Heal That Shit with Alissa Buethe

In this episode of Heal That Shit, I talk about the idea of being called delusional and why that word kept showing up in my life over and over again. After a conversation that made me question whether I was holding onto unrealistic expectations, I started noticing the same message everywhere… in books, conversations, social media, and even in the patterns I’ve learned to recognize as signs when I need to pay attention.This episode dives into the connection between intuition, repeating patterns, and the way our thoughts, choices, and behaviors create the reality we live in. I share how I’ve learned to slow down, listen to those messages, and be honest about the habits that keep me stuck in the same loops.Sometimes the difference between staying the same and creating something new comes down to being willing to believe in a life that doesn’t exist yet, and the bravery it takes to be delusional about what you want to create.If you’ve ever felt like you want more out of life but aren’t sure how to break the patterns you’re in, this episode is for you.https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/https://www.facebook.com/alissab9https://www.alissanoelle.com/https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

Most people believe that conflict is what damages relationships. But the truth is, conflict is unavoidable in any meaningful connection. Romantic relationships, friendships, family, even work relationships — if the relationship is real, conflict will show up at some point.The real damage usually comes from avoiding the conversation altogether.In this episode, I talk about why I'm not afraid of conflict and how learning to face it head-on has helped me build deeper understanding, stronger relationships, and a greater sense of self-respect. I share the mindset shifts that helped me stop seeing conflict as something to fear and instead view it as an opportunity for honesty, growth, and clarity.This conversation explores how resentment is often just a conversation that hasn’t happened yet, why understanding someone’s conflict style matters, and how staying grounded in your own values can change the way you approach difficult conversations.Because sometimes the most loving thing you can do for a relationship… is be brave enough to have the conversation.https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/https://www.facebook.com/alissab9https://www.alissanoelle.com/https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode of Heal That Shit, I share why I picked up Nobody’s Girl by Virginia Giuffre and why I chose not to look away from a story that is hard, heavy, and deeply personal.What started as an airport audiobook download turned into something much bigger. Listening to her recount the grooming, manipulation, abuse, and the powerful systems that protected it brought up pieces of my own story, memories from childhood, the shame that keeps us silent, and the ways trauma follows us into adulthood. Some chapters forced me to pause. Not because I was shocked, but because my body remembered.This episode isn’t just about one survivor’s story. It’s about how silence protects perpetrators. How discomfort keeps systems intact. How easy it is to rationalize or minimize abuse, especially when powerful names are involved. And how dangerous it becomes when we look away because facing the truth challenges what we believe about others… or about ourselves.I talk about shame, survival responses, healing in safe relationships, and what it means to use your voice after years of staying quiet. I also challenge the cultural instinct to defend, deflect, or deny when new information makes us uncomfortable.Yes, it’s hard to listen to stories like this. It should be. But storytelling matters. Truth matters. Accountability matters.I finished the book. I’m not looking away.And I hope you won’t either.https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/https://www.facebook.com/alissab9https://www.alissanoelle.com/https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, I sit down with my good friend Kristopher Pace, Hope Mercedes from the band Mythology, and her amazing mom Mrs. K to talk about something deeply personal — a song they created together as a tribute to Christopher’s late brother, Daniel.The song is called “Brother,” and it’s more than music - it’s a message. We dive into how the collaboration came together, what the song really means, and how they intentionally produced it using 432 Hz, a frequency known for its healing properties.This song is already touching lives and is currently being considered for a 2026 Grammy nomination!We go deep in this one: into the creative process, the emotion, the message, and the quiet strength that runs through it all. It’s about connection, grief, resilience, healing, and the unspoken bonds that tie us together.If you’ve ever needed a reminder of how powerful music can be - as a healing force, as a way to honor someone you love, or as a call for unity - this episode is for you.Tune in and join us for a powerful conversation about brotherhood, artistry, legacy, and the voice a song can give to our souls.This is a song for anyone who has lost someone too soon…https://www.instagram.com/mythology_3https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/https://www.facebook.com/alissab9https://www.alissanoelle.com/https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode of Heal That Shit, I talk about reconnecting with a couple of friends who reminded me just how powerful encouragement can be. They showed up at the perfect time, lifting me up and reminding me that sharing my voice and my stories isn’t just something I enjoy—it’s part of my purpose. Their presence was a nudge to step back into who I really am and what I bring to the world.Not long after, I received a different kind of reminder from my grandmother, who passed but continues to guide me in her own way. A simple message on a page in the park stopped me in my tracks and reminded me of the power of storytelling. She had a way of pushing me to learn and grow, even when it wasn’t easy, and that moment was her way of telling me I had wandered off course but could find my way back.What ties these experiences together is connection. Storytelling is how we create it—when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, open, and real. It’s how we make others feel seen, heard, and less alone. Between my friends’ encouragement and my grandmother’s reminder, I know it’s time to start sharing again, because that’s where the magic happens.

In this episode of Heal That Shit, I share the inner tug-of-war I’ve been feeling since starting a new life in Montana. Even though the plan was always to move, settle in, and bring my kids out after school ended, the emotional weight of leaving behind everything familiar has been heavy. I’ve found myself second-guessing, grieving what I’m letting go of, and wondering if I’m making the right decision, especially when things feel uncertain or hard.But deep down, I know this journey is about more than logistics. It’s about faith, trust, and learning to follow my intuition. I’ve asked the universe for signs, and when I slow down and truly listen, the guidance always comes. Not to relieve me of responsibility, but to affirm what my soul already knows: that I’m being led somewhere important, even if I don’t fully understand it yet.This process has reminded me that real peace comes from surrender,. Not halfway, but all the way. That 100% commitment, even when the path is unclear, is where the magic happens. It’s not about being certain of the outcome, it’s about choosing a direction and trusting that everything I need will meet me there. And that’s what I’m doing now. No more wavering, no more fear. 100% all in.https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/https://www.facebook.com/alissab9https://www.alissanoelle.com/https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, I chat with Nicole Middendorf, wealth advisor and certified divorced financial analyst, CEO of Prosperwell Financial in Minnetonka Minnesota, public speaker, coach, author of five books, mother of two children, and domestic abuse survivor. Nicole and I share discussions on the impact of doing scary things, navigating life changing events, and how absolutely amazing solo travel for women can be.Nicole talks about her "Live It List" and how it has shaped her philosophy on life and her ability to go from simply surviving life to thriving. "Every time you do something new, big or small, it gives you more resilience, more confidence." Nicole also reminds us that it is okay to want - and live the life you desire.https://theliveitlist.comhttps://prosperwell.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolemiddendorfhttps://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/https://www.facebook.com/alissab9https://www.alissanoelle.com/https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, I reflect on the constant cycles of change that life brings and how those shifts have been showing up in my own world lately. Between moving, parenting, building a new life, and saying goodbye to the old one, I’ve been riding the waves of transition—sometimes feeling grounded, and sometimes completely overwhelmed.One thing I’ve learned is how powerful the quiet moments are. They’re often the only time emotions we’ve tucked away finally surface—grief, fear, uncertainty—but also clarity, creativity, and hope. A short drive or a slow walk in the park can suddenly become the space where big realizations happen. That’s where healing begins. That’s where new visions start to take shape.This episode is about letting yourself feel it all—honoring the grief that comes with change, but also welcoming the optimism of new beginnings. It’s about being present, building a life of intention, and demonstrating what resilience really looks like. Because healing doesn’t happen in the chaos. It happens in the quiet.https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/https://www.facebook.com/alissab9https://www.alissanoelle.com/https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode of Heal That Shit, I speak with healer Wendy Benning-Swanson about her journey through grief and loss, the importance of self-discovery, and the path to empowerment. Wendy shares her experiences with grief after losing her husband and how it led her to explore spirituality and healing practices. The conversation delves into the significance of joy, the role of fear in personal growth, and the necessity of self-reflection and forgiveness in the healing process. Wendy emphasizes that healing is a personal journey that requires willingness and effort, and that understanding one's purpose can lead to a more fulfilling life.Wendy's company is called Innerpowerment. If you are interested in working with her you can learn more at wendybenningswanson.com or on Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn.https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087081624356https://www.instagram.com/wendybswanson/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendybenning/

This week Facebook memories shared a couple of videos I posted this time last year about my experience dating in my 40s, all of the trauma most of us are sifting through in our lives in an attempt to be happy and possibly find someone to share that happiness with, and the realization that trying to date at this point in life is filled with challenges that did not exist in our 20s. The truth is most of us who have found ourselves unexpectedly single in our 40s are recovering from trauma from past relationships, just now digging into issues that have shaped us from our childhood, and learning not only how to understand ourselves, but how to navigate that awareness while simultaneously trying to navigate someone else's experiences that have shaped their thoughts, beliefs, feeling and fears. Its ugly. It's messy. But it's also a great opportunity for practice in becoming the best version of ourselves as each interaction can bring awareness to places where healing is needed and provide an opportunity to choose differently this time. Because that is how you break patterns...by making a new choice when faced with familiar circumstances.https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/https://www.facebook.com/alissab9https://www.alissanoelle.com/https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

How the fuck did I get here? That question has been on repeat in my head since I landed in Great Falls, Montana. A year ago, I lost my job, and what felt like a crisis quickly became a lesson in surrender. I spent months trying to trust the process, but as my bank account drained, so did my patience. Out of over 100 job applications in 11 states, only Montana called back. And just like that, I packed up my life and moved to a city I’d never even visited before my interview.Looking back, I realize this didn’t happen overnight. It started with a terrible second date in September 2023 that led me to swipe on someone from Montana, which planted the seed that maybe Minnesota wasn’t where I was meant to be. From there, a series of small but significant moments including random connections, impulsive trips, and unexpected friendships all pushed me further down a path I wasn’t even aware I was on. When I finally let go of trying to control everything, the universe made the decision for me.Now, I’m here, alone in a one-bedroom apartment, my kids still in Minnesota, our home filled with the people I love, but without me. That house was more than just walls. It was the center of my world, sheltering my family in ways I never fully appreciated until now. And yet, I know I can’t go back. Every time I’ve tried to recreate something from my past, it’s only led to a distorted version of what once was.So, I have to move forward, even if I don’t know what that looks like yet. The blank slate in front of me is both terrifying and full of possibility. I don’t have the answers, and I don’t feel ready. But maybe that’s the point.https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/https://www.facebook.com/alissab9https://www.alissanoelle.com/https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, I chat with Brent Woodman, public speaker and coach from Your Limitless Coach. In this conversation we talk about finding your purpose, identifying what drives you, and aligning your why and your values in order to create an intentional life. We chat about our childhood experiences and how the examples we received from our parents and how they raised us impacted our beliefs and mindsets around success, money, and what a good life is supposed to look like.  The truth is the road to success is bumpy, messy, and filled with setbacks and detours. But those bumps, failures, and experiences along the way are all part of the process designed to show us what we don't want, discover what we do, and provide opportunities to grow into the person we we're meant to be. If you're interested in working with Brent, you can find him on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/brentwidman/ or contact him at 507-382-7641. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

