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"You can have an eating disorder and not be in an underweight body." This powerful insight from Dr. Elizabeth Wassenaar, Regional Medical Director at the Eating Recovery Center, challenges everything we think we know about food, weight, and mental health. In this eye-opening episode of RECOVERable, host Terry Maguire sits down with Dr. Wassenaar to dismantle the dangerous myths surrounding eating disorders.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Dr. Wassenaar, a triple board-certified psychiatrist, explains that eating disorders are real, brain-based biological illnesses—not matters of willpower, vanity, or "just a diet gone wrong". We dive deep into why these conditions are curable, the difference between "disordered eating" and clinical diagnoses, and the alarming rise of anorexia and bulimia in younger children.We also address the "pathological aloneness" that often accompanies mental illness and why community and connection are the strongest antidotes to the isolation of an eating disorder. Whether you are struggling yourself, worried about a friend, or curious about the signs of eating disorders in men and boys, this conversation provides a compassionate roadmap for understanding and seeking help.Chapters: 00:00 – Intro 00:32 – What is the one thing society should understand? 02:06 – Why are eating disorders considered a mental illness? 06:34 – Is there a typical age when they start? 08:37 – Why are eating disorders starting at younger ages? 12:22 – How should we communicate with each other about bodies? 14:53 – What does disordered eating actually mean? 19:54 – When does it become a medical or mental health crisis? 23:45 – How does tracking calories and macros play a role? 37:34 – What are the signs a friend might have an eating disorder? 50:17 – Do guys get eating disorders, too?Questions the Video Answers:What is the difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating?Can you have an eating disorder if you aren't skinny?Are eating disorders a choice or a mental illness?What are the early warning signs of an eating disorder in a friend?Why are eating disorders becoming more common in children?How does social media impact body image and eating habits?Is it possible to fully recover and be "cured" from an eating disorder?What should I do if I feel suicidal due to an eating disorder?Do men and boys struggle with eating disorders?How can I talk to someone about their weight without being hurtful?Why do people use eating disorders as a way to regain control?What is the most fatal mental illness?How does "diet culture" reinforce disordered behaviors?What are the free resources available for eating disorder support?Why is connection and relationship important for recovery?#eatingdisorder #mentalhealth #recovery

Can you outrun a traumatic childhood? Dr. Christina Bethell returns for Part 2 to explain why an Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) score is an indicator of risk, not a predictor of destiny. As a national leader in population health and systems measurement, Dr. Bethell has reshaped how we understand the "toxic stress" that accumulates in the nervous system when childhood trauma is experienced without buffers.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/In this episode, we dive into the "Positivity Paradox" and the breakthrough research on Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs). Dr. Bethell explains that the absence of positive experiences—feeling loved, supported, and heard—can be as detrimental to long-term health as the presence of trauma itself. We discuss why healthcare systems are often slow to screen for trauma and how the "medicine" of presence and connection can rewire the brain even decades later.Our guest, Dr. Christina Bethell (PhD, MPH, MBA), is a Professor at Johns Hopkins University and the Director of the Child and Adolescent Health Measurement Initiative (CAHMI). Her work proves that healing is a life process and that "more likely is not most"—meaning a high trauma score does not guarantee a future of illness or addiction. Whether you are struggling with your own past or trying to build a resilient future for your children, this conversation offers a roadmap for shifting from "fixing" to "connecting".⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Recap: How ACEs and PCEs intersect05:03 – What does an ACE score actually mean?08;23 – Are you "broken" if you have a high score?10;43 – How do we get more positive experiences (PCEs)?13;27 – Why don’t doctors ask about childhood trauma?16;36 – Is the absence of "good" worse than the "bad"?23;16 – The 4 indicators of family resilience34;42 – Is it ever too late for adults to heal?44;16 – Healing your relationship with your teenager53;14 – A magic wand for society: Connecting vs. Fixing❓ Questions the Video Answers:What is an ACE score? Does a high ACEs score mean I will get sick? What is the difference between an event and toxic stress? How do positive childhood experiences buffer trauma? Why is emotional neglect so common and harmful? Can I heal my nervous system as an adult? What is the "positivity paradox"? Why don't insurance companies cover trauma screening? Can I build resilience with my teenager now? What is "biobehavioral synchrony" in parenting? How does trauma affect the immune system? What are the 7 key PCEs for healing? How do I reparent my inner child? Why is "feeling heard" a public health priority? How can I find safety if I grew up not trusting people? #childhoodtrauma #mentalhealth #resilience

Can you truly heal from a traumatic childhood? Dr. Christina Bethell explains why your past shapes you but doesn't have to define your future. In this episode of Recoverable, we dive deep into the groundbreaking research behind Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and the "medicine" of Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs).Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/We explore the 10-question ACEs screener and why factors like emotional neglect are often the most underrated drivers of adult disease. Dr. Bethell shares her powerful personal story of growing up in the mid-60s amidst addiction and neglect, proving that even with a high trauma score, "flourishing" is possible through connection and emotional safety.Our guest, Christina Bethell, PhD, MPH, MBA, is a Professor at Johns Hopkins University and the founding director of the Child and Adolescent Health Measurement Initiative (CAHMI). Her work has revolutionized how we view relational health as the cornerstone of well-being. Whether you are an adult seeking healing or a caregiver looking to protect a child, this conversation provides a research-based roadmap for recovery.If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe and share it with someone who needs to hear that they matter.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Meet Dr. Christina Bethell02:52 – What are ACEs and how do they impact us?04:02 – Why were these 10 specific ACEs chosen?09:51 – The long-term impact of feeling unloved23:16 – Does the age trauma happens change the impact?25:11 – What should you do if you have a high ACEs score?28:23 – The Science of Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs)37:58 – How PCEs buffer the effects of a traumatic past58:20 – How can we help others heal from trauma?01:01:06 – What does "flourishing" actually look like?❓ Questions the Video Answers:What are Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)?How do ACEs affect long-term physical health?What is the "positivity paradox" in trauma healing?Can you heal from a high ACEs score as an adult?What are the 7 Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs)?Why is emotional neglect as damaging as physical abuse?How does a parent's addiction impact a child's brain?Can one caring adult change a child's entire life trajectory?What is "developmental trauma disorder"?How do "mirror neurons" affect children witnessing conflict?Why is high school belonging such a strong protective factor?What is the neurobiology of "presence"?How do we move from "fixing" to "connecting"?What are the four different ways we measure flourishing?Is a high ACEs score a guarantee of future illness?#childhoodtrauma #resilience #mentalhealth

