My Family Pod

In this episode of My Family Pod, partners Nicola Bright and Jane Tenquist, Head of Family Law, take a candid look at the realities of the family court process and explore the more effective alternatives available to separating couples.They discuss the increasing pressures on the court system, including delays, rising costs, last-minute cancellations, and the emotional toll on families. Crucially, they explain why court proceedings should often be viewed as a last resort rather than the default route.The episode provides a practical and informative guide to alternative dispute resolution options, helping individuals understand how they can resolve matters more efficiently, cost-effectively, and constructively.What We CoverThe challenges within the family court system Lengthy delays and limited judicial availability  Rising legal costs, often reaching significant sums  Hearings being cancelled at short notice  Inconsistent judicial experience in complex family matters  The emotional strain of contested proceedings Key risks when handling divorce without legal support Financial claims remaining open despite divorce  The importance of securing a financial clean break order  Ensuring agreements meet fairness criteria under the law Alternative dispute resolution options explainedMediation A cost-effective, structured process to resolve disputes  Encourages communication and cooperation  Options for shuttle mediation and child-inclusive mediation Private Financial Dispute Resolution (FDR) A privately instructed judge provides an early case evaluation  Greater flexibility, time, and control compared to court  Higher likelihood of reaching a settlement sooner Arbitration A binding decision made by a chosen expert  Faster, confidential, and highly flexible  Particularly useful where a definitive outcome is needed One Lawyer, Two Client Model (Resolution First) A single solicitor acts for both parties  Streamlined, cost-effective, and collaborative  Suitable for couples with a strong foundation of trust and communication Collaborative Law Four-way meetings involving both parties and their solicitors  Focus on constructive, non-confrontational negotiation  Access to additional professionals such as financial advisers where needed Useful linksJane Tenquist – Meet the team:  https://www.myerson.co.uk/people/jane-tenquist Nichola Bright – Meet the team:  https://www.myerson.co.uk/about/meet-the-team/nichola-brightMyerson Solicitors – Family mediation services:  https://www.myerson.co.uk/services/family-law/mediation  

In this episode of My Family Pod, Myerson family lawyers Nichola Bright and Joe Ferguson are joined by Toby Craddock, Barrister at Deans Court Chambers, to explore the complex and evolving legal landscape of surrogacy in England and Wales.Surrogacy can offer a pathway to parenthood for many families, yet the legal framework governing it remains intricate and, in many respects, outdated. In this discussion, the panel explains how the law currently works, highlights common misconceptions, and considers how international surrogacy arrangements and potential legal reforms may shape the future of family law.The conversation provides practical insight into how parental orders operate, the risks involved in international surrogacy, and why obtaining early legal advice is essential for intended parents navigating this journey. What We Cover in This EpisodeThe difference between adoption and surrogacy and why a genetic link is usually required for a parental orderThe legal position at birth in surrogacy arrangements and why the surrogate is initially recognised as the legal parentParental orders explained: what they are, why they are transformative, and the criteria the court applies when deciding whether to grant themKey legal requirements and time limits, including the six-month application windowConsent from the surrogate and why it remains a fundamental requirement in surrogacy casesInternational surrogacy arrangements, including the legal and practical risks of pursuing treatment abroadImmigration, nationality and travel complications that can arise following overseas surrogacyCosts, expenses and the legal distinction between altruistic and commercial surrogacy in the United KingdomRecent case law and real-world examples illustrating how the courts approach complex surrogacy disputesProposed surrogacy law reforms from the Law Commission, including a potential new pathway to legal parenthoodGlobal perspectives on surrogacy, including recent legislative changes in countries such as ItalyWhy This Episode MattersAlthough only several hundred parental orders are granted each year in England and Wales, surrogacy continues to grow as a route to parenthood. However, the law underpinning these arrangements relies on legislation that predates many modern family structures and medical advances.Understanding the legal framework, particularly where international arrangements are involved, is vital for intended parents, surrogates and professionals advising families.GuestToby CraddockBarrister, Deans Court ChambersToby specialises in family law with particular experience in surrogacy and modern family matters. In addition to his practice, he serves as Secretary to the Greater Manchester Family Law Bar Association and sits on the Manchester Family Justice Board.Listen to My Family PodIf you would like to learn more about surrogacy law or other modern family issues, explore the full My Family Pod series where our family law specialists discuss the legal topics shaping families today.Learn more about Myerson Family Law: https://www.myerson.co.uk/personal/family-law

