Optimising Your Brilliance: Removing Performance Ceilings for Confident, Strategic Leaders

Join Estelle Read on the Optimising Leader Brilliance podcast for calm, confident, and strategic leadership insights. In this episode, Selma Delic shares her inspiring journey from marketing manager to operations partner, revealing how embracing diverse perspectives and turning difference into strength can enable brilliant, high-performing leadership.Learn science-backed strategies and mindset shifts that help you break performance ceilings, foster resilience, and cultivate non-negotiable self-care routines essential for sustainable success in complex leadership roles.What You Will Learn💡 How embracing your unique leadership perspective and diversity of thinking can become your greatest strength, unlocking strategic advantages and driving brilliant outcomes.💡 Why cultivating calm and confident self-care rituals, like Selma’s daily "spa moments," is essential for resilience and sustaining high performance in demanding leadership roles.💡 The power of feedback and mindset shifts: how Selmatransformed her communication style through 360-degree feedback to lead with authenticity, confidence, and impact.Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Leadership Coach & SpeakerTimestamps(00:00) Introduction(02:24) Welcome Selma Delic (03:32) Selma's Non-Negotiable Daily Routines (06:41) Life as Operations Partner — A Typical Week (12:23) Origin Story — What Makes Selma, Selma (12:48) Moving to England & Learning English (18:26) Walking In on Day One — "What On Earth Have I Done?" (19:31) The Career Pivot Mindset — Being Open to Alternatives (23:01) Selma's Leadership Mindset & Approach (24:32) Culture, Identity & Why Talking About Yourself Feels Hard (29:46) The Only Non-Finance Partner — Diversity of Thinking as a Strength (30:59) Finding Courage to Speak Up When You Feel Different (39:02) How Selma's Communication Style Has Evolved (44:00) 3 Actionable Tips for Leaders (46:15) Pause, Reflect & Act — Mini Coaching Practice⭐Download My Free Journal & Self-Coaching Tool:https://mailchi.mp/dab4b2568b71/free-inner-brilliance-outer-shine-journal ⭐Follow or Contact Selma Delic:https://www.pkfsmithcooper.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/selmadelicpkfsmithcooper/⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:⬆️⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠🎇⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