Are you feeling overwhelmed, angry, or disconnected after childbirth? You are not alone—nearly 20% of new mothers experience postpartum depression, yet many suffer in silence due to a paralyzing sense of shame.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/In this essential follow-up, host Terry McGuire continues the conversation with Dr. Karen Sheffield-Abdullah. Dr. Sheffield-Abdullah is a PhD, researcher, and nurse-midwife with over 20 years of experience specializing in perinatal mental health. While Part 1 focused on pregnancy, this episode dives deep into the "fourth trimester," exploring why the massive dip in progesterone after the placenta is delivered can trigger everything from the "baby blues" to severe clinical depression.Dr. Sheffield-Abdullah addresses the "elephant in the room": the terrifying intrusive thoughts many mothers experience but are too afraid to voice for fear of Child Protective Services (CPS). We discuss the critical differences between normal exhaustion and medical red flags, including postpartum rage, anxiety, and the rare but serious condition of postpartum psychosis.This episode is a roadmap for recovery, highlighting the importance of the two-week postpartum check-up and providing resources like Postpartum Support International (PSI) and the 988 crisis line. Whether you are a new parent or a loved one looking for signs, this video offers the language and hope needed to navigate the challenges of early motherhood.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – [Intro] Postpartum Depression vs. The Blues 00:54 – How Common is Postpartum Depression? 07:30 – What is "Normal" for a New Mother? 09:19 – When Does it Become a Medical Problem? 12:27 – Who is Most at Risk for PPD? 21:57 – Is it PPD or Just Sleep Deprivation? 23:25 – The Truth About Scary Intrusive Thoughts 24:58 – Addressing the Fear of Child Protective Services 30:27 – How Long Does Postpartum Depression Last? 40:05 – Understanding Postpartum Rage and Psychosis ❓ Questions the Podcast Answers:What is the difference between postpartum blues and postpartum depression? How common is postpartum depression in new mothers? Why does my mood change so drastically after giving birth? Is it normal to cry at commercials after having a baby? When should a new mother seek medical intervention for her mood? What are the symptoms of postpartum anxiety and OCD? Are intrusive thoughts about harming the baby common? Will I lose my baby to CPS if I admit I have depression? What is the perinatal psychiatry inpatient unit at UNC? How can I tell my partner I think I have PPD? How long does postpartum depression typically last? Why am I experiencing "postpartum rage" and anger? What are the signs of postpartum psychosis? Is it normal to have trouble bonding with a newborn? Where can I find a postpartum depression helpline? #PostpartumDepression #PostpartumAnxiety #MaternalMentalHealth

Are you struggling with depression during pregnancy but afraid to talk about it? You are not alone, as up to 20% of women will experience a significant mood disorder during pregnancy or after birth.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/In this episode, host Terry McGuire sits down with Dr. Karen Sheffield-Abdullah. Dr. Sheffield-Abdullah is a professor, a nurse-midwife of 20 years, and a researcher specializing in Black maternal stress and anxiety. We dive deep into the often-misunderstood world of perinatal mental health, breaking down the crucial differences between antenatal depression, pregnancy anxiety, and the standard "baby blues". Dr. Sheffield-Abdullah explains how the hormonal shifts of pregnancy, like the dip in progesterone, can easily mask clinical depression.We also tackle the most searched questions on the internet regarding maternal mental health. Does crying constantly affect your baby's development? Are antidepressants actually safe to take during pregnancy? What are the real risks of leaving depression untreated? Dr. Sheffield-Abdullah provides evidence-based answers, reassuring expecting parents that treatments like talk therapy, mindfulness-based stress reduction, and SSRIs are both safe and highly effective. She also explores the "Superwoman Schema" and how the pressure to maintain a stoic exterior prevents many—especially Black women—from being vulnerable and seeking help.Whether you are pregnant and experiencing unexplained mood swings , or you are trying to support a loved one who might be quietly suffering, this episode offers compassionate, actionable advice. You'll learn how to successfully advocate for yourself at the doctor's office , simple mindfulness techniques like body scans to break the cycle of "bed rotting" , and why it is so important to build a strong support system early on.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – The Truth About Pregnancy Search History 01:01 – Antenatal vs. Postpartum Depression Explained 02:40 – Baby Blues vs. Clinical Depression Symptoms 06:47 – Why Pregnancy Causes Severe Anxiety 09:20 – Does Crying Affect My Baby's Development? 11:05 – Are Antidepressants Safe During Pregnancy? 14:02 – Overcoming Guilt & The "Superwoman Schema" 21:57 – Am I Depressed or Just Hormonal? 29:48 – The Real Risks of Untreated Depression 36:08 – How to Stop "Bed Rotting" & Seek Help ❓ Questions the Video Answers:What are the signs of depression during pregnancy? Is it normal to have extreme anxiety while pregnant? What is the difference between antenatal depression and perinatal depression? Does crying while pregnant hurt the baby's development? Are antidepressants like SSRIs safe to take during pregnancy? How do you know if you are just hormonal or clinically depressed? What are the risks to the baby if depression is left untreated? How do you tell your OBGYN or doctor that you are depressed? What can I do to stop "bed rotting" and lack of motivation while pregnant? Can untreated pregnancy anxiety cause premature birth? How can mindfulness and body scans help with pregnancy depression? Does hating being pregnant affect bonding with the baby later? How can I prepare for postpartum depression during my second or third trimester? What is the Superwoman Schema in maternal mental health? Why do hormonal shifts cause the baby blues? #PregnancyDepression #MaternalMentalHealth #PregnancyAnxiety

Description: How do you know when you’ve finally reached the point where you can't do it alone? For many, the realization doesn't come from a "lightbulb moment," but from the exhaustion of repeating the same mistakes while expecting different results. In Part 2 of our deep dive into the Levels of Care, host Terry McGuire and Dr. Sal Raichbach explore the psychological barriers to seeking help and the reality of life after the "rehab" doors close.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Dr. Sal Raichbach, PsyD, LCSW, CFSW, is an expert in behavioral health with over 33 years of experience. In this episode, he tackles the uncomfortable truths about addiction treatment: why discharge planning must begin the very day you are admitted , the critical difference between "acute" and "chronic" symptoms , and how to navigate a toxic home environment once you've completed a program.We also address the "failed" treatment attempt. If you’ve tried rehab before and it didn’t work, Dr. Sal offers a perspective that might change everything you think about your journey. From daily recovery habits—like self-reflection and medication adherence—to the power of peer support groups, this conversation provides a roadmap for anyone navigating the complex system of behavioral health. Recovery isn't a "one-stop shop"; it's a series of steps toward a life you actually want to live.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Recap: The Continuum of Care02:46 – How to Know When It’s Time for Help05:23 – Choice vs. Coercion: The Truth About Ultimatums07:27 – Acute vs. Chronic: Understanding Success Rates10:45 – Is Relapse a Part of the Process?12:59 – Why You Can't Dictate Your Own Level of Care16:16 – Why Discharge Planning Starts at Admission19:26 – Staying Sober in a Toxic Home Environment22:53 – 6 Daily Habits to Maintain Long-Term Recovery26:31 – "I Tried Rehab and Failed"—The Honest Truth❓ Questions the Video Answers:How do I know if I'm ready for addiction treatment?Does treatment work if someone is forced to go?What is the difference between acute and chronic mental health symptoms?Is relapse a failure or a "setback"?Why is discharge planning important in recovery?How do I stay sober if my family still drinks or uses?What are "wraparound services" in addiction care?Can I bring my phone or laptop to residential rehab?Why do people go back to rehab multiple times?What daily habits help maintain sobriety after treatment?How do I advocate for the right level of care?What is the role of medication in long-term recovery?Can adolescents be forced into treatment without consent?What is "projection" in addiction psychology?Why does "trying" therapy require full participation?#addictionrecovery #mentalhealth #soberlife

