All Episodes - What Not To Do
Sex, love, dating and divorce advice from a total romantic failure
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E31 SEASON FINALE: Eclipses, my big move, and NEVER LOOKING BACK
In this episode Astrologer Melissa Marcum joins the pod to teach us what this year's eclipses are pushing us to work on within ourselves BUT you probably won't listen to this awesome conversation because Mercury hates Tristan and is retrograding dafuk out of the podcast this month 🥴😭. Also, don't be sad face, this is only goodbye for now:) Regardless, you should get in touch with Melissa for a kick-ass chart reading! Her facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jane.oneill.142035/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/melissaoneillmarcum/ www.mmastrovibes.com Follow us on Instagram: @whatnottodopc
E30 DO NOT FEAR THE KINK! Learning all about D/s and BDSM with Tiffany Keeping
Have you ever been curious about BDSM or D/s? What is it? Is it safe? Is this for me? Then tune in because sex coach Tiffany Keeping is here to give us the lowdown on this particular corner of kink. Tiffany shares a bit of her personal experiences with Dom/sub relationships and gives us insight on how to start figuring out which side we may want to play. To find Tiffany: https://www.tiffanykeeping.com/ Instagram and TikTok is @tiffanykeeping Facebook is https://www.facebook.com/tiffany.gibsonkeeping Here's a free gift for your audience too that can help them start exploring some fantasies. https://funnels.tiffanykeeping.com/sexyfantasies-9568 To message or follow this podcast, find @whatnottodopc on Instagram
E29 Swiping on "6's" and hooking up on the first date
Dating Coach and creator of LOVE-U, Evan Marc Katz joins the pod to teach us how to properly use online dating platforms (your profile probably needs a reboot), how to lower your expectations without lowering your standards, and why you need to get really clear on what it is you are looking for in a partner before swiping left on anyone! Whether you're new to online dating or a seasoned veteran trying to keep your hope alive that your person IS out THERE, this is an episode you can't afford to miss! Connect with Evan here: Evanmarckatz.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/realevanmarckatz Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-love-u-podcast-with-evan-marc-katz/id1091310056
E28 Put these good habits in place NOW to keep your relationship great FOREVER ♥
Felicia Kashevaroff, relationship coach and inventor of the TEND TASK app joins the pod to discuss how to keep a good thing going once you've finally found the one! To connect with Felicia... To learn more about Tend Task go to: https://tendtask.com or follow on IG @tendtask To get her free eBook - "The Top 10 Mistakes Couples Make When Building a Balanced Relationship — And What To Do Instead," go to this link - https://tendtask.myflodesk.com/free-ebook
E27 Your Dirty Little Secret: Talking DRY (aka sexless) MARRIAGE with Serena Haines
This week Serena Haines, certified Sexologist and sex and intimacy coach, joins the pod to deep dive into sexless marriage with Tristan. From avoiding whats happening in your marriage to finding the strength to fix it, accept it (or end it 😬) this conversation is geared to help you understand a little bit more about the "why" of it all, with the additional hope you'll understand more avout what you want and what you are willing to accept after a good listen. Important links: Podcast Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whatnottodopc?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== 7 SECOND BODY SIGN UP https://7secondbody.my.canva.site/tristan www.serenahaines.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/serena_haines/
E26 The NEW 3 Day rule YOU NEED to implement on the dating apps
SOLO CAST! What is the new 3 day rule? Listen as Tristan explains what, why, and how this can eliminate frustration and wasted time in your online dating journey.
E25 Human Design Deep Dive pt.2 w/Shakti Rios (Learning all about profile lines)
Learn all about what profile lines mean in your human design chart with Human Design expert Shakti Rios plus Tristan tells you the best spots to find sugar daddy's in South OC 😄 Find your human design here: https://phnxlegacy.com Shatki's course link: https://phnxlegacy.com/dts
E24 The #1 reason you're not closing a SECOND DATE (even after an amazing 1st date)
SOLO CAST!! Okay guys if you are a man or a woman currently dating YOU MUST LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE then share it with your single friends. It's so incredibly simple and yet men all over the country are dropping the ball on this! I know you can do better, but ladies you have a part in this too. This one thing could change everything (especially how you look at potential partners).
