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Send us Fan MailHere we want to look at knowing when agency is being lost and how to get it back. Find ways to get agency back in your life. When you catch yourself saying 'I don't have a choice here,' pause. That sentence is almost never literally true. What is true is that the choices available to you feel confusing maybe, uncomfortable often, costly, or uncertain. That's different. Uncomfortable choices are still choices. And making them is still agencyReclaiming Agency Is Not a Motivation Problem. It's a Practice Problem.A method for fixing the loss of agency It's a repeatable practice, something you return to whenever you feel the drift beginning. Work through each step thoughtfully, with examples and client stories where you have them.1.     Name Where You've Outsourced Power"You cannot reclaim what you won't name."•        An honest inventory.•        Ask yourself: Where am I waiting for someone else's approval before I act? •        Where do you outsource power?•        Naming is not blaming. Mapping your road..2.     Shrink the Decision Window•        Small decisions rebuild the neural pathway of 'I can.'•        Belief in your own capability. Small wins are evidence.•        Make one decision in the next hour that is entirely yours. 3.      Rebuild Self-Trust•        Self-trust is rebuilt small, consistent kept promises.•        Track small wins •        Do hard things in safe increments. •        Keep promises to yourself.4.      Practice Intentional Discomfort•        Agency grows in direct proportion to your willingness to act before you feel ready.•        Create Boundaries. Say no to something this week. •        Ask for something you need., •        The discomfort is the practice. 5.   Replace 'I Have To' with 'I Choose To'•        Language is not just description. It is instruction. When you say 'I have to,' you are telling your brain that you are not in control. When you say 'I choose to,' you are telling your brain that you are the author.How Do You Know Agency Is Coming Back?•        You are making decisions •        Your boundaries are firmer•        You are less exhausted by decisions •        You catch yourself sooner•        You feel more present in your own daily •        The question 'What do I want?' is becoming answerable again•        You are keeping more promises to yourself The Daily Check-In QuestionEnd each day with one simple question: What did I choose today?Agency is not a personality trait you either have or don't. It is not a reward for having your life together. It is not something you earn when things get easier.It is available to you right now, in the life you have, with the resources you currently hold, the moment you decide to stop waiting for permission to live it.Books Referenced in This Episode•        Atomic Habits by James Clear •        Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke •        The Sign Up! Method — Stephanie York's upcoming book

Send us Fan MailEP 54 Agency: Why We Are Losing It We know agency matters. We know it's the difference between living your life and watching it happen. So why does it feel harder than ever to hold onto? In Episode 3, we name the four forces that are systematically dismantling our ability to choose and why this is accelerating right now.In This Episode•         The AI Outsourcing Trap•         Social Media's Weaponized Design •         The Pandemic & the Collapse of Time •         Overwhelm & the Shutdown Response •         The Cost of Waiting Key Takeaways1. AI & The Outsourcing TrapEvery time you reach for an algorithm before you reach for yourself, you lose a micro-moment of agency. Delegating your thinking isn't neutral, it has a biological cost. Use it or lose it.2. Social Media's Weaponized DesignSocial media was not designed for connection. It was designed for engagement. Infinite scroll, unpredictable reward timing (the same mechanism as slot machines), and social comparison loops were deliberately engineered to hijack your dopamine system. When your dopamine system is in a constant state of stimulation and crash, you don't have the neurochemistry to act intentionally. 3. The Pandemic & The Collapse of TimeBefore 2020, our lives were structured by rhythms that gave us temporal landmarks. Lockdown erased those landmarks. Research on time perception shows that novel experiences anchor memory; when nothing changes, time feels compressed or absent. You are not behind. You are disoriented. That's different, and it's fixable. 4. Overwhelm & The Shutdown ResponseWhen the nervous system is processing political instability, economic uncertainty, environmental anxiety, and personal life stress simultaneously, it reaches a tipping point. This Episode's Exercise: The Agency AuditYou don't need to change anything just to see more clearly. Work through these five questions in a journal, on a walk, or on a napkin wherever you are right now. 1.      The Decision CheckThink about the last five significant decisions you made. Did they feel like choices or obligations? The Outsourcing InventoryWhere are you letting something or someone else decide for you? Are you asking AI, social media, or other people's opinions before consulting yourself?2.      The Time CheckDoes time feel like it's moving forward or stuck and blurry? What is one thing you've been 'waiting for the right time' to do for more than six months?3.      The Shutdown ScanOn a scale of 1–10, how present are you in your own daily decisions? (1 = going through the motions / 10 = actively steering your day with intention.) What's keeping you from being one number higher?4.      The Cost QuestionFinish this sentence: 'The thing I keep not deciding about is ____. What it is costing me is ____. What I'm afraid will happen if I actually choose is ____.' Resources Mentioned•         Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke•         Atomic Habits by James Clear•         The Power of Agency by Paul Napper, Psy.D. & Anthony Rao, Ph.D.•         The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal•         The Sign Up! Method  Stephanie York's upcoming bookEnjoyed This Episode?Check out www.stephanieyork.com and check out episode 4! 

Send us Fan MailEpisode 2: Why Agency Matters — The Cost of Living on AutopilotIn Episode 1, we defined Agency as your capacity to act intentionally. Today, we’re looking at the stakes. Why does it matter if you are the one holding the pen? We explore the high cost of "Respectable Stagnation" and how losing your agency impacts your bank account, your health, and your very identity.In This Episode:The "Tethered" Life: A story of a successful woman whose life was paralyzed by past financial and emotional "deferred maintenance," proving that external success does not equal internal agency.The Oxygen Mask Principle: Why you cannot effectively lead or serve others until you have first reclaimed your personal agency.Identity Drift: How losing your agency leads to that haunting feeling where you can no longer answer the question: "What do I want?"The Architecture of Reality: Steve Jobs’ realization that the world was built by people no smarter than you—and how that mindset shifts you from observer to architect.5 Reasons Agency is Non-Negotiable:Mental Health: Acts as a buffer against burnout, depression, and anxiety.Adaptability: Provides the tools to navigate a fast-changing, uncertain world.Proactive Problem-Solving: You stop waiting for external solutions and start creating them.Purpose: Aligns your daily actions with your deepest values.Organizational Success: Reduces disengagement and fuels higher performance.The Science of Choice:Willpower vs. Habits: Relying on "trying harder" fails because up to 66% of your life is habitual. Agency is about building systems, not testing willpower.Longevity: Research shows 75% of longevity is influenced by lifestyle choices. Reclaiming agency is quite literally a health intervention.This Week’s "Sign Up" Move:The Language Shift: Stop saying "I have to" and start saying "I choose to."“I choose to stay in this job today while I plan my exit.”“I choose rest because my body matters.”Quick Reflection:Where am I tolerating instead of choosing?What have I promised to change but haven't acted on yet?Resources:Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna LembkeThe Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigalThe Sign Up! Method (Upcoming Book by your host)Next Episode: Why We Are Losing It—The "Silent Drift" and the biological traps that steal our power.

Send us Fan MailShow Notes | Episode 1: What Agency Is — The Power You Forgot You HadDo you ever feel like you’ve "come to" in the middle of your own life? Like you’re the understudy in a play you didn't audition for? In this episode, we strip away the academic jargon to define Agency in its simplest form: Control. We explore why high-performing women often feel frantic and "invisible" despite their success, and why reclaiming your drive isn't a matter of willpower—it’s a matter of biology.In This Episode, We Discuss:The Definition of Agency: Moving from "Autopilot" to the "Driver’s Seat." It is the intentional capacity to shape your own life.The Biological Wall: Why your lack of motivation isn't a character flaw. We dive into Dr. Anna Lembke’s Dopamine Nation to explain how modern "numbing" habits (scrolling, sugar, shopping) deplete the very chemistry we need to take action.The Silent Drift: How we lose our power through Learned Helplessness (Martin Seligman). When setbacks are repeated, our brains actually "learn" that our actions don't matter.The Outsourcing Trap: Discussing Sam Altman’s insights on how surrendering our critical thinking to systems and technology weakens our internal authority.Key Takeaways & Signs of Lost Agency:Life is happening to you, not through you: You are going through the motions with no sense of choice.The Waiting Pattern: You are waiting for permission, clarity, or the "perfect time" to finally start.Self-Check Questions: * Do you over-research instead of acting? Do you stay in situations hoping they’ll improve on their own?Do you say "I have no choice" more than "I choose to"?"Agency isn’t about controlling everything. It’s about refusing to abandon yourself."This Week’s "Sign Up" Move:The Awareness Audit: You don't have to change anything yet. This week, simply notice your "leaks." Observe where you feel frustrated, where you check out, and exactly when your day starts to "run itself." Recognize the feeling of lost agency like you would feel a cold coming on.Resources Mentioned:Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna LembkeAtomic Habits by James ClearThe Sign Up! Method (Upcoming Book by [Your Name])Next Episode: Why Agency Matters—The high cost of living on "Fine" and how it impacts your health and longevity.

Send us Fan MailContrast loneliness, or post-social loneliness, is the unexpected feeling of isolation that can arise after socializing or even scrolling social media. It’s not about being alone; it’s the gap between the connection you hoped for and what you actually experienced. You can feel lonely in a crowded room if interactions lack depth or authenticity.This often stems from unmet expectations, comparisons, and our brain’s tendency to magnify negatives over positives. When one awkward moment overshadows everything good, socializing can start to feel stressful, reinforcing a cycle of withdrawal.Try this reflection practice:Before: Check your expectations, are they realistic?During: Notice small positives (music, atmosphere, one good conversation).After: List 3 positives and rate any negatives from 1–10 to avoid catastrophizing.To reduce contrast loneliness: Build meaningful connections, limit comparison on social media, practice self-compassion, and give yourself permission to leave when overwhelmed.Episode Summary Contrast loneliness (also called post-social loneliness) is the unexpected feeling of isolation that can happen after spending time with others, or even while scrolling social media. It’s not about being physically alone; it’s about a lack of meaningful connection when interactions don’t meet our emotional needs or expectations.Remember: Growth lives in discomfort. Stop comparing. You are not behind. The world doesn’t need a perfect version of you; it needs the real you, and that is wonderfully perfect! Listen for questions you can ask yourself. 

