I’ll Explain All This Later Podcast

This ain’t a feel good episode… this is a REAL one.Big Smash and Uncle Dolemite sit down and break life all the way down from childhood lessons you didn’t even realize you were learning… to teenage decisions that felt right at the time… to grown man accountability that you can’t run from.No filters. No fake wisdom.Just real talk about:The lessons that cost youThe patterns you had to faceThe truths most people avoidAnd what it really takes to grow into the man you’re supposed to beThey challenge each other, call out bad habits, and speak on the difference between surviving life… and actually learning from it.

Before social media told people what to wear… Chicago already knew how to step.This bonus episode takes you back to the late 90s and early 2000s—when being fly wasn’t about designer labels, it was about being clean, intentional, and confident. From crispy white tees and flawless Air Force 1s to Jordans that meant something and Pelle Pelle jackets that made statements, this is a deep dive into the culture that made Chicago one of the flyest cities in fashion.This ain’t just about clothes it’s about identity, pride, and presence.Because back then… you didn’t dress to be seen.You dressed to be respected.

Everybody got an opinion… especially when they only saw a piece of the picture.In this episode, Big Smash break down what happens when confidence turns into control, and how some people mistake their way for the way. Just because something doesn’t look like how you’d do it doesn’t make it wrong — it just means you don’t understand it yet.This isn’t a rebuttal… it’s a recalibration.We’re talking perspective, premature opinions, and why moving different will always get misread by people who only respect familiarity. Not everything needs to be loud to be intentional, and not everybody speaking on you has seen enough to define you.Sometimes people ain’t wrong… they just early.

In this episode, Big Smash breaks down the reality behind success using the message of The Pursuit of Happiness and why the journey to winning is never as pretty as it looks.We dive into what it really means to stay locked in when life isn’t going your way. From struggling in silence, to carrying responsibility under pressure, to maximizing every opportunity when it finally shows up this episode is about endurance.

In this episode, Big Smash takes it back to the foundation — family.Using the message behind Soul Food, we break down what really holds a family together when life gets real. Because it’s easy to say “family over everything” when everything is good… but what happens when tension, pride, money, and miscommunication start pulling people apart?

What happens when two individuals are forced to become a unit?In this episode of I’ll Explain All This Later, Big Smash breaks down the powerful theme of “Ride or Die” versus real loyalty, using the cultural backdrop of survival, pressure, and partnership Queen And SlimToo many people say they want a partner for life—but when pressure shows up, so does their true character.

In this powerful transition into Season 4, Episode 9, Big Smash tackles the heavy lifting of evolution in “The Past is The Past.” Taking a page out of the classic Poetic Justice, we’re looking at what happens when the “Old Record” of your life meets the new path you’re trying to pave.We’ve all got a history—a “Rearview Mirror” filled with mistakes, past exes, and a body count that the “Street Committee” loves to judge. But if you’re constantly driving while looking backward, you’re going to wreck the legacy you’re building in the windshield.

In this heavy-hitting episode of S4E8, Big Smash takes us to the gritty streets of Harlem by way of the cinematic classic Paid in Full to break down a poison that is killing more legacies than the game itself: Envy.We’re stripping away the designer labels and the "boss" talk to look at the Rico Syndrome—that moment a brother decides to trade a lifetime of loyalty for a season of stunting. When you start "fronting" to impress a female who is only there for the mirage, you aren't just lying to her; you’re backdooring the very people who built the foundation you’re standing on.

We are peeling back the layers of a specific type of deception: Emotional Fraud. This isn't just about having a "side thing"; it’s about the deliberate act of faking a soul-level connection because you know that honesty would cost you the physical access you’re chasing.In this episode, Big Smash takes an unfiltered look at the high cost of playing with people's hearts. Using the 1996 classic A Thin Line Between Love and Hate, we break down the specific stress that comes when you sell a dream to a stranger while you have a reality of never committing.

