All Episodes - Shell Fischer's Podcast
Insight Meditation teacher, Shell Fischer, founder of Mindful Shenandoah Valley, offers her 25+ years of study and experience in these weekly talks about meditation practice, and how it can help us nurture more compassion, kindness, joy, and calm in our lives.
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Balancing Care for Self & Others: Buddha's Advise
A particularly difficult human challenge involves trying to balance a desire to be there for others – both those in our personal lives and in our society in general – and a desire to offer ourselves our own self-care. When these two needs are unbalanced, we and others tend to suffer because of it, largely based on the degree of the imbalance. Gratefully, the Buddha offered us many ways that we could address these competing needs through our mindfulness meditation practice, and develop a sense of peace and ease for both self, and others. This talk explores some of his most important teachings on this topic. It includes a meditation at the end.
The Buddha's 'Most Important Practice': Patience
The Buddha was once asked "what is the most important thing for us to practice?" He answered: patience (or khanti, in Pali) and assured us that this skill or quality is something we can learn to apply to absolutely everything we struggle with in our lives - every person, situation, and even ourselves - in order to become much more peaceful, self-controlled, compassionate, and undisturbed by life itself. This talk explores his teachings about how we can do this. It includes a meditation at the end.
So Special/So Wounded: Navigating Our Hopes & Fears
We all tend to seek out and hope for gain, status, praise, and pleasure, and resist or fear loss, disgrace, blame, and pain – even though all are inescapable, and visit each of us in different forms throughout our lives. And how we relate to these hopes and fears – often called the 8 Worldly Winds – often dictates how we experience our entire world. This talk explores how our meditation practice can help us to pay closer attention to these various winds so that we can learn how to better allow them to rise and pass without clinging so tightly to them, and therefore, discover more freedom and ease in our lives. It includes a meditation at the end.
Just Thinking, Sweetie: Working With Busy Mind
Often during our meditation practice, we encounter a state known as "busy mind," which is when there's a kind of ongoing flow of anxious or repetitive mental chatter that tends to keep us locked in the realm of the past or the future, and therefore, mostly distracted from the reality of the present moment, or … the life we're actually living. This talk explores how this particular mind state is created, and how we can use our mediation practice to mindfully observe and slow down the flow of thoughts, and in turn calm both the mind and body. It includes a meditation at the end.
BREATHE: Right Now, It's Like This
During difficult times, allowing ourselves to pause, breathe, and come back home to the present moment is exactly how we can regain our footing, become more grounded, and shore up our ability to more wisely respond instead of automatically react to whatever's happening. This talk offers us a variety of ways that our meditation practice can help us learn to rest our attention in awareness itself, and discover more calm, compassion, and wisdom in the face of our challenges. It includes a brief meditation at the end.
TRY SOFTER: Working With Change & Grief
An essential aspect of our meditation practice involves training ourselves to very consciously and compassionately navigate the truth of constant change, instead of allowing ourselves to become so unconsciously distracted by the swirl of it that we end up missing out on the life we're actually living. This talk explores how we can use our mindfulness practice to discover more kindness, presence, and a sense of safety - especially during the more major periods of change and grief in our lives. It includes a 10-minute meditation at the end.
THIS IS IT: Now What?
Instead of resisting, denying, or trying to ignore a big change in our lives or in our world, the Buddhist teachings invite us to open up to it and deeply acknowledge: "This Is It," and then ask ourselves: "now what?" Meaning, what's the wisest, most compassionate response to this change? How can I relate in a way that is going to open my heart, rather than shut it down? This talk explores how we can use our mindfulness practice to help us remain calm in the midst of chaos, and discover the most beneficial answers.
CLAIM YOUR SEAT: Buddha's Teachings on Doubt
Our common experience of doubt – in ourselves, and in our ability to make good decisions for ourselves, especially - is actually the very last thing the Buddha himself struggled with just before he became enlightened. In fact, his own awakening was his profound message to us: that we all have the innate capability to discover for ourselves what will lead us towards more happiness, and what will lead us towards more suffering. This talk explores how we can use our healthy doubt as the antidote to our unhealthy doubt in order to reveal what is true.
