Still Becoming One

Send a textMidlife often brings profound shifts in purpose and identity, posing unique challenges for married couples. Is it the seven-year itch or something else? We explore how individuals, influenced by societal roles and personal growth, naturally evolve, sometimes leading to divergent paths. This evolution can feel threatening when one partner finds new life outside the marriage, potentially straining the relationship. Learn how to navigate these changes with curiosity, establish healthy boundaries, and foster deeper connections as you both continue to grow.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send us Fan MailAre you struggling to understand the deep longings within you, feeling trapped in your marriage, or like the spark has gone dim? In this episode, we welcome back author and licensed therapist Jay Stringer to discuss his groundbreaking new book, Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow. We talk with Jay and explore what motivated him to write this book, and his research on how understanding your desire dramatically impacts relationships.  Discover how to stop sabotaging your relationship, differentiate from your partner to create a stronger connection, and move from a "freedom from" mindset to a "freedom for" purpose. This conversation is a transformative call to confront your past, heal attachment wounds, and use the disruptive power of desire to build a life and marriage that truly make you come alive.Interested in exploring your story around unwanted desire? Brad is launching a new Unwanted Journey group with Jay's first book later this month. Find out moreStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textAre you tired of the endless cycle of failed New Year's resolutions and frustrated by recurring conflicts in your marriage? In this episode, we explore why simply "white-knuckling" your way to change is destined to fail. Discover how persistent patterns, both in yourself and your spouse—from messy habits to communication breakdowns—are often survival mechanisms, not character flaws. Learn how to shift from demanding change to cultivating curiosity, a practice that can transform your relationship. We'll show you how to "invite the issue onto the porch" to foster genuine understanding, leading to deeper connection, improved intimacy, and lasting growth. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by a long list of things to fix, find out how focusing on the "why" behind a single issue can bring healing and victory to your personal life and your marriage.Brad's Freedom Journey SubstackStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textIn this popular episode of SB1 Brad and Kate sit down with therapist, minister, and researcher Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted, to reframe sexuality through the broader lens of desire, intimacy, and healing. Moving beyond shame-based recovery and purity culture, the episode offers a faith-informed, research-backed roadmap for couples navigating betrayal trauma, porn, infidelity, and mismatched sexual desire. With practical guidance on crisis-to-revisioning stages, story work, differentiation, and honoring the low desire partner’s integrity, Jay shows how increasing sensuality, pleasure, and emotional connection restores trust and brings marriages back to life. This episode invites listeners to transform contempt into connection, reawaken desire, and become one with hope and courage.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textIn this fan-favorite episode, we are counting down to the number two most-listened-to episode of Still Becoming One. Join us as we dive into a topic many Christian couples wonder about but are hesitant to discuss: oral sex. We tackle the frequent, questions we receive at marriage conferences about whether this act is biblically permissible, why a spouse might desire it, and how to navigate discrepancies in comfort levels. We explore how to build sexual intimacy through a foundation of safety, communication, and mutual honor, especially when addressing sensitive subjects. Drawing from Song of Solomon and our experience as a marriage counselor and relationship coaches, we discuss the importance of moving past cultural shame and misinformation. This episode addresses the power dynamics, vulnerability, and potential past trauma that can create fear or hesitation, particularly for women. Learn how to open a healthy dialogue, understand your partner’s perspective, and explore pleasure together in a way that is honoring, consensual, and strengthens your connection as you are still becoming one.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textIn this special rebroadcast, we revisit one of our most popular episodes, ranking #3 in our top 5. We're joined by bestselling author and relationship coach Shannon Ethridge to explore the crucial link between emotional intelligence and sexual confidence within a marriage. We delve into how personal histories, cultural narratives like purity culture, and the vicious cycle of pornography can erode a wife's confidence and create a wide chasm of disconnection. Shannon shares her coaching methods to help couples uncover the root wounds that sabotage their intimacy, reframing "my needs aren't being met" from a criticism into a sacred invitation for deeper connection. The conversation also challenges the traditional view of "negative" emotions, teaching us to listen to anger, sadness, and fear as our wisest teachers. Discover how boosting your emotional IQ, understanding past trauma, and learning to ask for what you need can break cycles, heal divides, and unlock a more confident and fulfilling intimate relationship.