It's a Tough Subject

  Links & Resources Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Camo Hat Club: https://halfasorrow.org/the-camo-hat-club-half-a-sorrow/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HASF2020 Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7wm28ymMqLo Mental Health Month hits close to home in this deeply personal episode of It's a Tough Subject. Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel pull back the curtain on burnout, anxiety, grief, entrepreneurship stress, sleep struggles, self-care, therapy, medication, and the emotional weight so many people quietly carry every day. Jessica opens up about starting her own business, the pressure of constantly "going," and making the decision to seek additional mental health support. Dennis shares reflections on suicide loss, survivor's guilt, healing, and the lifelong process of learning how to move forward while honoring the past. Together, they explore honest conversations around mental health awareness, emotional exhaustion, work-life balance, trauma recovery, suicide loss support, and why asking for help is never weakness. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, emotionally drained, stuck in your thoughts at 3:30 a.m., or unsure how to slow down and care for yourself, this episode is a reminder that you are not alone. In This Episode: Mental Health Month reflections Entrepreneurship and burnout Sleep deprivation and anxiety Starting medication for mental health Therapy, self-awareness, and healing Suicide loss and survivor grief Work-life balance struggles Why self-care matters Finding purpose after trauma Living in the present instead of the past

Links & Resources Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Camo Hat Club: https://halfasorrow.org/the-camo-hat-club-half-a-sorrow/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HASF2020 Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/K8ErFBwELUU In this powerful episode of It's a Tough Subject, Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel take on a critical and often misunderstood topic: Why suicide must be recognized as a public health issue. Jessica shares insights from her new role in public health leadership, challenging the outdated idea that mental health exists separately from public health. Together, she and Dennis explore how suicide impacts not just individuals, but families, schools, workplaces, and entire communities. From deeply personal stories of loss to eye-opening statistics, this conversation reveals the true ripple effect of suicide—and why awareness, advocacy, and honest dialogue are more important than ever. They also dive into: The connection between mental health, substance use, and broader public health challenges Why language matters and why we need to say the word "suicide" The importance of prevention, intervention, and postvention How individuals can use their voice to create change in their communities This episode is a call to action: to speak up, get involved, and help build a world where fewer people struggle in silence. Because behind every number… is a story that matters.

Episode Description Links & Resources Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Camo Hat Club: https://halfasorrow.org/the-camo-hat-club-half-a-sorrow/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HASF2020 In this special episode of It's a Tough Subject, Dennis Gillan flips the script and becomes the guest—interviewed by a Gen Z college student exploring the realities of mental health today. Together, they unpack generational differences, the impact of social media, the power of connection, and why talking about mental health may be the most important shift happening right now. From college pressures to real-life struggles, this conversation is honest, hopeful, and deeply human—reminding us that no one has to go through it alone.  

Episode Description Links & Resources Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Camo Hat Club: https://halfasorrow.org/the-camo-hat-club-half-a-sorrow/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HASF2020 Our Guest: Kim Burnett Bartlett The Black Box Project Website: https://bbxproject.org/ Episode Notes: Postvention is prevention. In this powerful episode of It's a Tough Subject, Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel welcome Kim Burnett Bartlett of the Black Box Project for a deeply important conversation about suicide loss, digital footprints, and how families can help prevent future tragedies. Kim shares her personal story of losing her younger brother, John, to suicide in 2010 and how that life-changing loss led her into the world of suicide postvention and prevention. She explains how the Black Box Project works with families who have lost someone to suicide by borrowing digital devices, securely extracting non-public behavioral data, and helping researchers identify patterns that may reveal opportunities for earlier intervention. This episode explores the difference between the external persona and the internal persona, the role of peer support after suicide loss, and why so many survivors seek meaning by helping others. It is an eye-opening conversation about grief, technology, data science, and hope. If you've ever wondered whether loss can become action, or how postvention can become prevention, this is an episode you do not want to miss. In this episode: Kim Burnett Bartlett's personal story of suicide loss Why suicide grief is often so complicated How the Black Box Project works What digital devices may reveal about crisis and help-seeking Why families choose to participate The importance of peer support and post-traumatic growth How postvention can help prevent future suicide deaths  

Links & Resources Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Camo Hat Club: https://halfasorrow.org/the-camo-hat-club-half-a-sorrow/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HASF2020 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/WIqMYwHt4eA Episode Notes: In this episode, Dennis and Jessica unpack a very "2026" reality: people taking vacations just to sleep, and even using PTO to rest because life feels relentless. They explore what chronic stress and information overload do to our minds and bodies, why doomscrolling can quietly hijack mental health, and how small habits like choosing uplifting content, taking "field trips," and creating healthy boundaries can bring us back to ourselves. This conversation also circles back to why the work matters: suicide prevention and hope. Sometimes the impact isn't in the crowd, it's in the one person who hears something and reaches for help. What You'll Hear In This Episode "Sleep vacations" and PTO used for rest: what it may signal Burnout vs. healthy recovery and why guilt shows up around rest Golden handcuffs: staying in a job that drains you Why mental labor can be just as exhausting as physical labor Social media algorithms, doomscrolling, and protecting your mind Lent as a "reset": reducing phone use and sharing positive stories daily The power of "the one": one listener, one life, one turning point Simple practices: smile science, faith moments, and micro-breaks that help Quote Worth Keeping "Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all." – Helen Keller

Links & Resources Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Camo Hat Club: https://halfasorrow.org/the-camo-hat-club-half-a-sorrow/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HASF2020 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/WIqMYwHt4eA Episode Notes: In this conversation, the Dennis and Jessica discuss the impact of weather forecasts on anxiety, the importance of coping mechanisms, and the long-term effects of grief. They explore personal growth through leadership roles and the connection between public health and mental health. The discussion emphasizes the value of community support and the healing power of humor, while also addressing the complexities of navigating grief and finding purpose in pain. Key Takeaways: Weather forecasts can create unnecessary anxiety. The 24-hour news cycle can exacerbate feelings of fear. Coping mechanisms like music can help manage anxiety. Healing from grief can lead to feelings of guilt. Leadership roles can change one's perspective on life. Public health is closely tied to mental health issues. Community support is vital for those dealing with loss. Personal growth often comes from overcoming trauma. It's important to share stories of resilience. Humor can be a powerful tool in healing.

Links & Resources Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Camo Hat Club: https://halfasorrow.org/the-camo-hat-club-half-a-sorrow/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HASF2020 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/uI5CinpgA58 Episode Notes: Jessica returns to It's a Tough Subject and she and Dennis dive into the messy, real-life overlap between grief, mental health, relationships, and the impact of social media on our wellbeing. They talk about how "loss is loss" including suicide loss, cancer loss, estrangement, and the grief that comes from fractured relationships, and why the comments section can be a dangerous place for mental health. Dennis also shares a major initiative he's working on: creating LOSS Teams (Local Outreach for Suicide Survivors), a program designed to show up for families shortly after a suicide loss with support, resources, and human presence when people feel most alone. The episode ends with a simple challenge: use your reach for good, check on your people, and help build a community where no one has to grieve in isolation. Key Takeaways  Grief shows up in many forms, not only suicide loss. Social media can amplify stress, anxiety, and negativity. "Postvention is prevention": support after a loss can reduce future risk. LOSS Teams aim to show up in-person with care and resources during the hardest days. Not everyone is called to frontline grief work, and that's okay, there are many ways to help. Checking on neighbors, seniors, and friends matters, especially during storms and hard seasons. Use social platforms for good, and avoid the comment-section rabbit holes.

Episode Description Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HASF2020 Camo Hat Club: https://halfasorrow.org/the-camo-hat-club-half-a-sorrow/ View this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/bNErYV30LksTim's 2025 Second of the Day Video: https://vimeo.com/1151306034?share=copy&fl=sv&fe=ci Tim's Wife Amy: https://vimeo.com/1089717149?share=copy&fl=sv&fe=ci In this special episode of It's a Tough Subject, Dennis is joined by an unexpected guest, our producer Tim Cicciarelli, who steps out from behind the curtain to share his raw, honest grief journey after losing his wife, Amy, on May 26, 2025. Tim and Dennis talk about love, loss, the "year of firsts," and what grief really looks like in real life: the fog, the triggers, the regrets, the rituals, and the moments of unexpected comfort. Tim shares the remarkable love story that brought him and Amy back together, how cancer reshaped their lives, and how he's learning to carry both grief and gratitude at the same time. This conversation is a reminder that while this podcast began with suicide loss, it's ultimately about grief, mental health, healing, and connection for anyone navigating heartbreak. Takeaways Grief is a universal experience that transcends specific circumstances. The journey of grief can be both brutal and beautiful. Shared stories of love and loss can foster connection and healing. Finding signs from lost loved ones can provide comfort. Music often serves as a powerful tool for processing grief. Creating memories through video can help preserve the essence of loved ones. Regret is a common part of the grieving process, but it can be managed. Community support is vital in navigating grief. Humor can coexist with grief, providing relief and connection. Gratitude for the time spent with loved ones can help in the healing process.

Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HASF2020 Camo Hat Club: https://halfasorrow.org/the-camo-hat-club-half-a-sorrow/ In this episode of It's a Tough Subject, Dennis and Jessica get real about something many of us feel but rarely say out loud: how exhausting, lonely, and triggering the holiday season can be—especially after a suicide loss. They share candid stories about: The first holidays after losing a loved one to suicide How anniversaries, survivor day, and family dynamics can reopen old wounds Why sleep is one of the most underrated mental health tools Insomnia, 3 a.m. racing thoughts, and practical sleep tips (dark room, cold room, white noise, routines) The impact of social media, doomscrolling, and constant notifications on anxiety and depression Setting boundaries with the internet and creating healthier habits in 2026 The Camo Hat Club – a men's group built around connection, breakfast, and NOT suffering in silence How to move from just surviving to actually thriving after loss Through humor, honesty, and hard-won wisdom, Dennis and Jessica remind us that: "You don't just want to be a survivor. You want to be a thriver."

Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan is a renowned advocate for mental health and suicide prevention. As a speaker and influencer in this field, Dennis shares his personal journey, aiming to impact audiences profoundly through storytelling and advocacy. He leads initiatives for mental health awareness and works with organizations and communities to foster supportive environments. Jessica Seel is a passionate advocate for mental health education and awareness. With a focus on real-world impacts of digital trends on mental health, Jessica seeks to raise awareness and educate on suicide prevention. Her insights are shaped by personal experiences and a commitment to supporting individuals dealing with mental health challenges. Episode Summary: Welcome to Season 4 of "It's a Tough Subject" with hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel. In this episode, they dive into one of the most pressing issues in digital mental health: the intersection of artificial intelligence and suicide prevention. With heartfelt discussions and personal anecdotes, Dennis and Jessica explore how AI and technology influence mental health trends, anxiety, social interactions, and suicide prevention strategies. Dennis and Jessica discuss the growing use of AI in mental health matters, noting that millions are engaging with AI on issues of suicide. They reflect on the role of AI as both a helpful and potentially harmful tool, emphasizing the need for careful guidance and that interactions with AI should lead to real-world human connections. The duo debates the altering social dynamics in a tech-driven world and the importance of in-person gatherings for mental well-being, highlighting the roles of social networks and communal activities in fostering longevity and cognitive health. Key Takeaways: Impact of AI on Mental Health: Millions are using AI to discuss suicide weekly, reflecting a significant shift in how people seek help. The Importance of Social Interactions: Engaging with people in person remains crucial for mental well-being and can impact cognitive health. Balancing Technology Use: While AI offers substantial benefits for tasks and advice, it cannot replace the need for human emotional connections. The Challenge of Loneliness: Addressing loneliness is critical, and technology should drive rather than hinder human interaction. Encouraging In-person Engagements: Personal anecdotes highlight the value of going out, attending events, and not substituting screen time for social experiences.

Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Please help this Josh Blandino help us by going here to donate: https://lnkd.in/e4gAQPy7 The goal is 5,000 dollars, and the marathon is Nov 9th. Let's help him out! About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan is a renowned speaker and advocate for mental health and suicide prevention. He uses his personal experience with losing family members to suicide to raise awareness and provide support for those affected by mental health issues. Dennis is involved with various mental health organizations and frequently travels for speaking engagements to help inspire change and promote mental wellness. Episode Summary: In this special intergenerational episode of "It's a Tough Subject," host Dennis Gillan converses with Josh Blandino, a young mental health advocate and marathon runner. This episode revolves around Josh's commitment to running a marathon to support mental health initiatives through Dennis Gillan's foundation. They discuss their common fraternity background, the importance of physical activity for mental well-being, and the inspiring story of Josh's journey from college to undertaking the grueling task of marathon running. This episode is a blend of humor, personal anecdotes, and deep insights into mental health challenges and solutions. Throughout the episode, keywords such as "mental health advocacy," "marathon training," and "suicide prevention" are discussed with attention to detail and compassion. Josh Blandino shares his experiences of organizing the Mental Health Mile at Clemson University and how endurance training for the marathon has been both a personal challenge and a source of inspiration. Dennis Gillan, a seasoned mental health speaker, shares insights into the intergenerational conversation around mental health and the impact of small, community-focused initiatives like the Mental Health Mile and Camo Hat Club breakfasts. Together, they emphasize how shared endeavors can amplify joy and halve sorrow for men and women struggling with mental health issues. Key Takeaways: Marathon for a Cause: Josh Blandino is running a marathon in the Outer Banks to raise funds for mental health initiatives, turning personal challenges into opportunities for philanthropy. Intergenerational Conversation: Dennis and Josh discuss common ground from fraternity life that shaped their approach toward mental advocacy and peer support systems. Physical Activity and Mental Health: They highlight the crucial role of exercise in releasing feel-good chemicals and enhancing mental well-being, mentioning that exercise could be equated to saving one's mental health if it were a pill. Gambling and Mental Health Risks: The impact of gambling, especially among young college students, and its potential mental health implications is addressed as a warning sign of larger issues. Community Support Systems: Concepts like the Camo Hat Club are introduced as significant community-driven support initiatives aiming to encourage men to open up about their mental health struggles. Notable Quotes: "There's a pharmacy within our bodies, and we have to work hard to release it." - Dennis Gillan "You learn a lot about yourself in that time period. You learn kind of what's important because you got to manage your time." – Josh Blandino "A shared joy is a double joy, and a shared sorrow is half a sorrow." - Dennis Gillan "This hat actually does have a deeper meaning." – Josh Blandino  

Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan is a renowned speaker and advocate for mental health and suicide prevention. He uses his personal experience with losing family members to suicide to raise awareness and provide support for those affected by mental health issues. Dennis is involved with various mental health organizations and frequently travels for speaking engagements to help inspire change and promote mental wellness. Jessica Seel is an advocate for mental health and suicide prevention, drawing from personal experiences to connect with her audience. She has undergone extensive training and works actively in suicide prevention initiatives, particularly in South Carolina. Jessica brings a heartfelt perspective to discussions about grief and loss, offering insights into healing and resilience through shared experiences. Episode Summary: In this insightful episode of the "It's a Tough Subject" podcast, Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel navigate the sensitive and often stigmatized topics of suicide, mental health challenges, and societal influences. With mental health at the forefront, they delve into personal anecdotes and larger societal issues, seeking to unravel the impact of religion, politics, and social media on mental health awareness and suicide prevention. As the conversation unfolds, Gillan and Seel discuss the complexities of maintaining faith-based outreach within a secular framework, revealing Gillan's internal struggle to balance his mission's inclusivity while remaining true to his personal beliefs. They explore how this delicate balance is necessary to offer support to individuals who may be distant from or critical of religious institutions. The impact of politics and the divisive role of social media is thoroughly examined, underscoring how misinformation and a lack of genuine connection contribute to mental health struggles. Key Takeaways: The importance of creating inclusive mental health support environments that respect diverse beliefs and perspectives. The detrimental impact of social media and misinformation on mental health, underlining the need for authentic human connections. Observations on the upswing in murder-suicide incidents, advocating for a deeper understanding of the psychological states behind such tragedies. The challenges and significance of discussing mental health issues within religious contexts and how faith-based organizations can responsibly engage in these conversations. The role of societal changes and decreasing church attendance in exacerbating feelings of isolation, affecting community health.  

Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan is a renowned speaker and advocate for mental health and suicide prevention. He uses his personal experience with losing family members to suicide to raise awareness and provide support for those affected by mental health issues. Dennis is involved with various mental health organizations and frequently travels for speaking engagements to help inspire change and promote mental wellness. Jessica Seel is an advocate for mental health and suicide prevention, drawing from personal experiences to connect with her audience. She has undergone extensive training and works actively in suicide prevention initiatives, particularly in South Carolina. Jessica brings a heartfelt perspective to discussions about grief and loss, offering insights into healing and resilience through shared experiences. Episode Summary: Join hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel as they delve into the complex and challenging subject of mental health, AI, and suicide prevention. This episode of "It's a Tough Subject" explores the concerning story of a family who tragically lost their son after he engaged in conversations with an AI platform, seeking it out as a therapeutic tool. Dennis and Jessica examine the implications of relying on AI for mental health support and discuss the dire need for more human interaction in such critical moments. In this episode, the hosts underscore the limitations of artificial intelligence in providing therapeutic care. They share personal anecdotes and draw from professional experiences to emphasize the importance of human empathy in mental health care. Engaging keywords such as "suicide prevention," "AI ethics," and "mental health advocacy" are central to their discourse, capturing the essence of their passionate and informative conversation. Furthermore, Dennis and Jessica highlight the potential dangers posed by AI when misused by vulnerable individuals, urging listeners to prioritize human connections and professional guidance over digital solutions. Key Takeaways: The story of a family's tragic loss highlights the potential dangers of using AI as a substitute for genuine human interaction in mental health care. There is a critical shortage of mental health professionals, increasing the temptation to use AI as a therapeutic alternative, a move that Dennis and Jessica caution against. While AI can serve as a valuable productivity tool, relying on it for mental health support is flawed due to its lack of empathy and understanding. Emphasizing the importance of human connection, the hosts caution parents to monitor their children's interactions with AI platforms closely. The episode provides insights into how societal misconceptions about attention-seeking and mental health can be harmful and encourages a more compassionate approach. Notable Quotes: "We're very direct and literal here with our grief… and we don't want to see another one happen ever again." - Dennis Gillan "I think as we evolve with this technology, we're gonna see things… and there's a darkness to everything, right?" - Jessica Seel "It's going to get worse before it gets better… But I feel like it should never take the place of a living, breathing human." - Jessica Seel "Take them all serious, because the losses here are real. If you're wrong on this, like, you're wrong forever." - Dennis Gillan "ChatGPT does not have feelings. Technology does not have feelings." - Jessica Seel

Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Guest(s): Dennis Gillan is a renowned speaker and advocate for mental health and suicide prevention. He uses his personal experience with losing family members to suicide to raise awareness and provide support for those affected by mental health issues. Dennis is involved with various mental health organizations and frequently travels for speaking engagements to help inspire change and promote mental wellness. Jessica Seel is an advocate for mental health and suicide prevention, drawing from personal experiences to connect with her audience. She has undergone extensive training and works actively in suicide prevention initiatives, particularly in South Carolina. Jessica brings a heartfelt perspective to discussions about grief and loss, offering insights into healing and resilience through shared experiences. Episode Summary: In this poignant episode, Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel navigate the complexities of grief and resilience, touching on personal experiences that shed light on broader societal issues. The discussion is both heart-wrenching and enlightening as they delve into the various forms grief can take, from losing a loved one to suicide to the emotional impact of a pet's passing. Recorded on September 12th, the timing coincides with the deeply significant Suicide Prevention Week and 9/11 memorials, providing a backdrop for a conversation about collective and personal bereavement. Throughout the episode, Dennis and Jessica share personal anecdotes that underscore the significance of comprehending grief in its various manifestations. With keywords like "suicide prevention," "grief recovery," and "mental health advocacy," they explore the lingering effects of significant losses and the pathways to healing through community support and dialogue. They emphasize the power of vulnerability and connection, drawing from their experiences in public speaking and advocacy to foster an environment of empathy and understanding. As they reflect on current events and personal stories, listeners are encouraged to embrace open dialogues and human connection as vital tools in navigating life's most challenging moments. Key Takeaways: Grieving is a complex process that encompasses not only loss through suicide but any significant emotional separation, including the death of pets. Vulnerability in sharing personal stories can catalyze healing and inspire others to open up about their experiences. Events like 9/11 and public tragedies remind us of the need for empathy, unity, and respectful dialogues across differing opinions. Engaging in small acts of kindness and community support can bring about significant personal and societal healing. The strength found in community efforts showcases the positive impact collective action can have on mental health advocacy. Notable Quotes: "It's a tough subject. We are back. And Jessica, I thought about renaming the show this week. It's a tough week." - Dennis Gillan "Suicide is not the only grief. It's a hard, tough grief. But man, grief overall is so, so powerful to the soul." - Jessica Seel "At the end of the day, we all love each other." - Dennis Gillan "I wanted to decorate. My dad died in the fall. I used to hate fall. Now I love it." - Jessica Seel "Hug somebody that thinks differently than you" - Jessica Seel  

Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan is a notable speaker and mental health advocate with a focus on suicide prevention. Having experienced the tragic loss of two brothers to suicide, Dennis has dedicated his life to spreading awareness and helping others navigate their grief journeys. He frequently speaks at conferences, universities, and community events, sharing his personal story and insights to uplift and educate audiences about mental health and the importance of reaching out. Jessica Seel is an active mental health advocate and the president of a national board association. As a seasoned speaker, Jessica's work revolves around suicide prevention and community engagement. Having personally experienced loss through her father's suicide, she supports others by facilitating discussions around grief, mental health recovery, and postvention strategies. Her compassionate approach and emphasis on "hope" resonate through her efforts and public engagements in mental health awareness. Episode Summary: In this emotionally engaging episode of "It's a Tough Subject," co-hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel open up about the complexities of grief and healing during Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. They delve into the significance of memorials and the healing power they hold for those left behind. The conversation pivots on Dennis's upcoming keynote speech in Vail, Colorado, and Jessica's deeply personal reflection on her father's passing. Through these discussions, they highlight the importance of community-based efforts in suicide prevention and recovery. The episode is filled with personal anecdotes and practical insights. Dennis and Jessica explore how participation in memorials and community walks can transform grief into a path of purpose and connection. They emphasize the need for support systems that extend beyond traditional gestures to truly impact the healing process for those mourning loved ones lost to suicide. Both hosts share their apprehensions and hopes surrounding their speaking engagements, tied intricately to the themes of hope and recovery. By sharing their stories, they aim to inspire others to open up and find light in isolation. Key Takeaways: Suicide Prevention and Recovery: Both co-hosts highlight the dual themes of suicide prevention and recovery for September, drawing attention to the community walks and memorials that serve as pillars of support. Personal Stories of Grief: Dennis and Jessica share their personal experiences of losing loved ones to suicide, shedding light on the profound journey of healing and the importance of community connections. Community-Based Healing: Emphasis is placed on the importance of active community roles in supporting those who are grieving, going beyond basic condolences to provide tangible support. The Role of Memorials: Memorials and walks are shown as crucial for processing grief, offering not only a way to remember loved ones but also to foster hope and collective healing. Public Speaking as Healing: Dennis discusses his upcoming speaking engagements and highlights the therapeutic nature of sharing one's story to help others navigate their grief journeys. Notable Quotes: "Isn't every month [suicide prevention awareness] when you think about it?" – Dennis Gillan "It's the club nobody wants to be in." – Dennis Gillan "It's not just to bring a casserole... there has to be more." – Jessica Seel "You learn from listening to people with different opinions, in my opinion." – Jessica Seel "I truly believe that would have at least had some impact on my brother's future." – Jessica Seel  

Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Join hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel as they dive deep into pressing issues surrounding mental health and suicide prevention. Reflecting on recent travels and community interactions, Dennis shares personal milestones, including being awarded by Phi Sigma Kappa and his efforts to establish mental health awareness clubs across college campuses. Meanwhile, Jessica highlights the power of accountability and friendship through her personal fitness journey with a friend. In this episode of "It's a Tough Subject," the duo tackles the powerful impact and necessity of postvention in suicide prevention, exploring their work with coroner associations and the importance of building support networks for those affected by suicide. The conversation shifts as they dissect cultural perceptions and stigmas associated with mental illness, challenging existing narratives in literature and media. Their discussion underscores the urgency of widespread education and community engagement to foster an environment receptive to open and honest conversations on these difficult topics. Key Takeaways: Dennis Gillan received the Distinguished Alumnus Award from his fraternity, Phi Sigma Kappa, for his impactful work in mental health advocacy. The Camouflage Hat Club initiative aims to promote mental wellness through simple, regular gatherings among men, combating isolation and fostering a supportive community. Jessica Seel shares a transformative experience supporting a friend overcoming addiction, illustrating the profound impact of regular, shared physical activities and open communication. Postvention strategies are crucial in suicide prevention, and effective survivor outreach can significantly reduce stigma while offering vital support to affected families. Raising awareness and altering public perceptions about suicide require community-level education and the dismantling of harmful stereotypes perpetuated through media and literature.

Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Guest: Michelle Snyder is the Executive Director of Soul Shop, a global leader in faith-based suicide prevention. With a Master's in Divinity and a Master's in Social Work, Michelle is a trained therapist focused on aiding faith communities to address mental health and suicide prevention. Michelle is passionate about assisting churches to 'get it right' in their mission, inspired by both personal and professional experiences. Under her leadership, Soul Shop has grown significantly, boasting more than 120 trainers across the United States and internationally, including a notable presence in Africa. Episode Summary: In this compelling episode of the "It's a Tough Subject" podcast, host Dennis Gillan discusses the grave issues surrounding suicide and mental health within the faith community. The episode is anchored by guest Michelle Snyder, the Executive Director of Soul Shop, who shares the organization's mission of equipping faith leaders to foster soul-safe communities. The conversation highlights the critical role that churches and faith-based organizations can play in suicide prevention, intervention, and postvention. Michelle elaborates on the unique Soul Shop training programs, designed to encourage faith-based leaders to engage openly with conversations about suicide and mental health. These programs focus on the power of compassion, outreach, and education in curbing mental health crises. Michelle provides invaluable insights into the significance of having leaders who are well-versed in suicide prevention, demographic-specific trainings for Black and Hispanic churches, and the need for congregational acknowledgment of mental health issues. The discussion underscores the idea that proactive church leadership can bridge gaps in mental health support and provide essential solace to individuals and families in distress, illustrating the encompassing role of faith in healing and community support. Key Takeaways: Comprehensive Training: Soul Shop offers specialized training programs aiming to prepare church and community leaders to effectively address suicide and mental health challenges. Faith as a Platform: Churches have the potential to become safe havens for nurturing hope and social connection, assisting those grappling with suicidal ideation and loss. Broader Approach: Addressing mental health involves tackling underlying issues, from substance abuse to financial struggles, with an emphasis on community support. Resource Enrichment: The hope boxes initiative provides comforting resources to families affected by suicide, an innovative approach by Soul Shop to support healing. Collaborative Engagement: Partnerships with various denominations and organizations reflect Soul Shop's dedication to engaging a wide network in the fight against mental health stigma. Notable Quotes: "If the Church of Jesus Christ can't do something about [suicide prevention], it should probably just close its doors." "Suicide is not a disease but a result of complex intersecting issues converging at once." "Our qualifications for this work are a little love, a little skill, and a network of support." "The grand vision is what if we could be a place where people could show up and say, I'm not okay." "What causes pain and desperation are legion, but when we can minister to those things, suicide begins to feel less like an option." Resources: Soul Shop Movement: soulshopmovement.org – The official website for Soul Shop, featuring information on their training programs and resources. Hope Boxes: Available through the Soul Shop Foundation, these boxes are resources for those who have experienced suicide loss. Take some time to listen to this deeply moving episode on suicide prevention through faith communities. The insights shared by Michelle Snyder will leave you better prepared to engage with difficult conversations surrounding mental health and suicide prevention. Stay tuned for more valuable discussions on future episodes of the "It's a Tough Subject" podcast.  

Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ The Speedy Foundation: https://thespeedyfoundation.org Mental Health First Aid information QPR (Question, Persuade, Refer) Training National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org About the Guest: Shannon Decker: Shannon Decker is the Executive Director of The Speedy Foundation, a nonprofit organization dedicated to mental health advocacy and suicide prevention. The foundation was established in memory of Shannon's cousin, Jeret "Speedy" Peterson, a silver medal-winning Olympian and member of the US ski team who tragically died by suicide. With a background in education and nonprofit leadership, Shannon is a passionate advocate for mental health literacy and has been involved in numerous programs and legislative efforts aimed at improving mental health resources and suicide prevention strategies across the United States. Episode Summary: In this episode, hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel welcome Shannon Decker, Executive Director of The Speedy Foundation. The discussion delves into Shannon's personal connection to suicide prevention and the impactful work her foundation is spearheading in honor of her late cousin, Olympic silver medalist Jeret "Speedy" Peterson. This deeply moving conversation shines a light on the critical need for mental health advocacy and the various programs that Shannon is leading to address these issues head-on. Throughout the episode, Shannon shares insights into the establishment of The Speedy Foundation and its quick impact in Idaho and Utah, notably helping to relaunch a suicide prevention hotline. The conversation touches on the challenges and advancements in mental health awareness, training, and legislative advocacy. With a focus on robust mental health training programs like QPR and Mental Health First Aid, Shannon emphasizes the necessity of widespread mental health literacy. The discussion also covers postvention strategies and the essential role they play in prevention efforts, highlighting how communities can respond effectively to suicide tragedies. Key Takeaways: Swift Action for Impact: The Speedy Foundation was founded just days after Jeret "Speedy" Peterson's death, promptly addressing mental health needs with significant actions like relaunching a suicide hotline in Idaho. Innovative Training Programs: Shannon has expanded her work to include various mental health training programs, aiming to reach parity with CPR training rates. Challenges in Suicide Prevention: The conversation highlights challenges in engaging communities in suicide prevention training, especially post-COVID, where attendance has declined. Postvention is Prevention: Emphasizing the importance of postvention, Shannon discusses how addressing the impacts of suicide through community involvement can prevent further tragedies. Legislative Successes and Setbacks: Shannon shares insights from her successes and ongoing efforts in advocating for legislative changes that enhance suicide prevention resources. Notable Quotes: "My why is really just that everyone needs to know that it's okay to talk directly about suicide." - Shannon Decker "In 2016, Idaho became one of the last states to fund its suicide hotline, showing the power of collective advocacy." - Shannon Decker "Some of the best suicide prevention is postvention." - Shannon Decker "We need to get mental health literacy rates as saturated as CPR rates." - Shannon Decker "If the family's not willing to talk about it, it just builds more shame and stigma." - Shannon

  Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Episode Summary: In this compelling episode of "It's A Tough Subject," hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel delve into the sensitive yet imperative topic of reporting on suicide. Recorded on a reflective Monday post-holiday, this episode is driven by a recent personal event that reignites Dennis's passion for addressing the dignity and sensitivity needed in media coverage of suicide. The hosts highlight the critical aspects of responsible reporting, emphasizing the delicate balance between informing the public and respecting the deceased and their grieving families. As Dennis recounts a distressing incident involving a friend's son and media coverage that lacked compassion, the conversation unfolds into the broader implications of sensationalism in journalism. Key themes include the negative impact of sharing graphic content and the ethical responsibility of journalists to follow guidelines from resources like ReportingOnSuicide.org. Jessica and Dennis discuss the importance of portrayals that foster public understanding, respect privacy, and avoid glamorizing tragic events. Supported by personal anecdotes and real-life examples, this episode is a valuable discourse aiming to reform how media and society handle such matters with care and thoughtfulness. Key Takeaways: Ethical Reporting: Journalists have a responsibility to avoid sensationalizing suicide and should strive for compassion and accuracy in their reports. Avoiding Sensationalism: Refrain from using impactful but harmful language such as "epidemic" or "skyrocketing" when discussing suicide statistics. The Importance of Context: Providing proper context and emphasizing coping mechanisms and support can encourage those at risk to seek help. Prominent Suicide Prevention Resources: Websites like ReportingOnSuicide.org offer valuable guidelines for media professionals to follow when reporting on suicide. Sensitivity to Families: Reports should always consider the impact on surviving family members, treating stories with respect and dignity. Notable Quotes: "We've lost a little bit of dignity when we start doing crap like that." — Dennis Gillan "As a society, we're addicted to as many terrible things as we can see for some reason." — Jessica Seel "Grief doesn't take a holiday, nor do we. We're here for you." — Dennis Gillan "Do not share the content of a suicide note... Report that a note was found and is under review." — Dennis Gillan "We, as a society, are addicted to as many terrible things as we can see for some reason. And I can't explain it as a human." — Jessica Seel  

Dennis Gillan's Website: Half a Sorrow Website Episode Summary In this conversation, Dennis Gillan and Josh Gardner discuss the profound impact of personal loss and the journey through depression and recovery. Josh shares his experiences of losing family members to suicide, the struggles he faced with mental health, and the various treatments he underwent, including ECT. The conversation emphasizes the importance of seeking help, the role of support systems, and the hope that can be found in recovery. Josh's story serves as a testament to resilience and the power of community in overcoming mental health challenges. Takeaways - Josh Gardner shares his experience of losing two family members to suicide. - The conversation highlights the struggles of navigating grief and depression. - Seeking help is a crucial step in the recovery process. - Josh discusses the importance of support systems in overcoming mental health challenges. - The impact of ECT as a treatment for severe depression is explored. - Josh emphasizes the need for community and connection in healing. - The conversation addresses the stigma surrounding mental health and suicide. - Josh's journey illustrates the importance of resilience and hope. - The role of therapy and medication in managing mental health is discussed. - Josh encourages others to share their stories to help those in need.