Some Things Just Hurt: Allowing Our Pain
Whenever we experience pain or suffering, our common tendency is to believe that not only is the cause of our suffering in some way wrong, but that our own response to it is also wrong. And therefore, we tend to surmise that we, ourselves, are also somehow wrong. Happily, the Buddhist teachings are designed to help us notice this common pattern, and learn how we can bravely open up to our own suffering and really get to know it – very intimately – so that we can become wiser and more compassionate, and eventually, become free of it. This new talk from Shell explores how we can better allow ourselves our own feelings through the lens of a half-a-dozen different teaching phrases. It includes a meditation at the end.
My Relationships: Medicine, or Poison?
The Buddha insisted that our relationships make up the "whole" of our spiritual life, and and urged us to use our mindfulness practice to become more aware of who we're choosing to associate with in order to assure our sense of peace and well-being. Happily, his teachings offer us numerous ways that we can use our meditation practice to better discern whether our relationships are offering us poison (or, something that makes us feel bad), or medicine. This talk explores how we can tap into our wise bodies and hearts to help us make these important decisions. It includes a meditation at the end.
Put Your Heart Into It Again: The Buddha On Determination
As opposed to the act of "striving," which involves a kind of unhealthy or stressful clinging to some sort of expectation, and typically arises from our more self-centered mind, or ego - the quality of aditthana (or determination, in the Pali language) almost always arises from the heart, as in, from our heart's desire. And because our heart is just naturally wise and compassionate, if we commit ourselves to following it, it will almost always lead us towards more joy, ease, and peace in our lives. This talk explores how we can not only use our meditation practice to establish this powerful quality, but learn how to more mindfully discern whether we're being driven by our tricky minds, or by the much vaster space of our heart. It includes a meditation at the end.
Do No Harm/Take No Sh*t: A Buddhist Lesson on Boundaries
Whenever we perceive that some sort of harm is being done – either by another person, people, or even on a more national or global level - how can we best confront this without nurturing aversion in our own hearts, or letting it consume us in some way? This talk explores the Buddha's teachings on how we can use our meditation practice to help us to say "no" or maybe "that's enough" without doing further harm to either ourselves or others, or allowing our aversion to shut down our hearts. It includes a meditation at the end.
What Would Buddha Do? Taking Refuge in the Beloved
This talk addresses the question: How can we flow between all the different roles, hats, or identities that we place on ourselves every day, and that kind, wise, compassionate presence within us that is actually free of those often-limiting identities, or beliefs about who we think we "should" be? The answer involves using our meditation practice to examine how we can begin to loosen our strong grip on all of our toxic "shoulds," and uncover and find comfort in what is often called our Buddha Nature, or, the truth of who we really are. It includes a meditation at the end.
It Takes A Long Time to Grow Young: Nurturing Contentment
Right before the Buddha's enlightenment, a single memory from his childhood apparently not only led him to nirvana, but to the profound teachings of the Middle Way – the whole thing. Essentially, what he remembered was what contentment (or passaddhi) had felt like to him, at age 8. This talk explores how the Buddha was led to this understanding, along with some of his teachings on how we can train ourselves to experience even more of this precious quality in our lives. It includes a 10-minute meditation at the end.
How To Work With Fear & Grief: Pause
The Buddhist teachings are continually calling our attention to the truth of what is called annica, or impermanence, because essentially, it's exactly what we tend to struggle with, in the form of both the fear of uncertainty, and the grief that comes with change. But instead of trying to avoid our fear and grief – which is our natural tendency - the teachings are asking us to instead pause, and allow ourselves to BE with these feelings, so that ultimately, we can transform them, and discover more peace. This talk explores how we can use our meditation practice to train ourselves in the sacred, healing art of the pause. It includes a meditation at the end.