In this episode of My Family Pod, Jane Tenquist, Head of Family Law at Myerson Solicitors, is joined by Maura McKibbin, accredited family mediator and family separation specialist, to demystify family mediation and explain how it can help separating couples resolve issues without going to court.Together, Jane and Maura explore what mediation really involves, when it works best, and how it fits alongside legal advice. The conversation offers practical guidance for separating couples, parents, and anyone considering alternatives to court proceedings.In this episode, we discuss:What family mediation is and how it differs from the court processWhen mediation can be used during separation and divorceWhy mediation is voluntary, confidential and future-focusedHow the mediation process works in practice, from initial meetings to joint sessionsThe role of solicitors alongside mediation and why legal advice remains essentialManaging power imbalances, including differences in financial knowledge or confidenceWhen mediation may not be suitable and what alternative options are availableHow mediation can support parents in creating practical, child-focused arrangementsThe involvement of children in mediation and when child-inclusive mediation may be appropriateCosts, funding options, legal aid and the mediation voucher schemeJane and Maura also discuss how mediation can help parents improve communication, reduce conflict, and build sustainable co-parenting arrangements that adapt as children grow and circumstances change.This episode is particularly helpful for separating couples who want to understand their options clearly and make informed decisions about how best to resolve financial and parenting issues.About the guestMaura McKibbin is an accredited family mediator and family separation specialist based in Altrincham. She supports individuals and couples through separation by providing a structured, neutral and supportive environment to resolve financial and parenting matters outside of court. Useful linksJane Tenquist – Meet the team:  https://www.myerson.co.uk/people/jane-tenquist Myerson Solicitors – Family mediation services:  https://www.myerson.co.uk/services/family-law/mediation  Maura McKibbin – Family mediation and separation support:  https://mauramckibbin.com 

🔍 Episode Overview:In this episode, family lawyer Joe Ferguson is joined by Marcie Shaoul, certified coach and author of The Co-Parenting Method: Six Steps to Raise Happy Kids After Separation and Divorce.Together, they explore how separated parents can move from conflict to collaboration, with practical tools for managing emotions, setting boundaries, and putting children’s needs first. The discussion also highlights how Marcie’s framework is helping both families and professionals rethink what effective co-parenting looks like.Together they discuss:Why developing a long-term mindset is essential to successful co-parentingHow to manage strong emotions and avoid communication “flare-ups”The importance of healthy boundaries and mutual respectThe difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting — and when each approach is appropriateHow small shifts in behaviour can transform family dynamics and reduce conflictHow practitioners can use The Co-Parenting Method as an early-intervention tool to support clients outside the courtroom🧠 Key Takeaways:Co-parenting isn’t about friendship — it’s about creating a stable, low-conflict environment where children can thrive.A calm, child-focused approach reduces emotional fallout and helps children feel secure across both homes.The Co-Parenting Method gives parents a clear, six-step framework to communicate effectively and make lasting, child-centred decisions.Professionals can recommend the book and online programme to empower clients early in their separation journey.📚 Resources & Links:Learn more about Myerson Family Law: https://www.myerson.co.uk/personal/family-lawDiscover The Co-Parenting Method: https://thecoparentingmethod.comBuy the book: The Co-Parenting Method: Six Steps to Raise Happy Kids After Separation and Divorce (available on Amazon and major retailers)🎧 Listen & Subscribe:Subscribe to My Family Pod on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favourite podcast platform.Don’t forget to rate and review to help others discover the show!💼 Keywords & Topics:Family Law, Co-Parenting, Divorce, Parenting After Separation, Communication, Emotional Regulation, Boundaries, Parallel Parenting, Child Wellbeing, Mediation, Parenting Plans, Family Coaching, Resolution, Conflict Reduction, Myerson Solicitors

