Probing In The Sheets

In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the intricacies of public exhibitions of kink and D/s dynamics. What is appropriate in public and what constitutes a violation of consent for those who bear witness.About MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Jamie and Miel continue their chat with Rae Szereszewski (Share with Rae, Wife Bae Rae, Raezor). In Part Two, they discuss boundaries and triggers in ENM partner dynamics, a radical solution to the male loneliness epidemic, and healing trauma through kink https://www.sharewithrae.com/kinkandtraumaAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Jamie and Miel are taking their show on the road and welcoming someone new into their hotel room bed. Rae Szereszewski (Share with Rae, Wife Bae Rae, Raezor) is a certified sexual health educator and relationship coach with a background in latex fetish wear design. In Part One of their chat, they learn about Rae’s history with the kink community and navigating ENM dynamics.About MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Miel and Jamie dominate the conversation, converse about dominance and ask themselves: What are the main types of dominants? What makes a good dom/domme? What green flags should you look out for when vetting a dom/domme? What questions should you ask them? About JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In Manifesting, Part Two, Miel and Jamie go deeper on the steps required to bring dreams and ideas into reality.About MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

Jamie and Miel have manifested another wonderful two-part episode. In Part One, they open up about what manifesting means to them and share examples of how to put it into practice in kink and in the real world.About MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, our very first guest jumps into bed with Jamie and Miel. Maddy wears many tantalizing hats, from sex educator (@sexedwithmadds) to sex shop owner (@wickedwandas) and event manager (@events.houseofkink & @climax.conference). She talks about being raised by a domme and sex shop owner, finding her own space in the kink community and shares some insights on the culture and business of pleasure.About MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Miel and Jamie answer more questions from listeners. How did they meet their partners? How do they feel about how kink and BDSM are portrayed in the media? What spicy books do they recommend?…and more! About JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Miel and Jamie answer questions from listeners. What have they learned from their journey through kink? What unusual toy/implement do they recommend? What safe word should people use, other than “red”? …and more! Continued next time in Part 2. Kink Playlists:Beat The Ones You Lovex Femme Fatale xAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Miel and Jamie chat about kink without sex, sex without kink, kinky sex and sexy kinks. Choose your own adventure and join us as we venture to disambiguate and validate the realm of possibilities. About MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

This episode is all about shame. Jamie and Miel talk about coming out as kinky, vulnerability and openness about our needs and desires, working through internal shame about our kinks, attractions and preferences, social pressure, critics and outside opinions. Who do we think we are?About MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Miel and Jamie continue their discussion about the masks we wear in life and BDSM. Topics include the importance of self awareness and flexibility, neurodivergence and masking when we’re outside our window of tolerance, and finding our custom mask through introspection and experience.About JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Miel and Jamie discuss the masks we wear in life and BDSM. Topics include the importance of self awareness and flexibility, neurodivergence and masking when we’re outside our window of tolerance, and finding our custom mask through introspection and experience.About JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

Burnout in KinkIn this episode, Jamie and Miel discuss the signs of burnout, how burnout affects our kink dynamics, supporting partners who are experiencing burnout, how to listen to our natural cycles and cultivate the power of saying no.About MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Miel and Jamie share their experiences with health issues, how illnesses and injuries can affect kink dynamics, the importance of advocating for yourself when communicating with health professionals about kink and BDSM, and how health issues can impact D/s dynamics.About JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Jamie and Miel continue their discussion on rupture and repair in kink dynamics and relationships. Part 2 explores tools and practices for repair, power vs. control in relationships, owning our actions, setting boundaries and trusting friends to learn their lessons.The song Jamie mentions near the end is Tattoo by Jordin SparksAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the concepts of rupture and repair in kink dynamics and relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of taking responsibility in relationships and explores the magic of repairing connections, and how it can deepen a dynamic or play partnership.About MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawaAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Jamie and Miel dive into the nuances of consent, focusing on the FRIES acronym to help understand its components: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific. The conversation emphasizes the importance of ongoing consent and how it applies in various kink contexts. Contact us @ [email protected] must be ongoing and reversible.Informed consent is crucial in all interactions.FRIES helps simplify understanding of consent.Reversibility is a key aspect of consent.About JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

On this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie explore the concept of 'frenzy' within the kink community, discussing its implications for both submissives and dominants. They delve into the emotional and psychological aspects of frenzy, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, boundaries, and communication. The hosts share personal experiences and grounding techniques to help listeners navigate their own journeys in kink safely and joyfully.TakeawaysFrenzy is a natural part of the kink journey, not a one-time event.Both submissives and dominants can experience frenzy, each with unique challenges.Boundaries and agreements help maintain safety and joy in kink.Frenzy can lead to self-abandonment if not checked.Unchecked frenzy can attract predators; community support is key.Contact us @ [email protected] MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

