It's Not Me, It's You. (INMIY.)

I RAN A MARATHON!!! YES I DID, I DID IT AND I AM SO F********N PROUD!!! And I would absolutely still be wearing my medal if I didn't care what people thought of me doing that hahaha...I'm working on it. In today's episode I give you the deets an insight into my marathon experience, including my training and things I want to work on for my future fitness. IN THE SECOND PART OF THE EPISODE, I talk about those dreams you have that are currently hidden behind a mask of fear and what to do about that! LET'S GOOOOO!!!ENJOY xoxo INMIY xoxo P.S. I am a marathon runner xoxo

Might just f**k around and reach my potential, you with me? Give me one good reason why you can't...send me a message on Insta: @itsnotmeitsyouthepodcastYour potential is everywhere, we have many different "us-shaped" potential holes out there, just like passions, we don't have to be top of the class for everything, we just have to try those things that bring us enjoyment. Send this to someone who needs a brain hug, a pep in their step and that little butt-kick to get started to finding their potential. Don't forget to hit the "follow" button, send me a message on Instagram and share this episode!ENJOY! INMIY xoxo

We ALL do it, that moment we look at someone else who has something we desire and then BOOM all our amazing efforts and achievements suddenly fall to shit because "we don't look like them" or "we aren't as good as them". When, actually, we've just run 33k or we've just completed a hard math equation or baked a cake we've been trying to master for months! Our amazingness doesn't get blown to shit just because someone else is also amazing, we can all exist and be amazing. We need to work on how we manage our goals and aims, rather than comparing ourselves and feeling shit about ourselves. So, our homework is:What are we dialling in: Focus - what are we focusing on, what are your goals?What are we going to dial up: Reading, journaling, practice running, writing, mindfulness, "me-time", volunteering, re-writing and challenging negative thoughts, being with loved-ones?What are we going to dial down: Screen time, comparison, negative self-talk.If we concentrate on the above more, chances are we will have less time to compare and more time focusing on what we want to put into our lives. Let's check-in next week! Happy listening pea-podsINMIY xoxo

We think that just because we're not children anymore, we don't have anymore growing to do...wrong. We are continuously learning, we might not like to admit it, but we are. We don't know everything - and that's ok! We're not supposed to, that's the fun of trying new things, even though we label ourselves as "bad at something" if it's new. We are supposed to evolve, grow, change. We are not "done changing" just because we are adults, that is actually the prime time we should look at ourselves and ask what needs to change? Don't be afraid to be seen trying - BIG BRAIN HUGS XXEnjoy, rate the pod and send this to everyone you know.LOVE AND HUGS,INMIY xoxo

My lovely angels, here is my link to my charity donation page, for my marathon! ALL contributions are greatly appreciated and it means I will be running with your support: ⁠https://socialsync.app/fundraiser/cr-9mkx6dl8wkjym?currentTab=feed⁠⁠Fives reasons why you’re single:You know you’re worth and will not settle for anything less than pure magicYou have so much love around you that your friends have set the bar on love super highIt’s a choice, you won’t settle, you know you’re worth and you know you can make your life your own love storyYou know that being with someone does not make you any more valuable You’re still getting to know yourself, your needs, your reactions and how you need to be loved, and how to give that love to yourself first.Being single is not a disease or something to be ashamed of, it is a great time to be alive and to get to know yourself! I know society can ram it down our throats that finding a partner is the best way to cruise through life, but babe, finding yourself first means that you don't settle for shit, knowing your worth means that you treat yourself with respect and recognise when someone isn't showing you the respect you deserve. You deserve love, so start showing yourself the love you need and see what happens. ENJOY and send this to a friend xoxoINMIY xoxo The book I mention is: Catherine Gray - The Unexpected Joy of Being Single. (A must read).

Head Noise: I've been giving myself a hard time because I don't look like Margot Robbie, I know, wtf. I was literally living my best life in Aldi and then BOOM head noise comes in full blast like "hey girl so you don't look like that woman who you deem as beautiful so basically you're not beautiful". We all need to listen to this episode, it'll give you a brain hug and it'll make you feel less alone on those negative automatic thoughts we all have. Pop in your headphones, go for that walk, play it in your car, in your kitchen whilst you're cooking up a meal, wherever you are, give it a listen. P.S. Still not over the beautiful intensity of Wuthering Heights xoxoShare, follow and send me a message! Instagram: @itsnotmeitsyouthepodcast - say hello!Coffee co. I mention: @auscoffeeculture - check them out!Enjoy! INMIY xoxo

I knowww I have been silent recently, I'm so sorry, life has been a little bit busy the last couple of weeks, so thank you for being patient. HERE is the newest episode all about stepping into ourselves. We so rarely realise that we can actually, at any given moment, decide to be the person we want to be. I talk through steps we can take right now, to be the person we want to be. I talk about negative self-talk and give you that big brain hug you need in order to step into the self you know you can be.Listen, share, rate, message me, LOVE YOU ALL!ENJOY, INMIY xoxo Instagram: @itsnotmeitsyouthepodcast

We've all done it, we've centred the person we're texting, our mood lifts when they text and plummets when they don't. We wonder if they like us, and rarely ask ourselves if we like them, or, why we like them. This isn't a man-hating chant, far from it, it's a self-love chant, it's about owning your boundaries, loving yourself, and learning how to centre yourself so that you can call in what's meant for you and know what's no longer benefiting you. You deserve to be the centre stage.ENJOY! INMIY xoxo P.S. It was INMIY's first birthday last Sunday and I couldn't be prouder!!! Thank you for your support, love and listening. xoxo

We think people want perfection, but what we really want is connection. People can’t access us if we’re trying to be perfect. We want others to be accessible so that we can connect. We wouldn’t use a fake wire to connect our WiFi, it ain’t gunna give us the connection we need. If we’re fake, we won’t connect with the people we need to, and we certainly won’t connect with ourselves. You deserve a good WiFi connection, and you deserve amazing human connections✌️🤎🎧

Love Bombing: we all think we know what it is, but do we know our own contributions to being a love bomber. The wonderful Emily Naylor and I talk through the different versions of love bombing, how it’s not all malicious and how we can manage it, recognise it and get in touch and strengthen our intuition. This is a MUST listen for everyone - I thoroughly enjoyed making this episode, thanks so much Em!🤎Instagram:@itsnotmeitsyouthepodcast @solbyemily Free Human Design resource: https://freehumandesignchart.com/bodygraph-results/#chartThis website produces your human design chart in pdf format which you can pop into ChatGPT for a further explanation. Please hit the "follow" button on Spotify and Apple and share this with your friends and family, lovers and dates. Send me a DM on the pod Instagram and enjoy the episode!ENJOY! INMIY xoxo

I honestly think this is my best episode yet, there is so much juice squeezed into this! 🤎Head noise: we all know it, it can be that negative voice that comes from ourselves, to ourselves, yuck. I explore ways to turn the volume down, dial into a more positive frequency, how to actually learn from the things we go through AND I even sing. Enjoy my loves! And here is to a happy and healthy New Year💋🤎🍇

Support: How to give it and how to receive it.Giving and Receiving Support can feel tough/odd/difficult at times, I’m running through some tips to make receiving and giving support that more accessible. Because we all need support and we all need to give it. So let’s give ourselves and those around us, the support we all need. Pop this episode in whilst you’re on your walk, cooking dinner or on the go! Slide into the DM’s and say hi! Instagram: @itsnotmeitsyouthepodcast AND send through any topics you'd like to discuss and hear!Here are the charities that offer free support, for both Australia and UK:Australia:Lifeline: 13 11 14 - available 24 hours Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 Black Dog Institute: (02) 9382 4530UK:Samaritans: 116 123 for free 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.James’ Place: Liverpool: +44 151 303 5757London:+44 20 3488 8404The Listening Place: +44203 906 7676

Episode 40!!!No wonder you’re not loving yourself or your body, you’re constantly given ways to “fix yourself” - basically telling us that we’re “not quite right” No one knows how to be you, only you do, you know what it feels like to feel beautiful, you know how to make yourself feel that way, so don’t let others get in the way, don’t let beauty standards give you limits. Here’s the hug you know you need. Listen, follow and send me a DM!Link to the cream that is helping my eczema right now!https://www.chemistwarehouse.com.au/buy/92104/avene-xeracalm-a-d-lipid-replenishing-balm-400ml?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22045720274&gbraid=0AAAAADsSoYE5OH-kL6ydU4Tnp_E1xFBi0&gclid=CjwKCAiA0eTJBhBaEiwA-Pa-hbV8_wMHDFtrMoTHeL1CcGbPprKlkYer7NJ9tlIKwked13YbWqlS1xoCA6MQAvD_BwE

You have everything you need to excel your way into 2026, whether that be at the speed of light, or at your own loving pace, you have what you need to be the person you want to be, and build the empire you want, in 2026.We're not faffing around anymore, it's go time. We're using December to reflect so that we can break away from toxic cycles and step into the bad ass we know we are! Hit 'follow' and share this with a fellow bad-ass.INMIY. xoxo

Do you ever feel like you want to do something but you're just not doing it? Same babe. I'm wanting to grow this podcast but I keep stopping myself from posting on socials, why? Fear of rejection, not being perfect, not getting a heap of views and likes, to name but a few. Honestly though, we need to take that leap of faith, and it probably won't be a masterpiece or receive 10,000 likes the first go, but the first step is what needs to happen before the masterpiece. So let's get out of our own way!INMIY. xoxo

Feeling itchy, restless, frustrated? Yeh I hear you. Honestly, those feelings can be a sign of needing and wanting to do more of the things you love. Sometimes we become frustrated with how our life is because we're just not doing the things we want to do. We get restless because we're fed-up, sometimes these feelings are a SIGN that we need to fill our life with the things that make us happy, that we're actually not currently doing. It's like anxiety can be helpful - it pushes us to study for that test we're nervous for. Feeling restless can have the same affect, it can push us towards doing more fulfilling things, rather than just staying in one place!HIT THE FOLLOW BOTTON, SHARE AND ENJOY!INMIY. xxx

Dating tips and advice from your gal. Are you putting your ‘best self’ forward or are you actually showing who you truly are, yes, the goofy parts too. Does your profile reflect different parts of your personality? I hope this gives you a calmer and more excited approach to dating and yourself. Being honest with what we want from our future partner, from dating, and from ourselves will lead to finding what is actually beneficial and meant for us. Life is for going out there and experiencing new things, making opportunities and finding things and people we love. So are you doing what you can to contribute to a healthy love life?Link to the I Am app I mentioned: https://theiam.app ENJOY! INMIY xoxo

😎EP35: The Gap. No, not the store or the thigh gap. The gap between where we are and where we want to be - that uncomfortable gap. That gap that can make us give up easily, self-sabotage and make us create an even bigger gap because we’re not utilising what we have RIGHT NOW. 3,2,1 step into who you want to be, not kidding, do it right NOW🍯😎ENJOY! INMIY. X

YES you ARE! How to make yourself a priority and how finding my goal and working towards it has really pushed me to put myself FIRST!Honestly, since finding this purpose and goal, I've had to put myself first if I want to do well at it, if I truly want to achieve what I know I can achieve with this, I have to put myself first. It's like I've automatically created boundaries, stepped into a more confident self and care less what others think. Don't get me wrong, the still caring is there, but it's less because what I think of myself comes first. PLEASE DONATE TO SAMARITAN'S CHARITY FOR MY RUN - LINK HERE: https://socialsync.app/fundraiser/cr-9mkx6dl8wkjym?currentTab=feedYOU'RE THE BEST!INMIY. X

You should be the best sex you've ever had, you should absolutely 110% know how to please yourself physically and mentally. When you do, you know how good it can be, so why settle for anything less than? Why settle for people who don't cheer you on, know your coffee order or ask how you like it in bed? I bet you can't answer me that. I'm not saying you shouldn't lean on others for things, or that you should be hyper-independent and live alone the rest of your life, but I am saying that you shouldn't settle for anything less than your best, don't depend on or settle for less than when you can give yourself the best.Happy listening, INMIY. XPLEASE DONATE TO SAMARITAN'S CHARITY, FOR MY MARATHON! https://socialsync.app/fundraiser/cr-9mkx6dl8wkjym?currentTab=feedTHANK YOU SO MUCH XXX