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textIn this special rebroadcast, Brad and Kate present #4 of their top 5 most popular episodes, featuring J Parker from Hot, Holy & Humorous. This episode challenges the transactional view of sex in marriage, reframing desire from "getting sex" to pursuing genuine intimacy—encompassing vulnerability, connection, acceptance, and pleasure. They tackle common stereotypes about sex drive, particularly the harmful idea that men always desire sex more than women, and delve into the experiences of higher desire wives and lower desire husbands. J provides practical advice for higher-drive spouses on inviting rather than pressuring, emphasizing language that fosters connection (e.g., "I need you" instead of "I need sex"), and exploring what sex truly means to each partner. The discussion also highlights how desire often emerges after an invitation and the influence of faith, church history, and culture on beliefs about sexualityStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textIn this rebroadcast, featured as one of the five most popular Still Becoming One episodes, licensed marriage counselor Brad and relationship coach Kate revisit the common and complex marital issue titled 'My Spouse Isn't Meeting My Needs, Now What?' Maybe you missed it the first time, or want to relisten. Enjoy, and we'll be back with new episodes soon!They discuss the cycle of blame that often occurs when one partner feels their emotional or sexual needs are unmet, leading to a constant state of irritation and disconnection. Exploring the dichotomy between self-responsibility and spousal support, we emphasize the importance of understanding your own story, communicating your needs effectively, and recognizing the pressures your partner is facing. Whether it's the tension between work-life balance and household duties, the differing expectations for connection, or the trap of believing your spouse should make you happy, this conversation offers practical insights for couples to navigate this challenge. Learn how to stop blaming each other, take responsibility for your own well-being, and work together to heal and strengthen your connection, turning a potential point of conflict into an opportunity for growth and a deeper bond.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textIs self-care selfish—especially during the holiday season? We unpack the difference between genuine self-care and imitation self-care and explore the unique resistance men and women face when trying to take care of themselves. If you've thought, "I don't have time for self-care", or "What would I do anyway?" This episode is for you! We offer a practical framework to identify what truly restores you and introduce a Self-Care Grid to help you contemplate what could actually give you good self-care!  This empowering conversation blends faith, marriage wisdom, and mental health insights to help couples build rhythms of rest, reduce stress, and grow closer as they are still becoming one.Self Care Grid: AldrichMinistries.com/ResourcesGroups starting in the new year: AldrichMinistries.com/GroupsStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textBrad and Kate, licensed marriage counselor and relationship coaches, dive into the vital topic of “doing your own work” and how personal healing impacts marriage health, communication, and intimacy. They unpack common church-influenced pushbacks: “we just need to pray more,” “I’ll use accountability,” and “why go back to childhood?”  This episode blends faith, neuroscience, story work, and marriage coaching to help couples break cycles, set healthy boundaries, and cultivate hope and joy.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textIn this powerful episode, we dive deep into the complex inner world of men with therapist and teacher Wendell Moss from the Allender Center. Discover the three core, unspoken questions every man is asking:"Does anyone see me?" "Does anyone respect me?""Will anyone want me?"And how the cultural pressure to "be strong" often leads to silence, loneliness, and cycles of addiction fueled by shame and contempt. We explore why so many men struggle with vulnerability, deflect compliments, and fear being seen, even when they desperately desire it. For couples seeking true connection, this conversation offers profound insights into the male experience, unpacking how the fear of powerlessness drives behavior and how to create the safety needed for healing. Learn practical steps to build new, healing counter-narratives in your marriage, repair after conflict, and foster a connection where both partners can finally feel seen and known.Don't miss Wendell Moss and Dan Allender's recorded webinar: Learning to Read and Understand Men's StoriesStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textAre you a parent struggling with the painful reality of your adult children creating distance, setting firm boundaries, or even cutting you off? This episode tackles the confusing and often hurtful dynamic of strained parent-adult child relationships. Hosts Brad and Kate explore why the younger generation is increasingly setting boundaries, leaving parents feeling bewildered and asking, "What did I do wrong?" They challenge the traditional expectation that children owe their parents a relationship, arguing that the healthy, biblical model is for the parent to initiate pursuit and repair. Learn why your experience of the past could end up invalidating your child's hurt, how to move from defensiveness to curiosity, and the crucial first step to take when a boundary is set. If you're ready to understand the pressure your children feel, process your own hurt, and take practical steps toward healing and reconciliation, this conversation provides a roadmap to rebuild trust and foster a healthier connection for the future.