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Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Host Tara McCausland interviews Debbie Laaser about understanding and managing triggers after betrayal.  Laaser explains that distress from triggers is shaped by perceptions and encourages slowing down reactive fight-or-flight responses. Using her “seven desires” model (to be heard/understood, affirmed, blessed/loved unconditionally, safe, healthily touched, chosen, and included), she suggests identifying which unmet desires a trigger activates, noting that unmet needs intensify pain and that past experiences influence present reactions. She recommends journaling triggers with guided questions, offloading anger safely, and communicating practical needs rather than reacting. Laaser emphasizes wives are not responsible for husbands’ acting out behaviors, highlights post-traumatic growth, points listeners to seeking God to meet ultimate desires, and advises early professional help, community support, and a three-part recovery approach: his, hers, and eventually couples work after sobriety and truth-telling.Connect with Debbie at faithfulandtrue.com.00:00 Welcome and Topic Setup01:57 Meet Debbie Laser02:51 Triggers and Trauma03:42 Why Triggers Hurt07:14 Perception vs Truth09:43 Seven Desires Framework14:02 Restaurant Trigger Example17:17 How Past Wounds Amplify Triggers21:00 Working Through Triggers Process27:36 Safe Anger Release32:08 Needs and Boundaries36:13 Daily Growth and God43:42  Final Advice Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Host Tara McCausland speaks with Pathway to Recovery co-host Jonathan L. Jonathan starts by sharing his adolescent internet porn exposure and how curiosity eventually led to  pornography addiction. He shares how his behavior intensified after his mother died when he was 14, and produced shame, compartmentalization, lying. After marriage, he disclosed to his wife, relapsed, hid again, and later experienced suicidal ideation.  This was followed by Divine help that came after a heartfelt prayer. He was soon after introduced to SAL 12-Step and has been working recovery since 2021. Tara and Jonathan define top lines, bottom lines, and boundaries, and discuss creative top-line practices to build trust, raise bottom lines (e.g., removing social media), and emphasize incremental progress, accountability, celebrating wins, and choosing recovery over addiction.00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro01:14 Podcast Milestones and Listener Shoutout02:39 03:06 Early Exposure and Addiction Roots04:41 Loss, Grief, and a Double Life05:44 Mission, Marriage, and First Disclosure08:50 Suicidal Ideation and Turning Point10:35 Recovery Begins - Participating in SAL 12-Step and Therapy13:35 Compassion for Younger Self18:27 Defining Top Lines, Bottom Lines, Boundaries21:54  22:44 Turning Alone Time into Trust Building Moments24:05 Celebrating Progress25:13 26:35 Sponsor Vision Exercise27:06 Positive Recovery Mindset - Living by Top Lines30:02 Weeds vs Flowers Reframe30:36 Bottom Lines as Guardrails31:17 Raising Bottom Lines 34:33 Addressing Overwhelm and Striving for 1% Better37:44 Celebrate Wins Together40:45 Intentional Recovery Work42:22 Discipline Over Regret43:38 Advice for New and the TiredSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Host Tara McCausland interviews psychotherapist Scott Stolarick, who shares how his work in corrections and with  sex offenders led him to recognize trauma as a driver of maladaptive behavior and the need for both accountability and support rather than shame. They discuss common misconceptions about trauma, differences between recent and historical trauma, and how childhood coping strategies can become harmful in adult relationships. Scott emphasizes trauma’s personal nature, the importance of validating first disclosures, building safety and trust, careful history-taking, and thoughtful use of modalities like EMDR with informed consent, concluding with encouragement for those beginning or continuing recovery.00:00 Conference Invitation01:40 Meet the Host and Guest03:49 Scott’s Background04:43 Seeing Trauma in Sex Offenders09:44 Myths About Trauma13:05 Fresh vs Historical Trauma14:19 Trauma for Addicts vs Partners17:54 Childhood Maladaptive Coping Skills Brought into Adulthood21:32 What Counts as Trauma25:06 Building Resilience28:33 Why Trauma Awareness Matters31:17 Healing Order of Operations35:54 Effective Trauma Modalities37:25 Closing Advice for Recovery38:36 Final Thanks and WrapSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Host Jonathan L.  interviews guest Heather B. about surrender as a key recovery principle. Heather shares formative experiences where prayer was her refuge amid family abuse and dysfunction, her brother’s fatal accident, and a first marriage marked by discoveries of multiple addictions that led to her choosing divorce. Heather describes healing trauma through therapy and shares how applying SAL’s three-step surrender process (“on the phone, on my knees, in the box”), has helped her learn to relinquish control and trust God, allowing her to find peace amidst many of life's challenges.  00:00 Conference Announcement02:03 Meet the Host and Guest02:40 Early Experiences with the Power of Prayer05:15 First Marriage and Betrayal08:03 Miracles and a New Path09:28 Second Marriage Growth12:37 Therapy and Trauma Healing14:22 Learning the Surrender Process16:38 What is Surrender?19:17 Phone Knees Box Method23:23 Letting Go of Outcomes28:27 Regulating Big Emotions30:40 Handling Intrusive Thoughts32:30 Daily Spiritual Practice35:33 Advice for Newcomers37:22 Encouragement to Return38:56 Closing Thanks and WrapSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Host Tara McCausland welcomes Dr. Jill Manning for part two of a discussion on pornography and dating. This episode covers what to do when a dating relationship is already affected by pornography. Manning advises an immediate “slow down,” warning against the myth that marriage or sex will solve pornography or sexual addiction, and urges partners not to proceed toward engagement or marriage while addiction is active; she cites guidance that a year of sobriety and recovery work is ideally established first. They discuss avoiding codependent “fixing” by the non-using partner,  clarifying responsibility, and how marriage stress can escalate compulsive behavior. Manning describes recovery markers beyond abstinence—insight, humility, openness, honesty, transparency, firm boundaries, and emotional maturity—and notes compulsive sexual behavior often co-occurs with mental health issues.00:00 Conference Announcement01:19 Podcast Welcome03:41 Slow Down First08:46 Boundaries Not Fixing11:16 Marriage Myth Debunked19:33 Leverage Before Marriage26:18 Mental Health Underneath28:41 Signs of Real Recovery36:03 Avoid Codependency40:15 Hopeful ClosingSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Host Tara McCausland speaks with Dr. Jill Manning about empowering singles to prevent pornography problems through education, value clarification, and open communication. Manning rejects the narrative that “all men look at porn,” noting both genders can struggle and that “common” doesn’t mean healthy; she warns that this belief enables use and often causes individuals to abandon personal values or ignore discomfort around pornography use. She advises bringing the topic up in dating situations after some trust is built, prepping with other meaningful discussion topics, and paying attention to a person's comfort and authenticity around the subject of pornography. Manning explains pornography use is never a "small issue" because it