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Becoming Me — 170 episodes

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1

An Unexpected Break: Podcast and Personal Update

2

Why Deconstruction is an Essential Part of Complex Trauma Recovery (with New Introduction)

3

Deconstruction as Differentiation and Individuation

4

Tasting the Fruit of Healing from Emotionally Immature Parents

5

Deconstructing: 'God' vs 'Christianity / Catholicism'

6

How Moral Injury Can Lead to Deconstruction

7

Why It's So Hard to Explain Deconstruction

8

Deconstruction: A Trauma-Informed, Integrative and First-Hand Perspective

9

Grappling with Spiritual Abuse and Trauma in the “DNA” of the Catholic Church

10

Reconsidering Holiness: Saints, Trauma, and Spiritual Abuse

11

When Enmeshment Trauma Becomes Spiritually Abusive

12

Healing and Repenting from Abuse of Conscience

13

Using Power and Influence in Non-Spiritually Abusive Ways

14

How Culture, Disembodied Faith and Trauma Facilitate Spiritual Abuse

15

Spiritual Abuse in Evangelisation and Discipleship (with Paul Fahey)

16

Season 10 Wrap-up: Insights & Updates

17

Embraced by the Heart of God the Father (with Isaac Wicker)

18

How Pope Francis Kept My Heart Open to the Catholic Church (When I Was Deconstructing)

19

Navigating Holy Week Through Spiritual Trauma and Healing

20

Reclaiming Our Dignity: Healing from Spiritual Abuse (with Paul Fahey)

21

Five Reasons Why Catholic / Christian Trauma Survivors Struggle with Healing

22

What Do We Do When the Healing Journey Overwhelms Us?

23

"They Did Their Best" Can Harm More Than Help

24

Why Deconstruction is an Essential Part of Complex Trauma Recovery

25

Experiencing Setbacks in our Healing from Complex Trauma

26

When You Harm Others In Spite of Your Best Intentions

27

Learn About Spiritual Abuse in a Catholic Setting (Resource Sharing)

28

How Does God Heal Complex Trauma?

29

How Healing Complex Trauma Transforms Our Image of God

30

How Complex Trauma Impacts Spiritual Discernment

31

How can I experience the unconditional love of God?

32

How Interior Integration helps us with our Fear of Criticism

33

Personal Vocation Discernment through the Stages of Faith

34

Podcast Update and Welcome to New Listeners

35

What's the Difference between Spiritual Fervour and Spiritual Maturity?

36

A Trauma-Informed Perspective to Spiritual Growth (with Edwina Yeow)

37

Journeying Through Spiritual Midlife Crisis

38

Stages of Maturing Faith: Insights From "The Critical Journey"

39

Journeying Towards A More Embodied and Authentic Faith

40

Distinguishing Between Self-Abandonment and Authentic Self-Gift

41

Why Not Going To Church Can Be A Trauma Response (with Brya Hanan LMFT)

42

Embracing Complexity: Rediscovering Faithfulness In The Healing Journey

43

Finding Self-Love Amidst Compulsions & Addictions

44

Embracing Your True Self & Making Authentic Connections

45

How Important Is It To Choose A Catholic/Christian Therapist?

46

4 Considerations When Choosing A Therapist

47

5 Considerations When Choosing A Spiritual Director

48

Is It Time to Change Your Spiritual Director or Therapist?

49

The Contemplative Heart of Interior Integration

50

3 Spiritual Blocks That Stem From Attachment Trauma

51

Are You Spiritualising Forgiveness?

52

The Essential Role of Self-Care In The Interior Journey

53

Navigating Healing of Relationships In Dysfunctional Families: A Christian Perspective

54

Primed For Conflict: The Link Between Our Present & Our Past

55

Understanding Enmeshment's Impact On Our Faith & Relationships

56

Recovering From People-Pleasing and Insecure Attachment With God

57

Why Exercising Boundaries Feel "Wrong" When You're Healing

58

How Ignatian Examen Helps Heal Abandonment Wounds

59

3 Grounding Tips For When You Are Overwhelmed

60

Why Conviction Without Integration Doesn't Help Us

61

What Does Interior Integration FEEL Like?

62

How Learning About Trauma Helped My Spiritual Life

63

Coping with Advent Overwhelm: Trauma Recovery and Faith

64

How Dissonance Invites You Home to Your True Self

65

What An Interior Integration Coach Is And Why I Am One

66

Why You Can't Flourish Without Attunement

67

Authenticity In The Struggle With Childlessness

68

How Healing Changed Me And My Interior Journey

69

Burnout, Imposter Syndrome, Sin and Boundaries

70

Why You Can't Discern Mission Without Healing

71

From People Pleasing to Unapologetic Confidence

72

Developing Trust & Secure Attachment In Adulthood

73

What To Do When Other People Project Their Insecurities Onto Us

74

3 Steps To Take When The Interior Journey Overwhelms You

75

Healing Through Delight, Beauty, Rest & Play

76

When Your Interior Journey Feels Disconnected With The Outside World

77

Loneliness In Singlehood and Marriage

78

Why Becoming Our Own Person Is Required to Mature in Love

79

"Doing The Right Thing" vs Being Authentically Loving

80

How God Led Me To Trust Him Through My Body

81

Attuning to vs Controlling Our Emotions

82

Life’s Interruption Is the Invitation To Your Real Work

83

Slowing Down Is About Freedom

84

Why Your Self-Knowledge Needs To Be More Specific

85

Why Striving Harder Doesn't Work In Our Interior Journey

86

How Do I Balance Compassion and Zeal?