E23 What the heck are the Akashic Records? Learning all the things w/ intuitive medium Erin Stabile
If you still haven't gotten enough past lives information, don't you worry your pretty little head about it because we got you!! In this episode a Akashic alchemist Erin Stabile is here to break it all down and shares why its important to look at all the journeys your soul has been on to better understand why you are here now as YOU. To further connect with Erin: http://www.vintagemoons.com/ https://www.facebook.com/erin.morganstabile?mibextid=LQQJ4d https://www.tiktok.com/@erinintuitivecoach https://www.instagram.com/erinvintagemoons/
E22 Stop! Drop! And TALK DIRTY TO ME🙏🥵🤤 A special V-DAY episode for all the LOVERS💘
CLASS IS IN SESSION! Kristin Wilder, sex and intimacy coach extraordinaire is back to teach you how to feel confident in asking what you want from your partner and to give a much needed tutorial on how to TALK DIRTY! Its all here in this episode!! Make this valentines day your spiciest ever with a little help from your favorite podcast! LIKE! SHARE! SHOW NOTES: DYAD: Formal communication exercise (not a conversation): the goal is to facilitate deeper understanding (not to agree). Face each other, take turns 1st partner instruction: “Tell me….” (read the rest of the prompt from the handouts) 2nd partner instruction: receive instruction, contemplate, answer briefly 1 thing 1st partner: “thank you” to complete the communication loop. Communication aids: clarify that (if you don't understand what they meant) summarize that (if they said a lot) say it again/speak louder (if they mumbled, you didn't hear them) Switch speaking/listening roles. 2nd partner instruction: “Tell me…” (use the same prompt from the handouts) We will go for _x_ minutes (set timer). Repeat the same prompt over and over until the time is done. General Sexuality Dyads (build up over time) ● Tell me something you love about our sex life ● Tell me something that you love about my body ● Tell me something about your sexuality you would like for me to understand ● Tell me something you would like more of in our sex life ● Tell me something we’ve never done that you’d like to try ● Tell me what moves you when it comes to our intimate physical connection ● Tell me a desire you have never fulfilled sexually ● Tell me something you think about when you self pleasure ● Is there anything you’ve fantasized about but never tried in real life? ● What are some of your peak erotic experiences? ● Tell me a way you would like to expend erotically LINKS: Sexual Communication Checklist: Email kristin@kristinwilder.com and she will send you a copy! BDSMtest.org Google the "Will Want Won't List" Kristin's Erotic Blueprints Spotify Playlists: https://open.spotify.com/user/1265105704 Erotic Blueprints Quiz: https://BlueprintBreakthrough.ontralink.com/t?orid=78858&opid=4 Erotic Blueprints Breakthrough Course (purchase for self-study, included for private clients): https://BlueprintBreakthrough.ontralink.com/t?orid=78858&opid=2 Book a Free Intro Call with Kristin: https://calendly.com/wilderintimacy Website: www.kristinwilder.com
E21 WHY you soo STRESSED boo?? Conquering your stress & anxiety with Sandy Woznicki
Tristan contemplates a simpler, less visible, social media FREE existence, then dives deep with stress and anxiety coach Sandy Woznicki and learns tactile ways to ground yourself when you feel those thought monkeys coming in hot! If you can't quite get on the meditation bandwagon but want to learn new ways to find peace in those moments when you're feeling out of sorts, don't miss this episode! Fund Sandy here: https://stressandanxietycoach.com/happywoz/
E20 ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR HEART ❤ Understanding SHADOW WORK with psychic Didem Dooley
Tristan is joined by Didem Dooley of Sunshine Love Tarot to discuss shadow work, understanding masculine wounds, soul families, and TWIN FLAMES (what is a twin flame? How many kinds are there?? The questions are endless!!!) To connect with Didem: https://www.instagram.com/sunshinelovetarot?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
E19 Don't lose YOURSELF in the sh**show (instead... just keep getting hotter 🤷🏼♀️🔥)
Friend & fitness expert Melissa Vogel, creator of "Busy To Bomb Fit Mom" joins Tristan on the pod to discuss building her empire post divorce, what it took, and how she's navigating her life from a place of gentle power. Also, Tristan continues to try to convince Melissa TO GET ON THE APPS post her recent breakup. To connect with Melissa: IG www.instagram.com/itsmelissavogel WEBSITE melissavogelfitness.com To follow the pod on INSTAGRAM www.instagram.com/whatnottodopc
E18 QUIT RUNNING from your fears around $$MONEY, Honey
Tristan welcomes financial expert Wendy Verwey to the pod to learn how to become financially free, take hold of your finances, and finally put an end to those single parent financial fears! Find Wendy here: www.wendyverwey.com
E17 IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S HIM (GASLIGHTING you)
On our very first episode of the new year, Tristan sits down with Sarah Morales, an expert and thought leader on the topic of GASLIGHTING. How do you know you've been being gaslit? Listen now to this episode, you won't regret it! To connect with Sarah: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahmoralescoaching/ Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@sassysarahdeconstructs Her website http://www.sarahmoralescoaching.com/
E16 Don't even THINK about getting your best body EVER in 2024 without these 4 things!
I said I wasn't going to do it but here we are... I'm giving my best advice for creating your best body ever and accomplishing your fitness goals in 2024. Here's my website for customized programming: www.mymindbodygoals.com And follow my weightloss and accountability program '7 SECOND BODY' on Instagram for program launch dates: https://www.instagram.com/7second_body?igsh=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==
E15 NEVER STOP ASKING QUESTIONS! Exploring past lives with Medium Melissa Espinasse
Tristan dives deep with Medium & Consciousness Guide Melissa Espinasse on past lives and escention into 5D Consciousness (& what the heck that even means)! To get your New Earth Femme Bundle with the 'Through the Realms past-life course' hit this link and use code: TRISTANPODCAST https://payhip.com/b/OmHZN If you would like to invest in your own past life reading, click here: https://payhip.com/b/BkesK
E14 STOP trying to be FRIENDS with your EX... Instead, be FRIEND-LY😏
Divorce Coach and single mother Lindsey Hall joins us to discuss how to make your divorce your OWN, steering away from villainizing you ex, co-parenting like a champ, and trusting you won't f*** up your kids!