Send us Fan MailThe Constructive Expresser: Turning Anger Into Power(Final Episode in the Anger Series)Throughout this series, we’ve explored anger that simmers, explodes, or leaks out sideways. In this final episode, we turn to the healthiest—and least common—pattern of all: The Constructive Expresser.This is the woman who doesn’t suppress anger or let it control her.She uses it.The Constructive Expresser treats anger as information and energy; a signal that something matters and a tool for setting boundaries, improving relationships, and creating meaningful change. The good news? This is a skill, not a personality trait, and anyone can learn it.In this episode, we explore:What constructive anger actually looks like in real lifeHow this style differs from stewing, exploding, or leakingWhy direct, calm expression builds confidence instead of conflictA powerful reflection question: When have I spoken my truth calmly and felt stronger afterward?Five steps to practice constructive expression:Pause & process — notice anger without reacting immediatelyClarify the message — ask: What is my anger trying to tell me?Express with intention — use clear, direct language: “I feel… I need…”Set boundaries — let anger highlight where change, limits, or honesty are requiredTake action — channel anger into problem-solving, advocacy, or self-careSupport systems that strengthen this skill:Healthy anger doesn’t grow in isolation. We talk about how therapy or coaching, peer groups, mindfulness practices, and trusted relationships help reinforce assertive communication and emotional regulation—so anger stays grounded and effective.Hope & transformation:You may have been a Stewer.You may have been a Volcano.You may have been a Leaker.But you are not locked into any of those patterns.At any age, you can move toward constructive expression—one conversation, one boundary, one honest sentence at a time.Anger doesn’t have to push people away. It can be the fuel that pulls you closer to your truth, your voice, and your purpose.Resources mentioned:The Dance of Anger by Harriet LernerNonviolent Communication by Marshall RosenbergJournaling prompt: What boundary do I need to set today?Body-based support: walking, yoga, and mindful breathing to keep anger groundedClosing thought:Constructive anger is clarity.It’s your inner compass pointing to what matters most.Trust it. Use it. Let it guide you toward healthier relationships and deeper self-respect.Reflection for the week: Can you express one frustration calmly and directly, without apology?For more resources, courses, and ways to connect, visit www.stephanieyork.com

Send us Fan MailThe Leaker: When Anger Comes Out SidewaysNot all anger explodes. Some of it slips out quietly—through sarcasm, passive-aggression, or constant nitpicking.In this episode, we’re exploring The Leaker—a subtle but powerful anger pattern where feelings aren’t expressed directly, so they leak out sideways instead. This often develops in women who were taught that being openly angry wasn’t safe, polite, or acceptable—and who learned to protect themselves by staying indirect.If you’ve ever heard yourself say something sharp and thought, That came out harsher than I meant, this episode is for you.In this episode, we explore:What Leaker anger really is—and why it hides behind sarcasm and “small” commentsCommon signs like silent treatment, backhanded compliments, guilt-inducing remarks, and nitpicking that misses the real issueThe emotional and physical cost of leaking anger, including resentment, stress, jaw tension, and digestive discomfortA powerful reflection question: Do I focus on little things because I’m afraid to speak about the big ones?Five ways to work with Leaker anger:Spot the leak — notice sarcasm, snark, or nitpicking as it’s happeningPause and ask why — identify the real feeling underneath: hurt, disappointment, feeling unseenState needs directly — use clear “I” statements instead of vague or cutting remarksPractice emotional honesty — replace indirect comments with truthful ones, even when it feels vulnerableRepair in the moment — name it and reset: “That came out snarky. What I meant was…”Support makes change easier:Leaker patterns are learned—and they can be unlearned. We talk about how therapy or coaching, communication tools, accountability partners, and mindfulness practices can help interrupt old habits before they slip out sideways.Hope & healing:If you’re a Leaker, it doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you learned creative ways to protect yourself when direct expression didn’t feel safe.Each honest sentence weakens the habit of leaking. And every direct conversation builds confidence.Your voice matters—and speaking clearly isn’t rude, dangerous, or wrong. It’s freeing.Resources mentioned:The Dance of Anger by Harriet LernerRadical Candor by Kim ScottJournaling prompt: What do I really want instead of what I’m criticizing?Mind–body practices like meditation, yoga, walking, and breathworkClosing thought:When anger leaks out, it creates distance. When it’s expressed honestly, it creates connection.Reflection for the week: Can you turn one sarcastic or nitpicky moment into an honest statement?👉 For more resources, courses, and ways to connect, visit www.stephanieyork.com

Send us Fan MailThe Volcano: When Anger EruptsSome anger stays quiet. Some turns inward. And some of it builds pressure until it explodes.In today’s episode, we’re talking about The Volcano—a pattern of anger that simmers beneath the surface until it erupts in sudden, intense, and often uncharacteristic bursts. If you’ve ever felt “fine” one moment and completely overwhelmed the next, you’re not alone.This type of anger is especially common for women in midlife who were taught—explicitly or implicitly—to suppress frustration, avoid conflict, and keep the peace. Eventually, that pressure has to go somewhere.In this episode, we explore:What Volcano anger really looks like—and why it can feel so uncontrollableCommon signs, including overreactions, regret after outbursts, and physical warning signals like a racing heart, clenched jaw, or tight chestA key reflection question: Do my reactions feel bigger than the situation? Do I regret what I say afterward?Five ways to work with Volcano anger:Identify triggers early — keep a simple anger log to notice patterns in people, situations, or times of dayLearn pre-eruption cues — your body often signals anger before your mind catches upCreate a pause practice — step away, breathe, count, or take a short walk before respondingChannel the energy — movement, journaling, or creative outlets help release intensity safelyCommunicate assertively — replace explosions with calm, direct language like: “I feel frustrated when…”Support makes a difference:Volcano anger doesn’t heal in isolation. We talk about how therapy, coaching, stress or anger support groups, medical check-ins (hormones, sleep, thyroid), and trusted relationships can provide accountability and safe outlets. The goal isn’t to eliminate anger—it’s to direct it before it detonates.Hope & healing:Noticing a trigger before you explode is progress. Pausing once when you didn’t before is progress.You’re not broken. Your anger is energy looking for direction.When you learn to release it safely, anger shifts from destruction to fuel—and becomes a compass pointing toward unmet needs and necessary change.Resources mentioned:The Dance of AngerEmotional AgilityMind–body tools like progressive muscle relaxation, yoga, and mindfulness practicesJournaling prompt: What did I need before I exploded—and how could I express that sooner next time?Closing thought:Volcano anger doesn’t define you. It usually means you’ve been holding too much inside for too long.The more you release in safe, honest ways, the less power the eruption has.Reflection for the week: Can you try one pause—just one—before reacting?👉 For more resources, courses, and ways to connect, visit www.stephanieyork.com

Send us Fan MailThe Stewer: When Anger Turns InwardSome anger explodes. Some leaks out sideways. And some of it quietly simmers beneath the surface.In today’s episode, we’re talking about the Stewer, the woman who turns her anger inward, letting it build until it shows up as stress, headaches, sleepless nights, chronic tension, or even depression.This pattern is incredibly common for women in midlife, especially those who were taught to be agreeable, self-sacrificing, and “not angry.” If you’ve ever swallowed your feelings to keep the peace—and paid for it later—this episode is for you.In this episode, we explore:What it really means to be a Stewer, and why this kind of anger is often invisible to others but exhausting on the insideCommon signs of inward anger, including self-blame, rumination, physical pain, insomnia, and loss of joyA powerful reflection question: When was the last time I swallowed my anger instead of speaking it?Five ways to work with inward anger:Name it without judgment: “I feel angry because…”Listen to your body: tension, fatigue, and pain are often emotional signalsCreate safe release: journaling, breathwork, movement, or physical dischargePractice small expressions: saying no, sharing a frustration, setting one boundaryReframe anger as wisdom: ask: What is this anger protecting or pointing me toward?Support matters:Healing inward anger doesn’t happen in isolation. We talk about the role of therapy, coaching, support groups, trusted relationships, and even medical professionals when anger shows up physically. Being witnessed breaks the silence and the shame.Closing thought:The anger you’ve been carrying isn’t here to destroy you. It’s here to guide you toward change.If you recognize yourself as a Stewer, know this: you’re not broken, you’re listening, just inward instead of outward. And there are safe, healthy ways to let that anger move before it burns you from the inside.Resources mentioned:The Dance of Anger by Harriet LernerMind-body practices like meditation and gentle yoga (Balance, Calm, Headspace)Journaling prompt: What am I holding onto that I need to release?For more resources, courses, and ways to connect, visit www.stephanieyork.comReflection for the week: Where can you express one small truth instead of swallowing it?

Send us Fan MailAnger Is NOT the Problem, It’s the MessageYou may want to grab a journal for this one.Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions for women—especially in midlife. It’s often dismissed, minimized, or labeled. But what if anger isn’t a flaw to fix… what if it’s a signal worth listening to?In this episode, I explore anger as wisdom and energy, not something to suppress or be ashamed of. I share my own experience—how subtle anger showed up during my marriage, how depression quietly turned into bitterness, and how unfulfilled expectations hardened into something I didn’t recognize in myself. I’ve always seen myself as a happy person, so the depth of heartbreak and anger surprised me—and eventually forced me to look inward instead of blaming outward.What changed everything was realizing there are different types of anger. Once I could see where mine lived and how it expressed itself, I could finally begin working with it instead of against it. My hope is that these reflections help you recognize your own patterns—or help you understand someone you love.In this episode, we cover:Why women’s anger is valid—and why stereotypes only make it harder to expressThe four common ways anger shows up: the Stewer, the Volcano, the Leaker, and the Constructive ExpresserSeven root causes of anger in midlife, from hormonal shifts and grief to injustice and loss of identityHow anger evolves with age—and why “better control” doesn’t always mean healthier outcomesFive practical steps to work with anger through awareness, safe expression, boundaries, and connectionKey takeaway: Anger is not weakness. It’s information. And at this stage of life, it can become the map back to your voice and your power, if you’re willing to listen.Reflection question: When anger shows up this week, will you push it down… or get curious about what it’s trying to tell you?For more resources, courses, and ways to connect, visit www.stephanieyork.comResearch referenced: Women’s Midlife Health Journal https://womensmidlifehealthjournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40695-016-0019-x

Send us Fan MailYou are not manifesting alone. Your thoughts, energy, and intentions are connected to a greater whole—the people around you, the energy of the universe, and the field of possibility that exists beyond the self.This series is inspired by The Source by Dr. Tara Swart. “Everything is connected—from your neurons to the people you meet to the unseen currents of energy moving through this world.” Let’s get to some of the science behind this interconnectedness. Neuroscience of interconnection:       - Mirror neurons       - Reticular Activating System (RAS): The more you believe in connection, the             more your brain filters for signs of alignment. Energy psychology: Emotions have a frequency. There is a frequency to Joy and grief. As humans we can feel it. The law of resonance: Like attracts like. Brain and body in unity: Your nervous system regulates—and your manifesting power increases. Finding a way to quiet the nervous system, feel the peace and work towards the actions You are not separate: Your thoughts influence your actions, which influence others. The universe is responsive—not random. Everything is relationship: Your job is to move in alignment with others, not in competition with them. Ways connection shows up:               -  Synchronicities (aka "signs")                 - Unexpected help or conversations.               - Feeling a strong “pull” toward someone or something. Dr. Swart's insight: “When you make decisions in alignment with your higher self and the greater good, opportunities seem to flow to you more easily.”4 steps to find a universal connection through your practice. Step 1: Connect with others mindfullyStep 2: Send out clear energetic signalsStep 3: Use visualizations of interconnectionStep 4: Gratitude strengthens the connectionReflection prompt: “Where in my life am I trying to manifest in isolation? And what opens up when I remember I’m connected to something greater?”Connection Challenge: For the next 7 days, do one intentional action each day that honors your connection to others: Reach out to someoneExpress gratitude Help someone else move closer to their dreamFinally, a closing mantra for you from this manifestation episode . Say to yourself “I am connected to everything I need—and everything I need is connected to me.”Manifestation isn’t a solo game. You are a thread in a much larger tapestry. Thank you for listening to our series. It has been a lot of fun turning what is sometimes considered a fluffy practice, by me as well, into an actionable thing that helps me continue to grow and change and lead a healthier happier more purpose driven life. Besides, what do you have to lose?Send any questions you may have to [email protected]. Until next time throw off those line that are holding you tied down. Have a TOTL day and take care. https://www.taraswart.com/the-source/ 

Send us Fan MailThis is a podcast series inspired by The Source by Dr. Tara Swart. Today, we’re diving into a vital and often overlooked principle: Harmony in manifestation.”“You can manifest your dreams and still be kind. Still be ethical. Still be in integrity.”Dr. Swart offers this framework:“Neuroscience shows that our success is deeply influenced by our relationships and our alignment with shared human values.”The ego vs. the aligned self:Ego says: “Get what you want no matter what.”Alignment says: “Get what you want in a way that’s sustainable, kind, and true.”Ego vs. Aligned Self — Key PointsThe ego operates from fear and scarcity. The aligned self operates from truth and trust.Why harmony matters:You can’t attract peace if your actions generate harm.Manifestation that comes from greed, competition, or deception is not sustainable—and often collapses under its own weight.Ego Based Manifestation is often referred to as Shadow What It Looks Like:GreedCompetitionDeceptionWhy It’s Harmful:It often leads to short-term gains but long-term disconnection, burnout, or collapse.It feeds insecurity, envy, and scarcity in others.It violates trust—with others and with your own deeper self.Ethical Reframe:Instead of “How can I get more?” Ask: “How can I create more in a way that’s true, generous, and aligned with my values?”Signs You’re Out of Harmony Red flags:Guilt or unease manipulative tactics What this does to your brain and energy:Activates your stress responseCreates subconscious blocks Limits ability to receive Reflection prompt:“Am I proud of the way I’m going after this desire?”“Would I feel good if this was printed on the front page of a newspaper?”How to Manifest in Harmony Step 1: Choose integrity-based desiresStep 2: Consider ripple effectsStep 3: Align your nervous system with peaceStep 4: Focus on co-creationReflection questions:“Where can I move with more compassion this week?”“What’s one small change I can make to manifest more ethically and peacefully?”Harmony Challenge: This week, pause before every major decision or action and ask: “Is this in harmony with who I truly want to be?”Closing affirmation: “I create my dreams with grace, integrity, and respect for all life.” https://www.taraswart.com/the-source/ 