How can technology support healthier co-parenting, and what happens when it’s misused?🔍 Episode Overview:In this episode, family lawyer Joe Ferguson is joined by Katie Deans from Our Family Wizard to explore the role of technology in family law. From tackling the risks of call spoofing and AI-powered abuse to building safer, more effective communication between separated parents, the conversation shines a light on both the challenges and opportunities that digital tools bring to co-parenting.Together they discuss:How abusers exploit tools like call spoofing and voice cloning, and how families can protect themselvesWhy accountability and transparency are key to effective co-parenting communicationThe features that make Our Family Wizard a trusted tool for parents and professionals, including ToneMeter® and AI-powered message redraftingOptions for child, third-party and professional accounts, and how these support wider family networksPricing, fee waivers and accessibility, ensuring the app is available to all families who need it🧠 Key Takeaways:Technology can be misused in abusive situations — but it can also create safer spaces for co-parenting communication.Features like uneditable messaging, timestamped calls and ToneMeter® help parents remain accountable and child-focused.Our Family Wizard offers flexibility, from affordability options to professional access, making it a valuable tool in family law practice.📚 Resources & Links:Learn more about Myerson Family Law: https://www.myerson.co.uk/personal/family-lawExplore Our Family Wizard: www.ourfamilywizard.co.uk🎧 Listen & Subscribe:Subscribe to My Family Pod on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favourite podcast platform. Don’t forget to rate and review!💼 Keywords & Topics:Family Law, Co-Parenting, Divorce, Technology in Family Law, Domestic Abuse, AI Voice Cloning, Call Spoofing, Parental Communication, Accountability, Our Family Wizard, ToneMeter, Parenting Plans, Legal Tech, Child Contact, Family Disputes, Professional Access

What really happens when divorce lawyers team up with financial detectives to uncover hidden assets, shady spending, and the truth behind business valuations. 🔍 Episode Overview:When it comes to divorce, it's not just about the family home or savings, business interests can be some of the most complex and contested assets in the process. In this episode, family lawyer Nichola Bright explores the critical role that forensic accountancy plays in financial settlements on divorce, especially where business valuations are concerned.Joined by expert forensic accountants Natalie Jones and Jack Clitheroe from Begbies Traynor, the discussion delves into:What forensic accounting really involves and how it differs from traditional accountingHow businesses are valued during a divorce and what methods are used (e.g., earnings-based vs. net asset-based)The role of Single Joint Experts (SJE) and shadow accountants in financial disputesKey considerations in minority shareholdings and lifestyle analysisRed flags for hidden assets or unusual spending patternsReal-world examples including agricultural and family-run businessesHow forensic insight helps manage client expectations and drive fair outcomes🧠 Key Takeaways:Forensic accountants bring invaluable problem-solving skills and financial insight to divorce cases involving complex assets.Early involvement of a forensic accountant can help close the information gap between spouses particularly when one partner runs the business.Business valuation isn't just about numbers; it involves context, control, market comparisons, and sometimes, digging into past financial conduct.Forensic accountants play both independent and advisory roles to support solicitors and protect client interests.📚 Resources & Links:Learn more about Myerson Family Law Services: www.myerson.co.ukConnect with Begbies Traynor Group: www.begbies-traynorgroup.comExplore guidance on business valuations in divorce and when to seek expert input🎧 Listen & Subscribe:Subscribe to My Family Pod on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favourite podcast platform. Don’t forget to rate and review!💼 Keywords & Topics:Family Law, Divorce, Finances on Divorce, Forensic Accountancy, Divorce Lawyer, Business Valuation, Minority Shareholding, Hidden Assets, Divorce Settlements, Single Joint Expert, Shadow Accountant, Matrimonial Finances, Director Loan Accounts, Lifestyle Analysis, Cryptocurrency in Divorce, Farming Businesses, Contentious Valuations, Court Proceedings, Family Business Disputes

Hosted by: Jane Tenquist, Head of Family Law at Myerson SolicitorsIn this powerful episode of My Family Pod, we sit down with Jonathan Edgeley, founder of Montrose Health, to discuss the hidden impacts of addiction on relationships, separation, and family life.Jonathan shares his deeply personal journey through addiction and recovery, shedding light on how substance misuse, from alcohol and drugs to gambling, fractures family dynamics and exacerbates divorce proceedings. As a family lawyer, host Jane highlights the real-world consequences of addiction on parenting roles, financial strain, and the emotional well-being of children.Key topics include:The cycle of addiction and how it escalates from social use to dependencyThe role of addiction in marital breakdown and the complex dynamics it createsHow trauma, childhood experiences, and genetic predispositions contribute to addictionWhy addressing the whole family is vital for sustainable recoveryThe unique, tailored rehab programmes offered by Montrose Health, including one-on-one residential support in the Peak DistrictUnderstanding the link between addiction and undiagnosed ADHD or autismInsights on post-divorce recovery, mental health support, and rebuilding self-identityPractical advice for family lawyers on spotting vulnerable clients and providing effective signpostingWhether you are a family law professional, facing the challenges of addiction within your family, or seeking a deeper understanding of recovery pathways, this episode offers compassionate insights and practical advice.📍 Resources & Mentionshttps://www.montrosehealthgroup.com/Stay tuned for more episodes of MyFamily Pod, where we tackle the issues that matter most to families. Don’t forget to subscribe and follow us on social media for updates!LinkedIn: Myerson Solicitors Instagram: @Myerson.Solicitors Website: www.myerson.co.uk/ 

