Trauma, Tacos & True Crime

Was your house the one that looked fine… even when it wasn’t?This episode breaks down the role of the one who learned how to perform—how to smile, act normal, and keep things looking okay, even though something didn't feel right.. We talk about what happens when appearances matter more than the truth, and how that turns into people pleasing and emotional hiding as an adult, and why being “easy” isn’t always what it seems.Not judging. Just keeping it real.Sources referenced include documentaries, public interviews, and case reporting related to Gypsy Rose Blanchard and Dee Dee Blanchard.Written by: La Dama Del Desmadre Reasearch and Editing by: La Dama Del Desmadre

No te dejó…dejó de escogerte.Si tienes que insistir…ya sabes la respuesta.No soy tu psicóloga…ni te estoy diagnosticando…no te me estreses.Chisme Con Cerebro, Sin Filtro.Escrito, investigado y dicho por mi:  La Dama del Desmadre

No estás confundida…nomas te estás haciendo la ciega.Si algo no te parece desde el principio…no es casualidad.Esto es CHISME CON CEREBRO: Sin Filtro.Escrito, investigado y dicho por: La Dama del Desmadre

Esto no es chisme cualquiera … Esto es Chisme Con Cerebro - SIN FILTRO.Historias reales, decisiones cuestionables, y las cosas que hacemos, así, tal cual y como es.Si ya escuchas Trauma, Tacos & True Crime, esto es el otro lado… donde se habla claro. Nuevos episodios todos los ViernesYo soy La Dama del Desmadre… y aquí no se viene a quedar bien.

Some stories don’t leave you. Not because of what happened, but because of what they make you feel after.In this first episode of Season 2, I talk about the Laci Peterson case, and some childhood memories that don’t fully make sense until later, and how some “rooms” stay with us longer than we expect.This isn’t about the shock.It’s about what stays after. Not judging. Just keeping it real.Sources and case information related to Laci Peterson come from:Investigation and trial coverage involving Scott PetersonReporting from NBC News, CNN, and Court TVPublic timelines and case summaries of the 2002 disappearance and investigationPersonal reflections and storytelling pieces based on lived experiences or that of others that have shared. Writer/Storyteller: La Dama Del DesmadreResearcher/Editor: La Dama Del Desmadre

He looked fine. That was the problem.This episode talks about the Chris Benoit case — what happened, what led up to it, and the patterns people ignore until it’s too late.Because nothing like this comes out of nowhere you just weren’t looking for it.Sources for this episode include reporting from ABC News, CNN, ESPN, and Sports Illustrated, along with publicly available case records and medical findings related to Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy (CTE).Additional reference:“Chris & Nancy” by Irvin Muchnick.Writer/Researcher/Storyteller: La Dama Del Desmadre

Fulford posed as a financial advisor to professional athletes, gaining trust through confidence, familiarity, and perceived expertise. She used that trust to control access to finances and misappropriate millions of dollars over several years.Federal court records and sentencing documents related to Peggy Fulford and from reporting from major U.S. news outlets covering the caseThis episode does not focus on financial crime alone, but uses this case as an example of how confidence, authority, and emotional influence can be used to gain control and avoid suspicion.The focus remains on recognizing patterns, understanding manipulation, and the psychological aftermath for those affected.

Airplanes are basically a flying group project with strangers — tight seats, no escape, and everyone’s nervous system packed into one metal tube.In this episode,I break down viral plane meltdowns, air rage, and why stress, anxiety, alcohol, and feeling trapped can push people past their limits. We talk about the psychology behind public blowups, the reality of unruly passenger incidents, and why understanding your nervous system might prevent your own “what the hell” moment.Because sometimes the problem isn’t the plane… it’s that everyone on it is already overwhelmed.SourcesFederal Aviation Administration (FAA) – Unruly Passenger StatisticsAmerican Airlines / public reporting on viral 2023 incidentFAA enforcement policy on civil penalties for unruly passengers

This episode references the widely reported case of Margaret Mary Ray and her obsession with David Letterman. Details are based on publicly available news coverage and court records. The psychological commentary and personal story are my own. Writer/Editor/Researcher: La Dama Del DesmadreStoryteller: La Dama Del Desmadre

Today’s episode came from one of those days where the patterns were everywhere.Why does it sometimes feel like women are the ones doing the emotional math?Reading the books. Working on triggers. Regulating. Healing. "Auditing the relationship".Meanwhile some men are like, “I feel fine.”Just a pattern conversation.Editor/Writer: La Dama Del Desmadre

Sources & Research Notes:This episode gets its information from publicly available reporting on rental fraud trends (FTC & FBI IC3 data), landlord-tenant law standards in the U.S., and psychological research on coercive control, entitlement behavior, and boundary erosion (Evan Stark; The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout; Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft).