YESS we can absolutely get caught up in that web of feeling we're not "hot" because we don't look like Chris Hemsworth BUTTTT I'm here to tell you that being HOT is more than aesthetics. Being HOT is about how you feel, how you make others feel and if you're actually staying true to yourself by smashing those goals, living your life and putting boundaries in. It's time to get hotter!SEND THIS TO ALL YOUR HOT PALS XBIG BRAIN HUGS,INMIY. X

Argh my loves, this is such a special episode because it's your voices that are on here. You're sharing with the world, what you would say to your younger self and it's such a privilege to be a part of this. We all have things we wish we'd known when we were younger, and things we would now like to say to our younger selves. Isn't hindsight a beautiful thing. But guess what? You have the amazing opportunity to say these things to yourself now, you can take whichever path feels right for you, right now. I hope you love yourself a little harder after listening to today's episode. BIG LOVE AND BRAIN HUGS,INMIY. X

EPISODE 30, I CANNOT BELIEVE IT! EEEEEK! It's so exciting and I love having you all on this It's Not Me It's You journey so thank you for all the support, listens and love! This episode is all about wanting everything right now and not realising our potential and opportunities in this moment, right now. The outcome is just a label, it doesn't yet exist, but what does exist is your life right now. I hear you, when you desire and want something so much, it's hard to let those thoughts go, but being consumed by them isn't conducive to living and enjoying yourself where you are now. It's the process that makes the magic, not the outcome. SO MUCH LOVE,INMIY. X

3 things to do when you're in a pickle. It's so easy to get consumed by our situations, experiences, what's going on around us and inside of us that we forget how to manage things and actually forget that things are doable, if we just do these 3 things. I can't wait for you to listen to this and pop these 3 things in your toolbox. Let me know how you go, rate the podcast, and slide into my DM's over on Instagram: @itsnotmeitsyou.pod BIG BRAIN HUGS,INMIY. x

Honestly, it's all about finding yourself really effin' cool, so cool you just love yourself so much that you do all the things that help you grow and benefit you. Of course there'll be things we do that aren't the best for us but we learn from them and grow. We often feel "stuck" in situations because we fear making the move that could better us but that means we're not stuck, we're just keeping ourselves in a known situation. Anything come to mind? Grab your earphones and get stuck in. Enjoy. INMIY. x

Ep27: Settling for Less but still expecting More. Feel seen? Listen to this weeks’ episode and send me a DM, leave a comment, share the episode🤎 The only thing we can expect to change for the better is ourselves. Raise the bar, know your worth, put yourself in situations that help you thrive🤎 INMIY. X

Trust me, we've all been there and hopefully you'll cut your membership to the seeking approval club after listening to this.Eergh, we all do it but honestly, sometimes it takes a choice or decision we make, that feels bold but in actuality it's just something we've done for ourselves with no one else's "permission" in the form of validation. We've done it because we feel cute, we've done it because we feel this is the best thing for us, or we've done it because we know we deserve to try something new. That's why it feels bold, not only have you broken out of your norm, but you've broken out of the habit of seeking permission to do so. It's time to use that energy to ask yourself what you want, rather than asking others. ENJOY.INMIY. xxx

Are you leading with love or with fear, and what's the difference? I promise you'll notice a big, huge, difference if you lead with love. It's time to be honest with ourselves and notice where in our lives we lead with love and where in our lives we let fear take the drivers' seat. I'm with you on this journey and I hope this gives you a huge hug.Enjoy, INMIY. x

Labels, we all have them and we all seek them and we're all given them. But do you know what yours are? Do you know how those labels dictate your behaviour and what you do or don't do in your life? It's time to take the labels off and learn who you really are. Let's go!Enjoy,INMIY. xoxo

Overthinking: we all do it. How do we stop it? Well, we learn why we're overthinking - what about that situation didn't sit right with us, and we learn how to manage it. Is it really as bad as you're telling yourself? I go into how people pleasing and overthinking go hand in hand and how overthinking just makes us feel worse about what actually happened. Instagram: @itsnotmeitsyou.podSend me selfies of where you're listening to the pod!

