Speaking With Confidence

What does it really mean to be emotionally intelligent, and how can mastering this skill transform not just your communication, but your entire experience of work and life? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into emotional intelligence beyond the buzzwords and the surface-level definitions, exploring what it looks like in the real world, how we grow it, and why it matters more than ever in today's evolving workplace. I'm Tim Newman, and in this episode, I had the privilege of welcoming Camilla Calberg to the show. Camilla is a business mentor, career coach, and a leader who has spent over 20 years driving transformation at places like BP, Shell, and IBM. Today, she’s on a mission to help women (and all professionals) who feel unseen, stuck, or overwhelmed, finally find inner peace and become trusted, emotionally intelligent advisors in their organizations. And she’s changing the way we think about leadership moving beyond the old KPIs-and-box-ticking mentality to a more soul-led, sustainable approach that truly supports people. In our conversation, Camilla and I jumped right into the realities of personal growth at work, especially the tough parts of those moments when things aren’t going according to plan and it feels like the storms are never ending. We discussed the huge difference between knowing about emotional intelligence in theory versus actually living it day-to-day: feeling those waves of emotion, noticing when your body is sending you nervous signals, and making real choices about how to show up in the moment. Here’s what we covered in this episode: The true, lived definition of emotional intelligence and how it shows up in real work situations Camilla’s personal journey from masking emotions to finding inner peace and the pivotal moments that changed her approach The problem with equating years or credentials with real growth and how to embody your learning How stress and emotional overload manifest in work conversations, and phrases to listen for Leadership and the art of saying “no” why boundaries are crucial for effectiveness and health The disconnect between Gen Z and business leaders, and actionable ways to bridge the gap using emotional intelligence Practical, immediately usable mindset shifts and conversational strategies for dealing with tough work situations and negative environments The importance of choosing your "tribe" and surrounding yourself with people who lift you up Whether you’re early in your career, leading teams, or navigating big life transitions, this episode will challenge you to rethink what confidence, emotional intelligence, and real leadership look like from the inside out. Plus, Camilla shares more resources for those who want to go deeper. Tune in to discover how being more intelligent with your emotions and less attached to your “mask” can transform not just your presence at work, but your overall sense of peace and purpose. Connect with Camilla: Website: https://www.camillacalberg.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/camillacalberg/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@camillacalberg    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been put on the spot in a meeting when your boss turns to you and asks, “What’s your take on this?” and your mind just goes blank? If you’ve ever struggled with this kind of pressure, you’re definitely not alone. In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the uncomfortable but all-too-common experience of freezing up when you’re unexpectedly called upon, and I reveal a practical way to break through that mental block, fast. I open the show by getting real about what’s actually happening in those high-stakes moments. Freezing up isn’t a sign that you’re not smart, or that you don’t know your stuff, it's the result of cognitive overload. Suddenly, your brain’s juggling a hundred possibilities at once, and without a clear filter or system in place, panic sets in and clarity goes out the window. That’s why today I’m sharing a tool that’s been a game-changer for me and my clients: the ACES method. It’s a mental checklist that helps you cut through the noise and respond with confidence even when your heart’s pounding and your thoughts are scrambling for an exit. I’ll walk you through the ACES framework. We’ll dig into the real reasons smart people freeze, why the usual “just be confident” advice falls flat, and how using a simple, four-step mental scan can help you deliver sharp, focused answers in any conversation. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why freezing doesn’t mean you’re unprepared and what’s actually going on in your brain when you’re put on the spot. The critical importance of filtering your response through “audience” focusing on who’s asking the question and what they actually need from you. The “one thing rule” for content zeroing in on the single most important piece of information instead of dumping everything you know. How to spot and align with hidden expectations behind the question, so you answer what’s really being asked. The power of having a go-to “script” structure point, reason, example, and action that helps your thoughts flow into a clear, compelling answer. Practical, low-pressure ways to practice ACES, so the process becomes automatic (even when you’re under pressure). A simple challenge to try the ACES method in your next everyday conversation to start building unstoppable communication muscle. If you’re ready to replace panic with process and show up in high-stakes moments with real clarity, this episode is for you. Don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com to grab your free eBook, The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, and check out the Forming for Public Speaking course. Let’s keep moving towards progress, not perfection. Your voice really can change the world! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why confidence seems to slip away right when you need it most? Or if it’s really possible to change how you feel about yourself and your abilities no matter how long you’ve struggled? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive into the roots of real confidence, the power of self-talk, and how science and faith come together to help us show up as our best selves. I’m Tim Newman, and today I’m joined by the incredible Dr. Laurette Willis, a cognitive behavioral therapist, speaker, mentor, and founder of Weight Loss Without Willpower and Praises Moves Fitness Ministry. Laurette’s journey from childhood struggles with overeating and self-image to empowering women and men around the world to find strength without shame brings a wealth of wisdom and practical tools to our conversation. We kick things off by unpacking what confidence really means. As Dr. Laurette explains, the word itself comes from the Latin “confidere” to have full trust. She shares how true confidence is about leaning your full weight on your trust on something greater than yourself, and why this “trust” is the opposite of fear, especially for people whose greatest challenges show up right alongside their greatest gifts. We both get personal about our own experiences with stage fright and imposter syndrome even after years of professional speaking and performing. Dr. Laurette opens up about growing up with negative self-talk and how completely changing what she said to herself transformed not only her feelings but her results in life. I reveal my ongoing struggles with self-doubt, despite being able to help others navigate the same thing, and we both talk about how, even as coaches, we need outside support to keep our inner voices in check. Throughout the episode, we explore: The roots and true meaning of confidence How fear often attacks our greatest strengths The five-step chain that links self-talk to results Practical neuroscience: how your brain can and does change (neuroplasticity!) Myths about “overnight” change and why patience with yourself matters How your environment and the people around you shape your mindset and outcomes The power of habits, big and small, to rewire your brain and your life Dr. Laurette’s story of feeling most “herself” on stage, and how improv taught her trust Using faith-based practices and scripture to ground confidence A powerful cognitive-behavioral exercise to physically “cast off” worry and take on peace The science behind victory celebrations, positive self-talk, and dopamine hits for change Why believing in others before they believe in themselves can be life-changing A hands-on bilateral brain stimulation technique for cutting through fear or cravings in seconds The practical, lifelong value of mentorship, support, humility, and helping others up the ladder How to speak life into yourself and others (and why that matters more than you think) By the end of our heartfelt, hope-filled talk, you’ll walk away with a practical toolkit for tackling fear, reframing your inner dialogue, and stepping up to life’s stage with true confidence rooted in trust, humility, and real support. If you’re ready to break out of old cycles, speak with boldness, and help others do the same, this conversation with Dr. Laurette Willis will inspire you from the inside out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you tired of working hard but still finding yourself overlooked, misunderstood, or stuck in conflict at work? In today’s episode, I tackle the question: What if the real reason you're not getting the recognition or opportunities you deserve isn’t about how hard you’re working, but about the way you communicate? I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and your guide on the Speaking with Confidence podcast. In this episode, I break down the exact three-part formula I use with my clients to transform invisible, frustrated professionals into clear, connected, and unstoppable communicators. It’s not just a list of tips, it's a step-by-step system where every part is necessary, and missing any one piece makes the whole thing fall apart. It’s just you and me exploring what it truly means to become a successful, respected communicator. I’ll share the actionable steps that have helped my clients move from being overlooked to being valued, and from being anxious in the spotlight to becoming confident, effective public speakers. Here’s what we cover in today’s episode: Why the root of your career problems is more likely a communication issue than a lack of effort or expertise, and why that’s actually good news The myth that sounding articulate or having a big vocabulary means you’re a good communicator and why real communication starts with clarity above all else The importance of the “eighth grade rule” explaining your ideas so simply that even an eighth grader would understand, making your message unmissable at work A deep dive into collaboration and why true teamwork isn’t about being agreeable or avoiding conflict, but about handling friction with empathy and courage The “velvet brick” framework: being soft on the person but hard on the problem so you can tackle tough issues without sacrificing relationships How poor communication in small, one-on-one conversations can snowball into big project failures and blown deadlines down the line The misconception that public speaking is an innate talent, and why it’s actually about having applied confidence in your message and your collaborative skills A personal story about how reframing the audience as collaborators rather than judges can eliminate stage fright and boost your influence Why you can’t cheat the system by skipping steps each skill builds on the last, and only by mastering the sequence do you unlock real career leverage A challenge for the week: Identify one conversation and apply the eighth grade rule—deliberately choose clarity, and see how it transforms your results By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have a practical formula for communication success, but you’ll understand why each part matters and how to put it all together for dramatic results in your work and beyond. Don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com to grab your free eBook on the top 21 challenges for public speakers and learn about the Formula for Public Speaking course. Your voice really does have the power to change the world. Let's unlock it together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why, no matter how hard you try, you can’t just “be confident” especially when your hands are shaking and your mind is racing? If so, you’re not alone, and you’re exactly who this episode is for. Today on Speaking with Confidence, we’re tackling the reality behind what it means to build, lose, and rebuild true confidence especially for those who’ve faced serious self-doubt, bullying, or lived experience with mental health challenges. I sat down with the remarkable Hufsa Ahmad licensed therapist, scientist, award-winning mental health advocate, behavioral health consultant, and two-time TEDx speaker. She’s uniquely known for blending science, clinical wisdom, and sharp humor, turning even life’s lowest points into stepping stones for growth and resilience. In this episode, Hufsah opens up about her journey from being a happy, curious child to enduring relentless bullying, depression, and defining periods of isolation. She shares how a suicide attempt as a child and ongoing battles with mental illness and the stigma attached eventually pushed her to hit rock bottom. From there, she didn’t just rebuild her confidence; she reframed her entire relationship with herself and those around her. Highlights from our conversation: How early life experiences and bullying shaped Hafsah’s self-image and how she turned the corner The gritty process of learning to care less about what others think, even in the face of online hate and real-world rejection The impact of social media on social confidence, and why stepping away transformed her focus and well-being The difference between “performing confidence” and actually feeling it, and how to spot the difference Why humor is a tool for healing, connection, and resilience and how anyone can start using it Tactics Hafsah uses to reframe negative self-talk and rewrite the narrative after setbacks The most common myths anxious speakers believe, and evidence-based ways to challenge them What crowd work and comedy taught her about real presence in public speaking Practical steps every anxious speaker should stop doing immediately and what to do instead The power of not taking things personally, and why audience reactions aren’t always about you If you’ve ever felt crushed by criticism, paralyzed by anxiety, or frustrated by the advice to “just be confident,” this episode will give you actionable wisdom, a few laughs, and a whole new way to think about resilience on and off the stage. Connect with Hufsa: Website: https://hufsaahmad.com     LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hufsaahmad/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hufsaahmad    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@hufsa-ahmad Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered if knowing too much about your subject could actually make you a less effective communicator? I know it sounds counterintuitive, but in this episode of Speaking With Confidence, I dive into why deep expertise might be your biggest liability when presenting and the one simple rule that can turn it all around. Hi, I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and in this episode, I share my journey from thinking that piling on credentials and information would make me the most persuasive person in the room to realizing that too much expertise can actually get in the way of real communication. I know firsthand how easy it is to fall into “the expert trap,” and today, I want to walk you through the five ways this shows up in our presentations, plus the practical fix that anyone can use immediately. It’s just me sharing hard-won experience and tools you can apply whether you’re presenting research, delivering a pitch, or leading a team meeting. We start by unpacking the subtle but powerful curse of knowledge, that cognitive bias that makes us forget what it felt like not to know our subject. From there, I break down the other traps that experts stumble into: overloading slides with data, defaulting to lecture mode, relying on jargon to “prove” credibility, and hiding behind an impenetrable expert persona that actually alienates your audience. We don’t just name the problems, we walk through fixes. I share my go-to strategies, like building presentations that map the audience’s journey rather than just dumping information, making every slide a clear, focused compass rather than a wall of text, and applying what I call the “Gen Z Intern Test” to ensure your language stays human and relatable. Most importantly, I reveal the eighth-grade rule: If a typical eighth grader can’t grasp your main point and its importance after just one hearing, you need to simplify it even further. Clear ideas are your greatest source of authority. Here’s what I cover in this episode: The real ways expertise can sabotage your communication and connection Understanding and overcoming the curse of knowledge Escaping the trap of data drowning and cluttered slides Breaking the lecture loop by building real exchanges with your audience Avoiding jargon overload and speaking so anyone can understand Letting go of the impenetrable expert persona and embracing authentic authority The “eighth grade rule” as your universal test for clarity Why preparing to connect is always more powerful than preparing to impress If you’re ready to move your presentations from impressive to impactful, and from credible to truly connected, this episode is packed with tools to get you there. Don’t forget to grab your free ebook at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com, and I’ll see you next time as we keep building the soft skills that create real change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it really take to move from simply having a message to building a message that truly lasts? That’s the question we answer in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. This week, we dig deep into the art and science behind powerful communication not just what you see on stage, but the systems, preparation, and intentionality that make those moments matter. I’m joined by Jared Cagle, Executive Vice President of Content at Maxwell Leadership. Jared is a master of helping communicators, authors, and thought leaders craft messages that create lasting impact. He’s been directly involved with the development, publishing, and global expansion of John Maxwell’s legendary leadership content, and he shares a behind-the-scenes look at what it really takes to influence at scale. In our conversation, Jared Cagle and I talk about the recent International Maxwell Conference, with Jared offering his highlights and lessons learned from running the show behind the curtain. We discuss the real meaning of connection and community, why the hallway conversations are sometimes more transformative than what happens on stage, and how being genuinely interested in others is foundational to meaningful leadership and influence. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Jared’s role at Maxwell Leadership and the intentional system behind crafting memorable messages Why community and connection matter more than just great content The power of being interested in others and making them feel valued Jared’s unique career journey from cold calls to leading content for a global brand Lessons from getting “in the room” with world-class leaders and how to add value The relationship between reading, writing, and effective speaking Practical advice on building messages that last and how the market determines message longevity The importance of making your message about the audience, not just yourself Confidence vs. preparedness: what the top speakers and leaders really feel before walking on stage How to contextualize your message for different audiences and make every moment of interaction count Why starting small and serving locally can create ripple effects of influence What’s next for Jared, the legacy work with John Maxwell, and how you can get involved with Maxwell Leadership Whether you’re an aspiring speaker, established leader, or someone passionate about communicating with more impact, this episode will give you actionable strategies and a fresh perspective on what it takes to build a message and a legacy that lasts. Connect with Jared: LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/jared_cagle/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jared_cagle/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why, despite doing everything right, being considerate, polite, and following all the unspoken rules you still feel overlooked in meetings or conversations? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re diving into the seven subtle "safe habits" that might be sabotaging your presence and making you come across as less confident than you truly are. I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and I’m here to guide you through the small shifts that turn good communicators into truly compelling ones. Today’s topic grew out of my work with interns, new grads, and young professionals who, without realizing it, train the people around them to see them as unsure or not quite ready to take up space in the room. These aren’t glaring mistakes that most wouldn’t even recognize as confidence killers. But they are quiet habits that slowly erode your authority and can make you feel and look like an imposter. In this episode, we’ll unpack the seven most common habits that keep talented people playing small. You’ll hear why polite apologies, upspeak, or the nervous nod aren’t keeping the peace; they’re quietly holding you back. I’ll walk through why these behaviors backfire, what they communicate to your colleagues or audience, and practical ways to break out of them without swinging to the opposite extreme of arrogance or aggression. Here’s what I cover in this episode: Why apologizing before speaking (with “sorry to bother you,” “quick question,” or “does that make sense?”) weakens your message, and how a simple confident pause has greater impact The damage caused by upspeak and “the expert facade,” and how to use clear, simple language that establishes real authority The body language of submission including the invisible man posture and the nervous nod and how to physically take up space to signal confidence Why over-editing your thoughts or waiting for the perfect moment keeps your contributions invisible, and how to use “the three second rule” to build confidence in real time The psychological effect these habits have on listeners, and how breaking even just one can immediately shift how you’re perceived in any room How to choose just one habit to focus on this week for real, sustainable progress, instead of overwhelming yourself with total transformation Whether you see yourself playing small with language, posture, or silent self-editing, today’s episode will help you swap safety for real presence one habit at a time. Stick with me to the end for a simple challenge you can use in your next meeting, and remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What would happen if you stopped chasing productivity hacks and started embracing simplicity and discipline in your everyday life? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into building habits that stick, mastering boundaries, and simplifying the way you work, communicate, and live. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Mark Struczewski, better known as Mister Productivity, a Houston-based productivity coach and host of the Mister Productivity podcast. With over 1,350 episodes and an unfiltered, real-world approach, Mark helps professionals conquer overwhelm and bring focus back into their days. After being fired from corporate America, Mark turned his setback into a thriving coaching practice, rooted in daily running discipline, his faith, and powerful, practical systems. Mark’s journey started unexpectedly, with a hurricane keeping him cooped up at home and an article inspiring him to try running one mile a day. Since then, Mark’s daily running habit has surpassed 3,000 consecutive days, a testament to the transformative power of consistent discipline. We explored how that kind of commitment spills over into every area of life, and why the basics matter more than ever, whether you’re running, building a career, or communicating with confidence. We dug into why so many people, especially young professionals, are constantly overwhelmed. Spoiler: It isn’t just about time management. Mark unpacks the role of FOMO, people-pleasing, lack of boundaries, and our addiction to technology. Together, we discuss how reclaiming focus and simplifying your approach can lead to more clarity and better results, both at work and at home. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Mark’s origin story and how a hurricane and Runner's World article launched an 8+ year daily running habit Why Mark’s daily discipline matters in fitness, work, and coaching The link between doing hard things and building confidence Why young professionals (and all generations) feel overwhelmed, and how FOMO and people-pleasing feed the cycle The importance of saying “no” and setting unbreakable boundaries Mark’s “get to the point” email and meeting philosophy, plus why more communication is rarely better How to command attention in person by putting the phone away and giving people your full presence Finding simplicity in a world that glorifies complexity and constant busyness The real impact of taking one day completely off for rest, reflection, and recharging Why being fired opened the door for Mark’s current calling, and how to view setbacks as setups for something new How podcasting improves communication and the importance of clarity, preparation, and growth The most impactful productivity principle you can apply right now taking mindful, technology-free micro breaks If you’re ready to stop making excuses, cut through the overwhelm, and communicate with real confidence, this episode is for you. Mark brings actionable wisdom, humor, and a no-nonsense approach that will get you thinking and moving toward a simpler, more productive life. Connect with Mark: Website: https://misterproductivity.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/markstruczewski/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/misterproductivity/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MisterProductivity/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are your youngest employees just difficult to manage or are they the exact mentors your leadership style needs to survive? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I break down why Gen Z isn’t simply shaking up the workplace; they may be the key to transforming brittle, outdated leadership models into resilient, high-trust teams. I’m Tim Newman, a communication coach, former college professor, and your guide on the journey toward showing up with confidence in every conversation that counts. Today, we’re tackling a challenge that countless managers face: connecting with and leading Gen Z employees. But instead of focusing on how to manage or mold them into old-school models, I invite you to flip the script. What happens when you let your youngest team members mentor you? Today I’m digging into some game-changing insights from leadership thinker Tim Elmore. We’ll explore why the modern workplace rewards leaders who are open to learning from every person in the room, not just those with long titles or corner offices. If you’ve ever felt like only “the badge” title, seniority, or status gives you credibility, get ready to challenge that mindset. We’ll talk about how Gen Z’s directness, digital intuition, and bridge-building communication can become your greatest asset. Here’s what you can expect from our conversation: How rigid, top-down leadership creates fragile teams and why the old hierarchy has officially collapsed 01:36 Why Gen Z’s demands for transparency and speed act as “sandpaper” for outdated leadership, ultimately making teams more adaptable 02:37 The crucial shift from “badge” confidence to “bridge” confidence and how curiosity, trust, and real connection fuel lasting influence 03:23 A breakdown of Tim Elmore’s “A LEG” framework (Ask, Listen, Empathize, Guide) for transforming feedback into real growth 03:38 Why Gen Z’s “epic” communication style (experiential, participatory, image-rich, connected) is actually a massive leadership advantage 04:47 How to use the “velvet brick” approach to build psychological safety and maintain high standards at the same time 08:21 Simple, practical ways to let Gen Z employees shine as mentors and how doing so sets a new standard for team culture 08:47 How public learning as a leader breaks down hierarchies and inspires your team to take more initiative 09:22 A quick homework assignment: one conversation to help you start building the bridge to the future 11:55 If you want to swap insecurity for resilience, defend your title less, and build true influence with your team, this episode is your roadmap. The future belongs to those who learn the fastest and the strongest leaders are the ones who aren’t afraid to be led. Let’s build progress, not perfection together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you respond with confidence when an uncomfortable question tests your composure, especially in a professional setting? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive into visibility, courage, and the power of showing up authentically even when the circumstances are less than ideal. Whether you're getting asked, "Who's watching your kids?" at a conference (when your male colleagues never are), or struggling to find your voice in team meetings, today’s conversation will help you find practical ways to stand tall and speak up no matter the situation. I'm thrilled to be joined by Sabine Hutchison, the CEO, author, and founder of the Ripple Network. Sabine is a powerhouse leader whose work focuses on helping others cut through the noise, trust their own voice, and intentionally shape their careers. Sabine’s own journey began when she moved to Germany with just two suitcases and no plan, which led her to reinvent her life by listening to her intuition rather than following a rigid blueprint. In our discussion, Sabine and I unpack why taking action without a perfect plan is often the best route for personal and professional growth. We reflect on generational differences in communication, visibility, and work ethic from the "just do it" attitude of Gen X to the entrepreneurial but differently structured approach of Gen Z and millennials. We also talk about the critical importance of stages big and small in building influence and accessing opportunities, and why visibility isn’t just about being seen, but about connecting through stories. Sabine shares stories and strategies from her own experience, including how she coaches leaders to take microsteps that build lasting confidence. We explore what it takes to speak up in meetings, especially if you’re hesitant or the only one in the room who looks like you. We get honest about self-doubt, the paralyzing fear of judgment (especially for younger generations), and why embracing feedback even when it stings is a crucial part of improvement. We also discuss real-life examples of handling outrageous or inappropriate questions with composure instead of emotion, reinforcing how practice and intentional actions like enlisting accountability partners or preparing for meetings in advance make a world of difference. Here’s what we covered in this lively and deeply practical episode: Sabine’s move to Germany and how intuition shaped her courage and reinvention 01:41 Taking action without a full plan and overcoming “analysis paralysis” 05:21 Generational differences in communication, risk-taking, and adapting to structure 09:15 The critical role of visibility and “stages” (of all sizes) for influence and opportunity 15:01 Microsteps, storytelling, and building self-trust and confidence in professional settings 19:00 Creative strategies for speaking up in meetings, even when it feels intimidating 26:32 The power of accountability groups and intentional practice for growth 29:04 Responding to gendered, biased, and outrageous questions in the workplace with composure 31:49 The origin and mission of the Ripple Network and how it empowers women to speak up, practice, and lead 38:07 How feedback, repetition, and a supportive network drive communication growth at any stage of your career 40:15 The importance of being coachable and open to feedback plus, honest anecdotes about learning from our own slip-ups 46:16 If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself or wondered how to boldly own your perspective, today’s episode will inspire you to take action no matter where you are on your journey. Tune in and join us as we explore what it really means to speak with confidence. Connect with Sabine: Website: https://sabinehutchison.com    Website: https://www.theripplenetwork.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sabine.hutchison/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sabinehutchison/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why you sound so smart in your emails and texts, but when it’s time to speak up in meetings or on Zoom, your voice just doesn’t match the conviction in your head? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we're diving deep into the “digital vocal gap”—the disconnect between the confident communicator you are online and the hesitant speaker you might become out loud. I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I’m guiding you step-by-step through bridging that gap. If you’ve ever felt your voice come out sounding thin or uncertain, even as you felt completely sure of your ideas, you’re not alone. The truth is, it's not about lacking confidence—it's about not using the full physical power of your voice. And I’m here to show you that it’s a tool you can learn to wield. In this solo episode, I introduce the critical concepts of chest resonance and vocal authority—how the physical place your voice originates from impacts your credibility long before the words you say even land with your audience. I’ll walk you through a practical exercise to literally feel the difference between speaking from your head versus your chest, and you’ll discover why so many of us accidentally default to what I call “horizontal speech,” keeping our voices small and tight, perfect for text but ineffective in person. I unpack the mechanics of grounded, vertical speech: how to open your vocal tract, drop your jaw, and use your chest to create sound that is full, resonant, and impossible to tune out. We practice together with simple, actionable exercises—like the sigh-of-relief technique and my “eighth grade rule,” a filter that will help you command attention even from the toughest, most skeptical audience. Here’s what I cover in today’s episode: The real reason your voice doesn’t always match your conviction in professional conversations The concept of the digital vocal gap and why most people have it Why people decide what to believe based on how you sound, not just what you say How to physically find and use your chest resonance for more authority The difference between horizontal (text bubble) and vertical (grounded, open) speech Guided voice exercises to feel and hear the difference in resonance and authority How creating vertical space in your sound makes you more compelling and less apologetic The “eighth grade rule” for instantly making your speaking voice more engaging and credible Connecting your inner clarity to your outer voice so your ideas always land A simple 60-second physical rehearsal routine to unlock your best, most confident spoken self before every call or meeting You’ll leave this episode with the tools, awareness, and practical steps to transform your presence in any conversation—no matter how nervous you used to feel. Let’s move your voice out of the cramped text bubble and into the room where your authority belongs. Your ideas deserve to be heard with the same certainty with which you write them. As always, progress, not perfection. Don’t forget to grab your free eBook, the Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, or register for my Formula for Public Speaking course. Your voice truly does have the power to change the world—let’s make sure everyone hears it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what it actually means to communicate with confidence and why so many intelligent, high-performing people still struggle with it? In this episode, I dive deep into that question with Chris