Relational Rants

We have more access than ever...passwords, locations, Ring cameras, notifications for everything...and somehow, we feel less secure.In this episode, I unpack how surveillance has quietly become a stand-in for trust. From checking your partner’s location to watching every movement on your front door camera, we’re constantly “tuned in”… but at what cost?I explore how this level of access is impacting our relationships, increasing anxiety, and flattening connection—both online and in real life. Because more information doesn’t necessarily mean more safety.At the end, I bring it back to you: What boundaries do you actually want around access? And what does trust look like without constant surveillance?

In this episode, I’m talking about the obsession with shaming and ridiculing fat people on the internet and why it’s not really about health. Because when people say they’re “concerned about health,” but lead with shame, criticism, and disrespect… we have to ask: what is actually going on here?I get into projection, control, Ozempic, fitness, and how much of this conversation is rooted in fear, especially the fear of what we can’t control. And the truth is… you can’t always tell who’s “healthy,” and you definitely can’t control outcomes the way we like to believe we can.So… Ozempically, what are we talking about?

Are people really taking advantage of us… or are we overextending ourselves and calling it generosity?In this off-the-cuff episode, I’m unpacking what we actually mean when we say “I feel taken advantage of.” Because sometimes… it’s not about them taking. It’s about what we keep giving.We loan out our stability. Our regulation. Our capacity. And yes—that’s human. That’s relational. But when we follow the logic all the way through…Are we responding to people as they are? Or as who we believe we would be in their situation?I get into: Why having too much empathy can backfireHow guilt shows up as control (externally and internally)And how identity (“I’m a generous person”) can keep us stuck in a role that no longer serves usAt some point, it’s not about being taken advantage of. It’s about recognizing when enough is enough. And it's time for an upgrade.Let’s Get UnMuted 💋

Everybody’s quick to point out the red flags in dating — the love bombing, the $200 dates, the “good morning” texts. But what if the real question is: What are you bringing into the pool? Sometimes the biggest issue isn’t the other person’s behavior. It’s emotional regulation, perception, and the things we refuse to see about ourselves. Because everybody can spot the poop…just not their own. J. Marie Unmuted | Relational Rants

Gifts are nice…but being remembered? That hits different.

"Playtonic," a word born from a Cam Newton clip — becomes the doorway into a larger question: How much of our lives are governed by the identities we cling to? In this episode, J. Marie explores identity as performance, discussing the roles we maintain, protect, and sometimes hide inside. From Peter Pan archetypes to North West’s self-expression, from desirability to self-concept, this conversation unpacks how identity can both anchor and confine us.Because sometimes we aren’t stuck. Sometimes we’re just committed to an outdated version of ourselves.

This episode begins with cultural fatigue with the same arguments, the same justifications, the same talking points, and asks a simple question: Can we actually think this through?This isn’t an argument for or against monogamy or polyrelationships. It’s a conversation about capacity, responsibility, and inadequacy — historically, relationally, and emotionally.If someone can’t fully show up for one commitment, are they entitled to more?Poly isn’t the problem.Inadequacy is.Let’s get unmuted.

This episode is a gentle year-end reflection. I talk about where I’ve been, my health flare-up, grief, dissociation, autopilot, and the quiet courage of just continuing. I share what I’m leaving behind, what I’m bringing with me, and what this year unearthed in me. If you’ve been in a season of survival, fatigue, or slow rebuilding — you’re not alone.

Meet Maddie the Baddie-My Mad Scientist #JMarie #UnMuted #RelationalRants #WisdomInMadness

In this episode, I introduce you to a part of myself I call Maddie the Baddie, my internal mad scientist who sees patterns, analyzes everything, and protects me with psychological precision.This conversation was sparked by Gucci Mane’s latest Breakfast Club interview, where he speaks openly about mental health, healing, and the “mad man” who still lives inside him. We dig into:• The gift and curse of high-energy productivity• The healing power of naming the parts of ourselves• How protectors show up as intellect, humor, or aggression• Why exposure and storytelling release shame• The difference between chaotic madness and organized wisdomThis episode is my love letter to the misunderstood — real recognize real.Healing isn’t about extinguishing madness… it’s about taking responsibility for it.#mentalhealth #guccimane #madness #healingjourney #traumahealing, #protectorparts #unmuted #shamerecovery #burnout #creativity #selfawareness #blackwomentherapists #storytelling #GucciManeInterview, #alteregopsychology

The scent of clean closets, bacon with notes of bleach—always meant safety in my grandmother’s house. She lived by structure, discipline, and routine. In this episode, I talk about how my grandmother held our world together after crisis. We didn’t always see eye to eye, but she’s been one of the most consistent people in my life.This is a tribute to her, to the generations of women who parented through protection, and to the healing that comes when we recognize the love beneath the rules.

