Sex with Anja and Amelie

What happens when desire collides with commitment? In this episode, Anja and Amelie step into one of the most uncomfortable—and honest—conversations: the ethics of sleeping with someone who’s already in a relationship.This isn’t a simple yes-or-no debate. It’s a deep dive into truth, responsibility, and the messy reality of human desire.The real question: where does your responsibility end and someone else’s begin?Why people cheat—and what it reveals about unmet needs and emotional disconnectionMonogamy as a cultural container: protection, limitation, or both?The role of honesty, presence, and “radical truth” in relationshipsLoneliness inside relationships vs. loneliness outside of themCan intimacy exist without transparency—or does it always come at a cost?Through personal stories and sharp philosophical turns, they explore whether participating in secrecy makes you complicit—or whether compassion and presence tell a different story.No clean answers. No moral high ground. Just a raw look at how people navigate desire, connection, and the consequences of both.Because at the end of the day, the question isn’t just “Is it ethical?”It’s “What kind of reality are you choosing to create?”

What is desire, really? Not the Instagram version. Not the porn version. The raw, body-level, what-am-I-actually-reaching-for version.Amelie and Anya dive deep into the philosophy, the body, and the beautiful mess of human wanting — and land somewhere surprisingly profound.In this episode: Is desire a feeling, a movement, or a hunger? (Yes, like actual hunger — and why that makes total sense) Why so many of us reach for a screen, a scroll, or a body... when we don't even know what we actually want The terrifying truth: we need other people to know we exist — and how that shows up in the bedroom The .5-second bliss problem — what really happens the moment after orgasm, and why the loop starts all over again A story involving a back seat, a meditation, a man in tears, and a cop knocking on the window at the worst possible momentThis one gets philosophical fast — but it never loses the body. If you've ever confused loneliness for lust, or wondered why connection feels like the real thing you were after all along, this episode is for you.Desire isn't the having. It's the wanting. Let's talk about the wanting.

Threesomes sound hot in theory—but in reality, they can swing wildly between electric connection and absolute chaos. In this episode, Anja and Amelie break down what actually makes a threesome work… and what quietly kills the vibe.This isn’t about fantasy. It’s about presence, communication, and the subtle emotional dynamics that decide whether the experience feels expansive or deeply uncomfortable.Why lack of presence and true consent can derail everythingThe hidden impact of jealousy, comparison, and scarcity mindsetHow vulnerability and honesty create real chemistry between three peopleThe importance of simple structure and having a loose “game plan”Why slowing down often leads to deeper, more satisfying experiencesHow communication before and during changes everythingThey also share real stories—from awkward, misaligned encounters to moments of surprising connection and flow—highlighting what it actually feels like when a threesome clicks.If you’re curious about group dynamics, exploring desire with multiple partners, or just want a more grounded, human take on something often glamorized, this conversation pulls back the curtain.Because when it works, it’s not about doing more. It’s about being more present.

Welcome to the chaos, the curiosity, and the connection.In this episode, we finally tell the origin story: how we met on the apps, why we chose each other, and what made us keep coming back for more. What started as a dating app match turned into something much harder to define—and way more interesting.We dive into: The reality of modern dating apps (and why some just don’t hit) Attraction, curiosity, and letting desire exist without expectation What “dating” even means when you reject traditional labels Friendship inside polyamory—and why it matters more than people think Sexual energy: do you spend it, keep it, or transform it?This is a conversation about fluidity—of identity, of connection, of relationships that don’t fit into neat boxes. We talk about what it means to feel seen, supported, and a little unhinged… in the best way.And yeah… things get playful. 😏If you’ve ever questioned labels, craved deeper connection, or wanted permission to define relationships on your own terms—this one’s for you.🎙️ New episodes drop regularly. Follow, rate, and share if you’re into real, raw, and radically honest conversations.

