There's a Lesson in Here Somewhere

Want to learn more about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Then check out this conversation with Sara Weand, licensed professional counselor and Dialectical Behavioral Therapist (DBT). Sara unpacks what Borderline Personality Disorder looks and feels like, from the intensity of how emotions are felt, to the misreading of social cues, to the struggle with impulse control. We then discuss the details of how DBT provides the validation, structure and compassion to help people manage all of this and thrive. Sara breaks down BPD, discussing core patterns of dysregulation, how BPD shows up in relationships, and why it’s so often misdiagnosed as bipolar disorder or misread as manipulation. Using examples, Sara explains how some of us are born more emotionally sensitive, and when that sensitivity meets an invalidating environment at home, school, or in a relationship, people learn to fear emotions and chase short-term relief. That relief can be a range of actions that could include substance use, cutting, overspending, or rage texting. It works for a moment but then results in damage and shame. Understanding the root function of this behavior is the first step to changing it. The discussion then turns to Dialectical Behavior Therapy, which can be used to help people with BPD. Sara walks through how it works and why it works. A key concept is dialectics. Things aren’t always either/or and there can be two truths at once. That shows up in language and narratives. For example, using “and” instead of “but” to frame situations, which can help.  acceptance and change to move together. Another key concept is structure and Sara discusses  skills modules that people move through in therapy, and she offers concrete examples of how they stop crisis spirals, repair relationships, and keep the world from tiptoeing around you. Sara’s energy and straight talk make complex ideas simple and useful, whether you’re seeking help, supporting someone you love, or just curious about BPD and DBT.Learn more about Sara Weand and her practice here: https://www.saraweandlpc.com/. 

Join us as we speak with Al Cook—former drill sergeant, business and community leader, and motivational speaker—to unpack how confidence is built under pressure, why leadership is an art, and how attention to detail can shape your life. Al takes us behind the scenes of basic training: the controlled chaos of arrival, the initial shock that flips a mental switch, and the quiet satisfaction of watching a scared 18-year-old become a soldier who trusts themselves when it counts.  From there, we chart Al’s path into retail management and entrepreneurship, where he sharpened his philosophy: thoughts drive emotions, emotions drive actions, actions become habits, habits form character, and character sets destiny. He shares practical tools for business owners feeling stuck, including writing clear goals, expecting struggle before victory, building mental toughness, and gathering a coterie of people who are smarter than they are. We dive into the power of visualization and why most people unintentionally imagine failure more vividly than success. Al shows how to redirect that imagination toward outcomes you actually want.  Al blends tough love with compassionate coaching. You’ll hear how to turn “I can’t” into “Here’s my next step,” how to reduce negative inputs and increase positive ones, and why small, consistent wins beat frantic busyness. We wrap with a gratitude practice that resets your day in minutes and a reminder that your greatest resource is people: align them around a vision and watch momentum build. If you’re ready to swap excuses for execution and turn thought into action, press play, subscribe, and share this with someone who needs the spark. 

This episode of There's a Lesson in Here Somewhere features Gregory Mark Hill, a private equity partner and author of the book, "Samsara and Its Impact on the Entrepreneur's Dreams." Gregory discusses the meaning of Samsara, a Sanskrit word that refers to the cycles of suffering when one is attached to the material world. He explains how this concept applies to entrepreneurship and the broader business world, noting that even when professional issues are solved, "if they were suffering on the inside...the businesses I found would ultimately suffer." Gregory shares stories from his work with executives, including a compelling anecdote about a Fortune Ten company, to illustrate how the "self-cherishing ego" and attachments to things like outcomes or preconceived notions can become a roadblock to company and organizational success. He also explores how shifting a leader's mindset can positively impact the entire company. Gregory’s book is available on Amazon. It’s a true story that shares insights on breaking free from limiting cycles while rediscovering joy, resilience, and purpose. Check it out – we recommend it!  https://a.co/d/0sCsvIa

In this episode, Jamie Serino and Peter Carucci speak with Dr. Despina Kontos, a professor and cancer researcher at Columbia University, to explore how artificial intelligence is transforming cancer research and patient care. From her roots in engineering to her pioneering work in medical imaging, Dr. Kontos shares how AI is moving from simple computer vision tools to sophisticated predictive analytics that are already saving lives. The conversation dives into the real-world challenges of bringing AI into clinical settings—from legal concerns to integration into existing medical workflows. Dr. Kontos also weighs in on the role of the private sector in driving innovation, the potential of democratizing medical technology to improve access, and why personal responsibility and preventative care are more important than ever. It’s a thought-provoking look at the intersection of technology, medicine, and human decision-making in the era of AI.

It’s "therapy on steroids." Join us as we discuss the therapeutic power of art therapy and creativity with Susan Kappel, a licensed creative arts therapist with 30 years of experience. This captivating conversation explores how creative expression provides concrete form to our abstract emotions and can lead to mental health breakthroughs.  Susan takes us on a fascinating journey through the evolution of art therapy from a little-known approach to an evidence-based treatment modality. She shares powerful stories of healing from Alzheimer's patients to military veterans with PTSD. These examples illuminate how art therapy bypasses verbal barriers, allowing people to process emotions they might not yet have words to express. Whether you're curious about alternative therapeutic approaches or simply looking to understand the healing potential of creativity, this episode offers valuable insights into how art can be wielded as a powerful tool for mental wellbeing. As Susan reminds us, "It's a choice to feel differently than you're feeling right now" – and creative expression might just be the key to making that choice possible. 

What if your leadership, mental health, or corporate trainings could be as engaging as a blockbuster movie or your favorite Netflix show? Sharon Sloane, CEO and co-founder of WILL Interactive, joins us to reveal how organizational learning is being transformed through interactive storytelling. Using a powerful blend of narrative and gaming techniques, and artfully incorporating an AI learning coach, Willow, Sharon and WILL Interactive help companies, the military, and other organizations tackle issues like social responsibility, diversity, leadership, and mental health. In this episode, Sharon also shares insights into the neuroscience of learning and decision-making, and the best ways to create engagement and emotionally resonant learning experiences.  We explore the intricacies of leadership decisions where the lines between right and wrong blur. With interactive guidance, participants receive real-time feedback on their choices, revealing the broader impact of their actions. In addition, we connect the dots between these learning experiences and broader organizational challenges, such as employee morale and retention, team performance and communication, and emotional wellbeing.  Beyond corporate and organizational growth, we delve into the critical role of mental health in professional settings. Sharon also discusses WILL’s work in supporting corporate cultures, addressing critical issues like the prevention of sexual harassment and abusive conduct, as well as workplace violence. Join us as we underscore the need for comprehensive support systems that promote genuine resilience, and the vital role of communication and listening skills in enhancing organizational culture. This episode is a testament to how innovative training can empower employees, transform cultures, and ultimately drive harmony and success. You can learn more about WILL Interactive here: https://willinteractive.com/ 

What would you do if you received an email that unraveled a hidden chapter of your family history? Join us as we embark on a powerful and emotional journey with Michael Hickins, former Wall Street Journal reporter and author of 'The Silk Factory.' A mysterious email from a nephew he'd never known sets Michael on a path to uncover his family's past, which intertwines with the Holocaust, as he learns of a silk factory that was in his family for generations until his father was imprisoned in a concentration camp. Michael travels with his family to Ansbach, Germany, to learn more about the silk factory and the tragic impact of the Holocaust on his parents. This episode explores the importance of sharing our personal stories, uncovering our roots, and understanding the sources of painful experiences at both the individual and collective levels that can be passed along as intergenerational trauma.  As Michael digs deeper, he confronts the emotional complexities of reconnecting with a painful past. His travels to Ansbach, where he finds scarce Jewish historical markers, and Wiesbaden, where historians document his family's deportation, highlight the stark contrasts in how societies choose to acknowledge and remember. The conversation broadens to include his father's harrowing wartime experiences and the post-war mystery of the family's silk factory, painting a poignant picture of survival, loss, and unresolved legacies. Through this narrative, we navigate the intersections of memory, identity, and the weight of history on personal lives.  As we discuss concepts such as epigenetics and intergenerational trauma, we explore how societal acknowledgment—or lack thereof—can influence healing. Michael shares his reflections on his father's hidden fury and its influence on his life, offering insights into how visiting historical sites and engaging with family narratives can aid in breaking cycles of inherited trauma. We discuss the transformative power of storytelling and the crucial role of societal recognition in fostering a healthier future, offering hope that understanding one's roots can lead to healing for future generations.You can get The Silk Factory here: https://a.co/d/bxK4y9NMichael's Amazon author page: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0C2WMNFC4Michael’s personal blog: https://michaelmissing.com/