Listen to this episode if you need truth served with a big hug. Listen to it again and again, it's here whenever you need it.I love this trend, and trust me, you'll love listening to it. This title is pretty self-explanatory so I'll let it do the talking. Pop it in your ears and ENJOY.Remember, when the truth calls, answer honestly. HIT FOLLOW AND LEAVE A COMMENT XOXO

Living in the now and learning to detach from the things we want in life in order to live a richer here and now life.I absolutely have not nailed the art of detachment, but what I am focusing on is the beautiful life I have created for myself. The things that are meant to blossom in my life will come when the time is right, but right now the time is always right to focus on me. Main character energy, stepping into our higher-selves and discovering who we are again and again. That's pretty much detachment, maybe we are doing alright after all ;)ENJOY! xoxoINMIY. xBook I mention: “The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness” Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga.

A question I'm trying to rewrite at the moment is "what is the meaning of life?" and asking myself instead "what gives my life meaning?" and doing more of that. I talk about my own discomfort of settling in to being myself on the podcast and how not texting that person you're trying not to text is believing that you're worthy of the love and life you're heart desires. Book I’m currently reading and mention: “The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness” Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga.

I know there isn't such a thing as a "quick fix" but our non-negotiables can be a sure way to boost our mood. What are your top three things that you have to do in order to feel good? I talk about what others have on their list and why looking at our non-negotiables can be a quick and easy way to find a little spark of joy.Enjoy! INMIY.x

Square hole, triangle peg - or however the saying goes. Sometimes we try to make things fit, because it ticks *some* of our boxes, because we’re scared we won’t find better, because there’s nothing tangible and our gut feelings aren’t enough evidence for us to walk away from something. Get to know yourself then you’ll be confident enough to walk towards what’s better for you 🤎 Happy listening, INMIY. X 🤎

Validation. Yeh, I know you felt it. We crave it, we need it, we go after it, and we change ourselves for it. Why? To fit in. Why? So we know we are liked. Why? Because it makes us feel we're a good person. Does it? Do we really need other people, especially people who don't know us, to tell us that we're a good human? It's a basic human instinct to want to fit in, it means less enemies, more acceptance into the group dynamic which provides more protection, chances of reproduction and higher survival rates. But that was for when bees were the only thing that had the name "Bumble". Now we can explore our identity and different social groups through a wide variety of; sports, arts, crafts, and so forth... and we're not cavemen anymore. I get it, it feels uncomfortable when someone doesn't "like" us, but you know what's even more uncomfortable? Being someone you're not to try and impress someone you don't know, for the pure sake of getting 100/100 people to like you...let that sink in. I'd rather have soulmates than empty likes. Soulmates keep you warm, support you and encourage you to be YOU. Are you encouraging yourself to be more you? Or are you running around trying to get those empty likes?INMIY. X

Beauty is subjective so why do we try and fit into standards that other people set for us? It's not a scoring system, you don't have points deducted or awarded because you look or don't look a certain way, yet we treat ourselves and others like we're less than or more than based on how we look. There is only one you, and you can't compare your uniqueness to someone else's uniqueness, it scientifically doesn't work.You are beautiful as you.INMIY. X

This is your sign, right now, to take a step in the direction you want to be going in. And no, you don't need to know exactly where you want to go, just ask yourself how do you want to feel, and ask yourself what makes you feel that way - and start stepping in that direction!On this episode I talk about directions, comparison, purpose, identity and banana bread (the latter is used solely as a metaphor, no banana bread recipes here team soz). You are your own map, listen, trust and step.ENJOYINMIY. X

I get vulnerable here with talking about how my identity has been, and still is, wrapped up in me doing CrossFit, and how "slowing down" doesn't actually mean stopping or being any less productive.What does slowing down mean to you? What comes to mind when I say that; being lazy? stopping? These things may pop into your head but they're not necessarily true. Slowing down means truly listening to your body, respecting what it can achieve in the moment, asking what you need and meeting yourself where you are. Slowing down is productive, it's not a pause button on your progress, it's a pause on the unnecessary pressure you're putting yourself under. Let's press the slow down button and see how much better our productiveness gets.INMIY. x

Do not get me wrong, Australia is one of the most beautiful places on earth, but that doesn't mean you don't feel lost, lonely, disheartened and feel a constant undercurrent of not feeling settled. This is one for all my working holiday pals, you're not alone, I hear you. It's a struggle being rejected for work because of your visa, feeling like your friends and family are half way across the world, and literally having to 'start again' with building a new life. You're not alone and this one's for you xINMIY. x

Have you achieved something in your life that you're really proud of, but if you do something similar and it doesn't have the same great outcome, do you feel a bit defeated? Yes, well that's exactly what I'm talking about here.When we achieve something, sometimes this can then act as setting the bar for ourselves and anything under that achievement isn't worthy of celebrating. We can't just "go for a run" without feeling that we need to beat our time, well, I'm here to tell you that you can just go for a run without it being competitive, it's time to start doing things for fun again!Happy listening, INMIY. X

Yes, YOU. You are a limited edition baby! And why do you not treat yourself like it? A gentle warning that I touch on body dysmorphia in this episode.When something is unique or a limited edition it makes us want it more, so why don't we treat ourselves like that? Because after all, we literally are just that, a limited edition. In a world full of highlight reels and comparisons that can leave us feeling inadequate, I want you to realise that you are unique and that's what makes you special. The book I mention is: Mitch Albom - Five People We Meet in Heaven. Enjoy peapods!INMIY. x

Aren't we always nearly making it? We're constantly trying new things and not all of those things will we want to keep doing and that is OK! Sometimes the original thing we try might open up a new door and so we go through that instead. The journey that brings us to these new experiences is what shapes us and makes us, the journey helps us to grow. When we look at life as being full of "big milestones" we can feel the weight of not achieving them and feeling less than. Guys, this is not what life is about. Have goals, FOR SURE, but firstly understand why you want that goal, and then work towards it and recognise that life isn't a rat race to the end, it's an opportunity to experience so many different flavours, not just the ones that make up your milestones. And, let's rewrite the narrative that a life milestone has to be huge, it can also be perfecting that dish you've been making, learning how to do a 3-point turn, or finishing reading a book. All of these things are achievements.P.S. It's the tenth episode! Aaah that seems kinda wild to me and I'm going to make that a milestone ;)Happy listening peapods!INMIY. x

People pleasers let me hear you say ayyyoooo! I see you, I hear you, we've all been there to some degree, and hey, look, it's ok but you're exhausted from it all right? Ok, get your fave mug, make a cuppa, go for a walk, lie horizontal on your sofa and get stuck into this episode. When we people please we often feel we're an "inconvenience" to other people, so what do we do? Well it's what we don't do for ourselves - that's the problem. We do everything for everyone else in the hope that they "like us" and then we forget to like ourselves. We forget that we have needs too. Our actions might be "inconvenient" for others, but hey, it's just how life spins and guess what, it goes on. We're opening up the conversation on recognising those people pleasing behaviours and how to manage them a little bit better. Because, after all, do you want to go through your life never picking up the last tin of beans? Listen to hear what I'm talking about!LOVE AND HUGSINMIY. x

Essentially stepping into your higher power is leaving behind what no longer serves you. If we go back to what we know just because it's comfortable, but not necessarily beneficial, we are essentially telling ourselves that we don't deserve more. You do deserve more, you deserve to be happy and to go and explore what makes you happy. The brain is wired to keep us safe and not happy, so sometimes we have to work a little bit harder to push past our comfort zone and walk into new experiences not having a clue but knowing it'll benefit us in some way. It's scary I know, but you got this!Enjoy listening beauties and don't forget to send this to someone who needs a brain hug, rate the podcast and send me a message on Instagram: @itsnotmeitsyou.podRemember to answer honestly when the truth calls. Love you bye! INMIY x