Florida’s public records laws (often called “Sunshine Laws”) make arrest reports and police information more immediately accessible to the public and media than in many other states, contributing to the volume and visibility of these stories.Context for this episode was informed by:Publicly available arrest recordsNews reporting from Florida-based and national media outletsResearch and reporting on public records laws and media coverage patternsThis episode does not focus on one specific case and avoids graphic detail. The discussion is more on behavioral patterns, impulse, decision-making, and the psychological aftermath of chaotic things that happens in public. Writer/Editor: La Dama Del DesmadreResearch/Storyteller: La Dama Del Desmadre

We all learned about the nervous system in school… but let’s be honest, none of us really knew what the hell that meant in real life.In this episode, we’re talking about what actually happens in your body when you feel anxious, irritated, overstimulated, or just completely fried… and why “just breathe” can feel like the most useless advice in this world.This isn’t therapy talk or textbook science. This is real-life, everyday, mom-life, trying-to-keep-it-together nervous system stuff.If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed for no clear reason, snapped at someone and then wondered why, or felt exhausted and wired at the same time… this episode is for you.Nothing is wrong with you, it's just that nobody explained this part.Take what helps, leave what doesn’t… and let’s get real. Trauma, Tacos & True Crime; real stories, real psychology, and real-life healing… without the BS.Writer and Editor: La Dama Del Desmadre

The Craigslist Killer & the Aftermath We All Live WithThis episode isn’t about shock value, it’s about what stays in our brains after the headline.Using the Craigslist Killer case as context, I talk about intuition, silence, politeness, and the everyday ways people ignore their gut just to keep things “cool.” We get into the psychological aftermath, and how the same nervous system responses show up in real life, and why listening to yourself matters more than being agreeable.This isn’t anti-men, and it’s not about fear.It’s about awareness, permission, and trusting your body.As always — real talk with no judgement.Written and Hosted by: La Dama del DesmadreResearch and Edit by: La Dama Del DesmadreThis episode references the case commonly known as the “Craigslist Killer,” involving Philip Markoff.Sources used for facts include:Court records and reporting from 2009–2010News coverage from major U.S. outletsPublicly available case summaries and trial reportingThis episode does not sensationalize violence or provide explicit details. The focus is on behaviors, warning signs, and the psychological aftermath experienced by victims and communities.If you or someone you know has experienced trauma or feels unsafe, support resources are available in your local area.

There’s no headline in this episode.No body. No timeline. Just the part everyone skips — and later regrets. This episode is about perception. About how quickly our minds fill in the blanks.About how trauma can turn moments into full-blown stories that feel absolutely true — even when they aren't. After a routine moment made me spiral into assumptions, certainty, and a whole imagined betrayal, I had to slow down and ask a hard question:Was this evidence… or was this emotion?If you’ve ever:assumed the worstreplayed conversations that never happenedfelt your body react before logic showed uplistened to true crime and thought, how did everyone get it so wrong?This episode is for you.Because true crime doesn’t start with a crime.It starts with perception.Writer and Storyteller - La Dama Del DesmadreEditor - La Dama Del Desmadre

