SituatedConversations with Andrea “AB” Blackley

WE MADE IT!!! That just keeps coming to mind, considering 2025 is so FRESH! We start with Reflections, tap into inspirations, and then we end with the Book of Job! We are about to have an INCREDIBLE YEAR ya'll!!!!

This episode is a piggyback off of Episode 5...Creating a Safe Space for Conversation, and a video that I shared on social media talking about monitoring spirits and lack of support. The engagement encouraged me, and a few people affirmed me of who I am...honoring my Honesty and Transparency. Weaponizing self-expression is just not cool, and it has become normalized. People, including myself have been and some still are hesitant to speak up about personal experiences for fear of various outcomes. But we are SHIFTING THE ATMOSPHERE with these conversations. Tap in and see if you can relate. Is it easy for you to be Honest...HUMANELY HONEST?

Getting back into the swing of things seems to always be a part of the journey. As long as the swinging is consistent, we will be alright. It's been a few weeks since the last episode, and so much has happened...including how I look. I didn't intentionally wait to do my next episode, it just kind of happened this way. So, in the process of us getting our GROOVE with this, "Creating a Safe Space for Conversations" is the motive for continuing to do this.

The word "weird" is a relative word. Even after doing this episode, which was recorded right after the "Selection," I want to expound on how being "weird" can also be a SuperPower! Next episode! Episode 4 however, is somewhat of a response to the display of how our environment views Character and it's value when it comes to Leadership. It also addresses those people who attempt to make others feel awkward about expressing themselves. The world has normalized weaponizing people for using their voice, especially when it comes to self-expression of traumatic experiences. Feeling emotionally SAFE should be normalized, so let's get into it!

This is a very hard pill to swallow. All of us have different experiences, so this episode will resonate with those who it is intended to. I share some experiences that I've had to give a perspective of how this lesson is learned and taught! The most important message to get from this episode, is to KNOW how GOD SEES YOU! From there, we have to see ourselves that way too. When we do this, prayerfully we will be able to TEACH people how to treat us, and learn to not tolerate behaviors that can have the potential to make us feel LESS than who we truly are!

We already know that this Podcast is going to get DEEP, simply because this is the THIRD time that I have had to type this description, due to some kind of weirdness going on when I click a certain button. WOOOO SAHHHH!!! Now, how deep will we get? We won't know until we get there, but the intention is to GET TO THE ROOT! Ok, this episode is going to tap into part of what the future holds for Situated Conversations. The topics of discussion are limitless, so we will go with the flow. However, even in just the mentioning of some of the upcoming shows, there are some jewels given! I look forward to the engagement of those who are here to explore, learn, grow, share, and encourage. I believe that this Podcast and the conversations that are to come, will advocate for Healthy Conversations, that will impact the world in places where it is needed most! Now...let's get IN TO IT!

My Birthday gift to myself was to follow through and relaunch my Podcast...DONE! The Great48 is a whole new BOOK, but a continuation of the series of Life. It's been 3 years, 4 months, and 1 day (as of Oct. 15, 2024) since the last episode, and so much Growth and Wisdom development have happened. Now, WE are about to talk about it! Soooooo...Welcome BACK to SituatedConversations with "AB"! God is my Producer! #ThatPart This is about to be FUNNNNNNN and ON PURPOSE...PERIOD! Even when the painful moments happen, the purpose will ALWAYS yield a SMILE! Let's get into it...

I started to have another conversation with myself, as I was thinking about how people treat you...after you "make it."  But the conversation switched gears real quick... It's only 4 mins. short... LearnToLoveTheLifeYouLive

Last week we talked about disempowering our triggers.  You know why?  Because our triggers make our behaviors predictable, especially when triggered.  Go figure!  Have you ever had someone say "well, you know how (insert your name here) is"?  If so, how did it make you feel?  Have you been "labeled" because of your behaviors?  In the event that you can relate to any part of this text, and maybe you answered some of the posed questions, this episode will definitely add more LIGHT to your SITUATION!  Oh to discover the BEAUTY of MYSTERY!  LearnToLoveTheLifeYouLive

"Triggers" are those sensational moments where our emotions are stimulated into a negative behavior.  When we are not in our power, we react as opposed to respond, to people and/or situations, known as "triggers".  Vibrations are low when we are not in our power.  Low vibrations have no positive benefits, but they can bring awareness to the fact that your VIBES need to shift, if you're low.  It is at that point, when a decision has to be made as to whether you want to experience low or high vibrations.  Your "triggers" LOVE when you are vibrating low, because they know that you are not in your POWER.  That is why you MUST TAKE THE POWER BACK FROM YOUR TRIGGERS!!!  NOW!!! Let's chat about it so we can Learn to Love the Life we Live.

Today, 16 years ago, I became a mother of a KING!  Year 16 came rather quickly, and jammed packed with experiences and wisdom.  I felt a huge level of responsibility towards Nicholas's mental maturity, as today's date got closer to its arrival.  There were a flood of emotions that I had to explore, in order to eliminate anything of low vibrations.  All I could do was take one day at a time, with the intent of treasuring each day that I get to be Nic's mom.  With all that is happening in the world, it is imperative that Nicholas knows who he is and what he wants out of life.  The goal is to teach how to learn to love the life we live.  Today being Nic's birthday is a GIFT, that I am BLESSED and HONORED to share with the world!