Send us Fan MailThis series is inspired by The Source by Dr. Tara Swart. Today, we’re diving into a critical but often ignored part of manifestation—patience.”“This is where most people give up—and it’s also where the real transformation is starting.”“You are always becoming what you believe—but change happens on the timeline of your nervous system, not your calendar.” -        Neural pathways are like trails in a forest. Your brain doesn’t instantly accept a new belief or identity—it needs repetition and evidence-        There is a myth of instant manifestation:You can shift your energy quickly. Manifestation is a process of neural reconditioning. Why time is necessary?:We need to reinforce new habits To replace limiting beliefs To build confidence through small wins Let’s look at some Emotional Triggers During the Waiting Period -        Doubt, fear, frustration, comparison, impatience.“Everyone else seems to be getting what they want. Why not me?”Start asking yourself why you are bothered by the process? Journal. Next we have to acknowledge the brain's threat response:Just keep in mind, waiting activates your inner critic and fear center. Impatience triggers all the negative self speak. Your job: train your prefrontal cortex to stay the course. Get on it.Three Tools to Build Patience1. Future Journaling:Write daily from the mindset of your future self who has already achieved your desire.2. Embodied Affirmations:Don’t just say it—walk, dance, breathe, move in the energy of the future you. 3. Progress Tracker:Record small wins. Evidence rewires the brain for belief. Maybe consider stickers on the calendar when you get something done.Dr. Swart’s key idea:“Hope is not passive—it’s a practice.”Trusting the Gestation Period – Patience is a virtue but sadly lacking in so much of our society. What if nothing is happening? Often, things are rearranging behind the scenes. Here is the kicker: The energetic test: The universe (or your subconscious) often tests your desire with a pause. Spiritual-scientific bridge: It takes both physical solid scientifically proven techniques and a solid belief system. -        Spiritual: “Let go and trust.”-        Scientific: “Keep reinforcing the desired outcome so your RAS continues filtering for opportunity.” Reticular Activating System (RAS) is a network of neurons in the brainstem that plays a crucial role in regulating wakefulness, arousal, and attention. It acts as a filter for sensory information, deciding what is important enough to reach conscious awareness. Affirmations to use: “I am becoming the person who naturally receives what I’ve asked for. And that takes time.”I am worthy of change and happinessI deserve good thingsChange is my right and my journeyReflection: - “What are you rushing that actually needs time to ripen? What could you give permission to unfold?”Patience Practice Challenge:- For the next 7 days, track where progress is happening.- Write one affirmation daily.Remember Just because it’s not here yet doesn’t mean it’s not on its way.“Patience isn’t the absence of action—it’s the ability to keep acting with belief, even when the outcome hasn’t shown up yet. https://www.taraswart.com/

Send us Fan MailManifestation only works when you are deeply aligned with what you truly desire—not what you think you should want.This series is inspired by the book The Source by Dr. Tara Swart.We’re talking about Magnetic Desire—the type of desire that pulls opportunities, people, and decisions toward you because it's real, raw, and yours.Many people manifest from ego, envy, or societal pressure. They make themselves do the work and they want something but it may not be what they themselves really want or need. If what you’re calling in isn’t yours at the core—it won’t stick. — Dr. Tara Swart:  “You cannot manifest what you do not authentically desire.” So What are false desires?Why your brain resists them: Your subconscious mind knows when you're out of alignment. Researchers think around 95% of brain activity is unconscious. 3 Symptoms of a false desire:1. You procrastinate.2. You feel tired just thinking about it. 3. You want it more when others have it—but lose motivation when it’s just you.3 steps to Finding Your Magnetic Desire Step 1: Get brutally honestStep 2: Tune into the body  Watch for these feelings and signs: - Expansion and ContractionStep 3: Check for sustainable desire3 practices for Activating Magnetic Desire in Practice 1.  Affirmation refinement2. Micro-alignment 3. Anchoring it2 exercises you can do right NOW! 1. Focused desire: Start with reflecting back on what we are discussing. 2. Magnetic Challenge: This week, write a “Desire Audit.”Get the book: https://www.taraswart.com/the-source/

Send us Fan MailManifestation is not just about knowing what you want—it's about doing what needs to be done to get there. Dr. Tara Swart: “The universe responds to clarity + momentum.” She talks about how Manifestation isn't magic — it's neuroscience. Your prefrontal cortex sees the future and makes plans. Your amygdala tries to protect you from risk. When you balance them — calming fear while acting with clarity — you align your brain, body, and belief in powerful ways.Dr. Swart’s lists Practical Manifestation Tools in her book. 3 Neuroscience backed exercises to do:Action Board (not just a vision board) Mental Rehearsal / Visualization “If X happens, I will do Y.”Nine common block busters to use:1.      Fear of failure - “Action is data collection.” 2.      Self-sabotage - Self-sabotage isn't weakness. It's outdated protection based on past experiences3.    Waiting for the ‘perfect time’ -  There isn’t one. Progress starts now, with imperfect steps.4.    Mini mantras: “Small aligned action > big perfect plans.”5.     Name the Saboteur:  “If you can name it, you can tame it.”6.      Repetition Builds the Path - Interrupt the Loop7.      Make Your Environment Work for You - Willpower is overrated. Systems win.8.      Talk to Yourself, Not From Yourself - Change your inner dialogue from reaction to direction. 9.      Celebrate Micro Wins.Reflection Exercise:: What is one thing you say you want—but haven’t moved on yet? What’s one action you can take today?”Practice Challenge:Pick one desire. Write down 3 concrete steps to move toward it this week.“You don’t get what you want. You get what you believe you can have—and what you consistently act on.” — Inspired by Dr. SwartGet the book!! - https://www.taraswart.com/

Send us Fan MailI wanted to make manifestation a tangible, active thing. This series is not about just hoping but actually doing. We're diving deep into the science and practice of manifestation—not through wishful thinking, but through brain-based strategies from Dr. Tara Swart’s powerful book The Source." life, build patience and to help me direct my focus on things that I want in my life. Dr. Tara Swart, a neuroscientist, approaches manifestation as a scientifically sound process rather than magical thinking. I really like that a lot!The Science Behind Abundant Thinking What is abundant thinking?Dr. Swart’s neuroscience perspective: The brain’s reticular activating system (RAS) filters what we focus on. Key takeaway: “Your brain believes what you repeatedly tell it.”4 practical abundance exercises: 1.   The Vision Board with a Neuroscience Twist          o   Visuals help train the RAS.           o   Neuroscience tip: Regularly move and refresh images so the brain                             doesn’t tune them out. 2.     Daily Gratitude Practice          o    Choose 3 things you’re grateful for—but phrase them in terms of how                      they connect to your future self.3.     The “Future Self” Letter           o   Write a letter from your future self who already has what you’re                                 manifesting.4.     Neural Reconditioning Through Affirmations            Use present-tense affirmations with emotional language , better yet use                    affirmations while moving, running, walking, anything!Incorporate Abundance into Daily Life     Micro-shifts in daily habits:You need to make a Social & energetic alignment:Mind-body link: Your body plays a role in abundance—hydration, sleep, movement, and breath work all regulate your ability to perceive abundance Challenge: For the next 7 days, do one abundance exercise per day—small but consistent.“Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.” — Wayne Dyerhttps://www.taraswart.com/

Send us Fan MailMany people feel a sense of injustice.  As I was researching additional materials for me to study on my journey to healing I found several articles on justice sensitivity. Then the articles pointed out how people with ADHD feel it much more and those who in recovery also. I am not a doctor and I am not diagnosing anyone. Please seek help if you are struggling. Common ADHD SymptomsInattention & Distractibility Disorganization & Poor Time Management Impulsivity Emotional Dysregulation Hyperactivity & Restlessness Forgetfulness Social Challenges Sleep Difficulties Relationship Struggles Workplace Issues What Is Justice Sensitivity?It can be a Tendency to identify injustice easily and react strongly Emotional ResponsesIntense anger or rage Resentment or bitterness Guilt or shameDespair or hopelessnessEmpathy overload Fear or anxiety Cognitive Responses (Thinking Patterns)Obsessive rumination Black-and-white thinkingHyperfocus on the injustice Moral absolutism Sense of moral duty Distrust of authority or systems Behavioral ResponsesConfronting or calling out the wrong-doer Advocating or defending others Avoiding situations or people Self-sabotage Taking impulsive action Overcommitting to causes ADHD brains have a heightened emotional response which triggers some issues. Emotional intensity and dysregulation lead to lower dopamine & norepinephrine levels causes: 1.     Reduced motivation and focus2.     Difficulty with attention and memory3.     Emotional sensitivity4.     Seeking stimulationADHD & Justice Sensitivity Action Checklist1. Build Self-AwarenessName the emotion: “What am I feeling right now?”Identify the trigger: “What injustice or unfairness set this off?”Ask: “Is this something I can change, or do I need to let it go for now?”2. Regulate Emotions in the MomentUse grounding techniques (e.g., 5-4-3-2-1 sensory check-in)Take a 5-minute movement or breathing breakDelay reaction: wait 10–30 minutes before responding or acting3. Process the Injustice ConstructivelyJournal or voice-record your thoughts to release mental pressureTalk it out with a trusted friend, coach, or therapistReframe: “What does this reaction tell me about my values?”4. Reduce OverwhelmSet boundaries with news/social media intakeLimit exposure to injustice triggers (online arguments, toxic people, etc.)Use visual tools like calendars or task lists to stay anchored in the present5. Channel Energy into ActionChoose one small action to restore justice (e.g., sign a petition, donate, share a resource)Volunteer or get involved with a cause that aligns with your valuesCelebrate small wins 6. Support Your ADHD BrainPrioritize sleep, movement, hydration, dietExplore therapy, coaching, or  support groups7. Practice Self-CompassionRemind yourself: “It’s okay to feel deeply — that’s part of who I am.”Forgive yourself if you overreact or get stuckAcknowledge that justice sensitivity can be a strength, not just a struggleGet in touch at: https://linktr.ee/throwoffthelineshttps://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/adhd-justice-sensitivity#1

Send us Fan MailOne of the reasons that I started a podcast was to find purpose in my life, but it was also to share the things that I learned to do in order to overcome really, really difficult things. Podcasts was one of the great ways I lifted myself out of depression, isolation and found a connection to the world.Here's how podcasts can contribute to a happier mindset:·        Combating Loneliness and Promoting Connection:·        Entertainment and Stress Relief:·        Learning and Self-Improvement:·        Access to Diverse Perspectives:·        Mindfulness and Self-Reflection:·        Building Empathy:·        Finding Meaning and Purpose:·        Creating a Sense of Community:·        Exploring New Ideas and Interests:·        Providing a Break from Daily Routine:·        Finding Inspiration and Motivation: Some ways for you to find podcasts that will fit any of your needs. 1. Use Podcast Platforms with Search & Browse FeaturesSpotify, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Audible, Amazon Music2. Try Podcast Discovery Apps & WebsitesListen Notes – A powerful search engine for podcasts.Goodpods – Social features help you see what friends and influencers are listening to.Podchaser – Sort by reviews, creators, guests, or categories.Podyssey – Offers curated lists, user recommendations, and community reviews.3. Use Social Media and Online CommunitiesReddit subs like r/podcasts TikTok and Instagram Facebook groups 4. Ask People You Know5. Search Blogs and Articles6. Look Up a Person or Topic You Like7. Use Podcast Player Recommendations8. Explore Podcast NetworksWondery – Known for storytelling and true crime.Crooked Media – Politics and current events.Gimlet – Deep dives into human stories and ideas.TED Audio Collective, NPR, BBC – High-quality educational content.9. Follow Your Favorite Authors or Celebrities10. Look at Listener Reviews and Episode DescriptionsSure life is changing fast. Things are not the same but the fact is and we all know this deep down, they are not going back. So adapting can be a beautiful way to get into this life, engage, live, be in awe, embrace and grow into new thoughts and new worlds and enjoy! That is what this life is about. The wonderment of our world. Go get yours!!