I sit down with Davina Ripton, a change managementconsultant and leadership coach, to explore why so many organisational change initiatives fail — and what leaders can do differently to make change stick. We unpack the psychology of resistance, the illusion of control, and why designing change like a customer experience is the key to sustainable transformation. If you lead people through change, this conversation will shift how you think about leadership and strategic change management. What You Will Learn:💡 Discover why your perfectly planned change project might be setting your people up to fail — and the one thing that makes all the difference. 💡 Learn Davina's powerful "Design, Deliver, Embed" framework and the Five Cs that help leaders co-create change that actually lands. 💡 Find out why resistance isn't a problem to solve — it's data to decode, and how reframing it can transform your leadership. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Leadership Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction(02:08) Welcome & Introduction to Davina Ripton(02:22) Davina's Typical Day & Non-Negotiable Routines(05:14) Davina's Origin Story – Growing Up With Change(07:25) The Biggest Mistake Leaders Make With Change(10:39) The Missing Piece – Why People Aren't On Board(10:40) Designing the Change Experience – Where to Start(14:04) The Hotel Analogy – Intentional Change Design(19:10) What Kinds of Change Projects Does Davina Work On?(22:10) Aligning Everyone to the Vision(27:28) The Design, Deliver, Embed Framework(29:30) How Do You Know When Change Is Fully Embedded?(33:13) Guest Question – How Does Stress Impact Success?(37:48) Davina's 3 Actionable Tips for Leaders(40:10) Pause, Reflect & Act – Mini Coaching Practice ⭐Download My Free Journal & Self-Coaching Tool:https://mailchi.mp/dab4b2568b71/free-inner-brilliance-outer-shine-journal ⭐Follow or Contact Davina Ripton:@Davina Riptonhttps://www.changeready.co.uk/⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:⬆️⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠🎇⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Dr. Lisa Riegel — neuroscience expert, leadership strategistand author shares brain science insights and practical strategies for leaders to regain calm, confident control under stress. Discover stress management techniques and how understanding your brain’s wiring can transform leadership,communication, and team performance. Learn how to lead strategically with self-awareness and sustainable impact using Dr. Lisa’s neuroscience-backed 8C Commitment Framework."What You Will Learn:💡 Discover why 80% of what drives your behaviour as a leader is unconscious — and the simple neuroscience-backed strategies to get your "CEO brain" back incharge.💡 Learn how chronic stress is silently undermining your team's engagement and collaboration  — and what brain-based leadership actually looks like in practice.💡 Find out how Dr. Lisa's 8C Commitment Framework helps leaders move from aspiration to operational transformation — with tools you can apply immediately, whetheryou lead a team of 5 or 500. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Leadership Coach & Speaker TIMESTAMPS(00:00) Introduction & Episode Opener (01:11) Welcome & Introducing Dr. Lisa Riegel (02:29) Lisa's Background & What a Typical Day LooksLike (02:57) Lisa's Non-Negotiable Daily Routines & "TwoMinutes of Joy" (05:00) Understanding the Vagus Nerve & Its Role inStress (07:56) Calming the Vagus Nerve — Practical Strategies (09:05) How to Recognise When Stress Is Running YourLeadership (14:10) Lisa's Origin Story — The Journey to Neuroscience& Leadership (17:36) The 8C Commitment Framework — Overview (21:46) Aspirations to Operations — The Book &Cadence in Practice (26:07) Brain-Based Coaching — Tackling Root Fears inLeadership (33:49) Lisa's Life Motto: "Simply Just Say Yes" (35:18) What a Great Way to Live — Joy, Intentionality &Connection (36:01) Question from Previous Guest — What Are You Ready to Let Go Of? (37:32) Three Actionable Tips to Close (39:35) Pause, Reflect & Act — Mini Coaching Practice ⭐Download My Free Journal & Self-Coaching Tool:https://mailchi.mp/dab4b2568b71/free-inner-brilliance-outer-shine-journal ⭐Follow or Contact Lisa Riegel:https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisariegel https://lisariegel.com/ ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a FreeDiscovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:⬆️⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠🎇⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Today we’re tackling a topic that can have damaging effects on both our personal and organisational wellbeing: narcissism.Joining us is Ginny Priem—a Master Certified Life Coach, keynote speaker, and the #1 bestselling author of You’reMy Favorite and her latest hit, UNSUBSCRIBE. This new bookis for leaders, professionals, and people-pleasers who have mastered doing more, giving more, and holding it all together—yet still feel quietly depleted by the emotional labour of it all.Ginny’s expertise was forged through a personal betrayal that forced her to rebuild her life from the ground up. This episode offers leadership lessons to help you spot toxic patternsand strategically protect your energy with calm confidence. Ginny shares her expertise to help leaders develop their “NarcDAR” and establish the boundaries necessary for personal growth and organisational brilliance. What You Will Learn:💡 You might be working for — or living with — a narcissist and not even know it. Ginny reveals the subtle signs most people miss, including a chilling workplace example that willmake you rethink your professional relationships. 💡 Your body has been trying to warn you all along. Discover why your gut instinct is your most powerful tool against toxic people — and what happens to your health and wellbeing when you ignore it. 💡 There's a method to quietly reclaim your power without a dramatic confrontation. Ginny shares a brilliantly simple strategy for neutralising narcissistic behaviour at work andin life — no conflict required. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Leadership Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction (03:22) What is a Narcissist? Narcissistic PersonalityDisorder (NPD) Explained (08:15) Overt vs. Covert Narcissism (09:46) Ginny's Origin Story — How Chad Changed Everything (12:47) Red Flags: How to Recognise a Narcissist (13:28) Gaslighting & DARVO Explained (19:11) Narcissism in the Workplace (22:31) The Consequences of Being With a Narcissist (27:14) The Grey Rock Method — How to Manage a Narcissist (26:56) Ginny's Book Unsubscribe — Block, Mute, Swap,Manage (32:42) Doing a Relationship Audit & Energy Bank Account(37:41) 3 Actionable Steps to Protect Yourself fromNarcissism (41:14) Pause, Reflect & Act — Mini Coaching Practice⭐Download My Free Journal & Self-Coaching Tool:https://mailchi.mp/dab4b2568b71/free-inner-brilliance-outer-shine-journal ⭐Follow or Contact Ginny Priem:https://www.youtube.com/@ginnypriemhttps://ginnypriem.com/ ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:⬆️⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠🎇⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this inspiring episode, we dive deep into leadershiplessons with Sam Bagshaw, an influencer whose journey to 1 million followers highlights how calm, confident, and strategic leadership can enable brilliance despite personal challenges. Sam defies odds — including his stammer — to exemplify how authentic leadership embraces challenges and fosters growth for oneself and others. Join us as Sam shares his experiences with public speaking,TV appearances, and philanthropy, illustrating how strategic leadership and embracing courage lead to unlocking your full potential. Discover valuable insights on optimising your leadership mindset to confidently navigate criticism, cultivate calm, and enable brilliance within your team and yourself. Whether you're seeking to grow as a leader or break throughpersonal barriers, Sam’s story offers practical techniques to build confidence, lead strategically, and maintain calm in high-pressure environments. This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to embrace leadership courage and brilliance every day. What You Will Learn:💡 Transform criticism into fuel for growth with Sam's powerful technique for resilient leadership.💡 Uncover why intentionally putting yourself in uncomfortable situations isn't just brave, it's strategic - and how this practice can unlock opportunities you've been avoiding💡 Explore the link between past experiences and leadership courage, helping you break through barriers and lead with confidence and calm. Elevate your leadership journey today with insights thatenable brilliance and inspire strategic, confident leadership.Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Leadership Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction - Sam Bagshaw's journey to over 1 million followers(01:52) Understanding stammering as a neurological condition(03:20) From warehouse worker to social media influencer(03:59) The courage to post that first video (06:40) Handling internet trolls and negative comments(09:48) How Sam's content inspires others to be brave(10:23) Action for Stammering Children charity work and running marathons(12:21) Breath work techniques for managing speech(13:26) Speaking on stage despite fear of public speaking (15:58) Managing nerves before TV and stage appearances(17:10) The inner dialogue that calms performance anxiety(18:23)  Sam's powerful mindset(19:06) Where bravery comes from (19:53) Childhood experiences that shaped who Sam is today(22:08) Creating challenge videos (23:51) What businesses can do to support people with speech impediments(27:13) A day in the life of a social media influencer(31:18) The belief that shaped childhood and the one that changed(35:48) Three actionable tips for building courage(40:23) Staying in practice to maintain confidence(43:01) Final thoughts (43:55) Pause, Reflect, Act: Your Mini Leadership Coaching Session (45:20) Close ⭐Download My Free Journal & Self-Coaching Tool:https://mailchi.mp/dab4b2568b71/free-inner-brilliance-outer-shine-journal ⭐Follow or Contact Sam Bagshaw forSpeaking Event Enquiries:https://www.tiktok.com/@stammerexperienceshttps://www.youtube.com/@Stammerjourney https://www.instagram.com/sam_bagshaw_Sponsor Sam:https://www.justgiving.com/page/sam-bagshaw-2⭐Follow Estelle Read & Access Resources: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:⬆️⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠ 📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Are you the "rock" that everyone else relies onwhile you're secretly struggling? In this episode, we explore the "Be Strong" pattern and why hyper-independence isoften a survival response to childhood patterns that demand emotional stoicism. Learn why suppressed emotions manifest as physical pain - like frozen shoulders and chronic fatigue - and how to reclaim your resilience by choosingvulnerability over the trap of "toughness."In this final part of our miniseries on Adrienne Lee’s “Drowning Person” model, I share the deeply personal story of my father’s battle with vulnerability and the moment a mentor’s simple question broke through my own stoic mask. We’ll discuss the "Fixer" mentality at work, the mental health crisis caused by emotional bottlenecks, and practical tools like EFT (Tapping) and journaling to help you finally ask for help without guilt. What You Will Learn:💡 The Cost of Hyper-Independence: Why the most reliable people are often the ones "drowning" in silence.💡 The Somatic Connection: How to listen to your body’s "dashboard warning lights"- from frozen shoulders to digestive issues.💡 Breaking the Fixer Cycle: How to move from fierce self-reliance to a more connected, sustainable leadership style. Whether you are a firstborn child, a parentified professional, or a leader feeling the weight of the world, this episode offers a roadmap to true emotional strength. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Executive Coach & Speaker Timestamps:00:00) Introduction: The Be Strong Pattern - Final Episode in the Miniseries(01:42) The Drowning Man Metaphor (02:38) The Person Everyone Turns To: Stoicism vs. Empathy(03:08) The Moment I Burst Into Tears: Why Don't You Ask for Help?(04:22) Core Fear: Vulnerability Makes You Weak or Burdensome(04:50) The Stigma of Stoicism: Why we hide our feelings(05:20) A Tortured Soul Who Wouldn't Open Up(07:06) The Phone Call: My Dad's Final Vulnerability(08:00) Where Be Strong Comes From: Don't Be Vulnerable, Power Through(08:28) Why Men Struggle More: Suicide Rates and the Secret Club(09:38) Childhood Examples: Pull Yourself Together (10:28) The Parentified Child: No Room for Your Own Feelings(10:52) Adult Problems at Work: Difficulty Asking for Help(11:20) Emotional Bottlenecks: Quietly Seething Until You Leave(11:51) Fierce Independence: Why high-achievers refuse help(12:31) Birth Order and Independence: Both Firstborns(13:17) Mental Health Problems: Burnout and Somatic Symptoms(13:43) Frozen Shoulders: Bearing the Responsibility(14:16) Somatic Symptoms: How your body signals suppressed emotions(14:36) The Dashboard Warning Light Metaphor: Listen to Your Body(15:39) The Parentified Child Fixing Her Parents' Divorce(16:14) Becoming the Fixer at Work: Filling Responsibility Gaps(17:02) Almost Off With Burnout: The Exhaustion Breaking Point(20:03) Strategies, Tools And Resources To Overcome the Be Strong Pattern(27:48) EFT Videos on My Channel⭐Follow, Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee⁠ ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️.  ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Are you stuck in analysis paralysis? In this episode, we explore how perfectionism fuels Imposter Syndrome and reveal my proprietary LAR Method to break the cycle once and for all. Learn why the pursuit of perfection is holding your career back and how to use the "10% Strategy" to reclaim your time, energy, and authenticity.As part of our miniseries on Transactional Analysis drivers, I’m diving into the childhood origins of the "Be Perfect" pattern. From the "Owl Story" to the pressure of high-stakes leadership, we discuss why the fear of being "exposed" as imperfect is your biggest barrier to growth—and how even Steve Bartlett uses imperfection as a superpower.What You Will Learn:Whether you're a leader avoiding a promotion or an entrepreneur hiding behind a mask of perfection, this episode will help you choose progress over perfectionism.Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Executive Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction: Quit Perfectionism By Doing This(02:08) What is Perfectionism and Why It Matters(03:37) The Perfectionism Trap: Red Crosses and Self-Doubt(05:05) The Core Fear: Being Exposed as Imperfect(06:31) Origins of Perfectionism: Critical Parents and Childhood Trauma(10:20) The Owl Story: How Shame Creates Perfectionism(12:49) When Perfection Crumbles: The Cost of Mistakes(14:28) The Perfectionism Mindset(17:38) The Mental Health Impact: Anxiety and Imposter Syndrome(18:18) How to use the LAR Method to stop Perfectionism(20:05) Error-Friendly Experiments: Practicing Imperfection(22:28) Productivity Tip: The 10% Time Reduction Strategy(24:15) Steve Bartlett's Imperfect Posts: Embracing Authenticity(25:53) Resources: Books, Journals, and Free Tools(27:13) Preview: Next Episode on the Be Strong Pattern⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Did you know your brain processes a 'social rejection'exactly like physical pain? That's why saying 'no' to your boss feels like a survival threat. Today, I'm showing you how to re-wire that response.In this miniseries episode, I explore the Please Me Patternand why people-pleasing behaviour keeps you trapped in cycles of overcommitment, resentment, and burnout. I share the neuroscience behind why rejection feels like physical pain, reveal a powerful client breakthrough with a narcissistic boss, and give you practical tools to set boundaries without guilt. Whether you struggle to say no at work or find yourself constantly organising everything for everyone, this episode will show you how to break free from people-pleasing for good. What You Will Learn:💡 Why your brain treats rejection like touching a hot stove - and how this survival mechanism keeps you saying yes when you should say no 💡 The exact moment a people-pleasing lawyer stood up to her manipulative boss and what happened next (spoiler: no consequences, just respect) 💡 A simple four-letter framework for giving difficult feedback that protects your boundaries while maintaining relationships Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Executive Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction: This Stops People Pleasing(02:47) The Please Me Pattern: Why saying no feelsterrifying(03:27) The lawyer who couldn't stop pleasing people(03:51) The drowning man analogy(04:41) Core fear: Rejection and abandonment(05:10) Why we can't survive without parental love(06:13) Rejection activates the same brain area as physicalpain(07:18) Childhood origins of people-pleasing behaviour(09:16) How people-pleasing shows up at work(10:11) The imbalance in relationships and resentment(12:28) Developing your inner captain vs inner critic(15:01) Client story: The people-pleaser at flight risk(16:15) Using havening to find the root cause(17:48) The breakthrough: Standing up to the narcissisticboss(18:48) How boundaries transformed her friendships too(19:39) The mindset shift: Self-validation and journaling(20:41) Assertiveness training: Ken and Kate Back(21:16) Getting rid of people-pleasing triggers withhavening(22:00) The SBI+R model for difficult feedback(23:20) Setting clear boundaries and raising awareness(24:32) Micro action: Assertive phrases for your back pocket(25:12) Resources: Run a Tight Ship chapter(25:58) Next episode: The Be Perfect Pattern(26:10) Subscribe and connect with me⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress,when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Do you catch yourself rushing through tasks or finishingother people's sentences? In this episode, we explore why your brain equates speed with safety and how the "Hurry Up" habit is quietly sabotaging your productivity, relationships, and mental health.As part of our miniseries on Adrienne Lee’s “DrowningPerson” model (Transactional Analysis), I’m sharing my personal journey from a high-speed HR leader to reclaiming my peace. Discover the childhood origins of your need for urgency, recognise the warning signs of "Rush Mode,"and learn practical strategies to slow down to speed up yourresults without sacrificing success.What You Will Learn:💡 The Biology of Speed: Why your brain treats slowness as a "danger signal"and keeps you trapped in a constant fight-or-flight state.💡 Childhood Programming: How early messages equating speed with competence create adult patterns of anxiety and hurried decisions.💡 Practical Tools for Calm: From the "School Run Walk of Shame" to the 7-11 Breathing Technique and the 4-3-2 Sensory Exercise.Whether you're balancing a career, family, or personalgrowth, this episode reveals why doing things quickly often backfires - and how to finally break the cycle. Tune in for next week's episode on how to overcome the ‘Pleasing’ patten. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction (01:55) The Hurry Up Pattern Explained(03:12) Core Fear: Missing Something Crucial(03:41) Personal Example: Balancing Retirement & Business(04:33) Origins: Urgency as a Safety Signal(05:01) Childhood Patterns from Parents(05:21) My Confession: Creating This Pattern in My Daughter(06:02) Parenting Stress: The School Run "Walk of Shame"(07:13) How This Pattern Affects Children(08:19) Problems in Adulthood: Rushed Decisions & Mistakes(09:30) DISC Profile Connection(11:15) Mental Health Impact: Baseline Stress(12:37) Warning Signs(13:02) Example: HR Leadership: Breaking the "Rush Mode" Cycle(14:23) How Coaching Transformed My Hurry Up Pattern(14:47) Six Weeks in a Mindfulness Shed(15:35) Learning to Eat Mindfully(16:48) Philly the Pheasant: Slowing Down at Lunch(17:59) Speaking Career: From Horse Commentator to Impactful Presenter(18:44) The Transformation: Disconnecting "Slow = Bad"(19:33) The Opposite Truth About Speed & Intelligence(20:20) Strategies for Overcoming in Adulthood(21:13) Tools: Micro Pauses (22:07) 7-11 Breathing Technique forInstant Calm(22:28) Mindfulness: The 4-3-2 Sensory Exercise(25:20) Scheduling Buffer Times(25:46) Resources: Mindfulness Apps & Havening(26:11) Next Episode Preview: The Please Me Pattern(26:28) Outro & Call to Action ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call: ⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Are you stuck in a cycle of relentless effort but feel likeyou're never doing enough? In this episode, we explore how the "Try Hard" habit fuels chronic overworking, perfectionism, and burnout.Discover the exact childhood messages driving your need toprove your worth today and learn how this unconscious pattern, (part of Adrienne Lee’s “Drowning Person” model in Transactional Analysis), might actually be sabotaging your professional success.What You Will Learn:💡 Discover why trying hard might be sabotaging your success and pushing people away instead of impressing them 💡 Learn the childhood origins of the "try hard" pattern and how unconscious messages from your past are driving your overwork today 💡 Get actionable strategies to break the cycle including delegation techniques, time-blocking methods, and the gold standard approach for automatic behaviour change Tune in next week for the Hurry Up pattern.  Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction - Why trying hard is your enemy(01:45) The try hard pattern explained(03:30) Core fear of being deemed lazy or inadequate(05:05) Where the try hard pattern comes from(06:09) Childhood drivers and unconscious messages(07:32) Adult problems caused by trying hard(08:00) Client story: Academic inadequacy and imposter syndrome(10:53) Client transformation results(12:25) Strategies for overcoming try hard(13:22) Mindset shift: Define what good enough is(14:18) Practical tools(18:18) Why willpower isn't enough: The role of Havening and EFT in burnout(18:52) Setting boundaries (19:44) Micro action(20:22) Resources (21:26) The next episode: The Hurry Up pattern⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress,when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Irini Tzortzoglou is a UK MasterChef winner, author, olive oil and honey sommelier, and retreat host. In this episode, she shares her unlikely leap from the banking world to culinaryexcellence - and the mindset shifts that made it possible. You’ll learn how to recognize your sacred gifts, overcome limiting beliefs, and build a life aligned with purpose, even under high pressure. What you’ll learn:  💡 The real driver behind Irini’s MasterChef win (it’s about more than the food) and what that means for success in any field💡 Reframing praise and overcoming imposter syndrome: a practical technique to accept recognition without self-doubt💡 Emotional intelligence under pressure: how Irini stays calm, connected, and focused in high-stakes moments Ideal for professionals in high-performance roles who want to:Break through performance ceilingsLead with confidence under pressureCultivate resilience, clarity, and compassionate leadershipHere’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Executive Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to Irini Tzortzoglou(00:48) What makes Irini's days exciting and unpredictable(04:35) The reality behind social media influence(06:46) How Irini approaches content creation authentically(08:54) When did things take off? The algorithm and word of mouth(11:11) The story behind "Under the Olive Tree"(14:18) How childhood curiosity shaped emotional intelligence(15:50) From banking to MasterChef: Connecting the dots(17:45) Life-changing moments and pivotal decisions(20:34) Overcoming limiting beliefs during MasterChef(21:13) The "sacred gifts" revelation(24:27) Learning to accept praise and acknowledge others(27:57) The moment her name was called as MasterChef winner(29:23) From MasterChef to meaningful retreats(38:30) The transformational power of connection(39:54) MasterChef lessons on teamwork and trust(41:58) Why emotional intelligence matters for success(42:00) Three lessons for career success(43:15) The importance of doing the work(44:24) Never resent where you are - it's preparing you(46:03) Practice gratitude behind the wheel(48:12) If you could invite three people to dinner...(52:06) The one belief that shaped you(54:46) Closing thoughts and staying connected⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share itwith someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favouritepodcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow or Find Out More: Irini Tzortzoglouhttps://irinicooks.com/https://www.facebook.com/Irinitzortzoglou/https://www.instagram.com/irinitzortzoglou/https://www.linkedin.com/in/irini-tzortzoglou-aab9114/ ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a FreeDiscovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress,when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Yesterday I auditioned for TEDx and honestly, it didn't goas planned. I'm sharing what happened because the best learning comes from moments like these. In this episode, I walk you through my TOP ACT method - a powerful tool I use personally and with clients to process failure, silence imposter syndrome, and transform disappointment into growth. This isn't about perfection; it's about learning how to bounce back stronger. What You Will Learn:💡 A framework to stop spiralling after setbacks – Learn the exact journaling method that helps you process negative emotions and move from rumination to action 💡 Why your brain sabotages you in high-pressure moments – Discover how to identify the hidden triggers that derail your performance (even when you're fully prepared) 💡 The secret to turning failure into fuel – Find out how to extract powerful lessons from disappointing experiences without getting stuck in self-criticism Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction (02:37) Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast(05:17) Yesterday's TEDx Audition Experience(08:19) My Four-Year Journey to Become a TEDx Speaker(11:37) The Reality Check: 30 Applications on Average(14:39) Stage Three: The 10-Minute Audition(19:11) When Things Went Wrong: The Moment I Got Triggered(23:59) Post-Audition Feelings: Disappointment and Frustration(27:05) Introducing the TOP ACT Journaling Process(29:27) The Science Behind Journaling for Emotional Processing(32:00) The TOP ACT Method(65:57) Final Reflections: Learning, Growing, and Sharing(68:26) Outro and Resources⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