Joe Geno has dedicated 26 years to teaching in the Bronx, a testament to his passion and resilience. In this episode, Joe shares stories from his new book, Lesson Learned, offering a wealth of insights and advice for educators and professionals in high-pressure environments.Joe’s candid recounting of his career, enriched with humorous and impactful anecdotes, reveals a journey shaped by a determination to succeed, and an open-mindedness to learn through the process of teaching about thriving as an educator. He reflects on the highs and lows of life in the education system, imparting the profound lessons he's learned along the way.From his early dreams of becoming a poet to navigating the daily challenges of teaching, Joe's story is both relatable and inspiring for anyone forging their own career path. His experiences promise not just valuable lessons, but also plenty of laughter and motivation. Whether you’re in education or another service-related or high-pressure field, Joe’s wisdom will leave you enlightened and uplifted.

How can innovation and technology make philanthropy more impactful? Join us as we chat with Brandolon Barnett, a dynamic leader who is reshaping how we think about philanthropy and impact. From his beginnings as a tech-enthusiast child to becoming the Head of Innovation & Philanthropy at Giving Compass and the Founder and CEO of the Regular App, Brandolon’s story is one of passion and innovation. Learn about groundbreaking tools like generative AI that are making philanthropy more effective and accessible, and discover the AI philanthropic advisor from Giving Compass that can transform how you engage with charitable causes.    We also explore the essence of being deliberate about philanthropy and long-term thinking in shaping a better world. Brandolon provides practical advice on participating in giving circles and highlights the significance of consistency in community events for fostering lasting relationships. Reflecting on his own journey, Brandolon emphasizes the importance of meaningful work and fair wages in the nonprofit sector, envisioning a future where social impact is seamlessly integrated into our daily lives. This episode is packed with valuable lessons and inspiring stories that will leave you motivated to make a difference. Learn more about The Regular: https://theregularapp.com/ Learn more about The Giving Compass: https://givingcompass.org/ 

In this episode, I speak with Julie Davitz, Founder and CEO of Plus Media Solutions to explore how purpose-driven organizations can turn awareness of an issue into measurable action. As the media landscape becomes increasingly fragmented, and with intense competition for people’s attention, it’s more important than ever to engage audiences at moments when they are most passionate about a cause and move them to take action.Join us as we explore how Plus Media Solutions is pioneering a new approach to this challenge. Discover how engaging storytelling and dynamic content and experiences can be timed in such a way that awareness and inspiration is transformed into deeper connections with organizations and their missions, and ultimately into action. Whether you're with a nonprofit organization or a purpose-driven brand, this episode will provide you with fresh insights into how to engage your audience in today’s media environment.Learn more about Plus Media Solutions: https://www.plusmedia.solutions/ 

What does the landscape of addiction and substance use treatment look like today? What are the hidden truths behind society's fluctuating responses to drug epidemics? Join me as I speak with Lisa Ellis Gavin, a highly experienced clinical mental health and substance use clinician, who provides an insider’s perspective on the current state and future directions of the field. Lisa discusses her extensive career, detailing the journey from harsh, abstinence-only models and Wars on Drugs to compassionate, person-centered approaches that consider the mental, emotional, physical, and social well-being of individuals. This episode emphasizes the necessity of kindness, understanding, and compassionate support for those navigating recovery, making it an essential listen for anyone interested in addiction, substance use counseling, and mental health. Lisa also discusses the dangers of fentanyl and its role in today’s drug landscape, alongside a deep dive into how drug use alters brain structures, leading to addiction. This discussion unravels the complex nature of addiction and highlights the evolving landscape of drug epidemics, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of these critical issues. Curious about the pathways to recovery and effective communication strategies for substance use awareness? We cover everything from the benefits of CBD for medical conditions to recognizing problematic usage of substances. Lisa offers invaluable advice for parents on maintaining non-judgmental, supportive dialogues with their children about substance use. Additionally, explore the diverse and individualized paths to recovery, including therapies such as CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Motivational Interviewing, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), Harm Reduction approaches, and self-help options.Resources:988: National Suicide Hotline211: NJ Resource Website/Number for Housing, Utilities, Mental Health, SUD, Legal1.844.ReachNJ: NJ Substance Use Treatment SupportSAMHSA.gov for National Treatment LocatorLisa Ellis Gavin's website: collaborativetherapyservicesllc.comMontclair State University Department of Counseling: montclair.edu/counseling

