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What to Say & How to Say It — 290 episodes

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297: Stop "Fixing" Your Spouse—Do This Instead (7-Minute Marriage Game-Changer)

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296: Why Healthy Love Feels Boring (And Why That's Actually Good)

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295: Do It Differently: Break Generational Patterns for Good | Act with Integrity

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294: 2 Boundaries Every Marriage Needs (Or You'll Keep Fighting)

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293: Take Responsibility Without Shame (Break the Cycle in Your Marriage)

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292: Stop Reacting, Start Healing: The Power of Gentle Truth

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291: Emotional Manipulation 101: How DARVO Works in Real Life

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290: Stop Carrying Generational Trauma: Learn to Receive God's Comfort

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289: The Marriage Killer No One Talks About: Selfishness

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288: How to Show Up Healthy in a Difficult Marriage (Without Losing Yourself) | Ft. Lyndee Horne

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287: Breaking Generational Trauma in Marriage (Part 2): Why Normalizing Emotions Heals Relationships

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286: Generational Trauma in Marriage: The First Step Most People Avoid (Part 1)

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285: Relational vs Transactional Marriage: What's the Difference & Why It Matters

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284: Emotional Distance in Marriage: 3 Ways to Reconnect Before It's Too Late

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283: Healthy Boundaries Can Save Your Marriage (Here's How to Do Them Right)

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282: Not Yet, But Soon: Trusting God's Timing in Marital Reconciliation

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281: Forgiveness: Are You Healing or Hurling? | How to Stop Returning Hurt for Hurt

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280: Clothed in Strength, Led by Wisdom: Navigating the Holidays with Wisdom

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279: Reconciliation After Separation: A Biblical Roadmap for Restoring Your Marriage

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278: Fixing Your Marriage Starts Here: Rebuilding Identity in Christ

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277: Why Should I Stay Married? The REAL Reason (Not What You Think)

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276: Fixing Marriage Attachment Issues God's Way | Secure Attachment in Christ

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275: When "Keeping the Peace" Breaks Your Relationship

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274: "That's Just the Way I Am" — Breaking Free from Old Mindsets in Marriage

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273: Stop Avoiding Change! How Courageous Conversations Can Transform Your Relationship

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272: How Accountability Can Save Your Marriage | 4 Ways the Truth Sets You Free

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271: What Do You Do with Change? | How to Handle Change, Chaos & Conflict in Relationships

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270: From Blame to Breakthrough: How Emotional Regulation Transformed Sarah's Marriage

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269: How to Keep the Enemy Out of Your Marriage

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268: How to Keep the Enemy Out of Your Marriage

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267: This Is Your Brain on Bitterness: How Unforgiveness Destroys Your Mind & Marriage

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266: Get Back On: One Couple's Journey to Restore Marriage, Faith & Purpose on Horseback

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265: From Unskilled to Spirit-Filled: How to Grow Spiritually and Save Your Marriage

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256: When the Past Haunts Your Marriage | Healing Old Wounds & Emotional Triggers

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255: How to Stay Calm in Conflict | Christian Emotional Intelligence Tips for Marriage

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254: Coaching vs. Therapy: How to Know What You (or Your Clients) Really Need

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253: When Helping Hurts: How Good Intentions Can Blow Up Your Marriage

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252: How to Handle a Dismissive Avoidant Partner | Attachment Styles & Boundaries in Christian Marriage

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251: When a Closed Mind Keeps Your Marriage Stuck: Breaking Through the Walls

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250: Is Your Partner Attached to Manipulation? | Attachment Styles, Drama & the Truth in Marriage

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249: Is Complaining Ruining Your Attachment?

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248: Inside the Respectful Wife Life: Real Talk with Madison Agostini

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247: Attachment Theory & Boundaries in Christian Marriage | Anxious Attachment Explained

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246: Complaint Brain: How Grumbling Rewires Your Mind and Wrecks Relationships

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245: Are You Creating Drama in Your Marriage? | 3 Toxic Roles You Need to Avoid

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244: Breaking Free from the Martyr & Savior Complex in Marriage | Overcoming Victim Mentality

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243: 4 Lies That Keep You Stuck in a Victim Mindset

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242: Are You a Villain or a Victim in Your Marriage?

