Musings Of a Tired Nigerian Girl

A brutally honest conversation about beauty privilege, pretty privilege, and the uncomfortable reality that attractive people often experience the world differently. From relationships to job interviews, social media, networking, and everyday interactions, we unpack how appearance shapes opportunity, perception, and access, especially in Nigerian society. We also discuss whether leveraging attractiveness is shallow or simply strategic in a world that already rewards presentation.

Very often you hear girls especially talk about the one that got away. My question for you is did he really get away or did God take him away? Did he get away or did you pray him away? Did he really get away or did you start listening to yourself Did he really get away or did you learn to prioritize yourself and your self importance? did he really get away or did you start to center yourself and why the heck are you holding onto the magical believe that he would come back and be the guy you had all along wanted him to be? let’s talk about it.

It’s not just rent and bills.It’s data, fuel, food that finishes in two days,“urgent 20k” texts,aso-ebi you didn’t plan for,and somehow… you’re still expected to be saving.One minute you’re proud of yourself for earning,next minute you’re wondering where everything went.This episode is just me being honest about that in-between stagewhere you’re trying, you’re responsible,but life still feels… financially loud.You’re not careless.You’re not behind.Life is just expensive.Listen to the new episode of Musings of a Tired Nigerian Girl. 🎙️

In 2026 standing for nothing is not allowed. Women, you are not angry enough. Don’t let your fear of being dead make you dead.

28th February was Rare Disease Day and this episode is dedicated to those living with Rare diseases because you matter and you are awesome! I see your resilience, I see your strength and I am rooting for you!

There’s so much happening, especially in Northern Nigeria right now. The kidnappings. The killings. The quiet fear we’ve all learned to live with.And in the middle of all that, we’re online talking about soft life.In this episode, I’m thinking out loud about what it really means to want softness in a country that demands toughness from you every day. Is soft life delusion? Is it privilege? Or is it simply fatigue?This is an honest conversation about survival, strength, nervous system exhaustion, and choosing gentleness in a place that doesn’t always feel gentle back.If you’ve been feeling tired but still craving peace, this one is for you.

Ramadan is already here. The fasts have started. The routines are shifting. And maybe you’re feeling focused… or maybe you’re feeling behind.In this episode, we’re reflecting and doing our best to see this holy month as an opportunity to reset properly. Not just the meal plans or sleep schedule but the heart. We’re talking about worship versus performance, the quiet pressure many women carry, the emotional weight of hosting, and what we’re actually meant to be striving for right now.If you need a gentle realignment instead of guilt, this one is for you.

Hello my lovelies, it’s been a while xoOn this episode I talk to you about the bubble that is low self esteem in a world where beauty is a social currency. If you’re a pretty girl but struggle with finding your confidence, this episode is for you. Ps: We are all pretty girls and thats on what? Yeah PERIODT!

January 1st comes with a lot of noise.Pressure to become. Pressure to perform. Pressure to start again, perfectly.In this episode, I’m choosing honesty instead.I talk about entering a new year without pretending to be brand new, redefining aspirations so they don’t cost you yourself, and what it means to live deliberately in a world that rewards urgency, especially here in Nigeria.This is a quiet conversation about honest living, softened ambition, rest without guilt, and choosing a life that actually feels like yours.No resolutions. No pretending.Just musings, as we step into a new year together.

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In this episode I have a guest with me and she came and conquered, we talked, we shared our opinions and we’d love to hear and read yours. Check our IG account @Motng_ and lets get the discussion rolling

Today we talk about the law and why it is important for you to engage a lawyer before the problem occurs not after! -What is your excuse? Why do you choose to take risks without reading the fine print? Let’s talk about law and why you need to start to taking this seriously.

Whether it’s policing women’s bodies or narratives or threat of invasion, it’s the same playbook oppressors are using to manipulate the oppressed. When women speak, someone tries to shut them up.When Nigeria stands on its own, someone else suddenly wants to “save” us.It’s all control disguised as concern.Let’s talk about it.

This episode is for Ochanya and all the girls living in horrors caused by wicked people. This episode is about how our silence can be the very thing people such as the perpetrators of this horrors are banking on. Our collective silence continues to fail young girls across the world. Silence is complicity. Listen to the new episode of Musings of a Tired Nigerian Girl: Justice for Ochanya.