Over the past few weeks, I've been reflecting on a common theme that’s been popping up for me, and I think it’s something we can all relate to. As we move through different chapters of our lives, we’re faced with the tough task of deciding what we want to take with us. This could be physical things, mental baggage, or even relationships. What’s truly worth holding onto, and what’s time to let go of? I’ve had some personal experiences that really brought this idea home for me, and I hope by sharing them, it gives you something to think about as you step into this new year. One thing that really stuck with me was an interview I watched with Spencer Pratt and Heidi Montag about losing their home in the California wildfires. The way Heidi described the moment when they realized the fire was getting too close, when Spencer asked her, “What do you want to take?” and she was too overwhelmed to even answer. That moment stuck with me because, while I can’t imagine losing everything so suddenly, I know we all have attachments to our things. Whether it’s sentimental value or a sense of security, our possessions feel like part of who we are. But what really inspired me was their story of resilience and community. Instead of asking for money, Spencer simply asked people to stream Heidi’s music. And within hours, her album went to number one on iTunes. It reminded me how powerful it can be to ask for help when we need it, even in the most unexpected ways. This theme of letting go really hit home for me as I’m in the middle of preparing for a big move. I’m relocating across the country for a new job, and I had to make some tough choices about what I can actually take with me. The hard truth is that I can only fit so much into the back of my minivan. I had to let go of a lot of things, but I also chose to bring things that would offer me comfort and a sense of stability, like my favorite chipped coffee mug, the recliner I rocked both of my babies to sleep in, and even my dad’s ashes. It’s painful to leave things behind, especially when you can’t bring everything you want, but it’s also part of the process. Change is hard, but it’s necessary for growth.  So, as you look ahead to 2025, I want to challenge you: What are you choosing to take with you as you move forward? What’s essential for your journey, and what no longer fits? Let go of what’s weighing you down, and make space for what truly aligns with the next phase of your life. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, I had the opportunity to chat with Joey Grasso of Relatable Reflections and Pure Love Vibes. Joey shared his story as we explored the idea that, despite differences in age (Gen X vs Gen Z), gender, and where we grew up, many of us go through similar struggles in life. During our conversation, we delved into the importance of community in overcoming obstacles and finding strength. Joey and I agreed that having people to lean on at different points in life can make all the difference. It is essential to build communities that uplift and support one another, especially when life feels overwhelming or uncertain. This theme of connection and support really resonated throughout our discussion, reminding us that no one should have to face their struggles alone.An inspiring takeaway from the conversation is the reminder that everyone, regardless of where they are in their own journey, has the ability to make a difference. The only requirement for making an impact is being a few steps ahead of someone else and using the knowledge and experiences we've gathered to help others. The message is clear: we all have a role to play in empowering those around us, and every step forward is an opportunity to lift someone else up. Come see the work he is doing to uplift others here: https://www.instagram.com/relatablereflections_https://www.instagram.com/purelovevibess/https://www.youtube.com/@LeftyLegend24https://www.youtube.com/@purelovevibesshttps://www.snapchat.com/add/leftylegend24https://www.snapchat.com/add/purelovevibesshttps://pin.it/2bBc907c2

2024 gifted me with a ton of practice in faith and trust. The past year was been filled with uncertainty for me, and I’ve had to really face my fear of the unknown. It’s been a reminder that life doesn’t always go according to plan, and sometimes, we just have to let go of the need to control everything. I’ve learned that faith isn’t about knowing all the answers; it’s about trusting yourself to navigate through the uncertainty and knowing that, even when things aren’t clear, everything will work out as it should. I used to struggle with anxiety, constantly worrying about the future and trying to control every outcome. But what I’ve discovered is that faith is the antidote to that anxiety. It’s about surrendering to the process and trusting that things will unfold in their own time. We don’t need to know everything or have all the answers right now. Instead, we just need to take the next step, even if it feels small. It’s about allowing ourselves to sit with the discomfort of not knowing and trusting that, when the time comes, we’ll know exactly what to do. The more I embrace this, the more I realize that life is a flow, not a constant grind. We don’t have to force everything to happen—we just have to trust that it’s already unfolding in our favor. This is something I’m still practicing every day. Faith isn’t built overnight; it’s a result of taking small, intentional steps and embracing the discomfort of uncertainty. As I’ve learned to trust the process more, I’ve found that things start to unfold naturally, even when I can’t see the full picture. This week I challenge you to reflect on where you’re holding on too tightly, where you’re trying to control the outcome, and how you can shift into a place of flow. Trust yourself, trust the process, and remember, you don’t need to have it all figured out to move forward. Take that next step and keep trusting the journey. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In today’s episode, I dive into the challenges we all face when life feels overwhelming. Whether it’s financial stress, job uncertainty, or just the weight of daily responsibilities, we’ve all been there. I talk about how, in these moments of struggle, it’s easy to feel like we’re not making any progress, but that’s often when we’re actually growing the most. I share how life’s toughest moments — the ones that bring up old emotions — can be powerful reminders of how far we’ve come, even when we don’t realize it. I also touch on the importance of recognizing and embracing these challenges, rather than running from them. When we can stop and reflect on the difficult times we’ve overcome, it helps us see our resilience and strength. Life won’t always be easy, and there will always be setbacks, but I believe these struggles are what shape us into stronger versions of ourselves. In this episode, I encourage you to take a moment to acknowledge how much you’ve grown, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. Ultimately, I hope this conversation reminds you that it’s okay to feel uncertain or overwhelmed — you’re not alone in this. We all face hardships, but it’s how we deal with them that defines our journey. So, if you’ve been questioning your progress, know that every step, even the tough ones, is a sign that you’re moving forward. Thank you for joining me today, and I hope this episode leaves you with a sense of strength and hope as you keep navigating life’s ups and downs. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode of Heal That Shit, I dive into the tradition of choosing a "Word of the Year" as a way to set intentions and focus your energy for the months ahead. I share my own journey with this practice, reflecting on the words I’ve chosen over the past few years—diligence, joy, and accomplish—and how each one has shaped my personal growth and healing. 2024’s word, "Accomplish," didn’t quite unfold as expected, but looking back, I realized I’d achieved so much more than I gave myself credit for. It’s a reminder that progress doesn’t always happen on our timeline, but it’s always happening. As I reflect on 2024, I also think ahead to 2025 and the word I've chosen: "Focus." I’m ready to hone in on my goals with more intention, consistency, and discipline, knowing that time is a precious gift. I discuss how choosing a Word of the Year can help guide your decisions, actions, and mindset. It's about more than achieving goals; it's about cultivating the right energy and staying connected to your deeper values. Whether you're aiming for courage, clarity, or balance, your word becomes a reminder to stay aligned with the life you want to create. Finally, I walk through how to choose your own Word of the Year, offering a simple three-step process: reflect on the past year, dream big, and keep it simple. A Word of the Year isn’t about perfection, but progress—something that inspires you and helps you stay intentional. I encourage you to think about what you want to invite into your life, what challenges you, and what can keep you grounded through the ups and downs. It’s a powerful tool to support your healing and growth in the year ahead. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode of Heal That Shit, I share how reconnecting with my core values helped me move from feeling lost to living with more intention. A year ago, I was stuck in old patterns and mindsets, making decisions that weren’t aligned with who I truly wanted to be. By identifying and focusing on my values, I started making decisions that were more in line with the person I wanted to become, and it brought me much-needed clarity and direction. I also talk about how to identify your personal values by reflecting on past decisions, moments of fulfillment, and what you admire in others. It’s not about what society tells you to value, but what feels true to you. Once you’ve identified these values, it’s important to dig deeper into why they matter and how they show up in your life. Finally, I share how to use your values to make intentional decisions. By asking yourself which option aligns with your values, setting boundaries, and being consistent, you can make choices that lead to a life that feels authentic and fulfilling. I share a personal story about choosing honesty in a difficult conversation with a friend, which ultimately strengthened our bond. Living intentionally with your values at the core helps you create the life you truly want. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, I reflect on what has been a transformative and challenging year for me. Losing my job in January gave me the gift of time—time to explore new passions, reflect on who I want to become, and practice patience and trust that things are working out. However, despite all the growth and self-discovery, I find myself struggling with a fear of commitment. This fear has shown up in my relationships and career choices. I’ve realized that I’m afraid of getting stuck in a routine or life that feels stagnant, and the thought of committing to a long-term path—whether it's a job or relationship—feels suffocating. Through this journey, I've noticed a pattern in my relationships, particularly with emotionally unavailable men, and how I’ve avoided deeper commitments. I’ve also noticed this resistance in my career, where I struggle to commit to a job long-term, even when it’s something I could enjoy. I’ve become aware of my fear of complacency—of waking up one day in a life I didn’t actively choose, but simply settled into. On top of that, I've been changing and evolving so quickly that I often wonder if the choices I make now will still align with who I am months from now, or if I’ll need to leave them behind as I grow. Towards the end of the episode, I share my discovery of human design and how learning about my "manifestor" aura type has helped me understand why I resist long-term commitments. I’ve realized that I thrive in short bursts of energy and passion, and I need a lot of space for downtime and flexibility. I crave adventure and the freedom to explore multiple interests and ideas without being tied down to one thing for too long. As I continue to learn about my human design, I’m excited to discover how it can help me find a path that aligns with my true self. I also encourage anyone struggling to understand their own behavior to explore tools like human design, astrology, or the Enneagram—anything that can help you better understand yourself, because when you truly understand yourself, you can love and accept who you are, and from there, you can deepen your connections with others. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

Something I’ve learned in the last year is that any source of discomfort we have has a purpose. And that purpose is to show us the places where we have to be aware of something that we need, that we need something that isn't in our lives, or someplace we are not in alignment with our authentic self. Ever since I’ve gained that awareness, my goal when I start to feel a certain level of discomfort that I can’t shake, rather than trying to find a way to numb it or avoid it, I challenge myself to sit with it without trying to change how I feel physically or internally. I sit with the yucky discomfort, allowing it to feel gross and then I ask myself: What is this discomfort trying to show me? What is its purpose? What feelings am I feeling at this moment that are making me uncomfortable? And what is that feeling a clue to? The process in these moments is to recognize the discomfort, allow yourself to feel the feelings, and ask yourself what it is trying to show you. The message is almost always about your fears trying to show you they are present, so you can shift your mindset around them.  You will continually repeat this process over and over again until you make your way through all of the superficial fears and get to a place where you can dive deep into those core fears. Because that is where the real work needs to be done. That is where you will achieve deep inner healing and when you will experience profound freedom. My challenge to you is this. This week, when you find yourself experiencing any sort of discomfort, I want you to recognize it, pause, then ask yourself what am I feeling? What is causing this feeling of discomfort? What is this feeling trying to tell me about what is potentially missing from my life in this moment? How can I find a way to create those things within myself so I am not seeking them from external sources? What fears is this discomfort trying to make me aware of? How can I dig deeper past those superficial fears this discomfort is triggering to identify my core fears that I've hidden a little deeper? How can I challenge myself to shift my mindset around those fears so they no longer control how I feel about myself? How can I acknowledge the ways I feel like I don't measure up and still completely love and accept myself regardless of whether or not my external environment or relationships is validating it? https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, we are joined by Ceree Eberly, reiki master, energy healer, akashic record master and teacher, and tarot card reader on YouTube's Soulful Revolution and The Spiritual View channels. Ceree takes us through her journey from being a high level corporate leader at a Fortune 500 company to discovering her unique spiritual gifts and shares stories of inner healing throughout her personal struggles in life. Ceree also educates us on what the Akashic Records are and how a reading of your own Akashic Records can help you identify your souls journey throughout multiple lifetimes, the lessons it is here to learn and master in this lifetime, and how to use this tool to clear past life karma and release mental blocks to assist you though your own inner healing. If you would like to schedule a tarot card reading or an Akashic Records reading with Ceree, you can book on her website: www.cteglobal.org. Or you can find her under the Soulful Revolution website,  www.soulfulrevolutiontv.com and look under Readings tab to find her bio. You can also watch her collective readings each week on Youtube on The Spiritual View channel at https://www.youtube.com/@thespiritualview311. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