Send us Fan MailAs a society when women are lonely they often can not fix it on their own. We are programmed to not be vulnerable, put on a veneer of happiness and just get on with it."I take responsibility for not wanting to live by the old rules anymore. I wanted a life where I mattered."Why Women Are Lonelier?These are just 7 of the ways society causes us to be lonely. 1.    Emotional Labor Without Reciprocity2.    Relational Identity3.    Cultural Competition4.    Shamed for Having Needs5.    The Caregiving Trap6.    Performative Social Connection7.    Invisibility with Age  The Healing Work, things you can do to work on loneliness1.    Set Boundaries 2.    Reclaim Selfhood 3.    Sisterhood Over Competition 4.    Speak Your Truth 5.    Honor Your 6.    Create Real Connection 7.    Refuse to Be Erased Loneliness is not a personal failure — it’s a societal wound. But every time you choose honesty over pretending, connection over comparison, you are healing that wound. For you. For all us. We all collectively need to be more present. If you see someone trying to reach out, trying to connect be there with and for them. We are all a part of this planet, we all need to see each other more clearly. ""So — what’s one bold, scary, beautiful thing you can do for yourself this week? You’re worth it. You matter. And if no one’s told you that today — I’m telling you now." Until next time have a TOTL day and give yourself a hug!!Episode 23 on Self Talk and EP 28 on Confidence can help too!! 

Send us Fan MailWhen we feel powerless we MUST look at what power we do have. We have the power of what we do, every single day, even if just a little, where we spend our focus, our time and our money.  5 BIG Economic Benefits:·       Local Multiplier Effect·       Increased Tax Revenue·       Job Creation and Retention·       Support for Local Businesses·        Increased Community Wealth3 amazing Social Benefits:·       Stronger Community Ties·       Community Involvement·        Support for Local Causes 2 important Environmental Benefits:·       Reduced Carbon Footprint·        Shorter Supply Chains Average Multiplier Math means money is re-spent 3 to 7 times over again in a community!! This means every dollar spent locally can add $2 to $6 dollars as it is re-spent in the community. If that money was spent online or out of the community it never gets into the community. It goes to other places and does not benefit you.The multiplier effect occurs because local businesses are more likely to spend their revenue within the community as well. when a consumer spends $100 with an online retailer or chain store headquartered elsewhere, most of that money immediately leaves the local economy.Evidence clearly shows dollars spent locally have a significantly greater impact on a community's economy compared to non-local spending. With multipliers ranging from 3x to 7x, even a small percentage of consumer spending to local businesses can generate substantial economic benefits for a community. 4 things to do right away:1.     Buy locally when you can. 2.     Trade, share and sell locally. Recycle.3.     Buy resale, thrift or used furniture, appliances, clothing. 4.     Go out and drive around and really SEE what is in your area, share info, offer addresses and spread the word about local places. Without community we live in dark, and often problematic places. With community we have neighbors, better systems and a kinder society. Be mindful, be kind, think about your purchases it is a LOT easier than you think. Until next time throw off the lines that are holding you back. Even one small change at a time can move your world into a better happier more fulfilling place. Links: https://sustainableconnections.org/why-buy-local/#:~:text=Locally%20owned%20businesses%20make%20more,%2C%20habitat%20loss%2C%20and%20pollution.https://amiba.net/local-multiplier/#:~:text=The%20Local%20Multiplier%20occurs%20when,at%20a%20non%2Dlocal%20company.Episodes 17 or 29 on hoarding

Send us Fan MailI want to challenge your mindset on one of the most misunderstood tools in personal finance — budgeting.The 9 Hidden Reasons We Avoid Budgets 1.    Perceived Restriction 2.    Fear of Discovery 3.    Lack of Motivation 4.    Negative Associations 5.    Unrealistic Goals 6.    Inconsistent Income 7.    Lack of Knowledge 8.    Time and Effort 9.    Peer Pressure You don’t have to call it a budget. Call it a spending plan. A money roadmap. Your goal fund. You can call it Sally or Fred, call it the Money Road map, the peso progress, my journey to a million. Whatever doesn’t make you cringe.Build a Budget in 5 Simple Steps Let’s get practical. Here’s how to start, step by step:Get out a piece of paper, open up a word doc or even better yet use Excel and save it to come back to each month. 1.    Estimate your income 2.    Estimate expenses 3.    Compare & adjust 4.    Track and tweak 5.    Stick with it – Automate, set goals, celebrate small wins. Stay on top of it. Manage your money so it doesn’t manage you!Budgets and serious things are tough to focus on. We are all doing so much during our days. It is a serious conversation but like eating healthy and getting exercise your financial health will catch up with you, one way or another if you don’t do something about it. 

Send us Fan MailWe discuss Hope on this episode, what it can do for you, 5 areas in your life that can impact you ability to find hope and what that might look like. Then we jump into 8 different ways to support your feelings of hope as well as ways to build on these feelings and help you feel better in your day to day life. Let’s take a quick look at the 5 areas in your life that can impact your ability to have and find hope                  . 1. Personal Challenges and Setbacks - Repeated failures or disappointments, Overwhelming difficulties, Lack of progress2. Internal Factors - Self-doubt and negative thinking, Low self-esteem, Burnout 3. External Factors - Loss and isolation, Victimization, Distractions and comparisons4. Mental Health - Anxiety and depression, Other mental health issues5. Lack of a Vision or Purpose - Not having a clear goal, Feeling lost or stuck 8 Ways to build Hope1. Focus on the Present - Grounding Techniques, Shift Perspective:2. Set Achievable Goals - Break Down Tasks, Celebrate Small Wins:3. Connect with Others - Build a Support System, Engage in Social Activities4. Practice Gratitude - Identify Positive Aspects, Gratitude Journaling5. Manage Negative Thoughts - Challenge Negative Thinking, Reframe Your Thoughts6. Seek Professional Help - Mental Health Professionals, Support Groups7. Find Meaningful Activities - Pursue Hobbies, Engage in Learning8. Build Resilience - Practice Self-Compassion, Focus on Self-CareThis episode is meant to help you look at what you are feeling, be aware and build a more positive though routine. Resources:Episodes to listen to following this episode:TOTL episodes 9 thru 14. https://self-compassion.org/https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11U0h0DPu7k

Send us Fan MailThis episode discusses what the most common biases are and what they might look like in your daily life as well as solutions for working on them. Biases exist in all of us and we need them to handle all of the information coming at us. However, when they run your life it leads to limiting beliefs, walled off communities and less effective leadership and work environments.  Types of biases: Confirmation Bias Affinity/Similarity Bias, Halo Effect, Horns Effect, Gender Bias, Beauty Bias, Authority Bias, Conformity Bias, Attribution Bias, Availability Bias, Availability BiasImpact of Biases:  Unequal Treatment, Poor Decision Making, Misinterpretations, Social Division, Reduced Creativity and Innovation, Hindered ProgressStrategies for Overcoming Bias: Self Awareness, Slow Down Thinking and Decision Making, Seek out Differing or Diverse Opinions, Practice Perspective taking from others viewpoint, Establish Criteria for decisions, Hold Yourself Accountable to your bias, use data and evidence to challenge your biasRemember that overcoming bias is an ongoing practice, not a one-time achievement. We never eliminate biases completely, but with consistent effort, we can reduce their impact on our thoughts and actions. Resources:"Think Again" by Adam Grant"Unconscious Bias" by Pamela Fuller, Mark Murphy and Anne ChowEp 20 Habits, EP 21 Critical Thinking, EP 22 Self Perception and others Perspectives

Send us Fan MailWhy do we as Americans buy so much stuff?- Post War Economic Policies - Mass Production and New Products - Advertising and Marketing Focus - Consumerism as a Cultural Ideal - Economic Growth and Stability as an Ideal - Large Consumer Market - Credit and Debt - Consumer ConfidenceWe desire to buy more things due to a combination of psychological factors, Reasons for hoarding: Pursuit of Happiness, Social Status and Identity, Excitement, Fear of Missing Out,    Coping Mechanism, Reward and CelebrationMarketing and advertising have all impacted us. Letting go is NOT impossible, we give specific ways to cut down on clutter in the episode. Start working on your own pile of things. Relisten to the podcast where I explain why you are keeping too many things. What values have you assigned to these possessions? Also, make decisions to use less, share more, reuse. Get a recycle mindset and live a healthier, less heavy life. It is incredibly freeing to have less possessions, to have less attachment to Stuff. Resources-        "Buy Now! The Shopping Conspiracy" is available on Netflix-        “The Story of Stuff” a short about the lifecycle of goods. It came out in 2007 and is a great short lesson on where our things come from and suggestions to cut down on consuming. -        Link for US consumerism: https://finance.yahoo.com/news/americans-buy-crazy-amount-cheap-120000904.html-        EP 17 Emotional Hoarding-        EP 11, Dr,. Lisa Smith: Embracing Vulnerability

Send us Fan MailConfidence is: the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.Confidence isn’t something you're born with; it’s a skill that can be developed. It’s about trusting your abilities, feeling comfortable in your own skin, and stepping up to challenges with a positive mindset.  Cultivating Confidence:1.     Focus on Your Strengths and Accomplishmentso   Identify your strengths.o   Celebrate your wins. o   Reflect on your successes. 2.     Set Achievable Goalso   Break down large goals. o   Set realistic expectations. o   Track your progress. 3.     Practice Positive Self-Talk o   Create positive affirmations to repeat to yourself.o   Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.o   Focus on solutions.o   Consider buying a book titles “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself” by Shad Helmstetter. 4.     Step Outside Your Comfort Zoneo   Embrace challenges. o   Confront your fears.o   Learn from setbacks.5.     Surround Yourself with Supportive Peopleo   Seek out positive relationships.o   Build a strong support system.o   Limit negative influences.6.     Practice Self-Compassiono   Be kind to yourself.o   Forgive yourself.o   Practice self-care. Benefits of Confidence  Confidence fuels success by fostering motivation, resilience, and the willingness to take risks.  ·       Motivation and Initiative·       Resilience and Perseverance ·       Risk-Taking and Innovation·       Improved Decision-Making·       Enhanced Communication and Networking·       Positive Self-Perception·       Set High Standards and Goals·       Building Trust and Rapport·        Overcoming Fear and DoubtsWithout confidence we struggle in our lives in almost every way. Confidence is not arrogance; it is not abusive and lorded over others. Confidence is a calm, strong force and people are drawn to it. It makes you a leader in your own life. When you are more confident people will see it in your professional and personal life. As you feel it, people mirror it back on you and then you become it, more confident, you become more unstoppable. Episodes mentioned in the podcast:EP 1: Effort and Smart GoalsEP 23: The power of Self TalkEP 27: Overcoming FearFind more content at : https://linktr.ee/throwoffthelinesConnect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | Facebook