If you’ve followed me a while, you will know that I’ve gonefrom not being able to climb the stairs to climbing Wainrights for fun, (well, sometimes fun – sometimes the hills are hell).I burnt out and got ME from overdoing life and work. Theoverdoing came from not feeling good enough and the urge to prove my worth. But when is enough, enough? The bar just keeps rising.This is an interactive episode. You’ll hear real-timeaudience scepticism and the changes they experience after applying the technique I share. They were fab, and they ask the questions you probably want answered about overcoming imposter syndrome.What You Will Learn:💡 The hidden childhood pattern that's making you overwork - and the 7-minute technique that can ‘erase’it from your nervous system💡 Why your brain keeps you trapped in the same stress cycle - and the neuroscience-backed method that creates lasting change in minutes, not 66 days (which is how long it takes the average person to change)💡 The five imposter syndrome types sabotaging your success - discover which one is driving your burnout and how to stop the domino effect before it damages your health,happiness and wellbeingHere’s to your leadership developmentand personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction (01:50) What is Imposter Syndrome?(02:08) Today's Agenda - Strategies to Regain Control(03:39) Meet the Parents - Estelle's Personal Story(04:51) Growing Up Different - Feeling Like an Imposter(06:06) Working as Head of HR - Still Feeling Like a Fraud(07:42) Chronic Fatigue & Recovery Journey(08:10) Writing a Book - Procrastination & Self-Doubt(09:03) Becoming a Bestselling Author(10:16) The Message of Not Being Good Enough(11:24) The Imposter Syndrome Domino Effect(13:32) The Five Types of Imposter Syndrome(18:31) Audience Poll - Which Type Are You?(19:48) How Imposter Syndrome Causes Workaholism & Stress(20:45) Case Study: The Perfectionist Lawyer(23:55) Where Imposter Syndrome Comes From(24:43) Personality Formation - Ages 0-7 Imprint Period(28:45) Why Change is Challenging - Neural Pathways(29:49) Antidote #1: Havening Technique(30:14) Havening Small Print - Does It Work?(32:26) Live Havening Exercise Begins(35:54) How Havening Works - The Neuroscience(39:51) Havening Results - The Lawyer's Transformation(44:26) Client Results - Million Pound Conversation(45:04) Resilient Leader Program SHINE Overview(48:55) Antidote #2: Inner Captain vs Inner Critic(50:15) The Science of Journaling(51:53) TOP ACT Journaling Process(55:11) Learning to Accepting Yourself(56:50) Q&A from the audience(61:42) Q&A - Estelle's Personal Phobias Story⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism andStress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress,when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

My next guest’s work reshaped my understanding ofpersonality, why we are the way we are, and what birth order has to do with it. Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered clinical psychologist, writer, speaker, and broadcaster who has authored five self-help books. She’s also appeared ontelevision programs such as The One Show, The Vanessa Show, and Child of Our Time.We dive into family dynamics, birth order psychology, and sibling relationships - exploring how your place in the familycan influence personality, career choices, and leadership style. Linda shares insightful findings from her research on mother–infant bonding, her surprising collaboration with Professor Stephen Hawking, and practical strategies for lasting happiness. What You Will Learn:💡 Discover why your birth order position (firstborn, middle child, or youngest) influences your career success, stress levels, and relationship patterns - and how understanding thiscan transform your self-awareness💡 Learn the surprising research finding about what truly makes a "good mother" (hint: it's not what you think) and how this applies to leadership and knowing when to step in versus let go💡 Uncover the exact age when you were most authentically yourself and how revisiting that period can help you rediscover your passion, purpose, and what brings you into "flow" Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction - Birth order insights preview(02:02) Introducing Dr. Linda Blair & her morning routine (07:49) The four-hour creative focus principle(08:05) Grounding practices and mindfulness(08:11) Linda's origin story - from Kansas to Cambridge(12:03) Working with Professor Stephen Hawking(13:12) Studying mother-infant relationships in monkeys(15:44) How broadcasting and writing opportunities emerged(15:36) The privilege of being a psychologist(17:28) Lessons from Stephen Hawking(18:31) What makes a good mother - research findings(21:32) Family dynamics fascination and finding your passion(22:56) The age when you're most truly yourself(25:00) How adolescence disrupts authentic self(28:57) The concept of "flow" and being fullyengaged(29:51) Birth order book origins and Linda's three firstbornchildren(32:02) Firstborn characteristics and burnout(35:01) Middle child characteristics (38:08) Youngest child characteristics(40:48) Child of Our Time television experience(42:49) Steps to lead your best life - saying yes to opportunities(44:00) Treating everyone as equals(47:12) Linda's workshops and how to connect(49:09) The "real Linda Blair" story(49:29) Closing thoughts ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:Please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leavea review or share it with someone who might benefit.Thank you ❤️.⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/ 📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow or Contact Linda Blair:https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-blair-15187a31/https://lindablair.co.uk/ ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Free Discovery Call & Resources:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐ Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Do you wake up tired, feel less sharp than you used to, orhave aches and pains? Explore the critical connection between brain health,chronic pain, and the aging process in this eye-opening episode featuring neurologist Dr. Fawad Mian. Discover how "inflammaging," a slow, chronic inflammation associated with aging, silently impacts your brain and body, contributing to symptoms like brain fog, aches, and memory challenges. Dr. Mian shares powerful insights into regenerative medicineand how it can offer alternatives to surgery for managing chronic pain and injuries. Learn practical strategies to optimise your wellbeing and reclaim your health as he recounts his personal journey of overcoming failed surgeriesand embracing innovative treatments.  What You Will Learn:💡 Discover the silent health threat affecting your brain and body – Learn what "inflammaging" is and how this slow-smouldering inflammation could be accelerating your aging process, affecting everything from memory to chronicpain. 💡 Uncover surprising connections between sleep and serious health risks. Find out why your snoring or frequent bathroom trips at night could be warning signs of acondition that increases your risk of stroke and heart attack. 💡 Learn practical strategies to reclaim your health without surgery. Hear Dr. Mian's personal story of overcoming multiple injuries and discover the regenerative medicine approaches that helped him avoid the operating table.Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:00:00) Introduction and welcome(01:32) What is a neurologist?(02:49) How neurologists help stroke patients(05:24) Understanding inflammaging and chronic inflammation(07:33) Signs you're aging faster due to inflammation(09:57) The truth about weight loss medications like Ozempic(12:53) Why muscle mass matters more than you think(14:30) Exercise recommendations for women in perimenopause(17:00) Key health metrics to monitor(18:32) Understanding heart rate variability(20:39) Sleep apnoea: The hidden health threat(23:46) Solutions for sleep apnoea(25:04) Dr. Mian's book: Getting to Pain Free(27:12) Dr. Mian's personal injury journey(31:05) The emotional component of physical pain(34:38) Mindset strategies for managing chronic pain(36:00) Pattern interrupts and positive anchors(40:35) Reclaim Your Mind memory course(41:54) Top three health recommendations(43:46) Final question and closing thoughts⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here:https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Find Out More About Dr Fawad MianLinkedInInstagramYouTubeWebsites: https://prolohealing.com/& https://www.advocareneurowellnessmd.com/Free Webinar: https://course.prolohealing.com/webinar-registration ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn   YouTubeInstagramTikTokFacebookX ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE🌟The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotesto Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up.  ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I unpack the real reasons we self-sabotageand introduce the science-backed CLEAR framework - designed to counteract it and help you break through barriers to your biggest goals in 2026. Whether you’re setting personal milestones or leading a team, you’ll find actionableinsights to help you and your team shine brighter. This recording was longer than usual 😂, because there’s lots of great content to share, so it’s delivered in two shorter episodes.Part 1️⃣ (last week): The Top 5 Goal Self-Sabotage Mistakes that even the most driven people make - and how to avoid them. Part 2️⃣ (this week): The CLEAR Framework for setting and achieving goals to elevate your work and life. What you’ll learn in Part 2️⃣: 💡The 5-step CLEAR framework that top performers use to overcome self-sabotage and accelerate success. 💡Practical, science-based strategies to boost energy, align actions, and stay motivated all year. 💡How to set meaningful goals, build durable habits, and rise to the next level - at work and in life. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth in 2026! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast(01:04) Support the show: Like, subscribe, and share(01:30) Recap of part 1 of this episode and what’s ahead(02:17) Why we self-sabotage and how to break the cycle(03:44) Who this episode is for: leaders, professionals, and goal-setters(04:04) The science behind self-sabotage and transformation(05:12) Introducing the CLEAR framework(10:47) Step 1: Get clear on your vision and goals(11:06) Step 2: Let go of identity threats and limiting beliefs(12:15) Step 3: Energise: plugging energy leaks and boosting motivation(13:46) Step 4: Take aligned action and build success habits(15:57) Step 5: Rise: review, refine, and recognise your progress(45:58) Final thoughts, how to connect, and closing ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here:https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeeeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient LeaderProgramme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised LeaderProgramme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