Navigating the world of addiction and mental health treatment can feel like learning a completely different language when you are already at your breaking point. How do you know if you need a "hospital level" of care or if weekly therapy is enough? In this episode of RECOVERable, host Terry McGuire sits down with behavioral health expert Dr. Sal Raichbach to demystify the "continuum of care" and explain exactly what happens at every stage of recovery.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Dr. Sal Raichbach, PsyD, LCSW, CFSW, is a doctoral-level psychologist and Chief Clinical Officer at Haven Health Management with over 33 years of experience in the field. He breaks down the critical differences between Outpatient, Intensive Outpatient (IOP), Partial Hospitalization (PHP), and Residential treatment. You’ll learn why the "30-day rehab" rule is often an insurance myth and what a "SMART" treatment plan actually looks like.Whether you are struggling with a dual diagnosis or trying to help a loved one choose the right path, Dr. Sal explains the risks of "DIY" research and why professional assessment is the first step toward lasting sobriety. We dive deep into the intensity of medical detox, the power of group therapy for those who "hate groups," and how to manage the transition back into everyday life.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Why Understanding "Levels of Care" Saves Lives01:45 – The Danger of "DIY" Addiction Research 03:00 – Breakdown: The 5 Major Levels of Treatment 06:14 – Outpatient vs. Intensive Outpatient (IOP) 13:12 – What is a Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP)? 18:13 – Residential Treatment: What Really Happens in "Rehab" 26:19 – The "SMART" Treatment Plan Explained 27:21 – The 30-Day Rehab Myth & Insurance Truths 31:52 – Inpatient Care: When Is It a Crisis? 35:53 – Medical Detox: Is It Always Necessary?❓ Questions the Video Answers:What are the different levels of care for addiction?What is the difference between inpatient and outpatient treatment?Is intensive outpatient (IOP) better than regular therapy?What does a Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP) actually do?How do I know if I need residential rehab?Why does insurance only pay for 30 days of treatment?Do I need medical detox for alcohol or drugs?Can you do intensive outpatient (IOP) via telehealth?What is a "dual diagnosis" and how is it treated?What happens during a rehab intake assessment?How long do I have to stay in a residential program?Is inpatient care the same as being "locked down"?What is a "SMART" treatment plan in recovery?How does group therapy help if I'm not a "group person"?What are the risks of detoxing at home without medical help?#addictionrecovery #mentalhealth #rehab

Thoughts of suicide are not uncommon and can be a part of the human experience for many individuals at various points in their lives. In Part 2 of this series, host Terry McGuire welcomes back Dr. Sara Kohlbeck, PhD, a public health researcher specializing in suicide. This conversation focuses on the "invitations" people send when they are in distress and how to navigate the spectrum of suicidal thoughts with empathy and evidence-based tools.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Dr. Kohlbeck explains that warning signs in teens often manifest as impulsivity or reckless behavior, such as dangerous driving or taking unknown substances. She introduces the "Assist" training framework, which views these behaviors as "invitations" to explore the underlying pain a person is carrying. This episode also clarifies the reality of "passive suicidal ideation"—thoughts like wishing to go to sleep and never wake up—which are valid experiences that require support even without an immediate plan.Dr. Sara Kohlbeck, PhD, provides a rare, firsthand account of her own experience driving herself to the emergency department during a crisis. She details the medical triage process and addresses the common fear that seeking help will lead to immediate restraint or being "locked up". By normalizing these conversations and teaching listeners how to create a "Safety Plan," Dr. Kohlbeck empowers communities to become a foundation for wellness.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – [Intro] Normalizing Thoughts of Suicide02:50 – Warning Signs in Teens: Impulsivity and Risk07:15 – Identifying "Invitations" for Help09;12 – Sudden Calmness: Why It Can Be a Danger Sign14:10 – Understanding Passive Suicidal Ideation28:52 – How Long Does a Suicidal Crisis Last?29:29 – Restricting Access to Lethal Means33:22 – How to Create a Safety Plan41:08 – Walking into the ER: Triage and Treatment45:24 – Will My Therapist "Lock Me Up"?❓ Questions the Video Answers:How do warning signs in teens differ from those in adults?What is the "Assist" training framework for suicide intervention?What are "invitations" for support and how do I spot them?Is a sudden improvement in mood always a good sign?What does "passive suicidal ideation" feel like?Can the option of suicide act as a "safety valve" for some?How long does a period of imminent suicidal crisis typically last?Why is "limiting access to lethal means" critical for safety?What is "means substitution" and does it actually happen?What words should I use when walking into an ER during a crisis?What medical tests are performed during a psychiatric ER visit?Will I be handcuffed if I admit I am suicidal at a hospital?How do I tell a therapist I have a plan without being hospitalized?What are "coping cards" and how can they help?How can communities better support those with suicidal thoughts?#suicideprevention #mentalhealth #teenmentalhealth

CONTENT WARNING: This episode discusses suicide and suicidal ideation, which may be difficult for some listeners; if you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a crisis hotline like 988."When you are suicidal, it is an incredibly isolating feeling. It’s feeling like nobody really understands." In this episode of RECOVER, host Terry McGuire sits down with Dr. Sara Kohlbeck, PhD, a distinguished suicidologist and public health researcher, to peel back the layers of a topic often kept in the shadows. Dr. Kohlbeck shares her profound insights into the "suicide spectrum" and the reality of being high-functioning while struggling with thoughts of ending one's life.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/This conversation is designed to normalize the human experience of suicidal ideation and provide practical, research-backed tools for intervention. Whether you are currently struggling, a loss survivor, or someone worried about a friend, this episode offers a roadmap for connection. Dr. Kohlbeck explains the "Suicide Thermometer," why sadness isn't always the primary symptom, and how to navigate the fear of "saying the wrong thing."Dr. Sara Kohlbeck, PhD, is a leading expert in suicide research, focusing on the complex socio-economic factors that contribute to suicidal behavior. Her work emphasizes that connection is prevention.If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or reach out to local mobile crisis teams. You are not a burden, and there is hope for recovery.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Intro: Breaking the Silence on Suicide01:31 – Normalizing Thoughts of Suicide03:05 – The Suicide Thermometer: Understanding the Spectrum05:58 – The Reality of High-Functioning Suicidality06:36 – Critical Messages for Those Currently Struggling13:47 – Why It Happens: The Complex Risk Factors15:55 – What to Say to Someone Who is Suicidal22:22 – The Myth: Does Asking About Suicide Plant the Idea?24:03 – Crisis Response: When to Call 988 vs. 91147:24 – How to Tell a Partner or Parent You’re Struggling❓ Questions the Video Answers:How do I talk to someone who is suicidal?Does asking someone about suicide put the idea in their head?What is the difference between passive and active suicidal thoughts?Can you be high-functioning and suicidal at the same time?What happens when you call or text 988?What should I do if someone gets angry when I ask if they are suicidal?Why do I want to die if I don't feel sad?What are the subtle warning signs of suicide?How do I tell my parents I’m struggling if they don’t believe in therapy?Is suicidal ideation a normal part of the human experience?What is the "Suicide Thermometer" concept?When should I call 911 for a mental health crisis?How can I support a suicide loss survivor?What are "Warm Lines" and how do they differ from crisis lines?How do I help someone who feels like a burden?#suicideprevention #mentalhealth #988lifeline

Living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) often feels like being "screamed at by your brain" while trying to navigate everyday life. In this deeply personal and educational episode, we go beyond the "scary" stereotypes to reveal the intense emotional pain and interpersonal turmoil that defines this condition.Joining us is Sage Nestler, an LGBTQ+ mental health specialist and a leading educator on BPD. Sage is a member of the advocacy committee for the National Education Alliance on BPD (NEA-BPD) and provides a rare perspective as a clinician who also lives with the disorder. He explains that for those with the quiet version of BPD, the struggle is often internalized, making their experience invisible to the outside world. They share how the "Favorite Person" (FP) phenomenon and black-and-white thinking can create a constant cycle of idolization and fear of abandonment in relationships.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Sage clarifies the common confusion between BPD, Bipolar Disorder, and PTSD, explaining why he believes focusing on symptoms rather than labels is critical for proper care. They also address the most searched questions on the internet: Is there a specific medication for BPD? (The answer might surprise you) and can the disorder truly be "cured"?. Whether you are a "support person" for a loved one or someone seeking clarity for your own experience, they offer the validation and insight needed to move forward with compassion.For more resources, check out the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and the Family Connections Program through the NEA-BPD.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Defining Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)01:21 – Common Stereotypes vs. Reality02:55 – What Living With BPD Feels Like Internally05:31 – Advice for Loved Ones and Support Systems08:56 – How to Know if You Have BPD10:02 – Resources: NEA-BPD and NAMI15:08 – The "Favorite Person" (FP) Concept Explained22:52 – Breaking Down the 9 Diagnostic Criteria46:02 – Best Medication and Treatments for BPD48:53 – Can Borderline Personality Disorder Be Cured?❓ Questions the Video Answers:What is borderline personality disorder (BPD)?What does BPD feel like on the inside?What are the 9 diagnostic criteria for BPD?What is a BPD "Favorite Person" (FP)?What is "Quiet BPD" and how is it different?Can BPD be cured or treated effectively?Is there a specific medication for BPD?What is "splitting" in BPD relationships?How does BPD affect the fear of abandonment?Is BPD often misdiagnosed as bipolar disorder?Why is BPD so heavily stigmatized in mental health?How do you get a professional BPD diagnosis?What is identity disturbance in BPD?How can I support a partner or child with BPD?Does BPD cause chronic feelings of emptiness?#BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #MentalHealth Awareness

Stop the stigma. Sage Nestler, MSW, an LGBTQ+ mental health specialist and leading educator on BPD, joins the podcast to pull back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions. Often villainized or confused with narcissism, Borderline Personality Disorder is actually defined by intense emotional pain and a desperate search for relief. Sage shares his personal journey of being diagnosed after a mental breakdown and how he transitioned from fearing he was "evil" to becoming a specialized advocate for the BPD community.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/In this deep-dive episode, Sage explains the fundamental characteristics of BPD, including mood dysregulation, an unstable sense of self, and the pervasive fear of abandonment that often sabotages relationships. We explore the specific nuances of "Quiet BPD," where emotional turmoil is turned inward through self-harm or eating disorders rather than external outbursts.Sage also breaks down the power of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) in managing daily spiraling thoughts. Whether you are living with a diagnosis or supporting a loved one, this conversation offers essential tools for de-escalation, communication, and radical self-compassion. Learn more about Sage Nestler’s work and advocacy by visiting the National Education Alliance on BPD.⏱️ Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Sage Nestler, MSW 01:38 – What is Borderline Personality Disorder? 02:36 – Understanding BPD Mood Dysregulation 03:29 – How BPD Impacts Sense of Self 04:30 – The Reality of BPD in Relationships 07:59 – BPD vs. Narcissism: Ending the Stigma 19:25 – Is it Dangerous to Self-Diagnose BPD? 20:45 – Quiet BPD vs. Traditional Symptoms 27:11 – Supporting Someone with BPD in Crisis 36:06 – What Causes BPD: Genetics vs. Trauma❓ Questions the Video Answers:What is Borderline Personality Disorder? How do BPD mood swings feel on a daily basis? Is BPD the same as Narcissistic Personality Disorder? What is "Quiet BPD" and how is it diagnosed? Why do people with BPD have a fear of abandonment? What is "splitting" or black-and-white thinking? Can BPD be treated with medication? How does DBT help with emotional regulation? Why is BPD often misdiagnosed as Bipolar Disorder? What causes BPD: is it genetic or trauma-based? How should you support a partner with BPD during a crisis? Why is BPD more commonly diagnosed in those assigned female at birth? What is a "Favorite Person" in the context of BPD?How can someone with BPD manage impulsive behaviors? Why is there such a heavy stigma around BPD in the media?#BPD #MentalHealth #QuietBPD

"The second I feel that I am cured and it no longer exists, is the moment that it invites itself back in." In the conclusion of our powerful conversation, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC) Aja Chavez joins host Terry Maguire to move beyond symptoms and into the real work of recovery. We tackle the "uncomfortable conversations" that save lives, including how to decode the "FINE" acronym and why you must directly ask about suicidal thoughts.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Aja Chavez brings both professional expertise and the lived experience of surviving a 2008 suicide attempt to discuss depression as a chronic condition that requires long-term management, much like diabetes. This episode provides a practical roadmap for those feeling like a burden, explaining how medication provides a "floor beneath your feet" and how to build a personal "wellness wheel" that incorporates therapy, spirituality, and even the smallest moments of joy. Whether you are struggling to get out of bed or trying to reach a partner who is pushing you away, Aja’s blunt clinical insights and compassionate perspective offer a way forward.About Our Guest: Aja Chavez, LMFT, LPCC, is a clinical expert specializing in adolescent mental health and crisis intervention. She is a dedicated advocate for lowering barriers to care and helping individuals rediscover their worth through evidence-based therapy and holistic wellness.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – [Intro: Why Depression is Never Fully "Cured"] 01:04 – [Review: Laziness vs. Clinical Depression] 05:54 – [The Lies Depression Tells: "You Are a Burden"] 09:28 – [Why Therapists Don't Give You a "Lies vs. Truth" List] 12:36 – [How 988 and Crisis Hotlines Actually Help] 14:26 – [Managing Depression Like Diabetes] 17:22 – [Decoding "FINE": F***ed Up, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional] 19:25 – [How to Support Someone Who Pushes You Away] 22:42 – [Finding Free and Low-Cost Mental Health Resources] 27:02 – [Why You Should Never Say "At Least..."] 32:01 – [The Power of "Wellness Wheels" and Small Joys] 35:50 – [Medication: "Do You Want to Be Pretty or Dead?"] 42:26 – [The Role of Prayer and Spirituality in Recovery] 47:31 – [The Safest Move: Asking Directly About Suicide] ❓ Questions the Video Answers:Is clinical depression a permanent condition? How can I help someone with depression who refuses help? What does the "FINE" acronym mean in mental health? Why does depression make me feel like everyone is better off without me? How do I find therapy if I don't have insurance or money? Can I use the 988 crisis line if I'm not in an immediate emergency? Does depression medication change your personality or make you a "zombie"? How can I tell if my teenager is depressed or just being moody? What is a "wellness wheel" and how do I build one? Is it okay to ask someone directly if they want to kill themselves? Why shouldn't I tell a depressed person they have "so much to be grateful for"? Can prayer and medication work together for recovery? Why is irritability a sign of depression instead of sadness? How do I support a partner when they get mean or defensive? What are "glimmers of joy" and why do they precede hope? #depressionrecovery #mentalhealthsupport #988lifeline

