toxic productivity can hinder our ability to play. Playfulness can be a corporate value that enhances culture. Midlife is a great time to rediscover play. Barriers to play include fear of judgment and societal expectations. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Playfulness in Midlife 04:21 The Concept of Prescribing Play 05:59 Benefits of Play in the Workplace 08:25 Barriers to Adult Play 10:49 The Importance of Playfulness 17:54 Playfulness as a Corporate Value 20:49 Playfulness and Creativity 24:42 Overcoming Barriers to Play 30:22 Final Thoughts and Resources Recommended Resources: The Creative Act by Rick Rubin​​ Choose your own adventures - playful paths to success playbook  

Episode Summary: In this episode of 'From Midlife to Best Life', host Ana engages in a heartfelt conversation with her guest Lara Tiro about the journey of purposeful living, especially during midlife. They explore the challenges and opportunities that come with career transitions, the impact of layoffs, and the importance of self-discovery. Lara shares her personal experiences and insights on embracing change, finding her purpose as an entrepreneur, and the significance of living intentionally. The discussion emphasizes the value of resilience, community suppoty, and the non-linear nature of career paths, encouraging listeners to embrace their unique journeys. Host: Ana Yun [Instagram | Website: www.anayun.ca | LinkedIn Profile] Guest: Lara Tiro [website: www.rebelcpg.com | LinkedIn Profile | podcast website: munchingonmolecules.com | Podcast LinkedIn | Streaming Platforms: Spotify and Apple Podcast]   Key Takeaways Midlife can be a time of clarity and purpose. Purposeful living involves aligning with your passions. Career transitions can lead to new beginnings. Layoffs can be opportunities for reinvention. No career path is linear; embrace the winding journey. Persistence and small steps lead to success. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Purposeful Living 05:46 The Journey of Purposeful Living 09:10 Navigating Career Changes and Layoffs 11:59 Embracing Wholehearted Living 17:51 Finding New Beginnings After Layoffs 27:15 Transitioning from Employee to Consultant: The Initial Steps 32:58 The Importance of Mindset in Pursuing Passion Projects 36:18 The Value of Asking for Help in Entrepreneurship 40:13 Key Takeaways for Navigating Career Pivots 43:00 Embracing the Journey: The Non-Linear Path of Entrepreneurship Resources for entrepreneurs: WeBC: we-bc.ca The Forum: https://www.theforum.ca/  

Episode Summary: In this episode of "From Midlife to Best Life," host Ana welcomes career coach Trudy Hallam from LHH Knightsbridge. Together, they explore the emotional and practical aspects of navigating career transitions, especially during layoffs. Trudy shares insights on how to prepare for unexpected changes, the importance of maintaining a "kudo file," and how to leverage personal branding in job searches. Ana shares her own experience with the recent layoff and how she turned it into an opportunity to re-discover herself. Tune in to discover how career coaching can be a vital support system in uncertain times.  Takeaways:  Layoffs are disruptive but normal experiences. They bring shock, sadness, and identity loss, but they can also create opportunities to pause, re-evaluate, and pivot in one’s career. Be vulnerable. Be kind. Be human. Be proactive before a layoff happens. Keep a “kudos file” with performance reviews, accomplishments, and samples of work stored outside your work computer. This ensures you have evidence of your skills and achievements if access is cut off. Take advantage of outplacement and career coaching services. Many people don’t use these resources, but they provide resume support, interview preparation, training, and guidance on navigating the job market. Think beyond traditional full-time roles. Contract, part-time, or portfolio careers can offer flexibility, new experiences, and pathways into unexpected opportunities. Develop and market your personal brand. Employers look for more than hard skills. Highlight transferable strengths (e.g., leadership, problem-solving, creativity) and communicate what makes you unique. Host: Ana Yun [Instagram | Website: www.anayun.ca | LinkedIn Profile] Guest: Trudy Hallam [LinkedIn Link] Resources: LinkedIn Learning – free with through your local library.  Over 16,000 courses and instructional courses on interviewing; resumes; marketing plans; LinkedIn and everything in-between.   LinkedIn Learning Role Play:  As Career Coaches seek practical tools to boost a candidate’s confidence, LinkedIn Learning’s Role Play offers a game-changing solution. This AI-powered platform simulates real-world interview scenarios, allowing candidates to rehearse responses to common questions in a safe, interactive environment. It provides instant feedback on tone, clarity, and delivery—helping job seekers refine their communication skills and reduce interview anxiety. With customizable scenarios across industries, it’s ideal for candidates at any career stage. Encourage your candidates to use Role Play as part of their interview prep—it’s like having a virtual coach available 24/7 and is a great resource for alumni candidates too.    The Job Bank’s “Get to Know Yourself” resource is a valuable tool for Canadian career coaches to guide candidates through self-reflection as the foundation of career planning. It offers quizzes and exercises to help individuals identify their strengths, skills, values, and preferences, enabling them to make informed career decisions aligned with their authentic selves. Coaches can use this resource to facilitate discussions, encourage honest self-assessment, and connect candidates with labour market information and training options. By integrating these tools, coaches empower candidates to explore suitable career paths confidently and strategically, making the transition smoother and more purposeful.     LinkedIn Career Explorer is a dynamic tool that uncovers hidden career paths by mapping existing skills to thousands of roles. Why It Matters: Skill Mapping: Reveals a list of skills for a particular role and unexpected career paths by highlighting transferable skills and probability match. Upskilling: Identifies missing skills and links to LinkedIn Learning courses, streamlining professional development Networking & Jobs: Connects candidates to professionals in target roles and local job postings which help to increase a candidates LinkedIn profile and presence. Strengths Finder:  Candidates often question their strengths – what are they good at or known for?  Have them check out this free survey to discover their character strengths, as a way to discover greater joy in living in alignment with themselves. Strengthen connections by applying what they’ve learned and helping them to answer the interview question – what's your greatest strength?     OpportuNext uses Canadian Labor Market Information (LMI) to provide data-driven insights into job roles with strong growth prospects and competitive wages. By entering a current job title, users are presented with relevant career options, highlighting roles that match their skills and offer positive employment outlooks.  

Summary   In this episode, Iris and Jodi discuss the concept of Memento Mori, emphasizing the importance of recognizing our mortality to inspire action and live fully. Jodi shares her journey of creating the Four Thousand Mondays platform, which encourages people to seize the day and pursue their dreams. They also explore the challenges of caring for aging parents, the emotional complexities involved, and the lessons learned about life, death, and the importance of compassion. The conversation highlights the need to confront our fears and regrets, ultimately motivating listeners to live with intention and purpose.   Takeaways Memento Mori encourages us to remember our mortality. Counting the Mondays we have left can motivate us to take action. We often delay our dreams, thinking we have more time. Caring for aging parents can be both challenging and rewarding. Facing regrets of omission is crucial for a fulfilling life. Life is about making meaningful connections and experiences. We should not shy away from discussing death and aging. Self-compassion is essential when dealing with life's challenges. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Memento Mori and Life's Shortness 01:49 The Impact of Memento Mori on Life Choices 04:13 Personal Stories and Motivations Behind Memento Mori 07:07 Operationalizing Carpe Diem: Tips for Living Fully 10:05 Facing Fears and Regrets: The Importance of Action 12:48 Pre-Gret: A New Perspective on Regret 15:17 Living with Intention: Making Dreams a Reality 20:24 Embracing the Topic of Death 24:55 The Impact of Aging Parents 26:56 Navigating the Challenges of Caregiving 33:30 Reflections on Life and Death 38:07 Living Life to the Fullest   Resources Connect with Jodi on Linkedin, Instagram, or her website, https://fourthousandmondays.com/.   Book by Jodi Wellman: You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets Book by Irvin D. Yalom: Staring at the Sun: Overcoming the Terror of Death

Summary In this episode, Iris engage in a deep conversation with Elena, who shares her journey of reinventing herself and starting a coaching business at midlife. They discuss the challenges and realizations that come with this transition, the importance of values in career choices, and practical tips for aspiring entrepreneurs. Elena emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, confidence, and the support of loved ones in navigating career changes and pursuing one's passions. Takeaways Elena started her coaching business to make an impact on others' lives. Getting older brought a mix of confidence and realism for Elena. Midlife is a time for reflection and potential reinvention. Values play a crucial role in career decisions and fulfillment. It's never too late to pursue a new career path. Self-talk can significantly influence one's motivation and actions. Building a supportive network is essential for success. Starting small can lead to significant changes in life and career. Embracing creativity can lead to unexpected opportunities. Chapters 00:00 Reconnecting After Years 07:18 Navigating Family Responsibilities 10:13 Supporting Career Transitions 13:56 Lessons from Career Coaching 20:38 Letting Go and Rebuilding Identity 25:27 Aligning Career with Values 32:07 Starting a Business at Midlife 41:14 The Journey of Entrepreneurship and Personal Growth Resources Book by by Andrea Fruhling and Norman Amundson: Career Wayfinder: Discovering your career through delightfully practical projects. Podcast by Mjuriel Wilkins: Coaching Real Leaders Connect with Elena on LinkedIn or through her website, Impact Career Coaching.  

Summary In this episode, Ana and Iris discuss the complexities of career changes, sharing personal stories and insights on recognizing the need for change, the use of vision boarding, and the role of support systems. They emphasize the significance of asking the right questions, experimenting with new paths, and embracing self-compassion throughout the journey. The conversation also touches on the Ikigai model and the barriers that often hinder career transitions, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own paths and aspirations.   Takeaways Recognizing dissatisfaction is the first step to change. Vision boarding can provide clarity on what you truly want. Asking fundamental questions can lead to deeper insights. Support from friends and coaches is invaluable during transitions. Experimenting with new paths can uncover hidden passions. The Ikigai model helps identify fulfilling career intersections. Self-compassion is crucial when facing career challenges. Comparison to others can hinder personal growth and happiness. Reflecting on long-term happiness can guide career decisions. Embracing the journey of self-discovery is essential for fulfillment. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Midlife Career Changes 06:07 Getting Unstuck: The Vision Board Experience 15:56 The Role of Support Systems in Career Transitions 20:08 Embracing the Messy Process of Discovery 24:24 Design Thinking and Experimentation in Career Paths 28:23 Understanding Ikigai: Finding Purpose in Work 30:40 Overcoming Challenges in Career Change 35:24 Reflection and Moving Forward Resources Book by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans: Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life; Designing Your Life website Book by Héctor García and Francesc Miralles: Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life Book by Timothy Clark, Alexander Osterwalder, Yves Pigneur, Bruce Hazen, and Alan Smith: Business Model You: The One-Page Way to Reinvent Your Work at Any Life Stage; Business Model You website

Summary In this episode, Ana and her guest and family lawyer Jonathan Bellamy, engage in a candid discussion about divorce, particularly in the context of midlife. They share insights on the legal aspects of divorce, the importance of prenuptial agreements, and the emotional challenges that often accompany the dissolution of a marriage. The conversation also touches on the evolving definitions of marriage, the stigma surrounding divorce, and practical advice for those considering separation. Throughout the episode, the importance of open communication and self-kindness is emphasized as essential components of navigating these life transitions. Takeaways Divorce can happen at any age, but midlife is common. Understanding oneself is crucial during midlife and divorce. Modern marriage has evolved beyond traditional definitions. Prenuptial agreements are becoming more common and necessary. Legal definitions of divorce involve separation and intention. Stigma around divorce is decreasing but still present. Emotions play a significant role in divorce proceedings. Having hard conversations is essential for healthy relationships. Clients often neglect to seek legal protection before marriage. Self-kindness is vital during the divorce process. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Conversations 04:27 Defining Modern Marriage 09:46 The Importance of Prenuptial Agreements 15:02 Legal Aspects of Divorce 21:45 First Steps After Deciding to Divorce Resources Bellamy Law - Barrister & Solicitors https://lawyervancouver.net/  Legal Aid for people with low income: https://legalaid.bc.ca/  Family Law Act: https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/life-events/divorce/family-justice/the-family-law-act 

Summary   In this episode, Ana and her guest, Harjeet, discuss the complexities of breakups, exploring the emotional and biological impacts of relationship endings. They delve into the stages of grief associated with breakups, offering practical tips for healing and emphasizing the importance of social support. The conversation highlights the potential for personal growth and self-discovery that can arise from navigating the pain of a breakup, along with resources for further support.   Takeaways Breakups are a form of social grief that can affect us deeply. Understanding the biological response to breakups can help in healing. Grief is not a linear process; it can involve moving back and forth between stages. Having a solid social support system is crucial during a breakup. It's important to recognize and articulate what support you need from others. Writing down both the positives and negatives of a relationship can aid in healing. Healing from a breakup involves addressing both the loss and any trauma from the relationship. Self-awareness and reflection are key to personal growth after a breakup. Therapy can provide a safe space to process emotions and experiences. You will get through the pain and reconnect with yourself. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Breakups and Personal Growth 07:49 Navigating the Stages of Grief 13:33 The Role of Social Support in Healing 23:58 Learning and Growth from Breakups 29:03 Key Takeaways and Resources for Healing Resources Book by John Gottman Ph.D. and Nan Silver: What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal Book by Sally Winston: Overcoming Anticipatory Anxiety: A CBT Guide for Moving past Chronic Indecisiveness, Avoidance, and Catastrophic Thinking Book and TED Talk by Dr. Guy Winch: How to Fix a Broken Heart TED Talk by Antonio Pascual-Leone: How to Get Over The End of a Relationship Book by John Kim: Break Up On Purpose: A Catalyst for Growth Book by Amy Chan: Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart

Summary In this episode, Ana and Iris explore the complex theme of identity, particularly in the context of midlife. They discuss how identity evolves over time, the significance of cultural and personal narratives, and the challenges faced in reconciling past identities with present realities. The conversation emphasizes the importance of curiosity and self-acceptance in navigating identity changes, as well as the impact of identity on leadership and decision-making. They also share personal stories and recommend resources for listeners to further explore their own identities. Takeaways Identity evolves and changes throughout life. Cultural identity can significantly impact self-perception. Naming and acknowledging identity struggles is crucial for healing. Curiosity about one's identity can lead to personal growth. Leadership requires a shift from expert identity to facilitative roles. Ethical decision-making is rooted in one's identity and values. Understanding different dimensions of identity can enhance self-awareness. Personal narratives shape how we relate to others and ourselves.   Chapters 00:00 Exploring Identity in Midlife 10:39 The Dimensions of Identity 17:42 Cultural Identity and Personal Narratives 23:10 Embracing Our Past Experiences 31:43 Ethical Decision Making and Identity 36:41 Identity Revision and Personal Growth 43:29 Resources for Identity Development Resources Book by Susan Cain: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking Book by Sahaj Kaur Kohli (also founder of Brown Girl Therapy community): But What Will People Say.  Book by Kenji Yoshino: Covering: The Hidden Assault on Our Civil Rights Book by Najwa Zebian: Welcome Home: A Guide to Building a Home for Your Soul    

Summary In this episode, Iris and Ana explore the complexities of dating at midlife, sharing personal experiences and insights on growth, challenges, and the importance of mindset. They discuss the significance of approaching dating with intention, resilience, and authenticity, while also addressing common cognitive biases and societal narratives that can impact one's dating journey. The conversation emphasizes the value of self-discovery and compassion in building meaningful relationships. Takeaways Dating at midlife can be a journey of growth and self-discovery. Approach dating with intention and resilience for a meaningful experience. Mindset plays a crucial role in navigating the dating landscape. Cognitive biases can distort perceptions of dating opportunities. Authenticity is key to forming genuine connections. Self-compassion is essential during the dating process. Personal boundaries are important in maintaining one's values. Investing in personal development can enhance dating experiences. Flexibility in expectations can open up new opportunities. Trust the process and be open to learning from experiences. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Dating at Midlife 02:54 Navigating the Challenges of Dating 06:03 The Positive Aspects of Midlife Dating 11:11 Cognitive Biases and Dating Narratives 15:24 Resilience and Personal Growth in Dating 20:18 Investing in Yourself and Your Dating Journey 22:58 Setting Boundaries and Authenticity 26:53 Advice for Younger Selves 30:56 Recommended Resources and Books 35:50 Key Takeaways and Conclusion  

In this episode, Ana and guest and Registered Clinical Counsellor, Fernanda Souza, explore family relationships and their impact on personal growth, behavioral patterns, attachment styles, topics important  during midlife and beyond.  Key Topics: Family of Origin: Defined as the family you were born into, including cultural and national identity. Influences include inherited values, unresolved traumas, and intergenerational wounds. Midlife Reflections: Midlife is seen as a prolific time for self-reflection and reevaluating family dynamics. Revisiting personal identity and addressing unresolved issues with parents is common. Attachment Styles: Secure attachment develops through consistent parenting. Inconsistent parenting or unresolved parental trauma can lead to attachment insecurities. Adults can work on "naming and taming" their own attachment patterns to improve relationships. Cutting Off vs. Maintaining Relationships: Cutting ties with parents is sometimes necessary but does not always leads to healing. Therapy can help clients explore ways to differentiate themselves from harmful dynamics while maintaining some connection, if feasible. Healing often involves symbolic reconciliation rather than literal distancing. Romantic and Parenting Relationships: Family patterns, including attachment styles, influence adult relationships and parenting approaches. Therapy helps individuals identify and adjust inherited behaviors that don't serve them well and stop intergenerational trauma. Chapters   00:00 Navigating Adult Relationships with Parents 18:10 Understanding Attachment Styles and Their Impact 25:53 Resources for Healing and Growth   Related resources: Books by Sue Johnson: Hold Me Tight, Love Sense Esther Perel, Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Drs. John and Julie Gottman, The Gottman Institute Connect with us: Instagram: From Midlife to Best Life   Disclaimer:  This podcast content is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not intended to substitute the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist or other qualified professional, diagnosis or treatment. Listeners should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