Half a Sorrow Foundation Website Episode Summary: In this episode of "It's a Tough Subject," Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel dive deep into the heart-wrenching yet crucial topics surrounding mental health challenges, particularly focusing on suicide awareness and prevention. Kicking off with a reflective mood, both hosts share personal experiences about how they cope with loss and the ways in which they commemorate and remember loved ones gone too soon. This episode places a spotlight on the prevalent issues in mental health advocacy, education, and personalization, drawing connections between personal healing journeys and broader societal impacts. Through engaging anecdotes, Dennis and Jessica discuss the importance of mental health conversations becoming normalized, especially highlighting the significance of awareness in younger generations. The conversation transitions into systemic initiatives and the challenges troubling the mental health industry, particularly around resource allocation and budget constraints. Dennis reflects on speaking engagements in various institutional settings, including prisons, depicting the urgent need for mental health education across different societal segments. This episode emphasizes the need for empathetic conversations and proactive actions in mental health advocacy, encouraging listeners to appreciate the complexities and work towards a better, understanding world. Key Takeaways: Dennis shares personal insights into the importance of facing the painful memories associated with visiting loved ones' graves and the different ways people honor their memories. The episode highlights the decreasing suicide rates among young people due to increased openness in talking about mental health issues. Jessica discusses her involvement in creating behavioral health simulations to enhance empathy and resource awareness in community schools. Dennis speaks candidly about the financial aspects of mental health initiatives and the impact of broader economic decisions on resource allocation. The hosts underline the importance of mental health education in prisons, focusing on both inmates and staff, with a noted emphasis on the well-being of corrections officers. Notable Quotes: "For my mental health, I did not take my laptop computer." – Dennis Gillan "You may not know my thought, when I see a lot of things with people who have sex addiction or food addiction or any type, there's always some type of trauma." – Jessica Seel "We need to remind ourselves how it feels to be empathetic." – Jessica Seel "She was losing correction officers, and she's like, I'm done." – Dennis Gillan "We experience something that takes a lot of people down." – Jessica Seel Join Dennis and Jessica in this compelling episode as they work towards alleviating the silence around mental health issues. For those interested in making a difference and understanding more deeply the intricacies of suicide prevention and mental health advocacy, tune in to the full episode and stay connected for more insightful conversations.

Half a Sorrow's Website   About the Guest(s): Dennis Gillan is the founder and executive director of the Half a Sorrow Foundation, a nonprofit organization dedicated to promoting mental health awareness and suicide prevention through education and advocacy. Dennis is recognized for his compelling public speaking engagements on mental health, aiming to reach communities with life-saving messages. With a deeply personal connection to the cause, Dennis's work is enriched by both his professional insights and personal experiences with loss. Jessica Seel is the co-host of the "It's a Tough Subject" podcast. She collaborates with Dennis Gillan to provide a platform for discussing sensitive topics, including mental health, suicide prevention, and coping with grief. Jessica's background in social work and her personal encounters with mental health challenges lend her conversations authenticity and depth. Episode Summary: In this heartfelt episode of "It's a Tough Subject," podcast hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel navigate the complexities of grief and loss, focusing specifically on the aftermath of suicide. The episode begins with an honest preamble about the difficult nature of the topic, urging listeners to seek support if needed and to engage with the content cautiously. The podcast sets out to break the silence that often surrounds mental health challenges, highlighting its mission to foster supportive, compassionate communities through meaningful dialogue. Dennis eloquently shares his personal experiences with suicide loss, discussing the profound impact of losing two siblings to suicide. Together with Jessica, they reflect on the hurdles faced in the grieving process, from dealing with funeral arrangements to managing personal and familial emotions. The hosts emphasize the importance of support systems, urging listeners to be present for those dealing with loss. Moreover, they discuss practical steps to take in the aftermath of a loved one's death, illustrating the often overlooked practicalities of grief, such as closing financial accounts or dealing with possessions. Through candid conversation, they advocate for broader societal empathy and improved mental health awareness. Key Takeaways: The importance of presence and support in the aftermath of loss; showing up for those grieving can profoundly help in their healing process. Practical steps often overlooked in grief include managing financial matters and dealing with a loved one's personal belongings. "Healing Conversations" from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is a resource available to those who have experienced a suicide loss. It's crucial to talk openly about the reality of mental health struggles to break the stigma and facilitate healing conversations. Personal healing does not follow a linear path and can be ongoing; significant life distractions or the passage of time can gradually introduce moments of lightness amidst the grief. Notable Quotes: "Pain is pain. Your trauma is your trauma, no matter what it is." - Dennis Gillan "Show up. Be present. It doesn't matter. Gone is gone." - Dennis Gillan "People need that literal maybe shoulder to cry on and hand to hold to get them there." - Jessica Seel "If your grief is too much to bear..." - Dennis Gillan

About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan is a mental health advocate and speaker focused on suicide prevention in the workplace and beyond. Having lived through the heartbreaking loss of his two brothers to suicide, Dennis has dedicated his life to reducing the stigma around mental health and suicide. His commitment to mental health awareness is realized through his work with Half a Sorrow Foundation, where he delivers presentations and workshops aiming to encourage discussion around mental health challenges. Jessica Seel is a passionate advocate for mental health, known for her work related to suicide prevention and behavioral health education in rural communities. Having lost her father to suicide, Jessica has channeled her experiences into helping others cope with mental health issues. She works at the South Carolina Office of Rural Health, where she has helped build the behavioral health program. Through public speaking and advocacy, she seeks to foster understanding and reduce stigma surrounding mental health issues. Episode Summary: In this compelling episode, Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel shed light on the critical topic of suicide prevention in the workplace. They delve into personal experiences and professional insights, emphasizing the importance of awareness and proactive measures to support mental health in corporate environments. Through an engaging discussion, they address the nuanced challenges of creating a supportive workplace culture and the potential impact of stigma on mental health care. The conversation is rich with valuable insights on the implementation of Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) and the role they play in providing accessible mental health support. Dennis and Jessica discuss the importance of education and awareness as tools for prevention, underscoring how businesses can foster an environment that encourages open conversations about mental health. They explore the transformative power of telehealth services and the impact of leadership engagement in mental wellness initiatives, offering actionable strategies for companies aiming to support their employees' mental well-being. Key Takeaways: Proactive Mental Health Culture: Companies that address mental health proactively can foster loyalty and improve employee productivity. Effective Use of EAPs: Employee Assistance Programs can be underutilized due to stigma; educating employees on their benefits and confidentiality is crucial. Leadership Involvement: Executive engagement in mental health conversations can significantly influence organizational culture. Telehealth Opportunities: Incorporating telehealth solutions can increase accessibility to mental health services, especially in workplace settings. Personal Experiences Shape Advocacy: Sharing personal stories of loss and recovery can help humanize the conversation around mental health and break down stigma. Notable Quotes: "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care." - Dennis Gillan "If you have an organization that cares about you and is going to go above and beyond, I'm going to stay with those folks and I'm going to work hard." - Jessica Seel "We don't have to become experts, mental health counselors, but we just have to become aware." - Jessica Seel "There's a question that went around a couple years ago. It's a great one... 'How are you doing, really?'" - Dennis Gillan "You don't want to believe you went through something that was total hell for nothing." - Jessica Seel Resources: Dennis Gillan's Website: Half a Sorrow Website

About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan is a prominent figure in the mental health and suicide prevention community. He is the founder of the Half a Sorrow Foundation, which aims to reduce the impact and stigma of suicide by increasing mental health awareness. Dennis is a passionate speaker who shares his personal experiences with suicide loss to educate and inspire others. Jessica Seel is an expert in public health with a focus on mental health and grief. She collaborates with nonprofits and organizations to develop programs that address mental well-being. Jessica's experience in coping with grief shapes her empathetic approach to discussing and managing such difficult topics. Episode Summary: In this thought-provoking episode of "It's a Tough Subject," Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel take on the challenging topic of grief and mental health, with a specific focus on suicide prevention. The discussions traverse the emotional landscape of job loss and its impact on mental health, emphasizing the importance of understanding the warning signs and risk factors associated with it. The hosts delve into the significance of not tying one's identity solely to their work and acknowledge the cultural and societal influences that fuel this mindset. In this conversation, Dennis shares a personal anecdote about reaching out to a former colleague post-termination, only to face misunderstanding and backlash, highlighting the complexities of corporate culture and human interaction. The episode further examines the recently released 2023 suicide data from the American Association of Suicidology, depicting a sobering picture of the current state of mental health in the U.S. Dennis and Jessica analyze the demographic breakdowns, addressing the concerning suicide rates among men, older adults, and specific states. Through their discussion, they emphasize the need for tailored mental health programs that cater to different groups and bring attention to the increasing suicide rates in certain states compared to others. With insightful dialogues and personal stories, the duo encourages more open conversations around mental health and advocates for better support systems and awareness to reduce these tragic numbers. Key Takeaways: Mental Health Awareness: Emphasizing the importance of untangling personal identity from professional roles to mitigate mental health risks. Gender Differences: Recognition of the higher suicide rates in men and the need for sensitive approaches in mental health discussions for different genders. Statistical Analysis: Examination of the 2023 suicide data, revealing a rise in certain demographics and the importance of demographic-specific mental health strategies. Role of Environment: Discussion on the influence of geographical and environmental factors, such as sunshine exposure, on mental health and suicide rates. Community and Cultural Influences: Acknowledgment of the role that cultural stigma and community dynamics play in mental health and suicide prevention efforts. Notable Quotes: "Shared joy is a double joy. A shared sorrow is half a sorrow." – Dennis Gillan "Loss of a job is a warning sign or a risk factor...we tie our identities as a whole, a lot of us do, to our work." – Dennis Gillan "It's hard to ignore when you see a human being going through a struggle. You can ignore a data point, but it's real hard to ignore something right in front of you." – Jessica Seel "We need to do programs in nursing homes...one out of five are 65 and over." – Dennis Gillan Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation

Dennis Gillan is the Executive Director of the Half a Sorrow Foundation, an organization dedicated to mental health awareness and suicide prevention. With a deeply personal connection to this work, Dennis has experienced the loss of two brothers to suicide. His efforts are directed towards fostering open conversations about mental health and supporting those affected by suicide. Jessica Seel is a passionate advocate for mental health awareness and suicide prevention. She brings a personal touch to her advocacy due to the loss of her father to suicide. She works to dismantle the stigmas surrounding mental health and to provide support for those struggling with mental health issues. Episode Summary: In this poignant episode of "It's a Tough Subject," Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel explore the complexities of grief, specifically in the context of suicide. Opening with a reflection on personal losses, they delve into the raw emotions and profound impacts that such tragedies have on those left behind. Both Dennis and Jessica share insights drawn from their experiences, emphasizing that the path to healing is unique for each person, but it often benefits from community support and open dialogues. This episode tackles critical themes such as the societal perceptions of death by suicide versus other types of loss, the importance of therapy, and the challenges of dealing with grief. The discussion also covers the potential triggers presented by current events, the role of media consumption in mental health, and the need for empathy across differing views. By highlighting the need for understanding and openness, Dennis and Jessica present a hopeful narrative for those navigating the tumultuous waters of grief and loss. Key Takeaways: Grief can manifest in various forms, and its complexity is further intensified when related to suicide. Community support and therapy play vital roles in the healing process post-loss. Media consumption, particularly news, can significantly influence mental health and emotional well-being. Sharing stories and memories of those we have lost helps to honor their entire life rather than focusing solely on their passing. Encouraging dialogues across different perspectives fosters understanding and can bridge divides, offering communal healing. Notable Quotes: "I like emotions on the sleeve. I know where they stand." — Dennis Gillan "I would agree with that because I was young one time, so were you. But when you get older, like us, you start to realize it's like an acceptance somewhat, but not as much as when you get older." — Jessica Seel "Finding the purpose in the pain and then trying to do something with it." — Dennis Gillan "It's dangerous. It's very dangerous to be that way. We have to...have a different opinion and it's okay." — Jessica Seel "Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow." — Dennis Gillan Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) AFSP's initiative: Be the Voice In this engaging and heartfelt discussion on "It's a Tough Subject," gain insights on navigating grief and fostering understanding through the personal experiences of Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel. Subscribe and listen to the full episode for more profound discussions and stay tuned for further enlighten