Johnson, a renowned sales and leadership coach who's built multimillion dollar organizations and equipped countless professionals to close deals, build thriving teams, and lead under pressure. Together, Chris and I unpack the real problem behind poor communication: most people think it happened, but it didn't. Chris explains why true communication means your message is actually received and remembered, not just spoken. We discuss personality types (like DISC), and why understanding who you're talking to is essential for success, whether you’re giving a speech, interviewing, networking, or managing a team. Chris shares hard-earned insights on the importance of listening, drawing on his experience as a sales trainer. He believes everyone you meet is your superior in some way, and it's your job to discover what you can learn from them. We talk about powerful lessons learned from children, family, and clients, and why approaching conversations as a student rather than a teacher will transform your life. Here’s what we covered in our conversation: The hidden gap between speaking and true communication How to tailor your message based on personality types like DISC Why listening is the most critical part of communication The mindset of approaching every conversation as a student Real-world stories about learning leadership from unexpected places The myth of instant confidence, and how it’s really built Overcoming the fear of imperfection in public speaking and video Helping one person vs. speaking to a crowd The impact of isolation, technology, and COVID on Gen Z’s communication skills The four levels of wealth and communication’s role in high earnings Practical advice for young professionals to transform their communication Why goal-setting should be about transforming yourself, not just hitting targets Continuous improvement and the importance of learning new things outside your craft How speaking with confidence goes far beyond words to posture, mannerisms, mindset, and clarity If you’re ready to transform the way you communicate, gain lasting confidence, and help others along the way, this episode is for you. Chris Johnson’s wisdom and practical frameworks will challenge and inspire you to take action one conversation at a time. Connect with Chris: Website: https://www.chrisjohnsonleadershipservices.com    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-johnson-08877624b/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/chris-johnson-leadership-services/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@chrisjohnsonleadershipservices/videos   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why your carefully crafted corporate messaging seems to miss the mark with younger team members? In today's episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackled a question that's baffling managers everywhere: Why does traditional "boss speak" actually kill trust and engagement with Gen Z—and what should you do instead? I'm Tim Newman, your host and guide on the journey to becoming a powerful communicator. As a recovering college professor turned communication coach, I bring you real stories and actionable insights that help you show up with confidence in every conversation. This episode was inspired by a pivotal moment I experienced in front of a room full of college seniors. Despite years of urging them to network strategically, my "professional" advice fell flat until I delivered the real, relatable truth: It's the people you know, not your GPA, that land you jobs. That shift took me from blank stares to genuine engagement—and it opened my eyes to how language shapes trust. We dive into the reality that most managers are still speaking a language Gen Z tuned out years ago. Drawing on Tim Elmore's research, I discuss how phrases like "let's circle back," "leverage synergy," and "align our strategic objectives" serve as instant disengagement triggers. Gen Z, raised online as expert BS detectors, spot vague or manipulative language immediately. They crave clarity, directness, and authenticity. This episode explains why polished corporate language doesn't build credibility—it erodes it, and your influence stems from being understood, not from holding a title. I share the formula for translating leadership principles into plain, human talk—without resorting to awkward slang or forced memes. It's about explaining the "why" first, connecting every task to real purpose and stakes, and operating with high-context brevity. You'll hear practical examples: Instead of "circle back," say "talk about the issue tomorrow at 10." Trade "leverage synergy" for "work together on a project," and replace "align our strategic objectives" with stating clear goals and measures of success. We explore how adopting this language shift moves you from managing tasks to inspiring belief in a mission. Gen Z values authenticity and purpose above all—if you don't change your communication style, you simply can't lead them effectively. The show walks through actionable steps like the One Meeting Challenge, where you strip away jargon, state the purpose plainly, and invite honest input. When you speak with clarity and listen with curiosity, you build trust and real buy-in. Here’s what I covered in this episode: Why Gen Z disconnects from traditional boss speak The cost of corporate jargon on trust and engagement Research-backed communication approach for today's teams The power of radical directness and saying the quiet part out loud How to translate vague directives into clear, actionable language Two key principles: Explaining the why first and high-context brevity Practical phrases that grab Gen Z’s attention—and ones to avoid Building credibility by dropping the professional façade How authentic, respectful leadership influences modern teams The "One Meeting Challenge" to help you put these ideas into practice immediately If you're ready to ditch the jargon, talk like a person, and lead a team that truly believes in your vision, this episode has your answers. Remember: progress, not perfection, is the goal. Your voice has the power to change the world—let’s make sure it’s heard. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever wonder why building confidence feels so challenging and what's the secret to structuring a message that truly connects with an audience? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into practical, actionable steps to transform your communication and your confidence, no matter where you’re starting from. I’m Tim Newman, your host, and today I’m joined by the incredible Christiane Schroeter, TEDx speaker, professor, business and wellness coach, and creator of the Petite Practice framework. If you haven’t watched her TEDx talk, I can’t recommend it enough. It's hands-down one of the most actionable and inspiring talks I’ve seen. Christiane's specialty is helping professionals align their goals with their values for results that last, and she hosts the top 1% globally ranked podcast, Happy Healthy Hustle. She’s got a wealth of expertise in communication, innovation, and how to show up confidently, and in this conversation, she shares insights that you can put into practice today. We kick off by unpacking the true power behind a great TEDx talk and, by extension, any impactful presentation. Christiane Schroeter shares her intentional approach, focusing on what you want your audience to feel and do after your talk because structure is everything. We dig into her experience as an immigrant and bilingual educator, revealing how language learning is a metaphor for confident communication and the importance of truly listening first. Christiane and I joke about raising kids with multiple languages and how this shapes empathy and nuanced expression (and, yes, the fun of switching languages in heated family moments!). Here's what we covered in this value-packed episode: The importance of clear structure and audience-centered messaging in public speaking Why learning and using different languages builds empathy and expressive power Tips for practicing talks in the “real world” and why mirror practice isn’t enough How to use peer feedback and self-reflection to grow as a communicator The true benefit of failure (and why “failure” is your First Attempt In Learning) Overcoming perfectionism and embracing gritty persistence The impact of small, consistent actions (Petite Practice) on building lasting confidence Real-life stories from academia, startup life, and the TEDx stage Why your journey to confidence is unique and how to make it sustainable Insights on publishing, self-talk, resilience, and celebrating progress Where to find more from Christiane Schroeter and her frameworks for lasting growth Connect with Christiane: Website: https://doctorchristiane.com LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/christianeschroeter/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/@doctor.christiane Facebook: https://facebook.com/doctorchristiane X: https://x.com/Christiane_711   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@doctor.christiane TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hello.happy.nest Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/doctor.christiane/ Threads: https://www.threads.net/@doctor.christiane Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt invisible on a Zoom call, like your presence barely registers with the group no matter how hard you try? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive into the real problem behind our digital disconnect and it’s not your lighting or camera quality. I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and I’m here to help you transform from a digital ghost into someone who truly commands attention in any virtual room. In this solo episode, I unpack the secret sauce that the top 1% of virtual communicators use to create genuine psychological presence. Forget about buying new gear, the real difference lies in how you structure your message, how you engage with others, and the micro-moves you use to project true authority online. I introduce my SyncLink System, a practical framework built around three pillars: clarity, curiosity, and connection. We start by exploring the Clarity Filter, why simplicity is the new authority and how complexity kills engagement in a virtual setting. I share a powerful technique from John Maxwell called the 8th Grade Rule, and give you a three-step process to make sure your ideas land perfectly every time. You’ll hear how this has helped my executive clients go from being ignored to truly leading their meetings. Next, I reveal the Curiosity Protocol: a game-changing mindset shift inspired by Tim Elmore’s ‘Listen Like You’re Wrong’ approach. I walk you through how to lower tension, earn the right to be heard, and transform conflict into connection all while strengthening long-term relationships instead of just “winning” arguments. Finally, I get tactical with the Connection Catalyst the deliberate micro-moves that signal your presence and build digital gravitas, such as mastering camera contact instead of mere eye contact, using intentional pauses for authority, and deploying name anchors and micro-validations to keep your audience truly engaged. I explain exactly how these small behaviors add up to massive results over the course of a typical meeting. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why psychological presence outweighs technical upgrades for digital influence The three pillars of the SyncLink System: clarity, curiosity, and connection How to pass the “8th Grade Rule” and make your message instantly understandable Strategies for winning allies instead of just points in a debate The power of “Listen Like You’re Wrong” and the 10% truth principle Why and how you need to combine camera contact with intentional pauses Tools for name anchoring and micro-validation to make people feel truly seen A simple, step-by-step action plan to build new habits without feeling awkward or forced If you’re tired of dull virtual meetings and want to make your presence felt on every call, this is the episode you don’t want to miss. I also share how to get your hands on my ebook, The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, plus details on joining the Formula for Public Speaking course. Remember, your voice has the power to change the world. Let’s bridge the digital gap and help you connect, lead, and be understood no matter where you are. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what it really takes to capture an audience—whether you're on stage, in front of a camera, or just showing up in a pivotal conversation? Today, we're answering exactly that. In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I'm diving deep with Cam Beaudoin, a video agency founder who specializes in helping speakers, coaches, and entrepreneurs get noticed, trusted, and booked through powerful, story-driven video content. Cam brings all kinds of energy and insight, and we quickly get into the heart of what it means to project confidence—especially when working with video. We talk about the challenge of connecting through the lens, why you might need to raise your energy even more than you would in a live audience, and how the right tactics can turn your videos from boring to brilliant. You'll learn Cam’s journey from speaking about disability inclusion for IBM to finding a critical pain point in speakers who were overwhelmed or embarrassed by creating demo reels. We explore the myth of thinking you’ve “arrived” as a speaker and the real value of practicing, watching yourself on video, and continually improving your craft. Cam shares practical strategies to critique your own video performances, emphasizing the importance of focusing on both visual and audio aspects separately, and matching your emotional tone to your message. We also tackle the branding dilemma, how to become the go-to expert in your field instead of jumping from topic to topic, and why true authority takes effort, focus, and some soul-searching. Cam shares anecdotes about speakers who struggle to maintain brand consistency, and we discuss how testimonials and real transformations anchor your brand in the minds of event planners and clients. Here's what you'll hear covered in the episode: Projecting energy and connecting with audiences on camera versus in-person Cam’s transition from disability inclusion speaker to video expert for speakers The power of watching your own videos (and using mute/audio to analyze yourself) The opportunity cost of mediocre video and practicing to maximize impact Branding: how to narrow your focus, build authority, and be remembered for one thing The journey and challenges of pivoting within a brand or niche Getting known, getting hired, and why self-promotion matters (even for seasoned pros) Using YouTube as a video showcase for event planners and clients Crafting irresistible hooks for videos with practical examples TEDx and The Moth as storytelling formats—what they teach about engagement and structure Rethinking origin stories, using client success as compelling narratives, and making any story relatable Essential communication skills that cross all formats: empathy, understanding pain vs. pleasure, and focusing on the listener’s needs Defining authenticity, professionalism, and how to dress and act for credibility The role of feedback, openness to critique, and the realities of expert status If you're ready to level up your speaking and video presence, build a resilient brand, and confidently show up in every conversation, this episode has the tools and the real talk you need. Don’t miss my chat with Cam Beaudoin, it’s packed with actionable insights and a few laughs along the way. Connect with Cam: Website: https://www.thefrequentspeaker.com/speaker-booking-agency-landing   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cambeaudoin Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefrequentspeaker YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheFrequentSpeaker Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt like a total fraud, trying to perform as an expert instead of actually becoming one? In this episode, I dig into one of the biggest traps communicators face: the expert facade and the fear of failure that keeps us stuck. I'm Tim Newman, former college professor turned communication coach, and today on “Speaking with Confidence,” we're tackling the myth that failure is the enemy of success especially for Gen Z, where every misstep can feel like it's broadcast to the world on a permanent record. We often think that to be taken seriously, we need to show up perfectly, but that mindset actually blocks progress. I share two personal stories the first from my college days where I was so nervous during my first speech that I literally threw up in class, and a second, more recent example where I blanked and spelled my own name wrong in front of a nurse. These moments were embarrassing, but they weren’t endpoints. They were powerful pivots that taught me vital lessons about authenticity and human connection. In this episode, I walk you through my simple, three-part Pivot Protocol designed to transform every failure into a strategic advantage: no toxic positivity here, just practical, clear communication strategy. You’ll learn the difference between “tuition payments” (failures that teach you something) and “tragic errors” (ones you repeat without learning). We dive into why hiding mistakes actually creates communication breakdowns, blocking help and trust from your team or boss. Here’s what you’ll take away from this episode: The truth about why holding up a perfect expert image is a trap that shuts down learning How to reframe failures as essential data instead of identity-defining flaws Step-by-step instructions for using the Pivot Protocol: The Autopsy: A cold, emotion-free look at what went wrong and what it revealed The Extraction: Finding the strategic insight that only failure could give you The Leap: Turning your new insight into a confident, public move forward How I personally moved from being the most nervous speaker in class to a coach who builds real connection through vulnerability Practical questions for breaking down your mistakes, so you stop letting embarrassment run the show Why communicating your learned insights, instead of just the mistake, builds stronger trust and credibility How to shift your team dynamic from defensive and blame-focused to curious and innovative If you’re ready to stop protecting your image and start protecting the lesson, this episode is for you. Progress not perfection is the goal. Try applying the Pivot Protocol to a small failure this week and watch how your communication clarity and confidence grow. And don’t forget to grab your free ebook, The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, at SpeakingWithConfidencePodcast.com or register for the Formulas for Public Speaking course. Remember: your voice has the power to change the world. See you next time! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever looked like the picture of confidence on the outside, while secretly battling feelings of self-doubt or imposter syndrome on the inside? If so, this episode of Speaking with Confidence is for you. On this week’s episode, I explore what it really means to “feel confident,” not just look confident, and how we can bridge the gap between external appearance and our internal belief. I’m joined by the fantastic Joanna Zhang, international speaker, award-winning entrepreneur, and founder of The Operations Genius. Joanna has an incredible story of personal and professional transformation, having not only led her business to multiple international awards, but also overcome her own struggles with the imposter syndrome that so many high achievers face. Joanna and I dive deep into the journey from external validation to authentic self-assurance. We get honest about what it’s like to achieve on paper but still be wracked with self-doubt, and how that pattern shows up for so many high achievers. Joanna shares her firsthand experiences with winning big awards but initially not feeling “enough” on the inside, her transition into genuine self-celebration, and how she began to recognize and embrace her own strengths instead of endlessly comparing herself to others. We reflect on why it’s so hard for so many of us to accept compliments, celebrate wins, or acknowledge our growth and how to start shifting that mindset. Joanna introduces some practical strategies (including the genius idea of a “happy fund” to reward yourself!) for building and maintaining real, lasting self-confidence. We also dive into: The trap of comparing your weaknesses to others’ strengths The pivotal shift from “doing” to “being” and why slowing down is essential for real growth Recognizing the signals that your external confidence isn’t matched internally How to celebrate small wins and why it matters so much for long-term fulfillment Joanna’s journey from operating in a masculine leadership and communication style, especially in a male-dominated field, to finding balance and power in feminine energy and self-acceptance Why skills are only part of being an effective communicator: how your inner state and intention drive impact, connection, and influence Letting go of judgment and perfectionism to speak “from the flow,” and simple exercises to help you break free from fear and just get started (spoiler: you’ll surprise yourself!) The biggest confidence wounds facing the younger generation, and the influence of social media and family on self-worth Concrete actions you can start taking now to build up your authentic confidence, no matter where you’re starting from Whether you’re a leader, entrepreneur, creative, or simply someone seeking a more confident presence, Joanna’s approach is all about acceptance, celebration, and letting go of old patterns that no longer serve you. If you’ve ever wondered why outer confidence and inner confidence don’t always match and what practical steps you can take to finally align the two, this episode will give you encouragement, actionable ideas, and a supportive reminder that you absolutely have the power to change your relationship with yourself, your work, and your communication. Connect with Joanna: Website: https://operationsgenius.net/   LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/zhang-joanna/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/entrepreneursoulmate/    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/18BGiVkHpK/?mibextid=qi2Omg    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCViTPty9wg9JXwHMvoKWnkA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why you can’t just “be more confident,” no matter how many pep talks you hear or inspirational quotes you read? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the frustrating reality that traditional confidence advice is often nothing more than a vibe check—temporary and fleeting, especially when the pressure is on. As a recovering college professor turned communication coach, I’ve seen firsthand how misunderstood confidence can be. Today, I take you through a forensic audit of your confidence, showing you how to treat it as a system—not a feeling. We dive deep into the root causes that keep so many of us stuck in cycles of self-doubt, particularly for Gen Z, who face an identity crisis amplified by social media and external validation. I break down the three primary psychological triggers that hold you back: the imposter syndrome amplifier, the perfectionist trap, and the external validation void. These “gaslighters,” as I call them, create toxic narratives that sabotage your confidence and keep you chasing impossible standards. But we go beyond identifying the problem. This episode is packed with actionable strategies to override those default settings. I walk you through a 48-hour trigger journal exercise to pinpoint your specific confidence dips, and introduce the Value Inventory—an evidence-based approach that forces your brain to face the reality of your skills and accomplishments. Drawing on concepts like Ryan Leak’s “chasing failure,” I show you how to use small, intentional failures as research tools to dismantle the perfectionism trap. We build what I call your resilience firewall, connecting your audit findings to the three pillars that matter most: planning, research, and practice. By targeting your vulnerability points with specific plans, actively acquiring competence, and collecting low-stakes feedback, you create evidence-based assurance, moving from the feeling of being an imposter to speaking with unshakable authenticity. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why “just be more confident” is useless advice and what actually works The three psychological triggers that sabotage genuine confidence How to do a confidence forensic audit using a 48-hour trigger journal Building a Value Inventory to fight imposter syndrome with real evidence Turning failure into research, not shame Creating a resilience firewall through targeted planning, research, and practice Why confidence isn’t a fixed trait, but a dynamic system you maintain Actionable steps to start building evidence-based assurance today Ready to upgrade your mental operating system and build real, lasting confidence? Start your 48-Hour Trigger Journal now and collect your first piece of evidence. For more tips and resources, check out speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com, grab your free ebook, and register for my Formulas for Public Speaking course. Remember, progress beats perfection every time—and your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what it really means to speak with confidence, and how your words, presence, and mindset can transform every conversation? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I explore that question and much more with a truly remarkable guest. I’m Tim Newman, your host—recovering college professor turned communication coach—and today I’m joined by Antoni Lacinai, an internationally acclaimed workplace communication expert, keynote speaker, and author. Not only has Antoni delivered masterclasses worldwide on compassionate leadership and empathy-driven engagement, but he’s also written and co-written 14 business books, hundreds of magazine columns, a novel, a radio theater play, and even released his first song on Spotify. Clearly, he’s not just a business mind; he's a creative soul with a unique perspective on what it means to be authentic in our work and communication. We kick off the episode by diving into Antoni’s creative pursuits, including his Christmas song written for fellow speakers—because it’s important to show you’re more than just your job title. We talk about bringing humanity and authenticity back into business, how being creative makes us more relatable, and why it helps people see us beyond our professional roles. From there, the conversation moves into pivotal moments in Antoni’s journey that led him to recognize communication as his superpower, such as being the only seven-year-old at a parent-teacher meeting brave enough to raise his hand—and discovering the impact that being listened to can have on a young mind. We discuss the importance of listening and encouragement for children, and how that applies to interactions throughout our lives. We also touch on research showing how positive recognition drives better team performance, and how small acts of kindness—like simply saying “good morning”—can profoundly elevate workplace culture. Here’s what we covered: Antoni’s creative journey and the value of authenticity How pivotal childhood moments and being listened to shaped his confidence The impact of positive recognition and kindness in the workplace Practical ways to build confidence and get into the right mindset before communicating The three communication superpowers: empathy, clarity, and energy How to balance these superpowers for world-class communication The importance of emotional intelligence and practicing new habits The role of analog vs. digital communication and what AI means for human connection Why SMART goals might not be enough, and the alternative model of HAPPY goals Encouragement for listeners to use their voice to make a difference By the end of this episode, you’ll know the secret ingredients to speaking with confidence—and why your words truly matter. Thanks for listening, and as always, remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Antoni: Website: https://www.antonilacinai.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lacinai/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/antonilacinai/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why some networking conversations feel awkward and stale while others just flow with authenticity and connection? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle exactly that question: why those standard "What do you do?" Icebreakers fail so spectacularly, especially with Gen Z, and how you can transform surface-level small talk into meaningful, memorable conversations. I dive deep into the challenges of genuine communication in both personal and professional settings. As someone who's spent years studying and coaching communication, I've seen too many capable people get overlooked not because they're not ready, but because they haven't learned how to confidently show up and connect. This episode is all about stepping off the script and embracing authenticity in every conversation that counts. In this episode, I walk you through my Connection Catalyst framework, designed to help you shift from fact-finding to insight discovery, and show you how strategic curiosity can make you stand out in any room, especially if you’re looking to connect with Gen Z or anyone craving genuine dialogue over tired transactional questions. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why typical networking questions ("What do you do?", "Where are you from?") rarely create real connection The psychology behind scriptive responses and why Gen Z sees right through transactional conversations How boring questions signal a lack of curiosity, and why deep, value-driven questions build trust The three principles of the Connection Catalyst: moving from information to insight, creating a value exchange, and building momentum for deeper conversations Examples of transforming closed questions into open-ended ones that uncover beliefs, vulnerabilities, and real stories (like replacing "Do you like your job?" with "What's a belief you had about your industry that turned out to be completely wrong?") The importance of the hidden value exchange in networking how strategic questions demonstrate genuine interest and build social capital Practical tips for weaving strategic curiosity into your conversations without sounding robotic, including the use of conversational bridges and active listening Why building rapport matters before diving into deeper questions, and how to keep the conversation comfortable and engaging A challenge for listeners: replace one standard question in your next conversation with a strategic one and notice the change in dynamic Reminders on progress over perfection, and resources for public speaking and communication improvement If you want actionable ways to upgrade your networking skills and create conversations that matter, this episode will give you the tools and the confidence to do just that. Listen in, and let’s start having dialogues that actually build connection, not just check boxes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what separates an effective leader from a high-performing technician, and how personal branding can make or break your success? Today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence dives deep into these questions with practical wisdom, actionable steps, and a fresh perspective on leadership in the modern world. I’m Tim Newman, your host—recovering college professor, communication coach, and curious asker of big questions. This week, I had the pleasure of speaking with Walter Dusseldorp, better known as the Dutch Mentor. Walter’s journey is a fascinating one: from aspiring physician and paramedic, to executive leader, pilot, mentor, and now founder of the Pure Leadership Power program and the Smart Performance app. His story is packed with lessons on adaptability, growth, and communication that anyone can apply. We started with Walter’s unique background, touching on his formative experiences in Holland, responding to 9/11 as a paramedic, and catching the flying bug that led him to pursue piloting as both passion and profession. Walter shared insights about transitions, living with purpose, and the moment that changed his outlook: realizing that dreams need to be lived today, not put off for tomorrow. From there, we explored Walter’s evolution from technical roles into mentoring and coaching—how he recognized a need for better leadership, saw the gap between technical expertise and people skills, and decided to help others make that pivotal transition. He shared how a growth mindset and continuous learning are essential for becoming an effective communicator and leader, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, seeking mentorship, and taking ownership of your own development. If you’re looking for concrete steps to amplify your leadership, hone your communication skills, and clarify your “why,” this conversation is for you. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Walter’s journey from paramedic and pilot to leadership mentor The power of transitions and living with purpose Moving from technical expertise to effective leadership Why communication is the number one reason teams fail—and how to fix it The importance of continuous learning, growth mindset, and daily habits Building and protecting your personal brand (and what mistakes to avoid) The difference between mentoring and coaching Outward-facing leadership and the need for confident humility Why vulnerability and seeking mentorship accelerate your growth Creating a “why” statement that differentiates you in interviews and organizations The perils of groupthink, how it devastated the Challenger mission and companies like Blockbuster The importance of dialogue, civil discourse, and learning to speak the language of younger generations Practical frameworks for leadership, including Lean Six Sigma and the Pure Leadership Power program Walter’s Smart Performance app: what it offers and how to get involved Walter brings a rare mix of technical expertise, personal experience, and pragmatic Dutch wisdom, making this episode one of our most insight-packed to date. If you’re ready to take your leadership to the next level and create a brand that truly reflects who you are, tune in! You can connect with Walter on LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTube, or email him directly at [email protected]. The Smart Performance app launches January 1st—reach out if you’re interested in joining as a founding member. Thanks for listening to Speaking with Confidence. Remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Walter: Website: https://www.thedutchmentor.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/walter-dusseldorp-mba-fache-8965b610/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thedutchmentor Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you an introvert who’s ever felt pressured to be “more outgoing” at work? Maybe you’ve been told to “speak up more” or “just be charismatic”—but trying on someone else’s style feels fake and leaves you burnt out. What if your natural quietness isn’t the obstacle everyone says it is, but actually your biggest professional edge? That’s the question we’re diving into in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. I’m Tim Newman, your host—a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today’s episode is all about turning the corporate world’s obsession with extroversion on its head. We’ll explore the evidence that introverts not only belong in high-visibility roles, but often outperform their extroverted colleagues, especially when it comes to leadership and influence. In this episode, I get real about the exhaustion introverts feel under non-stop pressure to network and perform. I break down research from top journals that shows the loudest voice isn’t necessarily the most influential. Instead, introverted professionals possess some major superpowers: deep listening, keen observation, and a thoughtful approach that builds psychological safety and trust on teams. Here’s what we cover in this jam-packed episode: The myth of extroversion as the only model for leadership (and what the latest research says instead) How introverts’ natural strength as listeners can build powerful trust and influence within teams A practical explanation of the 80/20 listening rule for meetings, so you can contribute with confidence and precision Turning your natural tendency to pause before speaking into a deliberate mark of thoughtfulness (not hesitation) The “pause and pivot” technique: responding to tough questions without panic or filler, and commanding the room when you do speak A real-life coaching case study to show these strategies in action The Precision Protocol: a simple, three-step framework for making every contribution count by preparing smarter, bridging smoothly into discussion, and dropping concise, value-packed insights How using these strengths consistently can build a reputation as the person everyone wants to hear from—no fake charisma required The unique power of this approach for Gen Z professionals, remote workers, and anyone seeking greater authenticity in the workplace A quick-start action step so you can begin leveraging your introvert edge for your next big meeting I wrap up with a reminder: Progress beats perfection, and your voice—used thoughtfully—can transform your entire team, project, or organization. If you want to go deeper, be sure to check out my conversation with Stacy Chasen from January for even more strategies for quiet communicators. And don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free resources and to sign up for my new course. Remember, your quiet nature is a strength you just haven’t been shown how to use—until now. Thanks for tuning in, and I’ll talk to you next time! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered how the world’s top interrogators communicate with calm, confidence, and true connection—even in high-stakes, emotionally charged scenarios? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive into this question and so much more with Brad Beeler, a retired United States Secret Service special agent and course manager for interview and interrogation techniques at the National Center for Credibility Assessment. Brad’s career is nothing short of extraordinary: he served 25 years in the Secret Service, spent 17 years as a polygraph examiner, and has conducted more criminal polygraph examinations than anyone else in Secret Service history. Brad's experience spans thousands of interviews with some of the most difficult individuals—often in cases involving the sexual exploitation of children. What struck me in our conversation is how central communication is, not just for uncovering the truth, but for creating safety, trust, and effectiveness in the most challenging environments. Brad shares why calm leads to calm, and how emotional contagion, body language, and tone shape every interaction—whether you’re in a high-stakes interview or talking with your family. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Brad Beeler’s career journey and transition to teaching The power of calm and emotional contagion in communication The science of body language, tone, and presence Listening as a full-contact sport and why neutrality matters Practical strategies for building connections and safe spaces How to research and prepare for impactful conversations Safety and privacy in the digital age, especially for children Insights from Brad’s book, "Tell Me Everything" Understanding horns and halos and confirmation bias The difference between ethical influence and manipulation Treating everyone with respect and the importance of truth-finding You’ll walk away from this episode inspired to rethink how you show up in every conversation—with strategies and mindsets used by one of the world’s top communicators. If you want to connect with Brad, visit BradleyBeeler.com or find him on LinkedIn or Instagram at BradBeeler1865. Thank you for joining us, and remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Brad: Website: https://bradleybeeler.com    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bradbeeler1865/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bradbeeler1865   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt guilty saying no, even when your brain screams that you don’t have the time or energy to help? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle one of the most challenging—and universal—skills for communication and leadership: how to set boundaries and say no effectively, without damaging relationships or your credibility. As I celebrate the podcast’s two-year anniversary, I’m excited to announce a special giveaway for listeners—a free 3-hour one-on-one coaching package for anyone who leaves a review and tags me on social media. But before we dive into the details of the contest, let’s get real about the Gen Z struggle, which honestly affects almost all of us: we want to be helpful, but we desperately need to protect our time and energy. This episode is all about striking that balance, and learning to say a strategic no that actually builds trust and influence. Today, I’m guiding you through real-world strategies grounded in science and research for better boundary-setting. I start by unpacking why it feels so hard to say no: our brains literally perceive it as a social threat, triggering fight-or-flight mode thanks to the amygdala. Most people fall into two traps when refusing a request—either ghosting (avoiding the person altogether) or becoming a jerk (being overly blunt or aggressive). Both hurt your professional reputation and relationships. Then there’s the spotlight effect, which tricks us into believing everyone will notice and judge our refusal way more harshly than reality suggests. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why saying no feels dangerous, and the neuroscience behind our aversion to refusal Common failure modes to avoid: ghosting and aggressive rejection The Value Anchor Method explained and demonstrated with real-world scripts How to say no to your boss, teammate, or friend without burning bridges Tips for maintaining professionalism and protecting your reputation The mindset shift from seeing boundaries as walls to viewing them as foundations for strong partnerships A practical implementation challenge for listeners to practice the three-part refusal framework Resources for deeper learning, including my video with the NOPE Coach Suzanne Kolberg and my Formula for Public Speaking course Details about the two-year anniversary contest and how to enter If you’re ready to upgrade your communication skills and build lasting influence—plus maybe win some free coaching—this episode gives you everything you need to start saying no with confidence, clarity, and kindness. Let’s turn boundaries into bridges for stronger, healthier connections in both your work and personal life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you find your true voice and lead with confidence when you’re the only one in the room who’s different? That’s the question at the heart of today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence. Today, I had the pleasure of sitting down with empowerment executive coach Varuschka Nagesar, whose rich and diverse background weaves together corporate law, global commercial leadership, and transformative coaching for high-achieving women. If you’ve ever struggled to speak up, felt like the outsider, or navigated culture clashes at work, this conversation is for you. We started by diving into Varuschka’s extraordinary journey, from her roots and legal training in post-apartheid South Africa—a world shaped by diversity, multiple languages, and complex cultural nuances—to major commercial leadership roles in the UK, US, the Middle East, and Europe. She shared powerful stories about learning to honor different communication styles, from deciphering idioms in new countries to gaining respect for those doing business in a second or third language. Her insight: real connection starts with meeting people where they are, not just linguistically but culturally and emotionally. Here’s what we covered in today’s episode: How global and generational diversity shapes communication and trust at work Why language and nonverbal cues matter—and how to navigate misunderstandings across cultures Dealing with being “the only one” in the room and turning that into your strength The difference between confidence and self-belief—and how to build both How self-limiting beliefs show up, and simple, real-world strategies to overcome them The role of core values and intuition in major life and career decisions Real-life stories and mindset shifts that helped Varuschka stop “swimming upstream” and find alignment Advice for listeners on taking the first steps toward authenticity, fulfillment, and empowered leadership If you’re ready to step into your full influence, communicate more powerfully, or simply need inspiration to trust yourself, this episode is a must-listen. Thank you to Varuschka Nagesar for sharing her journey, wisdom, and practical takeaways. And as always, remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Varuschka: Website: varuschkanagesar.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/varuschka-nagesar/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wrapped up a presentation and just felt like something was off? Maybe you had all the right data, your facts were solid, but somehow, the audience just didn’t connect—or worse, you left the room wondering if your expertise really came through. If you’ve had that lingering doubt, you’re not alone, and in today’s episode, we’re answering the critical question: What are the invisible habits that might be secretly undermining your authority and what can you do to fix them? Hi, I’m Tim Newman, host of the Speaking with Confidence podcast, and in this episode, I’m sharing the two biggest culprits I see sabotaging even the most brilliant communicators: a subtle vocal pattern that makes you sound like you’re asking for permission, and body language that screams nervousness instead of confidence. Instead of trying to sound perfect or change your personality, we’re getting practical with the “status reset protocol”—an actionable system you can use straight away to project authentic authority when you speak. It’s just you and me digging deep into the mechanics of presence and authority. You’ll hear real-life examples, simple frameworks, and low-pressure exercises that you can start practicing immediately, whether you’re prepping for a big pitch or just explaining your work to a friend. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why up-talking—that rising inflection at the end of statements—can subconsciously make you sound unsure, even when you’re an expert. The hidden psychological impact of vocal patterns and how your audience’s brains interpret them. The most common physical habits that undermine your credibility, from “T. Rex arms” to the “fig leaf” and the infamous “windmill.” Why leaders look comfortable in their own space and how fidgeting or over-controlling your gestures actually backfires. How to become aware of your invisible communication habits (and why recording yourself is the most powerful tool you have). The “Punctuate, Don’t Pacify” method for transforming your vocal delivery, making sure your key points land with certainty rather than doubt. The “Gesture with Intent” framework so your hands support your message instead of highlighting nervous energy—and how to keep movements purposeful, not robotic. Easy, low-stakes ways to practice these new skills before you’re under pressure in a big presentation. The status reset protocol: picking one habit to watch for this week, building awareness, and gradually building unshakable authority. Plus, I share details about our special giveaway to celebrate the podcast’s second anniversary, including how you can win a free, three-hour one-on-one coaching package focused on communication and leadership skills. If you’re ready to stop unintentionally asking for approval and start commanding the room as a true expert, this episode is packed with practical strategies to make that leap. As always, head to speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for a free eBook, more resources, and info about the Formula for Public Speaking course. Remember—progress, not perfection, and your voice truly can change the world. Let’s build your confidence, one episode at a time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if you could make people say “yes” more often—ethically? On today's episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into the science and art of ethical persuasion. Many of us have wondered, “How do I convince people without feeling pushy or manipulative?” Today, we’re answering that, exploring how understanding human decision-making can massively improve your influence—at work, at home, or on stage. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Patrick Van Der Burght, a founding member of the Cialdini Institute, licensed trainer, and business partner of Dr. Robert Cialdini—the author of the legendary book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. If you’re in the communication or leadership space, you already know Cialdini’s name—so having Patrick Van Der Burght join us is a real treat. Not only does he co-host the podcast Ethical Persuasion Unlocked, but he’s been teaching ethical influence to professionals for over two decades, helping them accelerate toward their personal and professional goals using behavioral science. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why “no” usually just means “I don’t know yet”—not outright rejection How most decisions are made unconsciously, and what that means for communication today The difference between being liked and being similar, and how to use both Why giving value first (reciprocity) increases compliance and loyalty How to use testimonials and social proof for maximum impact Ways authority can be established ethically on stage or in business, without losing credibility The surprising power of scarcity and loss framing (“What will it cost you if you don’t act?”) How getting someone to take a small, public action makes them much more likely to follow through Why surveys and focus groups can so badly miss the mark on what truly influences behavior How these principles work not just professionally but in everyday relationships—persuading your kids, family, and friends This conversation is loaded with actionable insight, memorable stories, and some eye-opening science. Patrick is offering a free ebook and other resources—don’t miss those in the show notes. And if you found this episode valuable, please drop me a comment or review—Patrick and I would love to know your feedback. Tune in to discover how you can start hearing “yes” more often—without ever sacrificing your ethics! Connect with Patrick: Website: https://ethicalpersuasion.com.au/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ethicalpersuasionLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-van-der-burght/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ethicalpersuasion/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ethical_persuasion/Twitter: https://x.com/yesmoreoftenTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ethicalpersuasionBook: https://yesmoreoften.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what really goes on behind the scenes of a high-pressure, time-limited public speaking presentation—and how a communication coach turns even his own missteps into teachable moments? In this special episode of Speaking with Confidence, I pull back the curtain on my recent experience presenting a Pecha Kucha at PodFest 2026, while offering you practical coaching advice you can apply to your own speaking journey. As we celebrate the podcast’s two-year anniversary (with a special giveaway—don't miss the details!), I reflect on what it means to embrace confidence, resilience, and the power of vulnerability on stage. This episode is a bit different: using my own Pecha Kucha talk as a case study, I break down the presentation, highlight what worked, where I stumbled, and how you can learn from real-life examples. If you’ve ever let fear hold you back from speaking up, stepping onto a stage, or pressing “record” on a podcast, this one’s for you. I’m joined at the top of the show by Roddy Galbra, who introduces me before I launch into my presentation breakdown. From that point, I take you step-by-step through everything: prepping the talk and building slides under a deadline, battling nerves, and the moment-by-moment coaching insights I’ve gained both from experience and good old-fashioned trial and error. Along the way, I share how tools like ChatGPT can be a feedback partner (and sometimes a brutal truth-teller!) when preparing for big moments. Here’s what you’ll get in this episode: The inside story of my Pecha Kucha experience with only five minutes and 20 auto-advancing slides Candid reflections on starting too fast, handling nerves, embracing pauses, and managing mistakes as they happen Why humor, humility, and authenticity work better than perfection on stage Recognizing the importance of connecting your story to a clear call to action The value of critiquing your own performances—and the difference between authority and arrogance in public speaking Insights into how your fears might be tied up with your identity, and how to use that to fuel growth instead of hesitation Why your audience doesn’t connect with perfect—they connect with “messy,” real stories Actionable advice on what to improve in any talk: punching up your openings and closings, planting your feet, letting silence do the heavy lifting, and giving your audience a repeatable mental model they’ll remember Encouragement to step up, take action, and use your unique voice, regardless of nerves or previous stumbles If you’re ready to move past fear and into progress—not perfection—this episode will encourage and challenge you to take your next speaking risk. Don’t forget, I’m running a special giveaway: leave a review for Speaking with Confidence, share it on social media and tag me, and you could win a free three-hour coaching package with me focused on communication and leadership skills. Tune in, learn from my journey, and remember—your voice has the power to change your world. Talk soon,Tim Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How prepared are today’s students for the realities of the workforce, and what can we do to close the career readiness gap? That’s the big question we tackle in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. This week, I’m joined by Mike Wysocki, an award-winning author of Careers by the People and a seasoned veteran with over 30 years in tech sales. Mike’s journey is both