"It's All Yours" - Responding to Disrespect and Insult
As the Buddha's teachings remind us over and over, even though it's difficult, we never want to let another person's anger, disrespect, or cruelty harden our own hearts. Instead, we want our meditation practice to serve as a kind of guard for our hearts - a strong shield that can protect us against the power that other people's disrespect can often have over us. This new talk explores how we can develop the mindfulness tools that can help us to more calmly and kindly respond to the unkind behavior of others. It includes a mediation at the end.
EMPTY OF EXPECTATION: Exploring "Beginner's Mind"
While the Buddha assured us that it's healthy to be aware of all our different intentions, he also suggested that once we've planted the seeds of our plans, our practice becomes surrendering to any determined outcome whatsoever – to truly let go, of all of it. This talk on Shoshin, or "Beginner's Mind," is aimed at helping us to let go more and more often by inviting us to see all things as new – including all situations, people, and especially ourselves – rather than clinging so tightly to our preconceived beliefs and expectations, which tend to keep us stuck. It includes a meditation at the end.
Content in the Center: Exploring the Middle Way
When we practice what the Buddha called The Middle Way, we start to realize with more clarity that contentment resides at the center of our wanting and not wanting, our indulgence or deprivation. We learn that nothing is really happy or unhappy in and of itself - no person, thing, or situation, and that our joy or sorrow depends entirely on how we are relating to our experience. This talk explores how can use our meditation practice to learn to "walk in the middle" more often in order to discover more joy, ease, and balance in our lives.
The Sacred Healing of Noble Silence
In order for us to practice well, we need to learn how to create and then dwell in a quality the Buddha called Noble Silence – something that is precious and multi-faceted, like a jewel, and not simply about being quiet. This talk explores all the many reasons why it's necessary and essential for us, along with offering practices that can help us to experience it more often, and slowly learn to live our lives from within this peaceful space of silence. It includes a meditation at the end.
What Am I 'Really" Offering Myself and Others?: An Exploration of Dana
In the Buddhist teachings, the practice of dana (or generosity) is considered the number one heart quality that we are urged to cultivate, in order to discover more joy, and less suffering in our lives. This new talk from Shell explores how we can use our mindfulness practice to become more kind and generous not only to others, but also to ourselves, by honestly revealing and investigating all the ways in which we might not be being as kind, or as generous as we may think. It includes a 10-minute meditation at the end.
What You Resist, Persists: Working With Aversion
As the Buddha tells us, rejecting, avoiding, or pushing away the reality of the moment - which might be unpleasant - is one of the main ways that we create suffering (or dukkha) not only for ourselves, but also for others. In the Pali language, this quality of aversion is called dosa. And because it tends to cause so much unnecessary pain and stress in our lives, the teachings urge us to use mindfulness practice to really get to KNOW our dosa, at all levels – from the most minor ways that we resist to the most troubling, or destructive. In this new talk, Shell explores all the many ways that we can start to notice when we're in some way resisting what IS, and start to let BE, instead of being so aversive to other people, life itself, and of course, ourselves. It includes a 10-minute meditation at the end.
Is Meditation Selfish? Advise From The Acrobat Sutta
Most of us tend to grapple with what is considered an ancient human torment: the challenge of trying to balance a need for self-care, along with a strong sense of feeling responsible for helping others, and the world in general – a particular push and pull that can often be so painful. Happily the Buddha was also aware of this struggle, 2600 years ago, and offered us some very sage advice about how to work with it. This talk explores one of his most famous sermons, the Acrobat Sutta, which addresses how we can find a more harmonious and peaceful balance between these two needs.
Do You Know Your Frenemies?
In the Buddhist teachings, the Buddha urged us to very consciously be on the lookout for harmful qualities he called "The Near Enemies," – qualities that all "pretend" to be the heart-qualities of kindness, compassion, empathetic joy, and equanimity, or, The Divine Abodes, considered the highest, most beneficial emotions in the Buddhist teachings. In this talk, we explore how we can use our practice to bring these types of tricksters or "frenemies" up into the light, see them more fully for what they are, and begin to embody their opposites. It includes a meditation at the end.
