Love & the Layman

For something half the population has, the vulva still manages to be shrouded in quite a bit of mystery.How it’s supposed to look, how it’s supposed to smell, where everything is, and how it should feel. Female anatomy may be as varied and unique as fingerprints, but that variety often creates more questions than answers—and an unhealthy dose of anxiety for women who don’t fully understand their own bodies.In this episode of Love & the Layman, certified sex coach Samantha Raddock and her husband Jared hear from listeners in desperate need of a little vaginal affirmation.From stress about receiving oral sex to the curiosity—and confusion—surrounding squirting, this conversation explores the psychology of female pleasure, the nerves many women feel about their vulva, and the myths that prevent them from relaxing enough to actually enjoy themselves.Have you ever feared that your yoni was more of a yo-no? Relax — your body is beautiful, and so are you.Press play. We’ve got you.

Let’s be honest — we’ve all wondered what goes on at a sex party.Day-long orgies. Indecipherable throngs of sweaty, writhing, naked bodies. If what comes to mind feels straight out of a movie montage, you’re not alone. Sex parties tend to live in the imagination long before anyone actually attends one. But how much of that is accurate?In this episode of Love & the Layman, certified sex coach Samantha Raddock and her husband Jared pull back the curtain on sex parties (sometimes called play parties) and what they’re really like in practice. From nerves and curiosity to consent, boundaries, and etiquette, this conversation focuses less on spectacle and more on the logistics of stepping into this space for the first time.How should you act? What makes these spaces feel safe — or not? And how do you actually prepare for the big event? Rather than feeding the hype, this sexposé stays curious and grounded, offering context and clarity without pressure or judgment.Eager for an invite? Relax — getting a lay of the land before getting laid is the right choice for this party.Press play. We’ve got you.

What happens when your body changes the rules — and no one gives you the updated manual?Perimenopause has a way of arriving quietly… and then making itself impossible to ignore. For many women, that can mean painful penetration, shifts in desire, and the unsettling feeling that a once-familiar body suddenly feels foreign.In this episode of Love & the Layman, a listener in her early fifties asks the question so many people carry silently: If sex has become painful, does that mean it’s over?Together, Samantha and Jared unpack the physical, emotional, and relational changes that can come with perimenopause — and why so many people feel blindsided by them. From discomfort during sex to confusion about arousal and identity, this conversation offers clarity where culture has offered very little.Not sure how something so common can feel so devastating? Relax — your vagina doesn’t need a funeral, just a little resuscitation.Press play. We’ve got you.

Ever feel like your body is doing something… weird?Maybe it’s a raging morning erection that disappears the moment things get started. Maybe you can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation and never from penetration. Maybe you’ve heard that using a vibrator too much will ruin your sensitivity and now you’re spiraling.In this episode of Love & the Layman, certified sex coach Samantha Raddock and her husband Jared address a handful of common—and commonly misunderstood—sex questions all connected by one thing: anxiety. The quietly crushing fear that our bodies aren’t working the way they’re “supposed” to.Here, we cut through the noise, untangling physiology from needless panic and myth from sexual reality. This conversation offers reassurance where people tend to carry unnecessary worry. Because more often than not, the problem isn’t your body—it’s the story you’ve been told about it.Can’t shake the concern that your body is uniquely broken? Relax — shame is easily fixed with compassion and understanding.Press play. We’ve got you.

What if marriage doesn’t automatically mean monogamy?Opening up a long-term relationship isn’t just about adding more people — it’s a reason to start asking bigger questions. What are we missing? What am I actually longing for? What feels exciting… or terrifying?In this episode of Love & the Layman, a listener question about opening a 20-year marriage turns into a much broader conversation about relationship structures, expectations, and the stories we’ve inherited about what commitment is “supposed” to look like.Why does considering an open relationship bring up fear, guilt, curiosity, or excitement — sometimes all at once? And does questioning the default relationship status automatically mean something’s wrong?With grounded insight, honest reactions, and zero agenda, Samantha and Jared linger in the nuance of non-monogamy. Rather than treating openness as a goal or a solution, it invites listeners to slow down and examine the longing underneath the question — and to consider relationships as something that can be designed with intention, honesty, and flexibility.Convinced that discussing an end to monogamy will mean the end of your marriage? Relax — curiosity isn’t betrayal.Press play. We’ve got you.

Same relationship, different libidos. What happens when sex becomes lazy, inconsistent, or non-existent altogether?In this episode of Love & the Layman, certified sex coach Samantha Raddock and her husband Jared take aim at mismatched desire and the slow creep of “meatball sex” in long-term relationships — predictable, routine, and served the exact same way every time.Why does desire change over time? Why do routines that once felt comforting start to feel suffocating? And how does resentment sneak in when sex begins to feel one-sided, obligatory, or painfully predictable?With grounded insight, honest reactions, and zero blame, this conversation reframes libido differences not as a failure — but as an invitation to communicate, redefine intimacy, and move away from scorekeeping toward curiosity.Still think mismatched desire means you’re suddenly incompatible? Relax — you’re probably just overdue for a recalibration.Press play. We’ve got you.

What actually counts as sex? If your definition starts and ends with penetration, your dictionary is definitely outdated.In Episode 2 of Love & the Layman, certified sex coach Samantha Raddock and her husband Jared tackle a philosophical quandary that’s been left too open to interpretation: how do we decide what “real sex” is in the first place?From mutual masturbation to oral sex to cervical orgasms — and everything in between — this conversation challenges the narrow scripts many of us were taught to follow. Is penetration really the gold standard, or is sex something broader, more flexible, and far more pleasure-forward?With expert clarity, honest curiosity, and plenty of “wait, really?” moments, this episode makes space for a more inclusive definition of sex — one that leaves room for connection in every body, at every age, and in every kind of intimate experience.Still think sex has one rulebook? Relax — we’re rewriting it.Press play. We’ve got you.

What comes to mind when you hear “BDSM”? If all you picture is whips, nipple clamps, and leather spandex, you’re definitely not alone.In this first episode of Love & the Layman, certified sex coach Samantha Raddock and her husband Jared break down what BDSM actually is — and more importantly, what it isn’t (hint: it’s not what movies make it look like).From dominance and submission to flogging as foreplay, this conversation explores the real psychology behind desire and power dynamics. Is it about control, or is the pleasure found in consent, trust, and communication?With grounded education, honest reactions, and zero judgment, this episode offers a smart, funny introduction to one of the most misunderstood topics in modern intimacy.Afraid it might hurt? Relax — this one’s painless. Well… for everyone but Jared.Press play. We’ve got you.