How’re those New Year’s resolutions going? Most peoplegive up their New Year's resolutions by the second Friday inJanuary, a day dubbed "Quitter's Day," with studies showing over 80% abandoning goals by mid-January due to unrealistic expectations and waning motivation. If you want to understand why we self-sabotage and masterthe steps to stop it, these two episodes are for you. I’m sharing the science and stories behind why we self-sabotage - and, more importantly, how you can break free and achieve your boldest goals in 2026. Whether you’re aiming for personal growth, business breakthroughs, or simply want to feel more fulfilled, this episode is packed with actionable insights and real-life examples to inspire your next steps. This recording was longer than usual 😂, because there's lots of great content to share, so it’s delivered in two shorter episodes. Part 1️⃣: The Top 5 Goal Self-Sabotage Mistakesthat keep even the most driven people stuck and how to avoid them, (today’s episode).Part 2️⃣: My CLEAR Framework, forsetting and achieving goals to take your work-life to the next level, (next week’s episode). What You Will Learn in Part 1️⃣:💡The science behind self-sabotage mistakes that could be keeping your goals out of reach. Overcome procrastination, perfectionism, and the hidden ceilings that limityour success and performance.💡 The four goal categories to consider when creating your plan for 2026. 💡Get inspired by real-life stories and actionable tips that will empower you to take control, set meaningful goals, and accelerate your progress. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth in 2026! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast(01:04) Introduction: Meet Estelle Read and the mission of the show(01:30) Why we self-sabotage: Setting the stage for 2026 goals(06:24) The science behind self-sabotage and performance ceilings(07:49) Real-life examples: Overcoming setbacks and achieving breakthroughs(13:20) The four goal categories(18:59) Finding the real reason (and motivation) for your goals in 2026(23:51) Estelle’s personal journey: Lessons from the Lake District(31:51) The 5 self-sabotage mistakes revealed(47:06) How we delay our dreams(48:33) Invitation to connect and next steps(49:33) What’s coming in Part 2: The CLEAR Framework for transformation(50:00) Outro and how to stay connected⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Work with Estelle Read:🌟The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I reflect on the highlights of Season 4,sharing the most inspiring moments and lessons from my brave guests. We explore the mindsets, habits, and stories that can help you lead an even better work-life. After recording each episode, there was always a takeaway that made me reflect or take action - like doing my first wild water swim with my guest Philippa Hardy , a triathlon coach and HR veteran. What You Will Learn:💡 Discover the surprising common threads among high achievers - from overcoming fear to embracing vulnerability and setting bold goals.💡 Hear raw, honest stories that will inspire you to reframe setbacks, build resilience, and pursue your ambitions with renewed energy.💡 Get practical takeaways you can use to optimise your performance, productivity, success and wellbeing. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast(01:04) Season 4 Highlights: The Experiment That Became aMovement(02:05) The Power of Shared Experience: You’re Not Alone(03:17) What Guests Have in Common(06:08) Facing Fears and Setting Ambitious Goals(09:15) Mindset Shifts: Reframing Negative Thoughts(11:40) Discipline, Obsession, and Purpose(13:17) Honest Conversations: Moments That Change Everything(15:21) Resilience and Real Life Beyond Instagram Perfection(18:18) Breaking Out of Comfort Zones: Personal Stories(22:06) Tools and Ideas to Help You Lead Your Best Life(24:58) Thank You to the Guests and Listeners ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here:https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeeeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient LeaderProgramme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised LeaderProgramme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

I dive into the fascinating parallels between familydynamics at the Christmas table and the behaviours we see in meetings and the boardroom. Drawing from real-life coaching experiences and powerful psychological models, I’ll help you recognise old patterns, understand your triggers, and give you practical tools to handle difficult people both at homeand at work. What You Will Learn:💡 Discover the hidden connections between your childhood roles and your professional life - insights that will change how you see yourself and others.💡 Learn practical, science-backed strategies to handle challenging family or workplace dynamics, so you can stay calm, confident, and in control.💡 Unlock actionable coaching models that empower you to break free from old patterns and create more positive, productive relationships Wishing you a very merry Christmas. Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:00:00) Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast(01:00) Meet your host and coach, Estelle Read(01:30) Why family and boardroom dynamics are so similar(03:00) Classic roles at the Christmas table - and what they mean(05:00) How childhood experiences shape adult behaviour(08:00) Real-life coachingstories: triggers and transformation(12:00) Why is this person behaving this way? Discover what lies beneath the surface.(15:00) How we get caught up in ‘drama’ and how to get out of it(18:00) Why people try to control you and other throws a ‘tantrum’(21:00) Giving feedback that works - at home and at work(24:00) Practical tips for a stress-free Christmas (and career)(27:00) Final thoughts and how to connect with Estelle⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeeeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐ Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/🌟The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Book Recommendation: Birth Order: What Your Position In The Family Really Tells You About Your Character: https://amzn.eu/d/5Fp271J   

The first time I saw Andrew Whitehead, he was accompanying Sarah Walker-Smith, on the piano. It was lockdown and Sarah was singing from her office cabin she affectionately called the ‘shed’. As Senior Partner and CEO of Shakespeare Martineau, they were lifting the spirits oftheir colleagues.What struck me was the bravery, beauty and authenticity of their performance. Doing something totally different, putting themselves out there, and demonstrating poise, calm and leadership during stressful times. So, it was great to chat with Andrew where we got under the surface of leveragingwhat makes you different to advance your leadership career.What You Will Learn:💡 Discover the Power of Serendipity - How chance encounters shaped Andrew’s career and how you can spotand seize similar opportunities.💡 Overcome Fear and Embrace Challenge - Strategies for stepping outside your comfort zone, fromleadership to public speaking.💡 The Value of Being Different - Why standing out and authenticity can be your greatest asset in anyfield.💡 Resilience Through Adversity - Lessons from personal and professional challenges, including ahealth scare, on focusing what matters.💡 Actionable Growth Advice - Practical tips for building strong teams, finding renewed purpose, andthriving on your journey. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast(01:04) Meet Andrew Whitehead: Career Highlights & Background(03:11) The Role of Serendipity in Career Development(06:24) Overcoming Fear and Embracing Challenges(09:40) The Value of Being Different in Law and Life(13:00) Building Teams and Avoiding Self-Sabotage(16:40) Resilience Through Health Challenges(20:00) Advice for Facing Adversity and Finding Purpose(23:45) Pearls of Wisdom & Final Thoughts(24:35) Outro and How to Connect ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here:https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow Andrew Whitehead:https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewwhiteheadmartineau/ https://www.shma.co.uk/   ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeeeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐ Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient LeaderProgramme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised LeaderProgramme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotesto Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my freeworkbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when yousign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

You know those people who seem to do it all? My next guest does just that: five children, a partner, four dogs, and three books, plus she’s built a beautiful home on Lake Windermere. She now runs The Heaning Estate, a beautiful collection of dwellings she renovated, which you can stay in. How does she make it all possible? Deborah shares the secrets to her success: bravery, dream-driven ambition, and the discipline to take consistent steps – even when fear or doubt shows up. Deborah’s daily routine and wellbeing priority prove you can do it all. In this episode, she pulls back the curtain on life as an author and businesswoman.What You Will Learn:💡 Deborah’s daily habits that boost productivity while safeguarding wellbeing.💡 Real-life lessons from building a business, writing books, and balancing family life.💡 Learn how embracing fear and discipline, can unlock newlevels of creativity and business success. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Meet Deborah Lyon: Introduction and background(01:27) The Heaning Estate and the art of doing it all(06:46) How Estelle and Deborah met: A story of connection(14:56) Daily routines, discipline, and the 20/20/20 rule(24:21) Overcoming fear, imposter syndrome, and building belief(35:17) Writing, business, and the power of passion and purpose(47:19) Advice for aspiring writers and entrepreneurs(62:00) Reflections, regrets, and advice to your 18-year-old self(65:00) Closing thoughts and where to connect with Deborah⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow Deborah Lyon or Buy Her Book:https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborahannedone/Timewaif & The Roman Road: https://amzn.eu/d/cUADYiEhttps://timewaif.com/https://www.theheaning.com/ ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beee TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeee Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/ X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee  ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐ Work with Estelle Read:Find outmore about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE:https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXTLEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r  ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice. 

Content warning: This episode discusses suicide &mental health challenges. Leadership coaching often raises one tough question: How doI handle this difficult conversation & what do I say because I fear rejection?Imagine the courage it takes to tell your family you’re gay.I’m joined once again by the inspiring Neil Jinks. Following the overwhelmingly positive response to his last podcast, we connected again to talk more deeply. Neil opens up about the challenges he’s faced coming out asa gay man, including moments when suicide felt like the only way out. He shares his pivotal identity moments & how he learned to belong & become the best version of himself. He offers hopeful, practical tips for leading a happy & successful work-life. What You Will Learn:💡 Discover how childhood experiences & family expectations can shape our adult lives and how to breakfree from limiting beliefs.💡 Hear a powerful, honest account of embracing true identity, overcoming isolation, & building asupportive community. Neil’s brave and candid conversation with his father will touch your heart.💡 Actionable strategies for resilience, self-acceptance, & redefining what success means to you. If you’re affected by these subjects, please don’t sufferalone. Reach out to a mental health professional or confidential helplines. UK: Samaritans 116 123; US: 988. If you’re in another region, please contact your local crisis line. Here’s to your health & wellbeing ❤️.  Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome & Introduction by Estelle Read(01:04) Neil Jinks Returns: Why This Conversation Matters(01:23) Highlights: Identity, Belonging, & Overcoming Adversity(03:13) Diving Deeper: Childhood, Family, & Self-Discovery(06:40) The Emotional Journey: Coming Out & Finding Acceptance(13:23) Turning Points: Seeking Help & Embracing Change(19:44) Building the Alliance Network: Creating Community(24:03) Limiting Beliefs, Success, & Taking Risks(33:04) Practical Tools: Anchors, Affirmations, and Growth Mindset(44:16) Giving Back: Philanthropy, Minimalism, & the Power of Support(52:48) Final Thoughts & How to Connect⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Watch on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐ Follow Neil Jinks: https://www.linkedin.com/in/neiljinks/Neil is the Brand Ambassador for Broadriver Group: www.broadrivergroup.co.ukThe group includes:www.controlaccount.com www.datatraceuk.com www.sinclairtaylor.co.uk www.identeco.co.uk www.harpsoftware.co.ukNeil is also Chair or President of:www.cicm.comwww.ccua.org.ukwww.irrv.net/associations ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Strengths Profileshttps://store.gallup.com/h/en-gb https://www.16personalities.com/https://www.viacharacter.org/ ⭐ Work with Estelle Read:📈The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL: ⁠https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/⤴️The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/⭐Buy Estelle’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH ⭐Subscribe to Estelle's Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only & shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

