TRUSTED by your teenager with Kristen Duke

I got that question (the title of this episode) at the recent masterclass I taught on conflict. I share in this 10 minute episode how I answered that, an how deep I feel the pain from that question.  Watch the replay of the Conflict Masterclass Then lets chat, link in the description of that video to set up a call with me, you can also do that here: 30 minute clarity call with Kristen (after watching that masterclass)

Do you ever avoid talking about dating because you don't know what to say? In this 10-minute episode, I unpack why fear of saying the wrong thing keeps many moms silent, and how having the right prompts can instantly lower the pressure. I also share how my 50 Dating Conversation Cards are designed to make these conversations natural, not awkward. Grab the cards here (with $5 off for now!) https://kristenduke.com/teen-relationship-advice-with-teen-chat-cards-dating/ If your teen won't give you the time of day to talk about anything, lets set up a one on one call to chat about how I can best support you in that space.  Message me [email protected] or reach out on Instagram @KristenDukeChats 

Whether you have current contention or want to prevent future contention, I know you want a calm home, so if it's feeling chaotic, come to the free masterclass on January 27th and take the strategies with you back to your family: https://kristenduke.com/sibling-rivalry-masterclass/ Email: [email protected]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/  To answer my question I asked!

It's frustrating to ask your teen to do something, and they don't do it! You're trying to teach them life skills, and they just don't care...am I right?  Listen to this 10 minute episode, and if you feel so inclined, join us next Monday, January 12th for the free Trusted Lab. 

Sharing a story of a recent conflict, listen for the juicy details! email me [email protected] Instagram: @KristenDukeChats

Summarizing the highs and lows of my double header weekend organizing my first IN PERSON event (workshop) and speaking on a stage for the first time!  When you tie it into motherhood, we WILL have challenges, it's what you do with them, how you adjust, what you do NEXT that  Free Trusted Lab Replay (2.5 hour detailed workshop) Email me if I missed something I meant to put here or just comment on any details! [email protected] 

An unanticipated road trip conversation with my daughter and her bestie about the pains moms experience. A peek behind the scenes on what I do when I'm not on social media! I share about the Utah Lab LIVE November 14th: https://kristenduke.com/utah-lab/ Online Trusted Lab (Nov. 3rd): https://kristenduke.com/lab/

Recorded this as I sit at an outdoor café after happily driving my daughter and her friends to a concert (and uploaded to publish 5 minutes later). How saying yes to these moments quietly builds trust. If you've ever wrestled with the compliment (or with what "good mom" even means), this one's for you. Also, would love you to join me inside the free Trusted Lab to learn simple shifts that get your teen talking again (before it expires Thursday!) If you listen to this after that date, you can registerfor the next one. Have a question or a story to share? Email me: [email protected]

Does your husband roll his eyes when you talk about parenting differently, or feel left out because the kids seem to connect more with you? In this episode, I unpack why many dads resist the Trusted Method, what's really behind their doubts, and how to invite them into a united parenting approach without nagging or tiptoeing. Ready to dig deeper? Come to the Trusted Lab: https://kristenduke.com/lab/ Instagram: @KristenDukeChats Email me: [email protected] 

In this episodes, I referenced: To my Teen IG reel about talking about tragedies and being a LIGHT in the world 5 Questions to ask your teen to talk about uncomfortable emotions  The Trusted Academy Lab

Listen as I walk in the rain and chat about my solo road trip last week and how it ties into becoming the emotionally safe place for your teenager.  Free Lab Here

In this episode, I'm sharing why I created the Start a Small Business with Instagram workshop, and why this might be the most important thing you do for yourself this year. Whether you're craving something that's just yours, preparing for life after the kids leave, or realizing it's smart to have earning potential in your back pocket, this workshop is your launchpad. You'll learn how to turn your ideas into income, use Instagram as your free storefront, and build a business that fits into your life. Plus, this first round is just $347 (value $997), and includes a group text thread for accountability and a bonus promo of your biz on my Instagram. This is your last chance to join before the doors close. ✨ Info link: [insert link] Venmo: @KristenDuke7 $347 by Friday night, August 1st! Let's build something that's yours.

I am OFTEN asked how I got started with my business in this online space, and have never actually written it down/recorded it, and today's the day!  It's been 15 years of learning, tweaking, implementing, and I'd love to share that with you if you have a desire for more, even if you're not sure what that looks like yet.  I'm holding a 1 day online workshop on August 5th (with replays if you can't come LIVE) check it out here: Start your Own Business Workshop Click the button at the bottom of that link to join after payment via VenMo or PayPal, & leave your email so I can send details when you pay. Feel free to message me with questions or ask on Instagram DM! [email protected] @KristenDukeChats on IG If you want to explore your mind and intentions a bit before joining, answer these questions to get your mind going...to see if it's a good fit. 

Cali and I went to Miami for her Spring Break, and had so much fun! In this episode, she joins me to share a few stories I thought you'd benefit from hearing about invalidating your teen (she called me out!) I shared at the end a secret project I'm working on, email me to know more! [email protected] 

If you want to SEE differently, and willing to DO differently, send me an email with the subject line "I want to SEE!" to [email protected] I'm here to help. (I've been there!)

If this episode struck a cord with you, join me and watch the mom reset:  https://kristenduke.com/reset  When your teen lashes out, you have a choice: You can react—or you can guide. Let me guide YOU how to do differently. 

This episode is all about encouraging (not enforcing) your teen to date! Download the free Teen Date Deck guide: https://kristenduke.com/teen-date-ideas/ This will also sign you up for the Bestie Club with more ideas coming to your email on teen dating! Feel free to message me on Instagram: @KristenDukeChats or email me [email protected] with any teen dating questions!

Listen for what NOT to do when your teen doesn't get invited (and mam bear comes out!) and you want to reach out to their friends moms to convince them to make it all better.  Conversation. Connection. Confidence building. All that adds up to TRUST! In this episode, I shared about the new Teen Chat Cards all about FRIENDS with 50 scenarios for you and your teen to chat through, grab them here: https://members.kristenduke.com/friends-teen-chats/   

Sharing a story when "mama bear" came out swinging when my teen complained about a friend and then defended them because of my response.  In this episode, I shared about the new Teen Chat Cards all about FRIENDS with 50 scenarios for you and your teen to chat through, grab them here: https://members.kristenduke.com/friends-teen-chats/  Conversation. Connection. Confidence building. All that adds up to TRUST! If you didn't already download the free CALM CREATOR guide, do that here: https://kristenduke.com/calmcreator/ 

How you downloaded the free calm creator yet?  Grab that here: https://kristenduke.com/calmcreator/ Sharing an embarrassing story about myself in order to help you remember a very important tip to better address conflict.  Also sharing more about this on Instagram this week: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/   

Sometimes people get confused when I say the goal is to earn teens trust, so I'm elaborating a bit on that here, (and what it's NOT) as well as summarizing 5 of the biggest parenting blindspots.  The TRUSTED Challenge starts Monday, January 13th! https://kristenduke.com/trusted/ Referenced a few videos on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/

Sharing thoughts on how we have had family scripture study over the years, and the benefits of memorizing scriptures both for your teen and your family. Check out the scripture memorization cards here: https://members.kristenduke.com/doctrinal-mastery-cards/ Coming soon: share light online with 52 weekly prompts throughout the year!

I gave a talk at church on Sunday, and when I asked on Instagram stories if anyone wanted to hear, I got a 94% YES!  The other 6% said they have no spiritual questions.... This is something I've thought about a lot personally, as well as for my children and dear friends who have struggled with questions of the spiritual nature, and so I was excited to collect my thoughts about the topic. This pertains to parenting, because I strive to be spiritually strong for myself AND my kids, to be in tune to how I can best mother them, and guide them spiritually.  It stems from a talk: Seeking Answers to Spiritual Questions with my own thoughts weaved in.  For those not of my faith (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints), we take turns sharing talks to the congregation, the last time I shared was a year and a half ago.  I LOVE the opportunity to do a deep dive, it truly boosts my spirituality, many hate the public speaking aspect of addressing a chapel full of 300!  Here is additional reading that might be helpful: What to expect at Sunday services Memorize scriptures with your family Please feel free to ask me any questions, I'm always open! [email protected] or message me on Instagram! 

How are you feeling during the holiday season? Many moms feel extra frustrated when they feel their teen might not feel deserving of Christmas kindness! This one's for you! I'll be sharing micro tips on instagram in the days leading up to Christmas, so make sure you follow along there... You may be a good fit for the next TRUSTED Challenge on January 13th, check it out!

It can feel very frustrating when grandparents don't agree (and either shame you for doing things different or do it without your consent) so THIS is an important discussion, especially around the holidays! My dad sent me an article that sparked this discussion, and i'm weighing in with some "say this/not that" scenarios in this episode.  January 13th TRUSTED Challenge Chats on Instagram Leave a podcast review, I'd be so grateful! Email me anytime future podcast ideas: [email protected] 

Follow up to last weeks episode on how to TALKE to your teen about your expectations of a little gratitude.... AND what to say/not say examples. Next TRUSTED Challenge is January 13th: https://kristenduke.com/trusted/ Instagram reel discussed in this episode: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DChJWXXxHZX/ Email me: [email protected] With anything, especially future podcast scenarios you'd like me to dissect! Leave a review if you found this beneficial, share with your friends!

I polled my friends on Instagram and asked how their teen is ungrateful and I got so many responses, I narrowed it dwon to the top 15, which I share here (and you can likely relate to) and I ALSO share how to remedy that with 3 action items. You ready?!?! Email me ([email protected]) or message on instagram with suggestions for future podcast episodes.  https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/ Please leave a review on this podcast if you found it helpful!  

Do you feel hopeless in your mother journey because you know you aren't perfect and terrified for the day your adult child comes to tell you you messed them up? Then this episode is for you! If you love this podcast, I'd be grateful for a 5 start review!! Tell me what other topics you'd like me to cover here! Join the TRUSTED Challenge here: https://kristenduke.com/trusted/ Join the instagram community here: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/ 

How "should" you respond when your teen hurts your feelings? Chatting about that here today! Join the next TRUSTED Challenge: https://kristenduke.com/trusted/ If this was helpful or you enjoy the podcast, I'd be grateful for a review!

Having asked on Instagram, what you want to hear episodes about, someone said, "How can I help my teen build confidence" so here we are! We discussed the Confidence conversation cards Trusted Challenge:  https://kristenduke.com/trusted/

Straight from an Instagram LIVE discussion, where a mom asked: "How do I validate my teenager, I try to tell them all the right things and I still annoy them." Lets chat! I started this episode and less than a minute later, chaos happened in my kitchen, so you can hear the audio, but if you want to see the video, you can watch this episode on youtube here. 

The message I got from a mom recently said this, "My 15 year old got his permit an is eager to drive us around everywhere....{and I'm scared!}" I answered my thoughts on that in this episode! Join the next TRUSTED Challenge:  https://kristenduke.com/trusted/  Grab the confidence boosting conversation cards: https://members.kristenduke.com/sales-page-consider-this-cards/   Submit a question on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/  Submit a question via email: [email protected] 

Phones! We love 'em and we love to hate 'em when it involved kids. Phones aren't going away, so learning how to navigate them in a TRUSTED way is always the goal! The question I got from a mom in the community recently went like this:  "How often should you go through your kids phones? When you see thins in their phone that don't align with your values how do you handle it?" I answer in this podcast episode! Join the next TRUSTED Challenge:  https://kristenduke.com/trusted/  Phone Chat cards: https://members.kristenduke.com/sales-page-consider-this-cards/  Submit a question on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/  Submit a question via email: [email protected] 

Is your teen ungrateful or are you just seeking "hits of joy" and don't get the response you were expecting or hoped for? (Hint: It's very normal if this is you!) In this TRUSTED by your Teenager podcast episode, we chat about this in 10 minutes or less! Sharing about an experience when I was a teen, and how I've switched it up with my teenager, even though I've had my feelings hurt before! If you found this helpful, would LOVE you to leave a review on the podcast/episode.  Feel free to reach out on instagram or email with questions you'd like me to cover in the future more in depth. Join our next TRUSTED Challenge here: https://kristenduke.com/trusted/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/  Email: [email protected] 

In this TRUSTED by your Teenager podcast episode, we chat about what to do if you don't like your teenagers friends. My goal is to give you bite sized tips for teens in under 10 minutes, and this one was under 7!  This is the first time I recorded a YouTube video right alongside this, so if you prefer to watch, you can do that here.  A few simple tips that might surprise you about what you can do if you don't like your teens friend. In this episode, I also mentioned: The TRUSTED Challenge: (you need to join this before you can join the private community, Team Trusted.) I shared that inside that space, we discuss micro details on how to become more TRUSTED and also lessons on tough teen topics such as teens & friends. Also mentioned, Confidence Chat Cards: 50 different scenarios on how to help your teenager boost their confidence.  I'm always grateful when you share my content, comment, like, and if you want to listen on your favorite podcast platform, you can do that here:   

I often get asked for more clarification when I share about becoming trusted, so I explain that here, what that actually means. Join the TRUSTED challenge by Saturday night (July 27) we start Monday morning! The TRUSTD Challenge info page. 

Piggybacking onto the last episode, I share a few more thoughts on the contemptuous teenager, as well as responding to another message from a mom who has an irritable teenager who doesn't want to go anywhere when mom plans fun.  I always aim to be as gentle as possible, because I am not into mom shaming, and I got a little blunt here, because I love you! You may enjoy the Trusted Challenge on July 29th, which I mention at the end here, my answer and solution to many things: Become TRUSTED by your teenager. 

Got this question for my "ask me anything" i posted on Instagram this last week: "Preteen is sooooo contemtuous and sarcatics. Wanna stop the behavior before she teenages." Shared my thoughts on THAT in this episode AND about the challenge I have coming up. If you haven't already taken the parenting personality quiz, so that now to get in the side door for the challenge early!    

I got a message from a mom asking for help connectingwith her teen, whom she says she has nothing in common with. Listen up to see what I share in this episode! Want help guiding your parenting by discovering your personality? Take the 1 question quiz here: take the quiz. 

Something I've been thinking about a lot lately, is how to help YOU really pay attention when it comes to learning skills to become trusted by your teen, so I share my thoughts here....    

Sharing about the wondering wedding weekend and a little of my "vacation depression" I"m feeling now that it's over. Feel free to message me any other questions you may have if I don't cover it in this recap! My next event I'm planning and excited for: the Transform Retreat on September 9th in Denver! It's going to be EPIC, and I can't wait to add you to my village, and for you to walk away with more tools to become trusted by your teenager. If you didn't see the bonus of a 12 month payment plan, let me know and I'll get you on that track!

I had to go a tad over 10 minutes to get all of my thoughts out on planning ahead to the next stage even while you're in a current stage.  If you haven't seen about the Transform Retreat, make sure you check it out!

Literally crying at the gym today.... (cue Taylor's new song, "Down Bad") I got a message from a mom that got me thinking I needed to share my thoughts, and it just so happens that inspiration hit me as I was crying, walking away from the gym 10 minutes after I got there.  Tips: What I do when I can't deal.... you might be suprised! I recorded this with my airpods in and now I know not to do that anymore... a bit of an echo.  Chatted about the Transform Retreat and how I updated the info page with the specific workshops I'll be teaching there. 

Listen to the very end to hear a clip of my girls! I was on a walk and I may not do that again, but pretend we are walking together! I talked in this episode about the challenges of teen friendships (and how to help them), the Fun Mom Freebie: https://kristenduke.com/teen-summer-fun/ and of course, Team Trusted: https://kristenduke.com/teamtrusted/ (Where you'll find the FRIENDS module!) I would be so grateful if you'd like to leave a review on this new and updated podcast series, and feel free to email or message me suggestions for future podcast chats, or thoughts from what you've listened to! Email me: [email protected] Find our community on Instagram: @KristenDukeChats  

I have a selfish wish, and I'm not going to tell you what it is here, you'll have to listen! Email me if you want to see what I mentioned: [email protected]   

Just minutes after I recorded the last episode, I got a call from my son that I shared the story about him. I told him about what I have planned in the next few months, and discussed the importance of sharing stories, and he said, "What does sharing your story have to do with parenting?" I answer that question in this episode more in depth, it's a great question! Sharing challenging stories, and especially about your kids is not easy, and that's why I've done this in a safe environement in Team Trusted, our private community, and an aspect that I'm excited about in the Transform Retreat (some will be anonymous) for those that feel safe to share.  Join the retrat here: https://kristenduke.com/sales-page-retreat/ Email me and we can set up a video chat to discuss your questions: [email protected]    

The tears came out today!  I wasn't planning to share this today, but I just got back from the gym where I ran into someone (I barely know) and we talked for an hour... I walked away so benefitted from that experience, that it reminded me of how sharing our vulnerable stories has the opportunity to bless others in countelss ways, many we will never know about. I share how a friends story she shared 10 years ago stuck in my mind, and helped me bless & support my son, and I'll forever be grateful. (Listen to a follow up to this episode in the next one, number 11). Come to the Transform Retreat September 9th! https://kristenduke.com/sales-page-retreat/ You can always email me an questions, happy to hop on a call and discuss your desire to attend the retreat with hesitations: [email protected]  See the retreat highlight bubble on Instagram, special bonus of Marco Polo mentoring when you sign up before Mother's Day!

My son just graduated college! My friends on Instagram saw me travel to his graduation on Thursday this week, and you may remember how I've shared in the past that he chose not to participte in high school graduation (and how I eventually became ok with that) but that he dediced to indeed walk in his college graduation. I shared a video on IG about him growing up, and the things I EXPECTED him to do that he didn't, and my growth process in all of that. Watch that video here.  I then had follow up questions from other mama's asking me, "How is your relationship now?" which I touch on here, and delve deeper into here in this podcast episode.  It's a little choppy towards the end, because as I was chatting on my porch into my voice memo (where I record these episodes) my neighbor came over to talk to me, and I had to stop. Since I had to stitch on the ending part 2 anyway, I cut that part out.  As always, I share about the benefits of Team Trusted, and how they have helped me and others on the team become a more trusted, safe space for their kids, and we'd love to have you join us.

In this quick episode, I share my observations and thoughts after walking through the halls of the high school today.  AND.... That I'm sharing a fun series in my bestie club emails in the next few weeks leading up to Mother's Day, so if you're not in that club, and you wanna be, you can join here: https://kristenduke.com/join/ 

I completed 7 podcasts in 7 days, woohoo! I'm digging this new way of chatting, what do you think? You can always leave a review and let me know your thoughts! Responding to a message from a mom in the community asking about Sibling Rivarly and sharing a few of my thoughts, and I also have a workshop with actionable step by step tips and a family lesson idea over here: https://kristenduke.com/sales-page-squash-sibling-rivalry/ I also referenced confidence building discussions and scenarios here: https://members.kristenduke.com/sales-page-consider-this-cards/ Always thinking of how I can help you become more trusted by your teen!