The Tinder Swindler: Red Flags, Fake Love & Choosing YourselfBefore we start — yes, you'll notice my voice changes - I was getting over an illness so sorry!! Also, you might hear kids, background noise, or life happening. This is a house, not a Netflix studio.And no, this is not medical advice. This is real life, reflection, and keeping it real. Everybody relax.In this episode of I talk about the Tinder Swindler — not like a documentary, but like we’re sitting together saying, “Wait… how did this even happen?”This isn’t about stupid women or bad choices. It’s about manipulation, love bombing, fear, and how someone can turn romance into a crime. We break down how the scam actually worked, the red flags many of us ignore, and the emotional and financial damage left behind.We slow it down, reflect, and talk about why hope can be dangerous when it’s used against you and why choosing yourself is not selfish, it’s survival.There’s grounding, there’s comfort food energy, and there’s a reminder that if you’ve ever ignored your gut because you wanted something to be real… you’re not broken. You’re human.Listener discretion advised for discussions of fraud, emotional manipulation, and financial loss.Sources and the Real life facts - (Because we don't make shit up here):This episode is based on documented reporting and verified information related to the case commonly known as The Tinder Swindler, involving Simon Leviev.Where the information comes from:Netflix documentary: The Tinder SwindlerVictim accounts, timeline of the scam, and confirmed patterns of fraudInternational journalism and investigative reportingCoverage of financial fraud, manipulation tactics, and legal contextPublic court records and statementsInformation regarding fraud accusations and financial crimesImportant things to say out loud:This case involves financial fraud and emotional manipulation, which are real crimes.Victims are not responsible for being deceived.Shame keeps people quiet — and that benefits scammers.This episode isn’t about judging who you date.It’s about recognizing patterns, protecting yourself, and realizing that wanting love doesn’t make you weak — it makes you human.Not judging, from La Dama del Desmadre just keeping it real.

This case isn’t about strangers or random violence.It’s about what happens when trust is misplaced — and the person expected to protect becomes the source of harm.Louise Portón was in a caregiving role, a position built on access, responsibility, and assumed safety. What followed wasn’t just a crime — it was a betrayal that forces us to confront an uncomfortable truth: danger doesn’t always come from the outside.In this episode, we talk about how caregiving creates vulnerability, why warning signs are often missed when harm comes from someone “trusted,” and why cases like this are so deeply unsettling.This isn’t told for shock value.It’s told to understand the pattern — and why ignoring small red flags in familiar spaces can cost more than we expect.Not judging.Just keeping it real.Where the information comes from:UK court proceedings and sentencing records - Louise Porton was convicted of murdering her two daughters, Lexi and Scarlett, in 2018Sky News (UK) Trial coverage, evidence presented, and sentencing detailsITV News (UK) Reporting on the investigation, courtroom findings, and judge’s remarksThe Independent and London Evening Standard Details about the timeline, internet searches, behavior before and after the deaths, and court conclusions.International news outlets (including ABC News)Summaries of the conviction and confirmed facts of the caseA few things that matter and need to be said clearly:This case is not speculation — it was decided in courtThe details shared here are based on verified reporting, not rumorThe victims are children, and this story is handled with care and intentionContent Note (Porque esto sí pesa)This episode discusses the murder of children and topics that can be emotionally heavy. Please take care of yourself while listening.Note From La Dama del Desmadre:True crime isn’t entertainment when it forgets the humans involved.This episode is about telling the truth, honoring the victims, and sitting with the uncomfortable parts — without exploiting them.Researcher/Editor: La Dama Del DesmadreWriter/Storyteller: La Dama Del Desmadre

The Girl in the Elevator: Elisa Lam, Mental Storms & Mexican Hot Chocolate Now available with Spotify TranscriptThis episode of Trauma, Tacos & True Crime is not about ghosts, conspiracies, or internet theories... it’s about a real young woman whose story was turned into entertainment instead of compassion.Elisa Lam was 21 years old, traveling alone, and living with bipolar disorder. After she went missing in Los Angeles, the world became obsessed with an elevator video — pausing it, slowing it down, and projecting fear onto behavior that many mental health professionals recognize as crisis.In this episode I talk about what we don’t like to talk about: mental illness, medication interruptions, loneliness, and how easily we dehumanize people when we don’t understand what we’re seeing.To ground the heaviness, I bring it back to comfort — Mexican hot chocolate, the kind you make when your thoughts are loud and you need something warm to hold onto.This is not a spooky story.It’s a human one. Listener discretion advised for discussions of mental health and death.Sources & The Actual Facts (Because Respect Matters)This episode is based on verified reporting and official findings related to the death of Elisa Lam. No speculation, no paranormal theories, no TikTok nonsense.Where the information comes from Porque aqui, no mentimos:Los Angeles County Department of Medical Examiner–Coroner– Official ruling: Accidental drowning, with bipolar disorder listed as a contributing conditionLos Angeles Police Department (LAPD)Public statements regarding the investigation, timeline, and elevator footage releaseLos Angeles Times Reporting on the Cecil Hotel, the investigation, and coroner conclusionsCBC News (Canada) Coverage of Elisa’s background, her family, and conversations around mental healthNational Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Information on bipolar disorder, crisis symptoms, and medication interruptionNational Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) Educational resources on mood disorders and mental health emergenciesImportant clarifications, because they matter:No evidence of homicide or third-party involvement was foundNo credible evidence supports paranormal or conspiracy explanationsElisa’s behavior in the elevator video is consistent with documented symptoms of acute mental health crisisA note from ME:True Crime should never come at the cost of someone's humanity. This episode was made CON CORAZON for Elisa, for her family, and for anyone who's ever felt overwhelmed in their own mind.