Therapy for Relationships: Strengthening Communication, Supporting Separation, and Rebuilding After BreakdownHosted by: Jane Tenquist, Head of Family Law at Myerson Solicitors Guest: Lindsay George, Therapist based in Altrincham🔍 Episode SummaryIn this insightful episode, Jane Tanquist, a family lawyer at Myerson Solicitors, sits down with Lindsay George, an experienced therapist specialising in individual and couples therapy. Together, they explore the deep emotional and psychological aspects of relationships, covering:The three critical Cs of successful relationships: Communication, Compromise, and CommitmentWhy couples disengage – from financial pressures to social media distractionsThe emotional stages of relationship breakdown and how therapy can help navigate themThe difference between productive and toxic communication patternsHow therapy supports co-parenting and smoother separationsThe impact of divorce on emotional health and the journey toward recoveryThe growing trend of “relationship MOTs” – proactive therapy for couplesWhether you are facing relationship challenges, going through separation, or working with clients in similar circumstances, this episode offers professional perspectives and practical advice.🧠 Key Topics CoveredEmotional disconnection and communication breakdownHow therapists observe and address communication styles in couplesThe emotional spectrum of separation: grief, denial, ambivalenceSupporting clients legally and therapeutically through divorceLong-term impacts of relationship breakdownThe role of friends, family, and therapy in recoveryGendered patterns in post-divorce relationships👂 Who This Episode is ForIndividuals or couples experiencing marital strain or separationFamily solicitors, mediators, and other professionals in relationship lawTherapists and mental health professionals working with separated or divorcing clientsListeners curious about healthy relationships and emotional wellbeing📍 Resources & MentionsConnect with Lindsay George: www.lindsaygeorge.co.ukStay tuned for more episodes of MyFamily Pod, where we tackle the issues that matter most to families. Don’t forget to subscribe and follow us on social media for updates!LinkedIn: Myerson Solicitors Instagram: @Myerson.Solicitors Website: www.myerson.co.uk/ 

In this powerful episode, Sarah Whitelegge, Senior Associate in the Family Team at Myerson, is joined by Samantha Fisher, CEO of Trafford Domestic Abuse Services (TDAS). Samantha discusses the various forms of domestic abuse beyond the physical, including emotional, psychological, financial, and digital abuse. Together, they explore how individuals can recognise the signs of domestic abuse and provide support to those who may be experiencing it.They also address the growing issue of coercive and controlling behaviour and discuss the resources available to victims and their families. Samantha shares insights into TDAS's essential work supporting victims of domestic abuse, including their innovative male refuge project, the "Words Matter" video with Life Church Manchester, and the importance of prevention through education, particularly in schools.For anyone concerned about someone who may be experiencing domestic abuse, this episode provides practical advice on how to offer support and where to access help.Resources mentioned in this episode:Trafford Domestic Abuse Services (TDAS): TDAS WebsiteRefuge’s 24-Hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247TDAS 'Words Matter' Video: TDAS Words MatterTune in to learn how you can play a role in supporting victims of domestic abuse and help raise awareness about this crucial issue.Stay tuned for more episodes of MyFamily Pod, where we tackle the issues that matter most to families. Don’t forget to subscribe and follow us on social media for updates!LinkedIn: Myerson Solicitors Instagram: @Myerson.Solicitors Website: www.myerson.co.uk