Ever stared at your to-do list and wondered, "Am I depressed or am I just lazy?". You're definitely not the only one searching for that answer. In this episode of RECOVERable, host Terry McGuire is joined by Aja Chavez to peel back the layers of a condition that often hides in plain sight. Aja Chavez is an EMDR-trained Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT) & Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC) who offers a perspective that is as rare as it is vital: she is both a clinical expert and a suicide attempt survivor.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Depression isn't always sitting in a dark room with the blankets pulled over your head. For some, it feels like a "warm, heavy weighted blanket" or a "stage four clinger" that robs you of your ability to connect with joy. Aja shares her personal journey from a high-achieving 20-something who "had it all" to the moment she realized her internal dialogue was a lie designed to keep her in a shame spiral.We dive into the "train whistle" warning signs you need to watch for and how "contrary action" can save your life when the darkness starts to feel like a "nice friend". This isn't just a clinical lecture; it’s a conversational toolkit for anyone navigating the muddy waters of mental illness. If you've ever felt "other" or like you missed the life rulebook, this episode is for you.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Introduction to RECOVERable and guest Aja Chavez 01:35 – What does depression actually feel like? 03:54 – The #1 search: Am I depressed or am I lazy? 06:47 – Why depression is a medical condition, not a choice 10:53 – High-functioning depression: Hiding in plain sight 13:02 – Aja’s story: When depression feels like a "nice friend" 23:08 – Dropping the mask and asking for help 30:48 – The "Train Whistle": Identifying early warning signs 37:01 – Wellness plans and the power of "contrary action" 42:21 – Why do I feel depressed for "no reason"? ❓ Questions the Video Answers:Am I depressed or am I lazy? What does clinical depression feel like? How do I describe depression to someone who has never felt it? Is depression a medical condition or a mood disorder? What are the different types of depression diagnosis? How can I tell the difference between sadness and depression? What is high-functioning depression? Why do high achievers struggle with mental health? Can you be depressed if your life looks perfect from the outside? What are the first technical signs of depression? How does irritability link to depressive episodes? Why does depression make it hard to do simple tasks like showering? What is "contrary action" in mental health treatment? Can you be depressed for "no reason"? How do I identify my own early warning signs? #mentalhealth #depressionrecovery #highfunctioningdepression

Stop being the thermometer that reads the room and start being the thermostat that sets the temperature. In this deep dive, emotional regulation expert Alyssa Blask Campbell (New York Times Bestselling Author and CEO of Seed & Coach) reveals why our reactions are often "learned habits" and how we can regain self-control in high-stress moments. Whether you are navigating a toddler's meltdown, a workplace panic attack, or a heated argument with a partner, understanding your nervous system is the key to changing the outcome.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Learn more about Alyssa’s work at Seed & Sew: https://www.seedandsew.org/Alyssa explains the science of the Vagus Nerve—the "muscle" of your parasympathetic nervous system—and why TikTok is obsessed with it. You’ll learn why "hiding" your feelings actually fuels anxiety and how "cold exposure" or "humming" can physically reset your body's fight-or-flight response in seconds. We also explore the revolutionary idea that behavior is never the problem; it is merely a symptom of an unmet need.By the end of this episode, you will have a toolkit of grounding techniques that actually work and the insight to stop "shutting down" when things get hard. Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., is the author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions and Bigger Kids, Bigger Feelings.

Stop reacting and start responding. Emotional development expert Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., explains how to understand and fix your unique nervous system today. Feeling overwhelmed, snappy, or like you're constantly "treading water" just to stay afloat? You’re likely living in a state of nervous system dysregulation. In this episode, New York Times bestselling author Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., breaks down the science of emotion regulation and why most of us never learned these essential adulting skills in our youth.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Learn more about Alyssa’s work at Seed & Sew: https://www.seedandsew.org/We dive deep into the crucial difference between "coping mechanisms" that provide temporary dopamine hits—like substance use or impulsive shopping—and "coping strategies" that produce lasting serotonin and oxytocin to truly calm the body. Alyssa introduces the Collaborative Emotion Processing (CEP) method, explaining how our unique sensory systems—including proprioceptive and vestibular senses—dictate how we experience stress and how we must recharge.Whether you are navigating "sensory mismatches" in your marriage, trying to handle a child’s grocery store meltdown, or recovering from trauma, this conversation provides a roadmap to self-awareness and self-control. Discover insights from her New York Times bestseller, Tiny Humans, Big Emotions , and learn why "microdosing" self-regulation throughout the day is the key to lasting peace.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Intro: The "Only Way Out is Through" 10:33 – What is emotion regulation? 28:09 – How do I know if I'm dysregulated? 40:19 – Does nervous system reset actually work? 41:41 – What is the fastest way to calm myself down? ❓ Questions the Video Answers:What is the difference between emotion regulation and self-control? How do I know if my nervous system is dysregulated? Why do I use online shopping or social media to cope with stress? Does a nervous system reset really work or is it just buzzword hype? How does childhood trauma affect my adult stress reactions? What is the fastest way to calm down during a moment of rage? Why am I so sensitive to small sounds like clicking or chewing? How can I stop being sarcastic and snippy when I'm stressed? What are "legacy blessings" and "legacy burdens" in parenting? How do I handle a sensory mismatch with my partner or child? Is deep breathing actually effective for regulating emotions? What is the proprioceptive sense and how does it help with anxiety? How do I stop "treading water" and start actually healing? Why can't a dysregulated adult calm a dysregulated child? What are the best tools for "microdosing" self-regulation? #nervoussystem #emotionregulation #parenting

Relapse isn’t failure — it’s feedback. This conversation explores why relapse is a normal part of addiction recovery and how to use it as data to build a powerful relapse‑prevention plan.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Dr. Jasleen Chhatwal, a board‑certified psychiatrist and addiction medicine physician, explains that addiction relapse prevention strategies hinge on self‑awareness and preparation. You’ll learn why relapse in addiction recovery often reveals hidden triggers, how to identify stressors and cravings early, and why shame‑free support from loved ones matters. We unpack the difference between sobriety and holistic recovery, showing that addressing trauma and mental health is vital to staying well. The video also highlights the signs of addiction and what it means to be a functional addict so you can recognize subtle warning signs before they spiral.Beyond personal insight, you’ll get compassionate tips on how to talk to someone with addiction without confrontation and how to build a relapse‑prevention plan that works. We cover the stages of addiction recovery, treatment options like medications and 12‑step programs, harm‑reduction approaches, and how to integrate community support. You’ll hear why willpower alone isn’t enough and why hope and intentionality are key. We also tackle co‑occurring mental health issues, signs of trauma and addiction, and what to do when you’re worried about your drinking. Whether you’re struggling yourself or supporting a loved one, this video offers practical tools to avoid relapse, cultivate self‑compassion, and seek help without stigma.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Introduction & why relapse is part of recovery02:30 – Learning from relapse & building prevention strategies05:45 – Hope, harm reduction & staying sober long‑term08:20 – Recovery vs sobriety & trauma triggers11:55 – What is a functional addict? Subtle signs you might miss15:50 – Treatment options: medication, 12‑step & personalized care18:45 – Compassionate conversations: how to talk to someone with addiction24:30 – Signs of addiction & when to seek help30:00 – Co‑occurring mental health & holistic recovery34:50 – Final takeaway: love, support & hope in healing❓ Questions the Video Answers:Why do addiction relapses happen and what can we learn from them?What are the best addiction relapse‑prevention strategies?How do you build a relapse‑prevention plan that actually works?What’s the difference between recovery and sobriety?What are the signs of addiction and how can you spot a functional addict?How do you talk to someone with a drug or alcohol addiction without making them defensive?What are the stages of addiction recovery and why do they matter?How can you avoid relapse and maintain long‑term sobriety?Can a recovering alcoholic ever drink again — and why is it a slippery slope?Are 12‑step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous mandatory for sobriety?What treatments exist for opioid or alcohol addiction, from medications to support groups?How does trauma drive addiction and why must it be addressed?What are the signs that your coping strategies are becoming unhealthy or addictive?How do co‑occurring mental‑health disorders impact addiction recovery?What’s the first step when you’re worried about your drinking or drug use?#addictionrecovery #relapseprevention #mentalhealth

