The Brainy SLP

In this episode I reflect on how crucial it is for adults to be clear and consistent about what the values are for your team/group.

This episode reflects on the importance of how adults connect and communicate when there are challenges involved. This skill is important as a model to our kids for how we can communicate respectfully and directly to hear each other, especially when there might be a challenge or critical point to make .

This concept is all about how to PIVOT as adults coaching youth, keeping growth and change at the core of the work we do.

In this episode I talk about our team’s experience this past weekend and how you can choose to decide where you want to place your locus of control when you go through an experience.

It’s so important as youth coaches and supporters of youth that we frame losing as a tool- as a form of data- to inform our growth. Tune in as I share a few ways to think about losing and to think about how to support our kids in talking about losing.

Welcome to Episode 50 of Coaching Youth for Life! We made it to 50!This podcast has undergone several rebranding periods so it feels especially exciting to hit episode 50 and reflect on where we have been and where we are going. I am so glad you're here. In this episode, I chat about the importance of belonging and friendships for our kids who are struggling with self-regulation. When kids are struggling, these are the first two areas I try and zone in on (in addition to better understanding a child's executive function skills) and encourage teams to think about. Side note- this episode was recorded while I was traveling in my car (safely, hands free, thanks to Siri!) and as such audio quality may be different from previous episodes.

Episode 49 is all about a concept I call PAFO- play around and find out. PAFO to me is encouraging kids to not only let things be messy* and not feel good at something, but also to try things to figure out how to get better at something. This concept is really noticeable in so many areas of my life including being an SLP, a mom, and a basketball coach. Kids sometimes need nudging to play around and mess up on things (not be perfect at them) in order to get better. *This ties back to Episode 48 of letting it be messy. (Note, I recorded this one on the road, so audio quality is not as good as other episodes- specifically you get a fun little POT HOLE moment 😉)

This is my 'welcome back' episode where I share on the importance of encouraging kids to let things be difficult as they try new things or work through the 'stickiness' of not feeling good at something. The more we normalize letting things be difficult, the easier it can be to regulate during those times. I've got some good things planned for this podcast for 2026 after doing a lot of work and planning in 2025- can't wait to spend more time together!

This is a question I think about- and talk about- often-But what about the adults? This comes from an awareness that adults are struggling with the same skills that kids are. Take a listen and let me know what you think!

Join me as I have the joy of chatting with Freddie Lapan, owner of Villari's Martial Arts in Barre, VT. Freddie is a highly decorated martial artist, who won the WAKO (World Association of Kickboxing Organizations) Championship in 2018. Freddie is also an incredible martial arts instructor, and that's where I crossed paths with him. Freddie is an adult who balances responsiveness and warmth with expectations and limits, and he will share so much of his knowledge and compassion in today's podcast. Enjoy! Find out more about Freddie here: https://villarisvt.com/about/

We dive a little into adult flexibility in thinking, and our ability to be willing to fail first. Let's grow 🌱🧠

Mindset book link (Dr. Carol Dweck)

In this episode (which gets RIGHT to it, no intro!) I talk about the different parenting styles and focus mostly on authoritative, which has yielded the most positive outcomes for kids long term.

In this episode, I discuss the power of caregivers modeling boundaries and setting limits, and why it matters for our kids in all avenues of life.

In this episode I talk about the importance of OUR coaching as it relates to kids developing their own inner coach.

This podcast shares a little bit more about the podcast name change, as well as the power of owning our mistakes. Come take a listen and see what resonates with you!

In this episode I talk about the 4 well known parenting styles, and offer some thoughts on how these apply to all areas where we work with kids. Resource I mention in the show is here!

I am in a season of really looking to simplify my life, but I wanted to share a message on why I think it's important sometimes to let things be hard for our kids. Tune in to hear why!

Take a listen to how I am shifting my messaging, purely to increase my ability to connect with more people and also bring my expertise as an SLP to the front. Also tune in for a few fun details about failure tolerance, AND, my 5 year vision, which I will talk a little more about in my next episode!

A quick social communication tip for those conversations that don't go as planned. 

Join me in this episode where I quick update on my own self-regulation journey. 

Introducing you to my updated model of self-regulation, which I am also sharing today on social media via instagram (@msdaniellekent), more to come! 

In this episode I share more about a favorite read, a great learning takeaway from a session, and the self-reg process. 

Tune in as I talk a little bit about the importance of creating a shared understanding in conversation + beyond in the interactions we have across our day. 

Join me as I reflect on January's episodes and where we go from here in our journey. Be excited for our February episodes- we have two guests coming to share in the fun! 

Join me as I share about my own journey in becoming aware of my regulation during my son's dysregulated moments. 

In this episode, I share a quote from Hunter Clarke-Fields and their book Raising Good Humans. It's right up there on my list of book recommendations. 

In this episode I start some food for thought about where to start when we are with kids who are dysregulated. 

From one of my most favorite books, Beyond Behaviors, is a quote today from Dr. Mona Delahooke. 

A quick dive into how we can start working on self-regulation, starting with AWARENESS.  