On this episode I discuss most things ableism and I hope in listening to me, you can reflectively look inward and examine yourself. Ask yourself the deep questions, have you been ableist? Even as a disabled or chronically ill person, you can be ableist. Also ask yourself, “what am I doing my part in the fight for inclusion?”-Let’s talk about it.

Why do you stay in situations that have stopped serving you? Until when will you keep using the excuse of time to keep receiving the treatment you don’t deserve? -Let’s talk about it. -This episode is sponsored he Scath Company a modern co-working and innovation hub in Kaduna offering workspaces, mentorship, and support for startups and creatives.

Sometimes I wonder if men can ever truly be feminists.Not because they don’t care but because they’ll never know.Feminism isn’t just theory; it’s lived. It’s the fear, the silence, the fight, and the constant demand to be seen as human.I don’t need men to call themselves feminists.I just need them to act like they believe women are fully human.🎙️ New episode: Can Men Really Be Feminists?#MusingsOfATiredNigerianGirl #Feminism #GenderConversations #NigerianPod

Let’s talk independence and everything in-between…

Are you a young girl enamored by an older guy? Are you underage?Is a man telling you, you are matured for your age? Are you thinking of dropping out of school or deferring because of a man? Do you need us to pull your ears? This episode is for you ! -Check us out in Ig @motng_ Send your stories and dilemmas to [email protected]

Please wear it…

In this episode, I share how I learned to speak up for myself in adulthood to make decisions, set boundaries, and believe that what I want matters.And guess what? You can too! Thats the cool thing about the journey of becoming.

Miss me? I decided to round up the season per your vote on Instagram (@motng_). It's been a while, I apologize. In this episode, I discuss yesterday's Election, casting my vote, and the overall experience. *Nicest*

Hold on to your headphones and join me and Halimah @thehealinggen_z on the 28th of August as we talk about most things social media, the good, the bad & the unfiltered! Let’s unpack how it is shaping our view of success and self-worth and how we navigate that. -#excited #podcasters #musingsofatirednigeriangirl #motngpod

I'm tired but what else is new? Join me on this episode as I discuss the madness from Zikoko, a salty performer and a man about to get what he deserves!

On this episode we talk of the idea of “home” and how home isn’t always safe or flourishing for everyone. The idea that we all end up the same or follow each other’s footsteps can be so stifling because in doing that we end up limiting ourselves. I am challenging the girl that has always felt different and unheard to find her version of home. It can be a physical home or a mindset. You may need to change your mindset, your friends or limit access of some people to yourself. If you haven’t done so please leave a 5 ⭐️ rating on Apple podcast and Spotify podcast. -Until next time ♥️ and peace. -📩 [email protected]

On this episode, we talk about pishtacos and reclaiming your mental space. Pretty chill yeah?

Why do we feel guilty when we ask for help? What is it about saying “I’m not okay” that makes us feel inadequate and whose fault is it? -Let’s unpack it.

In this special episode of "Musings of a Tired Nigerian Girl," join us,two tired Nigerian girls, Hikmah & Farida, after about 3 long years of not being able to record together. Our friendship has weathered the storms of time and distance, and this episode is a testament to the enduring bond we share. As we sit down together, reminiscing about the past and catching up on the present, our conversation delves deep into the essence of life, books and the journey of growth. We offer honest reflections on the twists and turns of our respective paths. But our dialogue goes beyond mere nostalgia; it's a celebration of the transformative power of friendship. We explore the role of friendship in fostering personal development, offering support, book chat and finding joy amidst life's chaos. Books and laughter have always been a shared passion between us, and in this episode, we dive into our latest literary discoveries. From thought-provoking novels to insightful make- your -harlequin guides, we exchange recommendations and explore the profound impact that literature has had on our lives. Throughout the episode, our laughter echoes the familiarity of years past, while our shared wisdom reflects the growth we've undergone individually. It's a conversation filled with warmth, honesty, and the unspoken understanding that comes from years of shared experiences. Join us for this intimate reunion as we offer a glimpse into the essence of our friendship and the beauty of life's journey. This episode is more than just a podcast recording—it's a cherished gem, a testament to the enduring power of connection and the richness of shared experiences. Tune in to "Musings of a Tired Nigerian Girl" and experience the magic of friendship, growth, and the joy of reunion. GET READY TO LAUGH

Are you a K-drama baddie? Do you currently lack motivation or your're looking for Inspiration? Here are top 10 K-drama's that would totally motivate you, honorable mentions and on American series that made it on this list! Don't forget to subscribe, share and like this podcast. Feel free to send your dilemma's and stories to me at [email protected] for a feature!