87

How Do I Respond From Interior Freedom?

88

Timing, Grace and Readiness in the Interior Journey

89

3 Ways Spiritualising Blinds Us From Truth

90

Becoming Free(er) from Parental Wounds

91

Rebuilding Trust With Our Emotions

92

Coming Home to Yourself

93

Noticing the Patterns of Our Brokenness

94

Why I Began my Interior Journey (Loneliness)

95

Overcoming "Perfectionist Paralysis" In The Interior Journey

96

Exploring Safety, Trust, and Healing in Faith (with Brya Hanan LMFT)

97

How Our Desire For Self-Fulfilment Can Lead Us Into Fruitful Service

98

3 Ways Our Scripts Keep Us From Becoming Who We Are

99

Why Can't I Trust The Design God Gave Me?

100

The Burden of Expectations In Different Seasons of Life

101

The Pace of Soul Work (with Edwina Yeow)

102

Do We Feel Safe Enough to Discover Our Life's Purpose?

103

The Reality of Discerning and Living Out Our Personal Vocation

104

Letting God Meet You Where You Are This Lent

105

Why It's Important to Know Our Scripts

106

How to Have Boundaries with Our Life Scripts

107

Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (with Nicole Law)

108

The Four Layers of Self-Knowledge

109

Self-Leadership: Scripts, Temperament & Motivational Design

110

Leveraging our Gifts and Honouring our Limits in Leadership

111

Dealing with Our Insecurities in Leadership

112

The Perils of Leadership (with Timothy Khoo)

113

Leadership: Role vs. Core Identity

114

What Your Leadership Script Is & Why It Matters

115

Interior Life & Leadership

116

3 Reasons You Can't Find Your Calling

117

Season 4 Round-up & A Leader's Spirituality

118

Performing vs Living Life Fully

119

Freedom from the Shame that Binds You

120

Building Inner Resilience in Stressful Times

121

Inner Child Healing & Healthy Relationships

122

Loving Much vs Loving Well

123

Inner Child Reparenting: Healing My Relationship with God & Self

124

How Inner Child Healing Transformed Me

125

Inner Child Healing (with Dr Jean Cheng): Part 3

126

Inner Child Healing (with Dr Jean Cheng): Part 2

127

Inner Child Healing (with Dr. Jean Cheng): Part 1

128

Enlarging Our Capacity for Authenticity

129

Authenticity & Integrity in Times of Scandal

130

Grounding Tips for Surviving Chinese New Year

131

Thematic Arcs of Becoming Me (Getting ready for 2022)

132

End of 2021 Sharing and Thank You

133

Behind the Scenes of Becoming Me (with Nicole Law)

134

Authenticity or Belonging?

135

Motivational Design and Personal Vocation (with Dr Joshua Miller PhD): Part 3

136

Motivational Design and Personal Vocation (with Dr Joshua Miller PhD): Part 2

137

Motivational Design and Personal Vocation (with Dr. Joshua Miller PhD): Part 1

138

Your Unique Design for Thriving

139

Personal Integrity & Authenticity (in Evangelisation)

140

Counselling or Spiritual Direction (or both)?

141

3 Ways We Make Things Harder for Ourselves

142

You Don't Complete Me Part 2/2 (with Henry Hoo)

143

You Don't Complete Me Part 1/2 (with Henry Hoo)

144

Can You Be Gentler With Yourself?

145

I Know I Need to Slow Down But I Can't

146

Is it Selfish to Live the Life I Want?

147

Safe Spaces for Growth: Trust, Truth and Compassion

148

Being A Safe Space For Myself (with Edwina Yeow)

149

Safe Spaces For Becoming (with Edwina Yeow)

150

Why Things Get Worse Before They Get Better

151

True vs. False Limits (with Henry Hoo)

152

You Don't Have To Care About Everything

153

Befriending Our Limits (with Henry Hoo)

154

The Joy of Hiddenness

155

Help, I'm An Impostor!

156

Where Do You End and I Begin?

157

The Impossible Race To Be Good Enough

158

"Am I Regressing?"

159

Permission to Be "Un-Merry" This Christmas

160

Turning Our Loneliness Into Solitude

161

The Wisdom in Slowing Down

162

The Necessary Practice of Making Space

163

Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with Yourself

164

Listening to Your Life Speak

165

Living from the Inside Out (Part 2/2)

166

Living from the Inside Out (Part 1/2)

167

YOU Are Worth Becoming

168

How to make the most of Becoming Me

169

Introduction: Why 'Becoming Me'?

170

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