'Podcast' by Damola

This piece isn’t just about parenting. Listen to it again with you in mind.Read it at www.bydamo.la/bypeers This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

What does judging others do for us?It validates our sense of importance. It reaffirms the ways we are right and others are wrong. It breeds moral superiority.Read on at www.bydamo.la/judging This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

This is the only time you can tell a lie.Read along at www.bydamo.la/lie This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

The difference between good friends and best friends is simple. Good friends consume things together. Best friends create things together.Read along: www.bydamo.la/besty This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

We know that with great power comes great responsibility. But the inverse is also true. With great responsibility, comes great power.We can start with one. Embrace responsibility. And see as things unravel.Read along at www.bydamo.la/greatpower This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Sometimes, that’s worth searching for.I still live by my commitment to do interesting things with people I find interesting. And between those doings, I enjoy the warmth of things that are neither interesting nor boring.Read the article at www.bydamo.la/ninb This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Most simple rules make it easier for us to stick to them. We set them once and refine them so they keep being useful.Simple rules matter. They rule.Read the article at www.bydamo.la/srr This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

One of the things I implement when operating a business is to ask whoever is responsible for a goal to write their own standard operating procedure. I now use a similar framework when using AI tools - for research or when playing around.Read article at www.bydamo.la/agent-responsible This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Let’s face it. Several new ideas may not work. That’s not a problem. The problem is that it takes us too long to realise a pivot is necessary.Read the article at www.bydamo.la/nowhere This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Everyone has courage. Not everyone generates the right amount of courage to take the actions that move them forward.Courage = Commitment ÷ FearRead the article at: www.bydamo.la/ccf This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

We all contribute. Our reasons may be different. Our actions are similar. And the world is better for it.Read the article at: www.bydamo.la/htc This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

What does your name mean?The answer to this question changes based on the life you live. How you live projects meaning to your name.Read the post at www.bydamo.la/name This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

ASA is an acronym for Awareness, Story and Action. The ASA framework works as a cycle, not a linear process.Read the post at www.bydamo.la/asa This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

What is the most important job you have right now? Pause and answer this before you read on. Many of us have multiple jobs. Not all of them pay financial dividends. Other jobs pay us in peace of mind, respect and other intangible forms.Read the post at www.bydamo.la/mijob This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

I once read that many people will rather admit to murder and other attrocities, than admit to envy and jealousy. Rather than attempting to solve for envy, I thought we may process a few questions.Read the post at www.bydamo.la/envious This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

The more flexibility you embrace, the less consistency gets your attention. The more consistency you embrace, the less flexibility gets your attention.Read the post at www.bydamo.la/fvsc This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

The best solution is one that gets you where you want. The one that moves you closer to becoming who you want to be in the world. Sometimes, you can see the direct link between the solution and what you are solving for. Many other times, it follows an indirect path.Read the post at www.bydamo.la/best This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

One of the principles I follow is to write long and publish short.Read the post at www.bydamo.la/wlps This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

In her song titled Questions, one of my favourite singers, Aṣa asks “Why do people believe things they know aren’t true?”. My friend, Derek Sivers, has the perfect answer to Aṣa’s question. The short version? Because it’s useful for them.Read the full post at: www.bydamo.la/useful This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Here are seven little ideas and stories I want to be reminded of today.Read the post at www.bydamo.la/slis This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Many ills in life can be traced to the failure to do this. When you respect yourself, you treat yourself with unconditional love and care, you value the depth of what you don’t know, and refuse to be fooled by what you know.Read the transcript at www.bydamo.la/respect This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Many ills in life can be traced to the failure to do this. When you respect yourself, you treat yourself with unconditional love and care, you value the depth of what you don’t know, and refuse to be fooled by what you know.Read the transcript at www.bydamo.la/respect This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

This platform will host read aloud lessons from the byDamo.la blog, and when the time comes. wisdom, ideas and stories from conversations with people I'm curious about.This is another excuse to follow my curiosity and see where it leads.I hope some of them will be useful for you. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