Addiction isn’t a moral failing — it’s a chronic brain disorder that hijacks your reward circuitry and turns coping into compulsion. In this episode, Dr. Jasleen Chhatwal unpacks what addiction really is and why so many people use substances or behaviors to self‑medicate pain, trauma or anxiety. She explains that 40–60% of risk is genetic, but genes don’t doom you — understanding your family history allows you to make healthier choices.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/We discuss how addictive disorders cross all demographics, from CEOs to stay‑at‑home parents, and why trauma and stress can rewire the prefrontal cortex so that cravings and compulsions take over. Dr. Chhatwal debunks the “rock bottom” myth by showing that recovery is a process of weighing pros and cons and learning from setbacks. She breaks down the four C’s of addiction — compulsion, cravings, continuing despite consequences and loss of control — and shares simple ways to spot early warning signs, like secrecy or drastic behavior changes. You’ll learn how to ask caring, observational questions instead of accusing someone and why emotional literacy can prevent future substance use.⏱️ Chapters: 00:00 – Intro: Addiction Defined & Brain Hijack 01:20 – Self‑Medication, Trauma & Feeling “Normal” 04:30 – How Families Can Support Without Enabling 12:54 – Genetics vs Moral Failure: Myths Busted 15:58 – Stereotypes vs Reality: Addiction Affects Everyone 19:11 – Root Causes: Trauma, Mental Health & Brain Development 20:38 – Do You Need Rock Bottom? Motivation & Recovery 23:50 – The Four C’s: Compulsion, Cravings, Consequences, Control 26:29 – Warning Signs & How to Talk About Addiction 29:35 – Is My Kid Using Drugs? Teen Behavior & Emotional Literacy 33:52 – Why Do People with Addictions Lie? Confabulation Explained 37:15 – Why Can’t Addicts Just Quit? Brain Hijack & Treatment 40:30 – Process & Behavioral Addictions: Work, Gaming, Porn 43:24 – When Does a Habit Become an Addiction? Functional Impairment 45:31 – Compassionate Boundaries & Community Support 49:41 – Moderation vs Sobriety & Harm Reduction 51:48 – Harm Reduction & Hope: Meeting People Where They Are 52:07 – Closing & Next Episode Teaser❓ Questions the Video Answers:What is addiction and how can someone overcome it?What are the early warning signs of addiction?Is addiction genetic or a choice?Why do some people become addicted while others don’t?How do trauma and mental health issues cause addiction and self‑medication?What is “rock bottom” in addiction recovery and do you need to hit it?What are the four C’s of addiction (compulsion, cravings, consequences and control)?How can I help a friend or family member with addiction without enabling them?Why do people with addictions lie so much?Why can’t addicts just stop even when they want to?Can you be addicted to things like work, gaming, porn or food?When does a habit become a full‑blown addiction?How do you know if your teenager’s “weird” behavior is drug use or something else?Can moderation work, or do you need complete sobriety for recovery?What is harm reduction and why is it important in addiction treatment?#addiction #mentalhealth #recovery

ADHD isn’t laziness; it’s a neurodevelopmental difference that affects attention, executive function and impulse control. In this eye‑opening conversation with child psychologist Dr. Carrie Jackson, we explore what ADHD really is and why many people’s organizational skills lag by about 30%. You’ll learn how inattention and hyperactivity manifest across the lifespan, why it’s not a knowledge problem but a challenge in acting on intentions, and how misunderstood “ADHD paralysis” keeps you stuck on tasks. Learn science‑backed ways to break paralysis – from changing your environment and using body doubling to working in short two‑minute bursts.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Learn more about Dr. Carrie Jackson: https://www.drcarriejackson.com/Dr. Jackson also debunks myths about stimulant medication: it targets dopamine and norepinephrine, calms impulsivity and even improves emotion regulation and social skills. Untreated ADHD, however, is linked with accidents, health complications and shorter life expectancy, while proper treatment significantly reduces the risk of substance use disorders by about 40%. For parents, she offers executive function tips, visual schedules and time‑blocking strategies—start with just three important tasks and block realistic calendar slots to avoid burnout. We discuss 504 plans, flexible seating and other accommodations that level the playing field at school and work. Finally, we address relationships: how to explain ADHD to your partner, use non‑judgmental language and focus on positive reinforcement. ADHD is a brain difference, not a flaw; with support, self‑awareness and the right tools, you can thrive.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – What Is ADHD? Neurodevelopment & Executive Function04:12 – ADHD Time Management & Parenting Morning Routines08:50 – ADHD vs Anxiety: Overlap & Differences13:30 – Medication Myths: Benefits vs Stimulant Fears18:20 – Untreated ADHD Risks & Substance Use22:45 – ADHD Paralysis, Body Doubling & Time Blocking Tips29:10 – Accommodations, Relationships & Final Takeaways❓ Questions the Video Answers:What is ADHD and how does it affect executive functioning?Why are organizational skills often 30% behind in people with ADHD?How is ADHD different from anxiety and depression?What are the signs of ADHD time blindness and how do you manage it?What is ADHD paralysis and how can you stop procrastination?How does body doubling help with task initiation and focus?What are effective time‑blocking and time management tips for adults with ADHD?Are ADHD medications safe, and what benefits do stimulants provide?What are the consequences of untreated ADHD on health and lifespan?Does treating ADHD reduce the risk of substance use disorders?How can parents create morning routines and visual schedules for ADHD kids?What accommodations can schools or workplaces provide for ADHD?How do you explain ADHD to your partner and repair relationships after impulsivity?Is ADHD a disability or a strength, and how can you embrace both?How can you focus with ADHD without burning out or feeling overwhelmed?#ADHD #MentalHealth #TimeManagement