"You can only scare people so much, and if you scare them too much, they move to inaction." On this episode of There’s a Lesson in Here Somewhere, Geof Rochester, founder of GRC Advising, discusses the importance of thoughtful sustainability and social impact goals. From renewable energy to healthcare, explore how individuals and corporations are taking matters into their own hands to create positive change. While acknowledging that there is still so much work to be done, Geof shares examples of people and organizations that are solving problems, and he highlights the importance of hope and optimism as we face the challenges that lie ahead. Join us for an inspiring discussion!Learn more about GRC Advising here: https://www.grcadvising.com/. 

On this episode of There’s a Lesson in Here Somewhere, Minister Tashkovich shares the impactful and emotional story of helping a homeless couple off the streets. A former Minister for Foreign Investment  of Macedonia, Minister Tashkovich reflects on Doris Buffet's philosophy of providing a "hand up, not a handout," and delves into the tedious process of navigating bureaucratic hurdles and system challenges to secure basic needs for Nikole and Joseph. This moving episode reveals the broader issues faced by the homeless, including mental health and addiction, and underscores the importance of compassion, trust, and determination in transforming lives. Minister Tashkovich’s story is an inspiring journey with twists and turns through personal and societal challenges, and is a must-listen for anyone interested in leadership and humanitarian efforts. For more details, please check out Minister Tashkovich's great blog posts about Nicole & Joseph:   Gligor Tashkovich – Together in Dignity – Medium and Nikole’s Affirmation of Life. By Gligor Tashkovich | by ATD Fourth World | Together in Dignity | Medium

In this episode of There's a Lesson in Here Somewhere, we speak with Lisa Orloff, Founder of World Cares Center, about helping people in high stress work environments develop emotional resilience, and how that can apply to any individual and workplace. We also discuss the work that Lisa and her team does to train citizens to be Ready Responders and help people and organizations develop disaster preparedness programs, as well as World Cares Center’s extraordinary disaster response efforts around the world over the past 23 years. Join us as we highlight adaptability, agility, and empowerment in a world where everyone needs to be prepared for the unexpected. 

Join us for this episode of There's a Lesson in Here Somewhere as we speak with Jennifer Ketchens of Emergence Consulting about cultivating a workplace where employees can thrive and feel genuinely valued. The conversation focuses on employee wellbeing, DEI strategies, allyship, and developing and retaining a diverse talent pool.

Join us as we speak with Peter Carucci and Becki Davis of the band The Four26 (https://thefour26.com/) to discuss their initiative, Share Your Story, where they guide diverse groups—including veterans, seniors, youth, and prisoners—through the songwriting process. By delving into personal experiences, memories, traumas, and emotions, participants create songs that serve as a definitive expression of their stories, as well as a catharsis. Learn more about this impactful program that discovers and celebrates individual narratives through music. Hope you enjoy it!

Discover the inspiring journey behind the creation of a foundation that has impacted countless lives. Airam da Silva, President of the Icla da Silva Foundation (https://icla.org/), shares the moving story of the foundation’s origins and its remarkable efforts to provide essential financial and emotional support to individuals and families in need of bone marrow or cord blood transplants. 

What you should know about the ongoing mental health crisis among adolescents. Hear the perspectives of Great Neck North High School Principal Dr. Dan Holtzman on the current situation as well as some advice for both parents and educators on this episode of There’s a Lesson in Here Somewhere.