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textThe glow in your hand is quietly dimming the glow between you. We dive into how phones shape sex, sleep, attention, and intimacy—and the small, sustainable shifts that restore presence without demanding digital exile. Don't know where to start?? Try Questions For Couples by Brad & KateThe Brick- Take back your timeStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textThe headlines say married sex is in decline, but the real story lives inside our homes: glowing screens, heavy schedules, chronic stress, and a quiet confusion about what “healthy intimacy” should look like now. We sit down with author and podcaster J Parker to unpack the data behind the so‑called sex recession and then move past the stats into practical fixes couples can actually use.Special Guest J Parker from Hot Holy HumorousKate's guest episode on The Sex Chat For Christian Wives PodcastStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textThe calendar turns to November and suddenly every old family role shows up at the front door. We get real about why gatherings can feel so loaded, even when you love your people, and how to protect your marriage and your mental health without ghosting the holidays. Our approach starts with two anchors—honor and honesty—so you can appreciate the good, name the hard, and walk in with clarity about what you can and can’t expect from parents and extended family.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWhat if becoming one didn’t mean losing yourself? We get honest about the push and pull between closeness and autonomy—how time apart can stir old aches, why safety makes independence possible, and how small, practical choices turn tension into trust. From childhood loneliness to learned solitude, we trace how personal story and attachment shape the way each of us handles “I need a minute” and “I miss you already,” and we share what helped us move from reactivity to curiosity.We zoom into the pressure points at home: uneven chores, nonstop childcare, and the cultural guilt that tells women they must earn rest. IWe also tackle the spiritual piece many couples wrestle with: 1 Corinthians 7. Read through coercion, it harms. Read through freedom, it heals. Your body is mine to cherish, reclaiming consent, timing, and dignity. Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textA simple “You look great” shouldn’t start a debate, yet so many couples know that sting. We unpack the common loop where one partner stops praising because the other deflects. Diving into why compliments bounce off, how cultural messages tangle with personal story, and what it takes to make affirmation actually land. Instead of withdrawing, we offer a better pathStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWhat happens when your parents protect their marriage like it’s a living, breathing thing—and you’re the kid on the other side of the doorknob? We invite our daughter Lily home from college to talk candidly about growing up in a marriage-first home: the Friday date nights, the weekends away, the moments that felt lonely, and the rituals that made her feel chosen. Her reflections are warm, honest, and surprising—especially when she describes how boundaries and trust became the real glue.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWhat if the real intimacy killer isn’t your past, but how it gets dismissed? We dig into ways couples can invalidate each other’s stories—“It wasn’t that bad,” “You should be over it,” “That’s just your story”—and why those phrases shut down safety, trust, and depth. Drawing from our own marriage and years of coaching, we unpack the difference between knowing a partner’s facts and understanding the impact those moments wrote on the heart.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textBrad and Kate explore how our personal stories and childhood experiences shape our marriage relationships in profound ways. Story work provides couples with a framework to understand recurring conflicts and create healthier patterns of interaction.We invite you to start your own story exploration and join us next week as we continue our series on story work and its impact on marriage.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textCould the "purity culture" teachings you received years ago still be affecting your marriage today? In this compelling conversation, we join Pastor Addison Roberts from Grace Community Church to explore the complex legacy many Christian kids received from purity culture about sexuality and how these teachings continue to create unexpected challenges in intimate relationships today. Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textDrew Boa turns the traditional approach to overcoming pornography addiction on its head with his groundbreaking perspective that freedom comes not through battling your sexuality, but by befriending it. As the founder of Husband Material Ministries and author of "Outgrow Porn," Drew shares his personal 10-year journey of freedom and the revolutionary insights he's gained from working with hundreds of men.