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241: How to Heal from a Narcissistic Relationship

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240: 3 Ways Narcissists Deflect (and What You Can Do About It)

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239: How to Handle Narcissistic Behaviors in Marriage

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238: Are You a Narcissist? | How Selfishness Can Ruin Relationships

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237: How Inconsistency Erodes Respect in Marriage

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236: Transform Your Marriage with The Respect Dare | Special Guest Madison Agustini

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235: How Lack of Appreciation Can Destroy Your Marriage

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234: Shared Values in Marriage: Building Respect & Navigating Conflict

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233: Why Silence in Marriage Might Be More Dangerous Than You Think | Rebuilding Communications

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232: Is Self-Love or Self-Respect Selfish?

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231: Authentic Relationships: What They Really Mean and How to Build Them

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230: 5 Ways to Become Winsome in Your Communication: A Biblical Approach

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229: Healing the Wounds of Deception in Marriage | Navigating Truth, Transparency, and Connection

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228: 4 Things to Know When Trust Is Broken in Your Relationship

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227: 4 Ways Feminine Energy Can Help You Lead Well

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226: 3 Ways to Lighten Your Mental Load: Navigating Marriage Challenges with Grace

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225: 3 Ways Vulnerability Can Transform Hard Conversations

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224: How to Handle Entitlement in Relationships

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223: Navigating Conflict: 5 Stages of Adult Development in Marriage and Relationships

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222: 3 Ways to Stop Being a Victim - Empower Your Relationships!

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221: What You're Not Saying Could Be Blowing up Your Marriage

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220: How to Navigate Boundaries in Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships

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219: 3 Ways to Alleviate Competition in Marriage and Get on the Same Team

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218: 4 Ways to Build Confidence in Tough Situations

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217: Are You Willing to Fix Your Marriage?

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216: How to Build Deeper Community Connections | Special Episode with Madison Agostini

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215: How to Step into a Conflict in a Respectful Way | Special Episode with Olivia Krolczyk

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214: What You Need to Know about Trust in Your Marriage

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213: 3 Ways to Control Your Life

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212: 5 Ways to Boost the Respect in Your Wife Talks

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211: How Time Travel Is Ruining Your Marriage

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210: 5 Ways to Express Yourself

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209: Step Families | 3 Keys to Blending Without Complains

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208: How to Turn Things Around if Your Spouse Is Ready to Bail

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207: Living with the Wounded Spouse

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206: Find Hope for Your Marriage | Be Inspired by Our Guest Speaker's Story

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205: Want to Heal but They Keep Picking a Fight? Here Are 4 Things You Can Do!

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204: I Used To Be | Navigating Grief with Biblical Guidance

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203: Are you in the middle of being crushed? | Miracle PHYSICAL Healing for Nina

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202: How To Fix Your Broken Marriage | Is Your Spouse a Perfectionist?

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201: End the Stalemate : Move Past Cancel Culture to Meaningful Conversations | Special Episode with Prof Tim Muehlfhoff

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200: The Responsive Marriage: Finding the Path Out of Reactivity

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199: 3 Ways to Boost Your Feminine Side and Connect With Your Spouse | What a Woman Needs in Her Marriage Series Part 4

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198: Why Setting Boundaries Is Important for Your Marriage Health

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197: 5 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Setting Boundaries! What a Woman Needs in Her Marriage Series Part 2

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196: 3 Reasons You "Can't" be Realistic with Your Spouse

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WTS 195: Revive Your Relationship with These 5 Tips! | What a Woman Needs in Her Marriage Series Part 2

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194: The Secret to Changing Your Marriage | What a Woman Needs in Her Marriage Series Part 1

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193: From Broken to Blessed - what you need to know NOW to fix your marriage

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192: 3 Things You Must Do or Your Marriage Will Suffer

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191: What to Do if You've Lost Respect for Your Husband | Episode from The Counter Culture Mom Show

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190: Where Did You Go off the Track in Your Marriage?