Send us Fan MailSo many people say they are anxious and afraid but there is a difference. I find that many people say they have anxiety and are struggling with focus when it is sometimes just fear.  In coaching I deal with a lot of fear of failure and fear of success. The perceived anxiety feels so real, but I want to look at fear vs anxiety.  When we are able to figure out the fear and address it and break it down then we are able to move forward without the anxiety. Anxiety and fear are often confused, but anxiety is more about anticipating potential future threats rather than responding to immediate danger. It's like fear's forward-looking cousin.Things that seem like fear but are not:1.     Excitement/anticipation 2.     Awe 3.     Intense surprise 4.     Phobic disgust – like fear of snakesDistinguish between fear and anxiety:1.     Time orientation: Fear is about the present, anxiety is often about the future or past. 2.     Specificity: Fear has a clear trigger or object, anxiety may be triggered without a tangible threat present. 3.     Duration: Fear typically subsides once the threat is gone. Anxiety lasts longer.4.     Physical response:Fear triggers an intense, immediate fight-or-flight response (racing heart, sweating, tunnel vision)5.     Anxiety often produces more gradual physical symptoms like muscle tension, fatigue, and difficulty concentrating.6.     Rationality: Fear is usually proportional Control: With fear, taking action (like running from danger) typically helps resolve the feeling. Anxiety can feel less controllable and may not be relieved by direct action to a real threat. For example, being startled by a snake on a hiking trail is fear, while worrying about possibly encountering snakes on future hikes is anxiety.Here are some key approaches to help you prepare and manage fear before it arises:1.     Understand Your Triggers – Identify what specifically makes you anxious in tense situations so you can prepare for those moments.2.     Visualize Success – Picture yourself handling the situation confidently. This mental rehearsal reduces anxiety and increases preparedness.3.     Practice Controlled Breathing – Techniques like box breathing (inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4) can help calm your nervous system.4.     Develop a Plan – Have a clear strategy for how you will navigate the situation. Knowing your next steps can ease uncertainty.5.     Use Positive Self-Talk – Replace negative thoughts with empowering ones, such as "I am prepared" or "I can handle this."6.     Physical Preparation – Engage in activities that reduce tension, such as stretching, light exercise, or relaxation techniques.7.     Reframe Fear as Excitement – Instead of seeing fear as a threat, view it as energy that can help you perform better.8.     Practice in Low-Stakes Environments – If possible, expose yourself to similar but lower-pressure situations to build confidence over time.For more on handling fear listen Episode 2 for handling change and planning for it and Episode 8 stress and anxiety. Rate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest: Want to share your story? We would love to hear from you at [email protected].

Send us Fan MailWhen you first connect with a coach or coaching company, they should offer you a free discovery call. A great coach will assess where you are, pinpoint key areas for improvement, and give you actionable steps to take right away. What you don’t want is a coach or company that only pushes their system without considering your specific needs. They are not coaching, they are selling. First you should have a discovery call. Look for these things. 1.      They Ask About You as a Whole Person: A great coach will ask about your balance, your long-term vision, and the challenges you face across your life.2.      They Assess Quickly and Effectively: They use their knowledge to craft a plan that fits YOU, not a cookie-cutter approach.3.      They Provide Immediate Value:  If they’re holding back and only promising results once you pay, that’s a concern.4.      They Are Your Guide, Not Your Friend: A good coach isn’t there to be your buddy. They will push you, challenge you, and hold you accountable, but they will never belittle or threaten you.Red Flags of bad coaching: ·        If they don’t take the time to understand you, they’re not the right fit.·        If they’re trying to upsell you without providing real value first, walk away.·        If the person selling you coaching isn’t the one coaching you, be cautious.·        If they rely on fear, guilt, or pressure tactics to get you to commit, that’s a problem.The Cost of Bad Coaching:I’ve had clients come to me after working with other coaching companies that did more harm than good. I had one client who was charged double what I charge, and all they got were two short calls a month, where they were berated for not meeting unrealistic expectations.  They were threatened with statements like “I’m going to have to tell the head coach to give you a call now, you didn’t do your work.” That’s not coaching. That’s just threats, aggressive ways to force you to change instead of understanding you as a person and working with your strengths, weaknesses and specific needs. Bad coaching costs you time, momentum and often can alter your behaviors in negative ways even leaving you with more self-doubt and loss of confidence.   A great coach understands your journey, your struggles, and what’s really holding you back. They help you create a sustainable plan that works for your life and business, not just a system that worked for someone else.What to look for in a coach. 1.      Schedule a Discovery Call: See how they listen and respond to you.2.      Ask the Right Questions: How will they help you? What specific steps will they have you take?3.      Trust Your Gut: You should feel heard, understood, and motivated after that first conversation.4.      Look for a Whole-Person Approach: The best coaches consider your business, personal life, strengths, and weaknesses.5.      Avoid the Hard Sell: If they’re pushing a program without listening to you first, that’s a red flag.If you’re ready to take the next step in finding the right coach, visit www.descoaching.com and reach out. Even if we don’t work together, I’d love to help you with a one-on-one conversation to point you in the right direction. Coaching is about real change, real accountability, and real growth.Reach out at [email protected]. 

Send us Fan MailDopamine acts as a chemical messenger in the brain, primarily responsible for feelings of pleasure and reward, and motivation,  signals to the brain when and encourages us to repeat that behavior. Companies use this against us and as a society we are addicted to it. Key points:·        Function:Dopamine acts as a neurotransmitter, sending signals between nerve cells, primarily within the "reward pathway" which is activated by fun experiences. ·        Release mechanism:When a rewarding activity occurs, dopamine is released from neurons in the midbrain and travels to through the brain. ·        Impact on behavior:This release of dopamine reinforces the behavior that led to the reward, making us more likely to repeat it. ·        Role in movement:Dopamine also plays a crucial role in motor control, and low levels are associated with conditions like Parkinson's disease which affects movement. ·        Receptors:Dopamine interacts with different types of dopamine receptors (D1, D2, D3, D4, D5) on target neurons, leading to various effects depending on which receptor is activated. Algorithms leverage the brain's dopamine system by mimicking the "reward" mechanism, essentially providing intermittent positive feedback to keep users engaged and coming back for more, similar to how a slot machine works, by delivering unexpected small rewards like notifications, likes, or interesting content, which triggers a dopamine surge, making users feel good and encouraging continued interaction with the platform. Key points about how algorithms use dopamine:·        Reinforcement Learning·        Variable Reward Schedule·        "Likes" and Social Validation·        Personalized Content·        Infinite ScrollExamples of how algorithms manipulate dopamine:·       "Like" button on social media·       "New notification" alert·        Personalized recommendations Concerns related to dopamine manipulation:·       Addiction-like behavior·       Mental health impacts ·        Real addiction because your body needs dopamine from somewhere Things to do to reduce dopamine addiction:1. Consume foods high in tyrosine.2. Try a balanced diet that’s higher in protein-rich foods and lower in carbohydrates.3. Make physical exercise a habit.4. Say “om.”Meditiate5. Get a massage.6. Get adequate sleep.7. Listen to calming music.8. Go outside.9. Take nutritional supplements. Set boundaries ·        Set boundaries with technology·        Create microenvironmentsLimit access to problematic devices by keeping them out of certain rooms or times of day. Engage in authentic pleasureSeek out meaningful experiencesStep outside of your comfort zone Be honest with yourselfGive yourself graceSet realistic goals Find social support Resources:Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke: https://www.annalembke.com/dopamine-nationVery Powerful Podcast Episode on Diary of a CEO with Dr. Lembke: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6xbXOp7wDA

Send us Fan MailShame: Holding Us BackShame is something I’ve struggled with—and I know I’m not alone. It’s that awful feeling that makes us believe we’re fundamentally flawed, not just that we’ve made a mistake, but that we are the mistake. It isolates us, eats away at our confidence, and can even impact our mental health.I wanted to dive into this topic because shame is powerful, but it doesn’t have to control us. Let’s talk about why it’s so toxic and, more importantly, how we can break free from it.Why Shame Is So Damaging🔹 It Warps How We See Ourselves – Instead of thinking, “I messed up,” shame makes us believe, “I am messed up.” It’s like carrying around a label that says “not good enough.”🔹 It Pushes Us into Isolation – When we’re ashamed, we fear judgment, so we withdraw. 🔹 It Comes from Internalized Criticism – Sometimes, shame doesn’t even start with us. It comes from voices in our past🔹 It’s Harder to Process Than Guilt 🔹 It Can Have Serious Mental Health Consequences – Chronic shame is linked to depression, anxiety, addiction, eating disorders, and even suicidal thoughts.Is There a Shame Epidemic?I’ve noticed that shame feels more intense than ever, and I think a lot of it has to do with how our world operates today:📱 Social Media Magnifies It – Everything we do feels public, and mistakes aren’t just personal anymore—they’re out there for the world to judge.⚖️ We’re Constantly Comparing Ourselves – The pressure to have a perfect life, body, career, or relationship is overwhelming.💬 There’s a Stigma Around Mental Health – So many of us feel ashamed for struggling when, in reality, we all go through difficult times.🌎 Cultural & Societal Pressures Are Huge – Expectations around success, appearance, and behavior can make us feel like we’re never measuring up.🔥 Cancel Culture & Public Shaming Are Everywhere – The fear of saying or doing the wrong thing can make people feel like they’re walking on eggshells.How I’m Learning to Overcome Shame (And You Can Too)I won’t pretend it’s easy, but I’ve found some things that help:✅ Identifying the Source  ✅ Challenging Negative Self-Talk   ✅ Practicing Self-Compassion  ✅ Mindfulness & Meditation  ✅ Talking to Someone I Trust   ✅ Seeking Professional Help   ✅ Prioritizing Self-Care  ✅ Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations Resources That Have Helped Me📌 Therapies & Support Groups: Cognitive therapy, 12-step meetings, online communities like Women for Sobriety, journaling, and volunteering have been great tools for healing.📺 Must-Watch: 15 Minutes of Shame (HBO/MAX) – A documentary that dives deep into public shaming.Watch here.🎙️ Brené Brown Podcast: Vulnerability, Shame, and Bravery with Koren. Listen here.📖 Dr. Kristin Neff on Self-Compassion: Her work has changed how I see myself. Learn more at self-compassion.org or watch her talk here.Connect with Us:●      Website: Throw Off the Lines●      Follow us on: Instagram | FacebookBe a Guest:Want to share your story, go to [email protected].

Send us Fan MailThe Power of Self-Talk: Transforming Your Inner DialogueIn this podcast episode, I dive deep into the power of self-talk and how it can transform your inner dialogue. We'll explore the impact of negative self-talk on our mental health, relationships, and professional life, as well as the benefits of cultivating positive self-talk. I share practical strategies for identifying and reframing negative thoughts, using affirmations, and surrounding yourself with positivity. By the end of this episode, you'll have actionable insights to improve your self-talk and, ultimately, your overall well-being and success.Self-talk is the internal dialogue we have with ourselves throughout the day. It’s the stream of thoughts that runs through our minds, influencing how we perceive ourselves, others, and the world around us. Self-talk can be conscious or subconscious, and it plays a significant role in shaping our emotions, behaviors, and overall mindset.The Impact of Negative Self-TalkNegative self-talk manifests as self-criticism, catastrophizing, and pessimism. Common phrases include:●      "I’m not good enough." ●     "I’ll never succeed."Effects on Mental Health:●      Increased anxiety, stress, and depression.Effects on Relationships:●      Reduced confidence, feelings of unworthiness, and inadequacy.Effects on Work and Professional Life:●      Performance suffers due to procrastination, lack of motivation, and burnout from fear of failure.●      Career growth stalls as risks are avoided and opportunities for advancement are missed.The Power of Positive Self-TalkPositive self-talk is encouraging, solution-focused, and self-compassionate. It involves an empowering inner dialogue. Common phrases include:●      "I can learn and grow from this." ●      "I’ve handled tough situations before; I can do it again." ●      "Mistakes are part of the journey."Benefits for Personal Life:●      Reduced stress, increased resilience, and improved overall well-being.●      Enhanced self-esteem leads to healthier and more authentic connections.●      Greater ability to handle challenges and appreciate relationships.Benefits for Work and Professional Life:●      Enhanced creativity, productivity, and problem-solving abilities.●      Willingness to embrace challenges and learn from feedback.Strategies for Cultivating Positive Self-Talk - We offer ways to combat it.TakeawaysNegative self-talk can severely impact our mental health, relationships, and professional life. Start small—make a list of positive affirmations and read them frequently throughout the day. Borrow mantras like “All is Well” to help relax and derail negativity. Remember, “Your inner dialogue is one of the most important conversations you’ll ever have—make it kind, empowering, and inspiring.”Check out our episodes on habits, shame, and change. Little by little, you can build the life you want.Resources:●      What to Say When You Talk to Yourself by Shad Helmstetter●      Podcast with Dr. Helmstetter●      Podcast Episodes on Change, Effort, Shame, and More●      Sign up for Updates and Bonus Material: Throw Off the Lines

