Relationship Atlas

Great relationships are built on many things, and in this episode, an important one is to be addressed: follow through. Not just the value of follow through, but the greater impact that it has on the safety, security, and foundational trust of the relationship.  Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

The first 30 episodes are officially in the books!   As always, we have kept this episode short, sweet, and to the point, because complexity is the enemy of execution. Today, we discuss the power of putting one simple structure in place to create a world of freedom for both you and your relationship. While on the surface it may sound counter-intuitive, structure really does create freedom.  Let me know if you found this episode valuable by leaving a rating and subscribing! And as always, if you're looking to take this work on more intentionally, book a call  or DM me! Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

We can't change our partner, but we CAN contribute to a more enjoyable experience and possibly influence some change along the way. Thats what this episode focuses on - the WE, not just the me.  Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Disclaimer - this episode invites you to confront yourself. I hope it serves you well! Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

What we want from our relationship is often associated with playing a bigger game. It says, "right now matters, but what we are building matters more." This episode is curated to support with getting radically honest with ourselves about what kind of game we are playing, where we are selling ourselves short, and how we can start to impact our relationship in the ways we know we truly want to. Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

When you think the mic is working... regardless, the content was solid, so here it is. Episode 26 diving into 2 solid reflections I had this past that are widely applicable to every facet of our relationships.  Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. But the quality of our lives tends to come down to what we focus on the most. Do you find yourself focusing frequently on whats going wrong, or the hardships of your life, or the resistance, challenge, scarcity, difficulty, pain, sorrow? Or do you find yourself orienting towards what is going well, the possibility of the next moment, the excitement of a challenge, the reality of failure as learning? When your partner does something that bothers you, where does your focus go? When your your does something you really enjoy, where does your focus go? When you think about your partner during the day, what specifically do you focus on? So much of our life comes down to our moment-to-moment focus. So if we expect our relationships to improve, well then we have to shift what we focus on in order to create more of what we want. Where our focus goes, energy flows.Enjoy this weeks episode and make sure to give this podcast a rating! Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Gabby and I recently moved, and with that move came a lot of moving parts and a lot of things to tend to and care for. Thru this, a question came up: who is going to do this? Who is going to do that? Who will plan this? Who is even thinking about all of this? This is where todays conversation sparked from: the mental load. This is something we experience as individuals and amplifies when we get into a relationship. And it we don't face it together, it can cause major disturbances. So lets talk about it. Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Gabby and I just recently moved into a new home, and something that came up during the move was our desire to get the home 100% complete - design, colours, organization, etc. Unfortunately, we are not in a position to make that happen, which was disappointing to face. And at the same time, it got me thinking - what would have happened if we didn't create that clarity together? How would the next month or so have gone? What would have been the expectation? How would we have handled the reality when it smacked us in the face versus getting ahead of it? This brings us to todays episode - the value and importance of identifying what season of our life and relationship we are in. This small dose of clarity can do wonders for mitigating conflict, creating clear expectations, and opening up more freedom to think and feel.If you liked this episode, make sure to give it a rating and subscribe to be notified on the next release! Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

To understand what might be alive for us in our relationship right now, it can be extremely helpful to identify where we are at in the emotional cycle of change (also could be called "the steps to success"). Everything starts at the stage of uninformed optimism, but what happens from there is where the real value and depth of growth begin.  Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

I attended a mens group a couple of weeks ago and as everyone was sharing, I realized something about myself; I am really great at being honest, but I am really not great at being vulnerable. As I sat with this for a couple of weeks, I discovered that I am not alone in this. I also discovered that when it comes to our relationships, whether it be friends, family, or lover, understanding the difference can actually open up the gateway for deeper connection and intimacy. That led me to curate this episode to support us with a deeper understanding of the light and the shadow sides of honesty and vulnerability, and some high-level questions to dig deeper into our honest selves and our vulnerable selves. Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Understanding the systems we operate is a foundational necessity for change, and in our intimate relationships, attachment theory is one of the most powerful sources to learn. In a previous episode, we talked all about the anxious system. Today. we focus our attention on the avoidant system. Together we explore what it is, how its created, what it looks like, what their views are on things like conflict/sex/relationship expectations, and we close with some tangible steps to take on our journey towards secure attachment.Name it to tame it to evolve thru it. Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