Right on the heels of the Climax Conference, Jamie and Miel dive into a very important topic that was brought forward during the inaugural conference. This episode delves into the art of negotiation, emphasizing its dynamic nature and how it can be adapted to various situations. The discussion highlights the importance of planning and thinking strategically, with insights into somatics and the role they play in negotiations to achieve successful outcomes.TakeawaysNegotiation is a living, adaptable process.Communication is key in negotiations.Somatics can influence negotiation strategies.Effective negotiation involves continuous learning.Contact us @ [email protected] JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the complexities of breakups within the kink and BDSM community. They explore the emotional depth of relationships, the concept of intensity bonding, and the importance of self-care and healing. The conversation touches on the societal norms of relationships, the beauty of evolving connections, and the courage to choose oneself amidst loss and grief.TakeawaysIntensity bonding is a unique aspect of BDSM relationships.Choosing oneself is crucial for personal well-being.Friendship breakups can be as impactful as romantic ones.Societal norms don't define the value of a relationship.Self-love is the foundation of all relationships.Contact us @ [email protected] MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intricate dynamics of trust within the kink and BDSM community. They explore the importance of self-trust, the role of communication in building trust with partners, and how it can transform personal relationships. The conversation also touches on the concept of self-abandonment, the impact of trauma, and the journey towards radical self-love.Check Out Sonya Renee TaylorLearn More About Dr. Gabor MatéTakeawaysSelf-abandonment often stems from fear of external abandonment.Trauma can cloud judgment and affect trust.Radical self-love is essential for personal growth.Trust in BDSM requires clear boundaries and safe words.Contact us @ [email protected] JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

HAPPY HALLOWEEN 🎃In this episode, hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intriguing concept of embracing one's villains within the context of kink and BDSM. They discuss the power and liberation found in acknowledging and integrating darker aspects of you, and how this can lead to a more authentic and whole human experience. The conversation touches on manipulation, consent, and the balance between light and dark energies, offering listeners a thought-provoking exploration of self-acceptance and personal growth.Key Takeaways:Embrace your shadow side for a more authentic self.Villains can teach us about our own power.Consent is crucial in exploring darker desires.Villainous traits can be empowering when embraced.Contact us @ [email protected] MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intricate world of boundaries within BDSM and relationships. They explore the importance of understanding and setting personal boundaries, the difference between boundaries and rules, and how clear communication can enhance trust and intimacy. Through personal anecdotes and insightful discussions, they emphasize the significance of respecting each other's needs and the role of consent in maintaining healthy dynamics.TakeawaysBoundaries are about self-control, not controlling others.Boundaries are not walls; they are fences that protect and define personal space.Misusing the term 'boundary' can lead to manipulation.Boundaries in BDSM require clear communication and consent.Understanding personal boundaries is key to personal growth.Contact us @ [email protected] JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode of "Probing in the Sheets," hosts Miel and Jamie explore spicing up one's life, both in relationships and personal growth. They discuss the importance of self-discovery, embracing desires, and the impact of stepping out of comfort zones. The conversation touches on the significance of negotiation, the role of emotions in personal exploration, and the ripple effect of pursuing one's true desires.Contact us @ [email protected] MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxoAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the concept of 'drop' in the kink community, exploring its emotional and physical impacts. They discuss personal experiences, the importance of communication, and the role of rest and self-care in navigating drop. The conversation highlights the human experience of emotions and the transformative power of vulnerability and connection.TakeawaysIt's easier to identify and go through a drop than to resist it.Rest and self-care are essential in managing drop.Drop can affect both submissives and dominants.Vulnerability during drop can lead to deeper connections.Contact us @ [email protected] JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxoAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa

In the latest episode of Probing In The Sheets, Miel and Jamie are on location at a kink event in Southern Ontario. In this discussion they cover the camp's vibrant atmosphere, the importance of discernment in the kink community, and how to find and navigate events like Camp. Sharing personal experiences and insights into the kink lifestyle, emphasizing the value of learning from mistakes and the power of community.Takeaways Discernment is crucial when entering the kink community.Finding the right events can be challenging but rewarding.FetLife is a valuable resource for discovering kink events.It's important to find what feels right for you in the kink space.The kink community is diverse and welcoming.Contact us @ [email protected] MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxoAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe Ottawa

This week, Jamie and Miel dive into the complexities of attachment styles within kink relationships, discussing personal experiences and insights into how these dynamics play out in BDSM and alternative lifestyles. The conversation delves into the challenges and healing potential of non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and personal growth.Further Reading:Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy, By Jessica FernAttachment Styles in Dom/sub DynamicsContact us @ [email protected] JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxoAbout MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaKey Episode TakeawaysUnderstanding primal panic versus jealousy is crucial in non-monogamous relationships.BDSM can be a healing space for exploring attachment styles.Self-awareness is key to navigating complex relationship dynamics.Personal stories highlight the journey of embracing non-monogamy.

In this first episode of Probing In The Sheets, Miel and Jamie explore the heart of why they built this podcast, rooted in pleasure activism and the pivotal work done by Adrienne Maree Brown. Celebrate with our hosts as they discuss themes of pleasure is rebellious and rest is resistance, woven into the topics of kink and BDSM. Follow Adreinne Maree Brown on Instagram @adriennemareebrown Continue Deepening Your KnowledgePleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good - By Adrienne Maree BrownRest Is Resistance: A Manifesto - By Tricia HerseyContact us @ [email protected] MielMiel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in.Work With MielIG @daddy.mielAbout JamieAs a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life.Work With JamieIG @walkerxoxoAbout Probe OttawaOttawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength.Visit Probe OttawaIG @probeottawa