consistently undermines healthy relationship development citing research linked to porn use and relationship dissatisfaction and increased divorce risk.00:00 Conference Announcement01:20 Meet Dr. Jill Manning02:36 Why This Topic Matters05:20 Jill’s Experience: Dating and Talking About Pornography10:21 Myth: Everyone Does Porn15:36 Clarifying Values and Ethics25:23 Research and Real World Harms28:40 How to Bring It Up in Dating36:47 Why It’s Never a Small Issue42:05 Part Two Teaser and WrapSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Jonathan L welcomes Mitch H, who shares his journey from early pornography exposure to escalating sex and lust addiction marked by secrecy, workplace boundary violations, confession, marital strain, and cycles of relapse. Lasting change began when a sponsor challenged him to fully commit to recovery and to do whatever recovery required. Mitch describes humility as the key to sustainable recovery—“seeing things as they really are” and staying “right sized,” without ego or self-condemnation. He explains how humility fuels honesty, connection with God, and trust in a sponsor, making it essential to working the steps and maintaining long-term change. Mitch closes by encouraging newcomers to keep coming back and reassuring them that healing and freedom are possible.Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland interviews Steven Croshaw, president and co-founder of S.A. Lifeline Foundation, who is also her father. Steven shares his journey of battling sexual addiction, starting from exposure to pornography at a young age, through years of hidden behaviors and relapses, to ultimately achieving sobriety and long-term recovery for nearly two decades. He emphasizes the importance of rigorous honesty, humility, accountability, and the critical role of understanding and addressing trauma for relational healing. The conversation highlights the key aspects of long-term recovery: the significance of embracing compulsive, problematic sexual issues as an addiction; the interplay of lust and shame and what truly drives addiction; working the 12 Steps; developing top lines, bottom lines, and boundaries to sustain sobriety. Real-life challenges and insights from both Steven and Tara provide a deep, personal perspective on the complexities and rewards of recovery.Read Steven's article HERE.00:00 Positive Sobriety & Keys to Long-Term Sex Addiciton Recovery Takes w/ Steven Croshaw02:20 Steven's Early Struggles with Addiction04:44 Marriage and Hidden Behaviors07:02 First Confession and Continued Struggles08:36 Second Confession and Realization of Addiction10:14 Arrest and Turning Point11:30 Understanding Addiction and Recovery21:49 The Role of Lust and Shame in Addiction26:16 Defining Sobriety in Recovery30:54 Understanding Lapses and Relapses31:47 Keys to Long-Term Recovery33:31 Daily Practices for Recovery37:52 Addressing Betrayal Trauma49:11 The Role of Resentment in Addiction53:55 Bottom Lines and Top Lines in Recovery55:51 Final Thoughts and EncouragementSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. This podcast episode features a women's 12-step panel from the 2025 S.A. Lifeline Virtual Conference. Moderated by Tara McCausland, the discussion centers on the SAL recovery puzzle, circle models, and how these tools aid in healing from betrayal trauma. The panelists—Madison, Jan, Sarah, and Lisa—share their unique recovery journeys, emphasizing the importance of a willing heart, seeking spiritual connection, humility, honesty, supportive community, qualified therapy, boundaries, and the surrender process. Each woman provides personal insights and practical advice on navigating the complex emotions and challenges in their healing process, reaffirming that recovery is a gradual but achievable goal. Join us for the upcoming S.A. Lifeline Foundation Vision Cast!Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland speaks with therapist Tammy Gustafson about 'incomplete recovery' in the context of sex addiction and how it affects both partners in the relationship. Tammy explains the concept of incomplete recovery, where behavioral changes without deep, relational character work leave partners feeling unsafe and dissatisfied. The episode also explores how triggers are indicators of unresolved trauma needing attention and offers strategies for calming the nervous system. Tammy provides advice for both addicts and betrayed partners, emphasizing the importance of emotional safety, self-compassion, and continued hard work for healing. She recommends shifting from performance-based to identity-based recovery and underscores the necessity of ongoing deep, character-transforming work for genuine recovery.Want to connect with Tammy? Check out her website here. Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this brief holiday episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland reflects on the challenges faced by those dealing with sexual addiction and betrayal trauma during this season. Drawing parallels with Charles Dickens' A Christmas Carol, Tara explores how the past, present, and future present hurdles and opportunities for those grappling with these issues.  She emphasizes that change is always possible through honesty, accountability, and willingness, encouraging listeners to embrace hope for themselves and others and to take steps toward healing. 00:00 Introduction and Holiday Reflections01:48 A Christmas Carol and the Recovery Journey02:53 Christmas Past: Reflections on Betrayal and Addiction03:56 Christmas Present: Facing Reality and Seeking Change04:51 Christmas Yet to Come: Fears and Hopes for the Future06:02 The Power of Choice and Personal Transformation07:56 Conclusion: Embracing Hope and ChangeSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this special episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland shares a SAL 12-Step men's panel discussion from the 2025 S.A. Lifeline Virtual Conference. Moderated by Jonathan L., the panel includes men with years of experience in recovery, sharing their journeys of surrender, accountability, and spiritual growth. Key topics include applying the SAL recovery puzzle, circle models of addiction and recovery, the role of qualified therapy, effective boundaries, and the daily practice of surrender. The discussion aims to provide hope and direction for those seeking to step on the path to lasting recovery by keeping God at the center and doing the inner and outer work required.Want to listen to the recorded conference? Get access here. 00:00 Welcome to the Pathway to Recovery Podcast00:45 Accessing Conference Recordings and Podcast Updates02:19 Introduction to the SAL 12 Step Men's Panel03:40 Panelist Introductions07:12 Exploring the Recovery Puzzle and Circle Models07:49 The Importance of a Willing Heart in Recovery12:25 Spiritual Connection in Recovery17:52 Humility and Rigorous Honesty in Recovery22:50 The Role of Time and Patience in Recovery25:28 Living in the Present Moment27:23 The Value of Qualified Therapy32:44 Establishing Boundaries for Recovery36:12 The Practice of Surrender40:22 Understanding the Circle Models44:57 Keeping God at the Center49:23 Final Thoughts and EncouragementSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland welcomes Tim Stein, co-founder of Willow Tree Counseling and president of the American Foundation for Addiction Research (AFAR). Tim shares how AFAR, originally founded by Dr. Patrick Carnes, is advancing research to validate sex addiction as a legitimate, diagnosable condition and to improve treatment accessibility. He explains how addiction changes the brain—creating what’s known as Reward Deficiency Syndrome—and why recovery