If you’ve ever loaned someone a container and never saw it again… welcome.Today I’m venting about the lost Tupperware epidemic, why it triggers something deep in my body, and how being a mom of five means I don’t have time to replace the good ones. Funny, petty, and way too real.Writer/StoryTeller : La Dama Del DesmadreProducer/Editor: La Dama Del Desmadre

Content warning: domestic violence, murder, child victims, pregnancy loss, emotional/graphic topics.Hola hola, locas y locos — it’s La Dama del Desmadre from Trauma, Tacos & True Crime.Today we’re in Frederick, Colorado (August 2018) for the Watts case — a story that looked “picture perfect” online… and turned out to be a whole DAMN MASK. The kind where everybody wants the highlight reel, but nobody wants the truth.We’re breaking down the timeline, the public plea, the moments that made people’s stomachs drop, and how fast the “perfect family” story fell apart in real time. And yes — we’re going to talk about the uncomfortable part: how appearances, control, and ego can hide in plain sight… until they don’t.Quick disclaimer so nobody tries to sue me because they got emotional: I’m not your therapist, I’m not your doctor, and I’m not diagnosing nobody. This is not medical advice. Relax. Breathe. And if you hear kids in the background good. That means everybody’s alive. This is MY HOME not a recording studio.At the end we’re doing our grounding comfort food moment — because this case is heavy, and we don’t just listen to trauma and pretend we’re fine.If you or someone you love is in danger, please reach out to local emergency services or a domestic violence hotline in your area.Credits :Written and Hosted by: La Dama Del DesmadreEditing: Descript/La Dama Del Desmadre Research: public records and source notes belowCase materials:Weld County District Attorney: “Information on Watts Case” (official case hub/records info).Colorado Judicial Branch (court PDF): “Written Waiver and Guilty Plea” (dated Nov 6, 2018).Colorado Judicial Branch (court PDF): “Complaint and Information” (charges filed in 2018).Weld County District Attorney press release: “Chris Watts Admits to Killing Pregnant Wife and Two Young Children” (Nov 6, 2018).Documentary:9NEWS coverage re: discovery documents and released case materialsAmerican Murder: The Family Next Door (Netflix documentary).

Episode 1: Jennifer Kesse — Her Absence Was LoudJennifer Kesse was 24 years old. Independent, organizada, and building her life in Orlando. New condo. New routine. New chapter.Then on the morning of January 24, 2006, she left for work…And she never arrived.In this episode, we walk through the timeline that raised alarms fast, the car that showed up like it was trying to disappear in plain sight, and the surveillance footage that still haunts people because somehow, every time the “person of interest” passes the camera… the face is blocked.And of course… This ain't medical advice, RELAX—because cases like this don’t just live in your mind. They hit your nervous system. That uneasy “oh hell not…” feeling? You’re not crazy. Your body clocks patterns before your brain finishes the sentence.Content note: This episode includes true crime, disappearance, trauma themes, and dark humor (porque así sobrevivimos). If you’re feeling activated, pause and protect your peace. Este episodio estará aquí cuando estés lista.Primary case info referenced:FBI ViCAP (Missing Person: Jennifer Joyce Kesse)NamUs (National Missing and Unidentified Persons System)JenniferKesse.com (family-led case hub)Additional reporting referenced for context:Major broadcast / long-form coverage (48 Hours and other famous outlets)Host and Storytelling: La Dama Del DesmadreShow: Trauma, Tacos & True CrimeWriting, Research and Editing: La Dama del DesmadreIF YOU HAVE A TIP (no te quedes callada)Orlando Police Department: 407-246-2470FDLE Missing Person Clearinghouse:1-888-FL-MISSING (1-888-356-4774)Family Tip Line(941) 201-4009Crimeline: 1-800-423-TIPS