cautionary and inspiring. After launching a successful career without the tools or guidance he needed, Mike has dedicated his life to helping the next generation develop the soft and professional skills they need to succeed. We dive deep into the hard truths and realities of career preparation, from what’s missing in both higher education and K12 settings, to the vital importance of communication and other soft skills. We talk about why so many students—especially those who are first-generation and come from working-class backgrounds—are being left behind in a system that focuses more on education as an end in itself, and less on real-world outcomes. You’ll also hear: The story behind Careers by the People and why Mike felt compelled to write it How he gathered authentic stories—from CEOs to actuaries to accountants—to help other students avoid the same pitfalls he encountered Why soft skills (or what some call “power skills”) like public speaking, communication, teamwork, and writing are more important than ever—and actionable ways for students to develop them, whether through Toastmasters, acting classes, or even stand-up comedy Practical strategies for career exploration, including talking to those inside—and outside—the industries you’re considering, seeking out summer jobs, volunteering, and joining professional associations The difference real-world experience makes, and why getting out of your hometown for a first job can open up your world The importance of follow-up and adding value in networking, not just collecting contacts Why students need trusted advisors from a range of ages and backgrounds, and why advice from peers isn’t enough What gives us hope about the next generation, and what still keeps us up at night You’ll also catch us going back and forth on what colleges and employers could be doing differently, how parents and students can ask the right questions during the college decision process, and what we as educators and mentors can do to make the biggest difference. Whether you’re a student, a parent, an educator, or someone thinking about your next step, this episode gives you the tools and real talk you need to move forward with clarity, courage, and confidence. Tune in to hear the full conversation with Mike Wysocki—and stay with us till the end for his tips on making the most of every career opportunity and how to get in touch with him for more insights. Connect with Mike: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mike-wysocki/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@careersbythepeople    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a conversation with a complicated coworker, wondering, “How do I actually communicate with this person to get things moving forward?” In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive right into the core question: How can you effectively communicate with complicated people—especially when, let’s be honest, we’re all complicated in our own unique ways? Hi, I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and I’m excited to guide you through practical strategies for navigating communication challenges at work. In today’s episode, I reference Ryan Leak’s insightful book, How to Work with Complicated People, which inspired much of the approach I share. We kick things off with an all-too-familiar workplace scenario: a colleague agrees to a deadline with smiles and nods, only to send a passive aggressive note a few days later that derails the project. Your instinct may be to fire back or just give up, but I explain why that reaction rarely solves the underlying problem—because the real issue is how complicated humans communicate with each other. Here’s what we covered: Why communicating with complicated people is a universal challenge The importance of translating your message for different audiences How workplace communication direction changes your approach (up, across, and down) Strategies for communicating up: focusing on outcomes and impact with leadership How to handle peer-to-peer conflict through respect, questions, and common ground Four keys for giving clear, motivating direction to your team The difference between tactical fixes and building a true communication system The foundational skill of knowing your audience and message, and why it’s essential for every workplace conversation Whether you’re reporting to a boss, negotiating with coworkers, or leading a team, you’ll leave this episode with actionable techniques to stop the cycle of miscommunication and start showing up—every single time—with clarity and confidence. Remember, the goal isn’t perfection—it’s consistent progress. Before I sign off, don’t forget to grab your free eBook, “The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them,” at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com, and check out our Formula for Public Speaking course. Thanks for listening and always remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why taking action beats raw talent every single time, or how you can leverage new technology like AI without losing the heart and soul of your message? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re getting to the root of what it means to communicate with clarity, build your confidence as a storyteller, and stand out in our fast-changing world. I’m Tim Newman, your host, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I’m joined by the incredible Jim Edwards. Jim’s a true legend in the world of online business and communication, with almost three decades of experience helping entrepreneurs, coaches, speakers, and professionals get their messages heard. Not only is he a bestselling author of over three dozen books, but he’s also helped countless people find their voice and capitalize on their knowledge. Listeners will also hear actionable advice on: Finding and sharing your own stories (even if you think you don’t have any) Developing patience and delayed gratification for long-term success Building confidence as a speaker through preparation and practice Using writing as a tool for clarifying your thoughts and improving your communication Harnessing AI as a creative accelerant, not a replacement for your ideas Understanding the new role of creators and curators in a world awash with content How to recognize and communicate your true value as a coach, speaker, or business owner Whether you’re trying to write your first book, become a more compelling speaker, or navigate the digital landscape with authenticity, this episode offers real, practical steps and mindset shifts that will help you take your message and your confidence to the next level. I’m so grateful to Jim Edwards for joining me and sharing his wisdom (and contagious enthusiasm). If you’re looking for even more confidence-building resources, don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook and more tools to help you unleash your voice! Connect with Jim: Website: https://jimedwards.com     LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thejimedwardsmethod/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejimedwards    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JimEdwardsFan X: https://x.com/RealJimEdwards YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jimEdwards TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejimedwards Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why some leaders inspire trust and action while others leave their audience confused or disengaged? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dig into a hard-earned lesson from early in my own teaching journey: the dangers of overcomplicating communication. Back when I started out as a teacher, my eagerness to impress led me to present high-level material to high school freshmen and sophomores only to realize that complexity wasn’t a sign of intelligence but a barrier to understanding. That moment of frustration, both for me and my students, revealed something powerful: people can’t appreciate your knowledge if you can’t explain it in a way they can grasp. In this episode, I walk you through transforming the way you communicate, whether you're presenting to a boardroom, pitching a client, or simply leading a team. I draw on insights from leadership expert John Maxwell to introduce the law of simplicity, clarity, brevity, and focus on three mandates that can take your influence to the next level. Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode: Why complexity pushes people away and can be a career killer How trying to “sound smart” with jargon or convoluted terminology signals insecurity, not expertise What actually builds trust and gets you noticed in leadership roles The 8th grader test: why your message must be clear enough for a middle schooler to understand John Maxwell’s three mandates for powerful communication clarity, brevity, and focus and how to apply them to all your messages Simple steps you can use to audit and improve your own communication before any meeting or presentation The real mindset shift: moving from ego-driven to audience-first How these principles not only change how others perceive you, but directly impact your career progress By the end of this episode, you’ll be equipped with a practical framework to strip away confusion, communicate with true confidence, and make sure your message always lands. Remember, leadership starts with the ability to make the complex clear. I hope you enjoy the episode and start putting these mandates into practice right away because your voice really does have the power to change you. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text What separates a good communicator from a truly exceptional one and how can you ensure you’re not holding yourself back from the career you want? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re diving into the core of leadership communication, self-awareness, and the ever-changing landscape of workplace communication especially as technology like AI becomes more prominent. I’m Tim Newman, your host and a recovering college professor turned communication coach. Today, I’m joined by leadership consultant, seasoned executive educator, and author, Michael de Lisser. With over 25 years of experience creating customized leadership development programs, coaching 500+ executives, and shaping the next generation of leaders at the University of Utah, Michael de Lisser brings wisdom, practical insights, and real stories to every answer. Here’s what we cover in this jam-packed episode: The pivotal reasons leaders get fired and how communication is often at the root Michael de Lisser’s go-to method for transforming communication habits, from videofeedback to new behaviors The power of self-awareness and catching your “blind spots” early Recording yourself: why it's uncomfortable, but vital for growth Filler words, over-explaining, and other common bad habits and how to fix them Why trying to be “perfect” or someone else sabotages both your executive presence and credibility The unique challenges (and strengths) of younger generations in communication How AI is reshaping workplace communication, and why delivery still matters most The case for always customizing your message to your audience (with real boardroom examples) Building relationships to increase your influence and message “stickiness” Developing a pre-presentation ritual to manage nerves and “get in the zone” What executive presence really means and why authenticity wins over style every time How to use your strengths and shore up weaknesses to captivate any room Tips for practicing under pressure, bouncing back from mistakes, and celebrating wins on your communication journey By the end of this episode, you'll have a toolkit of actionable steps to raise your self-awareness, break through old communication patterns, and show up with confidence no matter the audience or setting. If you’re ready to take your communication skills from good to great (and beyond), this one’s packed with insights you’ll want to revisit again and again. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever left a presentation struggling to remember the speaker’s name, or worse, realized you might be that forgettable speaker yourself? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the real root of feeling like an imposter on stage and share practical steps to help you transform into the kind of communicator people truly remember. Today, I’m guiding you through a topic that undermines so many presenters, yet rarely gets the attention it deserves: building your speaker identity. We often chase technique, obsessing over posture, gestures, and slide design, but we forget the foundation that makes those techniques powerful—who we are as communicators and what unique perspective we bring. So, what exactly makes up your speaker identity? I outline the three pillars: Your Unique Value Proposition—what only you can say about your topic based on your expertise, experience, and angle. Your Authentic Communication Style—how you naturally connect, whether it’s humor, data, stories, or questions. Your Signature Stories—the pivotal experiences that shaped your understanding and give emotional weight to your message. You’ll walk away from this episode with: A new understanding of why identity—not just technique—makes speakers memorable Real-world examples of transformation through authenticity The three key pillars of speaker identity and how they work together A step-by-step exercise to claim your own speaker identity Immediate actions to align your presentations with your authentic strengths Insights for tackling imposter syndrome at its root I close by reminding you—progress, not perfection, is our goal. If you want extra support, check out our free eBook or my full Formula for Public Speaking course at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com. Remember, your voice has the power to change; all you need to do is bring your true self to every conversation that matters. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered what it really takes to become a confident communicator across cultures, generations, and languages? In this episode, I talk with Maria Rincon, a multilingual public speaking coach with roots in Colombia and China, a background in TV hosting, and experience as a communications consultant for the United Nations. We kick things off exploring Maria’s journey—how she transitioned from television to her meaningful work with the UN, and what it’s actually like inside such a global, multicultural organization. Maria shares stories of teamwork across continents, adapting to cultural diversity, and the powerful lessons she learned navigating different communication styles, both professionally and personally. Maria opens up about her move to public speaking coaching, detailing what she’s learned in her first year as an entrepreneur, including marketing challenges, building confidence, overcoming imposter syndrome, and establishing her unique approach. We discuss working with technical professionals worldwide and dig into foreign language speech anxiety—how it manifests and the practical techniques Maria uses to help clients overcome it, like embracing your accent and slowing down your speech. We also dive into generational communication differences, debunking stereotypes about Gen Z and Millennials, and discussing the importance of empathy and building bridges across age groups. Maria provides a look at how work-life balance differs globally, especially after experiencing the Nordic approach firsthand. Finally, we talk about the power of storytelling for leaders and professionals. Maria provides actionable tips on developing a story “bank,” the importance of practicing stories in different formats, and how to make stories resonate authentically in any setting. In this episode, you’ll hear about: What it’s really like in the UN’s multicultural environment Navigating direct and indirect communication across cultures The ups and downs of starting a coaching business—and lessons in marketing and self-confidence Common obstacles like imposter syndrome and foreign language speech anxiety (with tips to overcome them) Generational communication differences and how to bridge the gaps Cultivating work-life balance across cultures The crucial role of storytelling in leadership and communication You don’t have to be perfect to be an impactful communicator. From personal stories to practical advice, this episode is packed with insights to help you find your unique voice and show up with confidence, no matter the audience. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Are you struggling to truly connect with Gen Z team members at work—or maybe you’re a Gen Z professional frustrated by colleagues who don’t seem to get where you’re coming from? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle a challenge that’s becoming more important every day: How can we break down the generational communication barriers at work to build authentic relationships and boost performance for everyone? I’m Tim Newman, a former college professor turned communication coach, and as your host, I’ve spent years watching the dynamics between Boomers, Gen Xers, Millennials, and Gen Z play out both in classrooms and boardrooms. Today, I unpack what really prevents us from connecting and share practical, powerful strategies you can use to start bridging the gap now—no matter which generation you’re in. In this episode, I share plenty of real-world stories from my own career and consulting experience, plus research insights from leadership expert Dr. Tim Elmore. We dive into why the old “positional authority” model just doesn’t work with Gen Z, who grew up with access to unlimited information and have learned to question everything—including your title! Instead, we explore how building trust and authentic connection is the key to motivating and retaining Gen Z employees, and how these skills make us stronger communicators with everybody. Here’s what we cover in this episode: How making people truly feel heard (not just tolerated) leads to better motivation and results The single biggest communication mistake managers make with Gen Z—and how to fix it Why authority means nothing if it isn’t backed by trust and demonstrative competence Three essential pillars for rebuilding your communication style: listening like you could be wrong, radical authenticity, and co-creating clarity with your team Step-by-step ways to transform feedback meetings from judgmental monologues into collaborative, solution-focused dialogues Simple, actionable tactics for onboarding new hires so they feel like they belong from day one—starting with relationship building over rules and policies Real case studies showing how these changes boost performance, deepen psychological safety, and drastically improve retention The difference between high accountability and strong connection—and why you don’t have to choose between the two A practical behavior change you can implement this week: brief, consistent, agenda-free check-ins that help you solve problems before they become resignations Whether you’re a manager trying to motivate your Gen Z talent or a Gen Z professional craving genuine dialogue, this episode will arm you with strategies that work. Join me as we move beyond outdated authority models and start building the trust, clarity, and connection our workplaces—and our world—sorely need. Thanks for listening and don’t forget to check out the free resources and courses at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com. Let's make your voice—and your conversations—powerful enough to change your world. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered if it’s truly possible to rewire your brain for confidence—and finally break free from fears that hold you back? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive into the powerful world of hypnosis with certified hypnotherapist, speaker, and bestselling author Amy Koford. Together, we unravel what hypnosis really is, how it works, and ways it can transform not only our communication with others, but also the way we talk to ourselves. We explore what led Amy Koford to hypnosis, including the pivotal moments and the “inner voice” that told her she was meant to help others in this way. Amy discusses how hypnosis goes far beyond the stereotypical portrayals in movies and television. She unpacks the science of trance states, theta brain waves, and how the subconscious mind can be retrained for breakthrough results. Whether it’s breaking a bad habit, boosting performance as an athlete, or conquering the fear of public speaking, Amy’s method emphasizes releasing limiting beliefs and replacing them with empowering ones. I ask Amy about how hypnosis applies to speakers, communicators, and leaders. She draws a direct line between optimal athletic performance and high-impact communication, illustrating how both require clearing out fear, rewriting mental scripts, and visualizing success. We also touch on the challenges faced by self-proclaimed “control freaks” and how hypnosis can help uncover and heal the root causes of that need for control. Here’s what we covered in our conversation: Amy’s path from personal struggles with depression to becoming a hypnotherapist What hypnosis actually is (and isn’t), debunking myths from pop culture How theta brainwaves allow for direct subconscious reprogramming The role of hypnosis in changing habits (like quitting sugar or smoking) How Amy helps athletes “clear the garbage” of past mistakes and perform with confidence—and how this same approach empowers public speakers and communicators The release-and-replace method for eliminating internal blocks and installing new, confidence-boosting beliefs Why we care what others think and strategies to overcome insecurity in high-stakes moments The importance of self-talk and the transformative power of the words “I am” A behind-the-scenes look at Amy’s bestselling book, Hardwired to Rise, and why tackling fear is at the core of healing and communication Practical exercises for taking out the “mental trash” and refocusing on what you truly want Whether you’re looking to overcome stage fright, let go of self-doubt, or simply get out of your own way, this episode is packed with wisdom, real-world examples, and actionable steps you can use to build rock-solid confidence. If you’re ready to take that next step, check out Amy’s resources at amykofoard.com and don’t miss her book, Hardwired to Rise, for deeper strategies on tackling fear and unlocking your most confident self. And as always, visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook and more resources to help your voice make an impact. Your confidence is closer than you think—sometimes, it just takes the right mindset shift. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered what it actually takes to grow as a speaker—beyond just practicing your presentation in front of the mirror? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned on my own personal journey, including some pretty humbling moments and a behind-the-scenes look at how coaching and mentorship can truly elevate your skills. This week, I’m sharing the story of how I went from a nervous college student—literally the guy who puked in speech class—to a certified, confident speaker and coach. It’s not just about getting over nerves; it’s about shifting your mindset, investing in lifelong learning, and realizing that vulnerability (not perfection) is what really connects us with our audience. I also introduce Roddy Galbraith, John Maxwell’s own speaking coach, who played a pivotal role in helping me shape my story for the International Maxwell Conference’s three-minute speech contest. Roddy’s feedback pushed me to dig deeper, refine my delivery, and focus the message for real impact. If you’ve ever questioned whether coaching is worth the investment, wait until you hear the difference it made—and the advice Roddy gives. Here’s what we cover in this episode: How joining the Maxwell Leadership Certified Team revolutionized my approach to speaking and coaching others What it’s like to compete in a high-stakes, three-minute speech contest—including the importance of timing and preparation, whether you’re speaking to 3,000 or just five people Why I believe coaching is essential for everyone (even John Maxwell gets coached!) A raw story from my past: the first time I had to speak in public—and why it ended with me throwing up in class The critical shift from perfectionism to authenticity, and the power of making your message about serving others Roddy’s actionable feedback: how to tighten your speech, amp up your delivery, and draw out the message that matters A side-by-side comparison of my first version and my final speech—showing exactly how much a story and performance can evolve with the right support My reminders about progress over perfection and the importance of chasing your potential, not letting self-doubt or others keep you from taking the next step If you’re looking for inspiration, practical takeaways, and an honest look behind the curtain, this episode is for you. Plus, I’ll tell you how to grab your free ebook and register for upcoming speaking courses. Your voice truly has the power to change the world—but only if you use it. Thanks for listening and for being part of this journey with me! Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text What does it really take to lead and communicate with Generation Z in today’s workplace? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I sit down with Dr. Tim Elmore, founder of Growing Leaders, bestselling author, and expert in multi-generational leadership. Dr. Elmore has spent decades developing emerging leaders—including an impressive 20 years by the side of John C. Maxwell—and he’s written extensively on what makes great leadership tick, especially in our rapidly evolving culture. If you’ve ever struggled to connect with Gen Z professionals or wondered why their anxiety levels seem so high, this is an episode you don’t want to miss. I’ve long believed that Gen Z is smarter and more entrepreneurial than previous generations, and finally, Dr. Elmore’s new book, The Future Begins with Z, delivers the data to back it up. In our conversation, we explore the shifts in social and technological dynamics that have shaped Gen Z, especially how anxiety (now at levels comparable to psychiatric patients in the 1950s) has become a natural outgrowth of the overwhelming flood of information they face daily. We dig into the critical distinction between post-traumatic stress and post-traumatic growth—how leaders and educators can help foster resilience instead of victimhood. Here’s what we cover in the episode: The roots of Gen Z’s high anxiety and how social media amplifies it Coaching young professionals through stress and building grit with empathy and compassion Key differences between post-traumatic growth and stress, and how to foster resilience How educators and employers can prepare Gen Z for professional success—through realistic expectations and reframing self-talk The “Stockdale Paradox” and the difference between hope and optimism in leadership The misconception that Gen Z doesn’t want to work, and data from real-world focus groups that prove otherwise The necessity of building trust and relationships before offering feedback or correction (“Connect before you correct”), and the ALEG feedback process Teaching and modeling soft skills that Gen Z may be missing due to pandemic-era screen life Why authentic, frequent, and brief communication trumps lengthy, infrequent updates—and why daily check-ins matter How leaders can admit mistakes openly to build trust and model real communication The velvet-covered brick as a metaphor for leadership: balancing empathy with accountability Recognizing and responding appropriately to practical, social, and emotional conversations—especially when leading younger team members We wrap up with actionable steps for leading Gen Z better, starting right now—not tomorrow. If you want practical strategies, stories, and a hopeful look at how Gen Z can make us stronger leaders when we rise to the occasion, you’ll find gold in this episode. I’m grateful to Dr. Tim Elmore for joining the conversation and sharing his wisdom. For everyone ready to adapt, lead, and have more confident conversations with the next generation, this episode is for you. Connect with Tim: Website: https://growingleaders.comWebsite: https://www.timelmore.com LinkedIn: Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Are your words truly building the influence you want, or is there a hidden gap between what you say and how you act that's silently killing your credibility? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into the powerful truth that your real message isn’t just what comes out of your mouth—it’s what people see in your behavior, especially when no one’s watching. I open with a personal story about a tough leadership lesson: the painful disconnect between preaching innovation and risk-taking, and then acting in a way that totally undermined those values. Admitting that I was the one who once made this mistake sets the tone for radical authenticity and accountability—qualities I argue are essential if you want genuine influence. Drawing on insights from John Maxwell's Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, I explain why your PowerPoint slides and pitch-perfect scripts are just window dressing. The heart of true connection and lasting influence is living out what you communicate. I tackle the myth that communication is all about how you craft your message and show why, instead, behavior is your primary message. Your team and clients have real-time “credibility audits” running in their heads, always weighing your actions far more than your words. Here’s what I cover in this episode: The invisible gap between values and behavior that sabotages your influence A personal leadership mistake that taught me hard lessons about credibility Why your behavior communicates more than your words, especially under scrutiny How accountability—not perfection—accelerates trust and strengthens connections The step-by-step formula for owning and fixing mistakes with clients and teams A fresh take on vulnerability: how sharing learned wisdom (not present weakness) wins hearts and minds How to shift from a transactional to a partnership dynamic in any relationship The power of doing a quick “alignment audit” before key meetings to instantly increase impact Whether you’re a leader, communicator, or entrepreneur, this episode arms you with actionable tools to make your influence grow—by living your message with confidence, accountability, and authentic vulnerability. And remember, we’re always chasing progress, not perfection! As a quick update, next week’s schedule features a special guest and a holiday replay, so stay tuned. Don’t forget to grab your free eBook and check out my new book for even deeper strategies on turning your connections into true career growth. Thanks for joining me—your voice really can change your world. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text What if there was a proven way to help kids with dyslexia leap multiple grade levels in reading and writing—using strategies most schools never teach? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dig deep into this question and reveal practical answers with the help of a truly inspiring guest. Today, we’re diving headfirst into the realities of dyslexia—a condition that affects as many as 15 to 20% of learners, yet is still too often met with “let’s wait and see” in schools and by professionals. I have a personal connection to this topic, both as an educator and as someone with ADHD who faced my own hurdles in the traditional education system. Joining me for this conversation is Russel Van Brocklen, known as the “dyslexia professor.” Russel Van Brocklen didn’t just study dyslexia—he lived it, spending his early years reading and writing at a first-grade level, even into college, before finally learning to read fluently in law school. He’s devoted decades to translating structured literacy research into practical, bite-sized strategies families can use at home. His story, and the successes he’s helped engineer for countless kids, provide a roadmap out of what can feel like an endless educational maze. We explored Russel’s personal journey—from academic struggle and institutional roadblocks to academic success and expert status. We talk about the specific-to-general approach that flips how most of us were taught, and why it’s the leverage point for learners with dyslexia, ADHD, and other neurodiverse backgrounds. Russel shares real-life case studies, like Casey, a highly motivated fifth-grader who jumped eight grade levels in reading in just six months by leveraging her passion for Theodore Roosevelt. Here’s what you’ll take away from this conversation: The unique brain-based challenges and strengths of learners with dyslexia and ADHD Why most accommodations don’t go far enough—and what actually works How to use a student’s “speciality” or passion as the engine for dramatic growth in reading and writing The “specific to general” teaching method and why it works where traditional methods fail Simple, research-backed home strategies that parents can use tonight The critical role of writing in organizing thoughts and boosting reading levels Why early intervention is key—and how to advocate for your child in a system that may be resistant to change How the right support can transform not just academic skills, but confidence and mental health Free and affordable resources for families (like dyslexiaclasses.com) and how to access expert help You’ll also hear about Russel Van Brocklen’s experience working within state governments, pushing for policy change, and training both teachers and parents to make a measurable impact—sometimes in as little as just three hours of training! By the end of this episode, you’ll have concrete steps for helping the neurodiverse students in your life succeed, and a new understanding of just how much potential every struggling reader really has. If you’ve ever felt like the system is stacked against kids who learn differently, this conversation will give you hope, strategies, and a path forward. To dig deeper, get your free guide, or connect directly with Russel Van Brocklen, Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why so many presentations lose the audience within the first thirty seconds? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the critical question: How do you earn an audience’s attention right from the start and keep it? I’m Tim Newman, your host—a recovering college professor who’s now dedicated to helping others become powerful communicators. This week, we’re diving deep into one of the most fundamental but overlooked aspects of public speaking: the opening. Specifically, I reveal why the majority of speakers fail almost immediately by focusing on themselves, their credentials, or their agenda, instead of the needs and interests of their listeners. In today’s episode, I’m walking you step-by-step through a transformative approach to strong openings. I break down the psychology behind audience attention, explaining that your listeners aren’t evaluating you at first; they’re evaluating whether what you’re saying is worth their time. Your goal in those first crucial seconds is not to impress, but to serve, to name a problem your audience is facing, and to offer a quick glimpse of a solution. I outline my favorite tool for this: the pattern interrupt hook. Here’s what you’ll take away from today’s episode: Why focusing on yourself at the start of a talk is a guaranteed way to be ignored. How to use a pattern interrupt hook to break through audience filters and make them want to listen. The specific three-part opening formula: problem statement, immediate consequence, and solution promise. How to structure those opening thirty seconds to create curiosity and relevance. Examples of both weak and strong openings in meetings, networking, and public speaking. Tips on making the formula your own, reading the room, and communicating authentic urgency. The vital mindset shift from seeking validation to serving the audience’s needs. Remember: credibility in communication comes not from listing your achievements, but from immediately solving the audience’s problem. By the end of this show, you’ll know how to grab attention with purpose, set the right tone, and provide value from the very first words. If you want to grab your audience and guarantee your message lands, this episode will give you the tools and confidence to start every conversation strong. Don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com to download your free eBook and learn about upcoming courses. As always, your voice has the power to change—let’s make sure people are listening. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why so many presentations and conversations end up sounding boring, or why teaching communication skills seems stuck in outdated paradigms? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive into exactly that—and explore what it takes not only to end boring communication, but to build genuine connection in every interaction. This week, I'm excited to introduce my guest, Ivan Wanis-Ruiz. Ivan is on a mission to rid the world of boring, whether it's in public speaking, storytelling, or everyday conversations. He's a professional speaker, educator, emcee, and yes—salsa dancer—with a knack for bringing energy and engagement to any room. Ivan brings unique insights from his experience in dance, improv, and hosting live events, showing us how these seemingly unrelated disciplines offer strategies and inspiration for great communication. We kicked off the episode swapping stories about Ivan’s journey from a bored newcomer taking dance classes to becoming a full-on salsa teacher, and how dance became his live laboratory for educational techniques. We explored the key elements of truly effective communication training—getting people actively involved, letting students speak in every session, and making exercises practical and applicable. Ivan described the importance of aligning teaching approach with the skills being taught, urging educators to break free from the “lecture then speak once at the end” model. Here’s what we covered in this episode: How Ivan’s dance teaching doubled as a testing ground for interactive communication techniques The impact of engaging introductions and ditching the boring bio in speaking and events Why emotion in storytelling doesn’t have to mean trauma—how humor and uncertainty are just as powerful Overcoming awkward networking through strategic self-disclosure and volunteering Strategies for introverts to connect without burnout Why communication skills are now the real competitive advantage in a world of abundant knowledge Sugata Mitra’s revolutionary approach to education and learning through challenges and collaboration How to create engaging workshops with open-ended tasks, timed constraints, and group deliverables Why storytelling works best when it’s focused on problems, uncertainty, and emotional ups and downs How to leverage AI for brainstorming and developing memorable personal pitches using literary devices like tricolon and anaphora If you’re ready to break old habits, boost your confidence, and make sure you’re truly engaging your audience—whether it’s on stage, at work, or in any conversation—this episode is packed with practical advice, stories, and straight talk you can use right now. Thanks for listening. Don't forget to check out the free ebook and course at speakwithconfidencepodcast.com, and let us know how these strategies help you show up with confidence wherever you speak. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text How do truly powerful speakers command authority without relying on sheer volume or aggressive body language? That’s the question we’re answering on today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence. In this episode, I dive deep into the art and science of authentic authority in communication. As someone who’s coached hundreds of professionals—and as a recovering college professor myself—I’ve seen firsthand that the most influential communicators aren’t the ones who try to dominate the room; they’re the ones who remain poised and structured, even under pressure. There’s no guest on this episode; it’s just me, Tim Newman, guiding you through the exact three-step formula I teach my clients to help them show up with quiet confidence rather than performative bravado. We unpack the misconception that authority is about sounding loud or forceful, and replace it with a new paradigm built on control, clarity, and composure. Here’s what we explored together: Why real authority can’t be faked and why it collapses under tough questions if it’s only an act. The first pillar: Structure. Most speakers fail before they begin because they don’t have a clear framework. You’ll learn how the “scaffolding principle” and the rule of three—simplifying your main points—help you build clarity, respect, and influence. The second pillar: Strategic pause. I share why silence is the most powerful tool for authoritative delivery. You’ll discover how replacing commas and periods in your mental script with intentional pauses instantly commands a room, eliminates filler words, and projects composure. Stories from my coaching experiences, including how a client turned a tense Q&A into a moment of control and how Steve Jobs used silence to demonstrate real thinking. The third pillar: The unavoidable verdict. We go beyond just informing audiences to inspiring action, guiding them to a single, compelling conclusion by engineering every aspect of your communication for clarity and impact. A step-by-step example of structuring a pitch and how to use the three pillars to build a winning case. Common pitfalls—like rambling or flooding people with data—and how to avoid them by focusing on simplification, strategic silence, and clarity of purpose. Practical takeaways for you to start practicing right away: from structuring your next team update, to slowing your speech with pauses, or defining your key verdict before preparing a presentation. By the end of the episode, you’ll know how to stop chasing authority and start embodying it—naturally and consistently. If you’re ready to transform the way you communicate, visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook, Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, and consider registering for the Foreman for Public Speaking. Remember, your voice has the power to change. Progress, not perfection—let’s step confidently into every conversation that counts! Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Ever wondered why so many high-achieving leaders and communicators struggle to recognize their own value? In our 100th episode of Speaking with Confidence, we tackle this powerful question and much more with a very special guest who’s played a major role in my own podcasting journey—Alex Sanfilippo. I kicked off this milestone episode reflecting on the journey so far and the importance of crafting your communication skills. From day one, Speaking with Confidence has been about helping you show up as your most authentic, impactful self—whether it's in storytelling, leadership, podcasting, or daily conversations. To celebrate our 100th episode, I invited Alex Sanfilippo, founder of PodMatch.com and the host of Podcasting Made Simple, to join me. If you’re not familiar, PodMatch is a brilliant platform that automatically matches podcast hosts and guests, a true game changer for podcasters looking to deliver more value and connect with new audiences. We dove deep into topics that every communicator and leader will relate to—especially if you’ve ever doubted the impact you make. Alex Sanfilippo shared honestly about his own struggle with imposter syndrome, the challenge of recognizing the ripple effects of our work, and why surrounding yourself with the right people is so critical—not only for accountability but for remembering your successes and celebrating your growth. We reminisced about some of Alex’s earliest lessons as a 10-year-old entrepreneur selling golf balls, and how those negotiations with adults laid the foundation for his confidence and communication today. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why so many high achievers underestimate their own value and impact How imposter syndrome shows up (even for seasoned leaders and creators) The importance of community—having people who’ll tell you when you’re doing great and when you need to grow How laughter, play, and fun can transform not just your mood, but your effectiveness as a communicator Lessons from childhood entrepreneurship that still apply to adult leadership and negotiations How to reflect on your day and extract lessons that drive growth The difference between representing yourself as a brand and representing a company—and why authenticity matters more than ever A powerful story about vulnerability on stage, and how genuine emotion connects more deeply than perfection ever could Tips for managing nerves before speaking, including “mindset hacks” to recast anxiety as excitement Why storytelling, not just well-organized points, is at the heart of powerful communication How to use your walk-up song or other rituals to channel energy and confidence before you speak Whether you’re a podcaster, leader, or someone simply looking to speak up with more confidence, this 100th episode is packed with honest insights, practical strategies, a few laughs, and plenty of encouragement about the unique value only you can offer. Thank you for being part of this incredible journey to 100 episodes. Tune in to hear my conversation with Alex Sanfilippo—I promise you’ll walk away ready to communicate (and live!) with more confidence. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered if your phone habits are actually rewiring your brain—and what you can do to reclaim truly meaningful conversations? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into the reality of digital overwhelm, exploring how our constant connectivity shapes not only our attention spans, but also our ability to build real, lasting connections. I’m Tim Newman, your host and a “recovering college professor” turned communication coach. If you caught my earlier conversation with Craig Mattson about digital overwhelm (and if not, be sure to listen!), today I’m taking our discussion one step further. This episode is packed with practical tips to help you break out of the screen-time spiral and nurture richer, more present communication—at work, at home, and everywhere it matters. I unpack just how our devices—and the behaviors they encourage—impact our brains, our relationships, and our emotional well-being. Did you know that our attention span has dropped to less than a goldfish’s, or that checking your phone mid-conversation can physically hurt your relationships? I detail the science behind these findings, walking you through what’s really happening in your brain when you’re glued to your screen. Here’s a sneak peek of what we cover in this episode: How excessive screen time quite literally changes the physical structure of your brain, especially the areas that keep your empathy and emotional processing sharp The eye-opening comparison between our attention span today and that of a goldfish (spoiler: the fish is winning) Why multitasking is just rapid attention switching, and how every notification derails your focus for as much as 25 minutes How checking your phone—even for a split second—during meetings or conversations triggers feelings of rejection and erodes trust The surprising emotional gap in text-based communication vs. phone calls or in-person chats, including why arguments take longer to resolve over text and why emojis don’t always help The neuroscience behind why social media may be numbing our real-world empathy, and how dopamine-driven interactions make it harder to form deep, lasting bonds Simple, science-backed strategies to repair your attention span—like the 90/20 rule, tech-free meal times, and delaying morning phone use—and the powerful results you can expect to see The truth about “multitasking” in virtual meetings and the dramatic drop in information retention when devices are present Why creating analog space and reducing digital distractions leads not only to better memory and increased empathy, but more rewarding, memorable conversations Throughout the episode, I share practical experiments, easy habits, and real-world stories—along with the latest research—to help you make progress, not seek perfection. You’ll discover small changes that restore focus and connection, proving you don’t have to renounce technology to build your confidence as a communicator. Start with just one device-free meal a day and see just how much deeper your conversations can go. Don’t forget to check out speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook and details on my public speaking course. Your voice matters—and with a bit of intentionality, you can ensure it’s heard, felt, and Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered how introverts can thrive on stage and conquer self-doubt, even when anxiety and imposter syndrome are in the way? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into the journeys, frameworks, and behind-the-scenes realities of overcoming hesitation so you can step up and speak out—no matter how nervous you may feel. Today, I’m excited to welcome my friend Michael Pope: an international keynote speaker, leadership coach, and author of Doers Win the Day. Known as the Hesitation Breaker, Michael Pope brings over two decades of IT and leadership experience, having transformed software developers into adept people developers. His expertise centers on productivity, overcoming hesitation, and equipping high achievers and introverted professionals with the tools they need to succeed. We explore the unique challenges introverts face when the spotlight is on. Michael Pope opens up about his process for “recharging on demand” after high-energy engagements and the importance of being present and available to audience members after events—even if it feels uncomfortable at first. We also discuss practical networking strategies, like attending events with a purpose-driven list of connections, and why you must add value to others before asking anything in return. A major highlight of our conversation is imposter syndrome and the excuses that creep in. We talk candidly about those moments of hesitation—like almost inviting a dream guest on the show but never quite hitting send.  We unpack Michael Pope’s signature DOER framework (Discipline, Opportunity, Eliminate Excuses, Responsibility) and how it applies not just to speaking, but to every area of personal and professional growth. He gives real-life examples of stretching outside your comfort zone, preparing for high-stakes talks (and recovering when things go wrong), and the importance of coaching and mentorship—no matter how seasoned you become. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why sharing personal stories (especially about family) builds trust and relatability Strategies for introverts to thrive on stage and in back-to-back networking environments The necessity of approaching events and networking with a clear, value-driven purpose The DOER framework and how to use it to push through hesitation, excuses, and fear Real talk on imposter syndrome and actionable ways to move past it How joining Toastmasters and investing in coaching can fast track your progress Surprising lessons from sharing the stage with legends like Les Brown and learning from mentors like Roddy Galbraith The process of preparing for a major keynote event—from understanding the client’s goals to practicing with intention When technology fails: staying cool, calm, and professional under pressure The power of recording yourself and constructive self-feedback for brand-new speakers Why celebrating small wins every day fuels growth and momentum for the long haul If you want to find your authentic voice, build rock-solid speaking habits, and finally stop holding yourself back, you’ll want to listen to every minute of this episode. Tune in, take notes, and remember: your voice has the power to change the world—but only if you’re brave enough to use it. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Are you building a network that looks impressive on paper, but feels hollow in practice? Are you craving genuine professional relationships that help you grow, not just fill your contact list? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the paradox facing modern professionals: staying "connected" but still feeling isolated. If you’ve ever wondered why your networking efforts haven’t translated into real momentum or meaningful relationships, this episode is for you. I dive deep into the concept of what I call the Connector Climber—a mindset and system that blends authentic relationship-building with purposeful career growth. Drawing from years as a college professor and coach, I share hard-earned insights and a practical framework designed to help you move beyond the two most common personality traps: the Connector (the selfless but stagnant giver) and the Climber (the ambitious but isolated achiever). I reveal how recognizing which type you tend toward is the first step to transforming how you build your network. In this episode, I unpack the reasons why simply "knowing everyone" isn’t enough, and why climbing the career ladder solo leaves you stranded. You’ll hear personal stories, including my own aha moment in academia and a powerful example from a client who broke out of the connector rut to lead strategic projects. Here’s what I covered: Why most professionals fall into the Connector or Climber category, and why both approaches are incomplete The essential mindset shift: moving from being useful to being collaborative, and the role vulnerability plays in building lasting relationships How to define your personal “mountain”—the specific goal that catalyzes intentional connections The three non-negotiable rules for becoming a Connector Climber: knowing your mountain, auditing your circle for growth-minded influences, and creating value instead of trading favors Practical, real-world examples of what value creation looks like, and how to frame networking conversations as mutual exchanges rather than asks A step-by-step challenge to help you reconnect with someone in your network with clarity and intention The differences between transactional and transformational relationships, and how to build a team—not just a contact list—that supports your professional climb Resources for further growth, including my book Connections That Count and free guides for public speakers By the end of the episode, you’ll be equipped with a system that transforms your approach to networking—from checking boxes to sowing the seeds of true collaboration and mutual momentum. If you’re ready to build connections that actually count, this episode is your roadmap to becoming a confident Connector Climber. Thanks for listening and being part of the Speaking with Confidence community! Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices