Rewired & Desired Podcast: Where Intimacy, Mindset and Disability Intersect

She hasn’t dated in years… and now everything feels intense. Connection, nerves, trauma, attraction… and the fear of messing it up.In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we unpack what it really looks like to step back into dating after time away, past trauma, and living with an ostomy.This isn’t surface-level advice. This is real conversation about:●      Feeling attraction again after years●      Navigating fear of rejection or being “too much”●      Dating with an ostomy and being fully seen●      Green flags vs. emotional blind spots●      Timing, intimacy, and not rushing what mattersYou’ll hear a live coaching-style conversation as Nicole shares her current dating experience… and the deeper mindset shifts that matter more than any “rules.”If you’ve ever thought: “I don’t want to mess this up…” This episode is for you.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

What if you could remove fear before it ever takes over your life?In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we dive into the real-world power of visualization—not as a vague “positive thinking” tool, but as a structured, repeatable process that can shift your mindset fast.Trina shares her personal experience preparing for ostomy surgery, facing overwhelming fear around intimacy, body image, and identity… and how a simple daily visualization practice changed everything in less than a week.This conversation explores:●      How visualization actually works (without the fluff)●      Why most people fail to get results from it●      How to use it to prepare for surgery, life changes, or fear-based situations●      The role of repetition, emotion, and clarity●      How to rebuild confidence—even when your body changesIf you're navigating fear around intimacy, health, disability, or identity… this episode gives you a tool you can actually use.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Why Hard Lives Create Deeper Love What if the hardest moments of your life didn’t break you… but rewired how you love?In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we go beyond surface-level advice and talk about the real, lived lessons that come from illness, caregiving, heartbreak, and rebuilding your life from nothing.From losing everything… to redefining what actually matters… to learning how to love again without losing yourself.This isn’t theory. This is what happens after life humbles you.🧠 In This Episode:●      Why “nothing matters except the people you love” becomes real after loss●      How illness reshapes your standards in relationships●      The difference between needing love vs. being ready for it●      Why attraction is about energy, not entitlement●      The hidden danger of negative partners (and how to spot it fast)●      How to maintain desire and intimacy in long-term relationships●      Why being happy alone is the foundation of healthy love📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Looking good with an ostomy isn’t about perfection… it’s about perspective.This episode is our honest take on what actually helps you feel attractive again—after your body has changed.We’re not here to tell you what you should do.We’re sharing what’s worked for us, what didn’t, and the small shifts that made the biggest difference in how we show up in our bodies.Because confidence doesn’t come from hiding.It comes from understanding how to work with yourself again.In this episode, we talk about:●      Clothing choices: hiding vs highlighting (and why both are valid)●      How posture instantly changes how people perceive you●      Hygiene habits that reduce anxiety and build confidence●      The truth about “feeling sexy” after surgery●      Small, realistic ways to present yourself that actually make a difference●      The mindset shift that changes everythingThis isn’t about becoming someone else.It’s about reconnecting with the version of you that still exists underneath all of it.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Mental health does not exist in a separate room from disability, trauma, chronic illness, or intimacy. In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards have an honest conversation about anxiety, depression, PTSD, emotional triggers, healing tools, and what it takes to rebuild yourself when life has cracked you wide open.Nicole shares parts of her story she has never spoken publicly about before, including childhood trauma, abuse, hospitalization, and the diagnosis she has struggled to talk about. Together, Trina and Nicole explore how mental health can be shaped by disability, chronic stress, family history, medical trauma, and the stories we keep telling ourselves.This episode also dives into what has actually helped them cope: self-awareness, repetitive self-talk, affirmations, boundaries, structure, spiritual tools, micro goals, and learning how to respond differently when life gets hard.This is not a conversation built on perfection or toxic positivity. It is about responsibility, compassion, inner work, and the possibility of healing, even when you still have hard days.If you live with an ostomy, chronic illness, disability, trauma history, or simply feel overwhelmed by the weight of life, this conversation is for you.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

What happens when you’re the strong one for everyone else, but your body, emotions, and nervous system are running on fumes?In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Trina and Nicole talk honestly about burnout, feminine energy, chronic illness, motherhood, entrepreneurship, dating, and the pressure of holding everything together.In this raw follow-up conversation, Trina opens up about what it feels like to build a business, support a family, manage chronic illness, and still carry the emotional weight of other people’s needs. Nicole and Trina unpack the tension between feminine and masculine energy, the guilt many women feel around ambition, and the reality of trying to pursue purpose while exhausted.They also explore secure attachment, dating after healing, emotional overwhelm, chronic illness fatigue, and the challenge of staying grounded in a world that constantly pulls at your nervous system.If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing your best while quietly falling apart, this episode is for you.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

They saved your life. But they didn’t tell you this.From gray mucus to blockages, withdrawal symptoms to smell shame… this is the conversation we wish we’d heard before surgery.In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards share the real, unfiltered truths about what they were not told before, during, or after ostomy surgery.We cover:●      The mental health impact no one prepares you for●      Why your bag may stop fitting if your weight changes●      Smell, noise, and the shame that follows●      Blockage risks and foods to watch●      Gray mucus discharge (and why it’s normal)●      Hernias and posture●      Skin breakdown and yeast infections●      Opioid withdrawal after surgery●      Hydration dangers●      Mixing and matching ostomy systems●      Showering, swimming, and bathing with confidenceThis is not medical advice. This is lived experience from two women who have been there.If you’ve ever thought, “Why didn’t anyone tell me this?” — you are not alone. Timestamps00:00 – Welcome to Rewired & Desired01:30 – Emergency vs planned surgery differences03:00 – Weight changes & bag system issues04:45 – Smell & odor drops06:00 – Gray mucus discharge explained09:45 – Blockages & dangerous foods11:00 – Skin breakdown & yeast under the flange12:30 – Mental health support gap14:20 – Clothing fears & body image15:40 – Always carry supplies16:45 – Opioid withdrawal after hospital20:30 – Hernias & posture21:20 – Hydration risks22:50 – Showering, bathing & swimming myths27:30 – Masterclass announcement28:20 – Medicare supply decision concerns📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Parenting while chronically ill isn’t “hard.” It’s a whole different planet.In this episode, Trina and Nicole get real about what it’s like raising kids through Crohn’s, ostomy life, disability, hospital stays, shame, and the emotional aftermath.We talk about the stuff nobody posts: the guilt, the survival-mode parenting, the “technology babysitter,” and what happens when your kids see you in pain… or have to step up too soon. And we share the 4 things we wish we did differently so you can suffer less and stabilize faster.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

In this Rewired and Desired episode, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards swap real, unfiltered ostomy stories: loud bag noises in quiet rooms, near-miss leaks on dates, a grocery store blowout, and the weird places people have had to do emergency changes. We also share the practical stuff that actually helps: what to avoid before conferences, how compression layers can muffle sound, why leaks happen more in the beginning, and how to handle awkward moments without making them bigger than they are.If you’ve ever feared a leak, a smell, or a sound in public (or during intimacy), this episode is for you.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Dating with an ostomy doesn’t mean dating with shame.Let’s talk when to disclose, how to filter faster, and how to keep your standards intact.In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Nicole Richards and Trina Ricketts get real about dating with an ostomy: when to tell someone, what actually matters, how to spot red flags early, and why your mindset walking into a date changes everything. We also unpack the pros/cons of dating apps, “too much texting,” confidence traps, and practical do’s and don’ts that have nothing to do with a bag and everything to do with boundaries.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Your body can change overnight. So can your relationship to meaning, faith, and “why me.”Two ostomates share how medical crisis cracked open a spiritual awakening, without preaching.In this episode, we talk about how our health journeys (Crohn’s, ostomy surgery, medical trauma) reshaped our spirituality, our sense of purpose, and the way we interpret “signs,” connection, and healing.Trina shares a powerful near-death style experience during emergency surgery, including the feeling of peace, familiarity, and a moment of choice. Nicole shares a different path, a slower awakening through medical hardship, grief, and the search for meaning after everything changed.We also get into past life regression, why it’s so expensive sometimes, what it’s actually like, and why “woo-woo” labels often miss the point. No conversion attempts. Just two women telling the truth and letting you take what helps.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

What if confidence isn’t about how your body looks… but how you see yourself?In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we dismantle unrealistic beauty standards and explore how confidence, mindset, and authenticity shape attraction—especially for people living with disability, ostomies, scars, and medical devices.We talk honestly about:●      How beauty standards are manufactured (and who benefits)●      Why confidence makes people appear more attractive than “perfect” bodies●      Aging, surgery, scars, ostomies, and learning to feel desirable again●      The difference between hiding your body and being at home in it●      Practical, grounded ways to build confidence without changing your bodyThis is a real conversation for people who’ve been told—directly or indirectly—that their body is “too much” or “not enough.”No hype. No fake empowerment. Just truth, compassion, and lived experience.🔗 LinksTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: https://intimateostomate.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/intimateostomateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@intimateostomateNicole Richards – Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: https://ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/ostomyinnovations/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@OstomyInnovations222Join My Free Course and Community: https://www.skool.com/digestion-ostomy-renewal-8187/about?ref=9fa274f7d99a45faa465fce6882b8547CommunityOstomy Body Positive: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2093760487654150Check out our MASTERCLASS! https://www.intimateostomate.com/masterclass📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Intimacy after disability or an ostomy isn’t just “physical”… it’s mindset, shame, confidence, and real-life logistics. In this episode, we talk leaks, bag noises, body shame, proctectomy changes, and how to build desire without pressure.Welcome back to Rewired and Desired, where intimacy, mindset, and disability intersect. Nicole Richards and Trina Ricketts get honest (and PG-creative) about the realities of intimacy with an ostomy bag, confidence after body changes, and what actually helps when anxiety tries to run the show.We cover:●      The mind as the biggest barrier (shame, guilt, “what ifs”)●      Practical solutions for bag noises, leaks, and comfort●      Proctectomy (“Barbie/Ken butt”) changes and what women are rarely told●      How to create arousal and connection without rushing to “the usual way”●      Why men and women often bond differently, and how to work with itTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/intimateostomateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@intimateostomateNicole Richards – Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/ostomyinnovations/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@OstomyInnovations222CommunityOstomy Body Positive: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2093760487654150📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Your self-talk isn’t “just thoughts.” It’s programming. In this episode of Rewired and Desired (where intimacy, mindset, and disability intersect), Nicole Richards and Trina Ricketts unpack how subconscious beliefs shape confidence, relationships, healing, and the way we handle hard seasons.We talk about the spiral, the reframe, and the real-life tools that help you stop living in the same painful loop, especially when medical trauma, disability, or past relationships trained your brain to expect the worst.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why your inner dialogue runs in the background (and how to catch it)How to reframe “Why me?” into something that actually helpsWhy “fake it till you make it” isn’t fake, it’s practice-Mirror work for confidence in a disabled body (scars, ostomy, stretch marks, all of it)-Two starter tools: catch-and-switch + daily “I am” affirmationsWant support? Each of us offers a free foundational call. No pressure, just clarity and tools.Trina Ricketts (The Intimate Ostomate)Website: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  YouTube:    / @intimateostomate  Nicole Richards (Ostomy Innovations)Website: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  YouTube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  CommunityOstomy Body Positive Facebook Group: 📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

