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Women Don’t Need a More Birth Plan… They Need This | Birth Preparation, Positive Birth Experience & Doula SupportSo many women spend hours creating the “perfect” birth plan only to feel overwhelmed, disappointed or out of control when birth doesn’t go to plan.In this episode, we’re shifting the conversation around birth preparation and what actually creates a positive, empowered birth experience.As a doula, I see it all the time — it’s not the lack of a birth plan that leaves women feeling disconnected from their birth but it’s the lack of inner preparation, nervous system support and the ability to navigate the unknown.This is where your birth compass comes in.Inside this episode, we explore:- Why traditional birth plans can leave women feeling disempowered- The key difference between a rigid plan vs a flexible, intuitive birth compass- How to prepare for an unmedicated birth, hospital birth, or induction without fear-The importance of nervous system regulation in labour and birth-How to stay grounded, calm and connected when birth takes an unexpected turn- What actually creates a positive birth experience (no matter the outcome)- How to advocate for yourself and make aligned decisions during labourThis episode is for you if you’re:Pregnant and preparing for birthWanting a natural birth, home birth or empowered hospital birthFeeling anxious about labour and unsure how to prepareLooking for holistic birth preparation and doula supportWanting to trust your body and feel confident going into birthWhether you’re planning your first baby or preparing for another birth, this episode will help you move beyond control and into true birth confidence, trust and empowerment.Because birth isn’t something you control, it’s something you learn to navigate.Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠Apply to share your conception journey, birth or postpartum story herehttps://tally.so/r/D4ee7ZUPCOMING EVENTS09.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Gympie)30.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Sunshine Coast)

You can’t control birth, but you can soften into it.She went into birth certain.Certain she would have a natural, drug-free water birth.Certain she could do it.What she didn’t expect was meeting the version of herself who couldn’t do it the way she planned.After 4 days of labour, sterile water injections and an emergency c-section the physical experience was only part of it.The real impact was her identity collapse.Because no one talks about this part:When your birth plan becomes who you believe you are and then birth asks you to surrender everything.In this episode, we speak honestly about:The illusion of control in labourWhy rigid birth plans can create deeper sufferingThe emotional and psychological impact of emergency c-sectionsVBAC expectations and facing birth again after traumaWhy softening, not controlling is true power in birthThis is for the woman who feels like she “failed” her birth.This is for the woman gripping tightly to one outcome.This is for the woman who needs to hear you didn’t actually do anything wrong.Birth is not something you conquer.It’s something you meet.Thank you Lorena for sharing your story, it was empowering and a beautiful conversation.Follow Lorena's podcast !! The Pooch PodcastFollow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠Apply to share your conception journey, birth or postpartum story herehttps://tally.so/r/D4ee7ZUPCOMING EVENTS⁠09.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Gympie)⁠⁠30.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Sunshine Coast)⁠

What really happens in each phase of labour?In this episode, I’m walking you through the stages of labour from a doula’s perspective so you know exactly what to expect from early labour, active labour, transition, pushing and the placenta birth phase.So much birth fear comes from not knowing what’s normal. When you understand the rhythm of labour, every sensation starts to make sense. Instead of spiralling when contractions change, intensity builds or transition hits, you can meet each phase with more trust, softness and confidence.Inside this episode, we cover:what early labour really feels likehow to know when active labour has begunwhat to expect during transitionwhy the “I can’t do this” moment is often a powerful sign of progressthe instinctive pushing phasethe sacred placenta and golden hour stagethe emotional shifts women commonly move through during labourThis is the episode I want every pregnant woman and her birth partner to listen to before labour begins, so they can understand what’s happening in the body and trust the process instead of fearing it.Whether you’re planning a home birth, hospital birth, VBAC, water birth or physiological birth, this episode will help you feel grounded in the wisdom of your body.Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠

What happens when your birth experiences look completely different… but both change you just as deeply?In this powerful and honest conversation, we explore two very different birth journeys- a C-section at 37 weeks after a missed breech diagnosis and a later “natural” induced birth that came with its own unexpected challenges.This episode goes beyond the surface of how babies are born and dives into what these experiences actually teach us about motherhood, trust and the pressure women feel to have a certain kind of birth or postpartum journey.We talk about:Trusting your intuition during pregnancy and birthNavigating medical systems and missed diagnosesThe emotional reality of C-section recoveryThe truth about “natural birth” expectationsBirth trauma, healing and postpartum recoveryWhy a supported and emotionally well mother is the foundation of a healthy familyThis is a conversation every mother needs to hear especially if your birth didn’t go to plan or you’ve ever questioned if your experience “counts.”Because the truth is…It’s not about how you give birth.It’s about how you are held through it.Whether you’ve had a C-section, vaginal birth, induction or are preparing for your own birth, this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated and deeply reminded of what truly matters in motherhood.Thank you Victoria so much for this beautiful conversation, honouring you.Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠Apply to share your conception journey, birth or postpartum sotry herehttps://tally.so/r/D4ee7ZUPCOMING EVENTS⁠09.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Gympie)⁠⁠30.05.26 Held: A circle for Mamas (Sunshine Coast)⁠

The subconscious patterns you carry into birth and postpartum shape far more than your mindset, they shape your entire experience of motherhood.In this powerful episode, we explore the hidden beliefs, nervous system conditioning and emotional imprints that pregnant women and new mums often bring into labour, birth and the postpartum period without even realising it.From people pleasing in birth to hyper independence in postpartum, to the deep fear that your body can’t be trusted, these subconscious patterns often influence how safe you feel to surrender, receive support, advocate for yourself and truly rest as a new mother.If you’re pregnant, preparing for birth, navigating postpartum or simply wanting to break generational cycles in motherhood, this episode will help you uncover the deeper patterns shaping your experience.We dive into:subconscious beliefs about birth and motherhoodnervous system patterns in labour and postpartumpeople pleasing, control and body distrusthyper independence in new mumsbreaking generational motherhood cyclespreparing emotionally for birth and postpartumhow subconscious healing supports a positive birth experienceThis is for the woman who knows birth and postpartum are more than physical events — they are sacred initiations that reveal the deepest layers of who we are.Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠

In today’s episode, we’re diving into a deeply honest and empowering first birth story that every pregnant woman and first time mum needs to hear.My beautiful guest shares how she moved through a fast, positive first labour, arriving at the hospital already 6cm dilated before experiencing the natural water birth she had hoped for. We talk about the mindset shifts, birth preparation and feeling informed enough to trust her body as labour progressed quickly.But this conversation doesn’t stop at the birth.We also unpack the part so many women are not fully prepared for- the immediate postpartum days.From navigating the emotional reality of not feeling fully supported as a first time mum, to the unexpected challenges of newborn jaundice, phototherapy and feeding issues.This episode speaks to the side of postpartum that can deeply complicate what we imagine will be “postpartum bliss.”If you are pregnant, preparing for your first baby, hoping for an empowered birth or wanting a more realistic understanding of the postpartum transition, this conversation will help you feel informed, grounded and far less alone.Inside this episode we explore:a positive and empowering first birth storythe power of birth education and preparationwhat it feels like when postpartum doesn’t go to plannewborn jaundice and feeding struggleswhy support after birth matters just as much as birth preparation itselfwhat first time mums truly need in the early daysThis is the kind of story that reminds women: birth is only the beginning and how you are held afterwards matters deeply.Thank you Mattia for sharing so courageously.Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠Apply to share your conception journey, birth or postpartum story here - https://tally.so/r/D4ee7Z

If you’re pregnant and wondering why you still don’t feel calm about birth, this episode is for you.So many first time mums believe they need to feel completely fearless, fully prepared and deeply relaxed before labour begins. But the truth is, birth confidence isn’t about eliminating fear- it’s about creating safety in your body, trust in your support and nervous system resilience for labour and motherhood.In this episode, we explore how to prepare for birth emotionally, mentally and physically, even if fear is still present. You’ll learn why “just relax” is terrible birth advice, how your nervous system shapes your labour experience and what practical tools actually help you feel grounded during pregnancy and birth.We dive into:how to calm birth anxiety naturallynervous system regulation for pregnancy and labourbody-based birth preparationbreathwork for labour confidenceletting go of control in childbirthhow positive birth stories build trustpreparing your mind for first-time motherhoodhow to feel safe in your body before birthThis is the episode every pregnant woman, new mum and first-time mother needs to hear if she wants to move into birth feeling supported, powerful and deeply connected to her body.Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠

Can a birth still be healing even when it includes intervention?In this honest episode, I sit down with a mama whose first birth ended in a failed induction, 24 hours of labour and an emergency C-section- an experience that left her feeling traumatised and disconnected from her body and birth story.For her second birth, she chose a planned VBAC. While this birth still involved intervention through a vacuum assisted delivery and episiotomy, it became an incredibly healing and redemptive emotional experience, showing that a positive birth is not defined by perfection, but by how supported, informed and empowered you feel within it.This conversation beautifully challenges the idea that healing only comes through an “ideal” birth outcome.Adding even more depth, she now shares this story through the lens of being a student midwife, reflecting on how her understanding of informed consent, induction, intervention and physiological birth has shifted the way she views both her past births and the way she is preparing for her third baby.Inside this episode, we explore:healing after birth traumafailed induction and emergency C-sectionplanning a VBAC after a traumatic first birthvacuum-assisted VBAC and episiotomywhy intervention does not equal failureinformed consent and emotional safety in birthhow birth education changes your choicesIf you’ve experienced birth trauma, emergency C-section, VBAC fears, assisted delivery or are preparing for birth after a difficult first experience, this episode will remind you that healing is still possible even when birth doesn’t go exactly to plan.🎧 Press play for a grounded and powerful conversation on VBAC, intervention, healing after trauma and reclaiming trust in yourself.Thank you for joining us Aimee! Follow along her student midwifery journey hereFollow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠⁠Join us at Held: A circle for mamas Sunshine Coast | 11.04.26⁠Apply to share your birth, postpartum or journey to conception story here- https://tally.so/r/D4ee7Z

Everyone says the same thing to new mums: “Just ask for help”But what if that advice is actually making motherhood feel heavier?In this episode, we unpack why this well meaning phrase often misses the reality of postpartum recovery, the invisible mental load and the emotional transition into motherhood.For pregnant women preparing for postpartum, first-time mums in the newborn stage and mothers feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to cope alone, this conversation offers a more honest lens on what real support actually looks like.We explore:Why new mums often struggle to ask for helpThe mental load of motherhood after birthWhy postpartum support systems matter more than adviceHow pregnancy preparation should include a postpartum planThe emotional reality of matrescence and identity shiftsWhat partners, family and friends can do instead of saying “just ask”If you’re navigating pregnancy, postpartum healing, new motherhood or the fourth trimester, this episode will help you feel seen, validated and practically supported.Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠⁠Join us at Held: A circle for mamas Sunshine Coast | 11.04.26⁠

What happens when the most beautiful day of your life also holds unimaginable grief?In this moving episode, we explore the experience of carrying twins, giving birth and walking the tender line between love and loss- bringing one baby home while saying goodbye to another.This is a conversation about the parts of motherhood we don’t often speak about, the duality, strength, quiet moments of processing and what it really means to keep going when your heart has been changed forever.We also open into the journey of falling pregnant again soon after birth and what it feels like to hold new life while still honouring what has been.If you’ve ever felt like you had to be fine or you’re navigating both joy and grief at the same time this episode will meet you there.This is a space for honesty, softness, and the full spectrum of motherhood 🤍Thank you Tess for sharing so courageously, I honour you so deeply for your wisdom from such an imaginable journey into motherhood. With love xFollow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠⁠Join us at Held: A circle for mamas Sunshine Coast | 11.04.26⁠Apply to share your birth, postpartum or journey to conception story! https://tally.so/r/D4ee7Z

If you’ve ever thought “I need to heal myself before I become a mum” this episode will shift everything.In this raw & honest conversation, we unpack one of the biggest lies women tell themselves about motherhood: that you need to be fully healed, confident and trauma free before having a baby.The truth? You don’t need to fix yourself before becoming a mother but you do need the right kind of support.We dive into:​Why waiting to feel “ready” can actually hold you back from motherhood​What really happens to your nervous system during pregnancy, birth and postpartum​How triggers and emotional waves in motherhood are not failures but invitations for growth​The difference between being a perfect mum and a regulated, supported one​Why support (not perfection) is the foundation of a healthy postpartum experience​How to prepare for matrescence in a way that actually sets you up to feel held, not overwhelmedThis episode is for women in preconception, pregnancy or postpartum who want to feel more grounded, less pressured and deeply supported as they step into motherhood.Because you don’t need to arrive perfect.You need to be supported while you become.Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠⁠Join us at Held: A circle for mamas Sunshine Coast | 11.04.26⁠

Join us as a specialised pelvic health osteopath Dr Chelsea Mill shares practical tips on pelvic floor preparation for a smoother birth and recovery. Perfect for expectant mothers looking to optimise their body for pregnancy, labour and birth!Dr Chelsea Mill is located on the Sunshine Coast, you can find Chelsea here- https://www.instagram.com/chelseamill_osteopathFollow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! ⁠@tanikalace⁠Follow my TikTok for BTS of mum life⁠ @tanikalace⁠⁠Join us at Held: A circle for mamas Sunshine Coast | 11.04.26⁠

Discover what happens in my doula sessions of personalised support from preconception to postpartum, including labor preparation, holistic guidance and emotional care tailored to you!!Follow my Instagram for more doula / pregnancy content through the week! @tanikalaceFollow my TikTok for BTS of mum life @tanikalaceJoin us at Held: A circle for mamas Sunshine Coast | 11.04.26

Becoming a mother is more than preparing the nursery or packing a hospital bag, it’s an emotional and identity shift that many women aren’t prepared for. In this episode, we explore the emotional preparation for motherhood, the powerful transition known as matrescence, and how women can mentally, emotionally & spiritually prepare for life with a baby. If you’re pregnant, trying to conceive or feeling the pull toward motherhood, this conversation will help you feel seen, supported & more deeply prepared for the transformation ahead.Join HELD: A circle for mamas Find my Instagram

Welcome back!In this episode, we explore one of the most overlooked aspects of birth physiology: how tension in the body can interfere with the natural progression of labour.Birth is not simply a physical event — it’s a hormonal and neurological process that thrives on safety, softness, and surrender. When the body perceives stress or fear, the nervous system can shift into survival mode, which can disrupt the hormones responsible for effective contractions.In this episode we cover: • Why tension in the body can slow down labour • The connection between the jaw, breath, and pelvic floor • How fear and stress affect the hormones of birth • Why environment matters during labour • Simple ways to soften and support your body during birthWhether you’re currently pregnant, preparing for a physiological birth or simply want to understand how the body works during labour, this conversation will help you approach birth with greater awareness, trust & embodiment.Because birth isn’t about forcing the body to perform, it is about creating the conditions where it can open, soften & do what it was designed to do.Find me on Instagram Find me on TikTokWith loveTanika xx

Morning sickness is often explained as just hormones but that explanation rarely tells the full story in this episode I explore how to reduce a morning sickness by supporting and regulating the nervous system.Pregnancy is a huge physical and emotional transition. It’s a transformation of identity!The body can move into a stress response and pregnancy nauseousness & vomiting is common symptoms of that state.You’re going to learn how the nervous system influences pregnancy symptoms and why some women experience more intense nausea than others. Gentle regulation practices can help to calm pregnancy nauseousness so I hope this episode helps!!Follow my instagramFollow my TikTok

I always imagined I would breastfeed my firstborn.In this episode, I’m sharing my honest breastfeeding journey- what happened when I was unable to breastfeed the way I expected and the quiet grief that followed.If you’re pregnant and preparing for breastfeeding, currently struggling with low supply, combo feeding, or feeling heartbroken that your feeding journey looks different than you planned, mama this episode is for you.Not being able to breastfeed does not mean you failed.This is an honest conversation about postpartum, identity & healing so that no woman feels alone if breastfeeding doesn’t go to plan.Follow my instagram Follow my TikTokLove Tanika x

In this episode, I talk about the difference between home birth and free birth in a simple and honest way.Neither choice is right or wrong. They are simply different paths, and every mother deserves to make the decision that feels right for her.I also share a personal life update and what’s been happening in my world lately!If you’re pregnant, researching birth options or simply curious about free birth, home birth, and informed choice in birth, this episode will give you a grounded perspective!Follow me on InstagramFollow my TikTok

Hey mamas! In this episode, I share how I prepared for my unmedicated birth, including mindset work, natural birth preparation, nervous system regulation, and physical body readiness. If you’re pregnant and exploring natural birth, home birth, or unmedicated labour, this episode is for you.Follow me on instagram here

Hey mamas! Welcome to another episode of with love mama. Today I share my journey of my incredible unmedicated, calm, fast! (3hours in total) homebirth story. This is a positive birthing story, and my journey to becoming a mum.I’d love to hear from you and how this story landed. Tanika xFollow my instagram 🤍

Hi mamas! Today I share how I intentionally prepared my body for 2 under 2. From pelvic floor physio to emotional regulation, I did what I could to ensure my body was in an optimal position to carry close pregnancies.Follow my instagram 🤍

Welcome angels!! My first episode of with love mama- touching on my journey to becoming a mum for the first time. Tanika x Follow my instagram 🤍