A common thread in relationship is withdrawing: mentally, emotionally, physically. When we don't know why this shows up, it can be very difficult to manage. Whether we are the one withdrawing, or we are experiencing our partner withdraw, this episode is built to help both sides gain clarity on the deeper why behind withdrawing behaviours. We also discuss what to do about it and how to better manage it as a team.If you found value here today, it would mean a lot if you give it an honest rating and share with someone you think would find value! Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Today we breakdown one of the insecure attachment styles - the anxious attachment system. Together we break down what it is, what it looks like, and what we can do about it. We name it, we tame it, and we evolve thru it. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast to get alerts on the release of the next episodes of the attachment series where dive into the avoidant, the anxious-avoidant, and the secure.Link to "The Strange Situation" videos.Book reference: "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Do you cross your arms when talking to people? Do your cheeks reach your eyes when you smile? Do you squint at your partner when something doesn't make sense? All of these are just some of the many examples of the way our body speaks. And in relationship, this can be the make or break between our partner feeling accepted, or rejected. In todays episode, we break down the power of non-verbal expressions in an effort to improve our communication skills so we can find more alignment and connection in our intimate relationships. Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

I came across these two posts the other day - one was a polarizing share about how "Relationships are easy, you just need to be with the right person," and a comment on a separate post that said, "so what - do we need to just talk like a therapist now?" After sitting with these, I came to a couple conclusions that I believe are important thoughts to consider.  Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Today we talk about money, one of the biggest challenges relationships face. But money isn't inherently the problem - the problem is how do hold space for two differing opinions, beliefs, and experiences while simultaneously creating financial safety and trust in the relationship? Today we begin that journey, starting with a deeper exploration of our own experiences with money, how that has developed over time, and what work we can do today to get closer to being on the same page. Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

One of the cornerstones for a successful relationship over time is emotional safety: is my emotional experience safe here? Or is it judged, rejected, or worse? What do I need in order to feel emotionally safe? What do I need to change in order to be a safe space emotionally? All of this and more in todays discussion.If you liked this episode, make sure to like, subscribe, and share the pod! Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

I struggled today to put together what I thought would be the "perfect" episode, and because of that, I almost didn't record at all. And then it hit me - messy action is better than no action at all. Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Indecision is a silent killer - lets talk about what needs to start happening.Liked this episode? Make sure to subscribe and give it an honest rating!  Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Conflict can be difficult, but if it is resolved well, regardless of the difficulty, it can lead to lead to deepened connection and the overall resiliency of the relationship. Here are 3 tools I have used over the years that have helped Gabby and I navigate conflict better together. Liked this episode? Make sure to subscribe and give it a rating!Ready to take this work deeper? Click the link below and book a free discovery session with me to learn more! Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

I think its fair to say that we would all enjoy being in a secure relationship; the intimacy, the closeness, the connection, the ease, peace, alignment, etc. The possibilities of a secure relationship are literally endless, and thats where I got curious - how far does that "endless opportunity" go? Turns out, pretty damn far. From personal exploration to postpartum depression to retirement to the greater good of society, secure relationships really do have an endless impact, and that is what we explore together in todays episode.Liked this episode? Make sure to give the podcast 5 stars and share on socials!Source: "Love Sense" by Sue Johnson Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