The Most Important Meditation Practice: Patience
The Buddha was once asked "what is the most important thing for us to practice?" And his answer was simple: patience (or khanti, in Pali). Happily, this vital quality is something we can learn to apply to absolutely everything we struggle with in our lives - every person, situation, and even ourselves - in order to become much more peaceful, self-controlled, compassionate, and undisturbed by life itself. This talk explores the many different ways that we can do this. It includes a 10-minute meditation at the end.
Maybe So, Maybe Not, We'll See: Riding The 8 Worldly Winds
In the Buddhist teachings it is said that there are 8 different "winds" or conditions that we either hope for, or fear - all of which are constantly blowing into our lives, just like the wind. These 8 are the main things that we tend to preoccupy ourselves with, and consequently become stressed out about. In this talk, Shell explores how we can use our practice to more clearly see and acknowledge these 8 when they rush in, and begin to let go of our strong grip or preoccupation with them in order to discover more peace, joy, and ease in our lives. It includes a 10-minute guided meditation at the end.
Where Do We Find Our True Home?
Whenever we think of the word "home" we often think of a kind of brick and mortar "place" where we can physically dwell. But in the Buddhist tradition, home or "refuge" is not something we find outside of ourselves, but instead directly within. In fact, it might be said that the entirety of our practice is aimed at training ourselves how to develop this place of "home" right here - in our own minds, bodies, and hearts. In this talk, we explore what are often called the 3 Refuges or Treasures of our practice, and how we can create a place of safety, ease, and belonging by cultivating all three.
A More Joyful, Contented Heart
Modern science has now shown us that what the Buddha was trying to tell us more than 2600 years ago is spot on: that by consciously choosing to incline our minds towards more joy, we can actually change the structure of our brains in a way that will generate even more experiences of joy for ourselves in the future. This talk explores not only how we can use our practice do this, but how we can bust some of the common misunderstandings about how we go about it. It includes a 15-minute meditation at the end, designed to help us discern and loosen habitual or unconscious beliefs that might be blocking us from experiencing more joy and contentment in our lives.
No Mud, No Lotus: Exploring Our Suffering
While the Buddha assured us that our meditation practice is the path to freedom, he also explained that in order for us to achieve a more profound happiness than we could ever find outside of ourselves, we first need to take an honest, courageous look at all the ways that we create more suffering for ourselves. This talk explores the many different types of dukkha (suffering) that we experience, and how shining a light on them through our practice can help soften and even dissipate them.
What Would Buddha Say?
Modern science has shown us that our words are not harmless: they have the very real power to not only affect our actual brains, but to either create more hurt and discord in this world, or more harmony and connection. This talk explores some of the Buddha's rich teachings on Wise Speech, and how we can use our meditation practice to train ourselves to become more aware of our unconscious habits of communication, and better understand what we're creating in our lives and in our world through our speech.
Can You Apologize? A Mindful Inquiry
Apologizing is such a challenging skill that the Buddha himself said that learning to do it well is "THE essential factor in achieving purity in thought, word, and deed." This new talk explores how we can use our mindfulness practice to become better at this, and also how we can better discern whether we are either receiving or giving a real apology - or not. It includes a 15-mintue meditation at the end, designed to help us accept when an apology we expected was either lacking, or maybe caused more harm than the original hurt.
Buddha: What's NOT Wrong?
Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh suggests that instead of focusing on everything that's wrong with ourselves, other people, or the world … we should ask: "What's NOT wrong," as a way of practicing the incredibly transformative quality of gratitude. This quality of thankfulness is so powerful, in fact, it's considered 1 of 2 main antidotes to our experience of fear. It also represents the very fruit of our practice, or Equanimity. In this talk, Shell explores how we can use our mindfulness practice to access this quality more and more often, so that eventually, we can live from a place of thankfulness, rather than from a place of complaint.