Wonder if your forgetfulness and zoning out is ADHD or just distraction? In this episode of Recovery, child psychologist and ADHD expert Dr. Carrie Jackson explains what ADHD really feels like and why it’s often underdiagnosed in women and BIPOC communities. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between normal distraction and clinically significant ADHD symptoms in women, men and kids and why executive functioning issues – not laziness – drive the forgetfulness, missed deadlines and day‑dreaming.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Learn more about Dr. Carrie Jackson: https://www.drcarriejackson.com/Dr. Jackson shares her own journey living with ADHD and breaks down the three presentations: inattentive, hyperactive/impulsive and combined. She debunks myths (no, sugar and screen time don’t cause ADHD), explains why girls often present as “quiet daydreamers” while boys are labelled disruptive, and explores the role of hormones and genetics in adult ADHD diagnosis. You’ll hear why there’s no brain scan for ADHD – diagnosis relies on interviews, questionnaires and observing behaviour across settings – and why many adults get diagnosed after childbirth or during major life transitions.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Introduction & why ADHD is often underdiagnosed00:24 – Do I have ADHD or am I just distracted?01:04 – Regulating attention: hyperfocus vs distractibility03:22 – Interest‑based attention & urgency (video games vs tasks)04:12 – How ADHD is diagnosed & who can diagnose it05:49 – No brain scans: interviews, questionnaires & criteria07:28 – Recognizing symptoms across school, work & home08:42 – Forgetting homework: performance vs intelligence10:03 – Misconceptions: laziness, discipline & executive function11:16 – Gender differences: ADHD in girls vs boys13:14 – Types of ADHD & how symptoms change with age15:07 – Inattentive signs: zoning out, random thoughts & losing things17:09 – Why ADHD is missed: hidden symptoms & doing well in school18:59 – The emotional toll: shame, self‑esteem & feeling “lazy”20:43 – Underdiagnosed or overdiagnosed? Changing criteria & awareness22:05 – Genetics, parental age & environmental factors23:29 – Key symptoms: attention, organization & impulsivity26:03 – Causes vs myths: sugar, screen time & diet27:29 – Does ADHD get worse with age? Hormones & adult life31:24 – Suspect ADHD? Finding qualified help & next steps32:45 – Diagnosing young kids & parent‑focused interventions34:32 – What’s next: medications, parenting strategies & support❓ Questions the Video Answers:How can I tell if I have ADHD or if I’m just distracted?What are the most common ADHD symptoms in women and girls?How does ADHD differ from normal forgetfulness or laziness?What’s the difference between inattentive and hyperactive/impulsive ADHD?How is ADHD diagnosed in adults without a brain scan?Why are so many women and BIPOC individuals underdiagnosed?Can you have ADHD and still hyperfocus on video games or work?Does ADHD get worse with age, or can it improve over time?Is ADHD genetic, and what environmental factors play a role?What are the myths about sugar, screen time and diet causing ADHD?How do hormones and pregnancy impact ADHD symptoms in women?What’s the difference between ADD and ADHD presentations?At what age can children be reliably diagnosed with ADHD?What help is available if my child shows signs but doesn’t meet the criteria?What should be my first step if I suspect ADHD for myself or my child?#ADHD #MentalHealth #Neurodiversity

Struggling to manage emotions, stress or relationships? Discover how DBT skills like mindfulness, radical acceptance and validation can transform your life. In this episode, psychologist Dr. Kiki Felling breaks down Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and shows you how to apply these powerful tools in everyday situations.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Learn more about Kiki: https://www.kikifehling.com/Dr. Felling explains the four core DBT modules—mindfulness, emotion regulation, distress tolerance and interpersonal effectiveness—and why they matter. She defines mindfulness as being fully present without judgement, paying attention to sensations, thoughts and feelings to tap into your inner wisdom. You’ll learn that distress tolerance skills aren’t about fixing problems but surviving the toughest moments; radical acceptance allows you to acknowledge reality so pain doesn’t turn into suffering. She demonstrates crisis‑survival techniques like grounding with cold water, self‑soothing objects and personalized coping kits. In the emotion‑regulation section, Dr. Felling shows how to understand, use or change feelings and build resilience by accumulating positive experiences. The video also covers interpersonal effectiveness—assertiveness, boundaries, and validation. Validation, she says, is the superpower that reduces conflict and deepens relationships. Throughout the conversation she reminds us that mindfulness is the foundation of every skill and that the ultimate goal is to create a “life worth living” defined by your own values.If you’re ready to stop reacting and start responding, this episode offers practical DBT strategies you can use right away. Like, comment and share your own experiences with these skills, subscribe for more mental‑health insights, and check out our related videos on emotion regulation and distress tolerance.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – What Is DBT & Who Is It For?02:25 – Mindfulness Skills Beyond Meditation05:45 – Distress Tolerance & Radical Acceptance09:30 – Pain vs. Suffering: Accepting Reality13:00 – Crisis Survival Skills & The Coping Kit17:40 – Regulating Your Nervous System (TIP Skills)22:30 – Emotion Regulation & ABC PLEASE Skills27:15 – Naming Your Emotions & The Emotion Dictionary31:50 – Interpersonal Effectiveness & Boundaries35:20 – The Power of Validation39:00 – Mindfulness: The Foundation of All Skills41:30 – Creating a Life Worth Living & Final Thoughts❓ Questions the Video Answers:What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy and how does it help with emotion regulation?What are the four core DBT skills modules?How does mindfulness differ from meditation in DBT?What are the “observe” and “describe” mindfulness skills?What is radical acceptance and why is it crucial for distress tolerance?How can accepting pain prevent it from turning into suffering?What are crisis survival skills and how can they help during intense urges?What should be in a distress tolerance kit?How does the “tip your temperature” ice‑water technique reset your nervous system?What are ABC PLEASE skills and how do they build emotional resilience?How can someone learn to identify and name their emotions?What are interpersonal effectiveness skills and why are they important?Why is validation considered a relationship superpower?How can mindfulness be practiced in everyday life beyond sitting meditation?What does it mean to create a life worth living and how does DBT help you define it?#MentalHealth #DBTskills #EmotionalRegulation

