The IRREGULAR MAN Podcast

Does my skin color dictate how far I can go in society? Is this all just a head game that we are losing because people tell us that we are “disadvantaged”?

Living is a series of serious experiments that put us in moments of pain, pleasure and introspection. It can be brutal, but one can learn to lean into the adversity and become all the better for it.

We forecast the weather, sales and elections. We as human beings have a fascination with WHAT WILL HAPPEN.  I don't think we would know what to do if we could really tell what would happen two days from now.  It would be a destructive power, disrupting everything, echoing in ripples, breaking all it touches.

Why orchestrate an elaborate lie to intentionally stoke the flames of hatred in this already racially-sensitive time? Jussie Smollett was afraid to look at himself honestly, and found out quite quickly that the man in the mirror is just as hateful as his contrived attackers.

We seek pleasure instead of pain, the ever elusive happiness, and play as if that is the meaning of life. Yet, it is illusory, for such a goal only cheapens our experience of living in earth.

It’s not about Harry Potter or Oz. It’s more real and closer to home. It is about the words people use to control what you think. We have all been compromised.

As #metoo continues to crest, masculinity seems to be under attack. Men and women are at odds about what useful men appear to be and what it means to be male. Gillette has taken up the fight and dug in their heels with a new commercial that asks the question: “Is this the best a man can get”?

Learned helplessness is behavior that occurs when the subject endures repeatedly painful or otherwise aversive stimuli which it is unable to escape from or avoid. After such experiences, the organism often fails to learn or accept "escape" or "avoidance" in new situations where such behavior is likely to be effective. In other words, the organism learned that it is helpless. In situations where there is a presence of aversive stimuli, it has accepted that it has lost control and thus gives up trying, even as changing circumstances offer a method of relief from said stimuli. Such an organism is said to have acquired learned helplessness. Learned helplessness theory is the view that clinical depression and related mental illnesses may result from such real or perceived absence of control over the outcome of a situation. (Wikipedia)

In the Age of Information, Flat Earth Theory has resurfaced. I discuss some of the ideas and expose my fascination. Will they make a believer out of you?

A cool, post-apocalyptic mash-up of A Link to the Past and Diablo, “Hyper Light Drifter” makes you wish for the days that the SNES ruled the console world. Listen to my personal, existential take on the game.

Guy Ritchie’s “Revolver” was not critically acclaimed, but asks us to think critically about the source of our validation. Has our need to be noticed, to be liked, become an ever-revolving door?

IRREGULAR MAN and The Duhon St. Sebastian discuss their “Game of the Year”, best games of 2018 and what to anticipate for 2019. They also talk about the disappointments of 2018 and what they’re playing right now! Hey, you should listen!

“The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation.” – Henry David Thoreau. Are we seeking out to make the world better with our purpose? Our talents? What does it mean to live in “quiet desperation?”

Becoming the hero of our own story takes the type of Will that is itself, legendary. What does it look like for me? I’ll tell you...

How can we know if we haven’t repeated this life a thousand times over? The simple answer is that we can’t.

We spend a lot of time wondering what could have been and what could be. We dream and wish and conspire about the intangible. However, there is nothing more important than this moment. Will you accept all as it is and be present?

There are three simple things that will keep you from being poor. After keeping with these points, why don’t we pursue the greater aspects of ourselves?

So many of us are used to doing “just enough” to get by. We don’t strive for the best, or we regard hard work with disdain. We admire those that “win” but we don’t know how to pull the victory from our own hearts. I submit to you that the heights have no ceiling and are limited only by your imagination.

We are more concerned about the direction of things than where we are currently. Where can an “awareness of the present” lead us? What can video games teach us about good and evil? I mention Red Dead Redemption and psychoanalysis if you want to take a listen...

Leo Tolstoy was not just a great writer, but a wonderful theologian. He definitely left much to ponder about God in his works. I begin my journey through his works with “A Confession”.

David G. Benner gives a great introduction to the pursuit of self, all from a very Christian perspective. Will you respond to the sacred call?

How do we reconcile those “frightening parts” of ourselves that we have trouble facing? I explore David G. Benner’s book, “The Gift of Being Yourself” to find out how to know God and know self.

How are we to be individuals in a world where we can be condemned for our thoughts and ideas as if we’re common criminals? Sometimes we say the wrong things and even as we feel bad for it, we are made to pay a high price for our dissension.

Do we really need a higher minimum wage? Can we admit that we may just be advocating for the death of self-actualization?

I talk about the book, “The Four Agreements” by Don Ruiz. You can find the book in your normal literature spots and also on Audible.

What does being awake or WOKE really mean? Is it just a meme now or does it really apply to a meaningful goal of healthy liberation?

Sometimes we find ourselves locked in a pattern of life that is insane. Insane because it’s the same actions with hope for a different outcome.

The world is divided and realities diverge. The mind will succumb to whatever influence is allowed, but what is the truth?

The Irregular Man Podcast is centered around assisting those that don’t fit in and feel uncomfortable in their surroundings at times. Since I am an introvert, I look at things from that perspective. For the unusual, misunderstood and ignored, my hope is that I can help people accept themselves with love and compassion.

We all need a little push. We should be affirming our goals and being positive in our outlook.

Sometimes we hold on to these vestigial parts of our past as if they are still viable and relevant. When I was a child, I reasoned as a child...

What does it mean to grow up feeling unloved and disconnected? We can't conceive of this at such an early age, but it shows up later in our relationships.

A personal experience with that repressed side. The ego will often try to protect itself at even your own peril.

What is the Shadow? Why confront it?

A short commentary on Zsondi and the Shadow Self. How do we confront the dark nature of our being?

What does it take to be great? A Black man’s perspective.

Pain is the price of freedom. Sometimes we must embrace pain and discomfort in order to escape even greater problems in the future. And to expand our souls...

Discussing Dave Chappelle’s new standup, The Bird Revelation.

Sometimes we wonder if we can make it. The key is to never stop your search. Endlessly seek yourself.

Episode 1: A Wonderful Day