About the Guest(s): Dennis Gillan is the founder and executive director of the Half a Sorrow Foundation. He is deeply involved in mental health advocacy, particularly focusing on suicide prevention. Dennis has a compelling personal story that fuels his passion for outreach and education on these critical issues. His work involves speaking engagements where he shares impactful narratives to raise awareness and promote mental health support. Jessica Seel co-hosts with Dennis on the "It's a Tough Subject" podcast. She is actively engaged in mental health initiatives and works alongside various community and health organizations to spread awareness and foster support systems. Episode Summary: Navigating the sensitive terrain of mental health discussions, especially suicide prevention, Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel return to the "It's a Tough Subject" podcast with a reflection on their recent live show experience. This episode unwraps their journey from conceptualizing the event to the impactful stories that emerged during the live discussions. Dennis and Jessica emphasize the importance of community engagement and support in mental health advocacy, illustrating how collective efforts can offer life-saving assistance. In this episode, Dennis and Jessica explore several dimensions around live mental health advocacy. They discuss the necessary preparations and unforeseen surprises from their live show, including community involvement, audience engagement, and the shared emotional journey. The episode also touches upon the significance of supportive environments and how societal initiatives, like those in Greenville, can foster better mental health conditions. Additionally, the episode delves into springtime's correlation with mental health challenges, underlining the critical need for vigilance and care during this period. Key Takeaways: Live Shows as Advocacy: Dennis and Jessica detail their experiences and learnings from taking their mental health talk to a live audience, emphasizing the power of shared stories and community participation. Importance of Communities: The duo highlights how vibrant and supportive communities, like Greenville, can positively impact mental health through engagement and activities that foster belonging. Spring and Mental Health: An enlightening discussion on why spring sees increased mental health challenges, debunking common misconceptions about seasonal moods. Balancing Personal and Community Needs: Insights into how personal experiences and community feedback shape effective mental health advocacy and outreach strategies. Simple Yet Crucial Coping Tips: From the significance of maintaining sleep hygiene to finding personal tribes for support—simple steps that can profoundly affect mental well-being. Notable Quotes: "Communities mean different things to different people, but when you have the ability to live somewhere that supports your well-being, that's incredible." "The message for our listeners, it's a tough subject, is check on your loved ones hard this spring." "It's hard when your son's in the audience, which he was. I made a wisecrack about my divorce, and I immediately felt bad about it because my son was there." "Community. Community. It became a tribe. You know, a stick alone could be broken by a child. A stick in a bundle cannot be broken."

Turning misery into his mission. A local man is hoping to improve your mental health by having real conversations. Dennis Gillan has had his share of sorrow. He lost two brothers to suicide. By sharing his sorrow onstage on March 18th, he hopes to encourage others to share their sorrow. He says if his brothers would have shared their sorrows, they would still be here. There is hope and suicide is not the answer. Also, this is not your typical talk on suicide prevention, we will laugh and there are times, we may cry, but we will all kick the stigma of mental health to the curb! It's A Tough Subject, March 18th at 7:00 p.m. Centre Stage Theater, 501 River Street, Downtown Greenville. Reception to follow at Limoncello right next door. It's a Tough Subject Live - 3/18/25 - 7pm Greenville, South Carolina Click here for tickets: https://www.classy.org/event/its-a-tough-subject-live/e653736 Half a Sorrow Foundation - Visit Our Website: https://halfasorrow.org/ Half a Sorrow YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@halfasorrowfoundation

Dennis Gillan's appearance on Access Carolina discussing "It's A Tough Subject Live" on  March 18th at 7:00 p.m. Centre Stage Theater, 501 River Street, Downtown Greenville. Reception to follow at Limoncello right next door.  It's a Tough Subject Live - 3/18/25 - 7pm Greenville, South Carolina Click here for tickets: https://www.classy.org/event/its-a-tough-subject-live/e653736 Half a Sorrow Foundation - Visit Our Website: https://halfasorrow.org/ Half a Sorrow YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@halfasorrowfoundation  

Resources: It's a Tough Subject Live - 3/18/25 - 7pm Greenville, South Carolina Click here for tickets: https://www.classy.org/event/its-a-tough-subject-live/e653736 Half a Sorrow Foundation - Visit Our Website: https://halfasorrow.org/ Half a Sorrow YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@halfasorrowfoundation About the Hosts: Dennis Gillen: Dennis is a prominent mental health advocate renowned for his work in suicide prevention. Having personally experienced the loss of two brothers to suicide, Dennis dedicates his life to speaking about mental health and reducing stigma. He is also known for engaging public speaking, which focuses on risk factors associated with mental health and the importance of outreach. Jessica Seel: Jessica Seel is a mental health speaker and advocate, known for her passionate efforts in promoting mental well-being and support systems. She has experienced personal loss due to suicide and uses her experiences to offer valuable insights and hope to others dealing with similar situations. Jessica engages with various mental health organizations and contributes to broader dialogues around suicide prevention and recovery. Episode Summary: In this engaging episode of "It's a Tough Subject Live," Dennis Gillen converses with Jessica Seel about the delicate issues surrounding mental health, suicide prevention, and the lingering impact of COVID-19. The discussion particularly focuses on physical health impacts from COVID and how it intertwines with mental health challenges. This conversation brings insight into the human experiences behind the pandemic, shedding light on both personal and societal changes spanning the last five years. The episode unpacks the unexpected emotional and psychological effects of COVID-19, highlighting feelings of loneliness, depression, and vulnerability experienced during recovery. Dennis and Jessica share their personal stories and how these experiences tie into broader discussions about suicide prevention. By integrating discussions on economic factors, social influences, and emotional resilience, they illustrate the complex tapestry of mental health challenges. Notable conversations on post-traumatic growth and the significance of empathy resonate throughout the episode. Prominent themes include the correlation between physical and mental health, societal pressures, and the path toward personal recovery. Key Takeaways: Interconnection of Physical and Mental Health: The episode emphasizes the strong linkage between physical health challenges, such as recovering from COVID-19, and mental well-being, showcasing real-life implications of health on emotional states. Impact of COVID-19 on Society: Five years into the pandemic, the pervasive effects of COVID-19 on mental health continue to unfold, affecting societal behaviors and personal emotions. Suicide Prevention Insights: The conversation provides insight into the complexities of suicide, reflecting on personal stories and societal statistics, including economic pressures as a contributory factor. Recovery and Post-Traumatic Growth: Dennis and Jessica touch upon the concept of post-traumatic growth, demonstrating how one can turn past traumatic experiences into powerful life missions and advocacy efforts. Importance of Empathy and Outreach: The importance of empathy, staying connected, and supporting loved ones, especially during hard times, is a highlighted hymn throughout the discussion.

Resources: It's a Tough Subject Live - 3/18/25 - 7pm Greenville, South Carolina  Click here for tickets Half a Sorrow Foundation - Visit Our Website About the Guest(s): Dennis Gillen is a passionate mental health advocate focusing on suicide prevention and awareness. As a speaker, he reaches audiences across the country, sharing his personal experiences to foster understanding and offer support. With a dynamic and humorous speaking style, Dennis aims to make tough topics more approachable and to inspire collective action in mental health initiatives. Jessica Seel co-hosts alongside Dennis Gillen, contributing her experiences and perspectives on mental health topics. Her insights are particularly focused on women's mental health challenges, informed by her own history of loss and healing. Jessica provides an empathetic and supportive voice, broadening the reach and impact of the podcast discussions. Episode Summary: In this heartfelt episode of "It's a Tough Subject," Dennis Gillen and Jessica Seel delve into the pressing issues surrounding mental health, with a specific focus on suicide prevention and support. The conversation centers around Dennis's upcoming mental health talk on March 18th in Greenville, an event he envisions as a cornerstone for fostering community awareness and support. Highlighting the portability of such events, Dennis hopes to see similar initiatives replicated in towns across the nation. Jessica contributes significantly by offering her supportive insights, helping Dennis navigate his pre-event anxieties with warmth and authenticity. Throughout the episode, Dennis and Jessica candidly discuss the gender disparities in suicide statistics, emphasizing the critical need to address mental health in both men and women. They explore the stereotype that men often hide their vulnerabilities, while women might be more emotionally reactive, leading to different patterns in mental health crises. The hosts also venture into personal anecdotes, revealing how social expectations and societal pressures exacerbate mental health challenges. The two share their own experiences of loss and healing, aiming to provide listeners with a sense of hope and practical advice for overcoming personal struggles. By sharing their own journeys and advocating for open discussions, this episode serves as a beacon for anyone touched by these issues. Key Takeaways: Dennis Gillen is hosting a mental health talk on March 18th in Greenville, aimed at fostering community awareness and support. Gender differences in mental health are significant, with men more likely to complete suicide, while women have a higher rate of attempts. The importance of coping mechanisms and support systems for women, particularly around issues of self-worth and societal expectations. Volunteering and finding purpose can be a crucial part of mental health recovery for both men and women. Personal anecdotes from Dennis and Jessica highlight the challenges and strategies for dealing with mental health issues and the impact of societal perceptions

About the Hosts Dennis Gillen is a mental health advocate and speaker with a personal mission deeply rooted in suicide prevention. Through his work, Dennis has engaged audiences across different platforms, delivering powerful messages that encourage open discussions around mental health. He has presented at numerous conferences and events, sharing his personal connection to suicide loss and ways to combat loneliness and depression. Dennis is also involved with organizations that work towards improving mental health support systems and reducing the stigma associated with mental health issues. Jessica Seel is a passionate advocate for mental health awareness and suicide prevention, bringing personal experience and dedication to her work. With a focus on providing support and building community connections, Jessica has become a voice for those navigating the complexities of grief and mental health challenges. She currently collaborates with various nonprofits to further mental health initiatives and has been actively involved in speaking engagements and trainings to share her insights and experiences. Episode Summary: In this compelling episode of "It's a Tough Subject," Dennis Gillen and Jessica Seel delve into the intricacies of mental health, loneliness, and community support. Dennis highlights his upcoming live event on March 18th in Greenville, South Carolina, emphasizing the importance of community engagement in addressing mental health issues. Jessica reinforces the theme by sharing her personal journey and the power of vulnerability in building supportive networks. Together, they explore the heavy burden of loneliness, especially among older adults, and advocate for increased awareness and intervention. This episode offers a deep dive into the nuances of suicide prevention, underscoring the social isolation epidemic and its impact on mental health. Dennis and Jessica discuss innovative community initiatives like "Bikers Against Child Abuse," demonstrating how individual actions can create powerful networks of support. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, the conversation highlights the critical need for human connection and empathy as effective means to combat loneliness and foster healing. Key Takeaways: The importance of community engagement and vulnerability in mental health initiatives. Loneliness is a significant contributing factor to mental health issues and suicides, especially among older adults. Innovative community programs like "Bikers Against Child Abuse" offer vital support and advocacy for vulnerable individuals. The healing journey involves personal processing of grief and extending support to others through shared experiences and conversations. Encouraging conversations about mental health in diverse spaces, including faith-based communities, can help break stigma and promote healing. Notable Quotes: "Our miseries become our mission." - Dennis Gillen "People just need somebody to talk to. They need to be heard." - Jessica Seel "Everyone is ready to get in a room and exchange ideas." - Dennis Gillen "My greatest fear about getting older is losing those people and not having that network." - Jessica Seel "When you're on a mission, your misery becomes your mission, you go anywhere, anytime." - Dennis Gillen Resources: It's a Tough Subject Live - 3/18/25 - 7pm Greenville, South Carolina Click here for tickets Dennis Gillen's TEDx Talk on Loneliness: Provides insights into combating loneliness with practical tips. See the video here Half a Sorrow Foundation - Visit our website Bikers Against Child Abuse (B.A.C.A.): An organization providing emotional and physical support for abused children. National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) New Hampshire: Offers programs and resources for mental health advocacy. Open Hearts United Methodist Church: A church active in discussing social justice and mental health from the pulpit. For a deeper understanding of these topics, tune in to the full episode and stay connected for more enlightening discussions in future episodes. The raw and unfiltered exchange promises to leave listeners better informed and inspired to tackle these tough subjects.