In todays episode, we begin the conversation surrounding safety and trust in our relationships. Without a strong foundation of safety, build thru consistency in action based on who we say we are, our relationships will quickly (or slowly) deteriorate over time. So what can we do? How can we create this kind of environment? How do we even know if my partner feels safe? That they trust me? Where are our blindspots? How do we fill them? Listen in for a direct approach to mitigating micro ruptures of safety/trust.  Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Todays episode is a discussion about "time" and how to approach it more effectively as a couple. Together we get curious about what your current belief about time is, where that belief originated, how you manage time now vs.how you want to manage time, and then we finish the discussion with a couple strategies and tools to help alleviate conflict around time. Whether you're single or in a long standing relationship, this episode has helpful tips for everyone who is looking to better understand and manage "time."  Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Gabby and I just celebrated our 5 year anniversary this past weekend! We had coffee in the morning together, then we went out hiking in the mountains, and then followed that up with a delicious dinner at an Italian-style restaurant. It was an amazing weekend overall, even on the slower Sunday we took together, and it all felt different than our past ones. It felt more... free from unspoken expectation, aligned on life, excited about what is still yet to come, and at ease about who we are and what we've accomplished. All of this got me thinking - if there were 5 major keys to being together for 5 years, what would they be? Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

A lot of what I experience with my clients, and what I also experienced in my earlier relationships, is a desire to eradicate conflict altogether. Even during the research for this episode, I came across a clip where the audience and the host's were surprised to hear that conflict isn't just important, but its actually necessary. Conflict has been given a bad rep, especially in intimate relationships, but without it, our relationships won't evolve, they won't grow, and they won't be able to sustain anything long-lasting. The solution? Learning how to fight better.Some of the other relational experts mentioned:Terry RealEsther Perel Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

I really enjoyed this episode because it reminded me of some of the many things that Gabby and I have taken on in an effort to grow, heal, and evolve together. My suggestion: take 1, 2, or 3 of these, and try them on for a couple weeks. Shift and mold them into what works best for your unique relationship. Be wary of trying all 10 at once - there is no rush here. Do your best to hold this closing perspective - we may lose some battles, but we will win the war, together.  Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

After some great discussions with Gabby (my partner) and another one with my client, I think it's time we have a discussion about Freedom. My opinion? Freedom is not choice - freedom is not some far off destination - freedom is not built into a million dollar salary -  and freedom is also not built into "the single life". Freedom is something different, something more accessible.Freedom is not choice.Freedom is choice's chosen.Let me explain. Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Podcasts are incredible, and what helps them immensely is when people subscribe and rate them. This tells the algorithm to send it out to more people which in turn allows more people to access this kind of support. If you like this episode, please be sure to give it a rating and subscribe to stay updated on new episodes! Now, lets begin.In todays podcast, I talk about the phrase, "Intention matters, but impact maters more." I give a couple different analogies to help the mind digest this concept deeper. I share stories about where I have fallen short on this and the impact that has had. I finish with sharing some seriously powerful perspectives that almost eradicate this concept altogether because they are more potent. And I provide language to support with shifting arguments from disharmony to repair. Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

This episode is inspired by the incredible work of the Gottman's, leading experts in the relationship field. They coined the phrase, "Bids for Connection," a micro way or rather a micro opportunity to enhance and create more love and connection in our relationships. In this episode I talk all about the concept, how to start noticing these moments/opportunities, what happens when we don't take them on, and how to navigate when we do notice but are preoccupied with something else.Love is often associated with a feeling, but I am sure we can all also agree that when our partner leans forward towards moments of connection, love also becomes an action.Together, today, lets start prioritizing creating and responding to the micro moments so our love tanks are way more full!Like this episode? Be sure to subscribe for more and share! Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.

Now, lets begin.Welcome to the very first page of your Relationship Atlas! In this episode I begin by sharing why I made this podcast, who its for, what I hope to achieve by shifting to this audio platform, and what you can expect from me. From there, I transition into discussing the impact social platforms/social trends are having on our ability to relate both to ourselves and our partners. As we move towards the end, the discussion shifts into a small nervous system awareness practice + my perspective so far as to how to work WITH the trends rather than letting them be the sole source of learning. Follow me on socials for more daily support.@therelationshipcoach_Interested in taking this work on more intentionally?Click here to book a discovery call.