As a leader or business owner, do you ever find yourself running out of ideas for driving business growth? And are your bored of, or in need of, some non-AI, business development inspiration? Daniel Jarvis, a Product Group Manager at Plastribution, anorganisation renowned for their innovation, have ripped up the rule book on how to develop deeper client relationships, which ordinarily take months to nurture.What Daniel and his fellow leaders created, sounded like so much fun! Not only that, but they also saved time and money.Dan’s insights underscore the importance of human connection but also how agile his business is when it comes to decision making. He shares practical tips on how to do this. We did discuss AI too – it’s hard to avoid it, but it’s alwaysinteresting to hear how other businesses are adapting and using it. Finally, Daniel was candid about how he overcame a fear,which created a mental shift and transformed his life in an instant. What You Will Learn:💡 Practical innovative strategies which drive business performance💡 The importance of not letting a fear fester and how to overcome it, so that you lead a better life💡An alternative approach to self-care for leaders, which returns you to a state of mind akin to child-like wonder Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome & Podcast Introduction(01:04) Meet Dan Jarvis: Early Life and Influences(02:16) Music, Bands, and Team Dynamics(10:00) Conflict, Feedback, and Decision-Making(20:00) Retirement, Purpose, and Planning Ahead(30:00) Overcoming Fear of Flying(38:00) Driving Business Growth, Innovation & Having Fun (45:00) AI in Business and Everyday Life(52:00) Balancing Work, Self-Care, and Childlike Wonder(58:00) Advice to Your Younger Self(79:39) Outro and Resources ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here:https://estelleread.com/podcast/ orwatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeeeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee⭐Access Free Resources & Work With Estelle Read:For free resources, book a discovery call or join The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL, visit https://estelleread.com/⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when yousign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r⭐Buy Estelle Read's Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH⭐Follow Daniel Jarvis:https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-jarvis-5493022b/https://www.instagram.com/danielljarvis/His band is called: Dropping Like Flies⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️.⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I sit down with my own coach, Simon Edwards- a PGA performance coach, tournament director, and all-around expert in helping people unlock their true potential. We dive into the mindset, stories, and strategies that have shaped Simon’s journey from playing in the OpenChampionship to coaching winners and transforming lives, including my own.Whether you’re a golfer, a leader, or just someone looking to be your best, you’ll find inspiration and practical wisdom in this conversation.Summary:💡 Get an insider’s look at what it’s like to compete in the Open Championship and share the practice range with golf legends.💡Learn how the “Kaizen” philosophy of continuous improvement can elevate your performance in any field.💡Discover practical coaching strategies and mindset shifts that help both elite athletes and everyday people achieve their goals.  Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast00:40 – Meet your host, Estelle Read01:04 – Introducing Simon Edwards: PGA coach &tournament director01:55 – Simon’s journey: From player to coach, and the OpenChampionship02:25 – The power of coaching, process, and continuousimprovement02:52 – Estelle’s personal golf story and lessons with Simon05:25 – Imposter syndrome and the “natural genius” mindset09:00 – The importance of process, Kaizen, and learning fromfailure13:30 – Family, switching off, and the value of obsession21:10 – Simon’s origin story: Family, values, and the loveof golf28:15 – Parenting, pressure, and building good humansthrough sport36:00 – Visualisation, performance, and the “zone” in golfand life45:00 – What makes someone brilliant? Simon’s checklist forcoaching and playing55:00 – Book recommendations and closing thoughts55:14 – Outro: Subscribe, share, and connect with Estelle Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcastsConnect with Estelle Read: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/    Access Free Resources:For free resources, book a discovery call or join TheResilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXTLEVEL, visit https://estelleread.com/  Connect with Simon Edwards:https://www.facebook.com/simon.edwards.581525https://www.instagram.com/sedwardsgolf/https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-edwards-49a9441b/ Please Help Us Grow So We Can Continue:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave areview or share it with someone who might benefit. Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast! Disclaimer: This podcast is for informationalpurposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Why is it that we must be taken to the very edge of asituation to wake up and realise we need to make a change, before it’s too late? In this episode, I open up about two life-changing wake-upcalls - one that nearly ended my marriage and another that resulted in a trip in an ambulance. I share the lessons these moments taught me about perspective, resilience, and the importance of consciously choosing how to move forward – because let’s face, most of the time we walk around on autopilot.Also, what if we could have the clarity of thought to makechanges before it’s too late? That was my intention with this podcast ep. I’ll guide you through a powerful coaching exercise to help you reflect on your own work-life and set a new course for tomorrow or the next 5 years. Today, I amyour coach ❤️. Summary:💡 How my partner’s health scare stopped us from separating.💡The shock of a paramedic telling you they suspect you are having or have had a heart attack. Spoiler alert: the cause was laughter. I share what happened next and the learnings.💡A step-by-step coaching exercise to help you assess your work-life and identify changes that you will feel motivated to make, without having to go to worst case scenario. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:Key Timestamps0:00 – Welcome & Introduction1:04 – The holiday incident: a wake-up call2:33 – Two life-changing moments: marriage crisis &health scare4:29 – Discovering a lump: facing the fear of cancer6:44 – The power of perspective and rebuilding trust9:15 – The second wake-up call: laughter, chest pain, and atrip to the hospital12:27 – The ambulance ride and confronting denial19:57 – Using NLP and self-hypnosis to manage anxiety25:32 – The “Three Chairs” coaching exercise: assessing yourlife47:00 – Reflecting on the past, present, and future1:10:00 – Lessons on resilience, letting go, and embracingchange1:12:00 – How to work with Estelle: coaching programs andnext steps1:13:45 – Final thoughts, resources, and how to connect Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcastsConnect with Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee  Access Free Resources:For free resources, book a discovery call or join TheResilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXTLEVEL, visit https://estelleread.com/  Please Help Us Grow So We Can Continue:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave areview or share it with someone who might benefit. Thanks for listening to theOptimising Your Brilliance Podcast!  Disclaimer: This podcast is for informationalpurposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consulta qualified professional for specific advice.

Philippa climbs mountains, swims in the wild and consistently pushes her comfort zone both personally and professionally, even when her heart pumps a little faster! She’s incredibly humble about her achievements, but her drive to expand her comfort zone is infectious – so much so, that I’ve agreed to go wild swimming too!   Philippa chairs the CIPD branch in Cumbria as a volunteer -and her volunteering doesn’t stop there, she’s a triathlon coach too! A genuine champion of others and by day she’s in HR Advice, Policy and Change Management for Cumberland Council.If you’ve been putting off a “thing” in your personal or professional life, and you’re unsure how to start or feel apprehensive, this conversation with Phillipa will inspire you to act. What You Will Learn & Summary:💡 What technique Philippa uses to swap Netflix, for a run, in preparation for her half Iron Man.💡 How she takes that initial brave step towards doing something, & pushes her comfort zone.💡 Why embracing adventure & a growth mindset can transform your work, happiness, & sense of self. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction to the podcast and Estelle Read01:04 – Estelle’s first encounter with the CIPD Cumbria Branch and meeting Philippa02:44 – Introducing Philippa Hardy: her roles, passions, and philosophy04:02 – Philippa’s origin story: family, education, and early career07:27 – The power of belonging and building connections after relocation10:30 – Women’s career journeys: challenges after child birth and beyond16:53 – Climbing, wild swimming, and pushing comfort zones22:01 – Coaching, triathlons, and the value of community27:00 – Growth mindset, authenticity, and learning from setbacks32:00 – Final thoughts: being brave, embracing imperfection, and enjoying the ride48:59 – Outro: How to connect with Estelle and resourcesListen on your favourite podcast platform or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcastsConnect with Estelle Read: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/    Access Free Resources:For free resources, book a discovery call or join The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL, visit https://estelleread.com/  Connect with Philippa Hardy:https://www.linkedin.com/in/philippa-hardy-fcipd-fhea-47872071/Please Help Us Grow So We Can Continue:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast! Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Content warning: This episode discusses suicide andmental health challenges. If you’re affected, please reach out to a mental health professional or confidential helplines. UK: Samaritans 116 123; US: 988. If you’re in another region, please contact your local crisis line.Have you ever come across someone who makes a profoundimpact on you, the very first time you meet them? This is Martin Williams, a recently retired partner and employment tribunal advocate from Mayo Wynne Baxter. He was also a member of Ampa, the UK’s leading legal and professional services group and one of the largest professional services B-Corporations in the world.In this deeply moving episode, we talk about the realitiesof mental health, leadership, and the power of vulnerability. Martin bravely shares his personal journey, including the challenges he’s faced and the lessons he’s learned about being open, seeking help, and supporting others. Thisconversation is raw, honest, and full of insights for anyone seeking understanding, support, or inspiration on their mental health journey. Summary:💡 Explore mental health challenges faced in high-achieving careers.💡 Find out why asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.💡 Get inspired by Martin’s journey from silence to openness and the impact it had on his life. Here’s to your health and wellbeing.  Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast0:40 – Introduction: About Estelle Read1:04 – Why this episode matters: Martin’s background and theimportance of talking about mental health2:13 – The impact of not talking and Martin’s leadershipphilosophy2:36 – The reality of suicidal thoughts as a leader2:57 – Support resources and the importance of reaching out3:14 – Introducing Martin Williams3:33 – How Estelle and Martin connected; the power of aheartfelt LinkedIn post3:53 – Martin’s origin story: family, childhood, and earlychallenges6:45 – From music to law: Martin’s career journey14:40 – The role of arts, advocacy, and confidence-building19:55 – Coping with isolation, bullying, and buildingresilience24:41 – The power of vulnerability: Martin’s viral LinkedInpost27:00 – The healing impact of sharing and community support33:45 – Journaling, self-reflection, and processing emotions41:39 – Mentoring, overcoming labels, and advice to theyounger self49:47 – Letting go of perfection and embracing openness58:39 – The importance of non-judgmental listening andsupport1:09:39 – What’s next for Martin: mentoring, poetry, andlegacy1:11:52 – Final thoughts: authenticity, learning, andlooking after yourself1:13:22 – Outro: Subscribe, share, and connect with Estelle Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcastsConnect with Estelle Read: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, book a discovery call or join TheResilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL, visit ⁠www.EstelleRead.com⁠  Connect with Martin Williams: https://www.linkedin.com/in/martin-williams-900a5a13/ Get support from the Samaritans:Call them anytime: 116 123https://www.samaritans.org/ Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast!  Disclaimer: This podcast is for informationalpurposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