requires more than willpower. “When you’re suffering from addiction, your brain is working against you,” Tim notes, emphasizing the importance of community, structure, and neurological healing.The conversation also explores how dopamine regulation plays a key role in recovery and why embracing healthy discomfort through practices like honesty, meditation, and exercise can restore balance. Tim offers a hopeful reframe—seeing recovery not as a burden but as a blessing that deepens awareness and emotional resilience.Later, Tara and Tim discuss the critical need for partner sensitivity in addiction recovery. Tim highlights how understanding a partner’s betrayal trauma can foster real healing. Drawing from his co-authored workbook Finding the Way Through, he explains how empathy, education, and shared understanding can transform recovery into a path toward reconnection and lasting change.Learn more about AFAR here. REGISTER for the 2025 S.A. Lifeline Virtual ConferenceConnect with Tim at Willow Tree CounselingSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode,  Jonathan L. talks with guest Kaylene, who shares her powerful story of her betrayal trauma recovery journey after 20 years of struggle. They delve into the concept that recovery requires patience and time, illustrating how small, consistent actions over time can rebuild trust and promote healing. Kaylene emphasizes the importance of self-care, surrendering the need to control time, and using the healing process to empower oneself. This episode underscores the necessity of time in both individual and relational healing processes associated with addiction and betrayal trauma.Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland speaks to licensed therapist Debra Kaplan about the intricate link between financial infidelity and sexual betrayal, emphasizing the psychological and emotional impact on individuals and families. They explore the importance of a financial therapeutic disclosure, financial literacy for the betrayed partner, and the significance of establishing financial safety and transparency in order to heal relationships. The conversation is enriched with personal anecdotes and practical advice for both individuals and couples navigating the complex terrain of this double betrayal.00:00 Introduction and Conference Invitation01:54 Meet Debra Kaplan: From Wall Street to Therapy03:21 The Intersection of Money and Emotions06:49 Personal Stories and Financial Strain11:56 Understanding Financial Infidelity13:22 Recognizing Financial Secrecy in Relationships18:11 Empowerment Through Financial Literacy25:23 Exploring the Emotional Impact of Betrayal26:05 Financial Betrayal: A Deep Wound27:01 Personal Stories of Betrayal and Recovery29:56 Therapeutic Disclosure and Financial Secrets32:47 Rebuilding Trust and Financial Stability43:00 Teaching Financial Literacy to Children46:46 Final Thoughts and Advice for RecoverySupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Jonathan L. welcomes guest Lyman D., who shares his powerful journey of commitment to recovery from sex addiction. Highlights include the importance of willingness, the transformative power of connection with a Higher Power, and the significance of taking actionable steps to maintain commitment over time. Lyman also discusses practical strategies for sustaining commitment during challenging periods and how his recovery has positively impacted his relationship with God and others. This episode emphasizes the essential role of commitment and connection in the recovery process.00:00 Introduction and Upcoming Event01:15 Introducing the Special Guest: Lyman01:52 Lyman's Journey to Recovery04:09  Finding SA Lifeline and Finding Sobriety06:13 Commitment to Recovery: The Key to Success07:43 Navigating Challenges and Staying Committed23:33 The Impact of Recovery on Relationships25:48 A Heartfelt Apology from My Mom27:11 Family Reactions and Support29:37 Commitment to Recovery31:20 Daily Actions of Commitment38:22 Spiritual Connection and Guidance43:56 Advice for Newcomers and Old Timers46:02 Conclusion and GratitudeSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Dr. Kenneth Adams, a top expert in the field of enmeshment and sex addiction. Dr. Adams explains the concept of enmeshment, its impact on family dynamics, and how it may play a role in the development of  sexual addiction. He discusses the difference between enmeshment and covert incest, shares examples, and elaborates on how these dynamics can impede healthy adult relationships and sexuality. The episode provides insights into the recovery process from both addiction and enmeshment, focusing on the need for both partners in a relationship to create a sacred, boundary-rich space. Dr. Adams shares hope for recovery and the importance of self-acceptance and ownership in the healing journey.Register for the 2025 SA Lifeline Virtual Conference HERE.Want to connect with Dr. Adams? Find him at overcomingenmeshment.com00:00 Introduction and Announcements02:13 Guest Introduction: Dr. Kenneth M. Adams03:36 Understanding Enmeshment08:49 Enmeshment and Sexual Addiction10:45 Case Studies and Real-Life Examples19:13 Impact on Relationships and Recovery36:13 Hope and HealingSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, interim host Jonathan L. welcomes Amber, a participant in the SAL 12-step program, to discuss her journey of healing from betrayal trauma and deepening her spiritual connection with the God of her understanding. Amber shares her experiences of overcoming personal barriers to spiritual connection, the importance of lamenting and feeling grief, and the transformative power of trusting and allowing yourself to be led by a Higher Power. She emphasizes the significance of choosing to turn towards God, and to be real and vulnerable in that relationship. The conversation offers insights into how individuals can more easily navigate their recovery journeys with the help of safe community and how continuous willingness to work the 12 steps lends itself to personal progression and a deeper relationship with others and God. 00:00 Introduction and Upcoming Events01:26 Meet Amber: A Journey of Recovery03:01 Exploring Spiritual Connection in Recovery05:42 Overcoming Barriers to Trusting a the God of your Understanding09:25 The Role of Lamenting and Feeling Emotion in Healing13:01 Personal Experiences and Insights19:45 The Importance of Community and Support32:16 Final Thoughts and EncouragementSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland and therapist Geoff Steurer discuss principles to help youth already caught in the trap of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviors. The episode focuses on providing guidance to parents on creating a supportive environment where children feel safe discussing their struggles. Geoff emphasizes the importance of a relationship-first approach, validating children's sexual curiosity and modeling self-compassion, relational repair, and open communication. Highlights include the encouragement for  parents to own their own struggles around device use, pornography and sexuality, and teaching discernment over mere avoidance. The powerful impact of connection before correction is emphasized. The conversation also explores when professional help might be necessary, especially in cases of recurring or developing compulsive behavior. This episode underscores the importance of ongoing, open conversations and compassionate guidance in helping children navigate these challenges.Connect with Geoff at www.geoffsteurer.comRegister for the SA Lifeline Women's WorkshopSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. This episode re-shares a foundational discussion with Dr. Anna Lembke, a leading expert in addiction medicine, on the importance of radical honesty in recovery. Dr. Lembke explains the neuroscience behind addiction, highlighting the roles of dopamine and the brain's pleasure-pain balance. The conversation also delves into the necessity of rigorous honesty for long-term recovery, the concept of dopamine fasting, and the benefits of pressing on the pain side to maintain sobriety. Additionally, the episode provides insights into the role of pro-social shame in motivating change and offers practical advice for newcomers and those in long-term recovery. Register for the S.A. Lifeline Women's Workshop HERE. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Repost Announcement01:09 The Importance of Honesty in Recovery02:19 Upcoming Women's Workshop and Contact Information03:13 Introduction to Dr. Anna Lemke04:49 Understanding Addiction and the Brain07:18 The Pleasure-Pain Balance12:13 The Role of Radical Honesty in Recovery22:16 Dopamine Fasting and Pressing on the Pain Side33:22 The Concept of Pro-Social Shame37:11 Final Thoughts and Advice for Newcomers and VeteransSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. The NEW SAL Book is now available for purchase on the website!  Come and get it here!In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, co-host Justin B, has an interesting and meaningful conversation with Steve T., a recovering sex and multidisciplinary addict. They delve into the topic of rigorous honesty, a key piece of the new SAL recovery puzzle. The conversation highlights the importance of complete honesty in the recovery journey, addressing how self-deception and partial honesty can hinder true healing. Steve shares personal experiences, offering insights on the necessity of rigorous self-examination, acceptance, and turning outward to serve others as essential steps for lasting recovery. The episode also includes an introduction to the new SAL recovery book and puzzle, emphasizing the transformative power of God and community in overcoming addiction. 00:00 Introduction and Announcements01:18 Guest Introduction: Meet Steve T01:57 Understanding Multidisciplinary Addiction04:27 The Root of Addiction: Selfishness and Self-Centeredness06:22 The Solution: Connecting with God and Serving Others10:37 The SAL Recovery Puzzle: Rigorous Honesty13:34 The Importance of Rigorous Honesty in Recovery26:29 Acceptance and Control in Recovery37:40 Final Thoughts and Advice for NewcomersSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland talks with Sam Black, author of 'The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography and How to Fix It'. They discuss the 5 Myths parents believe about pornography and their child and  the impact of pornography on the developing brain. They also discuss how parents and faith leaders can create safe spaces for discussing this sensitive topic as source of protection and preparation for youth to navigate a pornographic world. Want to connect with Sam? Reach out at [email protected] referenced in this episode:www.covenanteyes.com/ebookwww.protectyoungeyes.comwww.access.orgApply to be an S.A. Lifeline AmbassadorPurchase the NEW SAL book00:00 Introduction and Announcements02:10 Meet Sam Black: Author and Recovery Expert06:21 Five Myths Parents Believe About Pornography08:28 The Neurology Behind Pornography12:12 Practical Advice for Parents24:55 The Impact of Pornography on Children's Brains25:37 Understanding the Amygdala and Teen Behavior26:10 The Impact of Pornography on the Developing Brain26:38 Artificial Stimulation and Its Consequences28:24 Impulse Control and the Marshmallow Test29:38 Teaching Kids Healthy Regulation30:22 Trends Among Young Parents32:06 Faith Leaders' Role in Supporting Youth and Parents33:17 Training Parents to Address Pornography38:47 Creating Safe Spaces for Authentic Conversations44:13 Conversation Starters for Parents48:00 Resources and Final ThoughtsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, Justin B., a recovering sex addict, speaks with Roxanna Johnson (Roxy), a pioneer of the SA Lifeline Foundation and the SAL 12-step program. We start our journey through the 12 pieces of the SAL Recovery Puzzle beginning with the central piece of a "Willing Heart".  Roxy shares her powerful journey of healing from the trauma of her husband's sexual addiction and how she found hope and recovery through the 12-step program. She discusses the importance of developing a willing heart, setting boundaries, and putting God at the center of one's life. The episode delves into the emotional challenges faced by spouses, the significance of empathy and trust in recovery, and the vital role of community support. Roxy also introduces her book, 'Forgotten in the Battle with Sexual Addiction: The Journey of a Spouse,' which aims to guide and support other spouses through their own recovery journeys. 00:00 Introduction and Recent Updates01:32 Roxy's Journey Begins02:54 Discovering the Depths of Addiction05:14 The Path to Recovery11:55 Understanding Willing Heart13:48 Surrendering to God25:26 Rebuilding Trust and Relationships39:16 Roxy's Book and Final ThoughtsResources from this Conversation:SAL Recovery PuzzleForgotten in the Battle: The Journey of a Spouse SAL Book - Recovering Individuals, Healing Families 2nd EditionSAL 12 Step Conference RecordingsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland welcomes Dr. Adam Moore who explains the importance of recognizing and addressing multiple concurrent issues for effective recovery. The episode emphasizes the need for a holistic approach to healing, incorporating aspects like sleep, diet, and exercise along with therapy and 12-step programs. Dr. Moore also touches upon the broader philosophical aspects of recovery, urging listeners to embrace the process and find their unique healing path on their journey. The discussion concludes with practical advice for both newcomers and those who have been on their recovery path for a while, highlighting the importance of support and adaptation.Connect with Adam on Instagram @dradammoore or go to selahealth.com00:00 Introduction to Dr. Adam Moore01:29 Welcome and Opening Remarks01:52 Understanding Comorbid Conditions05:47 Challenges in Addiction Recovery16:28 Holistic Approaches to Recovery27:40 Basic Self-Care and Biological Aspects29:26 The Value and Limitations of Diagnoses32:15 Labels and Their Impact on Recovery33:44 Seeking Multiple Opinions35:36 The Journey of Recovery and Acceptance37:18 Liminal Spaces45:45 The Importance of Adversity and Community50:03 Final Thoughts and AdviceSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Justin and guest Chris S discuss their journeys through the 12-step recovery process, focusing on Step 12. Chris shares his personal experiences of dealing with sex addiction, the emotional challenges, and the importance of vulnerability. He emphasizes how the 12 steps have not only helped him achieve sobriety but also transformed his approach to life, faith, and helping others. The conversation delves into the evolution of their understanding of God, the significance of sponsoring others, and practical ways to carry the message of recovery in all aspects of life. 00:00 Introduction and Host's Background00:27 Guest Introduction and Journey to Recovery02:54 Challenges and Realizations in Recovery04:39 Embracing the Addict Label06:25 The Role of Vulnerability and Honesty07:56 Overview of the 12 Steps09:42 Deep Dive into Step 1213:10 Spiritual Awakening and Higher Power33:30 Sponsorship and Giving Back43:24 Final Thoughts and EncouragementUpcoming SAL 12 Step Conference April 26th, 2025 at Utah Valley