In Zs Opinion …

Just because summer is ending doesn’t mean the funs ending. Remember that when one season ends a new one begins. You can still have fun, you can still accomplish goals. Extend summer into your lifestyle so that you always are having something to look forward to!

We all want to be happy right? Well it’s a lifelong pursuit, and there are steps. As we work toward happiness remember that is first had to come from within in order to transcend! And happy times may not be present all the time but they come around often.

More than ever Black People need to love on each other. Sonya Massey, Kamala Harris; Black women need love. May we all love on each other. May we show up to the polls! Lets just love on us and show how love traverses! The black experience is love!

People often misinterpret us. Maybe it’s because we misinterpret ourselves. Showing up transparent and vulnerable is easier said than done but it’s necessary. Growing requires honesty in who you’ve been so it can help with who you’re trying to be!

Sometimes an apology fixes everything, and maybe it fixes nothing. But still it’s necessary. So many times apologies are skipped over because of pride, but what if they weren’t? Healing is on the other side of receiving that apology. Growth is on the other side of giving that apology.

The age old saying… Parents just don’t understand. Or do they? Is it us the children that really don’t understand? As we grow up we start to learn our parents outside of being just OUR parents. Does that mean we’re raising them or does it just mean we’re learning who they are and teaching them who we are?

In connection to “I don’t need therapy…OKAY!” and Men’s Mental Health month we’re talking about the unspeakable…. CRYING! As people we have forgotten that crying is okay. It’s actually necessary. And we need to start creating space for ourselves individually and collectively to cry more. Release the trauma, and face the drama. Just cry a little, you’ll feel better!

Black people this is for you! Know that nobody is like us and we deserve to rest in knowing that! But also remember as we transition through life most people are not like us and we learn to either deal or not deal. They may not be like us but we able to still build and better for and because of each other!

Closing out the season, and reflecting on the real opinions behind “In Zs opinion”

A year of change, of lessons, wins, and losses… IM STEEL HERE!

Mastering delusion is an art to many of the human race have mastered. It’s your turn. Stop being so tuned in to everything and everybody and tune tf out. You’ll save yourself in the end.

If you know you know. It’s the dawn of a NEW DAY!

A toast to NEW BEGINNINGS! But even with new starts we still can mourn, or feel for what we are leaving behind. New starts, New Beginnings are good but so is what we knew before. Toast to it all!

As people we often give too many F***s about things that just are not ours to give to. Time to stop that. Put all that your giving to those others people stuff and start giving attention to your stuff. Those that understand will understand. And those that don’t it’s time to make them adjust to you or out of you!

April has always been known to be the month that drenches the soil so that new life may bud from the grounds. In your end to April and start to May I hope you praise your showers just as much as your upcoming flowers. Whether good, bad, or indifferent without the showers the real flowers cant grow. May your new flowers be a testament of all you endured through your showers.

Navigating relationships aint easy. Especially as we grow into ourselves. As you navigate these relationships remember not to do more damage by overwatering. Yes relationships Need to be watered just like plants. But don't overwater and not have much to show for it.

And on the third day..... THE THIRD DAY! Jesus rose again! And so will you. We go through our own deaths throughout life and though sometimes we dont know the how, or when we ourselves rise again. Remember that just like Jesus, or a phoenix you have the opportunity to rise again after any and all things.

Sometimes its easier to give advice than to do what we are telling others. Sometimes its easier to say our goals than actually be able to make them. SOmetimes thing are just EASIER to say than to actually DO!

Sometimes we feel like were barely making it, and sometimes that's exactly what it is JUST making it. We all deserve that time and space of making it and giving the best that we have to give which Is not always much. Just know you will make it. What's for you is for you. And only a little productivity is still productivity

Time is relative, its a concept... BUT its still time. One of the biggest teachers we have in this life, one of our hardest lessons, and the Co-Author in each of our stories. Time will change you its the natural order, but you cant change time. So yield to it; be a student, and allow it to make you a teacher.

Welcome back for Season 2 of In Z's Opinion...! Season 1 we got our feet wet, Season 2 its time to dive right in. AND WE BACK!

To the first official Season of In Z's opinion. Thank you to the listeners. And thank you to myself for seeing it through. Its never goodbye, just see you later.... SEASON 2 BREWING!

BOUNDARIES!! One of the scariest words in the English language. But necessary for self growth and self preservation. Its important to establish boundaries early on so that you don't spend a life time feeling depleted by the relationships and things in your life. You deserve peace, and protection. Start with yourself. For those that care for you they will adjust accordingly. For those that have benefited from your lack of boundaries they can adjust out. Always remember to Protect Ya Neck!

A check in for everybody! You Okay? How's your mental? For those struggling with seasonal depression, the retrograde, adulting, all the above this is for you. Keep on pushing, keep fighting.  With so much going on its easy to get caught in pandemonium. Work to stay sane. Stay you. 

Wouldn't you rather have loyalty over love? I'm sure most have never thought about it or that what could come without the other; but they can. We all have gotten locked in with people to the point where something might not be good for you anymore but your loyalty has kept  you tethered. But sometimes you have to choose you. If the love is gone then the loyalty may really be what gets you killed dealing with the wrong person, place, or time. Discern when your loyalty needs to be returned to self. 

Friendships are relationships too. How we water our friendships is important. Without watering, repotting, and trimming, friendships and individuals will not grow. Just as you invest in your romantic partnerships you should do the same  in your friendships. Care for your people, and care for yourself. 

Being is hard. After that transitional moment or age it starts to settle in and shit gets real. And once it gets real it can get uncomfortable. Well its time to start learning to get comfortable with the uncomfortable and move with that peace of knowing. This life is a pendulum and as long as you know it can swing either way you're already ahead of the game. 

First comes love....Then comes Marriage....Then comes the baby in the baby carriage?!  Is that REALLY how it goes? On this episode Z jumps into the conversation of how marriage is seen as the more serious commitment than the baby carriage. Both of these are either equals or the baby carriage takes precedents. But FOR WHO? 

Some people just carry bad attitudes with them. It is not your responsibility to deal with it. We are all learning how to deal with ourselves. No one needs the added burden of a "Bad News Bear". If you are trying to preserve yourself and peace let them be. And if you are the "Bad News Bear" go get some help/healing baby. 

So many people seem to be offended by the fact that women are showing up louder, taking up more space, and caring less. How unfortunate. Women have been told for so long to be sweet and docile and for many of us that's never been our truth. We deserve to have egos, be respected, and be heard. And it should not be a problem Men and Women could peacefully coexist and maybe even get some things accomplished if we weren't always fighting about roles and whos who. We are US. Don't be threatened, take notes. 

As an advocate for therapy and an active participant this is for all of you who DONT need it. I just want to see us win forreal. Take care of yourselves, take care of your mentals. 

F.R.E.E. Fuck nigga free summer UP AHEAD! But if you are also wanting to be boo'ed up that is completely understood. We often convince ourselves that we cant have a great carefree summer and a person to share sweet moments with in the summer. This is the summer to have both sis. Don't let undeserving men disturb your summer. Only the best for you. And if the best isn't coming turn your summer carefree up 5 more notches. THIS SUMMER WE ARE OUTSIDE. Healing girl summer, and year has came and the lessons will stay forever now its time to enjoy all that work and live and love!

We are officially in the second half of the year. And IT IS THAT SEASON *city girls voice* where its time to turn the heat up. Whether its self care, business ventures, or whatever in between; in Zs opinion its time to get things in order for yourself fr. Let this be a time of reflection, introspection, and redirection and see where you are on December 31st, 2022. Lets get into this summer session!

"What is Love" the upbeat techno disco song by Haddaway was released almost 30 years ago, AND WE ARE STILL ASKING THE SAME QUESTION. WHAT IS LOVE? We often can say all the things we know love is not, but no concrete idea or direction as to explain what love is. As we explore and discuss here is just some food for thought on what love may be for you. And if none of these are it, then maybe we are headed into more direction and discussion of what love truly is and can be. Lets start the discourse now!

To all the boys who CLAIMED to love me. This is a open letter, discussion whatever whoever needs it to be. Feelings are hard, LOVE IS HARD. Sometimes the IDEA of love is way more prettier than the REALITY. It is time to do more introspective discussion with what is love? Have you experienced it and what does it look like past or present. Love is the Highest elevation of understanding. Seek to be elevated and Seek to elevate. Seek to understand. Seek to not claim love but show love. ITS ALL LOVE!

In 1988 Spike Lee released the movie "School Daze". Amongst many scenes in that movie there is one scene that will forever be a staple in cinema especially black cinema. The scene where Laurence Fishburne's character "Dap" runs through campus and yells "Wake Up". This scene plagues the minds of many because they wonder what  is he asking us to wake up to or for? Well the recent events of this week especially the incident at the Oscars has shown that even close to 40 years later; WE STILL ARE IN NEED OF WAKING UP.

We are constantly caught up in saving face for others. But why do others matter? Why do their opinions of us matter? And why are we so concerned with others when we really should be focused on self? Be who you are the rawest and truest version. Those that are not meant to know the transparent and vulnerable you will be adjusted accordingly. Do not water yourself down for other people, or to make them comfortable. Be real, Be AUTHENTIC, BE YOU!

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but.... WORDS DO HURT!" This is not for the We Go High people. So many times people connected to us say things that they know are hurtful or are trying to be hurtful and make it a joking manner. But when the energy they put out returns to them now its a problem. WELL In Z's Opinion THATS TOO DAMN BAD. People will only play with you as much as you allow them too. And my "play with me" days if they have not yet expired then the  expiration date is definitely coming. Being the bigger person is cute, but it rarely ever feels good. And if the same people are looking for you to be that bigger person go ahead and leave that behind now. Its time to step outside of killing them with kindness and give them some words of discouragement. You will  feel so much better after. SCOUTS HONOR!

People pleasing is SOOOO 2008! On the third episode of In Z's Opinion we are starting to talk about the real sh*t; and first up is PEOPLE PLEASING. As a people pleaser its very easy to have the narrative follow you around that you're always going to say yes; or bend to what others want. If yesterday was not the day, TODAY is definitely the day to STOP doing that. If you are always saying yes when inside you are really saying no, or you're unsure, you are doing yourself a disservice. STOP THAT. Choose you. For you. The real ones know you're heart and others well just let them be. BUT its your turn to please yourself, so start by stopping with trying to please everyone else.  

ITS THE 1ST OF THE MONTH! Its the first of the month, of the last month, of the first quarter. What are you going to do with it? In Zs Opinion its time to set the foundation for what you plan to accomplish this year. Start how you want to finish, its still first quarter so LETS GET IT! *This is a reupload without the music for Apple and Anchor Users*

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