I catch up with coach, Gemma Hogan to discuss what it means to be resilient and how to bounce back and thrive in challenging times. We have a candid conversation about overcoming imposter syndrome, navigating career pivots, and finding your flow - both professionally and personally.Gemma shares the momentous moments that shaped her, and the practical tools she uses to help others break through their own barriers.  Discover how Gemma transformed early feelings of not fitting in into a thriving career—and how you can do the same.Learn practical strategies for managing energy, setting boundaries, and avoiding burnout as you pursue your goals.Hear real-life stories about overcoming imposter syndrome, embracing creativity, and building a life you love. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction & Welcome01:04 – Meet Gemma Hogan: Origin Story and Early Challenges04:30 – Navigating Expectations, Imposter Syndrome, and Self-Doubt08:00 – Turning Points: Motherhood, Career Growth, and Coaching13:00 – The Power of Boundaries and Managing Energy18:00 – Strengths Profiling and Positive Psychology23:00 – NLP, Breakthroughs, and Overcoming Phobias28:00 – Levelling Up: What’s Next for Gemma32:00 – Creativity, Art, and Finding Your Flow37:00 – Final Thoughts: Brilliance, Resilience, and Advice for Listeners41:00 – How to Connect Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcastsConnect with Estelle Read: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, book a discovery call or join TheResilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL, visit ⁠www.EstelleRead.com⁠ Find Out More About Gemma Hogan visit: www.talenta.me.uk Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast! Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode I sit down with the incredible Neil Jinks - a top legal influencer, brand ambassador, and champion of diversity and inclusion. We dive deep into Neil’s personal journey, from overcoming imposter syndrome to embracing his unique strengths and daily routines that fuel his success. Neil shares candid stories about his upbringing, the impact of his parents, and the life lessons that have shaped his approach to work, wellbeing, and happiness. Whether you’restruggling with self-doubt or looking for practical ways to rise to your next level, this conversation is packed with insights, inspiration, and actionable tips to help you shine.  Summary:Discover how Neil transformed imposter syndrome into a source of strength - and how you can too.Learn the daily habits and mindset shifts that drivelasting success and happiness.Hear behind-the-scenes stories from Neil’s career,including his encounters with rock and pop royalty! Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction & Welcome00:41 – Meet Estelle Read and the Podcast’s Mission01:04 – Introducing Neil Jinks: Background & Achievements03:44 – Neil’s Origin Story: Family, Upbringing, and Early lessons09:05 – The Power of Being Yourself & Defining Brilliance16:18 – Overcoming Imposter Syndrome and Self-Sabotage19:49 – The Role of Daily Routines, Compounding, and Wellbeing35:57 – The CLEAR Process: Vision, Action, and Rising to the Next Level59:00 – Final Thoughts, Takeaways, and How to Connect Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcastsConnect with Estelle Read: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, book a discovery call or join TheResilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL, visit ⁠www.EstelleRead.com⁠  Connect with Neil Jinks: https://www.linkedin.com/in/neiljinks/Neil is the Brand Ambassador for Broadriver Group: www.broadrivergroup.co.ukThe group includes:Control Account: www.controlaccount.comdataTrace UK: www.datatraceuk.comSinclair Taylor: www.sinclairtaylor.co.ukIdenteco: www.identeco.co.ukHarp Software: www.harpsoftware.co.ukNeil is also:Chair of the Chartered Institute of Credit Management (CICM): www.cicm.comChair of the Civil Court Users Association (CCUA): www.ccua.org.ukPresident of the Institute of Revenues, Rating & Valuation (West Midlands):www.irrv.net/associationsThanks for listening to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast! Disclaimer: This podcast is for informationalpurposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice. 

In this episode, I interview Rachel Rainbow, a seasoned HR professional with 16 years of experience across multiple industries. Rachel shares her journey into HR, her passion for authenticity and integrity in leadership, and practical advice for managers and leaders. The conversation covers the evolution of HR, the importance of psychological safety, tips for handling underperformance, and the shift from work-life balance to work-life blend.Summary:Discover the top four qualities that make leaders and candidates truly stand out—straight from an HR veteran who’s seen it all.Learn why “work-life balance” is an outdated concept, and how embracing a “work-life blend” can transform your wellbeing and productivity. Get practical, real-world tips for tackling underperformance and creating a psychologically safe workplace where everyone can shine. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction to the podcast and host01:03 – Introducing Rachel Rainbow: HR background and leadership philosophy02:59 – Rachel’s origin story: From Yorkshire to HR04:19 – The impact of performing arts and singing on wellbeing09:45 – Falling into HR: Early career lessons and challenges11:42 – What makes people brilliant? Qualities admired in leaders and candidates15:33 – The importance of authenticity, integrity, and psychological safety17:36 – Addressing underperformance: Practical steps for leaders21:46 – Unconscious bias and the “horns and halo” effect24:54 – Learning styles, academic paths, and the value of experience28:41 – The HR Ninjas community and peer support31:24 – Work-life blend vs. work-life balance in the digital age32:52 – Rachel’s future outlook and personal mission33:37 – Closing thoughts Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead⁠  Connect with Estelle Read: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, book a discovery call or join The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL, visit www.EstelleRead.com  Connect with Rachel Rainbow: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-rainbow-chartered-mcipd/ https://www.thehrninjas.co.uk/Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast! Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Alex Wickens is fearless, positive, and resilient. She embodies these mindsets when facing challenges - on stage, in high-adrenaline sports, and through personal trials like recovering from cancer and losing a parent in the same year. She shares her stories with infectious humour and positivity.Alex is a true multi-hyphenate: interior designer, lecturer, senior business surveyor, community first responder, and amateur dramatics enthusiast. She’s also my “Cumbrian bestie.” In this episode:Alex shares stories from her unique upbringing in Storrs Hall Hotel, surrounded by people from all walks of life - including well-known celebrities from the 80s with helicopters and powerboats!Alex is one of the bravest people I know – she will give practically anything a go, which has shaped her career and personal life. Alex is quite the local celeb herself – not that she would describe herself in that way. However, during the festive season you will see her face plastered around Windermere on posters for the Christmas panto. We get into how to overcome the fear of public speaking and she shares: Her techniques for avoiding forgetting her line son stage.Insights on learning lines, handling mistakes onstage, and engaging an audience—plus how these lessons apply to business and life.The importance of self-belief, competing with yourself, and striving for your personal best.Navigating setbacks including cancer and the loss of aparent all in the same year, and the value of humour and positivity. Key Takeaways:- Brilliance is about authenticity, self-belief, and embracing challenges.- Mistakes are human - own them, use humour, and keep moving forward.- Every experience, good or bad, is an opportunity to learn and grow.- Stay positive, take baby steps, and don’t be afraid to “give it a go.” Connect with Alex Wickens:On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexwickens/ See the Lakes Players: http://www.lakesplayers.co.uk/wpsite/Connect with Estelle Read, Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeeeWatch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcastsI hope you’re enjoying the podcast! If you’d like to help it grow, you can:SubscribeLeave a reviewShare it with someone who might benefitThank you! Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome & Introduction01:04 – Meet Alex Wickens02:08 – Growing Up in a Hotel04:28 – Fearlessness & Taking Chances07:11 – Adrenaline & Adventure12:41 – Self-Belief & Competing with Yourself16:53 – Getting Into Amateur Dramatics27:45 – Handling Mistakes & Engaging the Audience34:52 – Resilience Through Health Challenges41:20 – Redefining Success & Letting Go45:00 – Maintaining Positivity & Adapting to Change48:23 – Defining Brilliance & Final Thoughts 