University in Orem, Utah:  https://www.tickettailor.com/events/sal12step/1640949Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland talks with Kristin Snowden about getting unstuck when we are feeling paralyzed or overwhelmed by betrayal trauma. Kristen introduces the 'Four Cs'—Choice, Control, Context, and Connection—key concepts that help betrayed partners feel empowered and regain stability. The episode also addresses the physiological and psychological impacts of betrayal trauma, the importance of group support such 12 step, boundaries, and offers advice for both betrayed partners and their spouses who are working towards recovery. Kristen emphasizes the significance of predictability, consistency, and humility in the healing process.Connect with Kristin here.Register for the S.A. Lifeline Light the Way Benefit Dinner here. Subscribe to the S.A. Lifeline Digital Recovery library here.00:00 Introduction and Upcoming Events02:27 Welcome to the Pathway to Recovery Podcast02:40 Kristen Snowden's Journey into Addiction Recovery Work06:18 The Four C's of Getting Unstuck10:05 Understanding Betrayal Trauma17:20 Reengaging the Four C's in Daily Life21:20 The Role of Control and Boundaries in Recovery24:49 The Complexity of Human Relationships25:37 Understanding Boundaries27:35 Challenges for Betrayed Partners29:48 The Importance of Group Support31:38 Reengaging Context in Trauma36:53 The Power of Connection40:39 Support for Betrayers44:52 Final Thoughts and ResourcesSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery Podcast, host Justin B. invites guest Alison T. to explore her journey through the SAL 12-step program, focusing specifically on Step 11. Alison shares her experiences of hitting rock bottom in 2020 due to her husband's sexual addiction, and discusses the pivotal moment of fully committing to her own recovery. The conversation delves into the nuances of prayer and meditation, the importance of fellowship and connecting with others in recovery, and the multifaceted ways one can improve conscious contact with God. Practical insights, personal anecdotes, and actionable advice are given for those new to recovery as well as seasoned members of the program.00:00 Introduction to the Pathway to Recovery Podcast00:31 Alison's Journey to SAL 12 Step01:19 The Turning Point: Hitting Rock Bottom02:11 Commitment to Recovery: Finding Support04:06 Exploring the 12 Steps: A Personal Journey08:08 Deep Dive into Step 1116:08 The Power of Prayer and Meditation21:55 Embracing Flexibility in Life22:39 Trusting God's Plan23:19 Finding Comfort in Stillness24:40 Connecting with God Through Nature25:22 Praying for Knowledge of His Will27:36 The Power of Asking for Guidance31:08 Personal Growth Through Recovery39:50 Building a Strong Foundation41:15 Advice for Newcomers and Veterans44:00 Closing Thoughts and EncouragementUpcoming SALifeline Benefit Dinner:  https://salifeline.org/2025benefitdinner-salifeline/Upcoming SAL 12 Step Conference:  https://sal12step.org/Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith about their personal experience with sexual addiction and betrayal trauma and their journey to now helping others with similar challenges. The discussion delves into common mistakes faith leaders make in addressing sexual addiction and betrayal trauma and emphasizes the importance of education, support, and using outside resources to better serve these couples. They outline three phases of rebuilding relational intimacy after betrayal: recovery, restoration, and renewal. The concept of not rushing or forcing forgiveness and trust is addressed. The episode concludes with advice for couples at various stages of recovery and details on how faith communities can support them. Find the Raabsmith's free resources here.Get a copy of the 9 Best Practices for Faith Leaders pdf here.Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. God, Help Me See My Reflection for This DayIn this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Justin B. interviews fellow SAL member, Nikita B. They discuss Nikita's journey from being homeless, suicidal, and overwhelmed by addiction to finding freedom and spiritual awakening through the SAL program. The conversation focuses on the 12-step recovery process, with an in-depth look at Step 10—'continued personal inventory and prompt admission of wrongs.' Nikita shares insights on daily practices, spot checks, and the importance of vulnerability in recovery. The discussion also explores the role of RCA (Recovering Couples Anonymous) in healing relationships and families affected by addiction.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction00:40 Nikita's Journey to Recovery02:41 Discussing the Steps of Recovery04:17 Deep Dive into Step 1007:19 The Importance of Self-Reflection08:57 Challenges and Revelations11:38 Practicing Step 10 Daily23:12 Coupleship and RCA27:40 Reading from the Big Book29:58 Spot Check and Self-Reflection30:38 Love and Tolerance as a Code31:52 Step 10 Process and Promises33:15 Overcoming Temptation and Addiction36:35 Spiritual Conditioning and Daily Practices45:01 Healing Families and Building Trust50:18 Advice for Newcomers and Veterans53:09 Closing Prayer and Final ThoughtsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland and Dr. Chelom Leavitt discuss the importance of learning about and developing healthy sexuality and how that is impacted by pornography and sexual betrayal. Key points include the necessity of establishing safety in relationships before healthy sexuality can be addressed, self-compassion, understanding sexual perceptions and expectations, overcoming the negative influences of pornography and the importance of open communication. The conversation also delves into how couples can work on their own healing in this area to positively impact their children's development of healthy sexuality. Strategies for fostering a family environment of open and frequent communication, honesty, and warmth around difficult topics are highlighted. The episode also touches on overcoming body image issues personally and in coupleship and talking about personal changes associated with problematic sexual behavior with children.Connect with Chelom at chelomleavitt.com00:00 Introduction and Upcoming Event01:26 Guest Introduction: Dr. Chelom Leavitt02:11 Understanding Healthy Sexuality06:05 Impact of Pornography on Sexual Expectations08:54 Developing Healthy Sexuality in Relationships10:02 Challenges and Misconceptions in Sexual Education11:34 Emotional and Physical Intimacy18:05 Addressing Unhealthy Sexual Patterns24:37 Healthy vs. Unhealthy Sexuality in Relationships26:54 Identifying Relationship Wedges27:29 Challenges of Lower Desire Partners28:39 Emotional Connection and Communication29:55 Body Image and Insecurities31:26 Healthy Sexuality and Self-Acceptance35:21 Talking to Kids About Healthy Sexuality37:28 Creating an Open Family Dialogue44:31 Overcoming Shame and Silence49:58 Final Thoughts and RecommendationsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the 'Pathway to Recovery' podcast, host Justin B. is joined by Heather B., who shares her heartfelt experiences in the rooms of SAL 12-step recovery. Together, they delve into Heather's journey through Step Nine of the recovery program. Heather recounts her background, from discovering her husband's addiction to her transformative process in understanding her limitations and achieving personal growth. She offers a candid look at the healing power of making amends, the challenges she faced, and the profound peace she found through God's guidance. Heather’s story underscores the essential nature of forgiveness, accountability, and continuous self-improvement in the recovery journey, providing both newcomers and long-time participants with invaluable insights and encouragement. 00:00 Introduction to the Pathway to Recovery Podcast00:36 Heather's Journey into SAL 12 Step02:18 Discovering the Reality of Addiction03:32 The Shift in Focus: From Fixing Others to Self-Recovery07:18 The Importance of a Sponsor10:32 Reading and Understanding the 12 Steps11:43 Heather's Experience with Step Nine18:54 Challenges and Lessons in Making Amends23:55 Miraculous Outcomes in Step Nine28:19 A Nervous Encounter29:20 Unexpected Transformation30:13 Emotional Release30:26 The Power of Amends31:10 Making Amends with Myself31:27 The Role of Counseling32:36 Forgiving the Past36:23 Living Amends39:29 Healing Through Forgiveness45:12 The Individuality of Step Nine49:19 Final Thoughts and Experience, Strength, and HopeSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland and Dr. Kevin Skinner  discuss effective communication strategies for couples dealing with sexual betrayal and addiction. Dr. Skinner emphasizes the importance of slowing down conversations and understanding underlying emotions, such as fear and pain, rather than responding defensively. He suggests techniques like 'deep listening,' adult timeouts, and back-to-back communication to help break negative patterns. Dr. Skinner also highlights the importance of external support systems like sponsorship and groups, and advises against making quick decisions in the wake of betrayal. The conversation underscores the critical role of self-awareness and intentional effort in achieving healthier communication and ultimately, relationship recovery.00:00 Introduction to Dr. Kevin Skinner01:19 Welcome and Initial Thoughts on Communication01:52 Challenges of Communication After Betrayal03:43 Understanding Anger in Betrayed Partners13:43 The Importance of Deep Listening15:49 Breaking Communication Patterns18:24 Techniques for Effective Communication25:51 Understanding Attunement in Relationships27:16 The Importance of Adult Timeouts30:06 The Myth of Never Going to Bed Angry32:16 Effective Communication Techniques33:33 The Role of Support Systems39:49 Final Thoughts and AdviceConnect with Dr. Kevin Skinner at humanintimacy.com.Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this Pathway to Recovery episode, Jon I. shares his journey of addiction, hitting rock bottom, and ultimately finding healing through the 12-step process of SAL 12-Step. He discusses the process of working up to and including Step 8, which involves creating a list of people harmed and becoming willing to make amends. Jon describes how the real struggle wasn't making the list but finding the willingness to forgive those who hurt him, including himself. Through prayer and the support of his sponsor and fellow members, Jon learned to soften his heart and confront past resentments, which led to significant personal transformation. His recovery process wasn't linear, as he relapsed once, but ultimately, it was through humbling himself, staying committed to the program, and seeking connection with others that he achieved long-term sobriety and healing.Jon’s recovery journey extended beyond personal transformation; it also deeply impacted his family. After a relapse, Jon faced the threat of losing his marriage and family.  The SAL 12 Step tagline of "Recovering Individuals - Healing Families" is very prominently testified of throughout this conversation. He emphasizes the importance of connection in recovery, particularly through reaching out to others, as this was a lifeline for him. His story highlights that recovery is an ongoing process requiring vulnerability, humility, and consistent action. Jon’s closing message is one of hope and encouragement, urging both newcomers and long-time members to stay engaged, keep working the program, and lean on the support of the community: “Keep coming back. It works if you work it, so work it. You are worth it.”Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland and guest expert Sherie Christensen discuss Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), its diagnostic criteria, and misconceptions around the term 'narcissist' within today's culture. Sherie explains the difference between narcissistic traits and true NPD, how personality disorders impact addiction, and emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between addict behaviors and NPD. The episode also explores other issues such as high-functioning autism (HFA) and its overlap with narcissistic or addict-like traits. Sherie elaborates on the necessity of comprehensive therapy alongside 12-step programs for effective recovery, highlighting the role of empathy, boundaries, and the importance of compassion in dealing with mental health issues. The episode concludes with a message of hope and the significance of consistent work in recovery.Connect with Sherie on her podcast - Two Therapists Talking - or go online. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/sherie-adams-christensen-taylorsville-ut/48923900:00 Introduction to Sherie Adams Christensen01:22 Understanding Narcissism (NPD)03:30 Diagnostic Criteria for NPD13:39 NPD and Addiction18:09 Types of Narcissists22:44 High Functioning Autism and Addiction27:07 Comorbid Issues in Addiction32:00 The Importance of Therapy and 12-Step Programs33:44 Understanding and Compassion for NPD41:07 Final Thoughts and Hope in RecoverySupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the 'Pathway to Recovery Podcast,' hosted by Justin B., the discussion centers on step seven of the 12-step recovery program, featuring Kahi W., a betrayed spouse of a sexual addict. Kahi shares her personal journey of the support she found in SAL 12-step meetings since 2012, and the vital role these meetings play in her healing process. The conversation delves into humility, the importance of community support, and the continuous action required for recovery, emphasizing the significance of acknowledging both strengths and defects, and offering them to a higher power. Kahi provides practical advice and shares personal experiences highlighting the daily practice of surrender and trusting in a greater power to manage life's challenges.Support the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Jeanne Vattuone, LCSW, CSAT, and current APSATS president. She explains the evolution of the trauma-informed treatment model and its benefits for the betrayed and the betrayer over the traditional co-addict or co-dependent model. Jeanne also details the APSATS multidimensional partner trauma model phases: safety and stabilization, grief and mourning, and reconnecting and rebuilding. The episode underscores the importance of specialized care for both those struggling with sex addiction and their partners and how understanding the impact of trauma helps relationships heal. Jeanne emphasizes the necessity of proper education, consultation, and certified training for effective therapy, as well as the roles and values of the Association of Sex Addiction Partner Trauma Specialists (APSATS).00:00 Betrayal Trauma Healing: Insights with APSATS President, Jeanne Vattuone02:42 Journey into Sex Addiction and Partner Betrayal Trauma04:58 Founding and Evolution of APSATS16:06 The Importance of Qualified Therapy20:05 Understanding Trauma vs. Other Models23:34 Grief and Mourning Stage23:47 Transition to Post-Traumatic Growth24:12 Non-Linear Healing Process25:37 Reconnection and Transformation26:41 Challenges in Recovery28:06 Compassionate Healing31:47 APSATS Resources and Support35:43 Trauma Model in Practice44:19 Closing ThoughtsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery Podcast, host