In Part 3 of their polyamory series, Anya and Amelie zoom out from personal relationship dynamics and explore a bigger question: how does polyamory exist within the wider world? This episode looks at how non-monogamous relationships interact with family, parenting, community, and culture.The hosts begin by discussing how love already exists in many forms long before romantic relationships enter the picture. Humans naturally maintain multiple meaningful connections—family members, friends, coworkers, children—and each relationship expresses love in a different way. From this perspective, polyamory isn’t something unusual or unnatural; it’s simply an extension of the many ways people already connect.A large part of the conversation focuses on raising children within a polyamorous life. Both hosts share what it’s been like introducing partners to their kids, navigating boundaries, and allowing children to form their own opinions about the adults in their lives. They talk about the importance of protecting children while also being honest about relationships, emphasizing communication, respect, and letting kids guide their own comfort levels.The discussion also touches on the benefits of having more supportive adults in a child’s world. Additional trusted people can provide mentorship, companionship, and perspectives that parents alone may not offer. At the same time, the hosts are candid about the need for caution, sharing stories about learning when to slow down and be more selective about who enters family space.From there, the conversation expands to extended family dynamics. How do siblings, parents, and relatives react when someone practices polyamory? For some families, acceptance comes easily. For others, non-monogamy challenges deeply ingrained expectations about relationships and commitment. The hosts reflect on both supportive experiences and difficult ones, including moments when loved ones struggled to understand or accept their choices.Beyond family, the episode explores the idea of chosen community. When traditional support systems don’t fully understand non-monogamy, many people build their own circles of trust through friends, creative collaborators, and partners. These chosen networks can become powerful sources of emotional support, creativity, and shared exploration.The hosts also discuss how polyamory intersects with broader social and political ideas. For them, non-monogamy isn’t only about dating multiple people—it can also represent a philosophy of autonomy, openness, and rejecting the idea that people belong to one another. Love, they argue, is expansive rather than scarce.As always, the episode blends thoughtful conversation with humor and candid storytelling. They wrap up with “sexy story time,” reflecting on the playful and communal side of intimacy and how shared experiences can deepen trust and connection.This episode offers a wide-angle view of polyamory—not just as a relationship structure, but as a way of thinking about community, freedom, and how humans choose to love.

In Part 2 of their polyamory series, Anya and Amelie talk about how they actually practice polyamory in real life. Instead of theory or definitions, this episode dives into their personal experiences—what has worked, what hasn’t, and the messy lessons they’ve learned along the way.Both hosts reflect on how their relationships evolved over the last decade. They discuss discovering the concept of polyamory, choosing it intentionally, and the different styles they’ve practiced over the years. From opening long-term relationships to exploring multiple connections at once, they explain how polyamory can look very different depending on the people involved.Amali talks about identifying as solo polyamorous, meaning she maintains deep relationships while still prioritizing autonomy and personal responsibility for her emotional and sexual needs. She shares how her current relationships developed, including the challenges that came with falling in love with new partners while navigating existing ones.The conversation also explores the reality that polyamory isn’t always easy. Breakups, jealousy, miscommunication, and hurt feelings are all part of the journey. The hosts discuss how relationships can become complicated when expectations aren’t clearly communicated or when new relationship energy changes the dynamics of existing connections.Anya shares stories from her own path into non-monogamy, including navigating open relationships, raising children with former partners, and learning the importance of boundaries and honest communication. She reflects on how intense emotions, life changes, and personal growth shaped the way she approaches relationships today.Throughout the episode, they emphasize that communication and emotional awareness are essential skills in polyamory. Being able to sit with uncomfortable feelings, check in with partners, and take responsibility for your needs can make the difference between healthy connections and painful ones.The hosts also talk about the importance of moving slowly in relationships—taking time to notice how a connection feels in your body and whether it actually adds life and energy to your world.Like the first episode, the conversation blends humor, vulnerability, and candid storytelling. The hosts also share a few personal anecdotes about the kinds of dynamics and experiences that can happen within non-monogamous relationships.If you’re curious about how polyamory works in practice—the challenges, the growth, and the unexpected experiences—this episode offers an honest look at the realities of navigating multiple relationships while staying true to yourself.

In this episode, Anya and Amelie explore one of the most misunderstood topics in modern relationships: polyamory. Rather than getting lost in complicated definitions and labels, this conversation focuses on their personal journeys—how they discovered ethical non-monogamy and what it has meant in their lives.Polyamory literally means “multiple loves.” It sits within the broader umbrella of ethical non-monogamy, which can include open relationships, swinging, and other relationship structures where consenting adults choose not to follow traditional monogamous norms. For Anya and Amali, polyamory isn’t just about sex—it’s about autonomy, honesty, and choice.A big part of their story involves growing up in Mormon culture, where polygamy exists as part of the religion’s history and mythology. Even though modern Mormonism does not practice it, those stories sparked early questions about why relationships are expected to look a certain way. That curiosity eventually opened the door to exploring other possibilities.Amali shares how her path into polyamory came later in life after leaving the church and doing years of personal deprogramming. Eventually she realized there were experiences—especially with women—that she had never allowed herself to explore. Opening her marriage became a way to pursue those desires honestly and with consent.Anya’s journey was also rooted in curiosity and attraction that didn’t fit neatly into a monogamous framework. What began as body-based exploration gradually evolved into something deeper. Over time, polyamory became a philosophy about freedom, agency, and questioning cultural rules around love and relationships.Throughout the episode, the hosts emphasize that polyamory isn’t about rejecting monogamy entirely. Healthy monogamy can absolutely exist when it’s a genuine choice between two people. The problem arises when monogamy becomes a rule enforced by fear, control, or social pressure rather than something people actually want.They also talk about one of the most liberating aspects of polyamory: stepping off the “relationship escalator.” Instead of immediately wondering if someone will become a spouse or long-term partner, people can explore connection in the present moment and allow relationships to grow naturally.The conversation also includes personal stories about early experiences outside monogamy, including the excitement, nerves, and discovery that come with exploring new connections. These stories highlight how vulnerability, curiosity, and communication play an important role in ethical non-monogamy.Ultimately, this episode is about listening deeply to yourself and questioning inherited assumptions about relationships. Whether someone ultimately chooses monogamy, polyamory, or something in between, the goal is the same: creating relationships that are honest, consensual, and aligned with who you truly are.

In this episode of Sex with Anja and Amelie, we dive into a candid and unfiltered conversation about sexual health, STI testing, hygiene, and personal responsibility in modern dating.Many adults assume that when they visit a doctor for a routine check-up they are automatically screened for sexually transmitted infections. In reality, that is often not the case. In this episode we talk about why it's important to advocate for your own health, request the right tests, and understand what a full STI panel actually includes.We also explore how sexual health education is often incomplete, leaving many people unaware of how infections are transmitted, how they show up in the body, and how often people carry infections without any symptoms at all.This conversation covers:Why STI testing should be a normal part of adult datingThe importance of asking partners about sexual healthWhat a full STI testing panel may includeWhy some infections can spread even without symptomsWhy advocating for your own medical care mattersThe role of communication and honesty in sexual relationshipsHow hygiene habits can affect sexual healthWe also talk openly about everyday things that people rarely discuss when it comes to sex — like basic cleanliness, grooming, and being considerate of your partner’s comfort. While these topics can sometimes feel awkward to talk about, they are actually an important part of having healthy and enjoyable sexual experiences.Throughout the episode we share personal stories, observations from dating, and some blunt (and sometimes hilarious) perspectives on what people often overlook when it comes to sexual health.Our goal isn’t to shame anyone — it’s to encourage more awareness, honesty, and responsibility around sex and relationships.Sexual health isn’t just about avoiding infections. It’s also about respecting your body, respecting your partners, and having the knowledge you need to make informed decisions.If you’re navigating modern dating, open relationships, or simply want to be more informed about sexual health, this episode is for you.Listen in for an honest, educational, and often funny conversation about sex, testing, hygiene, and what adults should actually know about sexual health.Topics discussed:Sexual health basicsSTI and STD testingSexual hygieneDating and sexual responsibilityCommunication with partnersCommon misconceptions about STIsIf you enjoy the podcast, please consider following the show and sharing it with someone who might benefit from the conversation.