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textLife has a way of surprising us with transitions we weren't quite expecting. This week, Brad and Kate share the sudden shift into empty-nest parenthood that has happened, which they had not anticipated. As their four children all simultaneously launched into new adventures, Brad and Kate found themselves abruptly facing a quiet house filled with possibility and questions.Throughout their discussion emerges a beautiful picture of what intentional marriage looks like in transition: honest communication about fears, shared dreams for the future, and the gentle ribbing that comes from knowing each other well (including an ongoing debate about a particularly aggressive holly bush in their yard). For couples facing their own transitions, this episode offers both practical wisdom and the comforting reminder that even relationship experts navigate change one conversation at a time.Ready to invest in your marriage during life's transitions? Learn more about our fall groups and resources at aldrichministries.com and join us as we continue the journey of still becoming one for another season!Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWhat happens when past wounds collide in marriage? Steve and Lisa Call, co-authors with Dan Allender of The Deep-Rooted Marriage, founders of Reconnect Institute, and married for over 35 years, reveal how childhood stories unconsciously shape our most intimate relationships. Through vulnerable personal examples, Steve shares how his response of "I'm fine" masks deeper feelings of abandonment stemming from an emotionally unavailable mother. Lisa explains how these patterns remained invisible until they began exploring their stories together, creating a profound transformation in their marriage after decades together.Ready to transform your relationship by understanding the stories you both bring to marriage? This conversation will help you recognize patterns, build emotional safety, and cultivate the curiosity needed for genuine connection.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWhat happens when one partner has a career that demands everything? Whether it's an 80-hour workweek, constant travel, or shift work that throws off your entire family rhythm, demanding careers create unique challenges for relationships.Brad and Kate tackle this reality head-on, acknowledging the struggles couples face when balancing intense professional demands with maintaining connection. Through their personal experiences and professional coaching work, they offer a refreshing perspective: your marriage doesn't need to look like anyone else's. The standard models simply don't apply when your circumstances aren't standard.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textBrad and Kate explore how married couples can drift into feeling like roommates or business partners when they neglect emotional connection and intimacy. They discuss how busyness, misinterpreting intentions, and focusing solely on logistics create distance in relationships. Then offer some practical tools, including their own book of questions, as a path back toward intimacy.You can find the Questions for Couples book on Amazon or at aldrichministries.com/resources.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textBrad and Kate explore how couples can maintain connection during inevitable busy seasons when marriage can't be the top priority. They share personal examples from their May celebrations of their children's graduations and how they've learned to navigate similar challenging periods.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textBrad and Kate Aldrich explore how seemingly healthy self-care activities might actually be "imitation self-care" that creates distance rather than true rejuvenation in marriage relationships.• Imitation self-care activities mimic real self-care but leave us feeling worse afterward• Binge-watching shows and mindless scrolling often become ways to avoid connection• The content we're drawn to often reveals something about our emotional needs• Workaholism serves as false self-care when it provides validation missing at home• Marriage strain often peaks when couples have infants around 6-7 months old• Other common substitutes include shopping, excessive cleaning, and using spirituality to avoid problems• Healthy curiosity about our coping mechanisms helps us understand our deeper needsWhen the temptation to engage in these activities arises, invite it onto the porch and ask why it's here right now. Rather than trying to ignore or indulge it, use it as information about what you truly need.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWhat happens when the very strategies we develop to care for ourselves actually pull us away from our partners? In this eye-opening exploration of "imitation self-care," we dive into the complex ways our coping mechanisms can disguise themselves as healthy practices while undermining our relationships. Imitation self-care is challenging to identify because it often contains elements of genuine care. Exercise, comfort foods, and even music can be legitimately nourishing or secretly destructive depending on the emotional motivation behind them. Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWe examine the complexities of troubled marriages, challenging the idea that couples should "stick it out no matter what" while offering guidance on when to fight for your relationship and when boundaries might be necessary.• Understanding the difference between pursuing happiness versus finding fulfillment and contentment in marriage• Why staying together "just for the kids" often creates more trauma than healing• How to approach your spouse about relationship struggles without blame or shame• Setting healthy boundaries when your partner refuses to work on the relationship• Recognizing when safety concerns might necessitate separation• Moving beyond the "did I marry the wrong person?" question to deeper relationship insights• Finding the courage to work through brokenness together for stronger connectionWe'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic or any of our episodes. Contact us with your questions or topic suggestions at [email protected] or text us through the number in our show notes.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textSpecial guest Adam Young joins us to discuss his new book, Make Sense of Your Story. What if the relationship patterns you can't seem to break are rooted in stories you've never fully understood? Adam Young, therapist and host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast, joins us to explore how our earliest experiences continue to shape our most intimate relationships—and what we can do about it.Whether you're struggling in your marriage, trying to parent differently than you were parented, or simply curious about why you relate to others the way you do, this conversation offers a compassionate roadmap for making sense of your story. As Adam reminds us, "Your stories need to be written and they need to be told." Are you ready to discover what's truly at the core of yours?Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textBrad and Kate Aldrich challenge the common belief that marriage problems stem from choosing the wrong person, revealing how our personal stories shape relationship patterns regardless of who we marry.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWe explore the dynamic when husbands experience higher sexual desire than their wives, examining how both partners often feel broken or inadequate when confronting these differences.• Sexual desire disparity affects approximately 80% of marriages with the husband having a higher desire• Both partners suffer—husbands feeling rejected and wives feeling inadequate or broken• Harmful messaging from purity culture and society creates unrealistic expectations about marital sex• Emotional connection often precedes sexual desire for many women, not just a "checklist" to complete• Trauma history significantly impacts how people experience and express desire• Desire levels naturally fluctuate throughout marriage due to life stages, stress, and other factors• Meeting in the middle requires both partners to move toward each other with empathy• Sexual intimacy serves multiple purposes beyond physical release—connection, care, comfortWe'd love to hear your thoughts about navigating desire differences and what meeting in the middle looks like in your relationship.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textBrad and Kate welcome J Parker, author of "The Higher Desire Wife," to discuss the often overlooked reality of wives who desire more sexual intimacy than their husbands and how couples can navigate this sensitive dynamic with understanding and compassion.• Sexual desire fluctuates throughout marriage, with partners' drives shifting multiple times over the years• Numerous factors affect male sexual desire, including stress, sleep, health issues, testosterone levels, relationship issues, and more• When wives want more sex than husbands, it doesn't automatically mean he isn't attracted to her or is getting satisfaction elsewhere• Approaching desire differences as an "us issue" rather than blaming one spouse creates safety for honest conversations• Pornography and other sexual sin rewire the brain to view sex as consumption rather than intimate participation• Creating intentional attraction by focusing on your spouse helps maintain desire in long-term relationships• "Closing the gap" requires positive vision-casting rather than complaints about what isn't happening• Sexual intimacy requires vulnerability and effort but brings a deeper connection than solo sexual experiencesLink to the book: The Higher Desire WifeJ's podcast: Sex Chat For Christian WivesJ's blog: Hot Holy HumorousStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textRelationship conflict is inevitable, but the key to healthy relationships lies in effective repair—acknowledging impact and taking responsibility rather than just saying, "sorry you were hurt."• Conflict in relationships is normal, but repair is essential for rebuilding connection• There's a critical difference between "I'm sorry you were hurt" and "I'm sorry I hurt you"• Effective repair involves listening well, owning your impact, and discussing future changes• Different personalities seek different things in apologies—understanding your partner's needs is crucial• Managing different perceptions of reality without arguing about "facts" helps resolve conflicts• Forgiveness involves acknowledging harm and choosing not to require payment for it• Modeling good repair with children teaches them relationship skills for their future• Repairing doesn't always mean changing your decision, but it does mean acknowledging the impact• The sooner we repair, the smaller our relationship ruptures remainStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textCan a healthy marriage include moments where one partner "takes one for the team" sexually? This candid conversation tackles the sensitive reality of differing desire levels and how couples navigate intimacy when interest isn't mutual.We explore this often used metaphor and unpack how this dynamic typically unfolds - often with one partner silently sacrificing while harboring resentment, and the other sensing something's off but unable to name it. The result? Disconnection where connection was intended.There are healthier alternatives, true intimacy requires honest dialogue where both partners can express desire without undue pressure and decline without causing undue rejection. Whether you're struggling with mismatched desire levels or want to deepen your understanding of sexual dynamics in marriage, this episode offers compassionate guidance grounded in both professional experience and the hosts' journey.