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189: 3 Ways to Clean up the Mess in Your Marriage

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188: 3 Things to Stop doing to Save Your Marriage

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187: 3 Ways You are Blowing Up Your Marriage

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186: Why Strength & Dignity Matter in Your Marriage

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185: 3 Ways Emotionality is Destroying Your Marriage

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How Disrespect Damages Your Relationship and How to Resolve It

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183: When You Are Over Being Strong and Resilient

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182: Are Your Emotions Demolishing Your Marriage?

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181: What to Say When You Discover a Weakness in Your Marriage

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180: Pure Heart: Restoration of the Heart through the Beatitudes | Special Episode with Donna Cole

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179: How Not to End up With a Sociopath at Your Table During Holidays

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178: Healing From the Disrespect of the Past

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177: How to Parent a Teen, Best Advice for Parents | Special Episode With Katie Millar-Wirig

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176: What to Say to Keep Your Identity Solid in Christ

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175: What to Say to Help You Become an Influenced Magnet

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174: Learn How Men and Women Think Differently | This podcast is for you!

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173: What to Say When Someone Speaks on Your Behalf Without Your Permission

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172: What to Do When You've Lost Respect for Your Spouse

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171: What to Do When You Feel Like You Need to Silence Your Voice

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170: What to Say When Dysfunction Is Normalized in a Relationship

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169: What to Say When You Are Falsely Accused

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168: Ethical Theory and Pertinent Standards in Women's Reproductive Health

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167: How to Reconnect With Life When Your Heart Is Sealed Off

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166: VALUED: A Divine Awakening with the Holy Spirit

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165: SET FREE: Released from the Damage of Trauma | Special Podcast Episode with Dr. J. Otis Ledbetter

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164: What to Say When You Think You're the End of Your Rope

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163: What to Say When There Is Power Dynamic in Your Relationship

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162: How to Not Focus on Relationship Problems but on Thrilling Solutions.

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161: What to Say When God Moves in Your Life in a Miraculous Way

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160: How To Prevent Destruction In Your Marriage

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159: Respect Dare: A Special Episode with Madison Agostini

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158: What to Say to Help Increase Self-Awareness

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157: What to Do When Emotions Are Hot in the Middle of Conflict

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156: Special Episode With Guest Author Tamar Miller - Odd Moms Out

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155: What to Say to Cultivate a Healthy Shared Identity in All Your Relationships

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154: What to Say When Sin Is Boldly Proclaimed in Your Surroundings

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153: How To Talk To Your Partner About Your Needs

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152: What To Say When Trauma Affects Our Communication

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151: What to Say When You Need to Restore Trust in Your Relationship

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150: How to Be Confident in the Middle of Conflict

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149: What to Say When Gaslighting Happens in Your Relationship

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148: How to Stop Anxiety From Destroying Relationships

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147: What to Do When You're Causing More Trouble in Your Relationship

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146: How to Build Habits That Fill Your Life With Greater Joy

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145: Learn How to Make Positive and Imperative Changes in Your Relationships

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144: What to Say When You're Dealing With a Complainer

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143: What to Say When You Need to Show Self-Respect in the Midst of Conflict

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142: Learn How To Deal With Pain

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141: How To Handle Behaviors That Drive You Crazy

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140: What to Say When Privilege Meets Suffering

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139: What To Say When Help Becomes Transactional

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138: Living a Life on Purpose

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137: What to Say When Seasonal Expectational Disasters Occur in Your Relationship

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136: What to Say When You're Hit Below the Belt in Conflict

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135: What To Say When Boundaries Become Punitive

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134: What To Say When There's Delusion Happening In The Room

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133: What To Say When Scripture Is Used As a Weapon

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132: How To Fight For Your Marriage

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131: What to Say When You're the Villain in Someone Else's Story

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130: You Need to Pray Out Loud With Your Family

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129: How a Reset Button Can Be Really Useful for Overhauling Your Marriage

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128: What To Say To Inspire Reciprocity

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127: What To Say When You Need To Speak Truth To Power

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126: When Your Spouse's Default Answer is "I Don't Know"

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125: What to Do When Godly Sorrow Is Missing in Your Relationships

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124: Resentment Will Destroy Your Relationship if You Don't Identify It and Deal With It

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123: What To Say When Immaturity or Selfishness Is In The Way

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122: How To Be a Better Listener In Your Relationship

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121: What To Say When Others Judge Your Decisions

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120: What To Say When Hateful Words or Actions Come Your Way

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119: What To Do When You're In a One-Sided Relationship

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118: What To Say When Commitments Are Broken

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117: How Jealousy Can Destroy Your Relationship

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116: What To Say When Compassion Turns Into Enabling

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115: Why You Need To Run Into Conflict Instead Of Away From It

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114: How Inner Healing Prayer Helps us Show Up Better in Relationships

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113: What To Say That Increases The Chances Of You Getting Heard

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112: What To Say When You Need Safety In Your Relationship

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111: What To Say When Reasonable Expectation Is Missing In Your Marriage

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110: What To Say When There Is Cognitive Dissonance In The Room

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109: Act Of Resentment Can Destroy Your Marriage

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108: What To Say If Your In A Relationship With Someone Who Is Struggling with Pornography Addiction

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107: What To Say When Deflection Happens During Conflict

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106: What To Say When You Need Someone To Hold Space For You

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105: What To Say When Mental Health Is A Concern

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104: What to say when there are different capacities for conflict

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103: How to Fix Your Marriage

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102: What to say when your reaction is used against you

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101: You have ONE friend and it's your spouse - you are IN TROUBLE

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100: What To Say To Overcome Different Mindsets

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99: What To Say When Adapting To Someone Else's Boundaries

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98: What To Say When Insulted Or Dismissed?

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97: What To Say When You Feel Invalidated

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96: What to say when you are feeling discouraged

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95: What to Say When NOTHING is CHANGING

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94: What to say in How We Treat Others

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93: What to say when you need to say NO

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92: You, your spouse, and YOUR PHONES!

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91: What To Say When Accusations Are Messing Up Your Marriage

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90: What To Say When Blindness Is Ruining Your Marriage

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89: What To Say When You Think Someone Is Lying

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88: What NOT to do when you apologize

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87: The simple, easy to learn conversation skill that makes a BIG difference in your marriage

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86: What To Say When The Other Person Is Stuck In Victim Mode

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85: Is affirmation MISSING from your marriage?

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84: What we think is the problem in our marriage usually isn't

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83: The SAD SURPRISE about how conflict skills aren't enough to change your marriage

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82: Are You Being Fake Or Real In Your Marriage?

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81: When It's Not Your Fault But It Ends Up Being Your Responsibility

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80: What To Say To Those Who Won't Take Responsibility

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79: STOP Criticism From Destroying Your Marriage

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78: How to Handle Change

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77: THREE things to STOP to save your marriage

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76: How to Handle Anger, even if it scares you or you're overwhelmed

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75: What you MUST STOP DOING right now if you want to save your marriage and sanity

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74: 3 Keys To Becoming A Respected Person

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73: What To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

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72: 5 Tools to STOP Walking on Eggshells at Work, Home, and Church!

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71: How to NOT blow up your family and friends over | Roe v. Wade

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70: 3 Keys to Create Mutual Respect in Sticky Situations - even if you think you'll fail!

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69: How to CONFRONT someone's sin against you, even if you've done it before and it's gone badly

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68: Why a Lack of THIS ONE THING could be Ruining Your Marriage (and it's NOT sex!)

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67: How to Change Your Marriage Through Your Relationship with Jesus Christ

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66: How Common Christian Myths Might Be In The Way Of Creating A Healthy Marriage

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65: How To Have Hope When Your Relationship Is A Mess

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64: What Does It Mean That LOVE Always TRUSTS?

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63: The Process Your Relationship MUST Go Through To Change

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62: What Does it Mean that Love Protects

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61: You Broke It, Can You Fix It?

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60: What to Say so that Love doesn't rejoice in evil, but in Truth

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59: "What To Say" as a Concerned Citizen

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58: Without Rest, We Can't Be Our Best

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57: 5 Signs You Might Be A High Functioning Nervaholic

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56: Does "Love Keeps No Record Of Wrongs" Mean They Are Off The Hook?

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55: How To Look at Your Past & Find The Gold That's There That You Don't Know Exist

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54: How To Deal With Being "Easily Angered" or "Provoked" In Your Relationships

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53: Dealing With Foolishness In Relationships

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50: How To Keep From Dishonoring Others In Your Communication

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52: Knowing The Difference Between Disagreeing & Arguing May Save Your Relationships

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51: What To Do When You Think God Is Not Answering Your Prayers

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49: Two Surprising Ways to Avoid Damaging Your Relationship

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48: How A Healthy Confrontation Maybe Just What Your Relationship Needs

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47: Know How Love Doesn't Envy and How It Can Change Your Marriage Today

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46: What You Don't Know About Submission Could Be Damaging Your Marriage

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45: Boundaries in Difficult Situations - What you need to know

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44: How to be KIND in Conflict

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43: What Everyone Needs to Know About Boundaries - and how implementing them can help you today

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42: Struggling with Patience? Here's some help!

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41: How Selfishness gets in the way of relationships with God, yourself, and others

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40: How to deal with the hypocrites in your life

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39: What's Driving Men to Therapy - and how the cause impacts your relationship

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38: How to STOP People Pleasing when you've been doing it your whole life!

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37: How Inner Healing Prayer Helps us Show Up Better in Relationships

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36: What you don't know about emotions could be ruining your relationships

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35: How Listening & Healing Prayer can Change Your Life

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34: How your spouse's anger is ruining your marriage

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33: How to disagree at home, work, and church in a cancel culture

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32: How to RESPOND instead of REACT to change your relationships today

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31: How to be seen & heard when everything else you've tried has failed

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30: How to get better outcomes with people when you don't know what to do differently

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29: How to become more confident in conflict when you feel incompetent

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28: How to Handle Anger, even if it scares you or you're overwhelmed

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27: How to CONFRONT someone's sin against you, even if you've done it before and it's gone badly!

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26: Two must-have communication tools to create mutual respect, even if you are afraid of conflict

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25: Here's HELP for getting others to respect you today, even if you've already tried and failed

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24: How to tell the truth every day, even if you are worried it will ruin your relationships!

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23: 3 Keys to Create Mutual Respect in Sticky Situations - even if you think you'll fail!

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22: How to tell the truth every day, even if you are worried it will ruin your relationships!

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21: 5 Tools to STOP Walking on Eggshells at Work, Home, and Church!

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20: 3 Ways to Boot CONTROL & STOP Destroying Your Relationships

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19: STOP Teaching People to Control You!

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18: 3 Ways Control is Causing Conflict - and what to do about it!

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17: 5 Ways You're Sabotaging Yourself in Conflict

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16: What You Don't Know About Conflict May Destroy Your Relationship - 3 PROVEN things to DO to get better outcomes!

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15: The ONE Thing You MUST Have to Be Able to Navigate Conflict

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14: The Trouble with Control...

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13: How to Not Get Hurt by Other People

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12: How to Have REAL Relationships

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11: Ever felt unwanted?

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10: What to DO When They Threaten Divorce

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09: How Laying Down Your Life Can RUIN Your Marriage

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08: What to Do When Others Criticize You

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07: How To Create a Better Outcome for Conflict

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06: What to Consider When Confronting Someone Else's Sin

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05: How to Speak Up & Be Heard at Work

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04: How Your Thoughts Can Easily Ruin Your Relationships

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03: How to Handle Sketchy Behavior

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02: What to Do When Something NEEDS to Be Discussed

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01: THE One Thing to STOP NOW to Change Your Relationships

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Introducing, What to Say & How to Say It!