An interaction with a friend last week triggered some very painful parts of myself. This event took my thoughts to some dark places but also created some much needed awareness to places that needed healing and gave me an opportunity to look at old wounds, recognize how they have created mindsets and patterns that still operate in my life today, and challenge myself to choose new ways to look at these experiences. I took advantage of the opportunity to go deeper and ask myself the following questions: Why did this interaction trigger these parts of me? What was this here to show me? What parts of myself need some extra love and compassion right now? What thoughts and beliefs are coming from an old version of myself that no longer serves me? How am I feeling in this moment and how would I rather feel right now? What do I believe about myself in this moment and what would I rather believe my personal truth is? What is the discomfort I am feeling right now, here to show me about where in my life I am not in alignment with my own values, my own truth, and my own integrity?  When you can dig deep enough to answer those questions honestly, you can take advantage of the opportunity that a triggering situation has provided to choose a new thought, choose a new belief, choose a new way to feel, and allow yourself to heal from things that have been buried inside of you, long before this situation came across your path to bring awareness to them. Rather than allow these outdated mindsets to continue, I chose to look very honestly at myself, at my own wounds and triggers, and how they make me respond. That’s been a big part of the healing process for me. When I feel a certain way about something and I’ve perceived it in a certain way, I don’t deny that that was my experience. I completely own and accept that this is what I saw and this is how I felt about it. But I also completely own and accept the fact that I might be wrong. I am not always right just because that is my experience and those are my feelings. And I think a lot of us think that it has to be one or the other. I can hold both of those as truth at the same time.  That this is the experience I had. This is how I perceived it. This is how it made me feel. And that is my truth.  AND I might be wrong about what I saw, experienced, and how I should feel about it, because my perspective and my truth is not the absolute truth. There are always things I don’t see. But the only way to figure that out is to be willing to have those conversations. To be willing to be vulnerable enough to share your truth with someone else. To be willing to share your truth in a way that is honest and authentic even when you know you have no control over the outcome. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, I chat with Kevin Ross, coach and founder of mindsetarmor.com and the host of the Mindset Armor podcast. In this discussion Kevin shares the power of our thoughts and how the mindset work that we do is crucial in creating lasting changes in our lives. He reminds us that the actions we take are instrumental in the life that we cultivate and reminds us that we always have a choice whether it is actively choosing our thoughts, our words, or our behaviors. When we realize that truth, and take ownership of our choices, we no longer allow ourselves to be a victim of our circumstances. If you want to learn more about Kevin, his website, or his podcast, check out the link below. https://linktr.ee/mindsetarmor?utm_source=linktree_profile_share https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode of "Heal That Shit," I dive into the themes surrounding the full moon in Aries and the importance of reflection and release. I encourage you to look back to the new moon eclipse in April, prompting you to identify struggles and desires that have surfaced over the past six months. I explore the balance between individuality and collective needs, shining a light on sources of suffering that may be holding you back from your true potential. I share my personal challenges with letting go, especially in relationships, and how my core fear of abandonment influences my emotional responses. Watching loved ones move on has been painful, and I’ve had to shift my mindset to recognize that rejection often serves as protection from what isn’t meant for me. This realization has been crucial in fostering my self-worth and understanding that the universe might be guiding me toward something better. I also discuss navigating uncomfortable emotions and thoughts, emphasizing the importance of allowing these feelings to surface instead of fighting them. Embracing discomfort can lead to profound personal insights. By approaching my feelings with curiosity rather than judgment, I’ve learned to uncover deeper levels of awareness about myself and my healing journey. Reconnecting with my emotions, even during overwhelming moments, has been essential for my growth. While letting go of burdens can be challenging and may involve grief, it’s a vital part of the healing process. By honoring our past experiences and acknowledging their lessons, we can pave the way for a lighter, more fulfilling future. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

I’m pretty proud of myself this week. I just accomplished an impressive feat, at least in my eyes. I completed a full round of the 75 hard challenge. I’m very proud of what I accomplished in those 75 days, but also recognize that I could’ve gone even further with a little bit more discipline. Working out is great but nutrition is actually where most of the impact is made. I’ve heard this before and it is so true. You cannot outwork a poor diet. This realization reminded me of a similar correlation that occurs in your inner healing journey. The same way you cannot expect optimal results in your fitness if you don’t pair both exercise with eating right, you cannot cultivate meaningful changes in your life without doing the mind work and taking the actions that support what you’re trying to create. And just like diet is more impactful than exercise, the actions and behaviors you choose are infinitely more powerful even than the mind work you do to prepare for those changes. Real transformational change only occurs when you do the mental work to prepare for it then take bold action towards doing things differently. So that is my challenge to you today. Where do you feel like you're not making progress with the changes that you want to implement in your life? Is it within your relationships? Your career? If so I want you to ask yourself this: Do the things that you think and believe match the actions that you're taking? Are you telling yourself you want a job that is fulfilling, uses your skills and you're passionate about but continue to look for jobs doing the same shit you've always done that doesn't fulfill you? Do you tell yourself that you deserve to feel seen and heard in your relationships and then continue to not use your voice? Do you tell yourself that you want and deserve to be in a committed relationship with someone who values you and then continue to chase emotionally unavailable men? If you're feeling called out right now, good. Because this is going to tell you exactly where you need to make different choices to get the life you actually want. You have to take action. https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

One of the greatest lessons I have learned in my journey of self-discovery is understanding that relationships are mirrors to the places we have work to do within ourselves.   “We should be grateful for all situations that make us the most uncomfortable, because without them we would not know there is something unhealed in us."  ~ Kenneth Wapnick Gabby Berenstein‘s "The Universe Has Your Back" is 100% on my recommended reading list. One lesson in this book spoke to me more loudly than the others. This particular chapter was about judgment and shared the idea that what you judge in others is what you judge in yourself. It was Carl Jung, the founder of analytical psychology, who said, “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” We see others not as they are, but as we are. When we become aware of our own projections onto others, we can see the shadows we hide from ourselves.” When we are angry or frustrated at the behavior of another person at times, it is because it shines a light on our own shortcomings. Rather than allow this to be upsetting or accept responsibility for someone else's behavior, I challenge you to use this opportunity as a gift to see where you have participated in the same behavior. We cannot change our relationships without changing ourselves, so we must take some responsibility for our contributions to the dynamics of those relationships and how we have chosen to show up, in order for change to occur. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/alissabnoelle9/ https://www.facebook.com/alissab9 https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