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWhat defines family in today's complex world? We dive into the often misleading notion that blood is thicker than water, encouraging listeners to reflect on the diverse definitions of family. We can seek to maintain loyalty to family while navigating the complexities of emotional needs in life. However, there's more to "family" than biological ties. We explore how a chosen family can sometimes be your strongest support system, emphasizing the importance of those connections in your personal growth and happiness. Deep connections formed with friends can provide the support and love typically attributed to familial bonds. Brad and Kate invite you to consider who you regard as family and how those relationships impact your life. If you've ever felt frustrated by familial ties, this episode is for you. Join us as we discuss embracing your whole support system and redefining what family means to you.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWelcome to Season 4 of Still Becoming One. We are excited to continue our own journey of growth and to bring all of you along with us. So What happens when high school sweethearts get married and realize they need to seriously address their struggles? That was our journey that eventually led to the creation of the Still Becoming One podcast. With roots that trace back to our One Flesh Marriage blog.In this episode, we wanted to reintroduce ourselves to all of our fantastic audience. We dive into the transformative power of story work, we talk candidly about raising four children, both biological and adopted, and the profound impact trauma has on family dynamics and relationships. Discover how Aldrich Ministries and our coaching network aim to enhance relationships through kindness, understanding, and continual growth.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWe hear it all the time: "My wife's not meeting my needs" or "My husband isn't meeting my needs!" What do we do about this? Of course, we want our spouse to meet our physical, emotional, sexual, and other needs. Yet, is it their responsibility to do so? The struggle to juggle demanding jobs and family commitments makes this a very common feeling. We explore the emotional tug-of-war many couples experience when they feel like the person they signed up to "do life with" is now not meeting their needs. Is this a reason to end the relationship? Are there ways to fix this? Let's dive into understanding and meeting each other's needs. Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textHow do you keep the peace at Thanksgiving dinner when political differences arise? As we approach the pivotal 2024 election, we dive into the divisive topic of how to engage in compassionate and understanding discussions, even when opinions clash.Family dynamics during politically charged times can be tricky to navigate. We've seen too many families torn apart by the enmity and contempt of rival politics. Sometimes, we need to build bridges of compassionate listening and other times; we need to build boundaries. Join us from both sides of the aisle as we navigate this tricky situation. (mentioned in this episode- The Power of Saying No: 5 Steps to Set Up Boundaries that Stick)Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textFawn and Keith Weaver take us on an unforgettable journey through their love story to becoming the CEO of the most-awarded American whiskey for 5 years running. Celebrating over twenty years of marriage, they share how their partnership was built on a foundation of deep connection, mutual respect, and connection with the Lord. Fawn's book, "Love and Whiskey," weaves their personal narrative with the rich history of Uncle Nearest, the first Black master distiller, and his friendship with Jack Daniel. Together, the Weavers are dedicated to preserving this incredible legacy through the Uncle Nearest Distillery and the Nearest Green Foundation, showcasing the power of love, faith, and a shared mission.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textYou've been stuck feeling like roommates and don't know how to ask for more sexual intimacy. OR maybe your spouse is the one asking but in ALL the wrong ways. This episode promises to equip you with the tools to understand and navigate sexual frequency concerns that both partners often experience. Tune in as we share candid insights and anecdotes about setting realistic expectations, fostering open communication, and addressing awkward yet essential conversations about intimacy. You'll leave with practical strategies to find a middle ground that works for you and your partner.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textTune in as we welcome the phenomenal Shannon Etheridge, a million-copy bestselling author who shares her transformative journey and the evolution of her work on sexual confidence. Discover the inspiration behind her book, "The Sexually Confident Wife," and how it has evolved into helping couples discover their sexual confidence together. Shannon's insights shed light on what it takes to grow sexual confidence and its profound impact on nurturing stronger, more connected marital relationships.