It's Not You!.........

This episode explores why it’s not you… it’s the way we approach mental health.So much of the support available comes after the struggle has already begun. After the anxiety, the overwhelm, the burnout.But what if we focused on prevention instead?I share my perspective on why this “afterwards” approach isn’t working, and how trauma-informed support, in both parenting and the workplace, can change the way we understand and support mental wellbeing. https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

Loneliness isn’t always about being alone.Sometimes it’s about growing up in a house full of people but feeling like no one truly understood your inner world.In this episode of It’s Not You, Liz explores the quiet, often invisible loneliness many people carry from childhood. The kind that forms when feelings are dismissed, emotions are judged, or vulnerability is met with “stop being dramatic” instead of understanding.Liz unpacks how emotional loneliness can become a form of trauma, why emotionally unintelligent environments leave children feeling unseen, and how judgement deepens isolation.She also explores a confusing experience many adults recognise: being in relationships that look good on the outside, yet still feeling emotionally alone when difficult feelings appear.This episode is about the difference between physical presence and emotional presence, and why being emotionally met is one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness.If you’ve ever felt like you were “too sensitive,” misunderstood, or like you’ve had to carry your emotional world on your own, this conversation will help make sense of why.Because loneliness isn’t always about having no one around you.Sometimes it’s about being the only person in the room who is emotionally present. https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

What if the parts of your life that feel stuck aren’t a reflection of who you are… but what your nervous system learned to call normal?In this episode, Liz explores how our sense of “reality” is shaped by early conditioning, emotional patterns, and the baseline our body memorised for safety. Many of the habits, relationships, and stress cycles we repeat aren’t character flaws. They’re familiar settings we’ve never questioned.You’ll hear why humans protect what feels normal, even when it hurts, how outdated emotional templates keep us looping, and why growth isn’t becoming someone new. It’s teaching your body a new version of safe. https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

Based on all the messages received after last weeks episode - this warranted being discussed more. Emotional suppression is an epidemic, and in this episode, ill even tell you why its a key thing in narcissism.  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

As a trauma informed positive psychology practitioner, I can tell you that most people are aiming their positivity at the wrong end! AND it makes us more anxious and dyregulated as we do. In this episode, I give you the key to pointing it in the right direction, and how to use it to build confidence, and inner strength.  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

Most advice offers bypassing, releasing or resetting - but what if you built your capacity to hold everything in your experience?  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

Believing that your mental health is just about your thinking is the same as believing that washing your car is the only maintenance it requires. In this episode, I discuss the other barely spoken about systems that form your mental health - and how they are the key to your transformation - not your thinking!  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

Society does not hold itself to high standards - you just need to look at politics and sensationalism to see that, and so it matters that we look further and deeper into things that matter to us - and our happiness and mental health should probably be one of the highest on that list.In this episode I detail the real path to feeling happy - and its not positive thinking.  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

What are your expectations on yourself and others?  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

Are you willing to look at the darker aspects of you? Even more, are you willing to accepot and integrate them? What are the benfits of shadow work? https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

What have you identified with - and does it support or limit you? When we accept, and even aim for vague traits like 'good', do you know what that actually means to YOU?  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

Fears can be completely valid, but who are you in relationship to fear? And are you more capable than you realise? https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

Whats your emotional environment?Is it nurturing? or do you believe some emotions are bad?  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

What story are you telling yourself day after day?  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

What does it sound like in your head?Many of us have a LOUD inner critic - here's what to do with it. https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

What unconscious meanings do you carry? and how do they show up in your day to day life?  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

We mostly hear about mindset and how we need to change our thinking - but what drives those thoughts? our emotions. How do you do yours? https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

How is your past experience influencing your now?In this episode we look at the importance of considering your past experiences in how it shapes your choices, expectations and even your view of yourself. https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

What to expect from this podcast  https://www.instagram.com/lizmytherapist/https://www.enjoyconfidence.com/https://www.facebook.com/lizstewartauthorandtherapyhttps://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/