Over the weekend I had a moment where I was reminded that a key to letting go of shame is forgiveness. The ability to forgive others is helpful in being able to move on. But even more important than that is the ability to forgive ourselves. If you think it’s hard to forgive other people for the things they’ve done in the choices they’ve made. You have clearly not tried to forgive yourself for the things that you have done and the choices you’ve made that have harmed you. Or maybe you haven’t even recognized the need for it. It is much easier to point at someone else and talk about all of the things that they’ve done wrong. Which is why so many of us get stuck in that blame phase of life and then feel helpless. Because at the end of the day we have no control over other people, what they do, how they think, their choices or behaviors. It is so much harder to look within and be radically honest with ourselves about our own shit. It is painful to look at ourselves in the mirror. It is painful to acknowledge and own all of the ways that we get in our own way, the ways we have harmed ourselves, the ways we have made choices that do not serve us in favor of being an inauthentic version of ourselves. It is painful to look at the way we’ve allowed fear to get in the way of our joy and success. It’s hard to look at that because we resent the people who willingly choose to hurt us. And then realize we are one of those people. Self forgiveness is a necessary part of healing. But we cannot forgive ourselves until we look at all the parts we’ve played in our own suffering and the suffering of others around us. Which creates a lot of guilt. And a lot of shame which is probably one of the worst emotions that humans experience. And also, which is why most of us don’t even realize we have stuffed it so far down to a place where we don’t have to acknowledge it exists. It is too painful to look at. Healing does not come solely from forgiving others. It is just the gateway to open the door for seeing humanity and others. When you’re able to do this and provide that grace and understanding for them, you can begin to find a way to have that same grace for yourself. Which is by far a harder feat. Most of us struggle with recognizing the humanity within ourselves. So many times we make mistakes or choices at points in our life when we didn’t know better. Or when we did know better, and still thought that was the best option. We are not perfect, yet so many times deep inside of us we have that expectation that we should be. And then we project that expectation on to other people. At this point in life, I truly believe that the essence of all of us is good. That, even when we choose poorly, or could’ve done better, that every single one of us did the best we could with whatever we were dealing with at that moment with the tools we had available. I truly believe if someone could have done it better, they would have. Even me. Hindsight is 2020 and it’s easy to judge an event or a person from the outside. But when you’re in the midst of a crisis or emotional turmoil or feeling lost or depressed, sometimes your best looks much different. Forgive those who made choices that hurt you and others. Whether they knew better or not. Then find a way to forgive yourself for the same. That is where true healing begins. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

Frequently throughout your journey of healing and transformation there will be periods of time where you feel like you are not moving. Everything feels stagnant. I’ve often found myself in that place during my healing journey that I like to call the void. I call that because it’s super uncomfortable to be there and nothing is really moving. It almost feels like a stagnant pond rather than a river or a creek. When it’s happened in the past I’ve found myself really itching to get out of that place and continue moving forward. But now that I am aware of it, when it happens I challenge myself to make peace with the discomfort because I know that it is trying to teach me how to sit still in that period of pause with whatever feelings I have. Sitting in the void, without giving into the urge to push things forward, challenges me to increase my tolerance for that particular type of discomfort because even that is helping me to grow. When I get to those places, I don’t try to shove myself back into the river. I don’t try to manufacture this movement within my life that may or may not need to happen. I sit with it and trust that I am there for a reason, that there is something I need to get out of that experience, and when the time is right, the river will open back up allowing me to flow forward. I don’t need to force it. Those moments of pause are a necessary part of your journey. Take a breath, allow yourself to sit with the discomfort this moment is making you feel, have compassion for yourself. For where you've been and where you are right now. Trust that this also is a part of that process. And when you get to that place where your momentum has slowed down and it feels like you are not moving, it is because you're in one of those moments where your bow is being pulled back, you're dialing in on your target, you’re centering yourself, and you are just about to be shot forward into your future. In the meantime take advantage of that moment of pause to apply the lessons you have learned, determine what things you need to bring with you on the next phase of your journey and what needs to be left behind, soak in the progress you have achieved and express your gratitude for all of the lessons and experiences that got you to where you're at today. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

During a recent last minute, super impulsive trip to Montana a random connection led to a conversation about how to create a life of peace, joy, happiness, and fulfillment. I have had enough of my own awareness and experiences in the last several months that my insight at that moment sounded like this: Creating those moments and that inner peace has to do with being present, and being open to experiences of joy in the little moments. The little mundane moments of your day to day experience. I think a lot of us think that joy and happiness is centered around these big things that come into our lives. The big events. The epic things going on. The excitement or the newness of certain experiences. The high highs in our lives. So when we're feeling a lack of joy in our life we tend to search out those big things. Or when we are feeling a sense of disconnect or discomfort, we tend to seek out distractions. I told him that one of the things I recognized that was keeping me from a life of peace and joy was my tendency to want to escape those moments of discomfort. I became very aware of what my distractions were when those uncomfortable feelings or moments came up for me. Online dating. Certain unhealthy connections. Alcohol. If you truly want to cultivate a life of joy, fulfillment, peace, and happiness you first have to find a way to learn how to embrace the moments of discomfort without tapping out or choosing a distraction. You have to challenge yourself to sit with the discomfort because the more often you do that the less often you will feel uncomfortable. The more you practice that skill, the more often you will experience moments of peace, which allow you to be present. And being present is what allows you to experience those moments of joy in your day-to-day life. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, Carrisa Glogovac shares her story of becoming a mother at 39 after thinking she could not have children and the journey of inner healing that her struggles with postpartum and motherhood prompted. Although the events that prompt our journeys of inner healing may be different, the lessons are the same. Carrisa and I discuss our different journeys as well as the common themes that showed up for both of us. These include: Vulnerably sharing our stories through social media and asking for help.. Our deep dive into self-love and learning compassion for even the darkest parts of ourselves. Identifying our core values so we can create more intentional lives. Getting comfortable allowing others to show up for us when the pressure to be independent and self-sufficient becomes overwhelming. Investing in ourselves and putting our well-being first because it makes us better humans, partners, friends, and parents. Taking steps to recreate our community of people who support and understand us as we navigated stressful life changes. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