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textEvery "yes" you give is actually a "no" to something else- usually without you realizing the cost at the time, which means we NEED to learn how to put up boundaries! Join us while we explore the art of setting boundaries in relationships and give you 5 steps to find and hold the necessary boundaries in your life!Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textHow long have you been carrying a secret too heavy to bear? Today, we address one of the most silent yet pervasive issues: the trauma of sexual abuse.  Drawing inspiration from our former guest, Lindsay Lautsbaugh's stirring sermon, we uncover the heartbreaking reality that the average age of disclosure is 51, underscoring the critical need for understanding and support.Sexual abuse steals more than just innocence; it strips away safety and trust. We emphasize that healing is gradual and requires unwavering support.  We focus on the importance of kindness and self-compassion. Healing from such trauma is not a linear path but an ongoing process that requires resilience and continuous effort. By sharing our own experiences and those of others, we illustrate how challenging negative self-beliefs and understanding our stories can lead to profound personal growth. Don't miss Lindsay's Message: Straight Lines Crooked Sticks: Dinah and The Samaritan Woman.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textAnxiety sometimes feels like a blaring smoke alarm in your life; it may be your own anxiety or your spouse's. You're not alone. On this episode of Still Becoming One, we are thrilled to sit down with Abby Foster, an LCSW from Lancaster Therapy Center, to unpack the nuances of anxiety and its profound impact on daily living and relationships. Abby illuminates the line between normal anxiety and the type that disrupts your sleep, relationships, and overall functioning, shedding light on when it might be time to seek professional help.Ever wonder how to truly support a spouse dealing with anxiety without making things worse? We explore how to move beyond well-meaning but ineffective strategies to discover how couples can work together to battle anxiety.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textDiscover the hidden challenges young married couples face today with our special guest, pastor Lindsay Lotzbaugh, who brings her wealth of experience from pastoring, missions, and motherhood. Lindsay opens up about sensitive topics like pornography, communication issues, and the critical lack of support systems that many newlyweds encounter. We explore how the generational gap in churches often deprives young couples of much-needed spiritual mentors, forcing them to turn to peers, sometimes with less-than-helpful results. Lindsay’s insights remind us of the urgent need to build strong, supportive communities within our churches to nurture healthier marriages.Still Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWhat does it take to navigate marriage and family life while serving as a missionary? Get ready to glean invaluable insights from seasoned missionary and pastoral minister Chris Lautsbaugh, who brings three decades of experience to our discussion. We promise you'll learn about the unique challenges and rewards of raising children in a foreign culture, dealing with financial stresses specific to missionary life, and the crucial role of maintaining regular connections and good communication within the family. Chris’s wisdom on adapting to various seasons of life and ministry will leave you inspired, especially as he talks about the grace found in persevering through tough times.God's Whole Story PodcastStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textWhat if understanding your partner's childhood wounds could transform your marriage? Join us as we sit down with Barb and Mark Case, a couple who have spent 35 years navigating the ups and downs of life together. They share their candid journey from the blissful early days of their marriage to the financial strains and significant life changes that marked their challenging "dark years." Through their experiences, they uncovered critical insights that now fuel their passion for Storied Marriages a community-based approach to marriage mentoring.Barb's Coaching InformationStoried MarriagesStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries

Send a textJoin us as we sit down with our dear friends Scott and Jenni Means to explore their incredible journey into marriage coaching. Scott shares his path from worship leadership to creating a curriculum that intertwines spiritual principles with marital relationships, a journey that has deeply enriched his and Jenni's marriage. Discover how their personal transformation has inspired and guided countless couples, and be excited with us as they join our coaching ministry, bringing their wisdom and passion to our community.Have you ever struggled to support your spouse through emotional pain without jumping to fix the problem? Scott and Jenni provide a masterclass in offering grace-filled support by sharing their experiences dealing with each other's traumas. We delve into the importance of emotional support over solutions, adjusting our automatic responses shaped by past hurts and providing feedback that builds rather than breaks. This segment is a heartfelt reminder that it's never too late to strengthen intimacy and build bridges in your relationship.Scott & Jenni's coachingScott & Jenni's ministry pagesStill Becoming OneFacebookInstagramAldrich Ministries