E13 DON'T BE SHY, be a SEXUAL LEGEND! Owning your eroticism with Kristin Wilder😈🔥
OUR SEXIEST EPISODE YET! Tristan is joined by eroticism coach and expert Kristin Wilder as they discuss learning your sexual blueprint (& why this is so freaking important!), getting naked after divorce, and being fearless regarding your authentic sexual, sensual and kinky desires! To learn more about Kristin and take part in everything discussed during the episode, use these links: Kristins website: http://www.kristinwilder.com/ Her Instagram: @wilderintimacy Linked in: http://www.linkedin.com/in/kristinwildercoaching Erotic Blueprints Links: Erotic Blueprints Quiz: https://go.theblueprintbreakthrough.net/t?orid=78858&opid=4 Erotic Blueprints Breakthrough Course: https://go.theblueprintbreakthrough.net/t?orid=78858&opid=2
E12 GUYS Please STOP TELLING women THIS (cringy things men say that they think are hot)
Tristan breaks down her very short list of things men say that they think will excite you, entice you, or bait you, when in fact, they do the opposite!
E11 DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU WHO YOU ARE! Learning Human Design with Shakti Rios
Tristan welcomes Human Design Expert Shakti Rios to the pod this week to discuss what human design IS and how learning all about your own unique blueprint can change your life, your relationships, and how you make all of your important decisions. Go here to learn all about Shakti and to pull up your own human design chart: http://www.shaktirios.com
E10 Stop pretending like being single isn't awesome
Tristan talks about sexless marriages, when you SHOULDN'T say 'Divorce' and of course, why being single has a lot of perks.
E9 DON'T WEAR THE PANTS, focus on controlling the zipper 😉
Learning to embrace your feminine energy with somatic sexuality coach and shamanic astrologer Susan Gagliardi! Learn all about your black moon Lilith and how one simple shift can save your relationship from losing that spark. Susan's Instagram link : https://instagram.com/boundlessfeminine?igshid=c2VmYnJvYnI2ZmF1
E8 Don't Go Too Hard or Too Fast on Instagram *social media etiquette in early dating*
SHARE THIS EPISODE! HELP A FRIEND OUT! Tristan reads hate mail and discusses what NOT to do on social media when first talking to or dating a potential match.
E7 DON'T FORGET: Communication solves most problems!
Tristan gets the privilege of chatting with Erika Ettin of @alittlenudge (instagram) Erika's brand of advice is refreshingly logical and straight to the point. You definitely don't want to miss her advice on how to navigate the first stage of dating someone, from first swipe to first date! Tristan also briefly chats about astrology and eclipse season... if you've been feeling bijiggity lately, this is why!
E6: Don't have accidental phone $EX. Repeatedly.
SOLO CAST: Tristan talks about the time she accidentally kept having phone seggs with an emotionally unavailable "Collin from Bumble" and kept ignoring all of his red flags (you know... like she do')
E5: STOP waiting around for your person, LIVE YA' LIFE! Advice from a professional male MATCHMAKER❤
Chatting about creating happy memories with your ex and children during divorce, and taking ownership and processing the trauma of divorce THEN Tristan sits down with professional matchmaker and managing director of client relations, Gene Chung of Velenti Matchmaking to discuss online dating DONT'S and how to not go crazy waiting for your person. Velenti Matchmaking: https://instagram.com/valenti_international?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Gene's personal ig https://instagram.com/geeene.min?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
E4: DON'T chase, ATTRACT! Online dating Advice (and SO MUCH MORE) from my personal PSYCHIC 🔮
In this episode Tristan interviews her personal intuitive/psychic/card-reader and friends, Kristin Renee Mothersbaugh and asks her all the woo questions she can! Who should online date? What is a soulmate? Can we really get who we want? If you can get through all the overly excited "like" and "ums" from Tristan (😬😬), this will be a mind blowing hour! To book a reading with Kristin or to participate in any of her offerings, check out these links... Instagram: https://instagram.com/cbspirituality?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Youtube: https://youtube.com/@CherryBlossomSpirituality?si=zlVIfc7BxlrZOb__ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cbspirituality
E3 DON'T admit you're a SIZE QUEEN. Ever. (Advice from my best single guy friend)
Tristan realizes she may have been self-sabotaging her potential hook-ups this entire year by admitting what she's in to as her guy bestie weighs in on all of her current dating mishaps.
Ep 2 DON'T: DATE FIREMEN, PILOTS, OR LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICERS (or those "we guys")
Tristan interviews educator and goals coach Traci Hollar who selflessly admins the local "ARE WE DATING THE SAME GUY" Facebook page to deep dive on the purpose of the page and to spill all the online dating tea.
Ep 1 DON'T: Ignore the part where they tell you they're a sex addict and a cheater
Tristan talks about her 20 hour FIRST date with a Tinder match and her uncanny ability to ignore red flags plus clarifys GHOSTING