Using the strategic backdrop of the film The Great Debaters, Big Smash dives into the “Quiet War” of Black excellence and the discipline of silence. As a father of eight building a legacy in this world he addresses the current political climate and ICE raids through the lens of selective solidarity—explaining why his energy is focused on the home front and the people who have historically stood in the gap for the culture. This episode is a reality check on guarding your pride, representing your heritage, and knowing when a quiet fight is the most lethal move you can make

Too many people are running "drills" and "tests" on partners who are already showing up correctly. This episode is a reality check: Are you following "single-player" rules while you have a blessing sitting right in front of you?BIG SMASH IS HERE TO BRING THE VERDICT OF THE MOVIE TWO CAN PLAY THAT GAME Stop testing what has already been proven. If you keep treating a consistent, hardworking partner like a placeholder, don’t be surprised when they eventually find a new home. You can’t win the game if you’re too busy sabotaging the prize.

While we all know how to survive a blizzard, most of us have no idea how to accept an ending . We call it “chemistry” when it’s actually just “chaos,” and what we call “boring” could actually just be “peace.”In this episode, We’re diving into the "Safe Cage"—that place where we stay in a toxic mess just because the drama feels like home. Using the lens of the classic Diary of a Mad Black Woman, we break down why we sprint toward familiar chaos and flinch at intentional peace.The truth is: you aren't "bored" with the good guy; you’re just finally safe. And for a lot of us, safety feels like an ambush. It’s time to stop waiting for the "other shoe to drop" and start realizing you deserve to walk on solid ground.

This weeks inspiration is the 2020 movie the photograph.In 2026, we are obsessed with the "Perfect Picture." We’ve mastered the art of the filter, the angle, and the "Black Excellence" resume, but we’ve lost the art of being seen. Mae and Michael are the ultimate "on paper" couple—successful, beautiful, and driven—but they are both haunted by a legacy of silence they didn't create but are currently repeating.In this episode, Big Smash breaks down why vulnerability is the ultimate flex and why your "Success Mask" might be the very thing keeping you lonely.

We all know the "Bro Code"—that unwritten rule that says we take our secrets to the grave. But what happens when that code becomes a cage? Harper Stewart walked into a wedding weekend with a book full of secrets (The Vault), proving that sometimes the people closest to us are the ones most afraid to tell us the truth.In this episode, Big Smash breaks down why we choose "loyalty" over "growth" and how the silence of your friends might be the very thing holding you back from being a better man.

Season 4 is here. We’re kicking things off with a classic movie backdrop: Love & Basketball. But we aren’t just swooning over the "Double or Nothing" scene—we’re checking the scoreboard.In this episode, Big Smash breaks down the lopsided politics of sacrifice in Black love. Why is one person always expected to play defense while the other takes all the shots? We’re diving into the "MVP Complex," the "Support System" trap, and why Black women are often told to bench their dreams just to keep the relationship in the game.

THE SEASON FINALE ......You're grinding. You're losing sleep. You're pushing past the pain. But when the exhaustion hits, who's the "why" that makes you keep going?This week, Big Smash is getting real about the engine behind the hustle: The Fuel. Is it the legacy for your kids? The security for your partner? Or is it proving to the younger you that you finally made it?We're discussing the high-stakes pressure to not make mistakes that could cost you everything, and why understanding your core motivation is the ultimate guardrail against self-sabotage. Find out what you're truly working for, and lock in that fire forever. We'll explain all this later.

Big Smash is breaking down the ultimate relationship threat: the "friend" who's secretly plotting to steal your partner.Smash drops a confession, sharing his own history as a calculated "friend with an ulterior motive," detailing the tactics that sometimes paid off and often failed spectacularly.Learn to spot the red flags and figure out if that friendship is genuine or a long game in disguise. If you realize it's a plot, Smash explains the tough, old-school conversation you need to have to protect your relationship and your peace. Stop guessing and start knowing.

This week, Big Smash breaks down the final stage of "Hiring for Love": accepting the offer of a committed, monogamous relationship. We're talking about the truth that often gets missed: you matter too.We dive into what that monogamy contract should include, focusing on the benefits package of peace, security, and mutual respect. Learn how to negotiate your worth without sounding selfish, why accepting the job means dropping the 'back-up plan,' and how to make sure you and your partner are both actively working together to build an empire, not just keeping a business afloat. Don't sign until your terms are met. We'll explain all this later.

Big Smash dives deep into why we sometimes choose to love someone through their flaws, even when we know they're not good for us. He explains how this toxic pattern can destroy your peace, sanity, and fundamental understanding of what love really is. It’s a powerful conversation about the dire consequences of staying with someone you know, deep down, isn't meant for you.Join us as we talk about the difference between loving a person and being intoxicated by the idea of them. It's a wake-up call for anyone who's ever sacrificed their well-being for a destructive relationship.Don't forget to rate, review, and subscribe!