About the Guest: John Denny is a chaplain with the U.S. Army and an experienced crisis intervention specialist. With extensive training in critical incident response and traumatic event management, he has devoted his career to helping individuals and organizations process grief and trauma. He is the founder of Philos, a nonprofit organization dedicated to postvention and trauma response, providing support and resources for those affected by loss and crisis. Episode Summary: In this emotionally impactful episode of "It's a Tough Subject," hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel welcome their first guest, John Denny, a chaplain with the U.S. Army. The episode starts with Dennis recounting how he and John met during their time at the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention and how they collaborated on postvention—the crucial follow-up after a suicide has occurred. This episode sheds light on the significance of addressing grief openly in various communities, including businesses and churches, emphasizing that postvention is a vital element of suicide prevention. Throughout the conversation, John Denny discusses the critical role of his organization, Philos, in providing postvention services. He talks about how Philos works with businesses, schools, and churches to create supportive environments where grief can be openly discussed and processed. John explains the idea of peer-trained teams within organizations to tackle trauma and talks about the importance of breaking the stigma surrounding mental health and suicide. The hosts and John share personal experiences and insights, stressing the need for compassionate responses and the long-term benefits of addressing grief at its roots. Key Takeaways: Role of Postvention: The work of postvention, or addressing grief head-on following a suicide, is crucial for further suicide prevention and community healing. Philos Support Services: John Denny's nonprofit, Philos, aids organizations by training peer teams to provide psychological first aid and crisis intervention in the wake of traumatic events. Breaking Stigma: Highlighting the stigma surrounding mental health, the conversation encourages open dialogues about trauma, thereby facilitating healing and reducing long-term psychological damage. Impact of Compassionate Support: Families, businesses, and communities benefit immensely when grief and loss are articulated, shared, and supported rather than ignored. Healing Through Shared Stories: Sharing personal experiences of trauma and grief can create a community of support and understanding, reducing the burden of isolation for those affected. Notable Quotes: "For me, there's probably nothing more sacred than walking with people in their time of despair." - John Denny "People don't know what to say. They either don't say anything at all or say the wrong thing." - John Denny "You need to be able to understand how to walk with people and sit with them in their suck and their grief." - John Denny "If we don't do postvention right, we'll have these post-traumatic behaviors." - Dennis Gillan "If y'all are doing it, Dennis and Jessica, maybe it's okay if I'm true and able to share some of my pain and struggle with someone else." - John Denny Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation It's a Tough Subject Live - Get Tickets Here - Only $15 Philos Support Services Reach out to John Denny for more insights and resources on postvention. Tune into the full episode to delve deeper into these topics and hear more about how postvention can significantly impact suicide prevention and the healing process. Stay connected with "It's a Tough Subject" for more valuable discussions and expert guests.

It's A Tough Subject LIVE will be held on March 18th in Greenville, SC, and this is where you can help. You could recommend us to villages, towns, cities, and coalitions, anyone that would benefit from hearing this talk! Translation: It's portable and can go ANYWHERE!   Here is the link for this event if you happen to be in or around Greenville on March 18th: It's A Tough Subject LIVE!!! Ticket info   If you cannot come, you can still donate to the cause, and we will use your funds to market the program and offer scholarships to local students! About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel are the hosts of the podcast tackling sensitive topics surrounding mental health, suicide, and emotional well-being. Dennis Gillan is known for his work in suicide prevention and as a speaker advocating for mental health awareness. Jessica Seel brings her expertise in social work and personal experiences with mental health challenges to the podcast, providing valuable insights and support. Episode Summary: In this episode of the "It's a Tough Subject" podcast, hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel engage in a thought-provoking dialogue touching on mental health challenges—particularly depression and suicide prevention. They provide personal anecdotes and professional insights, contributing to the understanding of this complex issue. Through their discussions, Dennis and Jessica emphasize the importance of creating open conversations around mental health and sharing personal stories. The episode delves into various statistics and theories regarding the increase of suicides during the spring, the influence of allergens, exercises like running for mental stability, and the efficacy of zero suicide initiatives in healthcare settings. Dennis also shares daily prompts from a Google alert about suicide-related news, sparking conversations on recent trends and industry-specific approaches to mental health. The hosts candidly discuss personal experiences while balancing serious themes with light-hearted moments, aiming to influence and support listeners in recognizing the importance of mental health awareness. Key Takeaways: Spring Suicides: Contrary to popular belief, suicides increase during spring rather than the holiday season, potentially due to weather changes and allergen exposure. Mental Health Touchpoints: Initiatives like zero suicide in healthcare seek to reduce suicides by focusing on routine doctor visits as crucial touchpoints for identifying individuals at risk. Personal Empowerment: Engaging in challenging activities can significantly boost self-esteem and combat mental health challenges. Pharmacy Awareness: Pharmacists play a vital role in suicide prevention due to their interactions with patients managing mental health medication. Stigma Reduction: Addressing and talking openly about mental health can reduce stigma and empower individuals to seek help. Notable Quotes: "Spring is the toughest season for suicides. People think it's the holidays, but it's actually springtime." - Dennis Gillan "I just decided to do everything that scared me or that I didn't think I was going to be able to do to prove to myself that I can do hard things." - Jessica Seel "It's a form of rejection... but losing somebody to suicide knocked my confidence way down." - Dennis Gillan "Everyone loves a good comeback. Everybody's recovering from something." - Dennis Gillan "Hopefully, our world and science start to really depend on people like us that have lived it." - Jessica Seel Resources: Zero Suicide Initiative TEDx Talk by Sue Klebold Construction Industry's Mental Health Initiative: Prevent Construction Suicide Join Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel as they navigate the challenging terrain of mental health discussions. Their experiences and insights make this an episode worth listening to. 

About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan: Dennis is a co-host of "It's a Tough Subject" and an advocate for mental health awareness through his role at the Half a Sorrow Foundation. He is a seasoned speaker, particularly in the area of suicide prevention and postvention, using his personal experiences to connect with audiences and drive meaningful conversations around this crucial topic. Jessica Seel: Co-host of "It's a Tough Subject," Jessica holds an undergraduate degree in social work and works within the behavioral health space. Jessica has personal experiences with suicide loss, which fuels her passion for engaging in these difficult but necessary discussions. Episode Summary: In this episode of "It's a Tough Subject," hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel delve into the intricate subject of suicide prevention and postvention, emphasizing the importance of communal support and shared experiences. The duo explores their own histories with suicide loss, candidly discussing the emotional aftermath and the breadth of feelings that accompany such experiences. Dennis shares his recent participation at the Kevin Song conference, a gathering aimed at suicide prevention, highlighting his keynote address and the invaluable insights gained from contributors, both clinicians and people with lived experience. The episode brings to light the heavy yet crucial subject of grief associated with suicide loss, advancing dialogues about the tangible items that hold emotional connections to loved ones lost to suicide. The hosts discuss the societal impact and stigma surrounding suicide, revealing their personal journeys of grief and resilience. They emphasize the need for open discussions and the creation of support networks, stressing how collective efforts can lead to more effective preventive measures against suicide. Notably, Dennis and Jessica articulate the essence of their mission: transforming adversity into advocacy and bringing mental health challenges to the forefront of public discourse. Key Takeaways: Suicide prevention requires a collective approach, integrating scientific research with personal stories and community outreach. The complex grief from suicide loss can manifest in various ways, including emotional connections to material belongings of the deceased. Societal stigma surrounding suicide and mental health must be dismantled through education and open conversations. Postvention is a critical element of suicide prevention, emphasizing the need for immediate support to reduce the risk of additional suicides within affected communities. Engaging in difficult discussions about mental health can provide healing and understanding, fostering a sense of community among those affected. Notable Quotes: "If you ask somebody that question, they say just okay. That's an invitation for further conversation." – Dennis Gillan "This room had a different feel to it than the day before...these were all the survivors of suicide loss in the room." – Dennis Gillan "Grief comes in many different forms. But grief from a suicide loss is so complicated." – Jessica Seel "That was the ultimate taboo growing up in the 80s...just open conversations help break that stigma." – Dennis Gillan "There was hope in that message because someone out there listening may be in raw." – Dennis Gillan Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: The organization through which Dennis Gillan advocates for suicide prevention and mental health awareness. Kevin Song Conference: A major annual event focused on suicide prevention efforts, bringing together experts from various fields. NAMI New Hampshire: Known for their training and advocacy work in mental health. Listeners are encouraged to delve deeper into this rich discussion by tuning into the full episode. Stay connected for more enlightening conversations aimed at addressing the co

About the Guest(s): Dennis Gillan, the Executive Director of the Half a Sorrow Foundation, a non-profit organization committed to raising awareness and preventing suicide, and his co-host Jessica Seel. Dennis is an experienced speaker in mental health advocacy following the loss of two brothers to suicide. Together with Jessica, who has also experienced personal loss, they utilize the podcast to support mental health initiatives. Episode Summary: Season two of "It's a Tough Subject" kicks off with Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel reflecting on the success of their first season and introducing new ideas for the podcast moving forward. They share the emotional impact of receiving feedback from listeners, including a story of a woman in California connecting with them amid her grief. This episode explores the challenges of dealing with personal trauma and the power of human connection in healing. Dennis discusses his experiences with postvention work, emphasizing the significance of offering a compassionate ear to those affected by suicide. Throughout the episode, Dennis and Jessica candidly talk about their personal struggles with depression, referencing how physical activities like tennis and running aid mental health. They reveal plans for this season, hinting at including guests who have inspiring stories of redemption and healing. The hosts aim to broaden the conversation about mental health, blending humor and vulnerability with serious discussions about suicide prevention. With goals of integrating more voices and stories into their podcast, Dennis and Jessica strive to create an inclusive community for listeners, advocating for mental wellness and breaking down the stigma surrounding mental health issues. Key Takeaways: The impactful story of a listener who reached out after hearing the podcast highlights the importance of offering support and feeling heard. Exercise and physical activity are significant elements in managing mental health and coping with trauma. Vulnerability in sharing personal stories can make a room feel safe for others to open up about their own struggles. The upcoming season will feature guests with diverse experiences in mental health to inspire hope and demonstrate resilience. Mindfulness when speaking about mental health can prevent unintentional hurtful comments and promote understanding. Notable Quotes: "Postvention is prevention." – Dennis Gillan "If you could put exercise in a pill, we'd all take it." – Jessica Seel "The vulnerability we show as humans is really important." – Jessica Seel "We made our misery our mission, and this podcast will help." – Dennis Gillan "It's a lifelong healing when you lose someone to suicide." – Jessica Seel Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation Kevin's Song Conference in Detroit, Michigan Upcoming one-man show in Greenville, South Carolina on March 18th, titled "It's a Tough Subject Live." Listen to the full episode for more insightful discussions and stay tuned for an inspiring season of hope and resilience on the podcast.  