Justin B. guides listeners through step six of the 12-step recovery program with guest Brady W. Justin shares his experiences as a recovering sex addict and introduces Brady, who discusses his decade-long journey battling addiction to lust and his recent recovery with SAL 12 Step. The episode dives into Brady's personal insights on character defects like dishonesty, impatience, and selfishness, and how he has worked to overcome them through his higher power and community support. Justin and Brady also discuss the importance of willingness in recovery, the transformative power of community sharing, and offer advice to both newcomers and veterans in the 12-step program.00:00 Introduction to the Pathway to Recovery Podcast00:52 Meet Brady: A Journey of Recovery02:08 Understanding Lust Beyond the Sexual02:57 Steps of Recovery: An Overview04:09 Brady's Experience with Steps 1-506:33 Diving into Step 6: Character Defects15:54 The Importance of Willingness in Recovery27:56 Healing Families Through Individual Recovery38:24 Advice for Newcomers and Old Timers40:12 Closing Thoughts and EncouragementSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Michelle Mays about the complex and harmful phenomenon of gaslighting. Mays explains the four types of gaslighting—lying, reality manipulation, scapegoating, and coercion—and the impact each has on those who experience betrayal trauma. The discussion delves into the mental health ramifications, the stages of gaslighting, and the journey of healing for both the gaslighter and the gaslighted. Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and professional support, the episode offers valuable insights into overcoming the layers of self-deception and relational harm caused by gaslighting.Connect with Michelle at www.michellemays.com or www.relationalrecovery.com00:00 Welcome and Introduction00:53 Podcast Update 01:57 Introducing Michelle Mays03:07 Understanding Gaslighting03:47 Types of Gaslighting04:29 Impact of Gaslighting on Mental Health06:14 Scapegoating and Coercion10:15 Recognizing Gaslighting in Relationships14:39 Addicted Partner's Perspective20:46 Stages of Gaslighting for Betrayed Partners22:38 Stage Two: Defense Mechanisms23:51 Stage Three: Depression and Despair27:50 Understanding Betrayal Blindness37:08 Healing from Gaslighting46:12 Final Thoughts and AdviceSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, Justin B. explores step five of the SAL 12-step program with guest Carolyn E. Carolyn shares her personal journey through the steps, particularly her experiences with Step 5, highlighting the importance of rigorous honesty, accountability, and the support of a sponsor. She discusses the challenges and blessings of managing shame, the role of God at her center, and the impacts of her recovery on her family. The discussion emphasizes that healing comes from within, supported by faith and the willingness to confront and share one's truth.Register for the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference.Learn more about our conference sponsor - Circles of Grace.Healing Through Christ WorkbookSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this special episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland introduces speakers from the upcoming 2024 S.A. Lifeline virtual conference happening on September 26-28, 2024. The episode features insights from notable speakers like Janice Caudill, Dan Drake, Crystal Hollenbeck, Roy Kim, Tammy Gustafson, and MJ Dennis, covering critical topics such as betrayal trauma anger, the importance of group work in recovery, power dynamics, and sexual healing post-infidelity. Dr. Jill Manning also highlights the unique benefits of attending the conference, including reduced isolation, access to helpful resources, and the emphasis on both individual and couple recovery. Register for the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference Meet our sponsor, Circles of GraceSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Dr. Stefanie Cranes about the challenges of defining and diagnosing sex addiction. Topics covered include the historical context for diagnosis problems, the stigma and societal misunderstandings surrounding it, and the prevalence and causes of sex addiction based on recent research. Dr. Carnes also shares the distinct impact of sex addiction on individuals and families, compares it to other addictions, and offers hopeful advice for those starting or already on their recovery journey. REGISTER FOR THE 2024 S.A. LIFELINE CONFERENCELearn more about our conference sponsor,Circles of Grace. https://circlesofgrace.health/Resources and connect with Dr. Carnes:[email protected]:00 Introduction and Conference Announcement01:35 Guest Expert Introduction: Dr. Stephanie Carnes03:38 Challenges in Diagnosing Sexual Addiction05:03 Historical Context for Diagnosis Problems07:51 Impact of Lack of Diagnosis on Treatment11:55  Disparities in Care23:36 Neuroscience and Behavioral Addiction26:46 Debate Over Terminology and Classification35:17 Prevalence and Future Trends40:23 Primary Causes and Research Insights44:46 Resources and Final ThoughtsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss the challenges and significance of Step Four in the recovery process. The hosts elaborate on the fears and barriers associated with Step Four, emphasizing the need for trust in God, honesty, time, and support from sponsors and group members. They address the added complexities for betrayed partners dealing with acute trauma and discuss the need for individuals and groups to acknowledge the trauma and provide space and time for partners to achieve adequate safety and stability before proceeding with step 4 work. The episode concludes with insights on embracing pain as a necessary step towards progress and healing.00:00 Introduction and Conference Announcement Click here to learn more about our conference sponsor, Circles of Grace.01:49 Understanding Step Four05:05 Personal Experiences with Step Four08:52 Support Systems in Step Four12:45 Addressing Betrayed Partners20:05 The Role of Pain in Recovery22:26 Encouragement and Final ThoughtsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Justin B., a recovering sex addict, discusses Step Four of the 12-step recovery program with guest Bill K. Bill shares his personal journey, exploring his struggles with sex addiction, his family’s history with alcoholism, and the impact of past traumas. He recounts his experiences working on a searching and fearless moral inventory, revealing both his weaknesses and strengths. Bill emphasizes the importance of honesty, forgiveness, and letting go of fears, illustrating how Step Four helped him uncover his sins and grace-filled moments, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of God's love and a path toward redemption. Key announcements include the virtual SAL conference and the podcast's sponsorship by Circles of Grace.Register for the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference.Learn more about our conference sponsor - Circles of Grace.00:00 Introduction and Announcements01:49 Introduction to Step Four02:33 Bill K's Background and Journey03:21 The Impact of Addiction05:16 Facing the Past and Finding Recovery08:00 Understanding Step Four14:24 The Role of a Sponsor16:02 Identifying Character Defects and Strengths22:42 The Importance of Honesty and Vulnerability29:44 Working Through Resentments and Fears41:14 Addressing Harms and Making Amends45:45 Final Thoughts and EncouragementSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss the concept of relapse in the context of recovery from sexual addiction. The main discussion revolves around whether