I know right? It is smelly in these streets girls.

At some point, you start healing. You start setting boundaries, speaking kindly to yourself, walking into rooms like you belong there. And suddenly… people around you start shifting.This episode is about that moment.About what it means to finally love yourself and how uncomfortable that makes some people.I talk about how we’ve been taught to shrink, especially as women, or anyone who’s just a little “too much” for the world. I explore why people feel the need to humble you the moment you begin to feel proud of yourself.I speak directly to the ones who do it whether it’s subtle shade, disapproving silence, or casual criticism masked as “just being real.”This episode isn’t just a call-out. It’s a mirror and I am challenging you to look at it.If you’ve ever felt guilty for your confidence, if you’ve been told “you’ve changed” like it’s a curse, or if someone else’s self-love makes you feel small this conversation is for you.

Hello my love, how are you doing? How have you been! On this episode I talk about unlearning and taking responsibility for my self, whether that be emotionally, physically, mentally. Refuse to be silenced my love. Until next time xo Love HikmahA Tired Nigerian Girl

So we are now a bi-weekly podcast! It’s a good thing, trust me. On this episode I share what I learnt from reading “Deep work” by Cal Newport. I hope one or two things stick with you. I would totally recommend this and like I say, please before reading or diving into the world of self help, please and please learn about your self first. That’s the best way to start and the best way to get the highest reward from them-Instagram - www.instagram.com/motng_Instagram- www.instagram.com/tired_nigerian_girlEmail & Collaborations - [email protected]

Welcome to the first episode of Musings of a Tired Nigerian Girl in 2025! I’m so excited to kick off the year with you. In this episode, I’m sharing my thoughts on starting the year strong and staying intentional about your goals.I’ll talk about: • How I set realistic resolutions and make them stick. • My personal experience with vision boards and how they’ve helped me visualize my dreams. • The power of affirmations and how I use them to boost my mindset and confidence. • Why having the right mindset is essential for growth and how I’m practicing gratitude and journaling this year.If you’re looking for inspiration to create a year filled with purpose, positivity, and progress, this episode is for you. Let’s set the tone for 2025 together—one vision, one affirmation, and one mindset shift at a time. Tune in now!

🎙️ New Episode Alert! 🎧It’s a wrap on 2024, and what better way to start the year than with a little Spotify Wrapped reveal? 👀✨ I’m spilling the tea on my top episodes (don’t judge my guilty pleasures 😅) and diving into a recap of the most unforgettable episodes from Musings of a Tired Nigerian Girl. From laughs to lessons, we’ve covered it all—and it’s only getting better in 2025! 💪🏽Tune in, reminisce, and let’s celebrate the journey together. 🥂 Don’t forget to share your Spotify Wrapped with me too—I’m curious! 👇#MusingsOfATiredNigerianGirl #SpotifyWrapped #PodcastRecap #CheersTo2025

On this episode I talk on the importance of keeping and respecting peoples boundaries. -I hoped you learnt something today about boundaries, value and self respect-Check out IG - @motng_Send your stories, feedback etc to - [email protected]

On the issue of being picky…Honestly I am always surprised when people say things like “your standards are too high” or “you’re being too picky” when it comes to the choice of a life partner. Yes there is vanity but then there is standard as well, and you should never forgo your standard when making that decision. Hit play and let’s talk about it! -Check out and follow our Ig page @motng_ -Send your stories, feedback and dilemmas to the email [email protected], vayolence is the way forward! Wickedness is key

On this episode I share 10 things I've learnt in my 20's. Sometimes I'm shocked by how far I have come, the fact that I'm on the road to 30's is just wow for me. In my head I'm a baby gyal lol. I hope I'm able to give some direction at least to my young-ings and if you're on this road with me, share somethings' you've learnt in your journey to adulthood with me on IG @motng_ . Until the next episode, toodles XOXO.

You know how Cookie said “I gats to put me first Lucious” yeah… thats the vibe. On this episode I talk about letting go and the bigger person culture. Lets get into it!