Welcome to our very first episode of Pleasure & Pain: Sex, Life & Liberation! Hosts Anya Soul and Amalie dive deep into what brought them here — from leaving Mormonism to embracing sexuality as a creative, political, and spiritual force. In this debut, they explore why talking about sex honestly matters, why pleasure and pain both shape our lives, and how liberation is at the heart of their mission.This episode sets the tone for the entire series: raw, playful, and unabashedly real. We talk about sexual autonomy, relationship norms, gender and identity, and why conventional labels don’t contain the full spectrum of human experience. Conversations range from spiritual upbringing to tantric philosophy, from body autonomy to social conditioning — and everything in between.Expect:A candid introduction to who we are and why we started this podcastStories from our personal journeys out of religion and into embodied lifeReflections on pleasure, pain, liberation, and communicationErotic storytelling and Sexy Story Time — with honesty, humor, and heartAn invitation to explore your own relationship with desireWe think of sexuality not as a taboo, but as a thread woven through our lives — touching intimacy, creativity, family, relationships, self‑knowledge, and liberation. Whether you're curious about sex, exploring non‑monogamy, or just love unfiltered conversation about life’s messy beauty, this episode opens the door to more curiosity.Before you go, take a moment after listening: set your phone down, breathe into your body, and notice what stirred in you. What excited you? What challenged you? What felt familiar, and what felt new? We want this space to be a place of reflection, embodiment, healing, and joy.We’ll be back every week with stories, guests, provocations, and explorations into sex, pleasure, pain, consciousness, and what it means to live a liberated life. Connect with us on social, send us your sexy stories, or apply to be a guest if you’re ready to play, learn, and talk openly about sexuality and life.Thanks for listening — we’re so excited to share this journey with you. Stay curious, stay embodied, and most of all, stay you.

S01E01 - Compartmentalizing Desire, Finding the Thread, and Designing Your Own Sex LifeIn this episode, Anja and Amelie explore what it actually means to increase your access to pleasure — not just in theory, but in real life.We dive into the idea of compartmentalizing relationship dynamics and how stepping off the “relationship escalator” can create more freedom, more clarity, and yes — more sex.Instead of forcing every connection into a traditional storyline (dating, escalating, merging lives), we discuss staying with what a dynamic is in the present moment. A connection can be a one-time scene, a recurring encounter, a nesting partnership, or something undefined — and that flexibility opens doors.We also explore:How to talk about sex as part of everyday conversationWhy you don’t need five dates before asking for what you wantResponsive desire vs. spontaneous desirePeople-pleasing, trauma narratives, and conscious choiceFinding the “thread of connection” with someoneDesigning scenes intentionally (inspired by BDSM negotiation practices)A big theme of this episode is awareness. How do you know whether you’re acting from conditioning or from conscious desire? Can you choose pleasure even if parts of you were shaped by culture, religion, or past experiences? We question Western therapy assumptions about sexuality and discuss reclaiming choice as adults.In a candid story segment, Anja shares a week that included multiple group experiences, each with a different container and intention. We break down how those encounters were structured, how desire was negotiated, how hierarchy and roles were defined, and how alignment (or lack of it) influences the energy of a connection.Some of the dynamics we touch on include:Creating a “surprise” scene with prior consentParticipating in erotic energy without full engagementPower exchange and service-based dynamicsPracticing vulnerability with someone newLetting desire emerge in motion instead of planning every detailWe also talk openly about awkwardness, determination, curiosity, and the reality that sometimes you discover attraction only after you step into the container.This episode is about sovereignty, consent, and expansion. It’s about breathing into discomfort, noticing where you tighten, and choosing — consciously — whether to continue.If you’re curious about non-monogamy, scene dynamics, erotic energy, pleasure practices, or simply designing a life that feels more alive, this conversation goes deep.Explicit themes discussed. Listener discretion advised.