One of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do as a parent is watch your kids struggle with something that you can’t fix. To watch them faced with problems that you can’t solve for them. To watch them hurt and not be able to take away the pain. One of my children was struggling with something I think all of us can relate to. They were struggling with not knowing where they fit in this world. They were struggling with looking at their closest connections and friends, and realizing more often than not, they have to be someone they aren’t to fit in. They struggled with feeling extremely alone because that is how being around someone you can’t be 100% yourself makes you feel. As much as I tried to tell her that as hard as it feels today, it gets better, the truth is that even well into my 40s I still have those moments. I have those moments where I look around and feel alone. I have those moments where I desperately crave connection and can’t find it. I have moments where I’m tempted to pretend to be someone I’m not (someone less me) in order to make myself more palatable for others so I can belong. And in these moments, I try to remind myself the same things I tried to remind my daughter. Even though it hurts right now, it won’t always hurt this way. It is much better to be only loved by one person (even if that is only yourself) for being exactly who you are than to be loved by everyone for being someone you’re not. I try to remind myself that when you finally begin living as your most genuine and authentic self, it might repel the wrong people away from you. And it might result in some losses that make you feel sad or rejected or alone. But it also attracts all the right people to you. Your people. In these moments, one of my favorite quotes that makes me feel better anytime I’m feeling this way is this: "You have not yet met all of the people who are going to love you." What an amazing reminder. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

It looks like I’ve received my next message from the universe. This phrase has come across my path several times this week. Enough for me to pay attention every time I hear it. "Iron Sharpens Iron" The first time I noticed it, it was in an Instagram post a friend shared of his work out as that’s the name of the gym he attends. A community of people who encourage and push each other. Later I heard it again in a video where a woman talks about how she needs friends who are going to be real with her and call her out on her shit because that’s what she needs to grow as a person. Not friends who will stand by and allow her to be less than who she has the potential to be. The third time I heard it was listening to the speech delivered by Vanessa Bryant at the unveiling of the statue of Kobe and Gigi at Staples Center on 8-2–24 as she spoke about what their legacy brings to uplifting and empowering women and girls so they can continue to uplift and empower each other. The message was clear: Your community matters. Your inner circle matters. When you surround yourself with the right people who are all about growth, improvement, personal development, setting goals and making their dreams happen, the conversations hits differently. The way you feel after leaving those conversations hits differently. The motivation that you will suddenly have to continue to progress in your life in the direction you want to go hits differently. You need friends around you that are doing better than you. You need people to influence the way you think who are smarter than you. You need people in your networking group who are more successful than you and can show you what is also possible for you. You need people with skill sets different than yours that can help you achieve things you never could do completely on your own. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

This is a very exciting episode, as I bring on my first guest to tell their story of what prompted their journey of inner healing and path to authenticity. Dr. Kelly Abbott (psychologist and dear friend from middle school), shares openly about his decision to leave the Mormon church, navigating a subsequent divorce, and how those decisions sparked a journey of self-discovery, allowing things in his life to fall away, and how he decided intentionally what things he wanted to rebuild with. Kelly and I share stories of: the moments we realized we couldn't live an unsustainable life anymore how physical symptoms were the first indicator that something needed to change how difficult it is to leave behind something that has shaped your identity the exploration of alternative healing modalities such as the use of psychedelics how clearing away the clutter from our lives created the space to intentionally decide how we wanted to live moving forward I have found these are a common steps in learning how to live your life more authentically and I hope you enjoy this conversation. If you would like help in navigating this process and support in creating a more intentional and authentic life, visit my website and fill out a consultation request. I would love to help you! https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In the past two weeks I've received another very loud recurring message around the word “Lucky.” It started with a first date with a man who showed up wearing a hat that said “I’m So Lucky.” Followed by a conversation on our 3rd date where we realized we both had dogs named Lucky at one point in time. Later that week on my morning walk, I found a four leaf clover. I had never seen one of those in my life before and honestly didn’t know they were real. Over the weekend I worked a shift at my side job at a place I’d never been before, and a picture of a clover was on their sign. Then the following day while on my morning walk, I found a five leaf clover! I seriously did not know those existed. A few blocks later found a lucky penny lying on the ground. When I picked it up, I noticed the year was 2022 which immediately made me think of the angel number 222. It was a reminder for me about what Luck actually is. Luck is really just being clear about who you are, what you want, how intentionally you ask for those things (aka manifesting), how present you are in any given moment, and how that contributes to your ability to see the opportunities as they arise and then take action on them. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode I talk about the power of making choices. Many of us often we find ourselves in difficult situations and get so focused on the pain and the shame and the disappointment and the limitations that we put on ourselves that we don’t always realize we don’t have to be there. That the prison we create for ourselves is only in our lack of awareness in the fact that we can leave whenever we want. We can get up and remove ourselves from those circumstances. Anytime we want we can change our thoughts, our physical situation, our mindsets. The second we realize that we are not bound by any of those things, we are free. One of the greatest gifts we have as humans on this planet of free will, is that we ALWAYS have a choice. I think that is something so many of us forget. That we always have a choice. Even when we feel trapped. Even when we feel like we are a victim of our circumstances. Even when we can’t control the outcome. We always have choices available to us. And in those situations I think we often get hung up on the choices that aren’t ours to make. We can’t choose what someone else does. We can’t choose how someone else reacts. We can’t choose what someone else thinks or believes. But we do have autonomy over ourselves. We can choose a different action. We can choose a different circumstance. We can choose a different thought. We can choose to see things from a different angle. We can choose to stay or go. We can choose to put ourselves first. We can choose to shift our values. We can choose to say no to things that don’t feel good to us and that don’t serve us. And we can choose those things regardless of what someone else does or what they think or how they may respond to the choice we make. The key is allowing ourselves to step back enough and look at our situation from a wider angle. To gain awareness of what is actually happening around us and how we are choosing to participate in it. Looking radically at our own thoughts, beliefs, choices, behaviors, and making changes accordingly rather than looking outside of ourselves at other people and their thoughts, beliefs, choices, and behaviors wishing they would choose differently. That is not within our control. But what we do is. What choices can you make to start living your life more intentionally? https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