We shouldn't confuse progress for human flourishing. We shouldn't confuse drug discovery with wholesome healing. We shouldn't confuse instant connectivity with meaningful and deep connection. We shouldn't confuse access with trust and what empathy creates. We shouldn't confuse making things easier with making them better.We've become more connected than ever before, and more distant from one another. We continue to create new jobs that didn't exist a decade ago, and less people are engaged at work. We have an abundance of information, and a lot of people are still confused about what to do next. We have access to more data points in the history of the human species and fewer applications of wisdom.By all account, we are making progress. And we can equally flourish when we start paying more attention to it.Read along at www.bydamo.la/progressflourishing This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Once the blame is passed on, what exactly does it do to solve the problem at hand?Unlike blame, responsibility works differently. Read along at www.bydamo.la/neverblame This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Why the last respect we can give anyone is to either acknowledge or respect their values. Or both. Read along at www.bydamo.la/lr This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

The past is the past. We can be grateful it happened. More than that, we can be grateful we all built on it to be where we are today.The job of the past is to become something that can be built upon. And that job is long done.Read along at www.bydamo.la/goodold This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Most people talk to fill silence. Don't be most people. Talk to create meaning. Convert your words into forms you find useful. Audio, text, signwriting, visuals or video. Translate across languages and contexts.Human history has a collection of moments where talking moved us forward. We still do today; we talk ourselves into taking action that move us forward. Talking is no substitute for taking action. Instead, it propels it. Clear communication precedes every major accomplishment.Talk is cheap. But cheap isn't the same as not valuable. It's not expensive. Instead, it's undervalued. Meaningful and intentional talk? That's priceless.Read along at www.bydamo.la/talk This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

The flaws in your art. The near-perfect, but not perfect contribution you make. We do great work because of our imperfection, not in spite of it.Read more about the 'bug' that unites us at www.bydamo.la/notbug This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Systems last because they lean into insatiable desires. For many systems, this is not intended. It's an observation after the fact.But what if we can be intentional in our design of the systems we want to be part of?Read along at www.bydamo.la/systems This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Everywhere you look, you’ll find art. If you choose to.Some beautiful. Some mundane. Some well-thought out, some haphazard. Some celebrated. Some unknown and unknowable. Some, capable of transforming how we appreciate the world we see. And some reminding us of our deepest secrets and desires.Read along at www.bydamo.la/arteverything This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Honouring the wishes of the dead has been a long-lasting part of the human culture. Even when those wishes don't make sense.Love trumps fear. Creating a family culture that focuses on what truly matters is better than leaving things to chance. The way appears where there is a will. No pun intended, but that's true in both ways.Read along at www.bydamo.la/will This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

List three things you did last week that didn’t work.List three thoughts you had last week that seem embarrassing, but may make the lives of those you serve better if it works.List three things you tried last week that shouldn’t work, but did.List three things you tried last week that, as expected, worked.The last one is what most organisations request in meetings and reports. A retell of what we knew was going to work. Same old. Same old.If you don’t have answers for the first three, it may be a good time to reassess your approach to making what you do better.Better is always an option. And it’s often hidden in trying what might not work.Read at www.bydamo.la/innovationlist This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Meucci error is when a project fails because you didn’t dedicate enough resource to it. You knew what you had to do, but either didn’t or couldn’t do it.On the other end, death by sunk cost is when you decide to withdraw further resource from a project. In both cases, the project doesn't get further resources. The first isn’t due to a decision you consciously made. But the second is up to you.Let’s take a step back for context and learn about the Meucci gap.Read the full piece at www.bydamo.la/meucci This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

No one should define how you define being dignified. Not popular culture. Not the other guy. And definitely not strangers you may never meet.Read at www.bydamo.la/undignified This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

It’s in the nature of facts to change, in response to what’s really true.Makes me wonder why we spend more so much time on one and not enough on the other.Read at www.bydamo.la/facts This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

You've been invited to participate in this auction. You may not know when you accept the invitation, but your joy is an item for auction.All it takes for the bidding to start is for you to decide who the lowest bidder is.Read the piece at www.bydamo.la/joy4sale This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

Sadly, the art of postponing living has been well mastered.Like all skills, it can also be unlearned.Read the piece at www.bydamo.la/pliving This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la

If it can only be done by you, for yourself, it is essential. For it to work, no one can else do it for you.No one can breathe on your behalf. No one can nurture your trust in love, your embrace of acceptance, your walk in kindness. No one can find and experience rest for you. Neither can they sleep on your behalf.No one can choose what kind of life you should live. They can set the scene, put incentives in place, and tell stories to make you choose. But the act of deciding who to be in the world? The choice of living the way you believe is just? That’s on you.It is easy to get busy with many things to do. The core thing to remember is what’s essentially yours to do.Read the full piece at www.bydamo.la/essential This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.bydamo.la