📝 Description: Discover how dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) transforms insight into action and helps you ride out emotional storms. Clinical psychologist Dr. Kiki Fehling shares her personal journey—from using DBT skills to recover after a heart attack to teaching them to clients—and explains why understanding yourself isn’t enough. DBT combines proven cognitive‑behavioral techniques with mindfulness, radical acceptance and coping skills. It teaches you to recognize, regulate and work with your emotions rather than be controlled by them.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Learn more about Kiki: https://www.kikifehling.com/In this conversation you’ll learn what “dialectics” means (hint: embracing both acceptance and change) and how the Wise Mind helps balance your rational and emotional sides. Dr. Fehling explains that DBT was created for people with borderline personality disorder but research now shows it helps PTSD, anxiety, depression, substance use disorders and eating disorders. You’ll hear how DBT tackles anxiety through exposure and opposite‑action techniques that teach you to face fears while soothing your body and mind. For depression, the therapy reconnects you to activities and relationships that bring joy, and for addiction it provides healthier ways to cope with pain.Unlike traditional talk therapy, DBT is collaborative and directive—your therapist actively tracks behaviors, teaches life skills and offers coaching between sessions. A comprehensive DBT program includes weekly individual therapy, weekly skills groups and 24/7 phone coaching, and therapists consult with one another to ensure quality care. Even if you can’t commit to the full program, learning DBT skills through books or online groups can still make a difference. Ready to build a more stable, fulfilling life? Watch until the end, subscribe for part two (where we dive into the skills themselves), share your story in the comments and pass this along to someone who could use a little DBT wisdom.⏱️ Chapters: 00:00 – Dr. Kiki’s DBT Journey & Why Insight Isn’t Enough 02:13 – What Is Dialectical Behavior Therapy? DBT Explained 03:07 – Dialectics: Balancing Acceptance and Change 07:55 – Who Benefits: BPD, PTSD, Anxiety, Depression & Addiction 08:58 – DBT Skills for Anxiety: Exposure & Opposite Action 10:00 – DBT for Depression: Reconnecting With Life & Joy 11:02 – Addiction & DBT: Coping Without Substances 16:21 – Talk Therapy vs DBT: Collaborative Skill‑Based Healing 27:26 – Inside a Comprehensive DBT Program: Individual, Group & Coaching 33:14 – DBT‑Informed Options & Learning Life Skills❓ Questions the Video Answers:What is dialectical behavior therapy and how does it work?Who can benefit from DBT therapy?How does DBT help with emotional regulation and distress tolerance?What DBT skills can reduce anxiety and worry?How can DBT help someone struggling with depression?Is DBT effective for substance use disorders and addiction?What is the Wise Mind in DBT and how do you access it?How do dialectics balance acceptance and change?How is DBT different from traditional talk therapy or CBT?What does a comprehensive DBT program involve?How long does DBT therapy typically take?Can I learn DBT skills on my own through books or online groups?What are distress tolerance and opposite‑action skills?Does DBT work for borderline personality disorder and PTSD?How do DBT skills improve relationships and build a life worth living?#DBT #MentalHealth #EmotionalRegulation

Ever wonder why you keep repeating the same painful patterns even when you know better? Trauma therapist Laurel Vander Torn reveals that trauma is more than a single event – it’s a disconnect between what your mind knows and what your body feels. This disconnect can leave you stuck in a constant state of hyper‑vigilance, poor sleep, appetite changes and messy relationships. She introduces the “window of tolerance,” the sweet spot where you can think, feel and act without dissociating or feeling like you’re vibrating out of your skin. You’ll also learn why people‑pleasing and other complex trauma responses were once survival strategies but can become maladaptive in adulthood.Find mental health and addiction treatment near you: https://recovery.com/Learn more about Laurel: https://www.laureltherapy.net/laurel-van-der-toornLaurel explains that trauma literally rewires your brain by making you more sensitive to threats, but neuroplasticity means you can change it back. By practicing new behaviors and experiencing positive reactions, clients gradually take up space and discover freedom. She shifts the focus from shame to curiosity and self‑compassion, and she stresses the importance of a strong, trusting relationship with a trauma‑informed therapist who can guide you through modalities like EMDR, cognitive‑behavioral therapy, somatic techniques and internal family systems.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Introduction & What Is Trauma?02:30 – People‑Pleaser Survival Strategies & Complex Trauma05:45 – Breaking the Pattern & Closing the Loop09:50 – Trauma Changes the Brain & Neuroplasticity13:40 – From Shame to Curiosity & Self‑Compassion16:50 – Trauma Therapy & Treatment Modalities20:30 – Trauma, Mental Health & Addiction Recovery24:50 – Self‑Healing Tools: Positive Memories, Movement & Breathing33:40 – Holding Hope & Moving Forward❓ Questions the Video Answers:What is trauma and why does it feel like your body and mind are living in different realities?How can you tell if you’re having a trauma response or just reacting to current stress?Why do people‑pleasing and other survival strategies persist long after childhood?What is the “window of tolerance,” and how can you stay within it?How does complex trauma affect relationships and make familiar patterns hard to break?Does trauma really change your brain, and can neuroplasticity help you heal?How do you shift from shame and self‑blame to curiosity and self‑compassion?What should you look for in a trauma therapist, and what are the main treatment modalities like EMDR and somatic therapy?How are trauma, anxiety, depression and addiction interconnected, and what’s the order of operations for healing?Can healing trauma reduce the symptoms of anxiety, depression or substance‑use disorders?What are some simple trauma release exercises and somatic practices you can use at home?How can movement, such as cardio or strength training, help process trauma stored in the body?What are the best coping strategies for managing trauma triggers in public, like box breathing or the dive technique?How can you rebuild safe, healthy relationships after childhood trauma?Is there hope for a better life after complex trauma, and how do you hold onto that hope?#traumahealing #mentalhealth #addictionrecovery

Is trauma only for combat veterans? Or could it be shaping your life without you even realizing it? In this powerful episode of Recoverable, licensed family therapist Laurel van der Toorn joins Terry to unpack the internet’s most searched questions about trauma — what it is, how it shows up in your body, and how to truly heal.Find treatment near you: https://recovery.com/condition/trauma/Learn more about Laurel: https://www.laureltherapy.net/laurel-van-der-toornYou’ll learn how two people can live through the same event yet have completely different experiences, why trauma isn’t “what happened to you” but what happened inside you, and how to recognize the subtle signs that your past might still be affecting your relationships, sleep, or stress responses.Laurel breaks down complex psychology into everyday language, explaining concepts like the window of tolerance, PTSD vs. CPTSD, and EMDR therapy — a groundbreaking trauma treatment proven to rewire the brain and restore emotional balance.If you’ve ever wondered:👉 “How do I know if I’ve experienced trauma?”👉 “Can childhood trauma really affect me as an adult?”👉 “Can trauma actually be healed?”…this episode is your roadmap.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Intro: What We Get Wrong About Trauma01:00 – Why Trauma Is More Common Than We Think02:30 – What Is Trauma, Really?04:30 – The Difference Between Hardship and Trauma06:00 – Who Gets to Define a Traumatic Experience?08:00 – Why Two People Experience the Same Event Differently10:00 – How Resilience and Resources Shape Recovery12:00 – PTSD vs. Complex PTSD Explained13:00 – How to Know If You Have Trauma15:00 – Understanding the “Window of Tolerance”17:00 – Signs and Red Flags of Unhealed Trauma18:30 – Trauma’s Link to Anxiety, Depression & Addiction20:00 – The Power of Curiosity in Self-Healing22:00 – How Childhood Trauma Shapes Adult Relationships25:00 – Why Old Patterns Reappear When Life Gets Better27:00 – Inner Child & Internal Family Systems Work29:00 – Can Trauma Be Healed?32:00 – EMDR Therapy Explained38:00 – What an EMDR Session Looks Like45:00 – Trauma and the Body: Why It Feels Physical50:00 – A Simple Calming Exercise You Can Use Anytime❓ Questions the Video Answers:What exactly is trauma?How can two people experience the same event but be affected differently?How do I know if I’ve experienced trauma?What’s the difference between trauma and a tough life event?Who decides if something was traumatic?How does trauma affect the brain and body?What is the “window of tolerance” and why does it matter?What are the signs of unhealed trauma in adults?How does childhood trauma show up in adult relationships?What’s the difference between PTSD and complex PTSD?Can trauma cause anxiety, depression, or addiction?What are the most effective trauma therapies?How does EMDR therapy work?Can trauma really be healed — or just managed?What are simple grounding exercises to calm your body?#trauma #ptsd #mentalhealth