We all have a dark side, and it's time to talk about the dark shit, so we can TAKE OUR POWER BACK!  Awareness, accountability, acceptance, action, and analytics...the 5 steps towards our POWER.  Learning how to become powerful within ourselves, is a SuperPower.  The question is, who are you?  The next question is, what do you want?  The final question is, what on your dark side, is keeping you OUT of your Power?   The nutrients of Life are in the roots...so let's get to 'em. Learn to Love the Live you Live. 

How many times have you uttered the words, "my vibes are off"?  It was either triggered by a person or an event, and sometimes, you wake up and just feel "off".  In those moments, what do you do?  What is your normal "pattern" when your vibes just ain't right? This is something that I chose to dig into because simply put, I like for my Vibes to be HIGH...ALL of the time!  The reason for that is the fact that we are not entitled to time.  None of us know how much more Life we will get.  So, with that perspective, it is a daily goal to make each day matter in WONDERFUL VIBRATIONS! When our vibes are off, that is a MESSAGE to clean out some mess, in our minds.  LEARN to LOVE to LIVE your LIFE.

A lack of Self Love makes us do stupid shit.  There is no other way to put it, in order for the message to hit and stick.  This is all about taking your POWER BACK!  SelfLove is a SuperPower! 

From "Under the Table Talk" to "SituatedConversations," it just made sense.   When I posted the previous episode, that's when "SituatedConversations" hit me, but I had already created the media for the post.  So, I just left it as a hashtag until it was time.  And that time is NOW!   It's a BEAUTIFUL thing to no longer have to speak from a place of pain...the "under the table" kind of pain.  But rather from a conscious confidence and a healing, that took a shit load of work to get to!!!  SelfLove is NO JOKE, which is why we need the safe space for conversations...SituatedConversations.  Let's work! 

I was able to experience first hand, what is possible when you are misunderstood by someone who resorts to violence, when they don’t understand. This is an episode, that I never ever predicted that I would be sharing, from a personal experience. Honestly, it still doesn’t make sense to me, however, things don’t just happen. There is always a purpose found in opposition. The devil wanted me to keep quiet about this, and not speak up for myself. I saw the enemy in a full court press attempt to make me feel less about myself, through other people’s opinions, perceptions, and judgements about my choices. People only get away with what we allow them to. As I speak more about “Understanding”, it’s my hope that we humans start treating each other like everyone’s life matters. When people don’t care about you, they show you. When people do care about you, they show you. This episode is the REALEST ONE yet...and it was totally unexpected and unpredictable, so I know that this will bless someone, who NEEDS to SPEAK UP about being treated unfairly, due to a lack of understanding.

We never know how the way we treat people, can influence how someone feels about themselves, unless there are conversations about it. How many times has life been lost, because of a misunderstanding? So now, I’m choosing to bring more awareness to Understanding. I’m starting the conversation with this episode. Listen STRONG! May this episode bless your mind!

Being a “strong” single Mother has its pros and cons. Can you relate? We are experts when it comes to miracles, because we have no other choice but to believe in them. But what about when the “strong” need help? I have often heard stories from others, and also experienced personally, that asking for help is a NO NO! Reasons are many and will vary. But the “strong” have a pride, that sometimes needs humbling. Take a listen to this episode, regardless of whether or not you are a single parent. It may give some insight from the perspective of a single Mother, who’s strength needs help sometimes.

Sometimes it seems like an impossible feat, but there are people out here that are emotionally intelligent enough to recognize that we ALL need more LOVE and Love is an EMOTION also. Tough love is not intended or suppose to kill one’s Spirit... It should be used to dig deeper into the richer Spirit, to pull out greatness. And yes, relative “pain” will be involved and we will need support and love to make it through the break...hence, Breakthrough! We’ve got to be more careful when dealing with each other. We can always learn how to love better. 🥰 I’m still growing to do my part. 🙋🏽‍♀️

Nothing that happens is random. Everything has its place, purpose, and timing. 2018 kicked a lot of folks’ ass! That’s just means, we need to focus more on being armored up! Let’s talk.

Fear...so many people give fear too much control over their lives. Time is then wasted in pointless attempts to eliminate or avoid fear, especially in business. What if you chose to build a relationship with fear, instead of it being your enemy? Would that give you a different behavior towards it? Would you become excited every time you were faced with fear, as opposed to being debilitated? You can learn to take your power back from fear. It may not be an easy process, but the work in doing so, is well worth it! Let’s understand how fear doesn’t have to be so scary.

We all can go a lil deeper when it comes to resolving “issues”. These conversations and realizations aren’t always easy to have or accept. However, a choice to get to the ROOT of our uncomfortable moments and seasons, will deliver a FREEDOM like no other. Getting to the ROOT requires more compassion and understanding for SELF first. When we do the SELF works, our ROOTS will be healthy again!

Take a minute to reevaluate your perception, and MAYBE you will find the truth. POEM