Join me for the quote of the week from Self-Reg: Written by Sr. Stuart Shanker & Teresa Barker

After recording episode 22, I realized that it needed a part 2, so here is my next line of thought about where we go from here. I believe that supporting our kids means we also do the hard work of learning about our own regulation as adults. 

I turned on my mic and shared my thoughts with you as we enter into another year, thinking that the status quo surrounding behaviors and regulation MUST change, and we all can be part of that change.  Resources: What Happened to You Connections over compliance Beyond Behaviors No Drama Discipline Self-Reg Lost and Found My evolving list of other resources

In this podcast short, I share a question I am increasingly asking these days with students who have self-regulation differences- 'What's happening for you?' This is adapted from Dr. Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey's book- What Happened To You? I cover the five main areas I ask about: co-regulation experiences (past and ongoing) Sensory preferences/needs Executive Function skills Social communication skills Individualized differences (visual, motor, feeding, etc) I share which one is MOST important in our journey in the episode. ENJOY! Happy Thinking ⭐️

Join me as I say HAPPY BIRTH-DAY to the new Teaching and Raising Problem Solvers podcast (TRPS podcast!) In this episode, I share my definition of self-regulation, and the five key pinnacles I associate with self-regulation. In today's episode, I specifically dive into proactive co-regulation, structuring the environment through predictable routines/rhythms with shared roles.  I mention: The Power of Neurodiversity Other resources: 

I am so excited for my comeback in this quick episode. Tune in to hear about my last year, lessons learned, and what's coming! 

Join me as I talk a little bit about motivation vs engagement, and strategies to increase engagement in our everyday tasks at home or at school.  Brain diagram Link All Brains Belong Donation Link

Starting off the school year with reframing misbehaviors into stress behaviors (coined by Dr. Stuart Shanker) can really get us off on the right foot! Listen to this episode as I share 3 times you might be seeing stress behaviors at the start of the school year for your students or children.  Resources Mentioned: Get Ready/Do/Done by Sarah Ward & Kristen Jacobsen Executive Functions Overview from George McCloskey

In this episode, I give you a QUICK rundown on the GPS analogy I use to describe EFs. It works really well for a lot of my learners, and has also helped several adults to connect the dots!  Enjoy! 

1) Celebrating Neurodiversity 2) Empowering and Teaching about all types of Communication 3) Teaching different strategies for play AND celebrating all play 4) Teaching and Coaching on Problem Solving skills 5) Empowering Theory of OWN Mind and Theory of Mind (Perspective Taking)

Last week I talked about the importance of following our child's/student's lead in play- and today's episode focuses on the importance of teaching various schemes/sequences in play so each child has the ability to choose to play- or not to play- because they want to/don't want to! 

Play is amazing- soothing & restorative and FUN at it's core! Play will look different for every brain- and that's AWESOME! This episode talks about following a child's lead in play, and talks a little more about the DIR (R) Model/Floortime

In today's episode, I talk about how we can shift from an extensive focus on targeting emotions, to support awareness of energy states. This was sparked by several recent learnings: Dr. Tara Swart's book - The Source Autistic adults talking about emotion labels being challenging to ascribe to certain situations (Dr. JÂcqûelyn Fede from ALUP describes their experience here)  Resources mentioned: Jessie Ginsburg's Engagement Challenge (closed, but check out her website here for more ideas!) Autism Level Up The Alert Program (R)

The Relationship Between Self-Regulation and Executive Functions is complex- in today's episode I argue that Energy Regulation (I define as physiological regulation, emotional regulation, sensory regulation, and cognitive regulation) and Executive Function Skills (including but not limited to: planning/prioritization, organization, time management, flexibility, and metacognition) all play into SELF-regulation Skills.  You know that I am all about co-regulation> self-regulation, so this means we have a responsibility and wonderful opportunity to TEACH/MODEL/COACH these 9 areas- ongoing- for our student/child's success! Cheers!  George McCloskey's Holarchical Model of Executive Functions Rachel Dorsey's Goal Writing Course

Hello Brainy SLP Crew! Welcome to another episode. This week is all about understanding why co-regulation is GREATER THAN self-regulation, and how co-regulating with all of our students and children can have a positive, long lasting effect. This can be especially true to consider for our neurodiverse learners and students with trauma- wiring and firing can happen over longer periods of time making connections between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.  I always teach that self-regulation is a great long-term picture, but co-regulation is always the way to support healthy understanding and management of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.  UNC visual on Co-regulation

There's not just Awareness- we are really looking to move BEYOND awareness into Acceptance and Beyond! So many steps to take, and just one step this month can move you beyond Awareness. Remember- All Brains are Different & All brains are Amazing.  Autism Level Up ASAN Blog Post Dr. Nick Walker

Resources Mentioned:  Hanen's explanation of Reciprocal Imitation Training Teaching & Raising Problem Solver's Curriculum

For more information on the Double Empathy Problem, Click Here.  Dr. Damian Milton's podcast on Two Sides of the Spectrum (Click Here)