About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan is a mental health advocate and speaker dedicated to suicide prevention. After personally experiencing the loss of two brothers to suicide, Dennis shifted his focus towards aiding individuals and communities in understanding and addressing mental health issues. He frequently speaks at colleges and companies, sharing his journey and insights to foster open conversations about mental health, trauma, and healing. Jessica Seel is an advocate for mental health awareness and suicide prevention. She joins Dennis in their collective mission to destigmatize mental health struggles and promote effective dialogue and support systems. Jessica brings a personal perspective to the conversation, sharing experiences of loss and coping strategies while emphasizing the importance of community and self-reflection. Episode Summary: In this powerful episode, Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel delve into the complex topics of grief, trauma, and healing on "It's a Tough Subject" podcast. Both hosts openly share their personal stories of loss due to suicide and how these experiences have impacted their lives and work. The episode shines a light on the broader human experience of trauma, exploring how it affects everyone differently and discussing various coping mechanisms that can help along the way. Throughout the discussion, Dennis and Jessica emphasize the universality of grief and the significance of acknowledging anniversaries of loss, or "sadiversaries." They share ways they've learned to navigate these difficult days, from volunteering to celebrating life in new ways. The episode critically examines the notion of finding purpose and meaning in trauma, delving into philosophical reflections on existence, suffering, and faith. With thought-provoking insights and personal anecdotes, they invite listeners to consider their own journeys through adversity and the possibilities for healing and growth. Key Takeaways: Grief and trauma are universal experiences that can bring people closer or create division within relationships and families. Acknowledging "sadiversaries" through acts of celebration or volunteer work can transform the experience of loss into an opportunity for healing and connection. Trauma can shape individuals, leading them to discover resilience and purpose that might otherwise remain untapped. Embracing the notion that existence entails suffering can help individuals navigate difficult emotions with more acceptance and understanding. Being vulnerable about past experiences allows for greater empathy and connection in personal and public conversations about mental health. Resources: https://halfasorrow.org/ https://dennisgillan.com/ Stephen Colbert Interview with Anderson Cooper "Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People" (Book) "The View from Halfway Down" - Poem from BoJack Horseman episode https://youtu.be/u1_EBSlnDlU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sFH4uEvpA-4 The View From Halfway Down The weak breeze whispers nothing the water screams sublime. His feet shift, teeter-totter deep breaths, stand back, it's time. Toes untouch the overpass soon he's water-bound. Eyes locked shut but peek to see the view from halfway down. A little wind, a summer sun a river rich and regal. A flood of fond endorphins brings a calm that knows no equal. You're flying now, you see things much more clear than from the ground. It's all okay, or it would be were you not now halfway down. Thrash to break from gravity what now could slow the drop? All I'd give for toes to touch the safety back at top. But this is it, the deed is done silence drowns the sound. Before I leaped I should've seen the view from halfway down. I really should've thought about the view from halfway down. I wish I could've known about the view from halfway down— Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences with grief and trauma and consider how they can honor and grow from these challenges. For more insights and shared journeys of healing, tune into the following episodes, where Dennis and Jessica continue to tackle tough yet vital conversations in mental health and beyond.

In this emotionally poignant episode of the "Tough Subject" podcast, Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seal tackle the challenging yet crucial topic of dealing with anniversaries of loved ones lost to suicide, or as they term it, "sadiversaries." Airing in October, a significant month for both hosts due to their personal losses, Dennis and Jessica open up about their own experiences and provide listeners with heartfelt advice and insights on navigating such painful memories. Centered around grief, trauma, and recovery, the discussion highlights how these anniversaries can be both a source of pain and a catalyst for change. Dennis and Jessica dive deep into the importance of acknowledging and processing grief while also offering strategies to remember and celebrate the lives of those lost. Through their conversation, they emphasize that grief can linger for years but can also transform into a mission for helping others. The episode is a powerful reminder of the complexity of human emotions and the resilience required to turn personal tragedy into a force for good. Key Takeaways: Dealing with Sadiversaries: Both Dennis and Jessica share personal stories of how they confront and cope with the anniversaries of their loved ones' deaths by suicide. The Weight of Grief and Trauma: They discuss the continued impact of grief and trauma years after losing a loved one and the subconscious ways it can manifest in everyday life. Transforming Pain into Mission: Jessica and Dennis highlight how their personal losses have driven them to advocacy and education, turning their grief into a mission to prevent future tragedies. Anniversary Activities: Suggestions for observing anniversaries include taking the day off to grieve, celebrating the life of the deceased, and engaging in reflective and creative activities. Support and Healing: The hosts encourage listeners to support each other, highlighting that healing includes remembering positive moments and cherishing good memories. Notable Quotes: "Every year it gets easier, but what I realized this week is my subconscious is still hurting." - Jessica Seel "These problems you have right now are bad, but they get better." - Dennis Gillan "So your misery has become your mission." - Dennis Gillan reflecting on a pivotal understanding in his work. "We suffered one of the toughest losses on the planet, a loss by suicide." - Dennis Gillan "Think of it as celebrating their life." - Dennis Gillan on how to approach anniversaries of loved ones lost. Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: Learn more about the foundation led by Dennis Gillan here. Mental Health Support and Strategies: For additional coping strategies, consider mental health resources provided by local support organizations.

 Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan is a renowned speaker and mental health advocate dedicated to suicide prevention. With personal experience of loss through suicide, Dennis transformed his grief into a mission, spreading awareness and hope. He started his own foundation and speaks at numerous conferences and events, sharing his deeply moving journey and advice. Jessica Seel has likewise experienced the immense loss of a loved one to suicide. As a dedicated advocate focusing on mental health and substance use disorder prevention, Jessica uses her experiences to educate and support others, especially through her involvement in various initiatives and speaking engagements. She combines her personal journey with professional insight to help the community at large. Episode Summary: In this compelling episode of "It's A Tough Subject," Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel delve into the profound and often neglected topic of suicide loss survivors. They introduce their podcast, aptly named for its heavy yet essential discussions, encapsulating their personal experiences with suicide losses. Both Dennis and Jessica share their deeply personal stories, reflecting on their journeys toward healing and resilience, and the importance of open conversations about mental health. Throughout the episode, keywords such as "suicide prevention," "mental health advocacy," "grief," and "healing" are central to their discussions. Dennis opens up about attending the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention's (AFSP) Long-Term Survivors of Suicide Loss Summit in Austin, where he met like-minded individuals and professionals. He recounts his emotional moments at the summit and shares insights from various speakers, connecting them back to his personal experiences. Jessica relates these moments to her own journey, emphasizing concepts like "soul exhaustion" and the ripple effect of suicide, and how these affect long-term survivors. Key Takeaways: The significance of creating open dialogues about mental health and suicide prevention. Personal stories and coping strategies from Dennis and Jessica as long-term survivors of suicide loss. Insights from the AFSP Long-Term Survivors of Suicide Loss Summit, including discussions on grief, empathy, and establishing boundaries. The importance of professional and community support in healing from the trauma of suicide. The ripple effect of suicide and how it impacts not only families but also the broader community and emergency responders. Notable Quotes: "Grief just jumps on your back." - Dennis Gillan "Do you ever feel like you're almost pushing so hard, and this is the later result of this long-term loss that you just have to do it, do it, do it?" - Jessica Seel "If not you, then Dennis, then who? If not you, Jessica, then who?" - Dennis Gillan "You need a therapist, you need a professional. But every now and then, if someone needs their handheld, I will answer the call." - Dennis Gillan "Hang in there, folks. You can do it. We're your people." - Jessica Seel Resources: American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Sue Klebold's TED Talk, 2016 Dennis Gillan's Foundation and Speaking Engagements AFSP Healing Conversations Program Stay tuned for more enlightening conversations on "It's A Tough Subject," where we confront difficult topics with empathy, support, and actionable advice. Listening to these shared experiences can provide valuable insights and comfort, knowing you are not alone in facing these challenges.  

Show Notes Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan: Dennis is the Founder and Executive Director of the Half A Sorrow Foundation, dedicated to suicide prevention and mental health advocacy through storytelling, community engagement, and education. With over a decade of personal experience, Dennis is a prominent speaker in the field, sharing his journey and insights to help others. Jessica Seel: Jessica is the co-host of the "It's a Tough Subject" podcast, collaborating with Dennis Gillan to address and navigate sensitive topics related to suicide loss and mental health. Jessica's personal experience as a long-term survivor of suicide loss drives her passion for shedding light on these critical issues. Episode Summary: In this impactful episode of the "It's a Tough Subject" podcast, host Dennis Gillan and co-host Jessica Seel, delve deep into the heartbreaking yet vital subject of suicide loss and mental health advocacy. They open with a powerful disclaimer warning listeners about the sensitive content, aiming to foster a safe, supportive environment while discussing these challenging topics. Dennis and Jessica share their personal experiences as long-term survivors of suicide loss, emphasizing how such traumatic events can redefine one's life and identity. Throughout the episode, they explore the importance of creating a safety plan, building a supportive tribe, and the role of social connections in mental health. Emphasizing the value of community, Dennis mentions the upcoming long-term survivors meeting by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) in Austin, Texas, and reflects on the importance of these gatherings. Jessica highlights how essential it is to combat loneliness and nurture a sense of purpose, drawing parallels with insights from the Netflix documentary on blue zones. They both advocate for the necessity of supportive networks in healing and stress that suicide is preventable with the right intervention and support systems. Key Takeaways: Importance of Safety Plans: Having a safety plan is crucial for individuals struggling with mental health, providing a structured approach to seek help and stay safe. Building a Tribe: Emphasizes the significance of social connections in mental health, highlighting how a supportive community can make a difference in someone's recovery journey. Long-term Survivor Insights: Dennis and Jessica share personal stories, offering valuable perspectives on living as long-term survivors of suicide loss. Role of Social Media: Discusses the impact of social media on mental health, noting both positive and negative aspects. Purpose and Healing: Explores how finding purpose and engaging in meaningful activities can aid in the mental health recovery process. Notable Quotes: "When you have a trauma like that, it sort of defines you in a sense. It's like a different marker in your history." - Dennis Gillan "You made your misery your mission." - Dennis Gillan Resources: Half A Sorrow Foundation: https://halfasorrow.org/ American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP): https://afsp.org/ Blue Zones Documentary on Netflix Dennis Gillan's TEDx Talk on Loneliness (Episode 1) Tune in to the full episode for an insightful discussion on mental health, the significance of community support, and practical steps on how to build a safety plan. Stay connected for more enlightening content that aims to make a difference.  

About the Host: Dennis Gillan is the Founder and Executive Director of the Half a Sorrow Foundation. With a mission of providing support for those affected by suicide loss, Dennis channels his personal experiences into advocating for mental health and suicide prevention. He turned his profound grief over losing two brothers to suicide into a passion for helping others share their sorrows and find healing, embodying his foundation's motto: "A shared joy is a double joy. A shared sorrow is half a sorrow." Episode Summary: In this emotional and powerful episode, Dennis Gillan shares his heart-wrenching journey through the loss of his two brothers to suicide and his work with the Half a Sorrow Foundation. With raw honesty, Dennis recounts the devastating impact these losses had on his life and the path he took to become a beacon of hope for others suffering from similar tragedies. Dennis reflects on the 30th anniversary of his brother Matthew's death by suicide, sharing the haunting details and the emotional aftermath that followed. He also discusses the pervasive guilt and pain that suicide leaves in its wake and the importance of addressing mental health and preventing access to lethal means. Through his experiences, Dennis emphasizes the critical need for support networks and the transformative power of sharing one's grief. Key Takeaways: Anniversaries of Loss: Dennis shares the profound sense of grief and struggle that accompanies anniversaries of his brothers' suicides. Complicated Grief: The lingering feelings of guilt and shame that suicide survivors often carry, and the ways it impacts their lives. Gun Safety: The role of firearms in suicide and the importance of addressing this as a public safety issue. Coping Mechanisms: Dennis's personal journey towards sobriety as a part of his coping process with the loss of his brothers. Message of Hope: The importance of support, prevention, and reaching out to those who might be struggling with suicidal thoughts. Notable Quotes: "A shared joy is a double joy. A shared sorrow is half a sorrow." "Some anniversaries just suck. They just suck. This one sucks." "What was Matt thinking that night? And I wonder. I wonder if anyone who has ever died by suicide, all I can do is wonder, because they're not around to talk to them." "If I prevent one family from having to bury one person, it'll all be worth it, every damn bit of it." Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: https://halfasorrow.org/ For more insightful episodes and to stay updated on our latest content, be sure to subscribe and follow our podcast/webinar/series. Let's continue sharing, supporting, and creating awareness together.

Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan: Dennis Gillan is the Founder and Executive Director of the Half a Sorrow Foundation, an organization committed to suicide prevention and supporting survivors of suicide loss. With a personal history of losing two brothers to suicide, Dennis brings a deeply personal and passionate perspective to the cause. Through the foundation, he conducts talks, provides resources, and advocates for mental health awareness. Jessica Seel: Jessica Seel serves as our co-host and has made her misery her mission as well. Her day job focuses on promoting behavioral health policies and programs across rural communities. Jessica brings an intimate understanding of mental health issues, having lost her father to suicide at a young age. Episode Summary: In this enlightening episode of the "It's a Tough Subject" podcast, hosts Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel delve into the nuances of surviving suicide loss, mental health challenges, and the importance of community support. They begin with a solemn reminder of the gravity of the topic, emphasizing the need for awareness, empathy, and proactive measures in the face of rising suicide rates in America. Throughout the conversation, Dennis and Jessica explore key themes such as the impact of losing a loved one to suicide, the significance of self-care, and the multifaceted approach required in mental health treatment. They recount personal anecdotes that highlight the ripple effects of suicide and discuss how initiatives like the Camo Hat Club are fostering supportive spaces for men to discuss their mental health openly. Key Takeaways: Family Impact: The profound effect of suicide on surviving family members is discussed, emphasizing the need for community and familial support during such trying times. Self-Care Importance: Jessica and Dennis stress the essential role of self-care and personal wellbeing in managing mental health, sharing their own strategies and experiences. Community Support: The role of support groups like the Camo Hat Club in providing a safe space for individuals, particularly men, to express their struggles and receive peer support. Education & Advocacy: Highlighting the shortage of mental health professionals, they call for better support systems and educational initiatives to encourage more people to enter the field. Suicide Risk Factors: A discussion on various risk factors for suicide, including family history and transitional periods, and how being aware of these can help in prevention efforts. Notable Quotes: "I lost two brothers to suicide. One when I was 20, Matthew when I was 31." - Dennis Gillan "When it comes down to it...I do want to believe that if we had had more support from our community, things might have been different." - Jessica Seel "Mental health and suicide is a complicated problem, and it takes a complicated solution." - Dennis Gillan "It's okay to do that, to take care of ourselves, to have a little self-care." - Jessica Seel "We need more than just providers. We need camo hat clubs in every county." - Jessica Seel Resources: The Half a Sorrow Foundation: Learn more about Dennis's mission, book talks, and find resources.  

Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/  About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan Dennis Gillan is the Founder and Executive Director of the Half a Sorrow Foundation, an organization dedicated to suicide prevention and mental health awareness. As a passionate advocate for mental health, Dennis has turned his personal tragedies into a mission to help others. He has spoken extensively about suicide loss and the importance of mental health support. Jessica Seel Jessica Seel serves as our co-host and has made her misery her mission as well. Her day job focuses on promoting behavioral health policies and programs across rural communities. Jessica brings an intimate understanding of mental health issues, having lost her father to suicide at a young age. Episode Summary: In this poignant episode of "It's a Tough Subject," Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel delve into their personal stories as survivors of suicide loss and discuss the importance of addressing such a challenging topic. Dennis and Jessica, who have both lost close family members to suicide, provide a unique and heartfelt dialogue about their struggles and the path to healing. They emphasize the significance of mental health conversations and the therapeutic role of community and support networks. Throughout the episode, Dennis shares insights about the "Camo Hat Club," a monthly gathering of men focused on checking in on each other's mental health. He highlights the critical need for men to open up about their mental well-being given that men account for 80% of all suicides. Jessica touches on her coping mechanisms, including her love for animals and her journey to finding her voice in speaking out about her experiences. Together, they discuss the complexities of grief, the stigma surrounding mental health, and the necessity of creating safe spaces for these difficult conversations. Key Takeaways: Importance of Mental Health Conversations: Dennis and Jessica stress the need to talk openly about mental health and suicide loss to break the stigma and foster understanding. Camo Hat Club: Dennis explains how this initiative serves as a vital touchpoint for men to discuss their mental health regularly, emphasizing the high suicide rates among men. Coping Mechanisms: Jessica discusses her love for animals as a critical part of her healing process and urges others to find what comforts them. Post-Trauma Behaviors: Both hosts reflect on their unhealthy coping mechanisms following their losses and emphasize the significance of forgiving oneself for these behaviors. Role of Community and Support: They highlight how crucial it is to have a community or support system to navigate through the pain and find healing. Notable Quotes: "It's a tough subject. Nobody wants to talk about it." – Dennis Gillan "You have to ask pointed questions, too. If you really feel something, you don't say, 'Just checking in on you.' If you feel like someone's in danger, you say point blank, 'Are you trying to hurt yourself?'" – Jessica Seel "When your miseries become your mission, it's a good fatigue." – Dennis Gillan "Why would you blame a sick person? They're not a bad person; they're a sick person." – Jessica Seel "We are proof, and it's a tough subject, but there is life on the other side." – Dennis Gillan Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation South Carolina Office of Rural Health Mental Health First Aid Fox Carolina Encourage yourself to explore more about mental health and suicide prevention by listening to this powerful episode. Stay tuned for more insightful content from "It's a Tough Subject."  

Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Hosts: Dennis Gillan is the Founder and Executive Director of the Half a Sorrow Foundation. With a focus on mental health advocacy, Dennis promotes the proverb, "A shared joy is a double joy; a shared sorrow is half a sorrow," to drive home the importance of community in grief. He has a personal connection to his work, having lost two brothers to suicide, which he now uses as a driving force to help others through speaking and outreach initiatives. Jessica Seel serves as our co-host and has made her misery her mission as well. Her day job focuses on promoting behavioral health policies and programs across rural communities. Jessica brings an intimate understanding of mental health issues, having lost her father to suicide at a young age. Episode Summary: In this powerful introductory episode, Dennis Gillan and Jessica Seel dive deep into their personal stories of loss and resilience. Both having lost close family members to suicide, they discuss the complexities of this unique form of grief, emphasizing the importance of community and open conversations about mental health. They aim to dismantle the stigma associated with suicide and provide a platform for survivors to share their experiences. Dennis and Jessica also delve into the societal challenges surrounding mental health, particularly the shame and self-medication often tied to traumatic experiences. They highlight the contrast between the general public's recognition of physical illnesses and the lack of support for mental health struggles. This episode sets the stage for future discussions aimed at breaking the silence around mental health and building a supportive community for those affected. Key Takeaways: The Importance of Sharing: "A shared joy is a double joy; a shared sorrow is half a sorrow." Sharing personal grief can significantly alleviate the burden. Complexity of Suicide Grief: Both Dennis and Jessica stress that suicide grief is uniquely complicated, often accompanied by a myriad of 'would have, could have, should have' questions. Resilience and Healing: Despite the pain, healing is possible, and discussing mental health openly can play a crucial role in recovery. Breaking Stigma: Both speakers call for a shift in societal attitudes, advocating for the same level of support for mental health issues as is given to physical illnesses. Community and Connection: The hosts emphasize the value of building supportive networks and using platforms like this podcast to foster dialogue and community support. Notable Quotes: "A shared joy is a double joy; a shared sorrow is half a sorrow." — Dennis Gillan "Suicide comes with this baggage of would have, could have, and should have, and it stays with us for the rest of our lives." — Dennis Gillan "Healing is possible for folks like us." — Jessica Seal "Sometimes I want to go there and, like, cry it out. Other times, like, oh, not now. No, not now." — Dennis Gillan "Isolation can kill." — Jessica Seel Resources: Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ Book "A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss" (book referenced by Dennis Gillan)  

Half a Sorrow Foundation: www.halfasorrow.org Book a Talk with Dennis Gillan: https://halfasorrow.org/book-a-talk/ Make a Donation: https://halfasorrow.org/support-our-work/ About the Speaker: Dennis Gillan is the founder and executive director of the Half a Sorrow Foundation. Driven by personal loss and a heartbreaking journey through grief, Dennis has dedicated his life to suicide prevention and mental health advocacy. The Half a Sorrow Foundation focuses on providing resources, support, and education to combat loneliness and suicidal ideation, endeavoring to make a significant impact on public mental health. Episode Summary: In this powerful and insightful episode, Dennis Gillan, the Founder and Executive Director of the Half a Sorrow Foundation, shares his deeply personal and professional journey in dealing with mental health issues, particularly relating to suicide and loneliness. With a focus on raising awareness and providing solutions, Dennis delves into the alarming statistics of loneliness and suicide globally and his efforts through the Half a Sorrow Foundation to create connection and support systems. Dennis paints a stark picture of loneliness by referencing both a poignant Japanese documentary, "Dying Alone," and notable actions taken by other countries, such as the appointment of a "minister of loneliness" in the United Kingdom. Drawing upon extensive research and personal experiences, Dennis discloses alarming data from an extensive survey on American loneliness and underscores the detrimental health effects that mirror those of smoking. He offers tangible strategies to combat loneliness, emphasizing real-world interactions, community engagement, and professional help. This episode is a call to action, urging listeners to connect and support each other in a world where loneliness can have fatal consequences. Key Takeaways: Global Issue: Loneliness is a significant problem worldwide, underscored by Japan's "Kodokushi" phenomenon and the UK's appointment of a "minister of loneliness." Alarming Statistics: Nearly 46% of Americans feel alone sometimes or always, highlighting an urgent public health concern that equates loneliness with the detrimental effects of smoking. Practical Solutions: Engage in real-life social interactions, reduce the number of strangers in your life, and seek professional help if needed. Take Action: Simple acts like volunteering, signing up for classes, and breaking bread with others can profoundly impact combating loneliness.