Caring less about what other people think is actually super hard, but walking around trying to make others comfortable, instead of ourselves, is like walking around with a big fat wedgie all the time - it gets uncomfortable. If we're not doing the things we enjoy because we fear what others think, then we're not really living. Let's be honest, there are probably countless times where you've wanted to do something but told yourself you can't or shouldn't because of what other people might think. What would happen if you did those things that made you happy?On this episode I'm talking about dancing in the cereal aisle, how to care a little less about what others think, and how doing you will attract your kinda people into your life. I have not got to a place where I literally don't care at all what people think, I'm on this journey with you, but HELLLOOO to it feeling so good when I don't give a rat's bottom! I promise that listening to this will make you laugh, especially at minutes 21. Giving you all a huge hug.INMIY x

LADIES AND GENTLEMEN - this is for EVERYBODY!It's all fragile stuff and I'm getting raw about my feels, physical and mental, about endometriosis, my identity and self-love. I feel there is a gap that needs to be filled where we feel safe in exploring our experiences, reaching out to others and knowing that our feels (physical and emotional) are SO valid. I struggle with humanising my experiences and give myself a hard time for what I feel. I find myself trying to validate what I go through and even question if it's actually "that bad". Sometimes we need to learn how to slow down and meet ourselves where we are, in order to flourish as the sunshine souls we are. If you have endo I'd love to hear from you and give you a big metaphorical hug. Send me a DM on Instagram: itsnotmeitsyou.pod and together we can fill that gap where so many people feel lost. Know someone who would benefit from listening? Send it to them! Give them a hug through the earphones. Happy listening peapods (will that stick?) xxx

Ever feel like you just need to give yourself a big hug? Well that’s what coming home to yourself feels like. In this episode I explore what it can feel like to feel lost, I talk about how to make our inner child happy, and how starting to steer towards what brings you joy can open your mind and create opportunities. Remember, when the truth calls answer honestly.Happy listening, muffins.

Love as an End Point. Do you ever feel that you’re rushing to love? That love is where you need to get to, it’s a means to an end - without even realising that’s what you’re doing? This seems to be the answer to a lot of questions as to;How do I know if they’re the one?When will I find the one?Slow down and enjoy the process of getting to know someone, and then you’ll know. Love is a journey, not a tick-box on a list. E N J O Y I N G your now, and if you’re not, then switch it up. Do things you enjoy, BE the person you enjoy being. Enjoy yourself. (Trying to find) Love isn’t the means or the end. It’s a journey. How well do you know this version of yourself? Probably not as well as you think if you’re putting pressure on yourself to find love. It’s getting to know someone, enjoying the places you go, finding new cafes, new picnic spots, putting boundaries in, getting to know yourself. You can still have good vibes with someone and them not be the person for you. It’s about listening to yourself, not rushing yourself. It’s the process, it’s the feeling, it’s the journey, and it won’t always be about love - because not everyone you meet will you love, friends, romantic partners, and that doesn’t mean you’re failing, it’s a part of the journey. I am chatting with the lovely Chloe, who is a pilates coach and passionate dancer, about the approach to love and how we can really find what is right for us. Chloe comes out with a jaw-dropping explanation of how we can rush love, one that makes you really take a step back and think about your approach and where you are, right now. Chloe and I were having a chat after class and I just had to hit that record button, to share this insightful and gorgeous chat we were having.Enjoy peapods! (I don't know that that name will stick).(No cats were harmed in the making of this episode.)

Dating… aaaah I LOVE this topic. It’s so interesting, the approach we can have, the loss of intuition - basically the loss of our common sense, WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN? WELLL, let me paint the picture for you…It’s all to do with the pictures we paint and how easily we attach them to others. Men and women do this differently, both know what they want, but the process is different. Why do we lose ourselves, why do we find it harder to detach from someone that isn’t actually what we want? It’s time to be honest with ourselves, let’s get vulnerable, so the next time you go on a date, you’ll be able to see someone’s true colours. I talk validation, dating approaches, attaching and detaching, knowing yourself and losing yourself a little when it comes to dating.Knowing someone else’s true colours is knowing yours first.