Send us Fan MailEP 22: Self Perspective and Other’s PerspectivesIn this episode looking at contrast between self-perception and others' perspectives.  This episode pairs well with Critical Thinking and Self Talk episodes. Self-PerceptionDefinition: How you see, evaluate, and understand yourself.Someone Else's PerspectiveDefinition: How others view, evaluate, and interpret you.How You Can Leverage This ConceptRecognize Subjectivity: Action: Pause and remind yourself that their perspective is valid to them, even if it conflicts with yours.Ask Open-Ended QuestionsSeparate Intent from ImpactPut Yourself in Their ShoesBe Open to FeedbackReflect on SimilaritiesAvoid AssumptionsSteps to TakePause and ReflectAsk QuestionsListenSummarize to ThemRespond ThoughtfullyPracticing these skills will allow you to foster an emotional connection and break down judgments and assumptions. It also promotes patience and understanding, increases compassion, and builds trust. Additionally, it expands your own understanding, encourages acts of kindness, and helps you see things from their point of view—all foundational parts of healthy relationships and communication.Steps Using Perspective for EmpathyBe CuriousListen ActivelyAcknowledge Their EmotionsImagine Their ExperienceRespond ThoughtfullyUsing Perception/Perspective in Business- Deeper customer/client understanding- Uncover underlying needs- Provide better-informed insight- Better frame the conversation for the listener- Build storytelling to fit the situation- Challenge assumptions you may have- Increased customer engagement- Higher perceived value added- Stronger customer conversion/relationshipsBy understanding someone else’s perspective, you strengthen your ability to connect emotionally, reduce conflict, and build stronger, more empathetic relationships. Resources:●      YouTube Ted Talk with Heather Hansen about How Perspective Trumps Empathy●      Leaders Developing Empathy PodcastEpisodes on Critical Thinking, Empathy, and Leadership are partners to this episode. Join the Journey:If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us:●      Website: Throw Off the Lines●      Follow us on: Instagram | FacebookRate & Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest:Want to share your story? We would love to hear from you at [email protected].

Send us Fan MailEP 21 Critical Thinking: A Skill We May Be LosingIn today's world, critical thinking is more essential than ever. It's what makes us exceptional problem solvers. However, factors such as our current political climate, the lasting impact of the pandemic, and the overwhelming use of social media for information have eroded this vital skill. We often don't take the time to fact-check for ourselves, and the lack of open conversations has become the new norm. Our attention is scattered by countless distractions, making it challenging to seek “important” information in bite-sized pieces, which ultimately undermines our ability to think critically.Critical Thinking Skills Include:●      Analysis●      Evaluation●      Problem-solving●      Logical Reasoning●      Creativity●      Reflection●      Open-mindedness●      Decision Making●      CommunicationBuilding Critical Thinking Skills:●      Ask Questions: Cultivate curiosity by asking open-ended questions and listening to the speaker.●      Analyze and Evaluate Information: Fact-check information from several sources and remain open to learning.●      Challenge Assumptions: Reflect on your beliefs and assumptions. Explore differing viewpoints to broaden your understanding of a topic.●      Practice Logical Reasoning: Engage in puzzle games, brainteasers, and logic puzzles to build these skills.●      Engage in Reflection: Reflect on your decisions and thought processes. Ask: “What worked well, and why?” “What could I have done differently?” Keep a journal to document your reflections and lessons learned.●      Seek Feedback: Share your thought processes or decisions with trusted individuals. Ask for constructive feedback and be open to criticism to refine your approach.●      Stay Open-Minded: Practice empathy by trying to understand other perspectives and their reasoning. When presented with new information, ask: “Could this change how I see things?”●      Improve Communication Skills: Learn to articulate your thoughts clearly and listen actively. Engage in discussions or debates to practice presenting and defending your ideas.●      Build a Reading and Learning Habit: Read widely across disciplines to expose yourself to different ideas and perspectives. Focus on materials that challenge your thinking, like essays, opinion pieces, or books on philosophy and science.●      Engage in Real-Life Practice: Use your critical thinking in everyday situations: Evaluate news stories for credibility, analyze advertisements for hidden messages, and make well-reasoned decisions about personal or professional challenges.●      Use Tools and Techniques: Leverage tools like mind maps and Socratic questioning.●      Practice Patience: Building critical thinking skills takes time. Be consistent and practice daily, even in small ways.Why Critical Thinking Skills Are Important:●      Improved Decision-Making: They help in making informed, logical choices.●      Problem-Solving Ability: They enable you to tackle challenges effectively.●      Avoiding Biases: They reduce the influence of emotions, assumptions, and stereotypes.●      Lifelong Learning: They foster adaptability and the ability to learn and grow.Thinking Fast<

Send us Fan MailEP 20: Habits - Almost Half of What We Do!Hey everyone! In this episode, I'm diving into the fascinating world of habits. Did you know that almost half of what we do daily is driven by habits? Let's break it down.What Are Habits? Habits are automatic behaviours triggered by specific cues, requiring minimal thought. Our brains love habits because they save energy and help us move through life efficiently.The Habit Loop (from Atomic Habits by James Clear):Cue – The trigger that starts a habit.Craving – The desire for a specific outcome.Response – The actual habit or behaviour.Reward – The benefit that reinforces the habit.If one step is missing, the habit won't stick. Today, I’ll focus on the habits we already have and how to work on changing them.Why Are Habits Hard to Break?●      They happen automatically, often without us noticing.●      Dopamine reinforces habits by linking them to pleasure.●      Stress can make us fall back on old habits ("I need my coffee!" sound familiar?).●      Environmental triggers, like watching TV and snacking, can reinforce bad habits.The Four Laws of Behaviour Change (James Clear's Approach):Make it Obvious – Adjust your environment to highlight good habits.Make it Attractive – Use rewards or social support to stay motivated.Make it Easy – Remove friction and simplify your goals.Make it Satisfying – Celebrate small wins to keep going.Creating Positive Habits●      Start with a list and set SMART goals.●      Plan ahead and track your progress.●      Stay patient and consistent—habit change takes time.Breaking Bad Habits●      Identify triggers and replace bad habits with healthier ones.●      Use positive reinforcement.●      Seek support from friends or a coach.●      Take small, gradual steps toward change.Mindset Matters True habit change comes from shifting your identity. Instead of saying, "I want to lose weight," say, "I am a healthy person." Embracing discomfort and focusing on progress, not perfection, is key.Neuroplasticity and Habits Our brains are wired for repetition, making habits automatic. The good news? We can rewire these patterns with effort and consistency.Thanks for tuning in today! Keep working on your habits, and as always, have a TOTL day!Resources Mentioned:●      Atomic Habits by James Clear●      Good Habits, Bad Habits by Wendy Wood●      The Science of Making and Breaking Habits by Andrew Huberman:Watch Here●      TOTL EP 2:Embracing Change: Navigating Life’s TransitionsJoin the Journey: Connect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest: Want to share your story? We would love to hear from you at [email protected].

Send us Fan MailBrain Neuroplasticity: My Future HopeWhy This Topic MattersNeuroplasticity has profound implications for personal growth and health. For me, it’s a powerful tool to overcome the inherited risk of dementia and combat degenerative diseases. Understanding and leveraging neuroplasticity can lead to healthier habits and a more adaptable brain.What is Neuroplasticity?Neuroplasticity is the brain's remarkable ability to form and reorganize synaptic connections, especially in response to learning, experience, or recovery from injury.Key Takeaways on Neuroplasticity & Habit Formation1. Neural Pathways & Habit Formation●      Repeated actions strengthen neural pathways, making behaviors more automatic over time.●      Habits, whether positive or negative, are formed through repetition.2. Breaking and Creating Habits●      Breaking bad habits requires consciously weakening old neural connections while building new, positive ones.●      Decision-making areas of the brain, like the prefrontal cortex, play a critical role early in habit formation but become less active as behaviors turn automatic.3. Factors Influencing Neuroplasticity●      Environment: Diet, stress, sensory input, and hormones shape the brain.●      Practice: Regularly practicing skills helps retain neural changes.Practical Exercises to Enhance Neuroplasticity●      Learn a new language or play an instrument.●      Engage in physical exercise or mindfulness practices.●      Explore puzzles, brain-training games, or creative writing.●      Use your non-dominant hand for daily tasks.Your Action PlanIdentify Changes: Reflect on habits or skills you want to improve.Make a Plan: Set clear steps and goals.Revisit & Adjust: Regularly review your progress and refine your approach.Additional Resources●      Podcasts on Neuroplasticity:○      Podcast on Spotify○      Podcast on YouTube●      Books by Norman Doige, MD: The Brain That Changes ItselfFor more insights, check out episodes 10, 12, and 14 of our podcast series.Join the Journey:Connect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest: Want to share your story? We would love to hear from you at [email protected].

Send us Fan MailDating: How to be More Successful at DatingIn today’s episode we cover dating, are you ready and we focus on things to work on. Host Stephanie York shares her experiences and offers tips on how to apply these to your own dating life Key aspects of being ready for dating:●        Self-awareness: Reflect on your past relationships, identify your dealbreakers, and understand what qualities you're looking for in a partner. ●        Positive self-esteem: Appreciate your strengths and work on self-improvement where needed. ●        Healthy lifestyle: Prioritize your physical and mental well-being through exercise, good nutrition, and stress management. ●        Independent life: Have hobbies and social activities outside of dating that bring you joy. ●        Open communication: Be able to express your needs and feelings honestly and directly with potential partners. ●        Emotional intelligence: Understand your own emotions and be able to navigate the emotions of others. ●        Respectful boundaries: Know what you are comfortable with and be able to set clear boundaries in dating interactions. Signs you might not be ready for dating:●        Rebounding from a breakup: Need time to heal and process emotions before starting to date again. ●        Using dating to escape loneliness: Seeking validation or a quick fix instead of genuine connection. ●        Unresolved baggage: Carrying significant unresolved issues from past relationships. ●        Fear of commitment: Avoiding serious relationships or being hesitant to open up.  Steps to Prepare for Dating ●        Reflect on your goals●        Practice self-care●        Develop healthy coping mechanisms●        Consider therapy●        Be open to new experiences The Four Attachment Styles: Use these to research better ways to heal: Anxious (also referred to as Preoccupied)Avoidant (also referred to as Dismissive)Disorganized (also referred to as Fearful-Avoidant)Secure Key strategies to address an anxious attachment style. Use these as guidelines to research and work on yourself.●        Therapy●        Self-reflection and awareness●        Communication skills●        Self-esteem building●        Mindfulness and relaxation techniques●        Boundary setting●        Challenge negative thoughts●        Seek supportive relationshipsJoin the Journey:If you're ready to manifest a life that is more fulfilling and living your purpose then listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your very own customized life. Connect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on

Send us Fan MailEP 17 Emotional Hoarding: Holding Onto Things and EmotionsWelcome to this episode, where we dive deep into emotional hoarding—a topic close to my heart. You might be familiar with physical hoarding, where clutter takes over spaces like kitchens or bedrooms. Emotional hoarding works in much the same way but with our feelings. It’s about stockpiling emotions, especially the negative ones, and struggling to let them go.I’ve seen this time and time again in my work with clients. It’s not an easy challenge to overcome, but with patience and the right tools, it’s absolutely possible—and worth the effort.What is Emotional Hoarding?Emotional hoarding is a defense mechanism. It’s about holding onto painful memories, negative self-judgments, or perfectionistic standards that weigh you down. You might even find yourself saving random items—papers, rubber bands, or empty bottles—because they represent something emotional you just can’t release.This can be unconscious but incredibly impactful, leading to anxiety, depression, or strained relationships. I want to share some signs of emotional hoarding with you:●      Prioritizing sorrow over joy.●      Using past pain as a shield from present-day dangers.●      Struggling with discarding anything, even when it doesn’t serve you.●      Forming intense emotional attachments to objects.If any of these resonate with you, know you’re not alone.How Do We Address Emotional Hoarding?Here’s what I know: We can’t tackle external challenges effectively if we don’t first take care of what’s happening inside. I’ve learned this for myself and seen it in the lives of my clients. Let’s focus on taking small, manageable steps:Seek professional help if you’re feeling overwhelmed.Start small—declutter one drawer, one corner, or one thought.Set realistic goals and use a timer to stay focused.Categorize items and reflect on why you’re holding onto them.Practice mindfulness and decision-making strategies.Celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem.Change is hard, but it’s not impossible. Trust me when I say this—it’s about working with the flow of change, not resisting it.What’s Next?As we step into a new year, it’s natural to feel overwhelmed by everything happening in the world. But remember, the most important work starts within. Let’s make a plan to jump into any big piles—physical or emotional—and tackle them, one step at a time.Make it a habit to set an intention for your day and follow through. It’s comforting to stick to old habits, but true growth comes from stepping out of that comfort zone. This work isn’t easy, but it’s the foundation for real, lasting change.If you’re looking for more inspiration, I recommend revisiting these episodes:●      Ep 2: Change●      Ep 10: Resilience●      Ep 11: Dr. Lisa Smith – Meaningful LifeYou can do this. Let’s work together to release the weight of emotional hoarding and embrace the freedom and joy that comes with letting go.Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest: Want

Send us Fan MailMaking Friends: Get Meaningful Connections In Your LifeThis episode covers something important to all of us, friends. So many people today are struggling with loneliness, lack of connection, and feeling stuck when it comes to making friends. This episode is intended to help you create a plan to find new connections and live a more fulfilling life through having other people to connect with. So let’s jump in and see how we do it. Time Stamps:●      01:13 – "We need to have more connection and less isolation. Not just finding someone to love but beyond."●      04:40 – "You need to put some effort into it to make any relationship work, both personally and professionally."●      10:05 – "When you make new friends, you can then make additional friends from their circles."●      15:30 – "I don’t want you to be afraid of not knowing what to do. I want you to have steps, tips, and ideas."●      20:32 – "Start to set up scenarios. You can start a conversation. Think before you go to an event: What are three things about yourself you want to share with somebody else?"●      28:25 – "Exchanging that contact information sets you up to be able to develop that relationship."●      30:47 – "People are attracted to happy people."Here are some tips for making friends:●      Start a conversation: Share something about yourself, and ask open-ended questions to encourage the other person to open up.●      Be a good listener: Make eye contact, smile, and show interest in what the other person has to say.●      Be open: Share small, personal things about yourself to give the other person permission to be open with you.●      Do a small favor: Small acts of kindness can lead to intimacy and connection.●      Stay in touch: Exchange numbers and call or message the other person later. Ask if they'd like to get together again.●      Join a club: Clubs are a great way to meet people with similar interests.●      Join a Meetup group: Attend Meetup events for your hobbies to meet like-minded people.●      Accept invitations: If someone invites you to do something, try to make it happen.●      Volunteer: Helping others can make people feel good and more open and positive.●      Build confidence: Wear something that makes you feel comfortable in your own skin. Join the Journey:If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey. Connect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | Facebook Rate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest: Want to share your story with us? Email at [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail(SAD) Seasonal Affective Disorder  In this episode, we explore Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and practical strategies to manage it during the winter months. SAD can impact mood, energy, and motivation, but with the right approaches, it can be managed effectively.Takeaways:●      Light Therapy: Using a sunlight-mimicking lamp can help alleviate symptoms of SAD by compensating for the lack of natural sunlight.●      Exercise: Aim for at least 30 minutes of physical activity three times a week to boost mood and energy.●      Nutrition: A balanced diet rich in vegetables, lean protein, and healthy fats supports mental health and overall well-being.●      Socializing: Stay connected with friends and family. Regular social interaction, even virtually, can help reduce feelings of isolation.●      Professional Help: If symptoms worsen, seek therapy or medication with the guidance of a healthcare provider.●      St. John’s Wort: This natural supplement can be helpful for mild depression. However, consult a doctor before use to ensure it's right for you.Actionable Tips:●      Begin light therapy and establish a regular exercise routine before winter hits.●      Focus on healthy nutrition and reduce sugar intake to help manage energy levels.●      Commit to regular social activities, even virtually, to stay connected.●      If needed, consult a mental health professional for therapy or medication.Take control of your mental health this winter by applying these strategies to manage SAD and improve your well-being. Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest: Want to share your story? Email us at [email protected]

Send us Fan MailThriving: Having a growth Mindset in Challenging timesEpisode Summary:In this episode, we explore how to move from surviving life’s challenges to thriving. We discuss practical steps for embracing resilience, emotional regulation, and mindfulness, along with the importance of self-care, adaptability, and community. Learn how to shift your mindset and create a life of growth and fulfillment.Key Takeaways:●      Surviving vs. Thriving: Surviving is about getting by; thriving is about growing through challenges.●      Resilience & Adaptability: Learn to bounce back and adapt to change, seeing adversity as an opportunity for growth.●      Self-Care & Routine: Regular routines, self-care, and saying "no" to things that drain you help you thrive.●      Overcoming Uncertainty: Embrace change and focus on solutions rather than fear or stress.●      Goal Setting: Set SMART goals and celebrate your progress to stay motivated. Listen to our episode on Effort to learn how to use SMART goals in your life and work. ●      Gratitude & Empathy: Practice gratitude daily and build strong connections with others.Actionable Tips:●      Practice mindfulness and emotional regulation.●      Set SMART goals to stay focused and motivated.●      Maintain a healthy routine for physical and mental well-being.●      Celebrate small wins and practice gratitude to shift your mindset.Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest: Want to share us? Send a message to [email protected]

Send us Fan MailOne Step at a Time: Amanda's Path to SuccessToday, Amanda shares her journey of building a successful career in real estate through an untraditional path. After struggling with the conventional education system, she explored her interests, discovered her strengths, and found mentorship that guided her growth. Starting at 18 in a competitive luxury market, she overcame challenges like self-doubt and being the youngest in her field by focusing on small, actionable steps.  Key takeaways:●      Explore interests to uncover strengths.●      Seek mentorship and surround yourself with like-minded individuals.●      Use journaling and goal-setting to visualize success and track progress.●      Break goals into manageable pieces and take one step at a time.Actionable Advice:●      Start small: Identify one strength or take one action step toward your goal today.●      Break down large goals into manageable pieces.●      If you don’t have a support system, become your own cheerleader—use books, online resources, or journaling.●      Conduct an annual planning session in an inspiring environment to set intentions and reflect on achievements.Resources Mentioned:●      Books:○      The Sell by Fredrik Eklund (Real Estate Inspiration)○      SMART Goals Framework (for detailed goal setting)Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest: Want to share you

Send us Fan MailWelcome to today’s episode! I’m thrilled to dive into some big concepts that I’ve been focusing on resilience, adaptability, and thriving. These are themes I’ve discussed with clients, friends, and myself. If you’ve already listened to my episode on resilience, you’ll know that it’s all about bouncing back from life’s challenges.But today, I want to talk about adaptability, the next step after resilience. Adaptability is about embracing change and making it work for you. We all go through tough times, and some moments in life are about surviving, not thriving. But once we’re through those survival phases, we need to learn how to adapt, change, and thrive.In this episode, I’ll talk about the difference between resilience and adaptability:●      Resilience is about bouncing back after adversity.●      Adaptability is about learning to change, grow, and create something positive from difficult situations.Here’s a quick recap of how to build adaptability into your life:Embrace Change: Accept that change is inevitable. You can’t control it, but you can control your response.Stay Mindful: Practice meditation, breathing exercises, and mindfulness. Apps like Balance can help you get started.Problem-Solve: Break your challenges into smaller steps and tackle one thing at a time. Create a list and focus on solutions.Be Positive: Stay open to change and avoid getting bogged down by negativity. Focus on what you can control.5.     The process of becoming adaptable takes time, but it’s totally worth it. When you can adapt to life’s changes, you stop just surviving and start thriving—finding purpose and passion in your daily life.6.     So, remember: Every day is a choice. Choose resilience. Choose adaptability. And ultimately, choose to thrive.Time Stamps: 06:38 “This adaptability is a higher skill set that you can then turn to change to become a positive catalyst in your life.”10:30 “If something happens that changed don’t immediately go negative.”15:30 “When you learn to problem solve and you practice problem solving you develop that ability to analyze information and determine solutions.”27:27 “Stay open to feedback and learn from it.”32:15 “If you’re not adaptable then you will have to just be resilient and recover and survive and be in a situation with people who are adaptable.” 37:17 “If you’re really uncomfortable because your anxious slow yourself down.”40:54 “The only way to learn about your adaptability skill set you need to make your self uncomfortable.“  Join the Journey: If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest: Want to share your story or know someone we need to hear from. Go to www.throwoffthelines.com/contact and send us a message. 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Throw Off the Lines, Stephanie welcomes her longtime friend, Dr. Lisa Smith, an expert in cognitive behavioral therapy and director of the Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders at Boston University. Dr. Smith shares insights into managing emotions, addressing life’s "sticking points," and balancing the pursuit of a meaningful life with the comfort of avoiding difficult feelings.Key Takeaways:The Pursuit of a Meaningful Life Dr. Smith discusses the common struggle of wanting a meaningful life without discomfort. She emphasizes that while values are highly personal, pursuing meaning often requires navigating uncomfortable emotions and situations.The Cost of Avoidance and Control Avoiding uncomfortable feelings or over-controlling situations can make emotional challenges worse. Dr. Smith explores how both avoidance and over-control prevent authentic connections and can hinder personal growth.Willingness to Tolerate Discomfort Meaningful life experiences often involve discomfort. Dr. Smith encourages embracing this reality by adopting a mindset of "willingness" rather than striving to eliminate discomfort.Seeking Professional Help Dr. Smith advocates for professional guidance when self-help resources fall short. She highlights cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) as a practical, structured approach that offers measurable progress, emphasizing that therapy need not be a lifelong commitment.Timestamps: 00:31 - Meet Dr. Lisa Smith01:06 - The Goal of a Meaningful Life03:25 - Balancing Meaning and Comfort04:14 - Why Professional Help?09:59 - The Balance Between Avoidance and Control14:39 - Avoidance Pitfalls16:01 - Controlling in Social Situations18:03 - Understanding Avoidance and Control in Life21:04 - Managing Fear and Uncertainty25:10 - Reorienting to the Present Moment29:16 - When to Seek Professional HelpPractical Strategies: Dr. Smith suggests an exercise to illustrate how avoidance reinforces unwanted thoughts, urging listeners to practice mindfulness and non-judgmental awareness to address persistent thoughts.Resources Mentioned- The Mindful Way Through Anxiety by Sue Orsillo and Liz Roemer.- Treatments That Work series (CBT resources).- Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) for therapist referrals. https://www.abct.org/- Physchology.com has a list of therapists licensed in your state. Connect with Throw Off the Lines: Follow us on Facebook and Instagram or visit our website www.throwoffthelines.com for more information. If you’re interested in being a guest or have questions, reach out through our website or email us at [email protected] & Subscribe: If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe for more insightful conversations, leave a review, and share it with someone who could use some inspiration. Let’s throw off the lines and live fully! 