You've got the resume and you've got the application, but now it's time for the real test: the interview. This week, Big Smash,Raw and Petty Ty is breaking down the first dates and the real-life conversations where everything's on the line. We're talking about how to show up prepared, what questions to ask to spot a fake, and how to know if the person you're talking to is actually qualified for the love you're looking for.

You've got the resume for the job—you're smart, you're funny, you got your life together. But what about the application? This week, Big Smash is putting dating on the clock. We're talking about the real-life vibe check you're giving out and the one you're trying to fill out. From the way you walk in a room to the way you talk to people, we're breaking down how to make sure the application you're giving out actually matches the one you want to fill.

In this episode, Big Smash gets to the heart of what true intimacy is all about. He's talking about how physical intimacy is only as good as the knowing of the mind and soul of the person you're with. It's time to stop with the surface-level stuff. Big Smash breaks down how to open up intimacy by opening up your mind. He’ll explain how asking the right questions and being more in tune with each other—both in and out of the bedroom—is the key to a deeper connection. You don't want to miss this one.Lets get it

After a week away, Big Smash is back to tackle the modern dating world head-on. In this episode, we're talking about the "dating resume." We'll break down how to confidently put yourself out there by highlighting your strengths, owning your value, and making a compelling case for why you are a great catch. Stop waiting to be picked and learn how to present your best self as the most qualified candidate in the dating pool.FOLLOW US IG @smash_explains_it_allwww.youtube.com/@Illexplainallthislater

Welcome to I’ll Explain All of This Later—but today, I’m sliding in as your guest host. Smash decided he was gonna call out of work, so I’m crashing the pod. Big thanks to Smash for letting me take over his mic (big pause).I’m Styles—yeah, that’s S-T-Y-L-E-S—from The Brunch Hour Podcast, Hustle & Heal Podcast, and Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report. And today’s topic? Dating in 2025—where AI and relationships-collide, and technology has officially become the messy friend at the table who refuses to mind their business.We’re breaking down how AI is transforming modern love:• The AI snitch that catches cheaters through texts and screenshots• The algorithm detective piecing together shared locations and receipts• The chaos agent creating deepfakes and fueling TikTok drama• And the unexpected perks—AI tools that actually help couples with calendars, reminders, and even date-night ideasBottom line? Technology isn’t the problem—weak relationships are. If your loyalty’s solid, you don’t need a VPN.📚 Grab your copy of Brunch Behavior: The Summer Pack here: [Amazon Link]🎙️ Appreciate you again, Smash, for letting me crash I’ll Explain All of This Later (yes, still a pause).🔗 Stay connected with me:• @siphappens.series• @the.brunch.hour.pod• @hustlenheal Brunch Behavior: THE SUMMER PACK. https://a.co/d/9miZVpR

This week on “I’ll Explain All This Later,” join Big Smash and Uncle Dolemite as they deep dive into the art of the lie.the duo gets personal, sharing stories of times they—or people they know—have bent the truth to fit in, get ahead, or simply to avoid an uncomfortable conversation. Is it possible to navigate the modern world without some level of performance, or is everyone just playing a role? Get ready for a candid conversation that will make you question the stories you tell yourself and others. @toomuchgamepodcast

Big Smash goes solo to explore this incredible feeling further. He explains why this deep, mutual devotion is a healthy, empowering form of love that fosters true connection and should never lead to complacency.Part 2 tap in

We back come join us on this two part episode this is Part 1: Big Smash and Rose dive into the powerful feeling of loving someone so much, and being loved so well in return, that you’re inspired to give your absolute all – mentally, financially, physically, and emotionally. They discuss why this profound reciprocal care makes going “all out” feel completely worth it.

This week on "I'll Explain All This Later," Big Smash dives into a topic we've all likely encountered: unsolicited advice. In "Thanks, But I Didn't Ask You," he explores those well-intentioned moments when someone offers guidance you didn't seek, and how, despite good intentions, it can sometimes backfire. This is especially true in the podcasting world, where everyone's a "guru" or a "know-it-all," often preaching what they don't practice. Big Smash shares personal anecdotes and discusses why, even when coming from a place of care, unsolicited advice isn't always received with open arms. Tune in as we unpack the delicate art of giving and receiving advice, and when it's best to simply hold your tongue... we'll explain it all later!