In this episode, I dive into Chapter 10 and wrap up my bestselling book  Inner Brilliance: Outer Shine, 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress.  I reflect on the importance of self-care, managing energy, and not letting work or stress steal our joy. I use personal stories, client examples, and research to highlight how our habits around food, sleep, movement, and self-compassion directly impact our wellbeing and performance. My goal is to encourage you to treat yourself with the same care you’d give a child, to make healthy choices, and to take mini-holidays every day so you can truly shine in work and life. I also share a glimpse of what’s next for the podcast, including upcoming interviews and new topics. Key Topics Covered:Introduction to the podcast and book wrap-upThe importance of self-care and energy managementThe "energy bank" analogy and how to make healthy depositsThe impact of food, sleep, and movement on health and performanceRecognizing and addressing inflammation and its effectsPersonal and client stories about overcoming burnout and health challengesPractical tips for better sleep, nutrition, and daily routinesThe value of self-compassion and treating yourself like you would a childEncouragement to take daily "mini-holidays" for wellbeingSummary of key points and a heartfelt conclusionPreview of future podcast episodes and guest interviews Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read x Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction & Podcast Overview01:04 – Chapter 10: Access the Mess Deck03:02 – The Energy Bank Analogy08:22 – Good Energy Deposits & Withdrawals18:24 – Inflammation: The Root of Many Health Issues27:31 – Food, Mitochondria, and Energy40:06 – Sleep: Why It Matters and How to Improve It57:02 – Move Your Body: Exercise and Longevity1:01:20 – Daily Self-Care and Mini-Holidays1:03:12 – Summary of Key Points1:04:37 – Conclusion & Final Reflections1:10:01 – What’s Next for the Podcast Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead⁠  Connect with Estelle Read: If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com  Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast!Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I dive into Chapter 9 of my bestselling book Inner Brilliance: Outer Shine, 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress.  I share how learning to handle life’s rough seas can shape our journey, both personally and professionally. I discuss the importance of managing our state of mind, processing emotions, and usingpractical tools to build resilience and find joy, even during challenging times. My goal is to help you become the captain of your own ship, steering toward greater wellbeing and fulfilment.Key Topics Covered:Our state of mind directly impacts our actions, performance,and happiness.Acknowledging and processing emotions is essential. I sharehow and the consequences of not doing this. Tools like Havening and EFT can help reset limiting beliefsand manage stress.Scheduling joy and making space for fun are vital forresilience.You have the power to navigate challenges, no matter thecircumstances.Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read x Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps00:00 – Introduction to the podcast and host00:40 – About Estelle and the episode’s focus01:04 – Reading from "Inner Brilliance OuterShine" – Antidote #901:32 – The importance of state of mind02:26 – My friend’s skiing story: accessing positivestates04:56 – State of mind: thoughts, feelings, body,neurochemistry06:03 – How to change your state08:03 – Personal story: perimenopause and HRT09:47 – Research: state of mind and leadership11:06 – Managing intense emotions12:24 – Story: emotions at a family funeral14:10 – Bottling emotions vs. acknowledging them16:00 – Meta-emotions explained18:00 – Emotional processing techniques22:47 – The “emotional bucket” analogy25:55 – Strategies for stress and resilience28:45 – Introduction to EFT31:17 – EFT resources and support32:41 – Cultivating and scheduling joy35:09 – Key takeaways and summary39:43 – Closing, resources, and next episode previewListen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleReadYou can find my EFT video mentioned in the podcast here: https://youtu.be/_PROjHMnKAg?si=lhaZXMd-9fENcuyh⁠  Connect with Estelle Read: If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com  Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast!Disclaimer: This podcast is for informationalpurposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I dive into Chapter 8 of my bestselling book  Inner Brilliance: Outer Shine, 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, which focuses on how to develop an inner captain and take charge of your thoughts. Key Topics Covered:I explore how to develop an “inner captain” to take charge of your thoughts and beliefs.I share personal stories, including my experience withimposter syndrome and a cancer diagnosis, to show how mindset tools work in real life.I discuss the impact of negative self-talk and how reframing thoughts can change your emotional state and outcomes.I reveal practical strategies like journaling, havening, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), and positive affirmations, to manage stress and negativity.I talk about the importance of gratitude and how focusing on what’s good in your life helps you to stay positive and become happier.I explain how I interrupt negative thought patterns—sometimes with humour, distraction, or even singing!I highlight the dangers of comparison, especially on social media, and how you can bring your focus back to your own journey.I encourage listeners to process emotions rather thansuppress them, using various tools. I remind you that negative feelings are temporary, and that we have the power to choose our response. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read x Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction to the podcast and host0:40 – About Estelle and her book1:33 – Starting Chapter 8: Develop Your Inner Captain2:37 – The impact of negative thoughts and language6:17 – Strategies to counter imposter syndrome andnegativity8:38 – Personal story: Facing a cancer diagnosis14:07 – Blackpool Illuminations: Spotting and interruptingnegative thought patterns17:04 – Journaling and processing thoughts21:06 – Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and havening24:06 – Dealing with uncertainty and "what if"thinking27:00 – Useful vs. useless thoughts; learning to reframe31:16 – Down in the doldrums: Coping with depression andloss36:46 – The power of gratitude and "re-dipping"into positive memories41:17 – Affirmations and manifesting positive change46:09 – Summary of key points and closing thoughts48:48 – What's next: Preview of Chapter 9  Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead⁠  Connect with Estelle Read: If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com  Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast!Disclaimer: This podcast is for informationalpurposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I dive into Chapter 7 of my bestselling book  Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress. I share practical strategies for running a tight ship in both your work and personal life. I open up about my own journey with boundaries, time management, and the lessons I’ve learned from clients and personal experience. If you’re ready to stop overworking, reclaim your time, and shine brighter, this episode is for you.Key Topics Covered:Why Boundaries Matter: Ishare how setting boundaries has helped me (and my clients) avoid burnout and reclaim joy in work and life.Parkinson’s Law: I explain how work expands to fill the time we give it, and why limiting our thinking time" to four hours a day can boost creativity and effectiveness.Production Line Analogy: I use my experience in manufacturing to illustrate how we can manage ourworkload, avoid bottlenecks, and prevent overwhelm.Saying No (Without Guilt): I talk about the importance of saying no, even when it feels uncomfortable.Time and People Boundaries: I reflect on how I’ve learned to protect my time from "time stealers" and set healthy boundaries with people who drain my energy.Delegation and Letting Go of Perfectionism: I discuss how perfectionism and the need to please can lead to overwork, and how I’ve helped clients (and myself) delegate and trust others.Owning Your Space: I share stories about how body language, mindset, and language can help us projectconfidence and claim our space, at work and beyond.Recognising When You’ve Used Up Your ‘Help Quota’: I talk about the importance of fair exchange in relationships and knowing when to step back from living too much. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read x Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction & episode overview02:01 – Antidote #7: Run a Tight Ship04:44 – Parkinson’s Law: Work expands to fill time06:49 – The four-hour productivity rule08:12 – Managing your “production line” (workload)13:15 – Overcoming perfectionism and people-pleasing18:10 – Learning to say no20:58 – Time stealers and digital boundaries22:12 – Setting people boundaries32:51 – Summary & key takeaways33:48 – Next episode preview & closing Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead⁠  Connect with Estelle Read: If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com  Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast!Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I dive into Antidote #6 from my book, "Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine" which is about offloading excess baggage. Key Topics Covered:I share personal stories from my coaching practice, highlighting how emotional baggage can hold us back in both our work and personal lives. I introduce you to Havening, a technique that has transformed not only my clients' lives but mine too. I explain the science behind Havening, how it was developed, and why it's my go-to tool for helping people release limiting beliefs and emotional pain in order to transform performance and personal lives. I also guide you through the process of identifying the root causes of recurring patterns and emotions, especially those that stem from childhood. Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction to the podcast and Estelle Reed01:04 – What is “offloading excess baggage”?03:00 – Real-life stories of overcoming emotional baggage06:23 – The science behind emotional baggage (ACE study)10:49 – How to identify and release limiting beliefs16:06 – What is Havening and how does it work?27:43 – What to expect from Havening39:14 – Summary and key takeaways41:56 – Preview of next episode and closing Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead⁠  Connect with Estelle Read: If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com  Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast!Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode of the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast Idive into Antidote #5: Navigate to Destination Joy.Discover how to move from feeling stuck or overwhelmed tofinding true fulfilment in work and life. Through real-life stories, practical strategies, and personal reflections, I share how setting a clear vision, aligning your goals with your values, and taking small, consistent steps can help you reach your own ‘Destination Joy.’ Start charting your course to a more joyful, purpose-driven work-life.Key Topics:The difference between vision and mission, and why both matter.Real-life coaching stories, including Jennifer’s journey from “Destination Grim” to “Destination Joy.”The dangers of drifting through life on “autopilot” and how to become the captain of your own ship.The pitfalls of fantasising about outcomes without taking action, supported by neuroscience research.The importance of setting specific, measurable, relevant, and time-bound (SMRT) Goals.How to break down big goals into manageable tasks and the power of accountability.The role of values and purpose in aligning your goals and vision.Personal anecdotes about vision boards, serendipity, and making congruent life decisions.What the science says about how to increase your chances of goal attainment. Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction & podcast overview03:28 – Chapter 5: “Navigate to Destination Joy”03:58 – Jennifer’s story: from stress to joy07:32 – Why vision needs action (research insights)08:31 – Small steps and resilience11:09 – Vision vs. mission; being congruent13:20 – Overcoming self-sabotage16:41 – Aligning vision with family and values19:07 – Setting and writing down goals21:11 – Breaking goals into tasks; accountability28:54 – Visualising and drawing your goals30:16 – Summary and key action points31:17 – The SHINE Coaching Programme and free resources32:03 – Closing and next episode teaserListen on your favourite podcast platform or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead  Connect with Estelle Read:If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit. For free resources, to join the SHINE Coaching Programme or to apply for a discovery call, visit www.EstelleRead.com  Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast!Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

I’m reading Chapter 4: Align Towards Your Stars from my bestselling book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress. I’m sharing all 10 chapters from my book as a way to support your summer growth and personal development. The goal of this chapter is to help you tune into every thing that is brilliant about you and important to you, so that you are super-powered towards what makes you shine. In this episode, we’ll explore: What happens when our shine is dulled.What makes you amazing: your strengths.How to accept and understand nature-based weaknesses.How we can ‘fix’ nature-based weaknesses.How to recognise when your stars align.What happens when we overdo our strengths.Working out what’s important to you: your values.What happens when we are misaligned with our values.The different types of values: towards and away from values.The consequence of over-doing values.Understanding your purpose I have permission from my publisher to read most of my book aloud. If you'd like to access the parts I’ve omitted, you can download the accompanying workbook and journal here: https://estelleread.com/resources/Here’s to your shining! Estelle xBestselling Author, Coach & SpeakerConnect & access free resources here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeeeDisclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Hello there!In this episode, I read Chapter 3: Understand What Causes You to Sink from my bestselling book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress.I’m sharing all 10 chapters from my book as a way to support your summer growth and personal development. The goal of this chapter is to help you understand the root cause of your stress, workaholism and imposter syndrome. In this episode, we’ll explore: The Nature vs Nurture Model of PersonalityWhether you grew up in a safe and stable environment or wasit unsafe and unpredictable oneWhether you felt loved or rejectedWhether you felt like a success or failureWhat happens when faking it doesn’t help you make itHow we can ‘cheat’ change and update outdated beliefs and coping strategies I have permission from my publisher to read most of my book aloud. If you'd like to access the parts I’ve omitted, you can download the accompanying workbook and journal here: https://estelleread.com/resources/Here’s to your shining!Bestselling Author, Coach & SpeakerConnect & access free resources here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeeeDisclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Hello there! In this episode, I read Chapter 2: Captain Your Ship from my bestselling book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress. I’m sharing all 10 chapters from my book as a way to support your summer growth and personal development. The goal of this chapter is to help you realise you have more control over your conscious and unconscious mind—and how your thoughts and attitudes influence your results. In this episode, we’ll explore:The importance of coming off autopilot and how you can make yourself 4% better! How your conscious and unconscious minds work How to be more consciously in charge and how processing through our senses influences our outcomes Shifting from a victim or persecutor mindset toward being your own Brave Captain [of your ship].I have permission from my publisher to read most of my book aloud. If you'd like to access the parts I’ve omitted, you can download yourself-coaching tools here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee Here’s to your shining! Estelle xBestselling Author, Coach & SpeakerConnect & access free resources here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeeeDisclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Hello there!In this episode, I read Chapter 1: Know Your Co-ordinates from my bestselling book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress. I’m sharing all 10 chapters from my book as a way to support your summer growth and personal development.The goal of this chapter is to help you establish where you are right now, so you can start reflecting on what you’d like to change. In this episode, we’ll explore:How we get stuck in Groundhog Day with our stress patternsWhat burnout and stress really areWhy moving beyond stress, workaholism, and imposter syndrome is an inside job - we have to take charge of our ‘ship’Why reassurance-seeking doesn’t work to make us feel good enoughHow we shrink our space and limit ourselvesWhat imposter syndrome is and how it connects to not feeling good enoughWhy denial only prolongs our suffering and how to break freeI have permission from my publisher to read most of my book aloud. If you'd like to access the parts I’ve omitted, you can download them from my Workbook and Journal, which serves as a self-coaching model, available here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee Here’s to your shining! Estelle xBestselling Author, Coach & SpeakerConnect & Access Free Resources here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeeeDisclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Hello there!I’m so excited to re-launch my podcast under a new title: Optimising Your Brilliance. To celebrate, I’ve received permission from my publisher to share from my bestselling book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress. I thought it would be a great way to support your summer growth.In this first episode, I read the introduction to my book and share an overview of what you can expect from future chapters. See if you can relate to 'Charlotte'.Here’s to your shining! Estelle xBestselling Author, Coach & SpeakerAccess Free Resources, Connect or Find Out More Here: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeeeDisclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Roz very kindly endorsed my book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress. We trained together as coaches 18 years ago and what’s always impressed me about her, is that she makes a success of whatever she turns her hand to.She’s been a partner in a firm of patent attorneys in Derby, run a coaching business and is now an award-winning crime author with Harper Collins with her DI Meg Dalton Crime Series.This episode of Leader Insider Secrets was recorded from her writing shed overlooking a field where she thinks about murder plots. We talk about:· Her murder board.· How she uses repetitive activities to think creatively.· How she knows when it’s time to change something in her work or life.· Her tips for focusing and concentrating.· The positive childhood experience which taught her to ask for help and to trust people.· How she doesn’t get hung up on goals which she can’t control. She focuses on things she can make happen.· How she handles 1 star reviews.· How it’s important to let yourself feel ‘it’ and be genuine in your emotions.· How she cheers herself up if she feels down, when she needs to get a job done.· The worst piece of advice she’s been given.Roz is one of the most interesting people I know and has a brilliant brain. It was easy to see, listening to her, why she makes a success of things.The best place to connect with Roz is on Twitter. You can find out more about her books here, the first in the series is The Devils Dice.You can connect with me Estelle Read, book a free 30 minute discovery session, get free resources or order my book Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress here.Thank you for listening to Leader Insider Secrets. You can help this podcast grow by leaving an honest review.Also, if you want to get future episodes remember to hit subscribe.