In this intimate and layered reflection, J. Marie unpacks what it means to be called — not just as a therapist, but as a soul who entered this world with a knowing. A knowing of what others need. A knowing of how to hold pain. A knowing she didn’t ask for but was born carrying. Drawing a bold parallel between herself and Jesus, she explores the weight of being deeply devoted to the healing of others — and the cost of that devotion.Like Jesus, she reflects on what it feels like to be needed, revered, misunderstood, and at times, stripped of her humanity. This episode isn’t about religion — it’s about resonance. About the emotional labor of being “the one people call.” About the sacred exhaustion that comes with being the safe place. And ultimately, about grace — the kind she’s learning to ask for, not just extend. If you’ve ever felt like the strong one, the healer, the therapist, the anchor — this one’s for you.#JesusIsMyTwinFlame #WoundedHealer #UnmutedPodcast #TherapistLife #EmotionalLabor #HealingIsHeavy #CalledAndChosen #BlackWomenHeal #SpiritualCalling #RelationalRantsAndRealTalk

🚨 Mercury Retrograde EditionHe spun the block. Again. With defamation in the subject line.This surprise drop is not a regular episode. It’s an anniversary. A ritual. A remembering.I’m telling the whole story—restraint, rage, receipts, and spam folder emails. Because the truth is, some people only know how to lose. And if you keep entertaining them? You’ll lose too.From Shonda Rhimes references to veiled threats, masked charm, and courtroom clownery… this is one for the archive.Mercury may bring the past back, but I don’t live there anymore.💌 Spam folder threats🎭 Drama addiction⚖️ Legal restraint🧠 Rage and griefTap in. And take note.#mercuryretrograde #saynotospinningtheblock #domesticviolenceawareness #abuse #relationalrants #UnMuted #UnMuteYourself #Silenceisviolence #RelationalTrauma #ComplexTrauma #TriggerWarning

Whew! Where do I begin?In this episode of Unmuted: Relational Rants and Real Talk, I unpack a “promising” connection that unraveled faster than he could plan a proper date. From the passive pursuit to the confession that he was married (yep, MARRIED), we’re walking through all the red flags—from subtle to scorching.This ain’t bitterness. This is discernment.And if you’ve ever been left reeling from a “you seem cool, but…” moment—this one’s for you.🔻 Topics covered:– Red flags in early dating– Passive pursuit vs real effort– Emotional honesty vs half-truths– Why “I’m married, but…” ain’t a plot twist, it’s a liability🎙️ This is your reminder: your standards aren’t the problem.#Unmuted #RedFlags #RelationalRants #MarriedManDown #ghosting #ModernDating #EmotionalClarity #PodcastEpisode #DatingDrama #HeSaidWhat #Boundaries #RealTalk #BoundariedNotBitter

This episode wasn’t planned. A tragic story out of Chicago shook me—and I pressed record. What followed was a raw unraveling: grief, memory, defense, self-reflection, and the parts of me that show up when the world feels unsafe.I talk about the tragedy, about my own past, about what it means to hold space for someone you want to side-eye and cry for. I speak about PTSD, protection, and how I’m still uncovering myself through the stories I tell.This is what Unmuted sounds like when I don’t edit the grief.

In this episode of Unmuted, J. Marie, a licensed therapist, shares her journey of authenticity, vulnerability, and the challenges of emotional labor in her profession, as well as in her personal life. She discusses the importance of being seen and heard, the struggles with perfectionism and imposter syndrome, and the creative outlets that help her express herself. J. Marie emphasizes the significance of deep trauma work in therapy and the need for honesty in therapeutic relationships. She invites listeners into a healing space that acknowledges the complexities of being a black woman in the field of mental health.