The group chat goes silent. Two of your mains are beefing, and suddenly, you’re Switzerland—but everyone’s demanding you declare war.In "Unpicking of Sides," we tackle the impossible: what do you do when your crew collapses and you're caught in the crossfire? Hosts Big Smash and the returning Rose Gold dive into the messy reality of fractured friendships and the intense pressure to choose loyalty.Smash gets transparent, sharing raw stories about times he was forced into the middle and the fallout that followed. Rose delivers the playbook on setting boundaries, avoiding the gossip trap, and refusing to become collateral damage in someone else's fight.Featuring special guest narration from DC of the "What the Shit Podcast," this episode is the real talk on how to maintain your integrity—and your friendships—when everyone else is drawing battle lines. Learn how to be the bridge, not the barrier.

Welcome back for the highly anticipated second half of Season 3! In "Unplugging the Grid," Episode 10, Big Smash kicks things off with a powerful message about disconnecting to truly connect. This episode sees Smash openly reflecting on the role his phone and social media played in the most challenging moments of his past. He recounts the critical missteps that strained his relationships with partners, friends, and even within the podcasting community. Discover how confronting these digital demons ultimately forged a stronger, more resilient Big Smash, ready to inspire listeners to step away from the screen and into a more present life.

Midseason finale is here Big Smash and Ms. MJ, as they get real about that pivotal moment: when do you really know you're ready to make it official with someone?In this episode, Big Smash and little big sis MJ dive deep into their own experiences, sharing the personal journeys that led them to say "us" with different partners throughout their lives. They'll unpack those undeniable feelings, the subtle shifts, and the not-so-subtle signs that screamed, "This is it!"Ever wondered what happens when you put those vulnerable feelings out there? Big Smash and Mj lay it all on the table, recounting both the heartwarming successes and the lessons learned from those leaps of faith. What did they do when their feelings were reciprocated? What about when things didn't go as planned?More importantly, they'll share actionable insights on what to do after you make it official to nurture and sustain that precious bond. Tune in for a candid, relatable, and insightful conversation about navigating the exciting and sometimes nerve-wracking journey of taking your relationship to the next level.Guest narrator:Ringold

Big Smash is back in the booth — and this time, he’s not just telling a story, he’s owning one. On this episode of I’ll Explain All This Later, Smash peels back the layers and walks us through some of the realest relationship lessons he had to learn the hard way. The missteps, the missed signs, the times he lost himself trying to hold somebody else down — it’s all on the table.Special guest narrator? None other than ya boy Styles — the voice behind The Brunch Hour Podcast and the soon-to-blow Hustle and Heal movement with Blsd Jess — riding shotgun to help break it all down with that signature storytelling flavor.This ain’t about pointing fingers or crying over spilled Hennessy. Nah, this episode’s about recognizing how easy it is to lose your own voice in a relationship — how you start walking, talking, and even thinking like the person you’re with, sometimes without even realizing it. Smash keeps it a buck about what he learned from it all — the good, the ugly, and the necessary.Styles brings the narration heat, helping us sit with those uncomfortable truths and reminding us that growth ain’t always pretty, but it’s mandatory.So pull up, tune in, and catch these jewels — whether you’re guilty, growing, or somewhere in between.Stay connected with Styles:• The Brunch Hour Podcast — brunch, real talk, and grown-up conversations every week.• Hustle and Heal Podcast with @blsdjess — where hustling meets healing, launching soon.Follow and vibe with us:@stylesc_bk @thebrunchhourpodcast @hustlenhealpod @blsdjess

Ever been there? When it feels like everything is going sideways, and you look over at your partner and wonder, "Is this love still there?" Navigating relationships in a world that often throws extra hurdles our way, I'm unpacking this very question. Can we truly love through job loss, health scares, family struggles, and everything in between? Join me as we explore the real, raw conversations about whether love can not only survive but thrive, even when things "ain't always up."Narration by: @Cherry2sense

Yo, what up,I’ll explain all this later universe Big Smash back in the booth, and this week we're getting REAL. For too long, I was pointing fingers, making excuses, and straight-up dodging responsibility in my relationships. My past? Let's just say it's got some wreckage, and a big chunk of that was my own damn fault.This episode is a deep dive into my accountability journey. I'm not holding back as I unpack the hard lessons learned, especially the brutal honesty that came with my failed marriage. It was a wake-up call, a gut punch that forced me to look in the mirror and admit: sometimes,I Big Smash was the problem.