I was privileged to interview podcasting royalty Professor Damian Hughes. He’s the co-host of UK’s most popular pod, The High Performance Podcast with Jake Humphrey and they’ve interviewed some amazing guests ranging from Mathew McConaughey, Rio Ferdinand, Alastair Campbell, Dame Kelly Holmes and Mel Robins.Damian is an international speaker and the author of many best-selling books. I was therefore honoured when Damian agreed to come on my podcast AND endorse my book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress.As you might expect with Damian, this episode is jam-packed with thought provoking statements and advice about recreating high performance.  We talk about:· How success leaves clues.· How to establish a culture of high performance.· The person Damian thinks of when he thinks about success.· How imposter syndrome at school, positively drove him on to where he is today.· How confidence comes from evidence.· How to create psychological safety.· The importance of a ‘blueprint’ for high performance, which is based on strengths and looking for what has already been done successfully.· And of course, sport! He has worked with and interviewed many international sporting heroes.Damian is someone I’ve looked up to for a long time. We first met 16 years ago at the launch of his first book and I can remember thinking wow back then. I was left feeling even more impressed following our conversation. He’s candid, funny, holds a wealth of knowledge and generously shares his time and expertise.You can connect with Damian on LinkedIn, Instagram or find out more about him here. This is where you can listen to his podcast and find his latest best-selling book.You can connect with me Estelle Read, book a free 30 minute discovery session, get free resources or order my book Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress here.Thank you for listening to Leader Insider Secrets. You can help this podcast grow by leaving an honest review.Also, if you want to get future episodes remember to hit subscribe.

You never forget Matt when you meet him; he’s statesman-like, tenacious, honest, really passionate about his business and how people are led. He also has an amazingly creative mind.In this episode we talk about: His presentation at a People Strategy day. He really shone in that moment. Matt talks about how he gets nervous doing speeches; it really wasn’t evident on the day and was one of the best key note speeches I have seen. Imposter Syndrome and what it’s related to for him. His experience of Havening and how he overcame events from his past. His daily routine. He has clear time boundaries, which help maintain a healthy work-life balance. He shares his tips. What people get wrong about him. He’s been told he can be blunt hostile and insufferable. However, it’s just a front. He really cares and is terrified of people thinking ill of him. Organisational culture and the importance of trust. A high performance model which incorporates trust and the behaviours which grow trust within businesses.Matt Trewartha is a Partner at Fisher German and joined the business in April 2013. He is a Property Manager and Consultant for large Corporate and Private Clients. This involves the proactive management of property assets on behalf of clients to maximise income, optimise opportunities, reduce risks, protect the capital value of the asset and remove the distraction to allow the owners to captain their industry, protect their heritage or simply enjoy their time.You can connect with Matt on LinkedIn here. You can find out more about Fisher German here.You can connect with me Estelle Read, book a free 30 minute discovery session, get free resources or order my book Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress here.Thank you for listening to Leader Insider Secrets. You can help this podcast grow by leaving an honest review.Also, if you want to get future episodes remember to hit subscribe.

Lisa Sachwell is a Pain Management Specialist and Yoga Teacher. I refer to Lisa as the ‘miracle women’, because years ago she sorted out my painful and immobile shoulder. It was only afterwards I realised that there was an emotional connection to the pain I was feeling. I was shouldering too much responsibility.This is where there’s synergy between the work that Lisa and I do; Lisa facilitates change in the body and I facilitate change in the mind, which is why I thought it would be good for us to chat. For example, did you know that fMRI studies show that the same areas of the brain become activated when we experience rejection, as when we experience physical pain?In this latest episode of Leader Insider Secrets, which is centred around the topics in my book, Inner Brilliance. Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress, Lisa shares how you can look after your mind, body and soul, because how can you shine if you’re in pain!Lisa is a fascinating person and she talks about the tools and techniques she uses to manage her wellbeing and lots of other things including:· How she positively programmes her unconscious mind first thing in the morning and sets herself up for success.· Managing your inner critic – Lisa shares a simple but powerful technique.· How she intuitively knows where the pain is, in a client’s body.· How she’s rebellious and doesn’t like routine.· Trees, nature and grounding yourself. Shoes are an issue!· Death and managing the transition and stages of grief.· Energy and auric fields.· Her Yoga practice – she has a fabulous relaxing retreat coming up.It’s not a mainstream conversation…it’s a really interesting one! Lisa presses the reset button on pain, you can find out more about her and the retreat here. You can connect with Lisa on Facebook or Instagram.You can connect with me Estelle Read, book a free 30 minute discovery session, get free resources or order my book Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress here.Thank you for listening to Leader Insider Secrets. You can help this podcast grow by leaving an honest review.Also, if you want to get future episodes remember to hit subscribe.

Debbie Jenkins was my book coach, so it seemed fitting that I interviewed her for Series 2 of Leader Insider Secrets, which focuses on the topics covered in my book, Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress.Without Debs, my book would never have got published. She is one of the best businesswomen I know. Full of fun, ideas and chaos! We talk about chaos a lot on this episode and how you can turn clever thoughts into assets.Debs has run businesses and led people for a long time. She had beanbags in chillout rooms before they were even a thing at Google – this is how her mind works. Always ahead of the curve. Originally an electronics engineer, but since then has run a marketing company, written many books, and coached lots of authors.Here’s what we cover:· How to use chaos effectively – it needs constraints.· Being polymathic. I’d never heard of the word until this episode.· How she is recovering from control freakery which stems from being the oldest child of four. This led to always feeling responsible, stepping forward and getting things done. However, it got exhausting.· How imposter syndrome keeps her humble and on her toes.· What ‘4 am Dave brain’ is and how she deals with it.· How a story which her headmaster told her each year, became a burden initially, but then inspired change. She learnt not to compare herself with others.We laughed a lot on this episode like two naughty school girls, as I suspected we would.You can connect with Debs on most social media platforms @debsjenkins. You can find out more about the work that Debs does at: https://theassetpath.com/ or https://debbiejenkins.com/You can connect with me Estelle Read, book a free 30 minute discovery session, get free resources or order my book Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress here.Thank you for listening to Leader Insider Secrets. You can help this podcast grow by leaving an honest review.Also, if you want to get future episodes remember to hit subscribe.

Andrew Bridge, Managing Partner of Fisher German (FG) really embodies what it means to be a great, modern leader. FG employs over 600 employees and is 60-person partnership. This is no mean feat when it comes to creating alignment, because it’s like having 60 business owners!Andrew is purpose driven. He recognises how his organisation can make a difference to the survival of the human race through their services.He genuinely thinks highly of his team (he says they are amazing) and very much achieves results through them. What’s evident about Andrew’s success is his mindset. Always seeing the opportunity in challenges but also continually growing and helping his team to be the best they can be.We talk about the things that contribute towards both his and FG’s success:How a big part of leadership involves talking to people and listening.How taking time to think and reflect enables him to be focused on what he’s going to achieve each day.How, since lockdown he is more conscious of what a good day or meeting looks like and the outcomes which are necessary.That profitability comes from your people being happy and enjoying what they're doing and your clients being happy and content with the service.He reads a lot! His favourite book is Legacy. He also has my book on his bedside cabinet, which he kindly endorsed. The business subscribes to Audible and they have a book club so that people can share their learning. How imposter syndrome creates fear and self-doubt, which exists in everybody, but that having the right level of support around you helps.How you must appreciate that some things are outside of your control and that worrying about them isn’t going to make any difference.How he sees himself as a guardian who is ensuring they are all working together as one team moving in the right direction.How he felt that at school he was always chasing his tail and wasn’t academic, so instead learnt how to communicate and convince people effectively. He loves standing up in front of people and being able to talk without a script!How he has been constantly trying to prove himself to make those people around him proud – in particular his mum and dad. He recognises that he’s not perfect and never will be, but if he can make himself a little bit better than he was yesterday, then that's progress.How he’s developing a culture where it is a safe place to fail, which is easier to say, but a lot more difficult to create. This is not because they deliberately set out to fail. It’s about doing something different next time [when things go wrong], but also being able to express yourself without fear, so that you reach your boosted potential.When he thinks about success, he thinks about his Dad.Andrew is a great person and would love you to connect with him. He’d like you to realise that leaders are normal people, who want other people to be able to talk to them; relate to them.You can connect with Andrew Bridge on LinkedIn. You can find out more about Fisher German here.You can connect with me Estelle Read, book a free 30 minute discovery session, get free resources or order my book Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress.Thank you for listening to Leader Insider Secrets. You can help this podcast grow by leaving an honest review. Also, if you want to get future episodes remember to hit subscribe.  

If you want to kickstart your 2022 with some habits which are scientifically proven to boost your productivity, listen to Will Mellors-Blair in my first podcast episode of Series 2 of Leader Insider Secrets. I’d describe it as: uplifting, inspirational, motivating, honest and with easy to adopt strategies for your mental and physical wellbeing. Will Mellors-Blair is the CEO of Fitpack and he has set himself the goal to empower 1 billion people to better their work day routines through his technological platform for HR professionals. Will has a passion for formulating human health optimisation and his research and models have been utilised in organisations globally. It’s no surprise he’s been invited to be a TEDx speaker! His interest in health first stemmed from being a 9 year old signed to play football for Manchester United. He was surrounded by the world’s best manager of the time, Sir Alex Ferguson. Being around elite athletes made him want to be the best. He began wondering what he could do to be faster, fitter and sleep better. This led him to his research questions. Will surrounded himself with experts in the fields of performance nutrition and psychology. He shares his science backed tips in this episode, including: 3 things you can do to optimise your performance; why pressing snooze is bad for your brain and how to meditate easily. You can connect with Will on LinkedIn or Instagram. You can find out more about Fitpack here. You can connect with me Estelle Read, book a free 30 minute discovery session, get free resources or order my book Inner Brilliance · Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress here.

We dive into the inspiring journey of Paul Snape, the Deputy Chief Executive and Head of Business Development at The Bridge East Midlands. With a mission to prevent homelessness and create resilient communities, Paul shares his insights on leadership and the importance of trust within teams.Paul talks about dealing with personal challenges whilst navigating a new role, the pandemic, growing the organisation and getting super-fit - all at once! How he has creatively brought his team together to accommodate hybrid working. He shares some brilliant ideas for away days and running meetings as a leader. How his personal and the organisational values align. Honesty is really important to Paul which is about knowing his limits, and being honest about who he is. As a gay guy, Paul came out later in life compared to today. He has learnt to understand and love who he is; to be genuine and be himself. YWhat You Will Learn:💡 The impact of trust on team dynamics and productivity.💡 Innovative approaches to community engagement and education in preventing homelessness.💡 Practical strategies for personal wellbeing and maintaining resilience during challenging times. Here’s to your success and wellbeing! Estelle ReadBestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome & Introduction(01:10) Meet Paul Snape: Background and Role at The Bridge East Midlands(05:00) The Mission of The Bridge: Preventing Homelessness(10:30) Navigating Leadership Challenges During the Pandemic(20:15) The Importance of Community Education and Engagement(30:00) A Day in the Life: Balancing Responsibilities and Wellbeing(40:00) Building Trust and Empowering Teams(50:00) Personal Transformation and Coping Mechanisms(60:00) Final Thoughts and How to Connect with Paul⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Connect with Paul Snape:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-snape/ ⭐Follow Estelle Read:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE:https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.