When your body has been through hell, how do you ever feel soft and safe again?In this episode of Rewired & Desired: Where intimacy, mindset & disability intersect, Trina Ricketts opens up about something she’s never really talked about publicly:  living in survival mode, feeling like she had to be “the strong one” for everyone, and how medical trauma and single motherhood pushed her deep into her masculine, protector energy.Nicole Richards coaches Trina through:Years of being left alone in hospitals and emergency roomsParenting through severe illness, arthritis, and ostomy surgeriesLeaving a toxic relationship and rebuilding life with three kidsWhat it means to never feel truly protected or cared forWhy asking for help feels unsafe when you’ve always had to cope aloneTogether, they unpack the difference between feminine and masculine energy (not gender, but energetic roles): how constant grinding, hustling, and shielding your emotions can block intimacy, softness, and connection… and how tiny moments of crying, sharing, and being witnessed can actually start to rewire your nervous system.If you’re:Living with an ostomy or chronic illnessA single parent who feels like everything lands on your shouldersStuck in “I don’t need anyone” modeStruggling to feel vulnerable, feminine, or emotionally open after trauma…this conversation will remind you that you’re not broken, you’re not alone, and you don’t have to carry it all by yourself anymore.Connect with us🩹 Trina – The Intimate Ostomate YouTube: @intimateostomate🌀 Nicole – Ostomy Innovations YouTube: @OstomyInnovations222Subscribe to Rewired & Desired for weekly conversations.💌 If this episode hit home, share it with a friend who needs to hear they don’t have to be “the strong one” all the time.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

What do you do when you haven’t had sex in years, you’re living with an ostomy, and suddenly a gorgeous, wealthy, semi-famous man starts giving you serious attention? In this episode of Rewired & Desired, Trina Ricketts (The Intimate Ostomate) walks co-host Nicole Richards through a live intimacy coaching session about:dating with an ostomyself-worth and “why would he want me?” thoughtsfears about being ghosted after sexhow long celibacy shapes your choiceswhether to wait for “the one” or seize the momentreframing power so you choose how your body and intimacy are sharedConnect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  YouTube:    / @intimateostomate  Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards – Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  YouTube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability Advocacy • Ostomy ClothingOstomy Body Positive (Facebook Group)   / 2093760487654150  📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Welcome to the very first episode of Rewired & Desired — a podcast where intimacy, mindset, and disability meet real talk, real healing, and real empowerment.In this premiere episode, your hosts Trina Ricketts (The Intimate Ostomate) and Nicole Richards [Ostomy Innovations] pull back the curtain and share who we are, how we got here, and why this podcast had to exist.We talk about:our personal and professional backgroundswhy intimacy matters so deeply — especially when disability, trauma, or illness enter the storythe experiences that shaped our workthe gaps we see in conversations about sex, relationships, and body-based confidencethe vision for this podcastthe kind of guests we plan to bring onand the bold topics we won’t shy away fromIf you’re someone who’s living with a disability, navigating life with an ostomy, healing from touch starvation, or simply craving more honest conversations about intimacy and self-connection… you’re in the right place.This is a space for safety, rebellion, compassion, and truth — all wrapped into one.✨ New episodes weekly. ✨ Subscribe and turn on notifications so you never miss an episode.💬 Join the conversationWhat topics do YOU want us to dive into this season? Drop your thoughts in the comments — your voice helps shape this podcast.📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram: 📌 Connect With UsTrina Ricketts – The Intimate OstomateWebsite: intimateostomate.comInstagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resourcesCoaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy AdvocacyNicole Richards - Ostomy InnovationsWebsite: ostomyinnovations222.comInstagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing