Zazi Kipya

Today's topic was to help parents recognize how their own childhood wounds nay affect how they apent today.Inner childhood-is the part of us that stll holds the emotions,memories,and experience of our early years especially those tied to love,fear,joy,pain and rejection.Examples of childhood woundsOverracting to your childs behaviourStruggling with patienceFeeling unseen or disrespected as a parentChildhood wounds show up in parenting in several waysOver-discpling or underdiscpliningneeding validation from your childReacting instead of respondingComparing your child because you were comparedHow to heal your inner childacknoledging the pain without shamePractice reparenting yourselfSeeking out intentional healing  Practical holoday ideasUse positive displineCreate safe talk moments

When we heal, our homes heal tooYou ca;nt heal what you cant acknlowdge-Dr. Gabor MateInner child- A part of your subonscious formed in childhood that holds emotional expriences, wounds and memories.Parental wounds:-Overly critical parent, emotionally absent caregiver, sibling favouritismUnmet needs: Not being heard, validated, comforted, celebrated.Reparenting:Learn to give yourself the nurturing young didnt receiveSelf-soothing techniquesHug yourselfSpeak words of affirmationRealining our adult livesSetting boundariesValuing your joyMothering differentlyBreaking cycles with your childrenListening ,validating,affirming them

Who were ypu before the lables?Reflections:What made me feel alive before I was given responsibilities?What did I silence in myself  just to be accepted?How did I describe myself before people told me who i was?AffirmationsI am not just what I do. I am who I am becoming.I honour the woman I used to be and the girl I scarryI am allowed to grow. I am allowed to rest. I am allowed to begin again.

The community's role in mental welness is acting as a safety net, most people isotae due to shame and fear of being misunderstood. A supportive comunity chesks in consistetly , respects confidentiality, doesnt try to fix  people.Wisdom corner:-A strong community is not one without pain,but one that chooses to walk with you through itHealing doesnt require perfection ~just presence

Causes of suicide Trauma, Rejection, Substance abuse,academic and social pressureSpotting signs Withdrawing from family, sudden calmness,expresing hopelessnesCrisis response and when to get helpDont leave the child alone Remove potential means-knives, ropesDont lecture ,listen, and affirm life Practical tools and prevention Journaling, profeesional therapy, Take aways for parentsDont assume, check in Know your childs friendsModel healthy habits Take away for youthYou are not alone Speak up.Ask for helpYour pain is not weaknessYou deserve to heal

Why don children stay silent,how do we unintentionally create unsafe safe space at home,how can we make our homes safe space..TAKE AWAY TIPS:- Listen more ,fix lessRepond,dont reactAsk "How Can i support you?" not " why did you that?"Make safe space for family meetingsSpeak life-not fear

Ways of engaging children /Family members when they are are strggling with mental health issues.Tips for parents to seek proffesional help from Counsellors and for them to heal from their unmet needs so that they can help their children better.

Silent Battles , Stong spirits: It is possible to guide your child back to school with confidence and care through the following ways;-Helping them transition emotionallyHelping them build coping skillsHelping them manage time, set goals and stay organizedStrenghtning communication channels while apartTake away Tips: Start small,listen morePrepare your child to advocate for themselvesCelebrate independenceChek in with the matron or teacherAsk more, judge lessWatch for silenceRespect their routineLet them struggle a littleCelebrate small wins The greatest gift you can give your child isn't perfection -Its presence

As a parent, what skills do you think are important for your child's success.Focus areas :1. Time mannagement2. Goal setting3. Resilience4. Career preparednessDo not prepare the road for your child...Prepare your child for the road.

Mental health issues in families are often unspoken due to Stigma, cultural Beliefs or lack of awareness. 

The influence  and role of mother in Laws in marriages today. Conflicts occur because of lack of healthy boundaries, favouritism,extended families.To have healthy boundaries there must be open communication, setting clear roles and expectatins. 

Every Blended family is unique, and its important to approach the process with flexibility and openness. The key to success is recognising that bonds take time to form and that everyone's feelings are validate and deserve to be heard.

The rivalry in step Families and ways of navigating those challenges.

It is possible to have a working Blended family, however you must be willing to discuss the how the family will navigate. Open and Honest communication and balancing attention are among key components of a successful Blended family.

We discussed the value of traditions , navigating technology and social media and mental health . In conclusion, empathy and patience comes in handy in generational gap .

Bridging generational Gaps . We delved into the importance of intergenerational connections and traditional wisdom, the role of grandparents in their grandchildren's lives and grand-parenting in the modern world.

Understanding patterns, triggers. Remember Healing is Feeling.

Understanding childhood : Physical Abuse,Emotional Abuse,Sexual Abuse,Neglect,Witnessing Violence. The 4 wounds of Childhood Trauma: Abandonment , Neglect, Guilt, Trust.

It is possible to parent without favouring any child....making children feel valued is paramount to their self esteem and stable adult live.

Does it work, understanding coparenting what are the effective communication strategies , what is the importance of setting boundaries and expectations in coparenting relationships? what arrangements do you need to effectively coparent.

We discussed the difference between Postpartum depression and baby blues, causes and symptoms of postpartum depression, risk factors associated with postpartum depression, impacts of postpartum depression to the mother, partner, family members, child, how can the caregivers and family support a mom going through postpartum depression, misconceptions or stigmas surrounding postpartum depression and its treatment.