Buddha: 5 Ways To Let Go
The Buddhist teachings warn us of 5 main challenging and complicated mental states that block, confuse, or "hinder" our ability to more fully open our hearts and minds, and prevent us from discovering freedom from suffering. In this talk, Shell explores how we can use the practice of energy (or viriya, in Pali) to more clearly recognize these five mental states, and eventually loosen our grip on them in order to discover more joy, freedom, and ease in our lives. It includes a 15-minute meditation aimed at helping us overcome the pain of desire.
Don't Believe Everything You Think
A common expression among those who practice Insight Meditation is "don't believe everything you think," which points to the idea that in order for us to discover the truth – or any transformation or release from suffering in our lives - we first need to take a good look at what we're believing, then courageously question the validity and/or benefits of these beliefs. In this talk, Shell explores the crucial practice of Investigation (or vicaya), which is considered the 2nd Factor of Awakening.
Don't 'Should' All Over Yourself
The Buddha taught that you can search the entire universe for someone more deserving of your love and compassion than yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere. And yet, so often for many of us, it seems much easier to offer our care, compassion, and even forgiveness to others than to ourselves. We tend to beat ourselves up, or give ourselves an unnecessarily hard time for our "perfectly human" emotions and imperfections. This talk from Shell explores how our meditation practice can help us learn how to offer more of our love, care, and forgiveness to the person we spend the most time with - ourselves. It includes a 10-minute meditation at the end.
You Are Worthy; You Belong
As the Buddhist teachings show us, our deepest source of pain and suffering arises from our delusion that we are somehow separate from one another, and from Earth itself. Given this, one the most profound practices we are offered to dispel this delusion is by exploring what is called Mahabhuta, or The Great Elements contained within our bodies. This talk explores not only why this practice is essential, but how we can use our meditation practice to investigate it. It includes a 15-minute meditation at the end.
Trust The Unfolding
In the Buddhist teachings, we are asked to use our meditation practice as a way to reflect on the profound truth of anicca, or impermanence: the truth that everything – including ourselves, is always and forever in a constant state of unfolding … along with the truth that if we can learn to trust that flow, and let go of needing to control it, we can truly live with much more joy, freedom, and ease in our lives. This talk investigates how we can learn to live in and even as that constant unfolding. It includes a meditation at the end.
Buddha: What's Your Sense of Worthiness?
In the Buddha's teachings on Wise or Right Livelihood, we are urged to shine a strong light on what we're believing about our own worth, as well as our opinions about the worthiness of others, because these assumptions touch, shape, and affect almost everyone and everything in our lives – individually, culturally, and even globally. This talk explores how we can use our practice to take a closer look at these beliefs so that, ultimately, we can take actions that will lead to more joy, compassion, and connection.
The Cooling Touch of Tranquility
One day, when the Buddha was just 8 years old and upset, he decided to offer himself both calm and compassion by very naturally sitting in what has been called "the first meditation," and consciously nurturing a quality called Passaddhi – a Pali word translated as serenity, composure, or tranquility. In this new talk, Shell explores how we can follow the Buddha's wise example, along with his instructions on how best to develop the same calming, soothing effect through our practice.
Strive On With Diligence: Practices to Help Keep Us Going
The Buddha's last words to us were said to be: "All conditioned things are impermanent; strive on with diligence!" In these difficult times we're all living through, maintaining our practice, as well as our sense of hopefulness, can often be challenging. In this new talk, Shell explores the quality of aditthana - a Pali word meaning "determination" or "resolve" - and offers us ways to "strive on with diligence" to help us strengthen not only our commitment to our practice, but to ourselves.
Keep Calmly Knowing Idiots: Practices for Working With Anger
Whenever there seems to be a gap between what is, and how we want it to be – whether this means a situation, person, ourselves, or life itself – we tend to experience frustration, or anger. Yet, if we can allow ourselves to let go of our strong expectations, our suffering can often drop dramatically. In this new talk, Shell offers us some tips – both classic and modern – for how we can use our practice to slowly loosen our grip, and discover more freedom, joy, and ease.