In this episode of MyFamily Pod, host Jane Tenquist welcomes Karen Blumenfeld, psychotherapist and co-founder of Hale Therapy Centre, to discuss one of the most complex and misunderstood issues in modern relationships: narcissism and coercive control.As a divorce solicitor, Jane frequently encounters cases where one partner accuses the other of narcissistic behaviour or coercive control. But what do these terms really mean? How do they manifest in relationships? And how can individuals identify and navigate these dynamics?Karen provides deep psychological insight into the spectrum of narcissism, from healthy self-esteem to narcissistic personality disorder, and explains the power imbalances, gaslighting, and emotional manipulation that often accompany coercive control. Together, Jane and Karen explore:✔️ What narcissism really is – beyond the buzzword ✔️ How narcissistic traits impact relationships ✔️ Recognising coercive control and its effects ✔️ The emotional toll of being in a narcissistic relationship ✔️ How individuals can reclaim their sense of self ✔️ Why setting boundaries is crucial – and how to do it ✔️ How legal and therapeutic support can help victims regain controlIf you or someone you know is struggling with an unhealthy relationship, this episode offers expert guidance and practical steps to help navigate these challenging situations.Listen now and take the first step towards understanding and empowerment.Find out more here: https://www.myerson.co.uk/personal/family-lawFor more resources and support, you can also reach out to Karen at Hale Village Therapy Centre here: https://www.haletherapy.co.uk/karen-blumenfeld/Stay tuned for more episodes of MyFamily Pod, where we tackle the issues that matter most to families. Don’t forget to subscribe and follow us on social media for updates!LinkedIn: Myerson Solicitors Instagram: @Myerson.Solicitors Website: www.myerson.co.uk/ 

In this episode of MyFamily Pod, host Nichola Bright, family lawyer at Myerson Solicitors, speaks with financial planning experts Jenni Macdonald and Liz Grimshaw from Revival Financial Planning.Together, they explore the financial challenges that arise during divorce and separation and explain how expert financial planning can provide clarity and security during turbulent times.Topics include:The role of cash flow modelling and expenditure forecasting in divorce settlements.Understanding mortgage capacity reports and their impact on asset division.Demystifying pension sharing to secure long-term financial wellbeing.Broader financial planning strategies for major life changes such as redundancy, retirement, or moving home.Whether you are navigating a divorce, supporting a loved one, or seeking expert financial advice, this episode offers practical tips and insightful strategies to help you plan confidently for the future.If you’re seeking support for a family law or financial planning matter, our expert team at Myerson Solicitors is here to help. We provide compassionate, tailored advice on divorce, financial arrangements, and co-parenting to ensure you receive the support you need.Find out more here: https://www.myerson.co.uk/personal/family-lawFor more resources and support, you can also reach out to Jenni and Liz at Revival Financial PlanningFind out more here: https://www.revivalfp.co.ukStay tuned for more episodes of MyFamily Pod, where we tackle the issues that matter most to families. Don’t forget to subscribe and follow us on social media for updates! LinkedIn: Myerson Solicitors Instagram: @Myerson.Solicitors Website: www.myerson.co.uk/ 

In this episode of MyFamily Pod, Jane Tenquist, Head of Family Law at Myerson Solicitors, speaks with Sally Beresford, a financial planner at Evelyn Partners. Together, they explore the critical issue of why women often retire with significantly smaller pensions than men and discuss practical steps to ensure financial security during and after divorce.🎙️ Key topics include:The gender pension gap and why it exists.The importance of pension sharing during divorce.How cash flow modelling helps with financial planning.Steps women can take to boost their pension pot.Don't miss this insightful conversation packed with expert advice for those navigating divorce and financial settlements.

In this episode of MyFamily Pod, host Nicola Bright, family lawyer at Myerson Solicitors, speaks with Helen Carouzos, a highly experienced HCPC-registered counselling psychologist. Together, they delve into the psychological challenges of divorce and separation, the impact of ADHD on family dynamics, and the importance of co-parenting and self-care during turbulent times. Topics include: How ADHD can influence divorce and co-parenting. Supporting children emotionally through separation. Building resilience and self-care strategies for parents. Managing legal and emotional stress during separation. Whether you're navigating a divorce, supporting a loved one, or seeking expert advice, this episode offers practical tips and compassionate insights to help you through the process. If you’re seeking support for a family law matter, our expert team at Myerson Solicitors is here to help. Whether it’s guidance on divorce, financial arrangements, or co-parenting, we provide compassionate, tailored advice. Find out more here: https://www.myerson.co.uk/personal/family-lawFor more resources and support, you can also reach out to Helen Carouzos for counselling and therapeutic services. Find out more here: https://helencarouzos.co.uk/Stay tuned for more episodes of MyFamily Pod, where we tackle the issues that matter most to families. Don’t forget to subscribe and follow us on social media for updates! LinkedIn: Myerson Solicitors Instagram: @Myerson.Solicitors X: @MyersonLawyers Website: www.myerson.co.uk/