In this episode, Ana and Iris discuss the challenges and significance of forming, maintaining, and deepening friendships as adults, reflecting on their personal experiences and sharing practical insights. Key Topics: Challenges in Adult Friendships: Midlife friendship challenges include time constraints, competing priorities, lifestyle differences, and the complexities of maintaining friendships during life transitions (e.g., marriage, parenting, or divorce). Loneliness is highlighted as a growing epidemic with serious physical and emotional health implications. Personal Insights: Ana shares the importance of intentional friendships as an introvert, emphasizing quality over quantity. Iris highlights the need for social connections as an extrovert, reflecting on how friendship plays a stabilizing role in her life. The Role of Empathy and Intentionality: Building meaningful friendships requires effort, including understanding friends' needs and love languages, engaging in difficult conversations, and being present for one another. The episode emphasizes that friendships should align with personal values and provide mutual fulfillment. Social and Emotional Value of Friendships: Friendships are framed as an antidote to loneliness and a source of deep connection. The hosts discuss how social prescriptions, like shared activities, can enhance well-being. Practical Advice: Suggestions include diversifying sources of emotional support, cultivating empathy, learning to have difficult conversations, and being intentional about nurturing friendships. Reflection Questions: On a scale from 1-10, 10 being the highest, rate your level of satisfaction on the friendships in your life right now. Are you happy with it? If not and if you would like to make it higher, what would you do? Where would you go about looking for new friends? Share in the comments as we'd love to hear from you. Chapters: 00:00 Exploring Adult Friendships 02:34 The Role of Friendships in Our Lives 05:46 Challenges of Making Friends in Midlife 08:44 Navigating Life Transitions and Friendships 11:40 The Importance of Social Connections 14:45 Being a Good Friend 17:18 Empathy and Support in Friendships 20:30 The Impact of Loneliness 23:09 Lessons Learned About Friendships 26:00 Final Thoughts and Reflections Related resources: The Roots of Loneliness Project Book by Vivek Murthy, the 19th Surgeon General of the United States: Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World Psychology Today article: 12 Ways to Make Friends in Mid-Life and Beyond   Connect with us: Instagram: From Midlife to Best Life   Disclaimer This podcast content is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not intended to substitute the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist or other qualified professional, diagnosis or treatment. Listeners should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

In this episode of a brand-new podcast hosted by Iris Cai and Ana Yun, two Vancouverites and friends who like to contemplate life as they go through it, address what midlife is and challenge listeners to see what is commonly associated with aging and decline in a whole different light.  Iris and Ana share insights from a few thought leaders who define midlife as a rich period for reflection, growth, and transformation.  The hosts discuss important questions, struggles and experiences that surface around life’s “mid-point”, including personal values, individuation, cognitive dissonance and the quest for deeper life’s meaning. At the end of this episode, Iris leaves the audience with an open question to contemplate: what are your values? And if you are unclear on those, what would you do to figure them out? Check out resources below to help you on this quest.   Related resources: Brene Brown: living into our values Iris Cai: find your spark reflection   Connect with us: From Midlife to Best life instagram Watch this episode on YouTube Disclaimer:  This podcast content is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not intended to substitute the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist or other qualified professional, diagnosis or treatment. Listeners should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

This is a podcast dedicated to celebrating one of the most empowered, fun and challenging phases of life - midlife. Podcast hosts Iris and Ana (proud midlifers) invite their audience in on friendly, authentic and important conversations about anything related to midlife: relationships, career, transitions and other rich topics. They share personal stories, research insights, and learnings from their daily lives to inspire folks approaching or living midlife embrace fulfilling and rewarding lives.