relapse is part of recovery, differentiating between terms like lapse and relapse, and emphasizing the importance of rigorous honesty and a recovery mindset for long-term recovery. They also address the partner's perspective on dealing with relapse and the importance of having a relapse preparedness plan in place for safety. Throughout, they highlight the necessity of continuous and honest recovery efforts for sustainable recovery.Register for the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference. Learn more about our conference sponsor - Circles of Grace.Check out Dr. Jill Manning's Relapse Preparedness Plan download.00:00 Introduction and Announcements00:21 Upcoming SA Lifeline Virtual Conference01:56 Q&A: Is Relapse a Part of Recovery?02:58 Defining Lapse vs. Relapse04:11 The Importance of Rigorous Honesty08:52 White Knuckle Sobriety vs. Positive Sobriety12:04 Relapse Preparedness for Betrayed Partners15:36 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland and guest expert Dr. Jake Porter discuss the significance of grief in the healing process for betrayed partners and how essential it is for both partners in a relationship to engage in the mourning process. He emphasizes the need for safety and stabilization before addressing grief and mourning, and provides insights on how couples can support each other through the healing journey. The episode also highlights the importance of seeking qualified therapy and creating personalized mourning rituals to cope with betrayal trauma. Connect with Dr. Porter at www.daringventures.com.00:00 Introduction and Event Announcement01:41 Meet Dr. Jake Porter02:58 APSATS and Betrayal Trauma04:13 Phases of Healing in APSATS Model05:00 The Importance of Grief and Mourning08:07 Challenges of Grieving Betrayal11:09 Supporting the Betrayed Partner14:00 Grief Work for the Betraying Partner21:06 Creating Rituals for Mourning22:21 The Role of Qualified Therapy25:47 Justice in Betrayal Trauma Treatment34:13 Phases of Grief Work38:24 Final Thoughts and AdviceSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss applying recovery principles in parenting and how these principles can positively impact parenting style. They emphasize the importance of surrender, trust in God, and the shift from control, fear and pride to surrender, faith, and humility. Personal anecdotes and member shares from the SAL book highlight the positive impact that recovery can have on family dynamics and individual serenity.Register for the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference here. https://salifeline.org/conference-2024/0:00 Q&A - How do recovery principles change the way I parent?00:53 Summer Break and Podcast Updates01:36 Announcing the 2024 Virtual Conference03:48 Parenting and Recovery Principles04:19 Personal Reflections on Parenting in Recovery08:36 Applying Recovery Steps to Parenting11:32 Real-Life Experiences and Testimonials16:15 Final Thoughts and EncouragementSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast , host Justin B. and guest Brittany B. discuss the transformative power of the 12-step recovery program, focusing primarily on Step 3. They touch on the significance of turning one's will and life over to the care of God, the importance of willingness and boundaries, and the principle of sharing and growth. Brittany also shares how practicing these principles brings relief and peace into her life. Brittany shares personal experiences and insights on the application of the steps, her journey in dealing with her husband's addiction, and how acceptance and serenity play crucial roles in recovery. The conversation highlights the interplay between acceptance, personal boundaries, and spiritual growth.Resource from this conversation: Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach:  https://amzn.to/3XovB2z 00:00 Introduction to the Pathway to Recovery Podcast00:55 Brittany's Journey to the 12 Steps02:48 The Power of Sharing in Recovery07:47 Understanding and Embracing Step Three10:27 Personal Experiences and Challenges in Recovery14:43 Navigating Support and Resources23:55 Struggles with Blame and Surrender24:11 The Process of Surrendering Blame25:07 The Role of Humility in Surrender28:02 The Serenity Prayer and Its Impact30:54 Expectations and Disappointments34:25 Acceptance and Boundaries42:10 Understanding God and Spiritual Growth45:10 Advice for Newcomers and Veterans47:22 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B discuss the challenges and importance of Step 3 in the recovery process: making the decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God. They delve into why this can be difficult, and how it is a daily commitment rather than a one-time action. The dialogue includes personal experiences and insights on how relinquishing control to the God of our understanding can support long-term recovery and spiritual growth.0:00 Q&A - Why and how do I make the decision to turn my will over to God?00:45 Exploring Step Three: Turning Will and Life Over to God01:28 Challenges in Surrendering to God02:17 The Daily Decision and Its Importance03:59 Spiritual Shifts and Personal Experiences06:23 Faith in Action: Moving Beyond Outcomes08:26 The Role of Faith and Works in Recovery12:19 Trusting God's Plan and Finding Purpose14:15 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland welcomes  guest expert KayLee Dunn, a  psychotherapist and betrayal navigation coach. KayLee shares her expertise in helping individuals, especially women, rebuild trust and heal after intimate betrayal. She discusses the role of the nervous system in betrayal trauma, introducing concepts like neuro-intuitive boundaries and survival mode responses. The conversation delves into practical ways to self-regulate, the importance of self-compassion, and the power of pausing and observing one’s reactions. They also explore the dynamics between betrayed and betraying partners, emphasizing understanding and intentional responses. Whether new to betrayal recovery or an old-timer on this journey, Kaylee offers insightful advice and hope for navigating the complex path of healing.Connect with KayLee at kayleedunn.com03:43 Understanding the Nervous System04:54 Personal Experience and Neurointuitive Boundaries07:57 The Role of the Nervous System in Trauma Responses14:05 Self-Compassion and Understanding Reactions20:28 Practical Steps for Healing and Self-Education23:37 Harnessing Your Inner Survivor Skills27:18 Connecting with Higher Power and Intuition35:07 Mindfulness and Meditation37:20 Safety and Stabilization in Healing41:50 Observing and Regulating Responses48:27 The Importance of Community and Support55:04 Final Thoughts and ResourcesSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland and S.A. Lifeline executive assistant Jeni Brockbank discuss how to manage trauma triggers effectively. Jeni shares insights on understanding trauma triggers and emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, self-care, and setting boundaries. The episode includes a discussion on practical steps to take when faced with trauma triggers—pause, breathe, practice self-care, and seek support. Jeni also shares a personal experience and the episode ends highlighting the importance of reaching out to others for support in the journey of recovery.0:00 Q&A - How can I respond to trauma triggers in a healthy way?01:06 Understanding Trauma Triggers03:02 Role-Playing a Trigger Scenario04:28 Practical Steps for Managing Triggers08:37 Personal Experience and Self-Compassion10:54 Review and Final ThoughtsSupport the showSA Lifeline FoundationSAL 12 StepFind an SAL12Step MeetingDonateContact to ask questions or make commentsTranscripts