11: Know Your Worth: The Healing Journey Ahead

This week on Oh Hey Best Fren, Monique and Vernika are getting real real about knowing your worth, breaking toxic patterns, and not settling for the bare minimum—whether it’s in your job, your relationship, or your own damn self-esteem. From learning how to stop selling yourself short to navigating healing after trauma, the besties dive into those honest, hard conversations that most people are too scared to say out loud. They’re giving props to the new generation for flipping the script—quitting jobs that don’t serve them, choosing purpose over paycheck, and creating their own lanes unapologetically. The convo touches on everything from financial independence to self-worth in relationships, to unlearning what womanhood “should” look like. And just when you think the episode’s winding down, a letter from a listener opens the floor for a raw talk on therapy, healing in solitude, and the growing pains that come with choosing yourself. It’s a whole word, y’all. Healing ain’t always pretty—but the freedom on the other side? So worth it. KEY POINTS - Don’t settle, know your worth - Consequences of settling like missing out on desired goals - Realizing self-worth and independence - Choosing security over happiness? - Navigating “wifehood” and own identity - The importance of not losing one's identity within a marriage - Best Friend Mail: Challenges and benefits of therapy QUOTES “If we've learned anything this season is that too many of us are out here building someone else's dream—when we don't even know what our own dream looks like.” “Go beyond comfortability to get the things that you like or the things you love.” “Words really have power on things that you want for yourself in life. You have to speak those things over your life.” “I always saw myself being successful. I always saw myself as a high earner. I always saw myself traveling the world, having my dream house, [and] my dream car.” Follow Us, Besties!  IG | https://www.instagram.com/ohheybestfren/  Have something on your mind? Share your story or ask for advice!  Drop us an email at [email protected]  Hey Best Fren is produced by EPYC Media Network (https://www.epyc.co/)