Yo, what up, what up, fam! Get ready 'cause the vibes are about to be extra lit! Your boys Big Smash and RawSAS from the legendary Smash N Raw podcast are back in the building, for a boundary-breaking episode you DO NOT want to miss!That's right, we've got the raw and uncut perspectives you love colliding with the enlightened (and slightly idiotic) insights you didn't know you needed. This week, we're tackling the essential, yet often messy, topic of boundaries in relationships.From the jump, we're diving into what healthy boundaries look like, why they're crucial for keeping your relationship sane (and sexy!), and the hilarious ways things can go wrong when those lines get blurred. 

This week we're tackling a topic that hits close to home: pride. In relationships, that stubborn ego can be a silent killer, building walls we don't even realize are there. We know, especially in our community, the pressure to be strong, to always be right. But sometimes, that pride is the very thing preventing us from experiencing the deep, fulfilling partnerships we crave.We're diving deep into the ways pride manifests in our relationships – the defensiveness, the unwillingness to apologize, the constant need to be "right." We'll explore how these behaviors create unnecessary tension, block genuine connection, and ultimately, erode the foundation of trust and intimacy.Coach G brings the psychological insight, breaking down the root causes of our pride, while Big Smash delivers that raw, unfiltered perspective, sharing personal experiences and hard-earned wisdom. Tune inFollow coach G https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/let-me-fix-my-crown-the-podcast/id1522711695

We've all been there: relationships that crash and burn. But what happens when the dust settles, and it's time to face your part in the wreckage? Big Smash and Ms. Bree are diving deep into the tough topic of accountability. They're sharing personal stories of not owning up to their mistakes in past relationships, the messy conversations that followed, and the aftermath. Is it ever too late to say ""I messed up,"" or can true accountability pave the way for healing—or at least closure?Have you ever apologized for your part in a failed relationship after time has passed? Join the conversation!

In this episode, Big Smash drops truth bombs about the importance of self-love and self-care within the context of relationships. We dive deep into the concept of "You First, Always," exploring how prioritizing your own well-being isn't selfish, but rather essential for building strong and sustainable connections.Big Smash challenges the traditional notions of "putting your partner first" and argues that true intimacy thrives when both individuals are fulfilled and thriving independently.

Season 3 of "I'll Explain All This Later" is HERE, and we're kicking things off with a deep dive into the often-misunderstood world of intimacy. Join your host, Big Smash, as he gets vulnerable, sharing his personal journey of understanding and evolving in his relationships. He'll candidly discuss past shortcomings, the crucial lessons learned, and how his perspective on intimacy has dramatically shifted over time.This isn't just a confessional; it's a toolbox for building stronger connections. Big Smash will be sharing practical "Intimacy Hacks" – actionable tips and exercises you can implement with your partner to foster deeper emotional and physical closeness. Whether you're feeling disconnected or simply want to enhance your existing bond, this episode offers valuable insights and tangible strategies.

Big Smash is BACK,and this week we're getting down to the nitty-gritty of LOVE! Forget the fairy tales, we're talking REAL relationships, the kind that build empires of happiness, brick by brick. This ain't about "me" and "my" – it's about the explosive power of WE!Forget individual strength, we're diving deep into the force that moves mountains, the bond that weathers any storm: moving as ONE, standing strong TOGETHER! This is the season finale so we going out with a bang tap in and see y'all March 3rd for season 3

Feeling lost after a breakup or divorce? You're not alone. This week on Ill Explain All This Later Podcast, host Big Smash dives into the often daunting world of post-heartbreak dating. We'll explore the emotional rollercoaster of healing, rebuilding confidence, and taking the first steps back into the dating scene. Whether you're ready to mingle or just dipping your toes in the water, this episode offers practical tips, relatable stories, and a dose of inspiration to help you navigate this new chapter with strength and optimism.