This weekend, a rare 2nd a full moon in Capricorn is approaching us on Sunday, July 21st. Full moons are all about illumination, awareness, seeing things you may have hidden from yourself, being unable to look away from the truth, and releasing things that no longer serve you. For me, full moons have often shined the light on the awareness that certain relationships in my life need to be released which is what happened for me last month. But sometimes rather than a relationship, experience, or situation needing to be released, it is the awareness that a mindset, pattern, or habit no longer serves us and it is time to let it go. In this upcoming full moon, what is it you need to release from you life so you can be your most authentic self? https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, I talk about a mental block I recently discovered around the fear of being seen and how I worked past it. Trigger Warning: childhood sexual abuse. Experiences in my childhood created the faulty mindset that staying small, quiet, agreeable, and invisible are what kept me safe. I realized this did not serve me well as an adult and identified some new tools to address this protector part so I could finally release it. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

We are all powerful manifestors! For the past handful of years I have been practicing manifesting with the moon cycles. During a new moon I set the intention for all of the wonderful things I want to bring into my life, and when the full moon rolls back around in that astrological sign 6 months later I typically start to see those things begin to show up if they haven't already. In this episode, I share my ritual for manifesting as well as why I think it works. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

The end of a friendship this week reminded me of how that connection acted as a catalyst for deep healing the 1st time we decided to end our dating relationship and opened up old wounds that needed to be addressed. The initial rejection and abandonment opened a rawness, allowing deep buried pain and fears to emerge that had been stuffed away in Pandora's box. And down I went into this rabbit hole asking all of the what-if questions that unrooted my deepest fear. The fear that I was unlovable. Cracking open my heart allowed the pain to emerge, the fears to be released, and my heart to heal. As excruciating as that process was, my only regret was that I didn't do it sooner. Because the pain of the release was much less than the weight of the pain I had been consistently carrying over the course of 2 years. Maybe longer. The weight on our hearts is a lot when we continue to carry things like sadness, grief, fear and shame. It’s heavy and burdensome because those things were never meant to be taken with us. If you are still holding onto those things because you think you have to, it is OK to set them down. They aren’t yours anymore. Release the shame, it was never yours to carry. Release the fear. You don’t have to be afraid. Release yourself from the prison you created because you believe punishing yourself is what you deserve. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

I was raised that hard work was a virtue and the only way to have success in life. This idea was absolutely ingrained into my identity. I completely bought into the concept that hard work was the only way I was going to be successful. And the harder I worked, the more successful I would become. I was taught to do the hard things first. Work hard, then play. Eat your vegetables first. Don’t let anyone ever out hustle you. I was certainly no stranger to hard work. But one day I reached a moment where I stood up and said, “Fuck that shit! I don’t wanna work hard!” And the second those words flew out of my mouth, this voice in my head said, “You lazy bitch.” And this overwhelming feeling of disgust washed over me. Did I just say that? I spent the next several months realizing I had 2 conflicting ideas trying to live peacefully in my head and becoming aware that they could not coexist in the same space. Something had to go. What I wanted was a peaceful life. An inspired life. A life where I get to use all of my gifts to help others. A life of joy. A life of freedom. And I also realized in this process that this concept of hard work didn't just affect my approach to work and my career but also to my relationships. I didn’t realize how much this mindset had carried over from my childhood into the pattern of codependent relationships. I grew up thinking I had to earn praise and affection. I had to provide value in the form of doing for others, taking care of them, being agreeable, and sacrificing my needs in order to receive love. I had to work hard for it. I didn’t realize until just recently, how much this pattern and thought process throughout my life, in relationships, really distorted the way I looked at receiving abundance in all areas of my life. That my 10 year old mind perceived that information in childhood and applied it to every area of my life through adulthood in ways that did not serve me well. I realize now how I misunderstood those lessons and have decided it is time for me to lay down those beliefs. At least the parts that continue to harm me or distort the way I look at the world, my relationships, and myself. What habits, patterns or mindsets have you been questioning? What patterns, beliefs or mindsets from childhood could use the insight of your adult self? What new awareness have you been gifted? What are you ready to let go of because it no longer serves who you are becoming? https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

The Universe speaks to me constantly in different ways when I have slowed down enough to be present and pay attention to the signs. Most recently the message sent my way was around the phrase "Lean In." Taking action to pursue options in my life despite the risk. And following that guidance is continuing to bring me the things I have asked for, including lessons on boundaries, discernment, and trusting my intuition. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, I dive into my journey of self love. Doing the work to create shifts in our mindsets is a start. If you want to receive the things you desire in life (love, healthy relationships, abundance, etc.), you have to love yourself enough to believe you are worthy of those things. But to truly make the transformation towards self love in your life, you must also intentionally choose the actions and behaviors that align with the things you say and believe you value and desire. Action is where the magic happens. Actively choosing emotionally available partners. Setting boundaries that honor your wants and needs. Showing up with honesty and integrity in your relationships, especially the one with yourself. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo

In this episode, I share an overview of who I am, the story of how I got to where I am today on my journey of healing and self discovery, and what I hope to offer with this podcast. My goal with this podcast is to not only be light for others in their darkness, but also to share the things that I’ve learned along the way during all of my moments of darkness. Some of these things include: How to listen to your body and my intuition. How to set boundaries with others. How to put your needs first, which was probably the hardest lesson I’ve ever had to do in this process. How to be authentic regardless of what others think of you or even what you think. How to develop your own spirituality because I really, truly believe  it’s a huge part of being human on this planet. Understanding that we are all connected, that there is a reason that we’re here, and I personally believe that reason is to learn and grow and heal and love and figure out how to be the truest version of ourselves as possible. How to love other people with compassion and understanding, even if they aren't who we think they should be. How to be honest with yourself. How the things that trigger us in other people are mirrors to the work that we need to do on ourselves. How to figure out and understand your purpose in this lifetime. What was your soul placed here to do? How to understand astrology and use those energies to work for you. How tarot can help enhance your intuition. And how to do the work to heal. https://www.alissanoelle.com/ https://www.instagram.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo/ https://www.facebook.com/heal.that.shit.xoxo