Send us Fan MailSo often my clients say they do not know how to meditate. That word is so often associated with a lot of things. The word Mindfulness is also thrown around a lot. I decided to make a short easy walk that helps you get out of your own head and into the walk. That is all it is. Leaving behind distraction, focusing on being in the moment with yourself. Come along with me on a walk. Its so nice outside. 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, our host delves into resilience and its essential role in living a fulfilling, purpose-driven life. Through personal reflections and coaching insights, the episode explores resilience-building strategies to help listeners navigate life’s challenges with strength, adaptability, and purpose. Key TakeawaysUnderstanding ResilienceResilience is about more than just bouncing back; it’s the ability to adapt, withstand, and grow through challenges. It’s not an escape from hardship but rather a way to face difficulties with mental strength and emotional flexibility.Mindfulness and Self-CarePracticing mindfulness, limiting digital distractions, and engaging in self-care are essential to resilience. Techniques such as journaling and mindful breathing are recommended to keep us grounded and present, which supports our ability to handle stress and maintain a resilient mindset.Finding Purpose and Setting GoalsA clear sense of purpose acts as a powerful anchor during tough times. Setting small, achievable goals provides direction and motivation, helping us to keep moving forward, even in challenging moments.Building Strong ConnectionsPositive relationships bolster resilience, providing support and encouragement. Prioritizing meaningful connections over draining ones allows us to maintain emotional strength and a positive outlook.A Growth-Oriented MindsetViewing change as a growth opportunity enables us to build resilience. Embracing challenges and seeing them as ways to grow helps us adapt to life’s inevitable ups and downs with optimism and flexibility. Tune in to uncover how resilience can empower you to lead a more joyful, meaningful life, no matter what challenges arise.Here are some steps you can take to build resilience in your life: Embrace change: View change as an opportunity to learn and grow.  Find purpose: Understand the impact you want to have on the world. Establish goals: Set goals to stay focused and determined. Each time you reach a goal, you can set another one. Build connections: Prioritize your relationships and reach out to others. Practice mindfulness: Be present and aware of your thoughts, feelings, and surroundings. Reduce stress: Low to moderate levels of stress can help you build resilience. Seek help: Ask for help when you need it. Take care of yourself: Take care of your physical health. Maintain perspective: Maintain a hopeful outlook and accept that change and setbacks are part of life. Develop problem-solving skills: Learn how to solve problems. Learn stress management techniques: Learn effective ways to manage stress.  Resilience is an important life skill that can help you build grit, tenacity, and motivation. You need to build a stronger mind, body and spirit to grow your resilience. You can start today with even the smallest thing. Sit quietly for 2 minutes. It is a start. Eat an apple, make a salad. Sit on the floor or your bed and stretch. Drink more water, plan a class to teach you how to write. Anything is a step forward. Join the Journey:If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us: Website: Throw Off the Lines Follow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest: Want to share your personal succ

Send us Fan MailWelcome back to Throw Off the Lines! In this special episode, Stephanie dives into the topic of purpose and how it shapes our lives. She shares a deeply personal journey of rediscovering a sense of meaning, moving from feeling stagnant to reigniting the inner fire that drives her today.Episode Highlights:Rediscovering Purpose: Learn about the transformative moments that led Stephanie to a new direction. Navigating Life’s Changes: Reflect on the challenges of adapting to change, whether in relationships, career shifts, or finding new goals. From Stagnation to Passion: Hear about Stephanie’s shift from feeling lost to embracing new adventures and setting goals, like sailing from Mexico to Hawaii. “I wasn’t going to let that little tiny ember I was holding in my hands burn out. I was going to go put that thing somewhere, add some kindling, flame it, and then get it into a roaring bonfire.”Key Takeaways:The importance of aligning passion with purpose.How to recognize the signs when it’s time for a change.Practical advice for creating new goals and maintaining motivation.Link to Dr. James Hollis interview on Andrew Huberman Podcast:https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=SyWC8ZFVxGoDr. James Hollis books, they can be a bit of a complicated read: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=dr+james+hollis+books&hvadid=700248730271&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9030971&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=1980807295964251116&hvtargid=kwd-623021920449&hydadcr=15521_13517390&tag=googhydr-20&ref=pd_sl_4rpmk7xm17_eListen now and let Stephanie’s journey inspire you to find your own path to purpose. This episode is a reminder that no matter where you are in life, you have the power to make meaningful changes and live a life that feels truly yours.Join the Journey:If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us:Website: Throw Off the LinesFollow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest:Want to share your personal success story on the show? Reach out via our website for guest inquiries.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Throw Off the Lines, Stephanie dives deep into the pervasive challenges of stress and anxiety. Drawing from her background as an executive coach and her personal experiences, Stephanie offers practical insights for recognizing stress, managing anxiety, and taking actionable steps towards a healthier mindset. She discusses the difference between stress and anxiety, how they manifest, and when professional help is needed.Key takeaways from this episode include:Understanding the key differences between stress and anxiety.Practical tips for managing stress, including mindfulness, journaling, and taking breaks from social media.Recognizing the signs of a stress addiction and how to address it.The importance of seeking professional help for severe stress and anxiety symptoms.How to create a personal space for relaxation and peace.National Domestic Violence Hotline website:https://www.thehotline.org/Suicide Prevention:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=oneboxQuotes:"Your life might have felt normal by most standards... but your stresses are real because they're your stressors.""You are what you think. You are what you feel. Go get a journal, download a meditation app, eat something healthy, and move your body. Those are the easiest things you could do today to help you.""If you are saying yes to so many things that you're not able to say yes to your peace of mind, you have to start saying no more."Whether you’re dealing with overwhelming stress at work, feeling anxious about a major life change, or simply want to build healthier habits, this episode offers valuable advice and support. Tune in to discover how to regain control over your stress and anxiety and start living a more balanced life.Join the Journey:If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us:Website: Throw Off the LinesFollow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest:Want to share your personal success story on the show? Reach out via our website for guest inquiries.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Stephanie York reflects on the value of doing nothing. As a culture that glorifies busyness, we often forget the beauty of stillness and the peace that comes from embracing downtime. After a year of deep personal growth and introspection, Stephanie shares how learning to sit still, meditate, and simply be has transformed her life.In this episode, you'll learn about:Why busyness can be a barrier to inner peaceThe importance of meditation and how it helps quiet the mindReclaiming joy by letting go of the need to constantly striveEmbracing aimlessness as a path to self-discoveryPractical steps to incorporate more stillness into your life, even in a hectic worldTimestamps:00:22 Personal Reflections and Life Changes00:59 Embracing the Art of Doing Nothing03:01 Finding Peace and Purpose04:06 Adventures in New Zealand08:08 The Philosophy of Doing Nothing14:23 Practical Tips for Embracing Stillness22:21 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsBook about stillness: Thich Nhat Hanh (Author): https://www.amazon.com/Nothing-Do-Nowhere-Go-Waking/dp/1888375728https://www.amazon.com/Be-Still-Know-Reflections-Living/dp/157322562250 Quotes to read for peace and slowing down:https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/g29092056/thich-nhat-hanh-quotes/Qoutes"Doing nothing isn’t lazy—it’s the space where peace begins, and where you truly meet yourself.""Aimlessness doesn’t mean doing nothing; it means letting go of the need to chase after something.""When we stop striving, we find joy in the simple act of being. It’s in stillness that we rediscover who we are.""Learning to sit in peace is as important as striving for success. You don’t need to fill every moment with activity to live a meaningful life.""Busyness doesn’t define worth. Sometimes the greatest act of self-care is to stop, breathe, and let yourself be."Whether you’re struggling to slow down or feel guilty about taking time for yourself, this episode will help you find peace and purpose in doing nothing.Join the Journey:If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us:Website: Throw Off the LinesFollow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest:Want to share your personal success story on the show? Reach out via our website for guest inquiries.

Send us Fan MailJust a quick manifest. Putting it out there and we shall see in real time if that works. :)

Send us Fan MailIn this heartfelt episode, Stephanie dives deep into the everyday heartbreaks that quietly shape our lives. From the little moments of loss we feel in relationships to the empathy-driven heartbreaks of witnessing suffering in the world, Stephanie unpacks how these experiences impact our mental and emotional well-being. Drawing from her own journey through divorce, loss, and the process of healing, she offers actionable steps for moving forward and reclaiming joy in life.Stephanie explores topics like:The difference between real and perceived lossHow to manage overwhelming empathyThe power of meditation, journaling, and exercise in healing heartbreakCreating positive environments and relationshipsSteps to regain self-love and purpose after life’s small and big heartbreaksQuotes"Heartbreak is not just about love lost—it's about the loss of joy and expectation, but we have the power to rebuild.""You cannot impact another person's feelings at a soul level. You are responsible for how you treat yourself.""The easiest way to get over heartbreak is to reintroduce new experiences. Break out of your routines and throw off the lines that have held you back.""You are the only one who can control how you respond to life’s heartbreaks. Take control of your joy.""Empathy is a gift, but we have to protect ourselves. Self-care isn't selfish—it's survival."Whether you're dealing with the heartbreak of unmet expectations or simply feeling weighed down by the world’s struggles, this episode will help you gain a new perspective and the tools to move forward.Links to understanding grief:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/notes-self/201210/real-stages-griefCleveland Clinic is a great resource as well:https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24787-griefGrief comes in all shapes and sizes:https://mygriefandloss.org/grief-is-a-journey-not-5-stagesJoin the Journey:If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us:Website: ThrowOfftheLines.comFollow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest:Want to share your personal success story on the show? Reach out via our website for guest inquiries.

Send us Fan MailIn this empowering episode of Throw Off the Lines, Stephanie dives deep into the transformative power of manifestation. As an executive coach, Stephanie candidly shares her personal experiences with manifestation, drawing lessons from thought leaders like Dr. Martha Beck and Oprah, and encouraging listeners to start small with their own manifestations. Tune in to get inspired to make meaningful changes and embrace the journey towards a better life.Timestamps00:00 Introduction to Throw Off the Lines00:37 Exploring Manifestation03:20 The Perfect Day Exercise05:34 Setting Bold Goals07:55 Personal Manifestations and Goals16:28 Challenges and Realities of Manifestation19:25 Practical Steps for Manifestation28:06 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsPerfect Day exercise with Dr. Martha Beck episode on the Andrew Huberman Podcast, she also has so many great books:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nOgypsWKjm4Episode Highlights:The Art of Manifestation: Stephanie discusses how daily gratitude, journaling, and visualization can help manifest a better life. Hear her bold personal goals, including attracting 5,000 podcast listeners, creating new friendships, and achieving significant life milestones.Martha Beck’s Perfect Day Exercise: Discover the life-changing “perfect day” visualization technique that can help you align your daily actions with your deepest desires.Authenticity & Integrity: Explore the true meaning of integrity and how being in harmony with yourself can transform your life.Creating a Vision for Your Future: Learn how to set “big audacious goals” and visualize the life you want, including finding your purpose, building meaningful relationships, and traveling the world.Key Takeaways:Manifestation isn’t just about material success—it’s about creating a life filled with purpose, joy, and gratitude.Authenticity and integrity are key to living a balanced, fulfilled life. Learn how to align with your best self and live with purpose.You can create the life you dream of by visualizing it, breaking down big goals into manageable steps, and taking action daily.Quotes:"Integrity is being in harmony with ourselves, and it's the cure for kind of suffering.""Manifestation isn’t just about big material things. It’s about finding the core of yourself.""If you're going to manifest something, let’s get it out there. Let’s make it bold."Join the Journey:If you're ready to manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams, listen in as Stephanie offers practical tools and motivation to help you start your own manifestation journey.Connect with Us:Website: ThrowOfftheLines.comFollow us on Instagram | FacebookRate & Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who needs inspiration!Be a Guest:Want to share your personal success story on the show? Reach out via our website for guest inquiries.