In this episode,Go with the legendary Big Smash to delve into the profound topic of grief. We'll explore the multifaceted nature of grief, from the immediate shock and pain to the long-term emotional and psychological impacts. Big Smash,shares his own personal experiences with loss and offers invaluable insights on coping mechanisms, finding meaning in the face of sorrow, and ultimately, finding a path towards healing and hope.

In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of love and acceptance in a relationship where one partner's career choice challenges societal norms. We'll explore the challenges faced by individuals navigating relationships with partners who work in unconventional fields, such as sex work.We'll discuss the importance of unconditional love, open communication, and self-reflection in overcoming societal stigma, addressing personal insecurities, and building a strong and supportive partnership.

In this episode, Big Smash dives deep into the art of navigating heated arguments with your partner. We all know the feeling – tempers flare, words are said, and suddenly the air is thick with tension. But what if there's a way to cool things down and find a path back to understanding?Big Smash shares his unique insights on how to:Recognize the signs of an escalating argument: Spot the warning signs before things get truly out of hand.Implement "cool-down" strategies: Learn effective techniques to de-escalate the situation and regain composure.Communicate with respect, even in anger: Discover how to express your feelings honestly without resorting to blame or hurtful words. Learning when to walk away to bring back the topic laterPrioritize your relationship: Understand the importance of choosing connection and understanding over winning an argument.

In this episode, we dive deep into the 90-day dating rule – a popular framework for navigating the early stages of a new relationship. We'll explore:What exactly is the 90-day rule? We break down the core principles and how it encourages intentional dating.The pros and cons: We weigh the benefits of establishing clear boundaries and fostering mindful connection against potential drawbacks and inflexibility.Making it work for you: We offer practical tips on how to adapt the 90-day rule to your unique dating style and relationship goals.

In this episode, Big Smash and Sosa from the Minnesota Cold Talk Podcast dive deep into the complexities of modern relationships, exploring how the pervasive influence of social media shapes our interactions and expectations.They discuss:The impact of social media on intimacy: How curated online personas and constant comparisons can erode genuine connection and authenticity.Navigating the pressures of social media: Dealing with the expectations and anxieties that arise from the constant stream of "perfect" relationships online.Reclaiming tenderness in a hyper-connected world: Finding ways to nurture genuine affection and intimacy despite the distractions and noise of social media.Later in the episode, they're joined by special guest Kei Kei to offer valuable insights and perspectives on these important topics.Listen now to learn how to cultivate meaningful connections and build lasting relationships in the age of social media.follow us @smash_explains_it_allsubscribe to us on youtube https://www.youtube.com/@Illexplainallthislater and check us out linktr.ee/illexplainallthislater

Inspired by the resilience of Travis Hunter, this episode explores the importance of unwavering support and tenderness in a relationship, even in the face of public scrutiny and adversity. We'll discuss how to navigate external pressures, prioritize your values, and cultivate a love that transcends societal expectations.

Big Smash dives headfirst into the thrilling yet treacherous world of dating. We kick things off with the foundational phase: "Getting to Know You. "The Art of Conversation: From icebreakers that spark genuine connection to navigating awkward silences, we explore the nuances of meaningful conversation. Unveiling the Layers: How to delve deeper beyond surface-level chit-chat to uncover shared interests, values, and life goals. The First Few Dates: Exploring the best date ideas for this phase, from casual coffee dates to adventurous outings, and how to read the signals. The Importance of Boundaries: Setting healthy expectations and communicating your needs early on .Red Flags to Watch Out For: Identifying potential dealbreakers and knowing when to gracefully bow out.

Join Big Smash and Shannon C on this episode of “I’ll Explain All This Later” as they dive headfirst into the messy world of relationship stereotypes. From the “gold digger to the “nice guys finish last ” we’re tackling the age-old tropes that often dictate our expectations and behaviors in love.

Join Big Smash AKA OG Smash and King Jerm @poddinsavedourmarriage as they delve deep into the intricate tapestry of human connection. In this episode, they explore the profound impact of relationships, friendships, and upbringing on shaping our identities. From positive influences that inspire and uplift to negative ones that leave lasting scars,and how to use influences to create bonds and also how to let go of em go catch up on this season like right now BECAUSE THE SECOND HALF IS FIRE